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On Today's Episode:
Living your life with meaning and purpose can sound like wishful thinking. You want to know that you matter and that what you put your energy and effort into, whether it's work, relationships, or building something, that it also matters.
Gabor Mate is known for expertise on addiction, trauma, and childhood development. His recent book, The Myth of Normal, looks intently into Western culture and how far we actually are from living a meaningful and purposeful life. The trauma you experienced and the illness you suffer with are all connected, and tied to understanding who you really are, and what it will take to unlock life’s meaning for you.
This episode is a deep dive into the mind of Gabor Mate that you’ll want to take time to unpack to really explore your truth, what your experiences were and how they continue to show up in your life today.
QUOTES:
“What really lights my fire is truth. I just want to know the truth, whatever that is.” [7:59]
“There’s lots of facts out there, but truth is much larger than facts. It’s integrating the facts in a picture of reality.” [13:17]
“A life without truth is not a meaningful life.” [17:59]
“Emotions are not separable from our physiology. The nervous system and immune system, [...] they’re all one apparatus. When something happens in one area something happens in the other area as well.” [51:10
“Our thoughts are in the lead, so whatever our thoughts tell us is the reality that we see, so essentially with our minds we create the world.” [1:08:39]
“In this culture the norm is neither healthy nor is it natural, in fact, the norm is making us sick.” [1:55:23]
“Giving and receiving and connection are values and people gain wealth by giving not by gathering and taking from others.” [2:21:06]
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Thank you.
@@TheRealThornRosa the 00pp0p
Seven shockers
Yeah it's kinda confusing at first glance - there are a few with your picture ...
Thank you again 💓 💖
I sent Gabor a long email several years ago, to my amazement he replied within 24 hours. It meant so much, he is an amazing human. I was a nobody, A 53 year old junkie. He was so kind. I am now free of heroin, have been for almost 25 years.. god bless him
Wow
Wow! That is beautiful to know. He is just what he seems t be. And that is comforting. Thank you for sharing this bit of info.
He is a beautiful human! God bless him and you too! ❤
Wow congratulations on beating drugs that’s phenomenal 🙌🏻🙌🏻
Patricia, good for you!
Anxiety happens when you think you have to figure out everything all at once. Breathe.You're strong. You got this . Take it day by day.
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source here
I have been having constant and unbearable anxiety because of university. Dr.healingstrain is life saver. Thank you
Where to search?? Is it IG??
I also highly recommend them! I've been using their mushrooms for a while now and I've noticed a significant improvement in my mood and anxiety levels. It's been a lifesaver for me.
Loved this. I battle from depression , anxiety & C- PTSD, I've heard were more open to natural medicines over big shrooms cured depression . Wish doctors pharma but we know why
5 minutes into the interview, Gabor asked a question that is exactly the question I was confronted with years ago when a drunk driver completely upended my fiercely independent, adventurous lifestyle. In a single unanticipated moment, my body, my face, and my brain were seriously damaged. But my spirit survived! After 3 weeks on life support in ICU, and 4 months in a hospital bed, I returned home alone unable to walk without a walker. Every bone in my facial skeleton was shattered. I didn't look like me, didn't think like me, and couldn't do any of the things I once did. I had no idea who I was any more. I survived, but what for? Ironically, it was on that journey that I discovered who I was beyond any of the qualities that I had always based my identity on. My journalling became a book (Losing Face; A Memoir of Lost Identity and Self Discovery) and the book led to years of speaking at major Healthcare conferences around the world about the patient journey and the interconnectedness of the patient experience and the clinician experience. Now I will continue with this video and see how Gabor and Tom answer that question. Thank you both!
So sorry Kathy. Life can throw us some curve balls.
What was the question?
@@timweberHB That would be best understood if you listen to the video from 4:30 minutes to 5:20 minutes (even better to listen to the whole thing!)
I love how you transcended your pain into purpose and passion 💜 good for you, Kathy
@@dianegordon5366 curve cannons,,,!!!!
Tom, this is the best interview I've seen with Dr. Mate. He was my physician for 18 years in Vancouver. He is so insightful and kind, hasn't changed a bit. Thank you Dr Mate for all you do.
