7 Signs Someone is TOO Into You (Limerence)
Are you wondering if someone's affection for you might be crossing into the territory of obsession? In this video, we delve into the fascinating world of limerence, a state of obsessive love that can often go unnoticed. From the early stages to full-blown infatuation, we explore the seven key signs that someone might be just a bit too into you. Whether you're navigating the dating scene or already in a relationship, understanding limerence can shed light on those intense emotions.
#limerence #love #relationship #dating
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Kelly Soong
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Brandon
Animator: Amy Arendolff
KZhead Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Crappy Childhood Fairy. (2024 March 9). The Icky Feeling When Someone is Limerent on YOU [Video]. KZhead. • The Icky Feeling When ...
Nguyen, J. (2021 October 11). What Is Limerence? 5 Signs You're Experiencing It (Not Love!). mbgrelationships. www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/limerence
Psychology Today. (2024). Limerence. www.psychologytoday.com/intl/basics/limerence
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Love it, very talented.
Its excellent work. The video has very vibrant, friendly colors
Cool and cutee 🎉❤😊
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1. Constant Contact 2. Physical Clinginess 3. Grand Gestures 4. Idealizing You 5. Loss of Identity 6. Can't take no for an answer 7. Extreme Jealousy
thanks
The fact that this happened to me.
Was looking for this thank you 🙏🏼🙏🏼 I hope you have a fantastic year my friend
And u find out years later how emotional honesty yields positive impact to yourself and to others
Ha I’m only 4 out of seven! I’m doing pretty good!
Someone who can’t take no for an answer is one of the biggest red flags
@@chesscrater6331 People are not entitled to another individual and need to respect boundaries. If they can’t accept that, that’s a 🚩 🚩 🚩 What you just said has no context to this video and it’s giving “well actually” vibes.
@@skyworld3393 Sure. DELETED.
Not me watching this just to find out that I'm "the bad guy" 🥲 Thought I'm trying my best not to be like this, but low self-esteem makes people do desperate things sometimes 🥲 And that's the learning curve.
Get passionate about your own life, and the right person will find you and get passionate about you as well...Good luck!!
honestly me too, and i’m only now realizing i’m doing this to someone and i’m realizing i need to make some changes to myself
it's not about being the bad person, it's about identify the wrong behaviour, if you can recognize it then if possible that you not end like this
sounds like feelings of desperation alone are a cause for limerence
Maybe you should try to find some hobbies.
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without him, I love him so much. wish I can get him back I can do anything to have him back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Shelly renee white
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks
You wont regret it
@@paulinebricks3441 Idk you or your partner but the idea that you can't live without them is unfortunately not a very healthy mindset for relationships, maybe working on that could improve yalls relationship :]
In Psychology, limerence is a state of involuntary intense romantic desire for another person. Did you know Limerence is similar to love in some ways, but it's not quite the same.
Kind of curiosity, I want to text with a person I like constantly, but knowing it is wrong, so i end up longing for the person. This still count as limerence, correct?
I don't think so. It's normal to long for someone. Limerence is more like being obsessive.
Psych2go, will there be any videos about Carl jung shadow in the future?
Ahhhh!
Yes, I’m very familiar with it. Dorothy Tenov first coined it, she explained it in her book “Limerence” , I highly recommend it to everyone especially to those who are limerent.
I was scared of being like this but then I realised,that the difference between a obsessed person and a person who truld loves you is that a person who is obsessed only cares about them and that they have you,meanwhile a person who loves you truly,wants you to be happy, and if you are in a relationship or ended a realtionship they keep a respectful distance and make sure that they dint cross bounderies
it’s surprising how quickly I clicked on this video when I’m well aware that I’ll be single for life (HOLY SHIT, MY CRUSH ASKED ME OUT THE DAY AFTER COMMENTING THIS !)
With that attitude... Yeah
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@@glorbog what do you mean?
@@_skills1 with that attitude, you'll be single for life. Quit keeping yourself down.
