In this week's episode of Minutes With, we hear the first part of the incredible Nina Aouilk's story. Nina opens up on suffering abuse at the hands of her father and his friends, being forced into a marriage as a child, and surviving an 'honour killing' attack.
Part two of Nina's story is available here - • Losing My Unborn Child...
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Oh Nina it's so hard to hear I can't imagine what it was like for you to live through all of that! Honestly it's a testimony to your strength of character as a human being that despite all the torture and abuse you endured from birth that now you present as a kind decent human and I wish I could be your friend! Please keep sharing your story because there's a young girl that maybe is on the bus on her way to or from school that will see your story and know that what she's enduring is not okay! I think you're beautiful and I'm so grateful you're alive!!!!❤️
As a woman of southeast asian descent, your story broke my heart because I relate to this abuse. Nina, I am so very sorry that you endured this - you deserve all the happiness and safety in the world. The cultural and religious abuse is one of the main reasons why I left India and moved to Australia on my own as a teenager. When I was growing up I remember leaving my body and thinking "not yet, it's not your time to go" to get through each traumatic event, the bride burnings, and the incessant death threats made to 10 and 8-year-old little girls (my sister and I) for years. Your kindness radiates through your entire being, I wish I could hug you and tell you that you are loved. Thank you so much for speaking out xx
@@MishMashOz271 Thats horrific. Right now in Afghanistan women are killing themselves because they cant go to school or work anymore. Iranian women are being arrested for not wearing hijab. All these stories of abuses but its rarely discussed in the mainstream or by the social justice advocates.
@@tubester4567people shy away from these issues in fear of being perceived as "culturally insensitive" or racist which in itself is bonkers. No woman or girl should be treated as less than human. It should be unacceptable anywhere and everywhere.
Mrs H 🇬🇧 ... If they don't want girls then why did they keep you...Many in UK would of raised and loved you.... No innocent child from any culture should EVER such suffer such heinous abuse ... I have no doubt you'll carry this trauma for the rest of your life BUT I think your AN extremely brave survivor.... Thank you for sharing your story .... I'm so sorry you suffered so much...💔
She got crap at home and at school. How this woman is still sane and seemingly functional is beyond me.
her resilience is actually out of this world
literally, the universe know if I was her i'd be 6ft under. Her strength to continue in life is beautiful
“Survivor” doesn’t even begin to cover the surface of what this woman is. She’s a goddess.
She's not seemingly functional. She is functional. Don't assume abused victims are broken, often they are the strongest, most aware and fully functional people you will ever meet.
@@yourfavoritecoffeehouse9343 wouldn't say it means they are broken if they can't cope with years of abuse
The British police has failed this precious woman, what a shame
yes SHAME ON THEM!!
Out of the fear of being called r.cist..
Worse than shame. Dishonor. A stain on honor that would take a century to repair. How disgusting.
More likely because of racism
@@eily_bplease they weren’t scared of being called racist they didn’t see any value in their lives to they couldn’t be bothered to help
Never in my life I wanted to hug anyone so bad. Sending all my love and warmth to Nina, what an absolute treasure of a woman. I’m so sorry.
Listening to her horrific story makes me feel like mine, I should never feel sorry, never hurt for myself and never be so dramatic when I have flash backs or dreams of...
You should vote for Trump and keep Muslim Men out of the US.
so true.
This woman's story makes my own abuse in childhood seem like a picnic in a rose garden. The amount of violence and horror... May her life be blessed with love and kindness.
Never compare abuse. What she went through is horrible but it makes yours no less. Ideally neither of you would experience what you did
Was just thinking the exact same thing 😢
Never compare your suffering to others all your doing is making yourself feel worse there will always be someone who’s been through something worse but that doesn’t mean your suffering is invalid
never compare your trauma!! acknowledge it and understand it was traumatic for you, no matter how many worse are out there.
exactly, it makes you rethink again. maybe it wa not all bad, your childhood. Because real abuse is exist. and we can never look at them the same,that wouldbe just unfair. it's like when one can not breath, and the other is can not have what wanted. both hurt, real abuse would crush you. and if you feel victimised in things that actually ... that would be unfair for the real victim i hope we can always learn from others and be grateful for our easy life comparing to them.
There’s a special place in hell for people that treat children like this.
I wish I could love your comment 1 million times
@@user-dw4cs4xv8y how do you know heaven and hell doesn't exist? did you die and saw nothing, then came back?
@@user-dw4cs4xv8y I don't know if it exists, but how can I know? I question you because you seem so sure of the answer, but based on what you wrote, it was a bit disappointing. If you have no evidence or can't disprove something, how can you be so confidence about your answer? What's funny about your comment is that you didn't used any reasoning or logic to come to the conclusion that heaven and hell doesn't exist, you just used common internet answers and questions as if you got me. I might be wrong, but I have a strong feeling something broke your faith, and now you're just throwing a tantrum on the internet. I doubt you suddenly reason your way out of your religion. Nothing about your reply indicates that
@@user-dw4cs4xv8y again how can you be so sure? this is what I'm trying to get out of you. how do you know god only exists in our minds?
Hell doesn't exist, and saying and thinking that is just a lame cop out to make yourself feel better about the fact that they never receive the punishment they truly deserve.
So her brother, a man who beats his partner with a hammer openly admits to attempted murder and NOTHING happens? This is beyond disgusting and a travesty of justice
IKR? Plus the cops knew about it when she first escaped, just before she was in hospital! Wtf?
@@downieduck2414Her family isn’t muslim
@@downieduck2414sources?
@@downieduck2414 she mentioned Sikhs, Punjabis and Indians, idk where you got Muslim from, thats a dumb assumption
The authorities there are useless. It’s no wonder the area is being taken over by foreigners they cannot control
I am absolutely disgusted by the fact that these people get to live on this earth and breathe the same air. Angry and unable to comprehend the true evil! Devilish behaviour!! The system had absolutely failed her. At the same time, I am amazed by her strength. I am so happy that Nina survived. The woman she has become inspite of all her pain. WOW!
Then you should vote for Trump and keep Muslim Men out of the US.
This isn’t culture, this is pure evil that should be stopped at all cost. My heart goes out to this poor woman and all who have had to live a life like hers.
it is a culture, it happens all over south easten countries all the time and brought to the uk
@@eadweardwoden7309 "southeastern countries"? lmao what? what does that even mean? no, this is not culture. i'm punjabi, like the woman in the video, and i assure you that no sane person sees this type of violence and oppression as culture.
@@lemonosity7 y don't you dare sit there and play ignorant when you know fully well it's a heinous part of your culture, forced marriages etc. These crimes take place throughout the world and are not limited to one specific religion or faith. However, they have rather significantly and consistently occurred in various parts of the Middle East and South Asia, with nearly half of all honor killings occurring in India and Pakistan.
@@eadweardwoden7309 i know they're common where i'm from, but that shit is NOT a part of our culture. nothing oppressive should EVER be considered culture. and i'm 1000% sure i know MY culture better than you do. if you wanna include oppression in culture, should i include the heinous colonial crimes of the british as part of british culture? bc then we could be here all day discussing every monstrous thing european culture has done to the world.
@@lemonosity7 be mad all you want, it is.
There is absolutely NO honor in killing your own child to appease your public image and opinions of others. It is shameful and detestable
They’re not children they’re property.
