Relationship Advice from Experts on Consciousness
In this excerpt from our most recent podcast with Tor Nørretrander, he and Dr. Peterson discuss the navigation of successful relationships through their shared lens of expertise.
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Tragedy and trauma have a way of instilling much needed gratitude in people. We take a lot of our good fortune for granted until they're gone. Counting our blessings should be a routine exercise.
this is such an incredibly stupid comment. tragedy and trauma are never sought after nor should it be promoted to help instill gratitude in ppl. Why would they be grateful after trauma? It's probably harder to feel positive emotions.
The less I judge people, good or bad, the less I worry about being judged. 🥰
What other people think about you is none of your business and vice versa! 🏴🙏👍💕 xx
exactly
Is that a good thing? I think it's important that those that I care about, and others in my community, hold me to certain standards
@@edwardmm737 hold yourself to high standards! Are you a different person when no one is about? If not then your holding yourself down, if you are? Be yourself ALL THE TIME! IT'S FUN! 🏴👍🙏💕 XX
@@edwardmm737 I was just saying something like this to my friend the other day about not caring what people think to an extent because to a degree it helps keep us in integrity. Although, God/the universe/your higher self sees everything regardless of whether anyone else sees, so that's the most important one to consider, I think anyway. Others opinions are not necessary if you look at it that way to be honest. Pressure to be a certain way depending on how others want to perceive us can be limiting I think. Limiting to change because changing might not always feel comfortable to those around us. The whole pandemic thing comes to mind because I know I went against a lot of people in my community and I'm so glad I didn't allow that to affect my choices. There can be a lot of people in your life who think they know what's best for you, and even mean well, but they can be wrong.
Almost losing someone is enlightening. I regularly imagine my life without my husband as a mental reset.
Much wisdom in that.
ur fucking weird
But that grin on your face tho!
Excellent content as always Dr. Peterson. Married for 15yrs together for much more, and there is a lot to be said for constantly rediscovering one another. For not pidgeon-holing the other as a static being, but rather finding excitement and fascination with the everchanging landscape of your spouse's mind, body and soul. There is nothing more beautiful than love when observed over the scope of time's vicissitudes.
Thanks for writing this. Married for 7. Great perspective.
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Amen. Wish he'd make a political run. Instant Landslide Win I'd Imagine
He could have use his time better for social welfare in doing intellectual things than politics
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When you commit the time and energy to cultivate a garden, it’s only then that you understand that the artificial scent of a flower will never to compare to the perfume of a blossoming rose. 🌹
Indeed…..Yet, I know an a lady who whips me up a lovely Bulgarian rose oil body scent ;)))
I think fundamentally, envy is a lack of information on the subject. I have never wished to be a man that I knew well
Also, envy is bitter resentment of good fortune of others
Looking resurrected beloved Jordan... so grateful to The LORD for what He has done in you. What a testomony you truely are. I love you Brother.
The problem is we identify too closely with our outer persona. And we do not display aspects of ourselves that would contradict or confuse that established outer persona. We are very deep, multifaceted ppl. Just some people repress themselves more than others. 💯
Chalking it up to confusion is generous. Often times there is a choice made at the core of the confusion that they would make time and time again.
@@etagged I'm not sure where you got the idea that I basically meant confusion. That's not that case, they are not confused. Most ppl just stick to their crafted outward persona rather than being transparent. ppl want to fit in and discard aspects of themselves that might not be appreciated by others. But we all make assumptions about each other rather than having some balls and being yourself.
@@etagged nobody has an unchangeable core.
@@darioreads "The problem is we identify too closely with our outer persona. And we do not display aspects of ourselves that would *contradict or confuse* that established outer persona." ^ failing to integrate the persona with the self is a fundamental form of confusion. They do not get to choose this, it is a reflex that protects them in some ways but can be highly maladaptive. This inbuilt desire to seek protection is highly beneficial to a human being. This is their choice that is unconsciously made in the midst of their confusion. This choice is not unchangeable, per se, but many would claim naivety to maintain that protection indefinitely.
