You Don't Find Happiness, You Create It | Katarina Blom | TEDxGöteborg
Why is it so hard to find that life of meaning, and connection, and happiness we long for? Why can't we just live in our "happy place" all the time?
According to psychologist Katarina Blom, the brain is not always on your side when it comes to well-being. Survival, absolutely. The rest, not so much. But there is hope!
In this personal and inspiring talk, Katarina Blom lets you in on a few secrets of the mind - and how you can cultivate happiness by befriending your brain. Katarina Blom is a psychologist, a co-founder of a gym for the mind, the first author to publish a Swedish book on positive psychology, and she is the creator of one of the biggest digital platforms on psychology in Sweden. Also, she is an Acroyoga instructor. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
who has come here to boost their English like me?
Me
I am trying:)) Did you boost your English?
@@FirdevsErsin of course It takes time with constancy commitment hardworking
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How long does it take?
TED Talks is a great place for people learning English , for listening skill. Thanks
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Exactly, its a such kind of platform that anyone can easily learn English language.
Hà Hoàng you read m'y mind
I listen only for this
Plus u will get a lesson about life and other things.
"your brain is concerned that you survive throughout this day, it's less concerned that you're a happy survivor".
This stuck out to me the most.
Wow
2:20 it's not just about positive thinking 4:20 we have a better chance at controlling our actions 6:44 diary study: negative effect of a setback was more than twice as strong as the positive effect of a success 8:00 negativity bias 9:20 happiness is a skill that we all can work on 10:58 exercise: [send] appreciative gratitude text to someone that you care for 12:24 harvard study: happiness doesn't come from wealth, fame or working hard [but] relationships
THANK YOU I HAVE TO WATCH THIS FOR SCHOOL AND ANSWER QUESTIONS YOU ARE AMAZING
Thank you for the summary 🙏🏿
Yeah, Thanks a lot! This can come in handy for my project.
Thank you so much.
thanks buddy
Had me in tears towards the end. For whoever needs to hear this, just hang in there, this too shall pass
Everything will pass. You'll be dead at the end. Don't take it too seriously and watch your own life like a movie.
Two things: first, happiness is inner, is not a destination, but how you walk along the way. Second , replacing bad habits with good ones takes time and discipline and focus on only one at a time. And don’t forget to celebrate all the tiny achievements.
Happiness is inner but there are always people around you who have a huge impact on your life and sometimes they destroy your good feelings.
@@marcingruszka4414 when u let them then they affect you. otherwise it's not possible cus they don't have how to access inside of u, ur soul just u and God knows.
@@bentorodrigues4397 how can you not.let them if they are your mother and father which you have learned the bad behaviors from birth
@@TheMcRicker even if they're our parents we can go through this storm and leave on the other side completely recovered. I dunno exactly how it would be like cos my patents were nice with me long my life. However, if they didn't,i would have probably leave my home earlier and lived on my own cos in that case death would be kindness!
you seem enlightened!!
It is the people in these Ted Talks videos that have got me through the past 5 years. I do not have anyone in my life to sit and share who i am with, but i know if i was to talk to these people they would understand. That is good enough for me . xx
I’m sending you lots of love and light ✨❤️
Be my friend if you want,I'll be around
Sending you love and prayers ❤️❤️🙏
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I learn to improve my English while watching ted talk. And. After one year, im able to speak fluently in english,i guess if i retake my muet exam, i could possibly get band 4. That's what i called systematic 😎
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I'm a Psychologist, too. And, of all the talks on happiness I've listened to, this is probably the best one yet. At least for my high school students.
You are psychologist. What if the mention happiness i don't find it? i just want to eat and sleep.
@@patrickjayerum2259me too 🥺
@@patrickjayerum2259 What? That makes no sense what you wrote. Please explain.
It’s better to control our action, rather than our thoughts. The quality of relationship matters more. Really amazing speech! To create happiness from now on. Let’s begin!
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Controlling our action rather than our thoughts is better, and it also is easier! So it suits us. Let's begin to create happiness from ourselves and we will all live better.
@@jawharagaas7434 I left islam. Im alt happier now
Thanks to her I know I'm happy though I'm single, unemployed for almost one year. Because I have family, friends always ready to back me up. Thank you so much.
One of the way how get happiness is talk like this lady, speaking peacefully. It creates softness in listening too.
Thank you TEDx Talks for organizing this and Katarina for sharing interesting studies on happiness and your recommendation of building quality relationships. Let us not find but create happiness together as a human race in spite of the challenges brought by the current pandemic. BE (VERY) BLESSED!
Listening to this talk I think will help me. I also felt my mind in ease at the end. This was great!!
When we succeed, we must not forget our past. When we fail, we must remember there is still tomorrow. When the path leads to nowhere, we can always take another path. We can make a diversion.
