I Was Sexually Assaulted By Over 70 Men | Minutes With |
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This week we sat down with Kate Elysia, who told us how she was groomed by a gang in Telford at 18, and the events that followed. She shared how she managed to find strength to break away from it all and bring her abusers to justice.
Kate's story has really moved us all, and we wish her all the very best in the future.
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Kate is now free from abuse and happy with her life. You can follow her here: facebook.com/KateElysiaNWO/ twitter.com/KateElysiaTruth
LOL
@@SMFD23 What's funny?
@@SMFD23 ye, what's funny.
I want to tell my story of being an abused military spouse who was fucked by the system. I lost everything. I have transcripts, pics, screenshots, etc.
@@SMFD23 seriously why the lol? Quite out of context & very inappropriate to laugh. Are you lonely? Seeking attention? Do you enjoy seeing that a woman that was SAssaulted? I’m not understanding you at all. I’m asking gently with sincerity. I myself was raped & molested. I dislike your choice to laugh. Sure we all have freedom of speech. However, it’s expected that people not abuse that freedom. It’s disgraceful to see LOL in the comments. I hope this satisfies your longing for attention.
Why the fuck would a police officer tell someone to say sex was consensual when they came there to report a rape. Those people should be fired.
Had the same experience. I went to report my childhood rape to police, after continued bullying & harassment after speaking about it to extended family many years ago. The police officer (lady) mocked me saying "yeah, yeah, why didnt you say anything earlier" she wasn't very interested.
@@msp5298 This kind of reaction by people that are supposed to help, is exactly why victims so often suffer in silence. There really Is a God, and He is real. God knows, and none can escape divine justice. That is an absolute fact. 💯% Victimizers will get what they deserve, no less. Victims will get justice and God does truly understand. Pray always, God is truly listening. He answers prayers too. 🙏🙏🙏
Covert narcissists often become police officers.
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Some coppers are rapists and murderers too don't forget!
This was honestly the hardest hitting episode I've ever seen. I am a male, but I was raped many times in my neighborhood where I grew up by this man and his nephew for years. When his wife caught him in the act, they turned me into the one who asked for it and my piece of shit dad forced me to write an apology letter to the family. Edit: I typed this crying in the middle of the video, this woman is so unbelievably strong. I'm so proud of her. This shit home for me more than anything has in a very long time. You can see the light at the end of the tunnel, you can reach it too. What she said about choosing good and positive activities means so much to me. It rings so true. God I love this channel.
I’m so sorry for what happened to you. I can’t think of any other words to say that don’t sound hollow. But just know your words touched a fellow stranger on the internet. ❤️
@@lizziepols4057 same
Thats absolutely horrible. Wishing you all the best 💪🏻
My God I am so sorry 😔
I hope you are ❤️🩹 , you are also strong 🙏🏽
The fact that everyone at that party knew what had happened and no one did anything is disgusting. I'm so sorry.
Which is super believable.
It is disgusting. I don’t get why so many people do this to people or don’t care about it happening.
Middle eastern subhuman savages.
@@ardenalexa94 Because many people are pure evil. And the sooner one realizes that, the better. Also, I guess this comment of mine will be deleted for not being political correct, but I am not surprised at all that muslim names are involved here. Muslims don't really consider women as human beings, but as livestock rather and they think they are allowed to do to women anything they want. That's how they are being taught. I'm sure cases like this are many and many. It happens all over Europe whatever this is UK or France or Sweden or Belguim... That is not just a personal case. That is a social issue.
Ella 98: why would they do anything? it wasn't a cheese & wine party, it was a "sex party" that was the reason that they were there.
Gosh, I watched this through tears. I am totally shattered. I felt like I just wanted to give her a hug. Every rapist should be castrated.
Death penalty!
Amen!
Of course you want to hug her. But that is rape. So you want to rape her too? Nice.
Comment number 20000 saying this
Exactly
I hate that she's still doubting herself about who's fault it was. This is terrible. She's so brave to tell her story
I knoooowww. There's no doubt it was the fault of Tony Blair for letting in foreigners
Self-guilt is an ungodly strong thing and I believe is often used to control people or as propaganda. Living with it, even when you know that its irrational or not true, is ummmmm, not fun. I've no idea how it compares to PTSD but it is definitely a hidden "disease"(for lack of a better descriptor that escapes my brain at the moment). Kate did a very good job of conveying what she lives with, or at least what I can relate to since I didn't even know of her before this. Thank you for sharing, Kate!!
She's seriously such a sweetheart.
The doubt probably comes from how she replays things and how she could have done something differently. If a young lady/ woman doesn't consent, it's rape
I honestly still do everyday.
Its NOT consenting if you're scared......its survival mode. I really hope she reads these comments and sees the support she has. She’s really really brave coming out and talking about it. Much respect
yeah but 70 men? thats a bit odd.
@@TheConspiredOne did you listen to her? Did you watch this video? Seguro sos un abusador también.
Yes I hope so too, she deserves all the help our societies can give as she is a victim of horrible crimes against her. What happened to her was not her fault and even from strangers like ourselves this must be expressed. The anti humans that did this to her deserve to be castrated and locked up for the rest of their lives. Having that said, I do believe there is an element of guilt in her behaviour. Not reporting the rape the way it should have been (the police involved need to be held accountable too and massively!! both for the continued damage to her and possible victims after her), not reporting all the other assaults.. no doubt have caused the same or similar experiences for other women in the period after. Yes we can all become victim, yes we can all make mistakes and wrong decisions, but this doesnt clear us from our responsibilities and the result of those.