@@Muffinga the fuck you saying? Property? That is the most backwards inhumane shit I have ever heard
Clearly these parents are mentally ill
* There is no honor killing, period.
It is just absolutely vile
Blaming her for not being a virgin yet HE and his buddies were the ones to rape her, while he mother stood by. The sense it doesn't make is astounding. The fact that she has been able to rise above the hurt and torment she endured for so many years of her life is a testament to the kind of person she must be. wishing her nothing but happiness and love for the remainder of her life
There’s a special Place in Hell for this despicable family… What a strong and wonderful woman, Godspeed to her…❤🙏🇨🇦
That's what they do
These people cannot take responsibility for their actions and must blame the victim.
This is just sickening. Honestly, this woman is one of the strongest humans. What a survivor
U r unfortunate to have a devil parents .
The fact that she can even utter any of this out loud shows just how brave she is, and how far she has come mentally. I pray she experiences only good from here on out.
Amen to that
But saying she gets 30 death threats a month from the Middle East is insanity ! She is a Sikh woman ! Not some Muslim woman. It’s very common in Indian and well know that a girl being born in a household is seen as bad thing, and they throw them in gutters , research it
I feel so powerless watching these. The horrors of this world are simply unimaginable. The fact this wonderful woman as a child had NO ONE to aid her and only cruelty laid upon her and she still came out from the other side such a stunning, intelligent and wonderful person leaves me in awe.
It’s Nina, I appreciate your kind words 🙏🏼
There ARE things you can do around where you live ...maybe you have a safe home or someplace for abused women to flee to in your town or city? You could volunteer there perhaps or you can if you have a channel on youtube and are a creator, offer like a bundle of survivor stories/biographies during April (Domestic Violence Awareness Month) to your viewership or some such to help spread awareness and educational packet or pamphlets to folks. Just some ideas. Don't want you to feel or think you are powerless.
@@londonslifecoachNina. Your story. I have no words. I am so sorry for what you lived through. I see strength, beauty, and intelligence when I look at you. I pray that you have and will continue to find true love and genuine relationships in your life. In Jesus name.
The irony in a so-called “honour” killing is that there is nothing more dishonorable than hurting a person who you are supposed to love and protect.
In my TEDx i question that as it’s title states “There is no honour in killing”
They should be called "pride killings." When the predator is at risk of being exposed or held accountable, they try to get rid of the victim. Sounds like a bunch of psychopathic narcissists.
@@londonslifecoach Will be checking out your TedX immediately. Your resilience should have NEVER been necessary, but it is truly mind blowing what you have survived and how you have managed to thrive despite it. Thank you for sharing a piece of your life with us. There are so many woman out there with similar, it has to stop. Thank you.
In India the vast majority find honour in killings, as in Russia the vast majority find homosexuality same as paedophilia. Welcome to reality.
100%. There is zero honor or exhalation in abusing, starving, molesting and killing your children, especially as a “punishment” for being a girl or birthing a girl.
Im a grown man, 50 years old and not ashamed to say ive cried at every turn of this story. As a father of 3 very much loved daughters i feel SO hurt for her.
Don't be ashamed. You seem like a genuine caring person❤
Don't be ashamed. It's not weakness it's human. Please remember that. Crying is apart of us yet somehow it's a crime. It shouldn't be that way. Normal human emotions should never be a sign of weakness or should be suppressed. Guys who say it isn't manly are cowards. You sir, are human and you should never apologize for your feelings, nor be ashamed of feeling empathy for someone. You are clearly a person with a heart of gold. That's rare nowadays! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
I respect you immensely. No need for shame.
Wish all of us had a father like you I told my father that one of our family member is very in appropriate with me. He just nodded and went back to using his phone. My mother told me “we’ve known him for a long time and we grew up together. He’s not like that. You’re lying” If any parent is reading this, I beg you to listen to your children when they say something vulnerable.
there is nothing to be ashamed A man who can feel a woman's pain And a woman who can respect a man are always to be respected
The people in the clinic should have inquired and should have reported the abuse immediately. Her parents failed her. Her school failed her. The clinic failed her. Everyone failed her.
She went through that living hell and yet she has the softest, kindest eyes I’ve ever seen.
It enrages me that all these cultures that praise boys and men, and shame girls and women, seem to forget the fact that all their prized boys and men would not even exist in the first place if it weren't for the women. It makes my blood boil!!
They seem to forget that a woman is another human deserving of equal opportunitities and rights DESPITE however they feel about them.
So this happened in the UK , shocking !! I do hope her parents and the filth that abused her pay for this,
This!
Wow I’m so sorry you had to go through this. Be strong god’s had special place for you. & Karma will definitely deliver it for all who abused you.
Exactly this. Unbelievably ignorant. I hate it
With all due respect, this is not a culture, this is psychopathy. All those people need to be behind bars. All of them. Poor woman. I'm so happy she escaped all that. And I'm truly amazed at how she turned out after all of this horrific abuse, she's a true inspiration. Idk how she remained kind after having such a life.
With all due respect,you don't get to tell someone from another culture that this isn't their culture. That's rude, especially when something tragic happens to them. She's basically telling you about the culture of violence she grew up in and you have the nerve to tell her,that's not a culture. That's a little racist to be honest. You're not the judge of what is or is not apart of their history or culture.
@@v.9964because that isn’t culture and she would agree too, killing a child ≠ culture its just disgusting and beyond selfish trust me who tf would think its racist to think thats wrong
@@v.9964 Calm down. What they meant is that people from western or any other cultures can monsters like her parents too. And I think it needs to be said, because a lot of behaviors are justified as ''culture'' as if that makes it ok. Like there are people who will be like ''how dare you criticise someone else's culture'' as if culture is a holy thing, not the world we live in.
@@phishcatt I am calm,maybe you should stop whining about my comment. Which by the way,I don't need you to explain their comment to me, I am fully aware of what was said hince my response. I can read,and am a female. Shocking to this third world mentality,I know.But just because /you/ personally didn't like my comment, because it didn't fit /your/ 'agai', point of view doesn't mean I am neither not "calm" nor am I wrong. I said what I said. If you come to a Western country to leech off their system for a better life , then you should at least leave your barbarian practices at the door. This is a third world mentality that is unacceptable in any point of view. But to deny that this isn't a problem, be they Christians or Muslims households,is a problem. This happens in those cultures, if the West can learn assimilate to tolerance,so can Middle Easterns. Maybe you should try it sometimes,instead of trying to police people based on your personal feelings of what is or isn't right by you. It takes away from the victims when you're apart of the problem.
@@RespectMeBitch obviously,your comprehension skills aren't that great because she said several times in their culture that this is what happens. maybe next time, learn to use your listening skills and stop being an enabler just because you personally failed to listen to the story. Just because you personally don't practice that side of things doesn't mean other people don't. Leave that barbarism at the door.
Dear God! What have I just listened to?? Absolutely harrowing My mind cannot conceive the depravity and cruelty inflicted upon her My heart then breaks for this incredible woman, who I hope has finally found love and peace in her life. What a survivor!❤
Amen, This was absolutely horrific ACTS done this Woman
The way I held my breath in fear the entire time, knowing, waiting, for when she would bring up the sexual assault. My entire heart, my existence, goes out to you. Sending all the love in the universe. I hope you feel safe now.