Thank you so much for your insight on happiness! This really does make a lot of sense and is definitley something for us to keep focusing on: Our relationships with one another. Humility. Thank you🙏
Wow happiness is a skill. That means I can learn too
As long as you try, happiness runs away from you. Only honest acceptance is the beginning to happiness.
The best talk for my current struggling situations. Thanks Katarina Blom and TEDx Talks for bringing a great talk 💕💕
This is really good i often feel so sick sick to my stomach from past mistakes please pray for me ❤️🙏if u r reading this to forgive myself and have success
You’ll be fine dear. You’re definitely not alone.
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I am praying for you. Also know that every moment is an opportunity for a new beginning. I took on being the kindest most compassionate person I am able to be about 8 years ago. I am far from perfect though I have so much forgiveness for myself and others now. I believe that every thought, action and feeling we have has a huge impact on ourselves and the world we live in. Taking this into account I strive to create a world worth living into. Obviously this may be a bit extreme for some people. Still just loving yourself enough to forgive yourself is so valuable to who you are being to yourself and others. It is powerful and you deserve forgiveness, we all do. Forgiveness will permeate into your words and actions. You will more than make up for any regret you are currently suffering. Please consider you are a valuable contribution to this planet and move forward with certainty 💗
Me too
We would have done better, if we knew better. And what we knew, was inherited to us, educated to us, given to us, by our parents, society, and our DNA. So these are the things to blame, if any, not ourselves.
She is amazing! She speaks so peacefully and helpful! I would love spend a lot of time talking to her! Great TedTalks!
When school was open our form class would listen to one of these every Wednesday and I never realized that me surrounded by all those people would bring me happiness and now I realise how much I really miss and appreciate their smiles, laughs and personalities just been feeling a bit down lately 😔
I think there are different levels of happiness and the highest level is to make peace with your mind and the rest of the world.
I do agree with you..
I like that
I totally agree with her standpoint. Happiness is all around you, you just need to adopt the right vision to see it. I also recommend Eisner Fjord's book "Simple ways to find happiness", he has similar approach there.
Wow amazing speech!👏🏻 I think this video is so suitable for young people in their 20s, including myself, who are in the early stages of quarter life crisis. In this phase we begin to question what goals and achievements we should get in our life. One of them is happiness. We wonder "where can I find happiness?", "how to find happiness?". It's all about "finding happiness". Whereas happiness is a skill that we all can work on. I’ve heard many people say that "happiness is created from ourselves, not be sought", I never believed that sentence until I finally did it myself. We should control our action not just about our positive thinking to create happiness, because if we only worrying our thought about how to be happy, it won't change anything. Let’s start an action to creating happiness by ourselves for a better life.
Wow 😳 amazing 😉 talked about happiness ❤❤
I will feel happiness only when you will perceive the meaning og life for what you have been created and what you should do and then..... Follow the order of tje creator.
9:44 her expression just amazing. Thanks for these ted. I try to make my self more pricious as i can. Thanx to katarina for such wonderfull thoughts 👍
I love her voice and her way of speaking... So inspirational 💖
I try to nurture my friendships. I try to let my friends know how grateful I am for them. But the sad thing about recent years it's not a given take I never hear anything nice in return nobody is putting the effort in anymore to building and keeping friendships. I believe that is a big key to happiness is friendships.
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Weil said. I feel the Same. People are so Cold. They don't appreciate your friendship.
well you should tell them straight foward how you feel that's what real friendships are about, being able to be vulnerable in front each other
You must be my soulmate. I have the same problem. I hold friendship in highest regard but no one else seems to feel the same. I'm prepared to give my life for my friends but when I lost my father I didn't receive as much support from my friends as I had hoped. Everyone seems to be preoccupied with themselves and their monotonous life.
I'm personally valuing friendship a lot. However, chance are I won't always say/demonstrate-it "actively" (I say a lot of positive things thought when I think about it, but I can also be isolated for long, not talking to some people I value because I just have nothing to say, etc. and they might "feel X" without knowing or forgetting how much I care about them... some others have no issues with that and we can not talk for 1+ year and next time we talk it is like 10 years ago when we were talking daily, same acquired respect... but I can also just not say all I think or feel awkward or whatever... and that won't mean I don't care even if someone might feel like it). I am not saying everyone care, far from this, some don't give a F... But we should not assume something we don't know that easily. We, humans, are very good to create negative scenarios in our head. Don't conclude on them too easily. It is OK to wonder, but if you can have multiple hypothesis, don't conclude on them, like, you can think people don't care or they care AND just don't say it. Who know? That being said, don't stop to being a good person! There are a lot of good people that care out there too. :)
So wonderful speech! She explained not just words but with action! Great Job!
she brings a lot of positivity in her talk and how beautifully and calmly connected as evident in the second time exercise of clapping..it makes us realise how even in such short interval we could connect and make people believe in you...