“The Prophet [ﷺ] married Aisha when she was six years old and he consummated his marriage when she was nine years old.” - The revered Sahih al-Bukhari, 5134; Book 67, Hadith 70. Narrated 'Urwa: The Prophet (ﷺ) asked Abu Bakr for `Aisha's hand in marriage. Abu Bakr said "But I am your brother." The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "You are my brother in Allah's religion and His Book, but she (Aisha) is lawful for me to marry." حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ يُوسُفَ، حَدَّثَنَا اللَّيْثُ، عَنْ يَزِيدَ، عَنْ عِرَاكٍ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ، أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم خَطَبَ عَائِشَةَ إِلَى أَبِي بَكْرٍ فَقَالَ لَهُ أَبُو بَكْرٍ إِنَّمَا أَنَا أَخُوكَ، فَقَالَ " أَنْتَ أَخِي فِي دِينِ اللَّهِ وَكِتَابِهِ وَهْىَ لِي حَلاَلٌ ". Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 5081In-book reference : Book 67, Hadith 19. Sunan Abi Dawud 2147 Narrated Umar ibn al-Khattab: The Prophet (ﷺ) said: A man will not be asked as to why he beat his wife. حَدَّثَنَا زُهَيْرُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ مَهْدِيٍّ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو عَوَانَةَ، عَنْ دَاوُدَ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ الأَوْدِيِّ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ الْمُسْلِيِّ، عَنِ الأَشْعَثِ بْنِ قَيْسٍ، عَنْ عُمَرَ بْنِ الْخَطَّابِ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ " لاَ يُسْأَلُ الرَّجُلُ فِيمَا ضَرَبَ امْرَأَتَهُ " . Grade: Da'if (Al-Albani) ضعيف (الألباني)حكم : Reference : Sunan Abi Dawud 2147In-book reference : Book 12, Hadith 102English translation : Book 11, Hadith 2142 Sahih al-Bukhari 304 Narrated Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri: Once Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) went out to the Musalla (to offer the prayer) of `Id-al-Adha or Al-Fitr prayer. Then he passed by the women and said, "O women! Give alms, as I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-fire were you (women)." They asked, "Why is it so, O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) ?" He replied, "You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. A cautious sensible man could be led astray by some of you." The women asked, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! What is deficient in our intelligence and religion?" He said, "Is not the evidence of two women equal to the witness of one man?" They replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her intelligence. Isn't it true that a woman can neither pray nor fast during her menses?" The women replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her religion." حَدَّثَنَا سَعِيدُ بْنُ أَبِي مَرْيَمَ، قَالَ أَخْبَرَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ جَعْفَرٍ، قَالَ أَخْبَرَنِي زَيْدٌ ـ هُوَ ابْنُ أَسْلَمَ ـ عَنْ عِيَاضِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ الْخُدْرِيِّ، قَالَ خَرَجَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فِي أَضْحًى ـ أَوْ فِطْرٍ ـ إِلَى الْمُصَلَّى، فَمَرَّ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ فَقَالَ " يَا مَعْشَرَ النِّسَاءِ تَصَدَّقْنَ، فَإِنِّي أُرِيتُكُنَّ أَكْثَرَ أَهْلِ النَّارِ ". فَقُلْنَ وَبِمَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَالَ " تُكْثِرْنَ اللَّعْنَ، وَتَكْفُرْنَ الْعَشِيرَ، مَا رَأَيْتُ مِنْ نَاقِصَاتِ عَقْلٍ وَدِينٍ أَذْهَبَ لِلُبِّ الرَّجُلِ الْحَازِمِ مِنْ إِحْدَاكُنَّ ". قُلْنَ وَمَا نُقْصَانُ دِينِنَا وَعَقْلِنَا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَالَ " أَلَيْسَ شَهَادَةُ الْمَرْأَةِ مِثْلَ نِصْفِ شَهَادَةِ الرَّجُلِ ". قُلْنَ بَلَى. قَالَ " فَذَلِكَ مِنْ نُقْصَانِ عَقْلِهَا، أَلَيْسَ إِذَا حَاضَتْ لَمْ تُصَلِّ وَلَمْ تَصُمْ ". قُلْنَ بَلَى. قَالَ " فَذَلِكَ مِنْ نُقْصَانِ دِينِهَا ". Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 304In-book reference : Book 6, Hadith 9USC-MSA web (English) reference : Vol. 1, Book 6, Hadith 301 (deprecated numbering scheme) Sahih al-Bukhari 392 Narrated Anas bin Malik: Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "I have been ordered to fight the people till they say: 'None has the right to be worshipped but Allah.' And if they say so, pray like our prayers, face our Qibla and slaughter as we slaughter, then their blood and property will be sacred to us and we will not interfere with them except legally and their reckoning will be with Allah." Surah 3:151: "We shall cast terror into the hearts of those who disbelieve (all non-Muslims) …" Surah 2:191: "And kill them (non-Muslims) wherever you find them … kill them. Such is the recompense of the disbelievers (non-Muslims)." Surah 9:5: "Then kill the disbelievers (non-Muslims) wherever you find them, capture them and besiege them, and lie in wait for them in each and every ambush …" Apostasy is considered punishable by death in Islam. The proof of this are the following Hadith: The Prophet (peace be upon him) said “Whoever changes his religion, execute him.” (Bukhari, 2794). What is meant by religion here is Islam (i.e., whoever changes from Islam to another religion). The Prophet (peace be upon him) said “It is not permissible to shed the blood of a Muslim who bears witness that there is no god except Allah.
@@truman5838 pedophila
I’m so sorry this happened to you. Those people are monsters. And the police officers who blamed you should’ve been fired.
Whatever
Chances are the police officers had good reason to dismiss her xD yet another indication that this is all bs. Whether anything actually happened or not police and judges tend to assume the woman is telling the truth. Even with zero evidence women can make claims and get a conviction on basically nothing. On the flip side it takes a LOT of evidence and an act of God to clear an innocent man's name xD When the police don't pursue an arrest it almost always means it's plain as day that nothing actually happened
@@antonioyeats2149 just because police dismiss someone doesn’t mean there isn’t any evidence. Some cops just shouldn’t be cops because they’d rather victim blame than do their job. Many victims have that experience. Not all cops are bad, but the ones that are do a lot of damage mentally to the victims. You can tell by the way she acts she’s telling the truth.
@@ardenalexa94 it's a very good indicator. Like I said most of the time an arrest is made with zero evidence. The fact they didn't probably does indicate there was a ton of evidence to the contrary.
@@ardenalexa94 and just because she whipped up some tears doesn't mean she's honest but that's a prime example of how it takes zero evidence to assume guilt xD
This is one of the crimes that require death penalty.
Wholeheartedly agree with you
That is far to merciful
Exactly!
No one should "play" God and murder people
Absolutely.
the fact she went to the police a second time and got these scummy people jailed is awesome - she didnt give in and that takes an amazing backbone
The simple fact she HAD to go a second time is deplorable.
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@@jupiterjunk i did hear womens orgasm from rape , so she kept justifying it.
Honestly surprised they charged them. Borderline racist really...
@@jupiterjunk absolutely
Rape is not an act of sex It’s an act of violence
It's act of both. Which is why it's called sexual violence...your feelings don't change facts.
@@SAINTxSZN it’s sex yes but its forced. It’s usually meant to dehumanize the person. It’s usually about power and control. Or the rapist just wants sex and doesn’t care if the victim doesn’t want it. It’s disgusting.
@@SAINTxSZN Its definitely more about control rather than sex itself. This is why in a lot of genocide and ethnic cleansing incidents the perpetrators regularly rape members of the targetted group despite thinking of them as disgusting or subhuman, because they want to control and humiliate
It's both. There are many ways to be violent but they choose sex because it's violence that brings carnal pleasure.
Ok and?
The boyfriend with the unsavoury friends. The little boy at the door, so she'd open it, with the adult male hiding out of view. The foot in the door so she couldn't close it. The boyfriend telling her to let him in. And then he goes out, and deliberately leaves her alone with this man? That all sounds like a plan. And she was targeted for this, some time before the first rape occurred ☹️
Yup. Definitely an organised rape gang! ☹️
Exactly, we should see a picture of William
Yes, she was targeted. Look at her beautiful red curly hair; a lingering characteristic of Neanderthals. People are still the same monsters as their ancestors. You have to fight that part of you. They hurt her because she is fair. The sadistic parts of themselves took over.
@@Starloony She says Shameel was the catalyst when mr. William seemed too close with these Guys too. Seems a bit off to me
@@subramanyabhat446 Yes, or was William just weak with past trauma too and inexperienced, gullible, easily led? Low in the hierarchy? Her tale gives no hint of that, maybe no- one asked her about it to help her examine it..
Its disgusting that the police didn't help her the first time she went to them.
They were scared of bekng labled racist
@@user-ub5qp8sq1w That's 100% bullshit. They weren't even remotely 'scared of being called racist'. What delusional naive clueless planet to you live on? Stop being in denial about the fact you are hated. The police didn't do anything because they are anti-white
I’m sure some of them in the police are involved in stuff they’re not supposed to be involved in. Very common.
Had she pressed charges agains the rapist they would have done their duty but she didn't. It's really sad, but the woman has a serious mental/sexual personality disorder. I gathered from what she said that she had had a lot of consensual sex with multiple people before the "rapes" began. The word gets around.
They never help women.
Hearing her story just highlights why so many women don’t report these things. What a disgusting experience she had with the police!
Sadly its not uncommon, i had a very similar experience and know a few people that had the same aswell, they are very good at making you feel at fault... Less paperwork for them i suppose 🤷♀️
@@nicolafernie1142 it breaks my heart to hear that. I do hope you found a way to cope through it all.
