she never listen to me | a mommy issues playlist
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timestamps: 00:00 Class of 2013 - Mitski 01:43 Killer - Phoebe Bridgers 04:36 Be Your Own 3am - Adult Mom 06:46 All The Things She Said - t.A.T.u 10:21 I Bet on Losing Dogs- Mitski 13:09 Juliet - Cavetown 17:48 Child Psychology - Black Box Recorder 21:53 Trees - McCafferty 24:56 Least Favorite Only Child - Leanna Firestone 29:05 xanny - Billie Eillish spotify link : open.spotify.com/user/dop8jgey59s2v91jh5qsu0ryq?si=f096986974f54969 enjoy
Thank you ;)
the fact u added mitski to this just gives the playlist a chef kiss
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I just want my mom to understand what actually she's doing.
She's so blind like wtf
same
Fr
this is so real
Littraly these words just make me cry rn, this is exactly how I feel and it's so painful
Have you ever felt like you're just being dramatic? Because she never humiliated you and treated you well, but, she hurt your trust and, even unintentionally makes you feel bad? Like, she's both dangerous and friendly? I don't know you guys, but, this is what I feel a lot of times..
I have this exact problem and I don’t know how to deal with it at all, but it seems to kill me everyday.
Same with my mother
You don't know how much I relate. I think my mom is just too focused on her own problems to think about others or how she affects them...she hates herself and yet only thinks about herself. A depressed narcissist who feels like she's the victim to problems she created...
It feels like she’s a good mother in every way except she’s never emotionally available and unintentionally hurts you because of that
My mom,, shes unbelievably religious,, like.. shes too dedicated, abd ended up hurting alot of people like me without ever knowing it. It hurts to see her act like this but were trying so hard to change her mediocre mind set. Cant give deep details but shes a great mother,,just not perfect
I feel like my mommy issues aren’t bad enough to complain about, but she’s really hurt me, she doesn’t realize it, and I don’t feel like she’s ever going to listen. She’s just going to deflect the blame back to me like she always does with stuff like this
I agree. They think it's not a big deal but it hurts just as much as daddy issues
same if i complain people will probably be annoyed because i don’t have it as bad as other people but my mom really doesn’t love me and it hurts me.. it hurts really bad
THIS. THIS! She takes her moods on me, percieves me growing into my own person as disrespect, is constantly LGBTQ+ phobic and ableist, Ste paints herself as the victim, just the long-suffering mother who is raising two ungrateful kids.
Literally just described the relationship between me and my mother
same !!
My mom either loves me or loathes me. There’s no I’m between. She’ll love me one second and the next she’ll be screaming about how I basically never do anything right. And I feel like it’s not as bad because it’s been years since she physically hurt me but it still hurts. I feel like every time I complain about it I am overreacting. I just am so tired of this
It's okay to be tired know how you feel you are not overreacting i hope everything will get alright!
I feel the exact same hopefully things get better
@@Alyssa-pz4er Me too, and she just doesn't listen to me when I try to argue with her and make her see things like I do, for her, she's the only one who can be right, no matter if you even have proof that she is wrong. I don't know what to do, I don't want to go when I get 18 right away because of my little brother and because of money issues, I can't even get a friking therapist because of her!
same. istg these moms be having bpd. she always says how she has no empathy and shit but when its someone else's child somehow she cares and plays with them and I am just left there, alone. it sucks. lets cry together
Me grita por el simple hecho de existir
She mentally destroys me in a way I can’t put into words.
I hope for you the better in the future🤍
Same..
Same
Same
Same :)
It took me this long to realize crying over your parents and things they've said to you isn't normal
It's not? 😨
currently doing that right now, but luckily its only because my mother. my dad gave me a hug
No, you crying to what your parents said is normal- It's what they said to you, thats not.@@ebtrollfan
Words have power, and they shape you into the person you are today
It ain't mommy issues if she's fucked you up to the point where you have rejected her as a mother but accepted her as an authority figure you hope to escape one day 👍😎👍
the amount of respect i have for you because of this comment-
.....exactly its just a waiting game!!!
are you reading my mind?
@@tati7aroca we share trauma 🤝
@@gh0stpc360 sad but true. keep strong
"Every girl's first hater is their mom" relate to this quote too much.
All I want is to hear a genuine "I'm proud of you" from my mother
Thank you for reminding me how much your opinion of me matters to me and that everything I do is to please her.
same because i dont think ive ever hear her say those words to me and it crushes me mentally because even if i do something good she always points out my mistakes
Same babe same
Mine too
it isnt like my mom physically hurts me but somewhat mentally yes, there are times where i realize that im scared of speaking to her about my day, what happened to me or even venting. there are also times where i cant seem to understand adults like them and they cant seem to understand me. i dont know now, ill just let my future self handle everything.