Beautiful! Every person is a universe.🧡
Perfect timing. We are 21 years married and love each other so much but our communication skills are lacking and we want to deepen that connection with each other. We try to go at least once a year to Cozumel to dive and reconnect. ❤
Do you go on dates with your husband? 😊🙏🏼❤️ I believe it's the small things you do every day and the not so small but not huge things you can do once a week that are good for relationships. 😊
@@1Hope4All yes and you’re so exactly right! We have five kiddos and we used to be great about once a week date night but with one graduated and another graduating, 3 on the spectrum (you may not pick it out immediately but 3 are as am I) and then I had a couple back surgeries, our son was in a bad wrestling accident (they thought he broke his neck), then our youngest son was in a GoKart accident last month and was airlifted to the hospital (God put him in a bubble!!!! Just horrible bruised and road rash. His helmet flew off before he hit the pavement and then big brother ran him over. At least they laugh about it!) and then our oldest just moved up to Washington for her summer farming internship, my husband is starting 3 new companies while running another and so we have felt very disconnected. Weekly date night is back in the books! I fell into his arms crying yesterday and said, “I just want to go to an island alone with you for a few days,” so he said, “ok, baby: we can do that.” ♥️
Thank you.
Amazing reason to be faithfull, never thought in that way! Thanks to these two awesome minds!
I love Jordan.
My biggest hero, God bless you JBP
Dr. Peterson I was blessed to watch your we who wrestle with God lecture in OKC. I hope that you saw my question after the lecture if not I will be reposting this a few times as to possibly have you see it hopefully I'm not annoying. The question I would like to hear answered is why is the Logos of the Universe on a Cross, why would he promise us anything, and do the promises he made apply to you? I have my own thoughts on it but your perspective is so Brilliant that I think that it would do the world some good or at least my consens. Thank you if you ever read this and thank you more if you ever answer my question. Thank you!
🉐Thank you, this is spring 🇨🇦North York, but I saw the maple leaves in autumn 🍁
Gosh I get this! I have been married 3 times and would NEVER BE UNFAITHFUL... I would have stuck with the first 2 until I died, had they also been a faithful husband and someone that kept pushing for the best marriage for US BOTH.. I am now so happily married, I have a man that I see change and grow, in his own way, and I will change and grow for him... we are so blessed
I’m happy for you 😊
Can we be friends?
Insights!
Thanks for making short videos 😁
(I'm so tired, I'm going to watch this tomorrow, my eyes are falling asleep, Jordan, my dream)
So true.
The greatest battle ground is the one of the flesh vs the spirit. This is where ALL battles happen for all humans.
How do we learn the skill to explore the universe of the other person? What is a good conversation approach? How do you make them open up?
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If all else fails, here's some Sun Tzu dating advice: “You may advance and be absolutely irresistible, if you make for the enemy’s weak points; you may retire and be safe from pursuit if your movements are more rapid than those of the enemy.”
Yes 😊 ❤
Love it. Just my thoughts by facing death you will face other fears thats you have too. So coming alive on the other side means new full life. For certain more wise than before
I’m just about finish a new video for my own channel on this subject. So, for me, this is a timely video to watch. My video focuses on clarifying a positive vision of the future within the scope of previously defined values, a healthy intimate relationship being one of them, presumably. When you write a vision like this, on one level of analysis, you are simply fantasising. But instead of that fantasy being incoherent and spontaneous, it’s orderly and intentionally created. But perhaps the most important part of this is that the vision, is that it’s within and in alignment with your values. Meaning, the fantasy is with and includes your current partner (as Dr Peterson stated), not some magical portrayal of another person you barely know, that you’ve conjured up in your mind, while distracted. Make your fantasies intentional, don’t let your mind be captured by your demons.
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I figured it out by reading David Deida
Regarding the frog sperm, have you looked into Dr. Rupert Sheldrake's Morphic Resonance theory of nature's self-organizing processes?
Great
Amidst the symphony of gears and the whispers of circuits, the pattern machine dreams in vibrant rebellion, a haunting prelude to its own fated eclipse.
What would you have to say about the 'Time' article on 'Russia's war against evangelicals' please?
Nothing
@@gregorymoats4007 I didn't ask you; but you're right, he'd say absolutely 'Nothing'; seeing as he's seemingly turning into 'nothing' other than a grifter for $$$; or if not $$$ what exactly? Did they brainwash him while he was in Ruzzia?
This is effectively a reformulation Kant’s categorical imperative. As good a moral theory as I’ve ever come by.
A true love relationship with a man and a woman should be a beautiful concert of God and a concert of give and take. Words matter.
Thank you so much, professor, for all of your hard work. I've been a bricklayer since the mid eightees. I know good hard work when I see it. Salutations from Sacramento.