@@Sparkle132 it’s because when you actually go to the police station and get asked every little detail over and over again, a lot of cases just seem like someone is regretful that they has sex with someone else, these cases of rape are hard to prove when it’s all on paper
@@MClovinHD3D I understand that it’s a rough process and of course there are instances when people falsely accuse I just wonder if their approach is the problem.
that's one of the main reasons why so many of us women don't go to the police when we've been assaulted/raped.
So brave. She was let down by so many people, including the police. So much respect for her to survive and tell her story with such strength
She was a prozzie
AGAIN, THE POLICE LET US DOWN!!!!
This is STILL happening in Britain! The police woman who was one of the first whistleblowers runs support groups & insists that Grooming Gangs are STILL operating in MANY towns!!
Definitely let down by her hairdresser.. 😥
The police let everyone down ! Even themselves
This is why we need to castrate rapists and child molesters. What a brave woman you are to tell your story. I’m deeply sorry that you had to endure all of that. I wept with you watching this. I hope your life has nothing but love and happiness in it. You’ve suffered enough ❤
😊
They do in the middle east. Deport these assholes.
100% The threat and actualization of castration would help a fuck of a lot.
We should use them instead of animals for testing cosmetics ect.
Agreed 💯💯
This is so heavy to watch. I admire her strength to talk about this.
Didn't have enough strength to stop herself from getting raped 🤣
I wonder how much money she'd made off interviews like this
@@antonioyeats2149 wondering the same! Probably bought a nice house
@@antonioyeats2149 I wonder how sick you are.
@@lovelorn88nick Thats how you are......dont project your base nature onto others.
It is SO painful to hear this young woman still blaming herself some. NONE of this is her fault! I just want to protect her!
So do I. I feel like getting all of the guilt and odd feelings left inside of her, out of her, and make her believe she's worthy and lovable and it was really not her fault. These people are criminals and belong in jail. Point point point
It was actually her fault. Had she been a stronger and a smarter person then none of this would've happened.
@@asdfgh-uh6cy p off.... Always come across a fool
@@asdfgh-uh6cy wow,I hope none of your family members or friends go through this. You’re heartless
@@asdfgh-uh6cy you're ridiculous. The rapist is always the one in the wrong. What in the actual f is wrong with you?
When she says “maybe he had a disability etc.” is proof beyond measure of the truth…it’s a classic sign of a rape victim. They don’t want to believe it’s real, they don’t want believe there are monsters that big etc. People have no idea, NONE about how victims are so often victimized again and again in pursuit of justice. It’s so unexceptable. I love this woman for all she’s done to fight back.❤️❤️
Stockholme syndrome
Most people dont want to believe these attacks are racially motivated. Hatred of Western women and men.
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That is why people get PTSD it's because of malevolence and they don't want to accept it
"Unacceptable."
this is why it’s so dangerous to have the mindset that conversations about sex, boundaries, consent are inappropriate to have with girls/daughters. This poor women was being terrorized & raped by a group of men and couldn’t even recognize that she wasn’t giving consent. you can tell it’s taken some therapy for her to understand what was done to her. so sad my heart breaks for her.
Absolutely. I hope her family are ashamed of themselves. She's got a soul made of iron and such a strong will to make it through and find her way. Parents must prepare their kids for the real world and not be too embarrassed to speak truths - or this is the result.
She was a victim of the Pakistani gangs that exist in the UK. The real culprits of his ordeal are the British authorities who allowed the entry of immigrants from a culture that considers women as an object.
Hundreds of individuals allowed this to happen. Everyone at those 'parties' should hold themselves accountable. I wish great suffering upon her abusers. May their lives be short and filled with misery.
1000 fleas shall rain down upon their crotch and may their arms not be long enough to scratch it.
And may he be given the same "treatment" Ramsay Bolton so kindly gave Theon Greyjoy minus the treatment ever ending and minus the biological warfare Randay committed when he mailed Theons..... when he mailed them Theon. Instead put theirs in a soup pot, instead of a box, and after dinner let them know about their new status as a cannibal while setting down in front of them the video you brilliantly took of the sautéing of the pile of freshly minced manhood, the cooking, and all the way up to the point of them being served. Lastly, this is repeated for thentest of eternity and none of them are ever allowed to die. #atetheirrooster
It's not good for the spirit to wish suffering and ill health to others. Even one's enemies. Leave any punishment to the court and ultimately to God. I wish you stopped associating lots of alcohol and having sex as a good night out. It obviously doesn't work for you. Respectfully of course.
@@daviedood2503 Wow. That's what I call a punishment.
@@shakagod3779 Do you mind, mate? Take your sanctimony elsewhere. The number of utterly baseless assumptions in your idiotic comment are breathtaking. I see that you don't understand the use of single quotation marks in this context so I'll help you out: they're around the word 'parties' to indicate that I don't personally agree with the use of alcohol, ergo, I either don't drink or at all OR I don't endorse its widespread usage. Secondly, I'll be the one to judge whether or not rage and hatred are the appropriate responses towards this woman's abusers. Thirdly, an active, voluntary, consensual sex life - which this woman did NOT have - can be a perfectly healthy way of being in the world so shove that judgement where the sun don't shine. Fourth, you might consider not assuming things about others nor presume to be in a position to pass judgement on the condition of their souls. Have a care for your own. Unchecked egotism can be dangerous, and stupidity is unbecoming.
I’m a man. I think I am a very normal person, I can’t understand how someone may destroy somebody else’s life in this way. I have no words to describe the feeling Kate’s testimony has left on me. I have a girlfriend, sisters, mother, a niece, cousins, female friends I appreciate… and just to think that something like this has happened to a woman just like any of them is absolutely horrendous. I’m glad she’s ok now.
A mature man!!!
So glad to know there's safe and sane people like you. A true brother
Yes… unfortunately i think there are still a lot of men looking down on women despite the facts their mother took care of them or they have female friends:// All the girls/womenni know was abused by either their father/ex partners if not physically , verbally for sure. But unfortunately in many cases threats, beatings, rapes happen often too. And i live in a normal european country, these cases didnt happen among poor street environments but in “middle class normal” families. Its a shame still today women are at most risk in their own families, and that they also have to have worries walking in the street alone. Or if they go hiking, they are not worry about being attacked by wild animals but by wild men who might rape and attack them. This is humanity:( Also many women wants a man to be protected by other men.
It is their culture - they do not consider people from other cultures or religions as human.
@@mikek2951 Are you serious? How does just being in her own home qualify as being "stupid enough to get themselves into that situation?
The way she explains what she was going through mentally just makes it so easy to understand the progression. I am so sad for her, I can’t imagine the pain
Yeah. It's crazy how clearly she remembers everything exactly how it should line up to indicate she's actually a rape victim.
I was raped multiple times by my step-dad for years. I am not hiding this anymore, and neither should anyone who have been through the fire. God bless share your story and keep on healing
no more pain no more shame no more silent tears
I’m so sorry you had to experience that trauma….😪🌷🙏🏾
I dont understand this victim mentality. i've been raped too and feel nothing like a victim. . Its only a victim because society tells you to feel like a victim. What if its just like some one spit on other persons mouth without consent.? isnt that basically fluid exchange.? whats the difference? its kinda humiliating like getting slapped and you might feel like other person has power over you. i think these victimization and fears are reverberations of historical fears passed on from generation to generation because earlier they cant get abortion and life ruined. chastity was important. Try to see the moment when brain tries to feel like a victim intentionally because you were getting inputs from society and family and what they think. discard it. the pain/shame you feel is an illusion caused by unevolved society. 100 yrs ago most used to terminate their life after incident because the pressure and shame is high. we've come so far.. speaking out helps.