@@_skills1we believe in you bestie
Happened to me for 2 years. This girl had a crush on me and at first, I thought that it was just a small crush and she'll get over it after she tried finding ways to talk to me or randomly popping up where I was. After a while, anyone would notice. I thought she'd give up when I displayed absolutely zero interest in her but it got worse. It got to the point of her lying about us being in a relationship and telling people that *I'm* the one whose infatuated with her and that I only see her despite us barely ever talking. One girl even noticed this and asked her then why have I not looked or even talked to her to which she kept quiet. People who dream of having someone whose obsessed with them shouldn't. The person is obsessed with the image they have of you. This girl even once claimed to her friends that I had some sort of abilities. Yes, I mean superpowers. How? I'll never know. If communication doesn't work, ignore them, seek help from friends, talk to a guardian or a trustworthy adult. If all else fails, consider reporting it to officials. Honestly glad my case wasn't those ones where the person stalks or kidnaps you. Won't dive any further into detail just in case she finds this
Damn. I started having a crush on a guy from a friend group I was getting into. Never allowed myself to have a crush up until that point (always suppressed the feelings until they went away), but I thought that maybe it’s time to break old patterns and to just let myself get into it - maybe he would like me back? Well…that small crush quickly developed into limerence. I was so nervous every time I saw him, felt nauseous even. Physical contact OVERLOAD. Constantly tried to force conversation, ran after him like a dog etc. A year later, I have now fortunately woken up from my fever dream and I am so glad that there is an actual term for what happened to me. Will definitely do further research on this. I’ll see him at an event in 2 weeks and I don’t know how to act, now that I’m “back to normal”. I think I’m just gonna hit him with a biiig apology since I can imagine now how uncomfortable I must have made him for the past year.
Dang that's unfortunate. I'm a male, Christian, and I'm autistic so my chances are low to begin with. When I thought "maybe I'll just wait till someone comes to me", now there's red flags?! I just can't catch a break😂😂😂
@elpaume1...sounds like that Seinfeld episode when Kramer found out he had the "kavorka". Superpowers. People are weird. Yeah, projections are super difficult to work with, especially if it involves a male/female dynamic. Gotta tread lightly, and even avoid them if you can.
My limerance-antics came from my attachment wounds. I have c-PTSD and recovering. I was very exhausting to be around with and it also took a strain on me because I was desperately searching for a safe home and love outside of myself, especially from emotional unavailable people. It felt like an addiction and I believe I was addicted to my own stresshormones without realizing it. Now I am single for about two years now and I have to say: I like myself more.
Good for you for recognising the issue and taking the steps to heal, that's really awesome and impressive :)
I'm proud of you
Amazing, continue like this :)
I’d think I’m more of the hopeless romantic type, if someone loves me I probably will back. I’m just desperate because I don’t like myself really for forever
I just don’t know myself I guess
I feel like everyone has experienced or have done this at some point in their lives.
Watching this to see if I'm too obsessed with my boyfriend haha
so real
Same here 😢
Maybe you need some hobbies. If you can only think about one person, why not think about yourself for a minute and decide that I don't need to care about him so much, but still enough to make him important, and focus on things (if you have any at all) that are actually important to me? Like hobbies or friends.
@@chesscrater6331 These are my hobbies: Dancing, Singing, being in a musical with training 2-4 times a week, Drawing, Skating, Gaming, Cosplaying, Stitching and 3D Modelling. Do you still think I need hobbies? I'm also in university and I'm studying a lot, that's why I'm getting straight A's, I graduated at the top of my year for my Bachelor's (got a 100%) and now I'm in my Master's with the same result. But I'm only seeing my boyfriend every other weekend because of that. So duh of course I'm thinking a lot about him, because he's the love of my life and the most wonderful person I've ever known. When I'm with him, life feels so much better but well we don't see each other often. So no I'm definitely not the type of person described in this video, even if I'm thinking a lot about my boyfriend. That's just what love is. Like seeing something that reminds me of him or seeing a gift that he might like. Or thinking about our future.
1. 0:47 constant contact 2. 1:09 physical clinginess 3. 1:37 Grand gestures 4. 2:13 Idealizing you 5. 2:38 Loss of identity 6. 3:04 can't take no for an answer 7. 3:32 extreme jealousy Hope this helped!
It did
I'm guilty of limerance, I can own it out loud
Oh no NVM, I never tripped off their friends being cool with them or them connecting with strangers
I woke up thinking about him, went to sleep thinking about him. spent all my money to see him. worshiped him. He says he cringes at me. he says im annoying. and worse ..shallow. I am chronically empty. and all i wanted was to fulfill him.