It's really such a beautiful, different, humanizing take he brings and encourages us to all have on one another - to see the reality beneath the actions or behaviors! #TeamHuman #WeDoRecover
You're lucky
You are so lucky. I wish I can talk to him. I am going through such horrible situations. I'm suffering so much from anxiety.! and I didn't bring this to myself! My family and friends rejected me because of my way of thinking! I thought I had the right to think for myself! But they hated me for that! and I've been rejected suffering almost 4 years alone with no one to give me comfort! And I think I have! I don't think I know I have ADHD! Because as a child, I could never learn! and I tried so hard to excel! But to no avail, I could not learn! It was terrible so terrible for me! Because now that I have injuries solving my body! I could have worked from home and a computer! But I don't even understand the computer nothing like that I have a blockage in my brain! Thank you, and God bless you!
I once had a spiritual experience I will never forget. I was grieving the loss of my father and I didn’t eat, hardly drank and slept very poorly. I was sitting by the kitchen table for hours with my grief when I suddenly thought: “ If I were to feel even worse than this, I feel like I would cease to exist.” After this thought, absolutely all matter and all space in between the matter turned into love. Every cell in my body was love. Everything flooded in love and I said out loud: “ Wow!” My sudden harmony multiplied with a million and it was not a feeling, it was a state of being. I have always thought that I will meet my father again in the form of soul. It was a true blessing, I wish anyone who suffers will experience.
Wow
Grief is beautiful. It shows how much you loved that person. It is a reflection of your divine spirit.
What a beautiful 😍 share 😍 thank you! My step father passed last Aug 13, 2022. Still dealing with his estate and the grief that struck my younger sister is much different than the grief I experience. 😔
Sent my hairs on end! 🌜💝🌛
I am a continuous care hospice nurse. I am at the bedside of the actively dying patient on my 12 hour shift. To hear Dr. Gabor speak on palliative care is truly a blessing. Thank you for your compassion and work.
Such a beautiful blessing you are. I’m sure it can take its toll. Hopefully you also take care of yourself. Curious if you’ve heard of the beautiful works of Graceful Passages (more for patients and their family) or Care For The Journey (for healthcare providers mental and emotional health) by Gary Malkin and Michael Stillwater?
Thank you ♥️ for your kind care & service ❤️🩹
My god Its 1am here in Australia and Im going through the strangest time of my life. Im 58 yrs old male am going through a life changing experience when I thought there was no way out. I was listening to Rich Roll then was searching and stumbled across this interview. I cant stop crying. My father was killed in a mining accident when I was 14 ,Ive always felt alone. Thankyou both so much, Ill listen to this every night when everyone is asleep. I now hopefully can be a good father to my children that have suffered and are in a similar pattern to my life. I feel blessed
So sorry to read that you lost your Dad at such a young age. Remember that you are a part of your Dad (and Mum of course) ...take a look in the mirror, and you will see that you are never alone ❤
I hope you are well and continuing to heal on your journey in truth.
So wish i had read something like gabor mates book in my 30s and would have felt part of the world. Doing inner work of all types since mid 30s.now 69..some stuff 2 deep. Society doesnt want to talk about. Too late for me now. My life over. Burned out from groups therapy regression shit. Cbt you name it. Financially drained. Finally a beautiful soul holding my hand. I was and felt alone and isolated all my life despite being liked and loved. Im still trying to face a pain that wanted me dead to myself. But thank you gabor for total ok on addictions. Metaphorically of course. Always knew it took many forms. And to lift the lid takes courage strength balls and most important a connection for me the greatest healer of all. Beyond my meagre existence. Courage strength and major balls to trust in something we humans canot see hear feel or touch... Havent got what I really wanted in life and tried so so hard knowing I was deepl wounded. We all truly deep down want to make a difference. "Who am I" changes all the way in lifes journey.. Thanks for reading.
This is so healing. I’m in my 60s and wish we had this knowledge when I was young so I didn’t stay trapped in my childhood trauma all these years. Every day is an opportunity to heal and podcasts like this steer me in the right direction. Love to Gabor❤ thanks Tom for having him on.