That is exactly how I feel bro-
Yeah, she doesn't understand my adhd, it's hard to recognize with girls but I've been diagnosed with it by my doctor. She doesn't understand it's much more than just hyperactivity, or getting easily distracted. I don't have my mom and dad's trust anymore just because of my Executive Dysfunction making me get behind in school. I can't make myself do shit like she can. And I hate it. "Just do what you're told" I am, just not the way you want me to bitch.
When this also happens but your physicaly hurt too.
Your now self has to handle thing's... Thats wat I said and my "future self" still hasn't handled things and look at us now... Painfully estranged
My mom is so shit that when i vent to her she gets angry and start fighting with me,i Just wanted support (Sorry my bad english)
Her negativity is suffocating She makes me feel so unwanted and unloved but then when she's in a good mood I always forget how she has treated me and feel pure guilt for feeling that way
It's not fair. She adores my brother and laughs with him and when i even try to talk to her she just hurts me. I don't even know what I did wrong. Edit after one year: First of all thank you to every single reply, my life has been a lot better after covid . I have stopped sh since like January, I have become devoted to my gods and my school life is also very nice, i have started to talk to a lot of people in my class too. And I'm trying to mend my relationship with my mother, it's not a big progress but just small baby steps. I hope y'all will be blessed with the love and support y'all deserve
same, hearing them laugh together is so painful knowing ill never be able to experience that.
Same here hun. It doesnt get better. Nor easier.
Literally me I'm in tears at this..
yes and when i´m happy with her and laughing, she asks me for school grades, that sht hits me hard and she knows it
You did nothing wrong luv I'm going through the same thing we did nothing wrong I promise I don't know ya but I love ya we've got this bestie
I wish my mother would just love me more...
Me too...
same : (
she loves me, she doesn’t like me
Same dud
Mine made me wanna move out at 12
I love her, I really love her with all of me, but she has generated so many insecurities in me and has made me cry more than anyone in my life, She has done everything for me and I haven't done anything for it, that's why I can't hate her, she is everything.
dear one, i understand completely and truly how you feel. i hope you find peace in that as her being your mom you do not owe her anything. she chose to bring you into this world and she owes you everything with no expectation of you giving anything back. when you came into this world you were helpless and could not sign a contract for the tears you’ve shed over the one who chose this life for you. and i hope you know this life is not your fault. and i love you
“when i was your age i never argued with my mother i was perfect” stop. this just makes me feel worse about myself.
it just hurts so much that she loves me only when i do what she wants,,,,
I feel you ://
my mom only loves me when she fights with my brother, when they forgive each other, she treats me horribly
I'm sorry to hear that, do you have someone to talk about it ? Like someone from your family that can help you with this situation ?
i already know that the peace i have when she’s gone, will disappear again when she comes back. maybe that’s why i don’t really want her to come back, because when she’s gone, the house is quiet. it’s almost never quiet.
She killed me. She killed the person I was. I'm nothing but something rotting from the inside. You made me hate myself and push away everyone. I know I'm a bad person but will I change it? No. Because I have no reason for it. Everyone sees me as a liar anyways. You want the little girl back that you loved? Guess what. You took everything from me. Calling me a girl and hating me because I was born in the wrong body. Don't worry. I hate myself more than you will ever be able to.
hi. are you ok ? if you want somebody to talk to I’m here
omg i so get you sm look if u need to talk or anything you can message me i will never judge u and i kinda went/am going through something similar
same she always tells me i was so much cuter and better when i was younger but she literally destroyed the child i used to be and created a manipulative liar who cant love but as long as she can find a way to blame me its okay right :)
@Nyx 🥰🥰🥰
I literally keep coming back because everyday she makes me feel horrible
Every. Goddamn. Second.
we cant even have a normal conversation without it ending up to fighting and her hitting me with things i just want to have a normal and heathy mother and daughter relationship is that too much to ask for )):
I love you si much. I have the same thought, I just want something normal with my mom, not abusive things
she always finds a way to blame me
i wish i could’ve been a kid. i wish she cared enough to comfort me when i was upset. she gave up on me a decade ago. if you have a bad relationship with your mom, i’m sorry. it’s hell.
She slept alot like alot because of her drug addiction, my brother and I had cold hot dogs for lunch and dinner, and no breakfast. She would wake up around 5ish and make herself food and give us a little. Shes trying to stop but it's still bad plus I was 4 and my brother was at least 6
I'm now 19 and living with my awesome dad
My mom always says I should be more like other girls my age and hearing that mentality and physical hurts me, my mom and me fight all the time, every time she says “I love you but you just don’t listen to me” no she doesn’t love me and Ik that because she shows it
I wanted her to listen to me more, one word and it's already a reason for me to get hit.