Can I please ask you a question? Was it lust-based? Blessings to you sis 🙏
Ouch.
@@NikkiBodie000 I don't think so. because before i saw him we chatted on a videogame for about a year and ..i loved his voice and mind. when i saw his face though i felt as though if god had a human body and face it would look a lot like his. fell so hard
@@farelady93 wouldn't it be nice if a guy felt the same about you? Fell in love with your whole being and not just the outer shell. You are precious, and could meet someone who felt the same about you. I pray you can put some boundaries up and pour some of that enigmatic love into your own cup❤️
@@NikkiBodie000 I appreciate you. ❣️
Ah. That will explain my one dating experience in university. I had one person who was that way and... to put it simply: I was terrified.
Oh my God same I'm glad I was able to get away from them but that relationship still left scars
Embarrassment becuz I’ve done this, learning curve fr 🫥
feels illegal to be this early
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I was watching your videos yesterday and I cried so hard. I feel like a failure for not getting my ideal grades and I’m afraid I would not have a bright future. I always wonder what went wrong with my life. That was the first time in a while I cried so hard,and so much. Thank you Psych2go for making me realise there is hope.
Sorry for yapping
Nothing is end of the world other than death. You have today and tomorrow. You will better yourself everyday. It is important to be optimistic and know that you will never be perfect. No failure is a reason to give up. Everyday is a new day to keep on being better than yesterday.
Grades aren't everything. The school system is chalked
@@ThunderDawg0 No need to apologise! You are not a failure. You seem to be having a bit of a tough time, please don't be so hard on yourself. I'm sure you would never call a friend a failure for not getting perfect grades, so you shouldn't do it to yourself either. How you speak to yourself matters, please be kind and give yourself some grace. And never, ever give up hope :)
Don't be sorry for yapping !! Let it out. You got this and I am rooting for you! Step by stepppp I believe in you. 😃😇
Omg thanks I needed this!!! (I don't interact with people)
I rather deal with this then an avoidant, someone that doesn' t show affection and/ or emotions and who can' t/ don' t or won' t keep their promises but I believe like anything you need balance.
when you have both 😭
I don't know if the comment I made a few videos ago is what inspired this video to be made but either way I'm glad that you shed light into this topic. A lot of people should know about Limerence and how it's different from real love, thank you for the great video! :D
okay cool vid. now make one on how to stop limerence cuz i legit blocked everyone else out of my life last week just for this one person, even though i love them in a platonic way.
Umm, love, that’s way above the pay grade of a KZhead channel run by people who don’t know the first thing about you or your situation. What you describe is really extreme behavior that probably goes well beyond just the symptom of limerence, too. I would recommend you bring these concerns to a therapist who can actually help you out.
Not to be one of those people who diagnose over one Internet comment, but it does sound like you could have a "favorite person". I know it happens a lot to people with BPD, but maybe it could apply to you as well? Basically, it means that you have one super special person which you love/like very very intensely, to the point that your feelings about the world and yourself change depending on whether you are on good terms or not. When things are going OK with this person, everything feels good and nice. But if things are going wrong, or if you perceive they are rejecting you in some way, you feel absolutely disheartened. To the point you might try to manipulate or punish them in order for them to like you again. It's like your world revolves around them, and it usually leads to extreme behavior in order to keep them in your life.
please like i can't stop doing this over and over again with different people
@tiredartistt3875 If it's a pattern, there is probably something going on psychologically. Have you considered talking to a mental health specialist? There could be abandonment issues or some unresolved trauma that is affecting your way of relating to other
@@sofialuna6210 after going to a therapist with no success for three years and doing serious work on myself, i'm quite aware of everything that's wrong with me but have felt stuck for a really long time. so i'm currently trying to work on finding a new therapist that might help me
Honestly, quite informative for me, someone who is experiencing attraction for the first time after 19 years trying to gauge just how strong feelings are supposed to be. Thanks!
Omg! I have someone like this in my life at the moment. Limerance is something that is equal to victimized. It's exhausting and very annoying.
Then stop acting like you have time for them all the time, and worry about your own self-interests.