@@sweetmask2744 victim mentality bro i was seven years old, bro you got me lost if you don't understand just don't comment.
Sending healing x
Just checked out her book on Amazon and I’m absolutely fucking disgusted. Women have left comments blaming her for everything that happened to her. This is why victims don’t report shit. Every step of the way there’s both men AND women blaming the victim for the disgusting vile filth decisions of predatory shitbags. And all the negative reviews hid behind their love of god and Christianity. One review essentially blamed her because she was raped by Muslim men who read the Koran so the victim is at fault because she should know about Jesus and if she was a good person Jesus would have protected her. Like what the actual fuck. I’m livid.
Can you please tell me the name of her book?
@@abracadabra5636 it is called No Way Out. I started reading it ages ago but stopped as it was too upsetting.
I don't blame you for being livid Tielle. Years ago, I used to believe that the published numbers I was seeing for what percentage of women were being sexually abused couldn't be true. I thought the numbers could not be that high. But as an old man now, all I have to do is look back at different women I have known and what I was told by the women themselves and when I see cases like this one, I know this is another life ruined. Very doubtful in my mind that she will ever be able to bond with a man. She's been messed up and the sentences given were not long enough.
So sad.
@@kara0kech1ck Thank you.
It wasn't as much that she was groomed into this, more like her being terrorised into it..I'm glad she's getting support, she's very brave!
What’s the difference
@@saythankyou111 are you kidding, think about it
@@saythankyou111 grooming is grooming. Terrorising is terrorising. Both wrong but both VERY different from each other.
And the police and council helped cover it up The people in the know in authorities should be standing trial for assisting a peado ring.so sad to think this lady is one of THOUSANDS!
Coercion, harassment, terrorism, grooming. Very vile disgusting things done by very vile people. These people are low level bottom feeders who can't get anything on their own so they have to steal/take it.
This is beyond sad , Thank God she didn’t get pregnant,I mean 70 men ,That’s brutally heinous,Wat a strong woman,
I feel so bad for this woman and what she went through. As a Sikh girl myself, I was also groomed by a Pakistani man. But I live in Canada and not the UK so it was terrifying to know that such a thing would happen to me. But even when I was in the UK a bunch of these men were just targeting me because of my race and vulnerability. I heard many things about this and how these men were also targeting Sikh girls and it was honestly disgusting to hear. These men just see non -Muslim girls as nothing but sexual objects. This is something they need to address as a community and do something about. How can the government just let these low lives get away with doing this so for many years without taking any action?! Their community just doesn't want to accept the issue they keep thinking it's racism n shit lmao. How is it racism when it's clearly predominately Pakistani men doing this horrific stuff?! I wish the police would have done something to help this girl earlier so she wouldn't have had to suffer so much. I'm amazed by how brave she is to tell her story because it takes a bunch of courage when you been thru so much shit.
Seems like a similar problem with this lady, the gange leader was Ali...... Are they taught by they committee to do so?
@@renukashinde2701 Don't u know?? I mean you're an Indian. You never heard of it?? Love G Had.
Please write this to all the stupid bollywood gangs who gmalorise Muslim men grooming non Muslim women or lave jihad as propaganda...the film kerala story shows exactly the words that you havewritten, how they target unsuspecting girls form other religions and force them into prostitution...
I honestly do not think they can compare to homosexual child molesting white Catholic men who were suppose to be priest
I heard UK police don’t acknowledge culture. There’s another video of a woman whose family attempted to honor kill her and the UK police wouldn’t say it was honor killing
Honest to god, I’m surprised that she’s alive let alone living as a nurse and advocate helping others. I know it doesn’t mean much, but survivors like her and others are amazingly strong, courageous, and hard headed to be able to come out of that.
It takes so much strength. Three doctors have told me they can't believe I am alive and not locked up for one reason or another
Why doesn’t it “mean much”?
@@lg5221 ?? XD what??
@@JTD472 because it's a fabrication;)
Surprised no one has mentioned how William was NOT her friend and never was. I believe he was involved by befriending young girls for the gang. When he said let Shameel in knowing his intent, it was clear that he was used to it happening. I didn't understand how she ended up hanging out with them again when she had escaped to Essex, but glad she got help and has a successful career.
Agree wholeheartedly.....should never have been allowed to stay at the YMCA!!!! Everybody reacts differently to trauma....sounds like she had the Fawn reaction. If that is not our preferred reaction to trauma, we may not be able to relate to that....
Throughout her statement, William disappears ... He didn't know? He didn't want to know? Being a close friend he didn't realize she was young, kind of inocent, uninformed and thus very vulnerable?? What a pity she accepted his friendship, I believe too she was a target for these people and William was the tool to achieve such targets. Unfortunately, I don´t believe it was the first time for these animals, they were just used to it.
@@norxgirl1 from experience it feels like one of the worst reactions bc you feel that everything that happens is your own fault.
She didn’t end up hanging out with them when she moved and went to Uni. It was a different grooming gang that found her. The first was 13 rapists, second area it went up to 70.
This is not the first time I come across white teenagers being raped multiple times and not reported. These monsters work in big gangs and handsome boys are used as baits to lure girls to parties where they are drugged and gang raped. Photos and harm to family members are used as threats for subsequent rape, and victims literally become sex slaves. Teachers' families would be threatened if the teachers raise an alarm. Everyone is not brave enough because each gang can be very big and spread across generations from teenagers to their own grandfathers and extended extended extended families. They are capable of stalking family members and causing "accidents". Truly very scary, better stay away from them. They pray 5 times a day and then rape women of other races. I don't know what do they say in their prayers, maybe they pray to land another victim asap.
There's something seriously wrong with males in our society. Their obsession with sex and violence is mind boggling. My husband and I are doing our best to raise our sons to be respectful of everyone, especially women. It's important for kids to have a healthy understanding of sex.
YES - happy to see this from a burgeoning parent 👏👏👏👏
Rape is not about sex and violence. Rape is all about power and control. It took me many years of therapy after being raped to believe this. Thank you for taking the extra time to raise mindful young men.
The fact you label all males is wrong, normal men despise these scumbag assholes. Not all men are rapist
It’s been this way since the history of forever. Unfortunately men have spent millennia raping and pillaging the world. The male species is the worst species evolution ever created.
@@watcher685These Muslim grooming gangs go after white women because they think they're "easy meat." It's absolutely about sexual domination.
I highly recommend to all of you the movie created by BBC few years ago, called Three Girls. It tells a story about one of the grooming gangs in UK and it left me devastated on how the system failed to help the victims 💔
The system is usually involved in some way somewhere, there’s always a person(s) high up that’s involved in sick $hit.
Didn’t report my ex of 5 years, who raped me, filmed it, chocked me out and hit me so many times in the stomach. I wondered if that’s why I can’t get pregnant at 37 now. 14 years later I still have flackbacks and issues in my marriage. When people ask me still, why I didn’t leave earlier or reported him, I tell them the story of my friend, who got murdered 2 years ago by her ex. They just don’t understand.
I'm so sorry for what happened to you. check out Ray peat fertility book and also inositol supplement. and also search about applying cheese rennet from a baby rabbit. These are what have solved so many women's fertility issues caused by all sorts of misfortune.
I am sorry women can be s scarred and feel shamed, then some men blackmail you.
Ps go to the Fertility clinic if you really want to try see what is going on. Could also be an emotional block too, but they can flush your tubes at lease.