I'm so sorry hun, this is is so unfair, you deserve a better mother. For what it's worth, I love you
I know she's trying her best and I know she doesn't realize how much she's hurting me but she is. Everything I say is discredited because it doesn't fit with what she imagined me to be like. I'm sorry I'm no straight, I'm sorry I'm nonbinary, I'm sorry I can't live up to your image if what I should have been but it's just not who I am.
dont apology for who you truly are
God, I relate so much. but she may have 'tried her best', but we deserve better. We deserve better than phobic mothers, we deserve better than to cut ourselves down for affection. We deserve so much better than this.
Bro don't apology parents should apologize for not accepting
No omg literally the relationship I have wihtr my mother omg
You just described me. She wants me to be this little pink princess but I'm the complete oppisite, I want to make her happy but being myself isn't making that happen. Sorry mom for not being the image you have of me.
Often I feel like my mommy issues aren’t “bad enough” for me to complain about, but that’s probably what my mom wants me to think. She mostly doesn’t do bigger stuff to me but a lot of smaller stuff which makes the issues sound irrelevant but when I combine everything then it doesn’t sound like small issues anymore. If that makes sense idk English isn’t my best language 🧍🏻♀️ Anyways music like this makes and the comments makes my mommy issues feel more valid:) thanks for this playlist 🤍🤍🤍
your feelings are valid don't ever forget that, I love you
@@terka4310 thank you:)
Yes it does make sense!! That’s exactly what it feels like, i think its some kind of emotional abuse, because you keep forgiving, keep thinking that the only problem is you overthinking everything mom does or says, and keep thinking that this is my fault, fault in not being good, smart, clever enough, and that i am the problem, but when you just combine all of the stuff she has ever said, you do realise that it is NOT you who is the problem, but her. I feel happy that i have finally realised that, because i used to think that i am just overthinking stuff, that i deserve all of that horrible words etc. i am so sorry for everyone who is going through this, i cant even count already how many times i was ready to end myself because of my moms words and actions. anyways i hope we all will find our peace and it will all be over, stay strong please❤
Your situations and feelings are always valid. ALWAYS. don't ever let anyone tell you any different.
it hurts me knowing that no matter what i will and cannot stop hating her.
It's so painful, the fact that I'm never gonna get back my childhood
I'm usually not one for these angst playlists cause SO MANY of them just woobify/aestheticize mental illness which is OOPS very not good but I love this playlist sm. Handled well and the songs are VERY fitting and also comforting considering my own mommy issues LMAO Mommy issues really do hit different on the soul huh
aww thank you so much, I love this playlist too and most of the songs used are so underrated but I’m obsessed with them. Glad you like the playlist :)
the thing with my mom is she’s a good person. she’s a wonderful person, she’s a social worker and she’s so generous. except when it comes to me. i make her be mean and shout and say terrible things. she used to be skinny until me and my siblings took that away from her. she used to have nice auburn hair until we came along. she used to have money to spare, now i have to get more expensive clothes cause i’m fat. she’s still a good mother, i’m just a terrible child. she’s said so many things that make me feel like i don’t deserve to live and i really don’t. she’s not really abusive because she’s not that type of person, but every time i talk to her i get so scared. i’m scared i did something to upset her. i’m scared she’s gonna tell me something that’ll make me cry cause i’m weak and i can’t take her criticism. every time she says she loves me or tells me she’s proud of me it feels like she’s lying to me but i know she’s probably not. i’ve gotten everything i want in life. i’m thankful. but she always says i’m ungrateful so i guess i am. every time i’ve tried and failed to kms she’s just been disappointed and said i was just upset and a pussy. i don’t wanna make her be a bad person and the only way i can do that is to not be near her again. the best i can do is run away or die.
I relate sm with you😕♡
Hey I really hope you’re doing better and just so you know she’s still abusive even if she doesn’t physically do anything :) mental and emotional abuse can be even worse than physical abuse in some cases
She doesn't necessarily abuse me physically but mentally she does, it seems like it's not that big of a deal to me sometimes but it slowly destroys my mental health. She doesn't listen even when you try so hard to explain and she'll always put the blame on you. She's blind to the damage she causes and she most likely will never change but I can only hope
I love her and she loves me but sometimes I’m scared to even speak to her because of her judgement. Because of what’d she’d say. Because of how she’ll see me. She matters so much to me. Her opinion matters so much. I can’t help it if I want her to care or understand. I can’t help it.
