How to end stress, unhappiness and anxiety to live in a beautiful state | Preetha ji | TEDxKC
If you are stressed-out, anxious or chronically unhappy; this talk will lead you through an authentic journey of self-knowing and freedom to illuminate the root causes of stress. Combining storytelling and meditation, Preethaji’s teachings help shift her students from living in a stressful-state, to living in what she describes as a beautiful state.
In 2009 Preethaji started One World Academy with her husband Krishnaji. One World Academy is a wisdom school for enlightenment based in a new tradition where the focus is on knowing oneself and discovering that we are connected to all that exists.
Preethaji is an enlightened world teacher whose vision is to free individuals of all forms of unhappiness. Preethaji's teachings challenge every justification for living in sorrow and inner isolation or unconscious psychological conformity.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
To all those watching this video for their mental health, in case no one tells you today, just know you’re not alone (a lot of us are here for the same reasons) and you’re doing an amazing job getting on top of your mental health. And you should be proud of yourself for doing so. I hope you have an amazing day, and know we’re all here with you :)
Bless you 🙏 ♥
I so needed to hear this! Thank you!
Needed this! Thank you
Thanks Michael! Bless u too
thnkuu for your kind words ❣️
Learn to let go, stop trying to control situations or people... it’s how you get rid of stress and unhappiness.
Thank you ❣️... it's what I really needed right now 😴
Thank you
Pure wisdom
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Accepting your choices and your situation plus gratitude is the answer
Is anyone here just going through the motions and feeling so alone in such a big world? Are you feeling stuck and lost as if you don’t know the next step to take ?
Yes it's me😊
Yes, same here. Combine it with toxic and dysfunctional family dynamic
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I wish all of you to live in a beautiful state, hugs from me.
Shon Shamuratov Thank you, same to you!
My anxiety, my depression, my stress 🤦🏻♂️, my eating disorder, it’s like a giant snowball effect... I’m depressed and I’m depressed because how much anxiety I have, because of my anxiety I stress, now my stress is affecting my eating 😖 I get full, not from “mmm” I mean I feel full, but I know having a bowl of cereal 🥣 ain’t enough... this has progressively gotten worse over the past week or two 🤐💭 my family I feel are too busy in their own life, to hear 👂 what I have to say, and I respect ✊ them too much to bother them to talk about my feelings of loneliness, my depression... my anxiety 🗣👉🏽🙇🏻♂️ god my anxiety is crushing! No matter how tough I am! My anxiety keeps me from being happy by making me over think things 💫 making up my reality before I’m even there in the present moment, I’ve already made it up in my mind, my cousin wont understand, that they won’t listen to me 👂😥... I don’t wish this on my worst enemy 🤕 I’m going to start believing in God 😇 I need to believe theirs something greater than myself out there, happy feelings to all who read this 👍🏽
@@johnconnor2053 we have same feeling, i always feel anxious, sometimes I don't know what to do
Love from India.
@john Conor.... I will pray for u... I have same feeling wit you...
She is right...about when we are stressed we mentally preoccupied with ourself. Nothing else matters.
Wow so true...I didnt realized I been doing this .....
I’ve had social anxiety, Panic attacks, and insecurities for half of my life. I feel as is life isn’t worth living sometimes and it’s hard to think positive. But I am doing my hardest to find the lighter side to life. I am a mother of 2. One 6 and the other 3. They are happy, loving and positive children. Sometimes I can’t believe they are my babies they are so happy and they love me for me. This is why I am here. To find support and guidance to become better and love myself.
I'm not even married, and still have experienced all these emotions on a regular basis. You're a strong woman and there's absolutely nothing more beautiful than being a mother. The more efforts you make.. The more peace and positivity be your way.. Amen.. God keep you blessed..
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Practice vipassana
😘😘 love and hugs You will overcome this because you are a wonderful mother Best Mom🙏🙏
I understand what you're saying. I too am a mother,but they are grown up. I have been in a dark place where I felt like I didn't want to be here,but knowing that my husband and kids love me so much,I'm afraid of what it would do to them. That's what keeps me fighting, having hope and praying to God for a physical, spiritual, mental and emotional healing. Hang in there.God's Blessings to you 🙏🙏
Best tip for myself so far was SLEEP and taking a break from the phone. Also focusing more on self-care. Love yourself and your body, you only live once 💕
thanks for summarizing
Can't agree more ✨
Yep need a good bed to sleep good. I hadn't slept good in over two years due to my bed which created pain on my shoulders and back and I think that physical sensation is one of the main reasons what created anxiety
You die only once, you live every day 😊
And of course you needed an Indian multimillionaire accused of tax evasion to endow you with that wisdom 🤣
"The power of peace is always within you" what a great quote 👌🏻👏🏻
Incredible
A beautiful speech by a woman who clearly lives her values. I have anxiety and this gives me hope.