I'm nearly sixty & I could say all of what you said about myself! But, like the saying goes, 'better late than never'!! 😍
@Benjamin D'souza remember Gabor only diagnosed himself with ADD in his 50's, if I remember correctly. And I believe he then wrote his first book wile on a stimulant medication. So he wasn't exactly a spring chicken when he started healing and when he started the current phase of his career.
@@HansenFTExcellent point in many ways. I was going to say something similar, but your statement struck me as more elegant and well conveyed.
Same here. Thanks for saying that. Childhood trauma ugh
@@ia1530 thank you for those kind words, brother!
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
Psychedelics saved me from vears of uncontrollable depression, anxiety and illicit pill addiction. imagine carving heavy chains for over a decade and then all of a sudden that burden is gone. Believe it or not in a couple years they'll be all over for treatment of mental health related issues.
Is he on instagram?
Shrooms was the best trip I had. It was an amazing experience.
bergwilly11 is the best, he's been my go to for anything psychedelics.
@@Elizabeth-gu8hxI'm in Ohio too
I did not hit my kids or use time out. I listened and honored their thoughts and emotions with a firm hand but loving understanding. They listened to my NOs bc I didn't say them unless absolutely necessary. My kids r more creative than I could have dreamed. All grown up. Dr. Mate is right.
Thank you 💜
That's beautiful , this so informitive thank you both so much❤
Would you please define “firm hand” when a toddler has temper tantrums. I need some practical applications, please, as a grandmother. Thank you for your kind response.❤
> firm hand High-level-abstraction hiding what specific behaviors?
I started to watch this video as I am a great admirer of Dr Gabor Mate. I could not go to the end, as the host is so full of himself, a perfect illustration of too many people of his generation: I, ME and MYSELF. Probably a nice person, but soooooooooooo much work to do. Keep on!
I love that he’s doing this interview in his regular house with disheveled books in the background. Thanks for staying human Gabor….. not letting the limelight steal your humbleness:)
Agreed. Everything about Gabor is so uniquely genuine, purposeful, deeply insightful & flat out cool. His voice alone mesmerizes me ❤
Dr. Gabor is one of the few adult presenters who's screen backdrop doesn't include shelves filled with kid's toys.
Realization...In childhood, I did not learn self-regulation. I was treated as property and was expected to take care of the needs and emotions of my parents. I had no dreams, thoughts, or happiness for myself. My world was extrinsically motivated. I wanted my parent's love and acceptance at any price. I did not know how to think or choose. I just kept trying to figure out how to keep my parents happy so they would love me. This is a recipe for an empty adult. I can choose now. I can learn how to self-regulate now. I can heal now.
More common than you know
Gabor's questions are so profound. I was also thinking the same question when Tom talked about working hard. 26 years ago I received a diagnoses of a rare and uncurable disease, and was given max 7 years to live. I decided to not let that be my death sentence. I turned everything around, thinking what is it I can do. Now 26 years later I am a holistic healer, a yoga teacher and a coach for spiritual change. We just need to change our perspective. Btw all my doctors think I'm a miracle. I believe this was exactly how it was meant to happen. We come here with a script, it is up to us what we make out of it.
What do you mean by a “script”?
Ali May; many believe that we as souls make a plan of the things we need to learn in this life before we incarnate to earth. So, we are born with à "knowing" of our soul how to live our life so we will be able to learn these lessons. We are also born with free will, so it is up to us what choices we make i.e. how we live our lives. This is the short version. If you are interested in knowing more there are books written about all this.
@@jaanarajahalme7045 Thank you 🙏
I’m 54 yo and I want to be holistic and spiritual healer. Where and how do I start?
Hi! Do you have a page about your practice? Can I have your email?
“Nobody is who they think they are. They are beyond that.” Well said. It is liberating to not have so much internal resistance and to expand as we age.
Am working so hard at not being the self critic who says I cannot do a Thing and just go after it anyway. Someone else can say no but I try so hard not to.