It’s Nina, Thank you for taking the time to sit through this interview 🙏🏼
Her family has no honor to retain. The fact that so many years have gone by and they still send 30-40 death threats a month is absolutely insane. When her parents die, I hope the only tears she sheds are tears of relief.
She needs to press charges. At the very least, get restraining orders and then change her number, address, everything.
@@BeckBeckGowhat will a restraining order do....the police watched other girls in similar situations get burned to death , they did nothing....they dont want to be involved!!! Probably apart of the same occult
@@BeckBeckGo Assuming she's in the UK, I don't know how restraining orders work there. I *do* know how they work where I live in the US, that they expire after 2 years and you have to petition to renew them. They do also require you to give your location of work and/or location of residence, so that the person is barred from going to those places or calling landlines.
That is so sad
Those parents need to burn in hell. That's disgusting. How can you be such an awful person and keep living life thinking you deserve to live?
I love that she called her dog “the loudest person”. It shows how much she loved her dog and what they meant to her. I’m so glad she had her dog.
I thought the same thing, ironic that the most humanity was shown by an “animal”
That dog showed more humanity than the so-called humans in that house. Poor woman. I hope she’s thriving
@@CompUter-oo7er absolutely! That dog was more human than those monsters. I haven’t stopped thinking about this woman’s story and imagining how many others are going through this as we speak.
My heart goes out to this woman. How are people so horrible and evil allowed to carry on. Her treatment is unthinkable. A dog can literally save your emotional health and your heart if you are in terrible home life as child. Until I was allowed to have one I knocked on every neighbors door who had a dog as a little girl. I proved to them I could handle walking their large dogs and eventually it became expected that I'd be taking their dog for walks every day. We had the best moments of my life. We'd sit together, we'd go to abandoned buildings, eat lunch together by the creek, and they let you love on them as much as you want to. Finally I was given a small dog. She was the best thing to ever happen, but my mother came home one day and said we were getting rid of her. I pleaded, cried until I couldn't breathe, but we still drove to give her away. I remember her fur being soaked from my face as we got out of the car and I touched her. My hands couldn't let go of her. I will never forget sitting her down in the people's driveway and am suddenly unable to write this without crying at the memory of it. Now, decades later I try to get to know my mother in her older age, and we pretend to like each other more than we do, but I lost trust and feeling for her that I will never get back no matter how hard I try. Please if you have kids who are dedicated to taking care of things, and ONLY if you trust that they will give the utmost care to a pet, get them a rescue dog from a shelter or a dog rescue. If there is screaming and constant strife in the house though, please please don;t do it because it is painful for animals to live in domesticated, loud and stressful households and more than any creatures on earth; they deserve nothing but good because they are pure, and are angels. God Bless.
I wonder what happen to the dog 🐕?
I desperately want to be a real mother figure for this woman! Show her kindness & caring motherly behavior. She is so brave and beautiful!
It’s Nina, thank you for extending your love, please know Part 2 proves I’m living a life of purpose happily with my 3 amazing children ❤
@@londonslifecoachnina dear, i come from very different culture but still as a human being I apologize that you had to go through such thing as part of humanity ❤ sending love and so much respect 💘 you are the true example of woman warrior 🩷
How can this woman be so collected, classy, well-adjusted, beautiful, and stable? Absolute superhuman.
In a family of psychopaths, one empath was born. Thank goodness she made it out alive to tell her story.
If they were psychopaths they would not think of honor or shame. Truth is they all were healthy in this sense. Just too afraid of shame. They felt guilty, so tried to cover their asses at any cost. Children only fault is that they are, weaker in such families.women and children are to blame because they cant defend themselves. Being afraid is empathic trait, but its an egoism that turns this trait into raping and then killing your daughter.
@@eyennordic348in that case it makes them worse. if you are not born with apathy and still are that cruel and self serving, you’re a pretty abhorrent person. arguably, sociopaths/psychopaths DO still care about self image. psychopaths especially. that’s how they rise to the top. sociopaths are more likely not to care.
@@eyennordic348this is not psychopathy this is the consequence of letting misogyny take full control of a culture. All these ideologies are fully embedded in these people since birth. They genuinely believe what they're doing is righteous.
It's not one family though, it's literally the society upon which India was built. Women are just less and it's played out time and time again in regards to gang rapes of vacationers even.
@@eyennordic348You're a mile off. Psychopaths experience jealousy, insecurity and pride. Their sense of "honour" is one of their biggest red buttons. If you think psychopaths don't experience feelings, you don't know what you're talking about. OP is on the money, these sound like violent psychopaths.
I AM SO ANGRY THAT HER PARENTS AREN’T IN PRISON!!! How can they still to this day be making threats to her??? The police failed her
her country and people failed her, not just the police
yoko ono: woman is n-word of the world. we are mistreated the world over.
@@Dave_of_Mordor It's more prevalent in their culture than Americans realize.
Americans don't realize how these people and their "culture" bring their evil ways to this country.
@@chris1638 She's from the UK. America is irrelevant in this discussion.
There is no honour in this treatment of a young woman. She is so incredibly strong and brave for telling her story
I am completely and utterly humbled by this amazing woman. This is what bravery looks like folks.
It’s infuriating that these people are not charged with abuse, rape, kidnapping, attempted murder!! Am I missing something ?
My thoughts exactly!
She is not old either, it's not like this happened 100 years ago, this must be fairly recent? The authorities obviously do not interfere with the cultural garbage rules this family had. This must be stopped.
Yes, it's a misogynist culture, and lots of stupid people never question it.
Forget 100 years ago, this is probably happening right now as we speak to another poor soul. @christendenise220
It's sooo messed up how the British judicial system just takes a backseat and allows this because this is their "culture". It is inexcusable.
This poor woman was raised and surrounded by monsters. God bless and be with Nina.
Unfortunately, there are lots of other “Ninas” out there which is why I’m doing what I’m doing so that they too can find their own freedom
@@londonslifecoach Are you helping other people like Nina? I'm so proud of you! ❤🎉
@londonslifecoach: Thank you for doing this incredibly important work.
@@dea9457 The person you are responding to is Nina, just as a heads up.
Not sure if you missed the part that this woman was tortured by the beliefs of her family and countries religion, why would she need another blessing from another God that is make believe. ALL religions should be globally banned for the what the do to humanity, every single religion is a plague on society.
Her immense tenacity is something I don't think I've ever witnessed in another human - her strength to sit there and talk about such abhorrent experiences with such eloquence is truly remarkable. What an incredible inspiring human being.
Can’t find words for this poor woman 💔…. Her father is a prime example of why capital punishment is needed for some horrible people in the world….
It’s Nina, please know I’m still fighting for justice 🙏🏼
@@londonslifecoach You are an incredible person. I hope you get justice one day.
Difficult one, in their cultures that's ok, in the West it is not but isn't the West always asked to accept different cultures? Not easy to find a politically correct argument. For us it's horrible, for them it's something normal!
I can't believe the British Government is not charging these perpetrators with attempted murder, rape, child abuse, kidnapping, torture and whatever else these crimes would fall under. Police should be making arrests. My heart goes out to this lady who have lived through years of unimaginable crimes. I have decided to no longer frequent businesses owned by the men from this culture. I never knew this think went on with this culture and I'm appalled that it does.