Its just a funny feeling realizing that what I went through is not normal and that I had no reason feeling guilty whenever I could not relate to the bond other mothers and daughters have. Having two parents who aren't meant to parent is mentally exhausting especially when one is abusive and the other is immature and irresponsible.
Remember, you don't always see what goes on behind closed doors. In public my mother is an angel. When behind closed doors its like the devil has put on my mother's skin
I'm jealous of people who have a normal, full family, are not divorced, and do not call their children in terrible ways for their "jokes"...
she communicates well and laughs a lot with my little brothers like their whole existence brings her joy. but when I talk she gets irritated and she doesn't even hide it. she's always so hard on me bc im the eldest daughter, would pressure me in doing my "responsibilities", here i am taking care of my siblings and still catching up with school, and the worse part is that i can never take a break. i just wish she'll realize what she's doing to my mental and emotional health. but she's still my mom and i can never change that.
this text break me sm
Gurl same oldest sisters really deserve more love..we take care of the whole house and everyone needs us but no one gives a single fuck about our feelings or emotions.For then we’re just robots that meant to take instructions and work :,)
Last night at dinner, we were talking about the covid vaccine and how I'm the only one in the family that has gotten it, she told me: "I must protect my sons" My heart shattered Into a million pieces and I've never seen her the same way, now I see the way she treats me compared to my siblings, how they never let me joke around anymore or just relax on hot days, or how they always take my brothers for late night car rides while I'm stuck at home. Sometimes being the oldest daughter is a curse.
“eres todo lo que odio en una hija”… creo que nunca olvidaré esas palabras mamá :(
Yo simplemente estoy en la espera del dia en el que pueda disfrutar de lo que es tener una madre que te haga sentir segura en vez de tener miedo a salir lastimada ya sea fisicamente o mentalmente. Se que nunca olvidare todas esas palabras ni todos esos momentos o heridas pero tengo que luchar para que no arruinen mi vida, puede que no cuente con el amor de una madre pero se que hay otras personas que aunque sea un poco se preocupa por mi y eso ayuda
I heard it too :/
I'm so sorry girl, your feelings are valid and hey..I love you
Because of her i feel guilty when im happy and its like..i should've never taken and only give her..my happiness. My happiness is mine to take,idc if i become the villain if so, im gonna take it.
About a year ago I told my mom I was trans, she didn’t believe me worth sheet. She didn’t call me correct pronouns and she still doesn’t. She lets me wear boys clothes and have haircuts but, everytime I come to confide in her about my immense gender dysphoria, she just says, “deadname, your body is never gonna change, it’s just a phase, you’ll get over it.” Or , “just deal with it.” I laugh it off but it keeps me completely heartbroken.
i'm so sorry :(. you are a beautiful boy, don't listen to her
How are things now? Keep your head up king, your crown is slipping off and we don't want that
I'm so sorry, hun :(
I'm so sorry, that's so not fair, your feelings are valid and I'm sure that you're the nicest boy ever
Well my mom loves me. She does everything for me. So I feel me venting here with ppl who have real problems is a bit unfair. But still I want to talk. Bc I can't do it with my mom. She never listens she always screams and she hates it when I have my own thoughts or when I nag about stuff. She becomes angry so suddenly that I let made me supersized for years and since I was a child I told myself to never open up to her after doing it and getting smacked. I feel I finally lost my spark . Finally all her harsh and controlling words are printed in my brain . I hear "no" everytime I want to do sth . Everytime I want to be myself. And it's her voice . I know she cares for me but it's just breaking me. I dont want to go to another city for my uni but I can't bear being with her anymore. These days she doesn't give me much attention. She talks to her friends and stays at her room or is working. I even thought she were cheating on my dad. We both feel like she doesnt value us and the same time we know she does. But its complicated. She controls my dad's and my life. We can't make decisions. Not like we used to do. And she doesn't care anymore. We're like prisoners who don't know where to go if we're not in prison. It's so weird. I hate it. I'm sure no one's reading this so I'm gonna vent more. She constantly puts me down about my friends and my life, studying and personality. When I had crippling depression she cried and yelled why has god given her a crazy daughter. And when I tell her that her actions made me this way and I'm fighting to get out of this shit, she says I'm just blaming her and I'm a mad and stupid and unappreciative person. Nobody buys my words . My friends say that I'm wrong and I'm just irresponsible. I barely vent about this stuff and still whenever I do it ppl act like I'm annoying and I dont deserve my good parents. I am numbing my feelings and thoughts by watching movies instead of studying. I'm really dumb and irresponsible . My friend told me I'm no fun and I'm too careful about my actions. I wasn't like that before. Ppl want to have fun and I'm not fun . Actually I am always worried when I'm with sb and I try to look funny and nice but maby that just