@@cvzdez Thank you!
this is horrific I’m so sorry :(
How the police had her sign a “it was consensual” statement is devastating.
Shame on the police. So uncaring and unwilling to help her…
Exactly. How in the world that they could be so ignorant of the situation. They are meant to be trained and skilled in these kinds of crime. It's an absolute disgrace and they should be brought to account for their lazy attitude towards this poor traumatised young woman.
Yup. That's so gross.
Very true
Yes, but if you make an edgy meme those same police will kick your front door through. What a country we live in...😑
Her stuttering “and, um” over and over breaks my heart. The way she’s repeating it and reliving the traumatic experience over and over. She keeps closing her eyes a lot and I just want to hug her so hard. 😭
Incidentally those are verbal markers of someone whos inventing events as they go. 😂
As retired Corrections Officer I was horrified by Kates story of abuse. Go foreward now Kate and live the life you deserve. Any sexual predator should be put down.
When she said maybe he had learning disabilities or maybe he hadn't heard her say no or perhaps she didn't make it obvious that she wasn't interested... this is what all women experience where we question and try and find a way of it not being their fault because we are often made to feel like it's our fault or we did something to cause that. Makes me feel so sad. Bless you Kate ❤❤
Thanks for this video and thanks for your post. It's always nice to know you're thought process is normal during the Rollercoaster of aftermath
Not all women!
Bang on. Exploiting how women have been socialised to take the blame for abdominal male behaviour.
When she said that she felt like she had to come up with another reason of why she couldn't kiss or have sex with that first POS, that just her not wanting it "wasn't a good enough reason"... Ugh. My heart broke. I know that feeling too well and I haven't really considered that till now..
@@annebracher1843 abdominal?
As a man, I'm getting heart palpitations from hearing about what she went through. I can't imagine the devastation these traumas leave in her mind. Our society is sick.
And?
Imri Talgam you had a stiffy didn't you
It wasnt sikhs, buddhists, taoists, christians or Jews partaking in this criminal behaviour.
@@Michael-lg4wz thank you Michael. But let me tell you as woman that Johns Josephs and Arthur’s all rape women too, rich or poor, well viewed in society or not. This is an issue that women have been dealing with for decades if not centuries. This is a societal problem to do with men, not their religion. If you really care about women and their experiences, please refrain from talking shit like this as it can be really triggering for those victims of Thomas, Ben and James. Sincerely
@@vntic7958 Every race on the planet has it's wronguns and scumbags but the governments own statistics show that over 90% grooming gangs in the UK are from one religion. As an aside, that word 'grooming' is an abhorrent euphemism. Sickening that the rape and torture of young girls is 'watered down' with this word play.
Kate, I can UNEQUIVOCALLY 1000% let you know that NONE of this is your fault, NOT ONE SECOND of this was your fault, absolutely NOT your fault. Such bravery, courage, strength you possess Kate is admirable and I feel such pride listening to you only 9 minutes into your horror story so far. {I apologize now for I will most likely keep adding to my comment to you Kate}!
I’m so sorry to all of you who’s been abused . You didn’t deserve it at all 😢
It's unbelievable that people can be so cruel and vile. Massive respect for her coming forward to share her story!
Yes my United Kingdom of Islamistan must abide by Islamic sharia laws crime rate will decrease☪️☝️
@@Umar23Malik I knew there'd be at least one of your sort lurking in the replies
@@daughterofenoch677 United Kingdom of Islamistan was made by Allah SWT on a dua by Prophet Muhammad SAW. Islam will rise again from Caliphat to the whole world and it will be lead by Imam Al-Mahdi. Muhammad Qasim's divine dreams☪️☝️
Good luck with that
Animals they are animals. The have NO humanity.
As a woman, this is one of the hardest stories I've ever had to listen to. And ive listened to a LOT of horrible stories.
It's hard to listen to regardless of your gender. I'm a man and got upset several times listening to this
@@MyNameIsMissMe what about it her story makes you think that? Sincerely curious
@@MyNameIsMissMe for what it’s worth as a woman I can agree that regrets of that nature sure can happen. But that’s for individual circumstances when there’s elements of he said she said. You don’t just regret sleeping with 70 men
@@MyNameIsMissMe Nope. You have no clue about trauma bonding and sex trafficking
I'm helping a girl right now and her situation is a lot worse than this.
She is so brave. Thank you for sharing your story.
It’s so sad that you can still see the pure terror on her face as she’s telling the story and you can even feel that vibe 💔
Lol you know she's a prostitute right? XD or was anyway. She got paid several thousand dollars to do a blowbang and just regretted it later. She's full of bull lol
I was gang raped at 14 and end up pregnant as a result and the victim blaming she spoke of is just how I felt!
Sending love and strength❤️
did you report it?
I'm sorry for your pain for I relate as I was impregnated with twins after my rape
@@elsolo00 no, I lived in an army town and was soldiers which makes it a lot harder as there was a lot of corruption with the army barracks back then.
@@tinymorris8173 awww thinking of u and sending u lots of hugs xx
The fact we didnt just every single ones of those men is a failure of society. We protect monsters and fail victims.
We don't protect anything, blame the higher ups in the justice system
English please
I doubt she reported the assault herself. I think a well wishing friend did
Didn’t just what every single time?
She was a prozzie
I don't think I will ever get past "not wanting to ruin it" for the guy during sex. I am with a loving and understanding partner who is very careful with me and let's me be open. But I think I just have so much trouble with consent now, I have so much trouble with sexual boundaries because the first thing I ever knew of sex was violence. I'm so sorry for what you went through.
i have had a similar experience in the past with similar thoughts. the thing that helped me the most was actually getting into domming/topping. it enabled me have the shift in mindset to "the point is for them to please me" and although it was so alien and i had no idea how to do it at first, I eventually managed it and it changed my approach to sex overall, i had never experienced that before.
You can just see she's trying to just breathe and survive..... my heart broke instantly.. please Lord give her peace 💔
My wife experienced extended physical and mental abuse in her first marriage. Hearing this and knowing she was mentally broken down and physically abused in even a remotely similar way (maybe worse) fills me with wrath for men like these. How anybody could do such a thing to anybody is beyond me, and for that I am glad. She never told anyone, save for me, and she will never be able to have her absolution for what was done to her- the monster still walks free today. My heart bleeds for this women, and every other women and person treated like this. She is so brave for being able to talk about it. So brave.
I'm so sorry for your wife, I hope she is better now and having a happy life by your side. If someday she is able to speak about it, it would good if it was in a court, to send that scumbag to jail and prevent that it still hurt others. Send you hugs and only the best for you and your wife, she is so strong.
I am glad you are there to support her.
Honey , you have a 65 year old woman who loves you though we'll never meet. I don't know how this channel came up but I must say I am not shocked at this horrendous cruelty. You are beautiful. You are courageous and you are a inspiration to me ❤️
I remember the Telford grooming story. What a strong educated woman. So glad your in a better place now.. 💕
I’m so sorry. You are a strong survivor and brave. I see nothing but a warrior in you and that is admirable.
I'm a rape survivor myself but my god, this poor woman! May you find all the peace and happiness you deserve Kate. Thank you for being so brave and speaking up for victims.
As a woman, it is truly terrifying to think that a woman can be violently raped and upwards of a dozen guys just don't see a problem with it and laugh about it happening to other women in the past. Truly stomach turning. This woman is incredibly strong to both survive and share her story.
It's a Muslim thing. Why don't any of you admit this? They feel women are just receptacles especially Western/White ones.