@@chesscrater6331 Gosh darn 💀 they didnt even say anything from their side. Projection
Yesss and then they say i have avoidant attachment style. Like- what is going on here man 😭
Hahaha I’m too into somone and it shows but I still play it cool like I’m ok either way , it’s my way of letting somone know that although I want you I’m ok if you don’t want me cuz I love myself , plus I don’t like constantly worrying about if somone is cheating anyway .
“And to any one on the other end experiencing limerence, maybe it’s time to stop seeing love where there is none and move on to find real happiness and real love”. PERIOD. That’s a bar 🔥🙌🏽
After watching this video, before you go and break up, first try to talk things out. And try to give it a shape as long as you can afford it. If it starts to take genuine tolls on you, I believe then you can move out. ❤
This vid made it clearer and easier to identify behaviours of limerance than most 40 min long videos I've seen in this website.
Not even sure if I ever loved anyone or if I was just limerant :/
Feel you
After meeting a person like this, it was buddhist teachings that taught me how Loving someone is wishing for them to be happy Fake love is wishing for the other person to make YOU happy. Attachment and desire lead to suffering, and they'd be putting their happiness in the hands of another, in this case, us.
I am currentky facing a situation like those I have this friend who's for some reason obsessed with me, and I am just gentle and respectful towards her, nothing more. At first I didn't notice, but now it's overwhelming, jokes, pet names, and always telling me how attractive I am and openly flirting with me since "its clear that you dont like me, its just a joke". I only wanted a friend, gosh😓
This is my ex. No effort once I was actually in a relationship with him, but after a breakup- all the things. And definitely wouldn’t take no for n answer. He always assumed we’d get back together. Took me getting married and moving to a foreign country to get him to leave me alone.
I'm actually glad I came across this video! I've only recently started putting myself back out there. I went out for the first time with a girl, and I found myself really attaching myself internally towards her, and perhaps started showing some of these signs that were mentioned. However, I am catching myself doing this, and so I've been taking a step back to really think about what I'm doing and if it's healthy or not. Basically I'm fighting against my strong emotions, but I do need to keep myself in check or else I could find myself really going down this road of Limerence. Hence I'm glad I came across this video which helped me make some sense of what I've been feeling, and how to proceed in a healthier way, even though it's easier said than done 😅 I really do like this girl, but she said she was moving soon, and so, I had to really respect her decisions for herself, and try to calm my feelings towards her down. It just sucks because she really is an incredible person 😔
Talk to her about what you’re thinking before it does go into limerence, sometimes just having an answer helps tremendously. As someone who has fallen for this a few times and tried what you are suggesting, it makes it 10x worse because now you don’t actually know the person, you can’t stop thinking about them, and on top of that you have the “what if” regret. Talk to her about what you’re thinking and if it continues or gets worse, talk to a therapist. You can most likely nip it in the bud since it probably isn’t full on limerance yet
Woah! A lot of people are really concerned about their psych issues!
Not so many people are actually very concerned about their psychology issues. Most of them find the channel entertaining because they enjoy actually being able to try to relate to something in order to make themselves feel better about what they think are their life's failures.
Limerence is cool and all until she blows up your phone at all times of the day demanding a conversation and at night too. I out my boundaries down a little too hard though, was toxic, she split up eventually. Then I became limerent. Funny how life goes.
Codependency and limerence suck indeed. I wish you peace and better love.
As someone who's prooobably experiencing limerence, starting to come to terms with it, and just now trying to remove myself out of that state, this was rather painful to watch.
Me too 😢
There is no differense between genuine love and limerance, basiclly the same feeling, but in one way it ends well in another it ends not very well. So difference is only in result in proccess of feeling it feels pretty much same.
I have limerence as far as I'm concerned. I am brushing my hair, studying and wearing clean clothes again since the last time I used to do these things. I wish it's true love. Otherwise, I will go back to my old self, with no future plans.
This comment is confusing to me. Can you explain? Or am I just a re re
Regardless of whether it’s going to be “true love” this time, its not healthy to depend so heavily on an idealized relationship that you don’t engage in the most basic acts of human functioning if you don’t have that stimulus. You need to work on the underlying issues, love, not just ride the high that comes with indulging the symptoms. Especially not when we’re talking about symptoms that can cause so much hurt and trauma to yourself and others. I hope you’re seeing a therapist, but if not, I would recommend you do that. Especially the degree of limerence you describe sounds genuinely dangerous.