*There are two great days in a person's life - the day we are born and the day we discover why* ❤
Mark Twain
@@byronsoul1 William Barclay, lol
Your birthday and the day when you understood the biology of creation. Not sure about the significance of the latter.
I cannot agree more ❤
There is no reason were born. We just are. Their is no purpose, it just is
My parents always explained things and talked to us...They never reacted with anger and said cruel things to "put us in our place,", either... When they wante the TRUTH they didn't punish us afterward... They told us "never to do that again," and why for instance they needed to trust us as we needed to trust them for us all to be safe... and they started this when we were very small and respected us as people, not "mere children"... They ALWAYS took time in a day to TALK with us... especially at bedtime I thought I woud just offer that for suggestions to others
What wonderful parenting. I need to learn about that.
That's how my grandparents raised my Dad, I thought it was Wonderful.
Gabor is beyond amazing. His patience in dealing with this guy is beyond belief. Tom is so in his head and constantly looking for solutions in neatly wrapped packages. You need to relax dude.
That's how the modern man is raised to be. As he ages this will probably fade away.
@billfarley9167 My thoughts exactly.
Watched this on KZhead TV. Came here to see if anyone had this opinion or if it was just me.
You are so on point! I was just stunned by the responses and the questions from the host, emotionally immature is an understatement!
What a contrast. Gabor Maté’s free flowing wisdom and truth and Tom Bilyeu’s transactional thirst for information.
Yes! Well said. It was like mining for gold!
What is ALS?
This!!!
@@spicylime7533 not helpful
Yep -- "let's not confuse truth with information." My experience of this too
This is so HARD to listen to because Tom, it feels like you don't know how to "listen". When the answer is being given to you (and us), you interrupt, speak fast, go off the beaten path and don't just ...,listen. Less is more ❤️
I felt the same way. Tom's trying to insert some mini debates about something he doesn't see eye to eye with Dr. Gabor Mate, which is fine but Tom isn't even hearing him. I think it's his low cognition or his mind is too full of his own thoughts.
My mother is a covert narcissist. She made me the scapegoat from birth. I made the assumption that there was something wrong with me at a young age, not consciously, but it is obvious to me now that I did this, rather than rebel against the f*cken jerks that were my parents. As Gabor suggests, it is a matter of survival for the abused / neglected child, it is better to have some small connection to your abuser than none at all, because the horror scenario of total abandonment is too much to bare. So the child does everything in its power with hyper-vigilance to not be a burden to the selfish, loveless, narcissist parent, and they learn to do pleasing things that make the parent feel good and look good to others, they receive crumbs of validation for this performance, but nothing like what could be called love.
I do hope you have found some peace in yourself❤
@@themysticnavigator Thanks, getting there...
Every day, I find myself on the way home. Every day, I'm a bit closer to home. Where is home? It is what and who I truly am. May we all arrive home before this journey on earth ends.
Home is where one feels residence. House is what many can reside.
I’m a black female and I was stressed in the womb all the way till this day…52yo. single, single parent, as result of this toxic system…and there’s not a lot of hope. There’s faith…there’s obedience…gratitude for all I have accomplished, there’s deep sadness for having an estranged son, my only child there’s belief in Jesus. Amen. ✝️🙏🏽💜
Do you watch Sloan Bella ? She's in the same boat. Tough married that's ended, her 24 year old son may have killed on his motorcycle, barely sees the other son because of parental alienation. She keeps going, keeps running, is still a firecracker. She's bright and funny too. I guess I really like her. She helps me feel better. I just found Soul Crossings with Cash Peters and that's a new a different view on things. He draws what he sees as stick figures and what they go through as they pass from one life to the next. The JeffMara Podcast is terrific if you want to hear people recount their near death experiences. Alba Weinman does past life regression on a whole new level and Psychic Reverend Donna Seraphina is one of the best out their. She wrote about her story Motherhood to Mediumship. She lost her only daughter and found her spirit on the Otherside. Channeling Erik is another mother in the same place. I hope you find peace whether your relationship improves or not. You are still a good and valuable person. We all are. We've got to be our own best friend and work on the relationship between us and our higher self. 🫂✌️❤️🙂
I am white 61 year old and beleive we are here to love one another. I oray for goodness and healing for you and your loved ones.