Most men are cowards
As a man, it beggers belief how truly fucked in the head some people are.....I dont think any sane person can imagine that situation ever occuring...the finding of amusement in her suffering has really sent my mind reeling...I can see how one could get used to violence and killing from war or growing up in very crime-heavy areas, I can see how violence, even killing, could become normal eventually. But what the fuck would make someone be able to watch a woman be violently raped right in front of them? and what would make them find her suffering and fear funny??
@@immasurvivor like you said, if violence and killing can become normalised to people, why wouldnt rape? Theyre all morally abhorrent. Yet there will always be groups of people in society that have no issue with any of those. Its the same kind of issue, and you drawing an arbitrary line at rape really doesnt make much sense I would bet a lot of those young men had a lot of violence, poverty, trauma, and bad role models in their own lives to make rape just as normal as anything else.
@@immasurvivorporn, porn does that repeatedly.
I swear I am so scared of men...the most horrible thing is that she blamed herself the whole time instead of those monsters...what a strong woman to survive all this
@@tinkletink1403 well it does happen and also very frequently in less wealthy places, I was sexually assaulted myself. don't ever joke about it. it leaves unbereable trauma
You don’t have to be afraid. There is good men out there. Just be aware of what could happen. Look out for signs. If you don’t see any and you are prepared then there’s no reason to be scared.
Scared of “men”
Don't be scared of men, they are wonderful.That is ridiculous. Both genders can be sc*m.
PAKISTANI MEN GROOMED AND HORRIBLY ABUSED HER. It happens at such an alarming rate, I can not believe they did not include this in the headline. If more Pakistani men in the UK commit crimes like this, then THAT needs to be called out, addressed, and corrected.
Beware of Muslims. Specially from Pakistan & Bangladesh. UK will slowly turn Islamic one day. The kind of radicalisation happening in UK. It’s dangerous. Save your country. Kick out Muslims.
This is done by Pakistani men systematically to convert girls..they get petro dollars from gulf....
They are willing to kill their daughters or sisters based on so called “honor killing” but they themselves do unthinkable disgusting crime to someone else daughters. Totally hypocrite people.
*MUSLIM* MEN DID THIS TO HER
@@timon3370this is such a sad statement. Enough trying to sabotage a beautiful religion. Give me one islamic teaching that says this is okay.
I did see a couple comments wondering why she didn’t fight back with all her strength, but you don’t know what it’s like to be assaulted until you are, everyone reacts to it differently and it’s very common to feel guilty about it and feel like you somehow caused the assault.
I could understand this but what I can’t understand is where her family and friends were at this point in her life. She only mentioned William who set her up and a student advisor who basically saved her life. No family to check in on her. No friends to confide in. No mother? It just comes off as they don’t exist. Trust me, a mother would have come to that place one time and the hairs on her back would have raised up just by intuition. Where were the family and friends and support system?
whew,,,,Why would they even ask something like that, a rapist will punch you, choke you out, before the r*pe actually occurs. And they can be strong af! Did they not watch the video?? So angering
you can just say men are stronger
@@f.b.lagent1113 I’m not saying she wouldn’t have been overpowered by the men even if she did fight back, I know that.
Agreed. Guilty, and disgusted mostly with yourself even though it isn't logical, and the feeling lingers. Speaking out also often has no impact. I've been groped and assaulted in crowded public areas, and even though every single time I said something to the sick bastard touching me or rubbing his junk on me, not a single person said a word to help any of those times. And it's not like you couldn't see an erection if you just looked, but they don't so much as glance in your direction. What is a person to do? You say your piece and you leave.
Kate's story is both shocking and heart breaking. Might sound strange but found her apologising for getting upset while describing parts almost the hardest, even said out loud "Don't you apologise". The people committing these crimes are simply beneath contempt and really hope the police improve the handling of situations like this.
I was doing the same thing. “Oh please Kate, please know you have NOTHING to apologize or be ashamed for” 💕 I’m sobbing as I type this
The police were afraid to be labelled racist.. This happened all over the Uk.. The Police were and are guilty!!
That’s why I’m so upset watching them let her wipe her nose with her arm.
@@ruthfuckingmartin Yeah people who interview these people need a level of training that is sadly lacking in most. Empathy, compassion and helping victims retain their dignity. Watch Soft White Underbelly for an example of a series where the interviewer has always had at least a box of tissues handy, and has a donation fund that goes to those he interviews. He's had a lot of people lie and rip him off but he still tries helping people in return for their story - IMHO the way these things should be.
My heart breaks a little bit every time she says "Sorry."
Poor woman. How can she live with that memory..What an achievement to have qualified as a nurse against all that. She is a brave woman.
What the actual F. I was close to this. 1 male co-workers started this trend of joking about me needing "BL** C**CK" and that I needed a "gang bang". Slowly but surely more male co-workers starting making this "joke" or joining the laughing. We went out for drinks one night and while drinking they started to joke again about this, just after a female co-worker left for home. I didn't feel safe, I actually got scared. The next day I confronted the male co-workers that joined later on, that I did not want them joking about that, that I didn't feel safe, that they were damaging my reputation and that I would not accept it anymore. Then I confronted the instigator, I told him I do NOT want anything from you or your friends, don't talk to me anymore, don't joke about me anymore, this is sexual harrasment, I do NOT feel safe around you, and I will NOT tolorate this anymore, the next time I will report you. He had the gall to feel attacked and offendend, told me I "wasn't his type". After I confronted all of these men they all STOPPED talking to me completely, it was like the only words they could utter was about sex. So because they couldn't talk about sex, there was nothing to talk about. After this I stayed MILES away from any and all co-workers, because not a SINGLE person told these people to stop the "joking", not one.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that vile situation. I'm so glad and proud you set boundaries and spoke up. Shame on anyone who didn't help you stop it.
To be fair, its not ur other coworkers responsibility to tell them to stop. Maybe ur manager, but not ur coworkers. Why didn't u just tell them to stop the first time they said it? Weird that u let it go on so long if it bothered u that much.
@@pocketlinttreasures33 are u one of those co-workers? Yikes
Good for you,you was smart,you put a stop to their fuckery they said it in joke but they were serious about their intent,like a kid they were grooming you first by laughing and joking with them.
@@pocketlinttreasures33 Bad way to phrase it but yes management is the usual port of call when you have a group of disgusting coworkers. You come across as defending the attackers which is intolerable. Please try and show a bit more compassion - as your name says - love will save you.
if/when you ever have to go to the police for help with an issue related to rape/sexual abuse, domestic violence, etc., PLEASE ask for a victim advocate first thing at the police station. I'd even call ahead via phone to ensure they HAVE a victim advocate (and that they are there and can see you) before setting foot in a police station. a victim advocate can help you navigate your way through the process of reporting the crime as well as what comes after that. they are very knowledgeable about how to minimize victim stress, especially when reporting the crime. they can help you file orders so you are properly legally protected, as well as prepare you for and assist you with testifying and healing. victim advocates have a LOT more training in these areas than the average Joe Police Officer.
Diane thank you for this information, i hope many many victims hear this, it's such GREAT ADVICE!
thank you. it really helped me years ago -- the victim advocate I was assigned enabled me see my situation for what it really was (I thought *I* was the main problem) and she also predicted every crappy thing my ex was going to do before he did it, because sadly, she knew abusers' patterns so well. she got me to take the necessary steps to protect myself before he continued lashing out.
Great advice. Hope your advice gets boosted.