@@EIizabethGrace I will see a therapist as soon as I have the ability to do so. I felt your concern while reading your comment and I felt relieved, so thank you.
@@lukaswilliams5851 I stopped taking care of my self,I hated my self for a while. Whe I had limerence, I started taking care of my self by dressing well and getting cleaned again, so I get the person I like to like me. I hope I really love that person and it's not just an attraction or infatuation, because otherwise I will go back to my depressed-like life.
making sure i'm not too obsessed:
As a recovering limerant, who once binged on content to fit a 'love' agenda, I think this is a very important video to have been published.
Yes i have but its hard to let them down gently without offending them
After watching this, i now know why i constantly get friendzoned. I never knew i was the guy with limerence during courting stage. Now this video serves as a video of "7 things not to do when ure courting someone" and ill make sure this will never happen again
This song and scenes are so perfect for everything I have been considering. The ad I mean. I think it's called Enter the Void
Thank you for sharing 👍🏻
Thanks for watching!
as someone that experienced intense limerence for over a year... very unfortunately true! i did every single one of these things. it did not end well. dont do that. if you truly care about someone, break out of that delusional state
i noticed a month or so ago. ik for jealousy I've felt that way for many people, but i always kept the feeling to myself, never tried to control, but def a bit pushy and not being able to take no. i've def spent less time with friends , but i was doing that already before i met them. i never get clingy physically like give some personal space lol. definitely idealized yet sense of identity? I mean come one what even is that? Idek who I am. like Who am I? not in a distressing way either just who? im not xyz or anything superficial. i don't have it. but if we say that in actions and what i do and say, then nahhh im still the "weird goofball". at least that's how i think some perceive me. tho sorry for the long ahh rant under ur comment section lol
@@imcrimson8618 man it is what it is! carry on bro!
Thanks for useful information.
Glad it was helpful!
YAY IM EARLY FOR THE FIRST TIME :DDD btw cute characters 🥹🥹
Thanks for the love and support!
Woah... I am too early and i searched the channel, not via suggesting that too after several months. 💀
I have been guilty of limerence and had been like this but that person ditched me.😂😒
This explains so much
I can relate. . I'm into this girl (definitely limerence) she said she needs a break and will contact me after she gives her exams i feel empty now.
He was exactly like this. It was my first love so I didn't really think much of it... but now I'm realizing that once we got to know each other better, he started to lose interest and broke up with me.....
Same but I had to end things with him. He couldn't take no for an answer. He'd always manipulate me to have pity on him.
@@Freebutterfly24 yep. He couldn't take no for an answer but wouldn't be mean about it he'd just make me feel bad for saying no. But he stopped showing interest in me once he got what he wanted....
3 ways they're extremely manipulative and toxic: 1. they breathe me: 😥
What if you become the toxic one ?
@@gabrielbogarimperez8550 Then he is a moron and you are a questioning person.
What I've gathered from these videos is that eventually everything you do is bad or wrong, so why bother.
Way to justify your actions
I watched this thinking it will describe someone ik but instead it's me- wow!
Yep 💯 I really like this video
This is really true, I was in a relationship with someone who was like this so we had to break things up. It got really overwhelming. We're still talking tho
some of these can come from autistic individuals (diagnosed or undiagnosed) feeling an intense passion towards you (usually as a result of our isolation from multiple experiences of social rejection, then finally being accepted by someone after a long social drought of sorts). the behaviors you might observe from one such autistic individual: - "constant contact" (we can still be educated on respecting boundaries and timing messages for "this is when i'm usually available") - "loss of identity" (laser-beam focus of getting to know you to the point that they want to study everything about you. might not actually be a total loss of sense of self, just tends to come across as an obsession) - kinda but maybe not "can't take no for an answer" (we do question &/or debate to try to understand why we're refused, but our questioning is not necessarily a refusal of your refusal, we're just trying to understand. usually after clarifying the why and how of the what, we can understand, presuming that the autistic individual involved has enough maturity and emotional stability to meet halfway in this conversation)
You may be helping us figure out if someone is way too into you. Maybe you're great at doing that. Sure, I think you're wonderful at doing that. Is it maybe getting a little old? Have you every considered something outside of dating videos? I'd like some more videos about the dark quadrant or triad if you're interested, like what happens when this duo meets scenarios. There's something especially unique about your channel, but I just can't pinpoint what it is. The animation part is especially entertaining and makes psychology very good to retain information from.
yayy new video 🥰
YAY! Thank you for your support!