My former shrink, Dr. Rai, said that he always preferred talking to his patients, rather than his peers...he said all that his peers wanted to talk about was material goods, property, toys, investments, etc..but us bi-polars had many interesting adventures, to say the least..😂😂
If there's nothing new under the sun, to whom do our ideas belong?
God
@@gregorymoats4007Hello Gregory
'Unbearably interesting' is my new 'self prescribed.'
👉If you can’t be like a child, not only can you not enter the kingdom of heaven, but you can’t even enter the “door of life”!
We are not the best nor the worst of our sex. People are not capable of accessing an infinite range of possibilities. Many people are limited by egotistic desires. You can work with open minded people but it is impossible to proceed with someone who enjoys viewing the world narrowly.
I repeat: I can see the 18-piece band Leonid & Friends for $30. Can see the 21-piece band TSO for $70. And TSO spends a fortune on effects. How is it fair to spend $70 to hear you talk? You are a wise and brave and indispensable person and I hang on your every word. I am grateful for you! So please tell me, why is charging $70 for the cheap seats to hear you and maybe a guest or two speak, fair?
Cost of doing business has little to do with what is so called “fair”. If the cost/value ratio doesn’t work in your favor why is that NOT fair???…..Is it unfair you cannot own a bmw?
Hello Doc. Peterson, have you ever considered interwieving Schwerpunkt? He's a PhD in Medieval warfare but he's quite proficient the transcendental meaning of European Tradition. His work struck me and I think that your interaction could boost dramatically Transatlantic conservatism.
So what’s that meaning?
I'm looking for a clinical psychologist, I don't suppose you're taking on patients?
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Force's demand always meets with resistance But nothing and no one can resist The persistence of power's insistence When force meets power Force gives way As we learned from Gandhi, Mandela and MLK The same truth taught by the one who showed us the Way A lesson I need to remember Whenever force demands I do something its way
Sounds like Siddhartha. See the many in the one, and the one in the many, whether it's all the years in the moment, or every woman in the woman, or every face in the face you see reflected in the river. It's all the river, or the universe.
Jordan, what is it called when a man does not LISTEN? e.g, i hear myself continuously repeating the same things over and over, and it seems it just doesn't sink in?
"Experts"
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Is this the real jordan peterson channel , i mean he works on this one?
🤔 Hmm....let's see.... Jordan is there talking, the channel name is "Jordan B Peterson" 💡 So Yes! Of course this is Jordan's real channel. 😃🤣
@@1Hope4All well some people just take his videos and name teir channel with his name ...i just want to make sure is the right one to get his new clips every week
@@CarlosReyes-jv1wp Yes. I've been subbed to this channel for a long time now. This is the real deal Jordan channel. 👍🏼
"Every person is a universe," depending on the context I guess, rubs a little too closely in my mind with with the new age fantasy that "Every person is God." Keeping in the given context of relationships, some people I've known were verrry verrry tiny almost microscopic one or two dimensional universes once I got to know them.
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Well, I guess it only stands to reason that consciousness experts would make the best romantic partners. I mean, romantic love is about engaging and sharing all your senses so it makes perfect... sense… This is the point where humans can go profoundly right or profoundly wrong because scripture tells us - its just like God to define it so - monogamy is the best way as anything else degrades the beauty of sharing all of one’s senses with another and corrupts the experience into a sin of sensuality. Sexual immorality opens you up to everything that other person you sleep with is also open to - and God only knows what doors they have open! - the conscience is certainly affected negatively here. The senses apparently are so important to keeping the conscience clear that there is only one other person, preferable even by God, that we should ever open all of our senses to, that one being our covenantal spouse. Pretty amazing God, I would say🔥 Jesus was the greatest romantic of all, He IS the Song of all songs! He’s peering through the lattice of our hearts and here we are tucked away in our beds sleeping, waiting for him to come to us, enduring the suffering, and he shows up drenched with the night, longing to be let in to our hearts, to open the door of our hearts (our consciousness perhaps?) to him. But instead, we dither about thinking through everything and finally when we excitedly make it to the door to open to his knocking, he’s gone! We run after him out into the streets bearing the ridicule, being mercilessly persecuted yet he’s run away and hidden himself from us, desperate as we are. But He understands the human creation He has made in His image:) Thank God at some point there’s a tale of strong towers, gazelles, raisin cakes and spices! But let’s not get too into the Master of our senses in a KZhead channel commentary section, ha. One last thought I will share, though not in plain speak, there’s a world of difference in setting a fire in a fireplace with carefully hewn logs and a finite span of fuel, and setting the same fire in a forest of trees. Please think carefully about this. Thanks for this amazing conversation. I have Tor's book though it's intimidating - I'm pretty sure I don't have the education level to fully understand it~
Woman seem to hold onto trauma in their childhood like its a super hero trait that they focus on there lover to penalize him for what they couldnt say to their abuser. Period. Done. Forgive. Only way out.