makes me more annoying. I just want to runaway but still I dont want to make ppl dissatisfied with me. I want to meet their expectations. My personality is not cool . When I'm nice I'm too nice when I'm mean (to make niceness less annoying and more fun?) I hurt others. When I'm cool I'm actually not fun and when I act like I'm funny I actually look stupid. For a long time I changed my personality to satisfy others and make them like me. But nothing did the trick. I didnt like it when they were only around me when I had the mask on . I'm boring inside. Nothing can change it. Maby all that time I was crazy and not caring and funny I was actually trying to amuse others . For a second rn I thought: but what personality makes u happy? And well um .. I'm fine now. My personality doesnt suck that much . It actually is kinda funny and cute. I like taking pictures of clouds and trees and make up stories about every passenger. Like normal ppl who are not disgusting. I like sweets and I like reading books and mangas. I like to be a psychologist or a florist lol . I play piano but I really dont like my teacher . I love basketball and if I hadn't broken my leg I was still playing it. I like how I'm competitive when at sports and how much I like studying but sadly I dont study much . Ye I'll start today. Also I really make nice jokes and I name my friends laugh . I love nature and my biggest wish is a cottagecore life. I love long dresses and cute sweatshirts. I like polishing my nails and listening to my playlist . I have not wore my bra for 3 days and I'm happy! I feel I'm getting fat my friend told me I look really fat and uses it to tease me. My other friend has problems and her ma hates me. But I have me as a friend too. Also I love dr house and park seo joon and gintoki. Thanks for this playlist and letting me vent. I feel so much better
thank YOU for your comment, I read it all and I def understand what you feel even tho we are all different and we go through different stuff. I sincerely hope you wil love your own personality, like the one you created for the others, and love yourself just the way you truly are, and I hope your relationships with your mom (and between your parents) will get better. Ngl we seem to have a lot of common points and I'm sure you aren't annoying, if you want to talk or chat, I'm here. I'm so happy you liked my playlist and felt free to vent. I already love you and I hope you you're doing amazing
@@anemoia1200 u just made me smile so big that my mom had to nag about it lol I really appreciate ur comment and the time u devoted for me. I also hope ur difficulties go away and feel happier and happier everyday . I love you tooooo tnx♡♡
@@studywithmelive..whatever6561 oooh really ? I’m so happy I made you smile :)
@Claudette hi fellow girl with also mommy issues. I just found out my mom is actually cheating on my dad. It's disgusting. I can't say anything to anybody yet bc this year I have college exam and all these things are too distracting. I hope u and me feel better one day . I'm crying rn but we will feel better. That's life. Meaningless
I just wanna say that it wasn’t unfair for you to vent here, your issues are valid:) I read the whole thing and I hope things get better for you:>
lol why im crying.....
its the mommy and daddy issues for me
I took care of her when she was supposed to take care of me. She would use, abuse and neglect me. I tried to be "perfect" for her, a "better" version of "her". She never loved me, everytime she said, "I love you 🙄" were just lies around other people. I remember when she said, "Do you actually think I love you? I don't love you and never will." No one said anything about what she said, they just laughed about it and sent me back to the attic/my room. She would show love and affection towards my step cousins and step family but never towards me. She let me suffer, forced me to grow up and take care of myself, her and the others. The others never felt what I felt. She never cried or calmed me down whenever I was hurt or was missing, she never cared. When she left me and we part ways for the last time, none of us cried. She didn't cry because she was "happy" to finally be away from us/me, and I tried not to cry because I didn't like seeing her like that but I knew she could care less about me so I tried to hold the tears back and be happy. But, I'll never be happy.... If you didn't plan on loving me, then you should've gotten rid of me like you did to both of my siblings.
Dammm moms are just unbelievable and when we see how an actual mother treats her kids we cry :/ and be afraid to turn out like her I feel you and we both deserve better We are strong and growing early sucks but what can we do?
what did i ever do to deserve this
"she never listen to me" literally 😍
My parents love me dearly, but they don’t know the power of their words. My grades are slipping, I cry myself to sleep every night, and I hate waking up every day. They wanted a straight Christian girl who loves school and God, but they got me instead. At least they still have my sister. She’s the perfect one even though she’s never around.
hi, I think I really can relate to what you said, I have been in the same situation and I talked about how some of my moms words made me feel to her and even if it was really hard at the beginning, things always get better. Maybe try to talk about it to your parents and they will understand that, as parents, they had to accept who you are, no matter your grades, your sexuality and as much as they love your sister. if you want to talk about it, I'm here
@@anemoia1200 Thank you, I hope things get better for you, too.