Thank you for sharing
Find a support group and look until you find one you like. Our world is spiritually sick and it will take a spiritual remedy.
Unless your son has died- there is always hope. I lost my oldest to a massive hert attack suddenly 5 years ago- Ithought itwould be the end but I crawled thru very dark times. You are important enough to fight for reasonable happiess.
His voice and presence itself is so deep n healing ❤
I believe Gabor Mate's message is truly profound and has the potential to actually save lives...the world needs more of dialogs like this.
Gabor just strikes me as an incredibly enlightened, intelligent and humble man. His work is fundamentally focused on compassion for those who suffer, and the truth of what makes us feel purpose.
Amusing 00.43 Dr Gabor says in all humility " it puts me in a position where I am some kind of expert..." and in response to his question, TB goes on a tautology about his north star. The difference between listening to understand (GM) and listening to respond (TB).
Absolutely lol
I grew up with a patient grandfather, his love guided me. He never had to be angry nor raise his voice to set boundaries. Incredible example of humanity linked to a child is what I experienced and I'm grateful for. I've watched others who scream and yell like a bully at children, I've also watched women get angry at a small child who cries with frustration. Parenting is no longer instinctual, there is such mayhem and there are so many parents who were traumatized themselves. Too many of us take so called expert advice from numskulls. The masses are held with contempt and are viewed as totally ignorant and need instruction on everything.
Look at you…wise one. I am also bringing up my grandchild. Thank you Grandfather. Another little soul rescued. You turned out beautiful. Good on you both.
"Life without Truth is not a meaningful life." ~Gabor Mate
what is Truth ?
That’s up to what you think it’s the truth
Truth is Life .... Otitonaiye
Otitonaiye
Dr Gabor is one of the most authentic and wisest people I have ever seen
Where did you see him?
@@badhabit714 in an event but I know him for a while
Listening to Gabor is meaningful, teaching and inspiring, so glad that his work is reaching people ❤
I agree 💯
Yes 🙌
Happy New Year 2023 to all.💖
Parkinsons has brought the question of meaning and purpose to my life. I dont have a close knit family or network. I keep questioning myself in this respect. ❤
I'm afraid I've gone into that state of defensive isolation... worsened by the pandemic.Thank your Gabor Maté for your guidance.
Viktor Frankl said “Happiness is not to be pursued, happiness ensues”
This hit me at the right time, thank you
Dr. Gabor Mate is truth. Incredible soul. Thank you Mr. Bilyeu, I hope you know the impact you and Lisa are making with the content you both put out🪞☮
he doesn´t have a soul. You can see it in his dark, empty eyes.
Ooh, that part where Dr Gabor Mate tells Tom that your wife’s beauty doesn’t fade. Be still my heart! 💕✨
OMG Tom, with all kindness if you just listen to your ad in the middle, and then compare it with the wisdom of Gabor.. two different worlds!!
I have listened to Gabor à lot. He has profound insight, imo a mystical approach to life itself and our role and mission as souls in a human body on this earth. Also what is our calling in this lifetime. These questions don't imo go with the "american" way of thinking about these topics; why we are here, what should we be doing with our lives etc. More of this and that is not always better. Namaste 🙏
Totally!!!!
Precisely
Love love, Gabor Maté; he's an enlightened one.
💖💯
“The human is an expectation of (loving, nurturing, playful) attachment in the same way lungs are an expectation of oxygen.” You two are a gold mine and your engaged, intimate and undefended conversation is an antidote to what you identify as often missing in today’s society. What a gift this talk is; what a wide range of knowing.
Last night , right before I fell asleep crying , I looked out the window and the words “North Star “ were on my mind .. not knowing that today I would stumble across this amazing video ! Thank you ❤❤❤
I love how he says "go where you're loved"! I am the happiest person alive today! I am where I am appreciated, loved, and acknowledged for who I am. So thankful, to all the really mean-spirited people who brought me to the realization, that I needed to change --and today--WOW! I am so happy!
That is so good to hear!!! Good stuff!