LOL... who are you trying to kid? You were PROBABLY ALWAYS A RACIST to begin with! 🤣😂😆😎
I can't believe the school never reported on this even tho she never had lunch to school and at some point I assume visible bite marks
Its not the culture, its about individual. Their are bad people in all culture. Dont corrupt your narrative about this culture. Punjabis in India are the most beloving parents.
Sure
If that’s what you got out of this m you’re part of the problem
What a force of nature Nina is to survive such a horrific childhood.
I appreciate your response and extended love ❤
@@londonslifecoach when is the part two getting released?
@@londonslifecoach I just want to say you are an incredible woman. If no one's told you today, then I want you to know you are beyond gorgeous, soo brave and courageous! You are a SURVIVOR and by telling your story you're helping other girls recognize abuse and giving them the strength to survive as well! Your story broke my heart! No one especially a child should ever have to endure such hate and horrific abuse by the hands of family or anyone for that matter. You are so beautiful and one of the strongest women I've ever seen!! ❤️
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@@londonslifecoachYou are truly an amazing woman and though I may not know you, I love you and I am so proud of you. ❤ You are an inspiration to me as a female and as a human being. Thank you for being so brave and sharing your story. I would hug you if I could.
I can’t imagine how evil one would have to be to treat someone like this woman was treated as a child
All the monsters in Nina's life failed her. The fact that she survived all that and is able to tell her story is mind blowing and actually beyond my comprehension, I hope she gets everything good in life
Nina had told the world about her awful family - why don’t the police just arrest them all? Murdering baby girls and an attempted murder on their own daughter?!?! Where is the justice?
that's the culture there. they obviously don't care. it's disgusting how they mistreat their daughters.
@@poisonkiss201this happened in the UK…. Did you even listen? How ignorant. This can happen anywhere. People and especially young girls are hurt and abused here in America everyday.
@@ciaa8387FYI… ppl can be arrested in the UK.
The way the police responded to her saying "it was an attempted honour killing" and how the police would assume it was a suicide anytime they came across a bride-burning says everything you need to know. At that time, religious and racial tensions were clearly affecting local law enforcement. Either they were under direction to stay out of it, prior legal rulings made it impossible to prosecute, or they feared retaliation. Altogether a disgusting failure.
@@ciaa8387 yes it happened in the uk but the family is indian ....they did not assimilate into british culture they brought their third world culture with them where it didnt belong
It is barbaric and Britain should be ashamed how they LET these monsters behave in a country that allegedly forbids rape, child abuse, honour killings and much more! Sitting in front of a camera telling that strory, I wonder why not prosecute these monsters?
Votebank. The Sikhs are quite a population and also influential in UK and some other countries. What goes on in their homes can be exactly opposite of what they show to the world. Even in India, in the north-western part, where the sikhs reside along with a few other communities, the attitude towards women is pathetic. Decades ago, it was a place where rampant female infanticide was practiced until the government had to ban the practice of the determination of sex of a child by punishing any medical practitioner who did so. The killings have come down substantially but the sex ratio is still skewed in that part. Also, the general attitude towards women is just not good. So, education is low in that area with a vast majority of sikhs involved in farming. women get married early. There's less focus on their studies, goes without saying. There's a lot of focus on their looks. Skin colour is very important. They are mostly seen as wives who have to bear children. after a woman becomes older, she gains influence in the family. i would like to point out that there are many sikhs who are very educated and the exact opposite. But the rural culture is what I've described.
@tinkerbelle5240 so they really want a population of only boys? Do they realize how stupid they are? They are practicing eugenics on themselves.
@@tomorrowisanotherday12This was very enlightening, thank you for sharing this.
@@The_Daily_Tomato you're welcome
Sikhs don’t do this…she could be someone paid to malign the culture and religion….real question why did she not go the police? Why has no one been charged or persecuted? The culture and community would have publicly shamed her family and disowned them….our community does not condone this type of stuff….her father would have committed suicide if she had gotten the community involved. Instead getting help from the community….she is just going around blaming an entire culture, community and religion….as if we know the going’s on in a dysfunctional family. That’s the only thing I can say….she belonged to a dysfunctional family and needed to get help…
What an absolutely remarkable and strong woman. She’s faced so much adversity and continued to be someone with such a bright, forgiving energy. May god grant her healing, prosperity, health, and good fortune 🙏🏼
I want to give this woman a hour long hug.
The police need to arrest these evil people. They need to find the babies who were buried and all those involved. Nina has a beautiful soul. I’m so upset that these people got away with such horrible acts of evil. I’m so so sorry this happened to you Nina. I’m so sorry, you really are a gentle soul.
I’ve been on google and nothing can be found. I agree with you.!
Not just arrest they deserve life sentence
They didn't get away from it, trust me, when people die, it will hit them with a force unknown to man. You suddenly realize what you did, and the Eternal consequences involved in it.
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that's islam for you
This woman looks like she is carrying so much trauma in her yet still managed to share this heartbreaking story in such a well articulated and graceful manner. The fact that she is still here with us looking beautiful and full of kindness in her eyes makes her a true Queen.Nina you deserve the world, You are a true jewel.
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She’s truly amazing. God bless her. 🙏🏾♥️🙏🏾♥️
My heart is in pieces. As a fellow woman, this sort of violence feels particularly violating and cruel. Her perseverance and incomprehensible strength in spite of such experiences is awe-inspiring.
Nina, when I started watching I was struck by your beauty and then by the horrific abuse you endured. I admire you, you have so much purpose and you've given me strength to rise to the challenges I face.
the fact she refers to her dog as a ‘person’ shows just how attached she was to her and how isolated from human contact she was in childhood. so proud of this wonderful brave woman for saving herself
And that darling dog was the only soul who loved her unconditionally!! Imagine how traumatised her poor dog is after that 😢
That dog was a person, her parents were not
her parents were the animals in this case
Dogs accept you no matter what. My dog is my best friend
I'm sure that dog was the only pure soul in that house who showed her love and saw her as more than an object.
Every time I thought she'd told the worst of it, it got more horrific. I can't believe anyone could survive this. What a warrior, what an outstanding human being. I hope the rest of her life is peaceful and she can finally have some happiness.
YES! I hope the rest of her life is peaceful and she finds a safe place to heal and live her best life. She's suffered long enough at the hands of monsters.
She should get them arrested. Why forgive? That's not something to be forgiven even if it was part of the culture. Bringing them to justice will lead to a positive change and will be helpful to many others in the future. But I don't blame her if she doesn't want to fight on her own. She might be so tired and seeking some peace in life. Some Humans rights organisation or activists must fight on her behalf.
@@redheadredemption3hey she still says it's her culture, have fun in your culture.
@@VolodymyrTheJewishClown "Nobody gets away with attempted murder". They do get away, and more than you think. Stop denying that.
@@VolodymyrTheJewishClown Muslims are untouchable in EU f.e.x pakistani r@pe gang went on for decades with police and everyone else knowing... People are being stabbed, robbed, beaten with police doing nothing if the perpetrator is muslim. For victims of honor violence there is no safe place - their community is violating them and police won´t help frequently. It´s insane.