Hope you are happy and peaceful now😊😇
Lucky you at least something is giving you hope, all the best !
Sending you good vibes 🙏❤️
Phil Crawford what anxiety you have.. i have anxiety too😢😢😢n depression
Hope you are in peace now
The moment she said inhale and exhale with smile .. when I started doing that I couldn’t control my tears... lots of thoughts were pumping in my head.... am stressed!! Yes am
kusuma anjali don't worry, you are not alone, I am facing lot of issues but will surely overcome them and you too will....for sure. Stop thinking and stay well✊
Manoj Rana thank you
FreetobeUs ...me too
kusuma anjali me too, i can't hold my tears. I'm here because of stress and i'm hurted of family problem i faced.😢
Omg yes I started crying too!
I came across this today and it was really needed. I’m currently being evicted from my place as landlord is selling and there is a housing crises in my country so no places to go so I’m facing homelessness, I’ve just been diagnosed with Rheumatoid arthritis,found a lump and I felt like I hit rock bottom. I felt like giving up. But listening to this amazing woman explaining as to why I’m staying in this stressful state it made sense. All I was thinking about was what was going wrong for me and not looking around at what everyone else is going through and when I stopped and did I suddenly felt not so alone. In a strange way I finally felt hope. So thank you. This may very well have saved my life. And I truly hope it can do the same for anyone who is feeling this way. ❤
I hope everything works out ❤
I try bunda arsaningsih meditation, i listen lo-fi , and I watch liziqi video when I end up stress ❤️❤️ hopefully u better. And I am so grateful u have this internet access ❤️❤️love u fighting
Sending love, light, health, wealth and abundance to you 🙏💚🤍💛!
Stay strong you got this! ❤️🙏🏽
More power to you and i hope things work out for you
Absolutely beautiful, I was fully of anxiety, hate and pain, I’ve always been selfish and self centered. Immediately I felt the energy in my heavy heart release, when I started thinking about others around me and my community of friends and family, I still have some work to do but this sent me in the right direction.
Don't try to force yourself out of stress..just focus on good and do something you love..only if you allow yourself to get in a beautiful state .. Stress will flow away.
She just made the audience hug each other.. this was beautiful.
Very powerful speech! It is so true that many of us get caught up in "me, me, me" when we are going through a hard time. This is when we should be aware of how many people are having so many more problems than us, are truly suffering. I was feeling down a few weeks ago but I went to a fast-food coffee shop to buy gift cards for homeless people, if I met any through my day. I can't believe how happy I was the day that I bought them, I feel we need to be more selfless.
I am 56 years of age. I was wondering if you could adopt me. What a wonderful life mother you are. xx
1. Observe yourself. Are you in a stressful state or beautiful state? 2. Are you engaged in the past? Or are you engaged in the future or in the present? 3. Are you pre-occupied with yourself or are you in a state of connections?
In the middle of this speech, I started to tell my mom about how I am not able to focus on things and sentences people say and my mom said: "it's your psychological problem you are always so focused on what is happening and how you are reacting to it or how much of stress something in bringing to you." I was angry that her words were just hurtful to me and felt uncompassionate. Them Mrs Preethi came to the self-centric preoccupied part. I am blown here I confess I was always regretting the things that happened to me and the situations life put me into and all the wants and unsuccessful works..but now I am after the meditation know what being present means and allowing myself to do what is right and needful at the time to focus on.