Yesterday I spoke to a friend of mine and I told her that I am tired my spirit is tired I am 52 a mother of three estranged all children I am living with addictions. I am First Nations, Dealt with sexual and physical abuse from the time I was a child who I was married 20 years dealing with an abusive sometimes living a lot of the times but emotionally abusive and then physically.I have a background in traditional healing Reiki and reflexology. I have been a addictions and family violence coordinator within my community for 20 years. I have all the tools and the knowledge to help community and I have not applied any of my knowledge to myself. And I just feel I don’t want to be here anymore. Quarter of the way through this videoI’m really hoping that or maybe not I don’t know maybe I’ll find something to give me some kind of purpose
I think it is safe to say that one prominent keywords towards a true human upgrading are MERCY and LISTENING rather than conquering, mastering and controling.
Gabor is a role model to progress in humanity ❤
I have never heard such honesty and human connection we all share. How to live and how to die. Motivation in us all❤
I hope you live to be 100 Gabor.......we need you in the world.
Am I the only one who feels Dr. Gabor Mate is Bodhisatva, an avatar who has come to alleviate the suffering of so many of us in this extremely materialistic and capitalistic world, through his own experiences and wisdom? I am so fortunate to listen to him, sitting so many thousands of miles in the physical distance from him, yet feeling that he's speaking to me. 😭😇
this interview would be so much better if the interviewer would not talk so much. Please please let the guest speak more. YOU have great guests...let them shine. You can shine on your own. all the best.
somehow every conversation with Gabor Maté is showing how naive and sometime superficial but also willing to learnTom Bilyeu is
The people around us play an important role in our sense of well-being & prosperity. Choose wisely who you let in & keep a distance.
I read his book When the Body says no back in 2011; it’s exceptional and so enlightening; so thankful for all his work and his open mind regarding a holistic understanding of disease and wellness
holistic is a dumb branding word. pathetic.
Gabor's response to Tom's question was uncanny! It really highlights his depth of understanding. Watching Tom's interviews over the years has been amazing... He has so much knowledge, but someone like Gabor demonstrates that having awareness is different. These interviews are truly priceless and rare!
In the same way insight and wisdom are not part of/different than knowledge/thought
I watched this long video because Gabor usually has so much wisdom to offer. Too bad it may not be really understood, received or digested due to the dynamic frame of the host. But definitely the "infomercials" within the video are going totally the oposite way of what is being exposed, explained here. It is tragic, even comic!
Totally agree! It’s a good example of a truly authentic human being communicating with pure EGO, one speaking from the heart, the other from the head - but there is much wisdom in the contrast revealed here. 👏🏻
Agree. Here for gabor and it is almost comical how his wisdom is the opposite of what Tom is focused on!
Totally an oxymoron
I accidentally came upon this podcast very late last night, when I was just dozing off. Watching him speak was so intensely moving to me that I just had to write. This man is so wise in his words, so profound in his thoughts, that I was absolutely mesmerized. THANK YOU for having this amazing man on your show. It's a keeper.
I was with my mother when she took her last breath. She had been ready and did not fear it. It was an incredibly beautiful moment and it was a privilege to have been there with her. She is still with me. Thank you Dr Maté, for your compassion. Your words over the past years have given me a path to find my own truth out the loneliness in my life.
40:52 "that's the worst of us that gets nourished and the best of us that gets suppressed". This rings very true to me.
The anecdote Dr Mate shared about the terminally ill man eating shark cartilage - ‘you don’t need to pretend anymore’ is deeply moving - how much of our lives are totally fake / pretend? How often are we manipulated? Lost and confused? Seeking authenticity in ourselves we do need community too 🌟 This conversation is so full of true real love bearing wisdom and Dr Mate reminds me of a true elder, a wise voice we so need more of in our world, someone who wants nothing from us, a lone star simply sharing their insights that might help, may even help calm us, and above all remind us of our own humanity to ourselves 🫶 and to all 🙏
That man is 77! I would never imagine that. How youthful ❤ and that is just the simplest thing I can say about this gorgeous amazing session that BOTH of you incredibly contributed to. I kept thinking how I need to return to deep dialogue. It can inspire and fatigue simultaneously! I absolutely LOVED this and SO wanted to be in the room engaging with that pure energy and depth! Thank you 🙏 Totally my ride!