I used to be this way... Thank goodness I broke free! The after-effects remain though, still lingering and ruining it for me
Timestamps 1). Constant contact 0:46 2). Physical challenges 1:08 3). Grand gestures 1:37 4). Idealizing you 2:11 5). Loss of identity 2:37 6). Can't take no for an answer 3:02 7). Extreme jealousy 3:31 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Thanks
Physical clingness *
No going to lie in needed to watch this
Me clicking and watching this video just to find out that my last toxic relationship was EXACTLY this. I went through someone who was blinded with limerence, and honestly it is so exhausting. And it is the reason I am still on an ongoing 7 month self care break, to which I will hopefully get to a year
I couldn't help but notice the background music and think back to dankpods singing about the eBay "slash and dash" stories
I actually really did like him I even grew to love him because we spent so much time together but the intensity at the beginning literally shocked me. I had never experienced that before. I didn’t know about limerence either and I didn’t think it was harmful I had been limerent before so I wanted to hold space for that.
I've spent the past few years working with therapists on how to change my behavior away from Limerence, which I developed as a kid to overcompensate for being abandoned by my family. It's easier than most people think to start out in a position of genuine attraction/love for someone and have it devolve into Limerence due to trauma-induced anxiety and fear over rejection/abandonment. That cost me a potential relationship with someone I loved very much, and over a decade later, I haven't dared go back into that arena again because I don't want the cycle to continue.
My ex-girlfriend were all of these, except for the idealizing-part. She often ridiculed me, and tried to change me. But after the relationship, i developed some kind of phobia for needy/clingy people
Psych2go helped me alot😢
Too bad this video wasnt there when i was in a relationship exactly like this but this also validated my experience and that it was a toxic relationship and that it wasnt just in my head
I’ve just been pushing everyone away at this point …. Feels like it’s easier lol
I thought I was in love with my last crush, but seeing this video makes me question myself. A lot of these points were there, though it was more mild than the examples given here.
In my opinion, watching from a distance it's kinda sweet I feel like I can see the intention behind everything and it would be kinda flattering to be with you and if you aren't willing to put in the same sort of effort then that's when it could seem overly clingy and concerning But as for me, person of my dreams 🥰
I used to call my wife from work for years and years just to hear her and check on her and my son. I've been "into" lots of things in my life, but my woman has been the sole object of my desire for more than half my life and ain't nobody "into" me anymore. I wouldn't know if anyone was into me to begin with, but I have experienced and am guilty of this "limerance" stuff at places I've worked. I was fool for thinking I could find something lost in someone else...
Woah this popped up!
Its always the ones u not attracted to that have limerance towards u 😂
Im in loveeee, and i cant tell if im delusional or not😭
I just find out that I was limering so hard , almost every sign. Damm 💀💀
This happens to me with friends!!!!!!! They get waayyyyy more attached to me than I do to them 😭
CLASSIC SCHMOSBY!!!😂😂😂
Watchig this as if Im not the one constantly chatting people 💀
You also need a taken consideration that people especially males are extremely lonely & many are either ghosted or turned down so you can expect it to amplify
this can happen by being led on. still there is only so much you can do to gain a date before moving on.
I getting mixed feelings from my crush, he always says hello to me when we see eachother in the hall and does some other things that makes it feel like he likes me but then he keeps moving to seats further away from me in class
I feel sad that most of these signs apply to me except for the last 2 I would say and even more sad that you suggest a break up at the end :( because I love my partner so much
No, no, no, no, no, no and no. Damn...😢
I have experienced something like this but there was immediate stalking from the beginning.
Same experienced it twice before both school and work 😭
guys i thought i had limerence but after watching this video, i think i was in love💀💀💀
In my opinion if you say “no” and they ask “why ?” You should explain your feelings why you feel that way and say I need to be by myself. If you just ignore their messages it starts to become ghosting which can be considered emotional abuse since it’s intentional. To some who say “you don’t owe them anything”my response would be you’re likely not being the better person by ignoring and not explaining. Being the better person isn’t easy, it can be hard. Ultimately this is natures test of your parenting skills since they need to explain the world to a child who likely doesn’t know. If you can’t explain the toughest topic then perhaps it’s a sign you haven’t fully matured either and that’s okay. If you’ve explained yourself and they still don’t understand you may move along at anytime you see fit; just bow out respectfully.