Wow...She places her words so beautifully...
Yep, Scandinavian diction with British English pronunciation is a great combination :-)
I know right? I find her accent quite beautiful actually.
She s got a really warm touching voice and her speech is like from the bottom of her heart for better lives to happen and thereby a better world. My sincere thanks.
One of the best speech I have ever seen :) Very inspiring and helpful. Thank you !
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Thank you so much Katarina..... I'll cultivate happiness and spread around....I think your speech will change my life because I'm a Moody person who often expect happiness outside instead cultivating it..... Thank you so much once again....
"Brain is not always on your side" Can relate to that for sure
One of the best Ted talks I’ve heard in my entire life!! Amazing
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Wow, I’m sure I have not words enough to say what’s the meaning of this conference. And “awesome” still not enough. Thank you Katarina B!
Thank you for this, Katarina !!! 🙏
That was awesome! creating happiness by taking practical steps and not only thinking about, that's gonna be a real strategy to take.
Happiness is a skill that a person should work on . That' s true. .quality of relationships,having peace with yourself, turning knowledge into actions, modesty and satisfaction, doing things that please you , music .phsical training, avoiding all what cause negative energy . So amazing and peacful speech . Thank you so much .
The best Ted talk I've ever seen! Perfect presentation.
i have learnt english for a year and my happiness comes when t understand what the people say
Mee too, you are same me, happiness comes when I can understand what they say without sub. I wanna improve my E and iam finding a friend to learn with me, so do you want to practice E with me? Iam a Vietnam girl, tq
@@nguyenthibinh7467 it such a nice opportunity to talk with you .I'm a second year undergraduate and i'm struggling to get a 800 toeic score .my level now is about 600 .i'm on my go but it's boring . would you like to care ?
Of course. I am so grateful. Nice to know you!!
How can I contact with you?
And your love story begins
Happiness its important we must create and controll it. Thank you TED x 🙏🏻
After 63 years running and achiving many things inlife When i look back we were so happy when we were 8 children stay together with parents withoot any luxries of life
Whenever, I feel exhausted I come here for listening these types of speech to grow up my spirit and inner strength. Really, it makes me happy and refresh my mind Love so much❤️❤️❤️
Great video!Everything is in our hands, so for not to regret later, we must value our precious time and everything around us✔Then it will make us happy too😊
Too good. One of the important point has been discussed here. People normally follow what you do. ❤️❤️❤️
Katarina Blom is a stunning psychologist for sure with wonderful study and teaching on the most need of all humankind; happiness! Listen, Love and Live with happiness! God Almighty Bless her and all seeking inspiration and Practicng to be flourishing all around our active zones, places, people with happiness and gifting it to generations that follow. Sorry!
This is a very good talk for me. Also hapiness depends of meaning and dream of your life.
really nice... we just work mentally by applying affirmative words than actions. action of positive works is the best part in this speech
I am literally love the way she spoke AWWWWW
Really neended this lesson right now in my life. Thank you mam and KZhead for recommending this. 😊
for just talking about happiness, that makes me smile throughout watching video, along our psychological study, we've learned that positive thinking is the main source of happiness and achievement, but indeed positive actions more logical and practical to gain happiness, due to more easy to control our behaviors than our thoughts. katarina you're the best psychology talker I've ever heard
The wisdom of this is vital to living a good life. Love it. Thank you❤️
If we make the person disappear inside us who asks for a good life, & happiness, then happiness will come to us and stay for ever.
Hello
I love her speech. I learn to English here but she teach what is happiness beyond English
Everyday, i watch Ted talk for improve my english, especially listening skill, and increase my vocab. Great talk
Great idea! I am going to start doing this.
You let me know my brain has it's own life. I've never thought like that. Thank you. From now l will make movements.
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Read the Power of Now by Ekkhert Tolle. It goes deep into this. WE are not our brains. Your brain often works against you. It's fascinating stuff really
Very beautifully put up. One of the speeches which you can totally watch to the full! Thank you Katarina :)
Thank you, Katharina Blom, u’ve helped me through a tough time.
Other times, I face an unbearable situation. I begin thinking ‘It won't work anyway.’ ‘They will all hate me.’ ‘I will only be humiliated.’ Then I think about the situations I have been avoiding. Meeting with people that make me feel uncomfortable. Work that stresses me out. Things I have been procrastinating for a while. Try to identify the actions that you have been resisting.
I can easily describe this video as live changing. Taking happiness from a mental prospective and acquiring it in action. This amazing. I am so glad and happy that i watch this video.
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Happiness is a skill that we all can train and work on. I was afraid of uncertainty even I knew that the situation would not be improved nevertheless I kept on worrying. After watching this powerful speech, I learnt that happiness can be created because it comes within. It is true that positive thinking bring us a better life. Therefore, all of us should cultivate happiness by befriending our brain.