🫶🏻it truly is how amazing the Presence is a gift 🎁 Individual and Wondrous as each of us are in Every given moment… may your moments be blessed and safe to the last 🎉🫶🏻
A blessing for all.
Age means nothing…
7 is only "old" due to a toxic culture...
@Judy Winters Cultures, mmmm. Very interesting!!!! We can never rise above humans, exploration in being inquisitive. Happy 2023.😘
This man knows a lot , childhood trauma , repressing parents , unmet needs ….etc., I was one of those trying to be nice 😢,, never never angry., ( I thought)really really thought that ., then naturally came to the conclusion, I wanna make things right for me, what would a normal” person do with a unfair or disrespectful situation,,..
It takes an enormous effort to achieve this level of humility but it's really important. 👌 I am glad to have found you and your wife on my journey ❤️...
Humility -- that's the quality that sings for me when this famed writer, psychologist, thinker, survivor (etc.) speaks. He never tries to exaggerate or make himself appear more important or, worse, perfect. He's such a gift to the world. Hard to imagine that moment when his mother had to hand him to a stranger. He has the same strength. Thank you for your open, humble session with him. I thought this channel was for a small group of Uber achievers, but this opened my little head .
I share truth as top mission! No wonder I love Dr Gabor...I just need to understand what's going on...no matter how painful
“Truth is integrating the facts, in a picture of reality.” Wow!!
people who haven't had self realization say the darnedest things
Im so grateful for Dr. Mate and being able to get this information for free. It's life changing.
Thank you Tom for hosting Dr.Mate. Appreciate these interviews so much!
I can't get enough of you two wonderful, kind people. Every time I listen to Dr. Gabor, I feel happy and calm. I'm afraid that I have become addicted to his wonderful narratives. Thank you so much for opening my mind to know and learn a new world that I previously ignored. I appreciated the conversation, thank you.
......'addicted to his wonderful narratives'.....I think I am as well!! Good addiction! 😍
me tooooo hahhaha! His voice and posture always calms me down! I've listened to like a gazillion shows with him but I still come back for more to get my Gabor relaxation fix hahaha
Are they causing you pain or injury when you try to stop?
You need to hear what he says about addiction. This won’t fit in that…
As a clinician in the D&A and Mental health fields Gabor resonates as so spot on. Excellent interview skills too Thank you so much
I absolutely adore Dr Mate- I wish I could meet him one day. Just being in his presence would make me feel understood🌸
I've cured my depression by expressing gratitude and thankfulness and in the celebration of life.
When the student is ready, the teacher will arrive. Something like that. ;-) thank you
Pretty sure I walked passed Gabor on the street yesterday in Vancouver. The universe is speaking
Wow Tom you need to chill, all this money, and seeking something more as well as your future focus feels very ‘wired’ to me. Maybe you are not so? Despite this I see you are spreading wonderful knowledge to the world . This is precious. In gratitude to you. Gabor , I have only just discovered you recently . Phenomenal and profound , I will certainly listen to more
I wish I knew all those parenting tools when I started my family. Would’ve avoided many mistakes 😢 I think this should be a subject that needs to be taught in schools, so parents know how to do better ❤
True. Most people won't accept this way of thinking and being. I wish I would have known too. I did know this but I needed confirmation. I didn't believe in myself. My husband is an abuser and I didn't leave with my kids.
@@lisacurtis8162 I'm so sorry. We don't always do what we wish we did. We can't go back. We have to accept what we done somehow. We all have a script that we wrote before coming here. That means our children have their own reason to go through things. Sometimes we're put into positions on purpose so as to cause something to happen so don't beat yourself too much.
giving my mom's inner child a hug 🫂 😢❤
I used to love watching Impact Theory. I suppose i still do but not for Tom- just for the guest. I have been watching for nearly 5 years. I so want Tom to experience ego death. He's reached a point where he has been able to create his own echo chamber and rather than being open to learning whatever his guests present, he just wants them to reaffirm his own beliefs. If his guest doesn't validate his own beliefs, he verbally beats them down until they almost acquiesce or phrase it in a way that reflects Tom's views.