When animals have more compassion than humans. This is so…just so sad. I can’t even imagine. Really can’t even begin to understand this horror
😭😭😭 how could both parents and more fail a child.. I’ll never understand.. My heart is both broken and amazed at how far she has come. She is beautiful inside and out
This is horrific. She is an elegant, well spoken lady. So many parents would be beyond proud of her. It won’t help heal her but the women of the world are beyond proud and in awe of her.
Except for the women who abused her.
@@davidlamb7524, those are not women, those are monsters.
@@davidlamb7524 Why would you say what should be without saying about the other women?! 🙄
@@SweetChicagoGator Can you repeat that in standard English please ? It is not coherent.
I didn't say " what should be" plus there are no "other women". Meridias etc mentioned the women of the world and I mentioned the exceptions . What other women can there be ?
I’m only half way through and I can honestly say that this is one of the most horrible cases of child abuse I have heard in my entire life. It actually brought me to tears. To be abused to this extent at all is completely and categorically wrong but to have this happen to you because you happened to be born female…. The fact that she is still here, strong enough to talk to us all about it today is so remarkable.
Did this happen in Great Britain?
@@MisterSantilliyes, it did
Did they all go to prison for attempted m-rder?@@sheilae.9670
And this is common among that religion and they bring the crap to Europe.
“Normal” parents usually protect and care for their children, so what does this tell you about these parents and the religion they practice ? ! The word “demonic” comes to mind, certainly not “godly” ! However they will pay for the atrocity they have perpetrated on perpetrated on their own child. Shame on them !
She’s so beautiful, articulate and kind. I hope her family pays the price.
I am still wondering why these creatures are not in jail. Forever. I know its anger and demand for justice speaking out of me, but I cant help it. I feel so much warmth for this incredibly strong woman.
Respect for religion, culture, and personal beliefs goes 100% out the window in cases of child abuse and murder. I have zero respect or understanding for anyone who would do this to a child
I only respect that which is kind and loving. But I don't respect any part of a culture or religion just because it is. There has to be a reason for respect to be shown. I am a Buddhist. The Buddha said never take anything at face value, even the Buddha's teaching itself. You have to examine it yourself.
This has absolutely nothing to do with religion but more so cultural this is very common in their culture.
This is so horrific and heartbreaking to hear what this lady Nina has had to endure, and no one should ever have to experience this. I have read many of the comments from the various talks given around this traumatic and difficult story, (which hopefully will encourage and inspire others who may suffer in silence to share and speak up.) However,It's important not to have a judgmental perspective that gives the distorted and negative bias that this happens purely because of cultural patterns of behaviour and differences and is therefore a common phenomenon within . It is important to remember and point out that there are deeply loving Punjabi and Sikh families (parents of Nina’s era), including subsequent generations, who adore their daughters, treat them with the utmost love and respect, and nurture them in a safe and happy family environment. Let’s not vilify all Punjabi, Sikh, and Asian families under the label that it is cultural appropriation to treat their girls or daughters with hate, contempt, or abuse. I have five sisters, one of whom was adopted by my parents. We were so fortunate and truly blessed to have parents who adored each of us, treated us with nothing but love and respect, educated us, and allowed us to form our own paths and identities in life, despite the challenges they had to face, pleasing the extended family and sometimes wider community in the process. Sadly, so much of this has to do with individual parents mindsets, personal morals, and perhaps unacceptable behaviour patterns learned from their own past and personal experiences as opposed to cultural. Abuse, whether it's sexual, physical, or emotional It is not mutually exclusive to the Indian and Asian cultures; ill treatment of children happens in all parts of society.
Well said totally agree with you
Look, i know someone who is indian, lives there, children are starving on the streets, govnt does nothing, nor for the elderly, blind or poor lepers. my friend vomited into a clean diaper due to the filth and stench on a bus, afterwards she saw street kids eating the grapes out of her vomit. @@amibedi1231
So sad what happened to this woman. This is why we need to criticize the bad parts of each culture. Just because its "part of their culture" doesn't mean its ok.
That’s so true because honor killings happen in Europe still and no one ever talks about them but when it’s in the middle east or south Asia people it’s the only time people talk about
@@Azaarvyes and they blame the religion as a muslim honour killing is totally prohibited and seeing people thinking that it's part of it is very sad
it's unfortunately the evil people and not the culture which cause this. If you have an evil person, you can't change him. I mean like how can a father (with friends) rape his own daughter? That's not a thing that belongs to any culture.
@@Azaarvpropel do talk about inter family killings in Europe. They are just harder to spot because the perpetrators are either in rural areas where no one will find out or more in tune with the rules of their country and how to not be caught. Plus it’s way less common. And WAY less boring. “Honor killing in UK” sounds interesting, “husband killed wife and daughter” is just another repeated news headline. There is a difference in magnitude and media attention.
@hml25 please read quran chap 4 verse 15
This interview affected me deeply ...... my heart goes out to this women ....I wish you a full recovery and a happy life
It’s Nina, please know I’m Living a happy fulfilling life
@londonslifecoach thank you Nina , long may it continue 🙏 all the very best to you and your family in the future .
@@londonslifecoach You are truly such a beautiful, intelligent , brave, strong, kind woman. I pray you feel safe &loved. As a woman I cannot even begin to imagine what you've been through. I very rarely cry but listening to you tell your story I couldn't help but get emotional & struggling to hold back tears. I am so genuinely sorry for what happened to you. U did not deserve any of this & I hope u truly know that. You were surrounded by pure evil & you were the only light in either of those houses. You have such a beautiful heart & I can't imagine the strength it takes to tell your story. I'm so glad you're away from that evil & that you're here. ❤
that poor darling woman. what she said about her dog brought me to tears. dogs are emotionally intelligent, it wouldn't have known WHAT was happening, but it would have felt that ladies pain and suffering and wanted to ease it. that woman is astoundingly brave, the fact that this happens and is not punished with the full force of the law appalls me.
I hope her family is watching this and know none of us respect them and we see them as honourless people.
They wouldn’t care, they see the outsiders as shameful people anyway
We dont even see them as people
Narcissists don't care about things like that. (Their old traditional "cultural" ways were built on narcissism - yeah, I said it)
I hope they know they should be in prison. If anyone watching this knows who they are, that might be the safest place for them.
@@elifnazsinav312 well then why the hell did they move to the UK? Don’t tell me. I know exactly why. They want the safe and prosperous society that reasonable people are capable of architecting, but don’t want to let go of the very practices that ruined their own. Absolute hypocrites. I hope they’re citizens, because, if not, they should be deported to the country and culture they see as so very superior. It is also an offence to all those immigrants who retain the beauty of their culture, whilst still respecting and embracing the one that welcomed them. And are useful and loved additions, instead of barnacles like this poor woman’s family. I am an immigrant. I can say this without any malice toward most of us. I know what culture adjustment is like, and I know it’s natural to balk against some unexpected realities you face in your host country. But this? Absolutely unacceptable.
I'm almost half a century old and this might be the most horrific account of child abuse I've ever heard. And I haven't even made it to her describing the attempted honor killing yet. I can't watch any more right now. This woman's strength in surviving this stuff and having the courage to talk about it is mind-boggling.