I could never bring myself to say i hate my mom because no matter what all during my trauma she was right there during it there to hold me, but i could really wish she could know that she absolutely destroyed my veiw and everything thing about me deep down, im a shell because of her, im so sick of defending her but if she comes back to me i will always say i love her because she is literally my mom, i dont hate her but i hate the way i am because of her, i remember looking at her when i was little seeing her do her make up wishing to look like her, now everytime i see her in my reflection i feel like tearing my face off all cause im becoming her slowly day by day, but im not her, because i will be there for people i care about, unlike her who run away from everything and everyone, even her own two little baby sons and growing daughter 🙁
she said she loves me then she goes and does all the things shes done ;-; i love you mom but please let me be i live with my dad now and im trying to heal so please let me heal
I just want a hug and an "I'm proud of you" if it's not too much to ask
damn hitting close to home. great playlist tho
thank you so much !!
Why did she stop loving me after I grew up?
Not this popping up in my recommended on my mom’s birthday 💀
Not this popping up right after my mom made me sob over laundry.
Vent:: I wouldn’t say I have mommy issues. However me and my mum have never gotten along, she’s always compared me to other peoples children, she has always been openly disappointed in me. We always argue and she yells at me for no reason and slaps me for telling my sister to “shut up” chases me around the house, calls me names etc. Blames me for everything my dad does, tells me she hates my dad and that I remind her of him. And has kicked me out multiple times. I understand that other people have it harder, but all I want is a relationship with my mum. I’m now 16 years old and everything is getting worse
I wish my mom can understand me
I love the playlist! Definitely one of my new favorites
I feel almost exactly the same. My mom switched up so much with the situation tbh. It really makes me doubt whether or not I should be feeling the way I do about her now. But the way she “cares” for me and the words she says to me sometimes..actually most of the times makes me wonder why she would ever think that it’s okay to say to your child. I sincerely don’t understand my mom, because I can never come up with valid reasoning behind her actions. She has done some good things in the past and she always likes to talk about how much she does for everyone. She always talks to me about how much she does for others and how much she sacrifices of herself. My mom sacrifices so much of her time to other people that she has no time for actually guiding me and my siblings like a mom would. She is so toxic and harmful to my mental health sometimes that it really makes me want to hate her, but I can’t fully do that. I used to have a therapist a year ago when I was pretty sure I was in a deep severe depression. (I didn’t tell her that tho) The thing is, the main cause of my depression was my parents, and mainly my mom. I wanted to talk to my therapist about it, so I could have literally anyone to talk about it to. I couldn’t though, because my mom would always be in the next door room so I was scared she would hear me. I didn’t really get much use of that therapist, because after about 4 sessions I stopped doing it. Anyways I can really relate cause I’m always mixed about my feelings when it comes to my mom
Moms do that shit. They fuck you up and then make you feel guilty about it so you can’t be mad at them. Trust me. You should be mad and you can be.
she's gotten me to the point where I've threatened suicide, I'm scared for myself
The youngest child isn’t always mommys favorite ,Maybe because she’v had better than her ,That one is in college ,The other is a responsible adult ,And she’s close to them ,But she judges her all the time ,Like she’s doing everything the wrong way ,And treat her as if she has no feelings, hurting with every word ,Sadly ,I’m her.
I don't really want to say anything bad about anyone, but my mother... When I go to visit my friends, I always wished I had a family like that. The other houses always felt kind of cozy, and I hate coming home. I don't want my mom to spend more time with me, to be kinder, now I just don't want to see her ever again. Recently, my dad moved away from us, but still, keeps in contact with me, and I can definitely tell that he loves me much more than she does... uhh, I'm sorry........
damn i really needed this rn lol
I wish my mom would pay more attention to me more than the tv...
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she's manipulated me so much and raised me to only trust her so now i cant tell what is the truth and what isnt anymore
Daddy issues are so popular. But mommy issues hurt more than you think
I’m scared. What if I turn out like her one day? What if my kids turn out mentally drained and hating me, and it’s all my fault? What if I ruin them like she ruined me? I’m so scared…
Me too... im scared that “the fruit doesn’t fall far from the tree” happen
I've always thought I'm a bad person but my mom made me realise that how good person I'm because of the way she portray me in such a horrible person which I never thought of myself as. Thank you mom
i can't decide wether she loves me or just despises me, the one moment she's so nice to me and the other moment she's screaming at me, making me feel like a dissapointment and at how i need to get better grades in school while i try my best. i just want her to appreciate me
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Thank you for this it stopped me from killing myself
not to be weird, but... i absolutely love you
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ur so cute
Yes be my mother and dad pls i have mommy and daddy issues
Pov: You ask your mom for inspiration, but she ends up blaming herself and making you guilty as always.
thinking back, what i felt wasnt anger at all, it was longing.. i was longing for my mom's affection, hoping she'd actually show me her love atleast once in a while
why. do. my. parents. not love me....?