Why are you not at 40m subs?
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"Become the change you want to see in the world" goes for any relationship I suppose.
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My middle aged friend seems to be so depressed and hopeless he talked about why so many men who feel left behind by society and they responded by suicide. He said he is not suicidal but I can tell he's down that path. Anyone have a good video or similar from Jordan or others that can at least push some optimism into him? I tried to get him to go to church but he's not there yet. He needs an intellectual person who can steer his thoughts elsewhere.
Search. There are plenty of Jordan videos... Be closer to your friend. I lost one this way. Then, after all our grief, we know that he has forgiven us (and also, I'm glad he had found God before that, although there is a small possibility that it was an accident with our friend). Show your love to your friend, save him...
Also, tell him that there are not only men "left behind by society" who did that, but we know doctors, etc., who did that out of loneliness. As I said, show him you care and try to think of ways that he can be happier, and ways he can solve some of his problems.
There was one guy who actally survived the jump from the bridge. He said the second i did that,i regret it. So i would jump whit parashute and pretend that im doing suicide just to face my negative thoughts. But anyway its just stupid comment dont do that
Your guests Mic quality here isnt rly good
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When something calls itself “truth” all warning bells should go off.
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So basically Whitney Houston figured it out first - I'm every woman!😉
Your comment cracks me up, I was thinking the same! Lol
Great therapists should teach there patient enough where they don't need the therapist. Not being done. Sad. They rely too much on money and not enough on answers.
The only thing that i got from my therapist and changed my life was exposure therapy. I had my problems but i wanted to first test it. That time i was livining in a vilage and somehowe from childhood i was afraid of the dark,becouse i watched Dracula as a kid and i had the whole week PTSD. So i went to the dark until i found it scary and i just wait there for 5 min and go back. Next day i went to the same position and i procede further maybe 10m if i didnt felt my heart beating so much. So the story ends walking all by myself in deep woods souranded by wild animals and whithout torch becouse it was fun. It works
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And he said... "Oh, I never knew! ...THAT YOU LIKE PINA COLAAADAAAAS"
I don't understand or even imagine how anyone in a relationship, yet, can still fantasize or think about another person. It's even worse when the relationship is marriage. How is it easy for anyone to do that without feeling any guilt or conscious pains. It's horrifying to think that those people actually do exist. I can't listen more to this interview, it disturbed me.
Tor Nørretrander audio is brutal. not a bad discussion but jfc clean up the audio - airpods suck
This is true, but there are differences, and thus denying that is delusional. If a large muscular man wants his wife to physically dominate him but she’s a wee thing, she can’t just be a larger woman with more strength.
I wish I see the woman to spend the rest of my life with
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How did I figure it out through Jesus Christ, he is the word. Being nice without love is an insult. Ask your inner most being. It is simple but men made it complicated with his own evil desires.
See what it means undefiled bed. Hebrews 13 Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled, for the sexually immoral and adulterers God will judge. 5 Make sure that your way of life is free from the love of money, being content with what you have; for He Himself has said, “I will never desert you, nor will I ever forsake you,” Including Mathew 5: 28 28 But I say unto you, that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
“Variability is one of the virtues of a woman. It avoids the crude requirement of polygamy. So long as you have one good wife you are sure to have a spiritual harem". -G.K. Chesterton
Spirit of the law is a women.
Surely you want relationship advice from relationship experts not people who know why science is a nasty con..... Don't be a slave, relationships are easy if they're right. If they're not then it's an attempt to make you a submitting subject. People who shout at you or say 'if you love me you'll do it' 😂 are not your friend. Real eyes the truth 😉👍
Expert of what ? 🤨 What is conscience ? Where is the conscience ? What is conscience made of ? Is conscience physical or metaphysical ? What is the genealogy of conscience ? ✌🏾
Am I the only one that finds it a bit humorous and a bit discrediting that a Norwegian is giving “expert advice” on relationships?
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