The thing is most women who experience this kind of abuse don't survive it to talk about it. Between honor killings, suicide, or death by accident in the beatings- its so rare to see someone survive and flourish. This kind of abusive is not uncommon in some middle eastern/asian cultures.
@@mayaneuhoff5929 Great point.
I have so much respect and admiration for her strength to survive all of that. It's so hard to imagine how every single member of her family participated in her abuse, especially her mother.
You can see the hurt in this woman’s eyes…. Breaks my heart man.
The irony of calling it an "honour killing," and it's the most cowardly thing to do.
So true. Her "family" only did it to cover up the abuse. It's beyond cruel and despicable.
Honour. Honour my ass, absolute monsters.
@@RollerBallerIslam is a beautiful culture
As a punjabi, this is horrifying to hear and I feel ashamed that our culture allows this kind of evil to exist. Unfortunately this is one of many stories of women I’ve heard over the years who have been through similar horrors and a lot of them do not make it out alive. How one inflicts that kind of pain on their own flesh and blood is beyond me. Gender-based discrimination and voilence is a huge problem in my culture, but it doesn’t get the attention it needs and the system fails these women over and over again. I applaud her for having the courage to speak out about what she went through, it has shaken me to my core and I cannot stop crying. We need to do better to protect our girls and women. This is not okay, nobody should have to deal with this kind of pain and trauma.
I agree. I'm Punjabi SIkh from Vancouver, Canada, and let me tell you, I'm truly disgusted by our community. Even if families don't do to their daughters to the magnitude that this woman's family did to her, but a majority of the community stays silent on the issue, and they too are part of the problem, because they feel disappointed at the birth of a girl child, think girls should act, dress a certain way, do what they are told, and so in my eyes, most people are part of the problem, that gives rise to shit families like this, who have the audacity to do what they did. This so called friend of this woman's who gave her the advice to go back home was so wrong. Why would you want to go back to a place where your father and all his friends raped you. I thought my family was bad, my parents are just plain toxic in terms of mental and emotional abuse, but I endured nothing like this to this magnitude, actually I had it much better after I got married and moved to the United States, and after I left one night my dad almost ended up killing my sister because she had to work late, and he thought she was out slutting around, and my parents the next day said, oh it was nothing. Like fuck this shit. I wish I could have 5 minutes with this piece of shit father and her brothers, and still them in a room with big military guys and lets see how fucking tough they are then. I've heard so many stories like this, it's disgusting. Glad I distanced and disassociated myself the the community.
I cried throughout the video too. It’s beyond heartbreaking how your own family can break your spirit like this. Except for the rape and breaking of bones, I suffered a lot like this woman by my family. My mother was the same kind of angry abusive lunatic. And my dad a violent drunk. My school removed me from home when I was 17 and they always told me the same thing, “so many women don’t make it out alive.” I consider myself lucky. But the emotional pain this experience leaves you with is unlike any other. My only two options in life were 1. Live without a family and be completely on your own. 2. Be seriously abused by your parents and brother because you’re a girl. I chose the first one. This is the first time I’ve heard a story that’s much much worse than mine. And mine is pretty evil.
I hope you know you are with so much more, you deserve love, you deserve respect ❤
I'm shocked beyond belief. To think that this had happened and continue to happen is something I find reprehensible. I will only advise that she cuts all connections with all those who made her suffer. She should live her life and face everything with the courage, confidence and determination that is needed. I salute her for speaking out. I am surprised that a country like England would not take cognizance of such behavior in a community.
Bad parents..!
sobbing so hard, you’re incredible and i’m so proud of how far you’ve come and how strong you are. you deserve everything good.
I've read several of the previous comments and feel a sense of relief that there is such a huge outcry and rage at the horrendous way Nina was treated from a tiny defenceless child. It is so beyond any normal person to imagine how parents could ever treat their little girl like this. Nina, I wish so much I could step back in time and hold you as a little child and give you all that love and protection you deserved. You are an amazing person. I hope you will know only joy and love from now on.
They allow a group of men to assault her and then are mad that she gets pregnant from it. Like what did they expect? Sickening people.
Strongholds controlling them.They should repent
her family is made out of demons theyre not humans
Stupid + sickening.
Sucking Favages!!
Sadly, this is par for the course in many religious fundamentalist groups (read: cults). Horrifying.
I’m a 43 year old man. No kids, never married. Even my paternal instincts is so strong that I find myself in tears, wishing I could just give this young woman a long, warm hug and tell her she’s a wonderful woman and everything is ok. How ANYONE could treat their child this way is beyond me.
Im 41, female, no kids and never married either. And i could truly and genuinely feel and understand what you are saying here.. this so disgustingly terrible.. i cannot believe how evil this family is.. and the kind of culture or belief is there in this community. I genuinely admire how strong, intelligent and resilient this woman is despite all the terrible inhumane things done to her.
It’s Nina reading your comment gave me such hope that compassion and kindness exists and will carve a better path for others with men like you being on this world 🙏🏼
@@londonslifecoach I barely watch documentaries but i sat through this one from beginning to end, the way you convey your message is so unique and heartfelt I couldn't help but cry. I hope all is well for you my love,,
You're just a normal, humane person. Her treatment was hell. It's sad, but her stories are happening to others today.
“Even if your friends & family betray you, i shall send for you , to be your guide , the spirit of truth” -the owners manual
Thank you - thank you for sharing your story Nina. It was difficult to hear and, I'm sure, astoundingly more difficult to talk about, but I appreciate your bravery, courage, and willingness to open up about your awful experiences. You are a Warrior and sharing your truth not only reveals what's really going on but inspires others to do the same and fight against people and societal norms that perpetuate and allow the same injustices to go unpunished. Again, from the bottom of my torn heart, thank you Nina. Just know I'm sending all the warmth, love, hugs, and comfort I can without actually meeting you
I literally cried listening to this. Its such a shame that people like her parents exist in this world. Just cruel, cold, bitter and entitled. I'm so glad that she survived and was able to get out of that awful cycle.
What hurts me most about this beautiful woman's story is that she is willing to relive it every time she retells it, and she does it solely for the benefit of others so that they may find hope and hopefully never experience this again. What a saint this woman. I pray that she is receiving all the love and support and blessings that she always deserved. We love you Nina. May God bless you and your children for generations to come. Amen.
Sharing the story more and more helps her to integrate and heal. It's good for you to share your story in a safe place.
she must have relived it a hundred of times when she would close her eyes, cross that house, hear news about her family members or pass those streets.
SWEETIE YOU HAD MR AND MRS DEVIL FOR PARENTS 👿👿👿
INLAW DEVIL 👿👿 TOO YOU LIVING IN HELL😳😳😳
Watch ‘girl in the river’.. because THOUSANDS OF GIRLS ARE KILLED BY THEIR OWN FATHERS AND ITS A SICK CULTURE.. SICK..
The fact that she is still alive is fascinating. I can’t imagine surviving that kind of abuse. I can’t imagine surviving and still having a desire to live. That’s the strongest woman I’ve ever seen in my life
Lucky to be alive. Strong will power to survive.
I agree, can't imagine being able to want to live after what happened to her.
If you don’t have a desire to live, why are you still here?
o Allah, destroy these oppressors with a destruction never seen before and annihilate them o Allah for the abuse they have done to your creation. dear Allah, respond
@@mylordtakemeaway here to response, chose your own path. Stop believing in an all seeing god..