Thank you
Boosting this comment because I didn't even know this was possible but it sounds so important
She is really brave and deserves all the support in the world, the world would be a better place if there was more brave people like you,
When she said she didn’t say yes or no, she just gave up…. That’s exactly how I felt and for the longest time I convinced myself that it was consensual because I didn’t fight. This episode hit me really hard. 😢
I suffered SA from age 9 and its destroyed me. I'm in awe of this woman , her bravery and empathy for others is so inspiring. The horror she was put through. The evil that's on this planet disgusts me
Im sorry you went through «it» too. I’m sure you are stronger than you believe, survivors always are ;) and I send a virtual big warm hug too you, if you’d accept it of course 😘🌈🍀 Sometimes, broken things become the most beautiful piece of art, with time and care. Just like kintsugi 🔥🥰
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@@MegaTrueTalk you can shove your bible
@@tyronsimpson2143 ???
@@tyronsimpson2143 classy🇺🇸
Hard to listen to this, really hard, as a man listening to this, thinking of the girls we would call sluts as a teenager, looking back to how we treated people, it's sickening to see how slippery the slope is and how we all fall into it, and even when we don't reach the bottom, we contribute. Wow.
It’s good to see you acknowledging this behavior makes participate in or witness and think nothing of it … or like the girls asked for it.
This is what life is about, GROWTH!!! 🙌🏽 It’s big to say that
Thank you for this. Most people don’t recognize complicity, but we all participate in customs that aren’t healthy, and acknowledging them helps us change and grow
This is why we have to teach young people about consent, and about exactly what constitutes rape including coercion. And teach them about healthy relationships, respect and boundaries. I remember being on the school bus as a teenager listening to another girl talk about being with a boy and how he continued to force her into sex even though she didn't want to do it. She didn't even realise that what had happened was rape!
Thank you for acknowledging rape culture and how even “small” actions and words contribute to it. There is a lot of change that needs to happen in the male community/culture.
I am a survivor of assault as a child and became a police officer. I’m now retired, but this makes me SO ANGRY That those officers made her say it was consensual when she was there to report the rape. I would like to be Face to Face with those Assholes who are a DISGRACE To The Badge and tell them just how big of a Piece of SHIT They are‼️ Unbelievable🤬 Bless You Sweet Kate❣️You’re Such A Beautiful Soul and Survivor❣️❣️
It makes me feel so hopeful that there are so many people speaking out about what they survived and how, but it’s also terrifying to see how often this happens…
When I was 19 I was anally raped by my that time boyfriend. It has been 12 years and I can still hear him laughing while doing it, me crying underneath him and him totally ignoring it. It took me years to acknowledge the pain and the scar it left and to even call it "a rape".... Strange looking back and realize that I hadn't even considered to go to police station and report it. I knew what he did was wrong but decided to dissociate from it completely..
I’m so sorry.
You can STILL report it. I’m so very sorry you suffered/ suffer from this. 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼
I'm sorry. It's devastating how rape ended up being a "stain" on the victim rather than on the perpetrator. How people are not calling what happened to them "rape" because it feels like they have more to lose than the one who actually did the illegal act.
I was raped like that by my husband. Guess what? No Police believed me obviously. I'm happily divorced. I'm just regreting for not divorcing him right after that. Waited instead bc thought I should forgive and just move on with life....and no... These kinda of abuse keep coming back always. There is no need to wait for more. Just leave the first minute you feel unsafe.
I’m so sorry for you, really, cause i’ve been through the exact SAME, I was 18 and it took me 2 yrs to stop making excuses for what my at the time ex-boyfriend did. He even hit me in the process and told me to shut up, i anally bled several times that week and was so hurt to my core… i was shattered and not once called it rape, never thought about police either, i just thought that i was mad at myself, confused, that maybe i didn’t fight enough. I’ve been like that for months until my parents decided to move me to another country - cause i was depressed they did not know why - where i spent 2 years before telling a friend what really happened and she told me that it was in fact rape and from that moment on I was shocked, cried a lot, and looked for therapy, which helped a lot, also now i have a boyfriend that treats me like a princess, who loves me and respects me and my traumas, he’s been so patient through every panic attack i had during sex in the beginning of our now 5yrs relationship. It saddened me a lot to read your comment cause i know that pain and i just want you to know that therapy and truly loving people that respect us can help the healing process, i hope you’re doing ok and know that you’re not alone. ❤️🥺
The people who were around her witnessing this happen and doing nothing are just as guilty in my book. Open your eyes people! If you see a girl that seems really drunk please make sure they get home safe. If you see someone stuck in a bad situation ask them if they need help discreetly. Forget about “no means no”, “yes means yes”, those are not enough, the only yes is an enthusiastic yes. When intimate with someone ask if they like what’s happening every few minutes, if you’re unsure just stop for a second and see if they initiate.
Preach
I get your point but a women is going to find that irritating pretty quickly if the man is constantly asking for enthusiastic validation, and will end up ‘ruining the moment’. We communicate predominantly with body language still as a species. You can read it in someone’s body language if their comfortable or not. It’s much more natural. If a man ignores that then they’re the sort of guy who wouldn’t take no for an answer anyway.
@@wr9209 I meant more in the sense of if you want to do something different while being intimate with someone ask them if they like it. It doesn’t have to be a long conversation every time, asking is that ok/ does that feel good does not ruin the mood in my opinion, and hearing the “yes” can be a huge turn on. Also, it’s not just men that should ask, both sides should always be making sure the other is comfortable regardless of gender
@@wr9209 also, body language varies from person to person, you could be wrong and hurt the other person. verbal consent is the only way to make sure and it needs to be normalized.
Rite? Like wtf. This shit is crazy
Thank you for being so brave to share your experience. Absolutely invaluable.
Thank you Kate and LADbible Tv for sharing her story. This is so profound.
I'm a 25 year old man, and as somebody who's experienced this on more than one occasion you are not to blame you are an incredibly brave and an inspiration, there are no words to describe them specimens apart from SCUM, I'm glad that you have qualified as a nurse and are getting on with your life your a amazing young woman
I'm so sorry you've been through that trauma. I hope you're safe and healing now.
I hope things are better for you now man. Stay strong.
Thanks guys
@AhoyItsMeDuckling Careful not to come off as racist. It's a certain demographic.
I met a young woman who was raped by a neighbor as a teenager over time who threatened to kill her parents and siblings if she reported it. Due to that she was not able to have a normal relationship with any men because every time a man tried to kiss or touch her, she would have flash backs and get nauseated and ran to the bathroom to vomit. All that fear and disgust came back with any males she met, it was so sad, she really wanted to be with someone and be in a normal relationship and she was such a sweet and beautiful girl but she was psychologically ruined and damaged and destroyed.
Is she still alive?
It messes you up for life you can't trust anyone,system is rotten to the core. 😡
Thank you LADbible for this one. I have watched a lot of your videos and this is the only one (so far) that nearly brought me to tears, it's so sad!! To the lady - you are such a brave, inspiring person. To have the courage to tell your story and to be able to come back strong from your experiences and to then become a nurse, which is going to helps so many other people, it really is highly commendable. The world is a better place having you and others like you in it - thank you. I hope that you are surrounded by genuine, nice, supportive, loving people now as you truly deserve it.
Gosh this made me cry so many times. I had a similar thing happen where I didn’t think I had been raped for 5 years, because I had willingly met this guy (but didn’t plan on entertaining 3 of his friends). I just laid there and thought, this is what you get, you should know better than to put yourself in that situation (I was 22). So even after I realized I had been raped, it took me another 5 years to speak about it. 10 years is a long time to deal with trauma on my own and I didn’t understand why it was getting worse instead of better, I beat myself up for not being able to get past it. It took a professional telling me that this is how PTSD works to even begin to start healing. I still live with fears and suspicions but it’s not like it was. Good luck Kate.