Sorry if this is inappropriate considering this is kind of a sad playlist but I AM YOUR PARENT NOW. I love you so fucking much come here.
@@cane4727 can you adopt me too :’) /hj
@@peanut05 me too plss
i hated her so much that i never wanted to see her again but i loved her so much like i did as a kid, always. she was my anchor even if she loved throwing me overboard. i miss her more than words could ever express. hope you're resting well, mama, despite everything you put me through. i know you had it hard too.
ah yes i love feeling like my mothers parent. i love her blaming all my problems on everyone else. i love the way she calls herself a horrible parent, i love how she defends my abusive siblings and father, i love how i must be the adult and never had a childhood, i love how...
my mom mentally, verbally, and emotionally traumatized me to the point where i have c-ptsd and often have flashbacks about her screaming at me late at night because of the little "wrong" things i would always do. she passed in december of 2021 and i'm on my way to healing from the trauma, but i dont think i can ever in good concious forgive her for any of the things she did to me. i dont miss her at all and my life has gotten somewhat better since her passing, but the pain is still there and i still deal with it every fucking day
I just wish she loved me the same way she loves my brother.
At the end of the day we’re all just kids who want their moms to love and understand them.
My mom had me just to cause trouble for my dad. She never cared about me. Never wanted to try for me. Never spoke to me. Just left me, but not before hurting me and my family. I grew up without a mom knowing she was out there but she didn't care about me. Never did. Never will.
hi, idrk what to reply to this because I don't know anyone in this situation so I can't really give you advice... but, I hope your dad is taking care of you or at least your family is nice to you.
I feel like when I’m doing good whenever she treats me good i feel her getting better until she starts a fight breaking down my expectations degrading me and words can’t express how I feel being with either of my parents. I don’t feel well. I can’t think of how to express how much she has put me through because she always manages to find a way for me to run back like nothing happened.
I hate having to make every single movement and emotion according to her.
It’s so odd. The traits and things my mother and father does that I know are wrong like parentification and emotional absence still hurt me but, it’s the ones where I’m unsure of whether it’s inherently toxic are the ones that hurt me the most. My mom seems to be the primary cause for my trust issues, always talking sh*t about others while I think they’re pretty cool. So it just makes me confused who to believe. She keeps calling me naive and tells me I’m not on “her level yet” so I don’t understand. I think she means well but, it isn’t helping.
I wish my mom would stop drinking
She saw me crying but she didn't ask or felt bad I hate her I swear I didn't do anything bad or sinful to get punished by a cold hearted "mom"
Thank you, I needed this
It's hard to even go a week without arguing with my mom. she says all this hurtful stuff and then after I retreat to get away, it either gets worse or she apologizes. I don't understand her. She can be kind and love me but then treat me horribly. she knows abt my anxiety and told me once while in an argument "yknow I could leave here without you and make you find you way back to the hotel." This is all while I'm breaking down. Also I was in a big city that I am not all used too. I have never forgiven her after this. She'll constantly bring it up with my friends and laugh at it like it was a joke.
I've just given up, I've tried to mend our relationship... I've tried to be better... I've been trying to get healthy, physically, mentally... I learned to control my emotions but she just... idk anymore.
My mom and I were close once, now that I'm a teenager everything started to go downhill, she would hit me constantly and would slap me. There's a time where she got extremely mad at me to the point where she said she should've ended me in the first place. I just want my old loving mother back..
BRO I THOUGHT THIS WAS MY ACTUAL PLAYLIST CAUSE ALL THESES BANGERS ARE ALREADY ON THERE
“why don’t u love your mom? she loves you.” why do you say that to me. she doesn’t love me. she’s faking it. she didn’t love me when i was younger, she made me see the real her when i was 7, she lost herself when i was 13, she hit me. she didn’t care that i was in another neighborhood, she wanted me gone for sure, everyday i have to listen to her yell, i don’t want to be her daughter, why mom. why didn’t u listen to me, why do u lie everyday, i miss you so much, i don’t know who you are, i want you to love me for the way i am. you’re stuck in ur head.
I do whatever she wants me to do and then when I miss something she screams at me I do more than enough I i lost my dad and i think I lost my mom too now I just want her to love me like she loves my sister
I think there's a lot of people that feel the same like idk we feel like our mom loves our sister/ brother more than us but did you ever try to ask your siblings what they think about this situation ? like they probably feel the same. The problem is all because of how parents show their love to their children
@@anemoia1200 yh i asked my sister and she aggreed that she loves her more but now I'm fine with it tbh I've been thinking of it and she have been through a lot and she deserve to get more love than me and affection and I'm okay with that now
The way I relate to every comment and just started realizing that this household isn't just "semi-toxic", it's "I need to move out immediately" toxic.