The reason for your anxiety-Whenever u are scared(you must be scared of something , and you must be wanting to come out of it ), you feel it's controlling you and whatever you think you can't do or will happen, you start believing it and then you start fighting the feeling cause you don't like it obviously , but when you fight what u believe in, it just can't happen, you can't get eid of your anxiety this way. The solution- The first thing to feel is that you don't have to fight it, treat it as your friend who is trying to understand how your mind works(Believe that thinking like this will work, know it will).This relaxes you a bit. Now, just analyse every thing that you believe in related to whatever negative thoughts come to you or what you are scared off in other words, and ask yourself ,is it even real, what do you really think about the thing you are scared off(you will.get answers here), what could have made it what it is today(answer to that is over thinking and trying to fight what you believe,but try to find natural answers, what you think happened, the fear became big cause you made that a big issue,it is actually nothing but a thought), also if u find it is real and you can do something that makes fear go (like if you are fearful of going broke, plan for what you can do about it). Now happily do what you can if it is real, and happily do nothing if it's unreal, you have understood it is nothing but your imagination at extreme work). You will get better. Have fun.
Awesome solution
@@padmanathannadason4773 thanks, it's good to know people are getting benefitted.
This is actually a part of my lesson in nursing school I had to watch this for my home work but believe me when I say she was speaking directly to me. This video is life changing.
AMEN🙏🏻,retired RN of 33yrs. to care for dying family members last 15 years. The Golden years right! 😳🙄
One of the better Ted Talks I’ve listened to. She gives the answers at the end. Quit being pre occupied w self. Me, me, me!! It’s way easier said than done. But def can be done. ❤️
I just moved out from my childhood house to live in a boarding house for college. I've been feeling so alone, and uncomfortable in this totally new environment. I guess I'm just so used to having my loved ones around me, that it feels really strange to be completely alone. It gives me anxiety, and I'm still struggling with it, especially since it effects my academic performance, but I am working on it tho. Despite all that, I'm grateful that my family still looks out to me through phone calls and texts. I hope I can finally live in a beautiful state, and to anyone who's also struggling, please know that you're not alone, we are never alone in this. We just have to remind ourselves sometimes, because we can be unkind to ourselves. let's wipe our tears, and live another day :) let's find our beautiful state and cherish it. Lots of hugs from an anxious stranger🤗🤗
That is a lovely comment. I remember feeling the same when I went to university (from the UK, funnily I lived with Americans for 4 years. Apologies if I have made the wrong assumption when you said College) I never wanted to return after semester holidays for about 8 months. Fast forward to graduation and I never wanted to leave. It doesn’t make it easier but you will get through it. Change is hard. I have just moved to a new city away from friends and family. I am having the same feelings I had when I went to university/College again. It reminds me how difficult it is. Feeling lonely. Trying to remind myself of my previous experience. I wish you the best.
Dude stop worrying about being alone love to enjoy if worrying about being alone is all u stress about be thankful your life could be so much more worse than what it is stop worrying about being alone find hobbies that you can do in your spare time find you a good friend or a partner
Ya this works for people who think they have anxiety or stress. People who have real anxiety and real stress, this doesn’t work.
To say that this was unhelpful is an understatement
Its an awesome talk. She touched the core part - suffering's root cause is "obsessive self-centered thinking" etc. So many great insights.. Thanks Preetha Ji for sharing such great Wisdom to all of us
This really spoke to me: @ 9:05 "Actions (in a beautiful state) arise from connection, not from an ideal." If you can think upon this deeply and apply it, it rings so true.
I learnt many years ago the reason for our unhappiness is the stories we tell ourselves. We sit there, telling ourselves the terrible story of how he left me and how well that persons life is. We tell ourselves the story about the people who suffered 100 years ago and get upset about it, we tell ourselves how better this person and that person it etc etc We need to stop telling ourselves such stories. I try hard to live in the present and not to take myself to places that make me sad...why do that to yourself. It's all about retraining the mind.
Great speech and she is also gifted with a beautiful and powerful voice. Her voice is full of emotion and passion. the audience are hooked and so am I. 😊
Her voice is so calming
What a beautiful speech I was able to see inside myself in meditation 🧘♀️ and was able to just smile for no reason it was great 🌈💕🇦🇺🦋x
this viedeo helped me 1000%,i have been in a stressful stress for allover 30years of my life,but got me out there to a beautifull state,i ask God to never return back.may God bless you preethe ji,u healed and comfort many of us.
It relates to the very fundamental principle of "more you look for happiness, more unhappy you become". Realizing Joy as our natural state through awareness and meditation, and celebrating it with the world is the way we all have been looking for.