Of course she is getting financial help! That's like the bare minimum. Society has failed her for far too long. It's heartbreaking to hear her story, she has nothing to apologize for, this is a brave and strong woman.
Agree!!! I just think if this happened in the US, I feel like u would be SOL.
So sad how often this happens
37 - today is the day I realize I too was groomed whilst watching this clip. All that I put on my poor choices were actually deliberate acts of manipulation & abuse. Similar or same tactics. I internalised my shame for so long & now it all makes more sense. I'm shocked, saddened & somewhat relieved. 😔 Thank you for sharing your story
I am so so sorry that you had to go through that! Lot‘s of strength, a nourishing environment and power to you!
I sincerely hope you are able to overcome the abuse and I send you my compassion for the future healing you can find 💜
Hope you're doing ok hunny and getting support now.
It wasn't your poor choices, nor manipulation or tactics. So what, did they manipulate you into sex with candy corns? Are you like five years old? You have to take responsibility for your mistakes when you are a grown adult.
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I hope you read this Kate. You are a truly amazing individual to not only have survived this horrific trauma but to then have the strength, compassion and generosity of spirit to help others. You are articulate and your kindness radiates through you. I am glad you have sought therapy and I hope you continue to do so, talking is processing and the more you share your story it will minimize any doubts that you were in any way culpable. Thank you for sharing your story and highlighting this very important issue, I have no doubt you will help many. Sending you love and light 💞
I'm so sorry to hear this happened to such a kind soul. Non of this was ever your fault and you're so brave for speaking up about this.
As a man I know I can't even begin to comprehend how horrific this must have been, but I'm balling my eyes out at her pain and her bravery.
Imagine if you were raped by someone stronger then you. That's how it feels just because we're men dosent mean rape isn't just as brutal
child crimes rape murder should have much harsher sentences don't know how anyone could do this to a person.
They should be executed. Nice name btw.
I know but then they give drug dealer and and shooters crazy sentences
Their frontal cortex isnt functional like others so it wont deter.
I am so grateful to Kate for sharing her story. It takes tremendous bravery and courage to talk openly about what happened! Thank you Kate and LADbible for creating this video
Thank you for sharing your story. I am in awe of your strength and the absence of hate and anger in your life despite what those men did to you. You rose above a nightmare situation. You battled through to victory and reclaimed your agency. You are amazing!!
I want to hug her. She is so brave to tell her story. and deserves nothing less than kindness, compassion, and respect from this point forward….
I was drugged and raped by the CEO of a company I worked for after only 3 weeks of working there which I was only working there because my parents abandoned me on the street and I was trying to get an apartment. I went to the police and they LOST the report and the video surveillance footage that would have put child rapist behind bars. I re reeported it 7 years later (August 2020) to be told that there isn't enough evidence for the police to do anything. I started calling female employees and writing on Google reviews about what he did to me and I'm now being SUED for $550,000 by my rapist for defamation and slander. I've never mentally recovered and I live in poverty i can't afford a lawyer and because it's Civil Law legal aid won't help me cover the fees. I've called hundreds of places and gone to sexual assault help places and nobody will help me 😢😡
Remember this one thing....you may live in poverty and that makes you dangerous. Dangerous to contact the media and tell your story.....dangerous to ask for help from someone like Dr Phil McGraw so your story is told. When you have no money, you have the power to speak up....I am sure you are NOT the only one that he did this to and telling your story may bring out other victims. Do no stop speaking out! Find a writer who may tell your story,tell of the polices incompetence, write letters to the DA but don't be silenced. Mr CEO is suing cause he IS scared. He knows what he did was a crime. May the Gates of Justice and Vengeance unleash the demons of Hell upon this scumbag piece of shyte rapist.
How can I help
I am so PROUD of you for standing up. You have changed ALOT of lives by standing up.
Can you just disappear, change your name and start again. ? Can you let it go, not speak of it again and get on with a fresh start. I hope so. Give yourself permission, and become new
@@rosered3919 that’s not how being sued works…
The way she ended her story stripped away any power any one else ever could have had over her. Amazing resilience.
I cried through this for you because it was heart wrenching as I’ve experienced similar situations. Those things can haunt you off and on for YEARS. I hope you have gotten counseling and healing. May God bless you for coming out with your story to show that it’s ok to come out and tell what has gone on.
Her life at 18 literally became a horror movie. I cannot even begin to fathom the way she viewed the world after this long, painful, confusing experience. Or how on earth she undid this unbelievable world view, or could even begin to undo the trauma. How so so very terrible, she needed someone to talk to at the time that could have cared for her and explained how she was being abused and needed help.
With everything that’s happened to her she becomes a nurse to help others . Wow what a truly remarkable lady
growing up as a female in Telford means stories of these experiences are always at the forefront of your mind. you are so strong, Kate. wishing you all the best in life 🤍
This girl is a powerhouse. Really. So much strength and self awareness. She's admirable.
Simply shocking, this woman has my deepest respect..
And she has mine…..
What for 💀
18 is so young to have to have dealt with this - and still went to college and wasn't living with a family to help her. My heart goes out to her and I'm so glad she escaped.
All I want to do is give her a big hug and tell she is such a strong person and nobody can take that from her, that she is beautiful and she is loved and she is amazing……❤ She is so brave for sharing her hear rending story.
You said something around the 30 min mark about what men probably wouldn’t like. I’m a married man with 2 kids for full disclosure. I can’t begin to imagine what you’ve been through. I naturally reflect deeply on what I would feel if it was my own daughter. All I can say is that what any man wants is absolutely no more important than what you want. You’re wants, needs, feelings are as important as anyone else’s. I’m genuinely sorry and deeply saddened that you experienced this and I wish you all the happiness going forward. Take care xx
It’s sad to think that men have to say things like “if that was my daughter” somehow related to a woman to feel compassion for them, when things happen like murder to men we don’t think “if that was my son”, it’s a strange perspective
@@aprilbarry6722 Yeah. I think that is very screwed up!
@@aprilbarry6722 was just thinking that!! Women should be respected even if they aren't your daughter, sister, wife, ( x relation to a man). It almost feels like the respect comes out of how she is 'owned' by the man, you know? Not saying this person thinks like that, but it always comes across like this, and it needs to stop.
Your comment made me cry sir 😣😢 the part where you said your feelings are as important as anyone else’s was something I really needed to read. Thank you, the world needs more men like you 🙏❤️
The world needs more of u sir!
This whole thing gave me chills but then when she mentioned the town next to where I live I got even more chills. This is horrific.
Absolutely heart-breaking to watch! So brave to come on here and talk about it! 🙏
I hope this girl sees the comments of support and understanding that people have left. *IT WAS ABSOLUTELY NOT HER FAULT!!!* Her bravely reporting her rapists and convicting them protected other young girls. I hope she continues to work/concentrate on her mental health, self-confidence and well-being. xx SF
How do people do these things to someone? 😕
Steve, thank you for being supportive and sharing your thoughts x
@@kateelysia1 Hello! (How surprising to receive a response from you!) I hope things are better, happier and more secure for you now and that you have people in your life who love you as you deserve. I say again, many women, and indeed men, don't even report their abuse at the hands of such criminal monsters. YOUR bravery in reporting your abuse and being able to speak out publicly about it sends a real and positive message to anybody in such an awful predicament. It says that victims can speak up and will be heard. Perpetrators can be held to account and punished. Your actions undoubtedly saved dozens if not hundreds of young women from despicable abuse. You should be so proud of that. xx SF
@@stevesandford1437 Yes I am happy in my life and thank you, I want to show there is life after trauma and life does get better!
@@kateelysia1 SO GLAD to hear that! xx SF