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Thank you TEDx Talks for organizing like this dire event I watched the video more than once. we need to hear that we have to understanding the reality of happiness !!
This is a piece of great information to be a happy human, Thanks for your research and keep sharing such informative content between us...
If you really want to be happy in life, Keep the company of positive people Spend more time with family and friends Do random acts of kindness Invest in experience, not in objects --Love You All Lifecoachkulveer !!
It's very useful way to improve listening skills as well as learning lessons
Thank you Katarina for this generous sharing: showing us takiing action to access Happiness. I am very glad to visit your Gym for the mind. Stay Happy & Well.
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This is so true! I have three key questions that really get you closer too ✨
Upset that she didn’t mention meditation, a lot of people are uncomfortable with sitting with themselves but I promise when you get over the uncomfortable feelings meditation is the biggest thing to do to learn to live in the moment. ❤️
Meditation is only beneficial to refresh & to escape from reality. If you really want an ever lasting peace, you should live every moment mindful of surrounding and of your interactions with the world.
@@dr.sambudd3759 I respect your opinion and thanks for the comment, but I really believe meditation teaches us to be more mindful! Merry Christmas :)
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Thank you Only in the stillness of the mind do we come to realize True Happiness. Happiness is the center of All.Happiness is feeling without difference, feeling before the search for Happiness
Thank you for this beatiful talking 👍
I have heard about the theory of how the relationship affects happiness on other talks before, but the little clapping trick at the beginning and the end really lightens the whole talk.
The way the speaker gave the talk so clearly allowed me to understand it well. This video helped me realize that in order to achieve happiness, it is also necessary to act not only with positive thoughts. I also still have trouble controlling my thoughts and emotions which makes me sometimes uncontrollable and makes my mood messy. The speaker also informed about the idea of a "psychological gym" introduced to train happiness skills. This video highlights the importance of building good habits, especially in relationships, for lasting happiness. I am very grateful to the speaker for sharing information that can be useful for all of us to create our own happiness. Thank you
" how to be happy all life " made simple. Thank you Ma'am.
One of the best speeches in Ted Talk! May we all have a healthy new year and love for each other!
Inspiration. Motivation. Happiness. Life. I think that motivation, inspiration and happiness are principles of Katarina.
Thanks Katarina for sharing your thoughts about happiness I agree with you
This was absolutely incredible!!! Awesome job!!
One of the best TED talks ever
İn türkish: " Gelmiş geçmiş en iyi TED konuşması" Thanks
Wow... out of the blue I text friends to tell them how much I love them and what they mean to me. I am constantly building bonds between me and some 10-15 friends. I have always had an amazing circle of friends who I appreciate and care for. I have always thought of myself as someone who is always upbeat and happy and people often tell me that. But I still appreciated this talk.
Tedx works fine for me, for developing my English listening skill and for a good motivational mind. 👌
Gracias por compartir TED,me gusta tu extensa gama de temas, todos son muy interesantes y gracias por ampliar nuestro aprendizaje y motivarlos a ser mejores.
Happiness is when you understand who you are and your mission for this planet and be thankful for what you have
Thank you. Happiness is a skill that we can learn and improve if you were taugh and pay attention to.
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Very beautiful way of explaining that having a good relationships in life creates happiness of all kinds. Love your talks Kudos
This video deserves way more thumbs up!
This made my day. Negative mood to Positive mood transition. Thanks for the talk ❤
I listen this speech 10 times it's so good motivate us like this Thank you so much
Amazing, Psychological GYM! Thanks lady! Amazing concept!!
"you can turn this talk into action" by being more understanding and caring not just towards others, but also towards yourself ,i think that others will follow your example. 👏👏
Yes you must your love yourself first
lovable talk !! 💗 Thank you Katarina Blom
I very like this sentence. Happiness is a skill that we all can train and work on.
Woww she is so charming and the talk is absolutely great. Thank you a lott 😍😍
I think one of the important aspect of happiness is to understand the purpose of us being here in this life.
and what's the purpose
But Nobody knows the purpose
This was absolutely amazing to listen to 😍 Honestly enjoyed it!
I felt every word you mentioned and that hit me hard, cheers! 😊👍
The best Ted talk I’ve ever watched.
Yeah, me too
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I got a skill to trade happiness and for the rest of my life. This was my new insight into my search of happiness research. The speech was immensely rich with new ideas. For me the speech was life changing; thanx.
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Positive actions, positive thinking! Real, great, and possible.
In the mist of chaos or crisis, happiness has a different meaning perhaps a deeper meaning that doesn't rely on the tangible, unreachable, or even the impossible. Then is when you appreciate happiness more than in any other circumstances.. Excellent topic choice and content!