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The power to peace is always within you 🙌🏾
Her voice is so calming & gentle...😘💓
the power of peace is within me ✨
Preethajis Talk is Highly Educative and meaningful It will open Everybodys eyes All the Best to her ||
When stress & anxiety are already established : Please close your eyes and listen... Appropriate relaxing music to free your mind and restore happiness.. Listen and smile... Open your eyes.... Great speech !
Comoow Relaxing great words.
Comoow Relaxing Music also doing some magic to the mind and brain....
Like the Yesme and Nome Monk story. I've heard it before. Preetha used it well. Lovely speech. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. I agree with you on so many levels. I hope by some miracle ( and it is already happening) you can change most of India and make it a safe place for women, a beautiful place which it is, a place were slavery is completely abolished and where the caste system is in our history books and not in every day living. Preetha you have a large canvas. I believe you will paint your story and it'll be beautiful. Wish you love and light always.
Thank You Preetha Ji
One of the best TED Talks ever!!!This video changed my life and solved many frustrations I had..I watch it on and on!!!
She is amazing! I want more!
As someone recovering from childhood trauma, I have to agree with the lady. Yes, my stress is caused by my parents' incessant preoccupation with themselves, and their ignoring of their child's needs, who never learned that she is worthy of everything good in this world and is now 28 yrs old and still plagued by unhappiness, anxiety and depression.
Hugs to u dear , i m too recovering from my ordeals while still being caught in one . Trust me , one day you will look back to life with a proud smile and light in your heart no matter what your age will be . Karma , no matter who it is , is capable of bringing back bad and good to the world . Let it handle it yourself . Hugs from a 17 year old ! I LOVE YOU ! AND BIG TIGHT HUGS 🤗
She gives us mind blowing explaination about how we stress free
Pure gold! Clear , powerful video. Excellent presentation. One of the best on KZhead.
I'm feeling better now ☺️ thank you for this beautiful therapy ❤️
I paused uni this year because of the worst anxiety in my life I fear failure and becoming a failure but I am working on this and will return when I am ready
All the best dear. Its alright. Take your time. Take care of yourself. Pls get professional medical help if you have panic attacks.Being a doctor and an individual who suffered from extreme anxiety and panic attacks i know how it feels. Consider yourself as a little girl who need help. Dont compare yourself to others. Your story is yours and its going to be amzing. Take care. Love you ❤️
You got this!
Hope you doing well mate . I'm also an individual who's going through anxiety flicks frequently. I don't feel like I'm in depression but my little friend circles always says I'm just being looking stumped out, and I ignore them always. But I feel anxiety to myself. Yeah, the same reason what all students goes through time
Me too..I want to study and to gain more knowledge but my social anxiety doesn’t let me I can’t stay in a class full of people and I see everyone is so happy and confident but I just want to go home 😭😭😭
Jay Wright FINALLY SOMEONE other than me. Though I can't take a break, I desperately want to because i feel sick thinking about it. Good luck on your return!
Wow...just wow is coming from my heart
Wow! the way of her speaking style
Short meditation was awesome.. it really make me feel good 😊😊😊😍😍😍 thanks ...
thankyou TEDx talks and to the beautiful session. Learnt a lot.
That's the way how everyone should speak in calm and composed manner
I loved your speech so much! How truthful it is. It described literally my state over the past two years. It helped me a lot, if even for the moment. Thank you for sharing this with us 🤩
This was so beautiful so I thank you Preetha, for sharing this process with us.
It was amazing!!! Thank you Preethaji
Her voice is soothing. Definitely a life saving video.
Gratidão, gratidão pelos ensinamentos! !!
Worth commenting, superb, great job,can't express how soothing this meditation is and how clear her views are
I am also suffered from severe stress from last 8to 10 years but I was unaware from my thought that this type of thought called stress. But now I understand such negative and suicidal thought is called the depression. But I want to cure by myself. I don't have money to consult doctor. So I want to cure by self because I have created by myself.
I feel you
That was beautiful. What a gem of a video to have found.
Excellent speach thank you so much ji
Hebreos 13:30 dice "si tienen una palabra de estímulo para el pueblo dígala" Por lo tanto, debemos animarnos unos a otros con frases que promuevan la unidad, la felicidad
THANKS FOR THIS TED TALK IM 15 and this just blew my mind
The meditation really helped me
Very impressive presentation.. Happiness blooms from within. All the power is the power of spirit. We have to lift ourselves by ourselves.