I broke when she started talking about her MIL throwing her food in the trash. This poor woman. Thank God she survived and can live her life free now. I hope she has found all the love in the world.
what an extraordinarily resilient woman. i wish her the absolute most healing, peace and happiness in her life
Everyone in Nina’s life failed her. Unfortunately there are many who can relate to her story. Nina you’re a survivor and you’re here for a reason. Thank you for sharing your story
Since speaking out I have had over 14,000 victims and survivors call out for help via my non profit… the power of standing in your truth is immense ❤
@londonslifecoach Nina may I ask if you know what happened to your sister?
Everyone didn't fail her. As usual, the non human (her dog) was a better person than the humans.
Let's not forget, it's also the disgusting culture. Which comprises of that misogynistic thinking. In order to show unconditional love, you have to be human first
I don't think her friends failed her. I'm glad she had people in her life looking out for her, be it by giving her jam sandwiches, knowing they were such a luxury for her - or by giving her a shoulder to cry on, with nothing to gain from it. They were treating her like a person, even though they were no more powerful than her.
As a nurse, it pained me to the core to hear her say that she was ignored even by one of us. How I wish I could have been there to hug and comfort her. I’m so sorry you were let down even by us Nina. Truly am.
To think people have been conditioned to be so petrified of being labelled a 'racist' we're willing to turn a complete blind eye to an inhumane situation...is it worth it?
As a nurse student that hurted me too and I was searching this kind of comment, Bless you Alexa and thank you for speaking own our behalf❤
You don't need to speak on behalf of all nurses even though you may feel obligated to. We appreciate your hard work.
I just want to let you know Nina, that I am so proud of you beyond words could ever describe. Your strength and courage is beyond anything I’ve ever seen, and I hope you’re able to get justice for what happened and that your family will pay for what they’ve done to you. Already subscribed to you, you’re such a beautiful soul, anyone that’s around you is so lucky to have you in their lives. You’re such an inspiration to me now, I pray that your life continues to flourish.
Nina, first I would like to say You are Amazing, Your are Worthy and You are Loved! The courage you have shown is astounding. I wish you all the healings, blessing, and a safe beautiful life going forward.
This is why I feel it’s so important to discuss abuse of all kinds in school. Because for so many children, they don’t even realize that what is happening to them is wrong and unacceptable. I wish I could hug this woman.
Sadly very little can be done by teachers. The abused kiddos go home and to their abusers. Even when child protective services are involved, the abuse continues. Just what happened to poor Gabriel Fernandez. 💔
This is why sex education is so important in schools
It should be a curriculum class all the way up into junior high school.
What a brave woman Nina is. I'm horrified listening to her story. Her parents; her brothers; her in-laws have absolutely no honour. They are shameful wastes of oxygen.
Jail!! Extradition.... im portuguese! I lived 7 yeras in london... and 2 years a a sik house they was cool.. police should go after her family... her voice is very important... for teachers and people from outside looking after clues on young girls...
Yet, she never pressed charges. They were never brought to justice. They and their culture will continue to perpetuate this. Because they were never punished.
@@yeseniah7373 It's so frustrating.
@@yeseniah7373 The laws need to change so that one doesn't NEED to press charges for assault.
hearing her story, thinking how can someone suffer so much in life and still seem so strong and then at the end finding out theres a part 2.... this woman deserves all the love and care in the world
Nina… I am so sorry for everything that has happened to you. I hope the rest of your days are filled with more love and happiness than you could ever hope for. We wish you all the health and healing in body and mind. You are not to blame. You never were to blame. Sending lots of love to you ❤
The fact that she was beaten at school in addition to all her horrors at home just makes me furious. As if being raped at home wasnt enough being beaten for the simple fact of not being white at school is disgusting. Her family failed her, the UK failed her, the school, teachers and stidents failed her. Its disgusting
Don't forget the police failed her and so did the hospital as well
Imagine her bullies listening to this story
Absolutely 😭
It sort of confuses me how you're more outraged by ignorant children bullying her than her own family beating and raping her. They're just not even in the same league.
@@harrydavey9884 that's not what that comment said. You are adding to it.
Group rape is one of the most horrific things that can happen to someone short of actual torture. I hope this woman can carry on as best as possible after all of this.
group rape is torture, both physically and mentally. it’s pure agony.
@@setapart2879 yeah I guess you’re right. I just have a different vision in my head when I think of the word torture.
That IS also torture.
I did not understand it fully, her dad raped her first?
@@Spiid1000that too in the hands of her father and his friends. how she is so strong after all that n more torture us beyond me. Such a strong woman
How brave you are, Nina. How good you are, to share this. I will now watch part II, hoping too that you are now living in a wonderful place in this world.
You’re so strong for even sharing this story. You are amazing. You are so strong. You inspire many.
Bless that taxi driver for helping her and staying with her. I could feel her pain when she was telling her story. The first time she felt loved was in an abortion clinic after she had been gang raped. How awful. I really want to give this woman a hug
Her family is more concerned about the judgment of others. They couldn't see their child.
Being South Asian myself....it sickens me that these horrid people use the guise of culture as a means of control and abuse. It's almost cult like behavior really. I was always lucky cause my parents and most of my local community were never like this, but extremists like these need to rot in hell. You're a brave and amazing woman Nina.
its actually tribal behaviour and its prevalent in the middle east and asia.
As an Indian myself I absolutely despise any mention of tradition or culture whenever it comes up. Luckily I belong to a part of India where women enjoy a higher degree of autonomy than other ethnicities.
@@kikisan6328all of India is messed up.
Yes
@@kikisan6328northeast?
I had to cry. I am so so heartbroken that you had to Go through This Horror, but I am so thankful you Are still here and I love you so much my sister. May the Lord bless you and heal your pain❤
She is fearless in coming forward to share her story. Please continue to speak out. 💪💪💪💪💪💪
Her family should be in prison. Their faces shouldn’t be blurred, instead let the world see their faces and shame them for being vile and wicked people. If I was her I don’t think I could forgive them. She a gentle and good human being that deserves a great life.
Well said totally agree with you
What's not usually talked about is in countries that hate on women, is how much worse or just as bad the child abuse in those countries are.
We'd have both been orphans if she was my sister...
Why do not think whatever she is saying is true? She owns a vagina so she must be telling the truth right?
As much as I agree with the sentiment, it may only agitate them more and drive them insane to the point that they would do literally anything to ensure her death. Those kinds of parents are so warped by the sense of maintaining their reputation and image among their peers and other family that being humiliated further would likely drive them to do some vile stuff. They care far more about their “honor” than being a loving parent to their children.
This is the most horrific story I’ve ever listened to or wactched. I’m in absolute shock, and cannot believe that she’s still alive and sane. Huge simpathy for this poor woman. What a dreadful horrible hamily to grow up in.
I watch a ton of true crime, but this is literally the list horrific thing I’ve ever seen/heard about. Ted Bundy has NOTHING on this poor woman’s family.
@@Paul94096i think the thing is Ted Bundy was a lone ranger…… and he clearly had mental issues…. This is an entire family!! Living life ‘normal’ and thinking this behaviour is ok. It is sickening to get your head around isn’t it!
Honestly.