I agree 100 % ! , Say something, communicate! Ghosting to has become more the norm today but still not acceptable to most, I myself think ghosting is only acceptable if someone has not taken no for an answer and/ or you are in danger.
@@Nola5427 I agree, if your immediate safety is at risk, ghosting is okay. Let everyone cool off.
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I’ve been on both ends of this in my 20’s. It’s hard
Yep never gonna have to deal with this lmao
I feel like I was limerant but its hard to say if I actually was. Originally, I had friends I made at the start of the school year, but I gave them all up whenever I met him because I wanted to spend more time with him, and in order to do that, I felt like I had to be friends with his friends as well because they would literally never be apart from each other. And its not like I hated his friends either, our interests matched well and they were funny people I enjoyed playing video games with. Thats something I look in for all my friends, people that play video games that are good at it, which is why I was willing to give up my previous group of friends. Because they played games, but they weren’t good at it. I wouldnt say I lost my sense of self, my boy friend and I had a lot of similarities so I never felt the need to change who I was for him, like adapting my interests and stuff, although he did influence me changing what I wanted to be majoring in but I feel like that was inevitable. I originally wanted to go to dental, but him wanting to be a nuclear engineer made me realize my 7th grade dream of being an aerospace engineer was possible because 1. I would be smarter than him if we were in the same grad year (he was taking calc 1 as a senior, I would be in Calc IV) and 2. i was more creative than him. Those were the two factors that drove me away from engineer and made me want to major in dental. Because I thought I was too dumb and not creative enough to be an engineer. But he wasnt really the only factor that drove the change so I dont think that counts as me being limerant. I changed because I plan on graduating my junior year, its coming up pretty fast and I only technically have one year left to decide between medical and engineer so that lead me to think of pros and cons. I realized I didnt want all the other responsibilities of being a dentist, because that requires me to be a leader, and a business woman who has to manage finances, manage and operate the office on top of keeping my workers happy and keeping on top of the newest dental technology to further my craft. Id rather work for someone and not have to worry about all the extra leadership and financing. I freaked out whenever my boyfriend didn’t text me back for 4 or more hours because I know he’d check his phone often and be scrolling on reddit, so I guess I just thought that if he has enough time doing that, why wont he shoot me back a quick text? Because more often then not, after leaving me unread for four other more hours, and one of his friends text in the group chat, he’d reply to them immediately and proceed not to reply to me. Over time, it became increasingly frustrating for me and Id practically demand time from him, of course to which he said no. Because he’d always be hanging out with his friends or whenever he said he’d work on homework, his friends would drag him outside to have fun, and his homework time would chip into his time with me so whenever we hung out, it would always just be him working on homework. Which led to our breakup.
I have a request video I’ve subscribed already and i wonder can you make a video about how someone with bad mental health get help but struggles to how do i get help without saying i need help?
I suffer from Limerance. I don't message all the time or get physical but I love to give presents. And I tend to feel jealous and worthless when I don't get the attention. Even to a level I think it doesn't make any sense. As if the person is in my ownership and I don't even want to own a person. The thing is that the idealization is not equal with the real person. Since I started journaling it helped me to understand the reasons and needs I have to work on myself.
I’ve been trying to figure out why this happens and how I can stop it for years, I haven’t figured it out yet instead I just avoid getting too close to people
@@Aboguaboga what are the reasons you feel so attracted? Do you want to be seen? Is there anything they have you would like to have yourself? Write it down
When you look back on your past crushes and realize they've all been limerence, you've never known what real love feels like, and you worry that there's no point in trying to find love anymore because limerence will just take over any crush you get in the future. :/
Cute ☺️ characters.
What's the song in the background?! I heard it before & I never knew the name of ittt
I called this immaturity
Wow, something I can actually relate to in this channel. I have someone who is like this with me. They're doing exactly the things in point 1, 3, and 6.
When a girl thats too in to that is cute, but when its the opposite thats creepy