Beautiful! Thank you!
Thank you so much NAMASTE!!!😘😘😘
thank YOU !
I love stories like this.
just by doing breathing exercise i feel soooo good thanx
I love her voice especially how she says “herrrrrrr”
it a disease that many Indians contact after watching too many American movies :-)
One of best Tedx talks that I've listened to. Thank you.
Not me tearing up here This is beautiful
Hello everyone who read this msg in this pandemic situation...I know that everyone having different stress,pressure,in this situation some one lost his lovable person in this situations...I konw that condition is difficult to handle physically,mentally but remember that difficulties makes us stronger and the difficulties come towards only that person who has ability to face it...😉 so have a faith in yourself and face this situation,there are lots of memorable happy moment yet to come.....✌️😀😀
Things that we already know deep inside, reminded in a new age manner. Cheers!
So beautifully said!!
Great applause for Preetha Mam👏👏👏👏👏👏🇮🇳🇮🇳
I broke into tears during this one. I just stayed the course with the meditation and focusing on her words. Cheers to being a human.
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Storehouse of knowledge, indeed !!!
Hugs to everyone feeling this way. I am here too sometimes.
I heard this long time ago . And its helpful till today . Thanks 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Thanks for a wonderful teaching . Feeling blessed.
Lively and inspiring speech delivered nicely 😇❤️❤️💞👍👏
Incredible! What a beautiful message! And Soul of which we should all aspire!
So beautiful. What a beautiful talk from a beautiful person. Namaste.
every time I see, something new strikes me. Beautiful
Enlightening and an illuminating lecture.. bravo
This lady is beautiful, bless you and your family 🙏
So True and Real Experience
What a fabulous talk. An absolutely faultless delivery of a truth we ALL need to be made aware of. Bless you, dear woman xx
‘I am all this creation, without me there exists no other’
Great realisation for me, thank you Sri Preethaji🙏🙏🙏
Thank you Preetha ji I could feel something while inhaling &exailing with a smile
Peace and love to all the other human mates, god bless us all! May we be enlightened, calm, loving, peaceful and happy ❤️
Thanks for sharing n it was a great relief for me
Thank you for sharing and helping so many. Personally found it an oversimplification of the topic - "all your stress, unhappiness and anxiety is related to being self-centred" so all you have to do is "breathe and get out of your own head" basically. Some of what I've found more helpful is acknowledging and accepting my stress, unhappiness, and anxiety and practising self-compassion, journaling, and writing letters to myself full of love and understanding to quiet my inner critic. I have yet to find a person who can stop being so "self-centred" when faced with major life adversities, except for maybe a handful of spiritual leaders and avatars.
Preetha ji.... I've never wanted to thank somebody so much for a video they made or time invested in doing what they do. I read how to escape your prisom and now found this im so ready for change all ive ever known is pure unhappiness i honestly thought thats just a normal state. If you or anyone has some books or studies I can research I have fallen in love with these new feelings ive never truly felt before I never want to stop learning and getting better, I have struggled to stay sober for so long years in NA and sober living nothing worked ever i could get 3 4 months sober then always have to "reset" life would accumulate to much now i understand i only know unhappiness and carry the baggage of my entire life what a life changing experience
You were blessed with the ability to dig out of a hole. Be grateful that when you reach the surface and even higher, the pitts of your past make you powerful. You can pull others out of holes because you were there. If and when you shall fall again you know the way out. The fruits of life will be sweeter and you will never do the sins committed against you. If you do than I hope you recognise it and stop. Cheers to healing, from a person that lived in a pitt for many years.
I really appreciate how this talk gave me insight into having a connection to myself and introspection without the need for religion. Let me explain further: I have understood for a long time that religious institutions employ this "technique of self reflection" as a proof of god to make one feel better about oneself. The freedom of letting go of religion gave me an overpowering sense of liberty of thought. I've learned over the years that that liberty left me deprived of community and a sense of belonging emotionally. My reptilic, limbic, and cortexic parts of my brain are still fighting to strike a balance but I'm thankful that these kind of talks can bring about the same derivitive of clarity and calmness as my religious self would have been relieved to have in the past. Thank you to the speaker and how we can use science to bring about peace of mind.
beautiful speech, the words increases one's mental toughness and looking at life positively
Amazing speech mesmerized and feeling so blissful after hearing you mam