There is no point of that honor killing. Those families had no honor to protect. The truth of the matter is that they didn't want their secrets getting out.
There are worse stories that are just as common as this one. In the Asian and African worlds, many parts of their cultures still allow this kind of abuse. I worked with women who had their genitals cut when they were 12 or so, the reasoning is they will remain virgins and respect their husbands because they can't feel sexual feelings. This woman's family is everywhere. Many people who practice as she reports live in Europe, especially England, and here in western US. Women are still burned to death, and in Saudi Arabia, stoned (I've been to the stoning circle) to death.
This broke my heart, I could not even watch this video half way as it is so painful to watch. Prayers and thoughts go out to you and everyone who has to go through this or has gone through it. Your bravery is really admirable.
I’m so glad you were able to speak out and share your story Nina, thought your deep scars may not be healed. You deserved to be loved like a normal young girl. I pray that you’re okay now and that you’ll feel safe knowing those disgusting people will be away from you. You are a brave, courageous soul and you have a strong spirit. You deserve the best Nina, you really do.
As a mum I just cannot imagine being your child’s bully and wanting to hurt them let alone for making eye contact and then all the horror that poor lady went through. So horrific, how can anyone do these things to a child is beyond me.
I had a “mother” like that. I was even given a lobotomy to cover up all the xes abuse I experienced. I was forced to give oral before I knew my abcs
Ladies were very brutal indeed xD
@@myman8336yeah men were so gentle and caring
because you're not a bully. Sadly, there are horrid mothers out there. I'm only half way through and already hoping her dad and the others are in prison for life
@@SuperGulzada KZhead deleted my history comment, sorry if that's out of context.. I was trying to explain how the Cultural Norms of 100 to 200+ years ago can be seen as cruel and unusual behavior today, why we shouldn't hate them all and added the often violent experiences I went through at the hands of my Female teachers growing up as a boy, how families shared a similar disciplinary mindset, and why I don't hate them for it.. Cultural Norms are everywhere and influence what people may believe is acceptable behavior.. 100 years from now, I'm sure people would view US as cruel in certain areas as well..
I’m so disgusted and angry. Not only was this poor, kind woman unloved and abused by her own family, but she then went on to be failed miserably by EVERY institution that should have helped her. Her teachers who ignored her bruises? Her friends’ parents who didn’t care that she was underfed? Her pediatrician that didn’t report the obvious abuse? The cop who didn’t arrest anyone? The doctors who didn’t file a report? The nurses who didn’t offer her counseling? I’m really embarrassed that all this happened in the UK.
Be thankful.
@@TamariZhanefor what?
Of course in typical UK fashion you will blame yourself, the cops, the system, the teacher, the neighborhood dog, anybody but the vile punjabis who did this. . Commendable virtue signaling. But that's the reason why this will never stop. Because you don't blame the right people - the vile disgusting pigs who do this to their own daughters. The vile culture that makes a mom act as enabler to her 14 year old daughter's gang rape by her husband's friends. Sorry, your virtue signalling doesn't help stop this filth. It's important that the large Punjabi diaspora is clearly told these vile practices allowed in their culture will not be tolerated in the UK. You keep with your self flagellation and you'll only see more girls suffer like Nina.
@TamariBoatner are you okay????
Sadly for whatever reason the U.K. Police and adjacent services are very averse to pursuing and investigateing and documenting cases of honor killings, attempted honor killings and this kind of "cultural" abuse which 99.9% of the time happens to women and girls and frankly it is disgusting. The change however has to start from those around us as well, this poor woman passed through an entire education system, into the job market with clear and evident sings that something was not right. I'm all for the "don't stick your nose into other people's business" but when you see someone who is suffering, even if they don't outwardly show it you can tell (hell a dog could tell) and you don't at least try to say anything you're an accessory to whatever happens next to that person.
This utterly destroyed me, I cant stop crying. I am so, so sorry this happened to you. Im so glad youre alive. You are so powerful and so worthy of love and you always have been. You did nothing wrong and had nothing to be ashamed of. This never should have happened. I know what you mean about hearing the voice tell you. For me I was once being hunted after an escape and I hid and a voice told me Be Still so I listened and I was overlooked. I dont know if the voice came from dissociation or something unknown.Be Still, dont move yet. You are so brave. You can survive any storm, complete any journey. Im so proud of you.
You are an amazing person. To have survived this and find the strength to tell your story. I worked in adult mental health services for many years. I worked on one particular project to help repatriate individuals who were housed within asylums from an early age. Asylums had been created to help those that suffered emotionally and some did great work. Unfortunately some of these institutions also serviced another purpose. Many of the people I met were elderly Women who had probably suffered similar fates as yourself; although not to the horrific extent that you experienced. Many through passion within youthful adventures had become pregnant outside of Wedlock. A great shame in our culture back then. They were labelled as insane and incarcerated, their children taken and bereft of familial support due to shame, they often ended their lives or lived them out as involuntary prisoners. Victims to an immature honour based culture known as the Victorian era. I pray your story reaches those who are currently suffering whatever their culture is. You are awesome and I pray that you find peace and freedom from immature bullies who perhaps could consider what next good deed they could do to compensate for the torture they have subjected you to. I pray both the Woman and Men of such cultures free themselves from the burden of such abhorrent and destructive ways of being. Blessings be super kind to yourself and thankyou again for your bravery.
This is how you know abuse can't be used as an excuse for being a bad person. This woman is respectable and brave. I wish her the best in the rest of her life.
Not everyone is gifted with that strength
Well everyone is different, i ve been through mental abuse, beatings but not sure if i got raped and i was a kid was very vague. What i did most of my adulthood was to erase all of this, i find myself now with a lot of issues i never been aware of, i m still clueless of what s happening with me and i at times i am mean, distant, hateful towards someone that hurts me. I just hope for love and at 28 i still don t know how to pave my road. A lot of strength came at 18 when i runned from home in a different city and i ve worked with everything so new to me..now at 28 i m very fearful to do a step again, a lot of my motivation disappeard and my confidence never existed. I am most of the times alone.
@@whointhewhat youre terrible
@@scuzemoa oh no I completely understand that!! I have social anxiety and anger outbursts and stuff. I mean like serial killers and rapists having a traumatic childhood as their sole reason for doing those things
It’s not an excuse, although it is sometimes an explanation. Nothing justifies it though.
It's crazy that her brother admitted to a police officer that he had ATTEMPTED MURDER but they said they would let him off if he apologised?? What??? I cannot imagine how strong she must be for dealing with all this abuse her whole life.
Likely the legal system just freezes up since this is a 'cultural' issue. They don't know how to handle it and these in-groups can be very secretive and uncooperative so the police just turn a blind eye. They're likely already just pretty racist and don't care much for these people and at the same time they don't want to rile up these communities. So nothing gets done. Tale as old as time.
That’s the British Police for you, good job UK law enforcement! Also, it’s cultural enrichment just fantastic? 😊
@@krischette4108 Can you imagine if a white person said he attempted to kill his sister.... Absolutely fucking disgrace this country has become.
Also, why do they even know where she lives? She said she get death threats on the daily why do any of them know where she lives?
Indian are men worshippers and to them they can use and abuse women the police are men too what do you expect😅
Her message is way more important than religion. Let's help spread her words and her strength.