She always took my brothers side, showed them more love, took them out, went to they birthdays, can to they plays and stayed, she went to they big events...when I graduate all I got was a hug and and good job and when back home and ask my brothers if I wanted to get take out, like I was nothing special...all the hard work, weeks of trying to get it perfect, she left me at the shops on my graduation night..the only person that tried to make an effort was my dad but even him...he would leave me, talk shit about me... complain that I was getting fat, I stopped eating I couldn't eat properly for two years...I couldn't do anything...and now that his gone now I really have no one to go to to cry to, to talk to, to hug, to make me feel special...I feel like I'm a mistake... maybe I shouldn't be born...I just take all the things that they say thinking that I can't hear, I just want to leave...but I can't bc I feel like if I work harder I could change my mum's mind and make her see that I'm trying and that I want to be loved and noticed by her and to be seen as her daughter and not a son, I'm not a boy, I know I was supposed to be one but I'm not...I'm not someone that can just take it and not cry...I'm going to cry when you call me a slut and a whøre...why would you say that to a someone that's only 13....
i heard that babies think they are one with their mothers in the firsts months of life. its sad how i feel so separated from her now, whenever i try to talk to her she just seem so far away. I just wish she would look my way sometimes without invalidating me or making me feel dramatic. I love you mom and im a mess, i wish you knew and if you knew, i wish you cared.
When she calls you every slur and curse under the sun just for being a child, for being yourself and then tells you that she is a great mother and would never do that or that'd she did it to protect me but all she was doing was ruining me
My father was the mentally abusive narcissist, mom was always there to comfort me and tell me how much she loves me. But... She betrayed me too. maybe not as bad as my father, but now I feel like the one person who I could trust, is no longer who I thought she was. And she'll never realize how badly she hurt me. Fuck, why do I gotta be the one who breaks the generational trauma??
My mommy issues are not her being abusive or terrible, but rather her making me uncomfortable and my anger issues. I broke our relationship by blowing up for little things, while she will gaslight me and used to to things that cross way over my boundaries, I feel as though i am mostly the problem....
That one time she almost call me a mistake! Like mom do love me?
At the point she shows more interest in my other siblings , I dissociate . When it’s my turn to speak I feel judged and ignored . Let’s break generational curses my beautiful woman
she'll never change.
my mother literally destroys every part of me. i cant have peace because i know that every part of my life is controlled. her words and how she demeans me it is horrible. she laughs about me and my mistakes and for being a clumsy girl every day and out loud. i wish i could dedicate my whole adult life to honor this inner child that was always abused by her and heal by turning it into art and support for more girls from abusive mothers. maybe in the end that is my mission. i am haply she is sleeping rn because i have at least one second of peace and not feeling like a burden. she complains about anything that she does for me and how much she wanted a career but sacrificed it for me and that i dont do nothing to help her. what? i am literally your free paid therapist, the one you punch like an object everytime you have bad emotions or are pissed off, i listen to you, i literally change and control every single step to not upset you and be cool to you, i literally change ur mood to something better, i even massage you and say you kind words everyday, i am a child that is peaceful with everybody and i dont pick up fights with people or do innapropriate things. why cant you be proud of me and treat me like a human being? everytime i am called selfish, evil, uncomprehensive, boring..mm
Man, I used to be slightly afraid of my mom when I was younger, she had her own issues so I can't blame her. I have a dad, but he lived in a different area at the time so she took care of me with my grandma for a while. Then, she had a stroke and I loved with my aunt for quite a while, until my dad left. He raised me and we visited her for a while but sometimes I wouldn't want to visit her because she'd sometimes yell at my dad for no reason. I love her and she loves me, just sometimes it gets a bit hard to deal with all the stress and trauma she gave me from my early childhood.
i was looking for an angry mommy issues playlist, but i found this and decided to stick around and, i have to say, this is almost perfect to how they feel about me
It will forever leave a scar inside of me which I will have to live with till the day I die. Even after I had forgiven her, the damages done can never be undone, things will never be the same again. I lived my life under her sabotage like a caged bird, now that she realized her own damage upon me and told me to leave, I can no longer do that because now the cage is all I know and I am nothing without it. I got used to all the abuse that it felt normal to me. I don’t want to leave because now it has became a part of me.
Everyone loves my mom cause she acts all funny in front of everyone else but just us alone she screams and screams at me and my sister saying "no man will ever love you. "