Gabor you are truly amazing human being, thank you for all your hard work and passing your knowledge ❤️🌹🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
I love to hear him defending right to die with dignity. Every stage of life is honorable and holistically important. Authenticity is the kay. Beautiful work.
Depression can be exacerbated by grief or a break up or some other outside situation, but depression is there even in the absence of such things. I am not sure how it enters one, but I do think, at least in my circumstance, that Dr. Mate is on it. I haven't finished watching the interview yet, but I am really hoping that there is something that can be done for those afflicted and that this is just a "this is because of this and sucks to be there". I don't know why I didn't wait to comment until the end, but it appeared that you were truly asking and wanting to understand depression more.
Gabor Mate is a beacon of light for humanity.
As far as becoming enlightened and then helping others, that is a personal calling. Some are here with purpose such as healing...being a Shaman or Bodhisattva, or Spiritual guide, but this does not equate to the finality of the journey. Sometimes, the greatest gift one can give to the collective is to heal oneself, and there is no further requirement. It's an egoic illusion to think that we are required to 'give back'. We are each here for our own Awakening, our own process and our personal journey of our Soul evolution. Our growth leads to our ascension, and this heightened state of awareness that exists in the world can be the light for others. Some people can live a quiet life, tending to their garden, feeding the birds, acknowledging the beauty of nature, feeling deep inner Peace, and they have mastered their gifts. That can be enough. When that state is achieved, when there is no need to do, or become, then there is more space within to expand healing outwards towards others. 🕉
That's why bullshit continues, fence sitters, usually hippies
I totally get why Dr Gabor says truth has its own meaning and why he values it so much. I grew up in the Portuguese fascist regime. It lasted until I was 18 and I sensed the society I was immersed in was full of treachery, pitfalls and deception but because I was immersed in it I couldn't put my finger on what was wrong, I could only sense a permanent fear. It was only after it was all over, in 1974, that I realised I had been living in an invisible matrix of lies. These lies went against the grain of what my gut feelings told me was right, and made me restrain myself in coming out with what I felt inside me was truth! After the regime was overturned and you could de truthful and "disagree" with its impositions without being punished for it, "truth" became the most inspiring and liberating principle in life! It felt like as long as you had truth on your side, you could do anything! There is no because... it just is that way, it is freedom!
Thank you for sharing your story. 🙏
What a shame you talked more than Gabor did... I would have liked to hear more from Gabor.
"there is NO because" truth is its own value...( love this)
Gabor is one of the cleverest souls I have come across. Thankyou.
You learn till you die, even death is a lesson 😇
"Truth is it's own value" indeed especially in this day and age. Well said.
What an amazing and priceless interview! Dr. Gabor Maté is an empathetic authority and valuable resource on mood disorders and addiction. Tom is among the best and most well-informed interviewers.
We are blessed to have Gabor Mate amongst us.
Thank you, Gabor Maté, for being so honest. It's inspiring and restful.
Dear Tom, I used to watch your videos daily sometimes twice when I was in medical school. I graduated in the summer of 2019, and I knew medicine was not my path. Then with the pandemic, I lost sight of who I am and honestly what happened to my life. The hypocrisy in any system becomes unavoidable once you set foot in it, unless you live with your eyes closed. I was always curious about how to be healthy and how to improve myself and others and I got lost in a system where the solution was a cocktail of pills at least twice a day. I am deeply upset about where we are as humanity and I am struggling to take myself out of it. I have the awareness but I am too tired and too burned out to even take care of myself properly. My return to your videos, I hope they will remind me of my whys and fuel that optimism that I had in my 20s and precovid, prephysician time of my life. Thank you for all your work. 🤍🤍
I am always impressed by the ability of TB to constantly delve into topics and be willing to rediscover them over and over. This makes for a great exchange here with GM.
Meeting opportunity with deliberate intention makes us the author of our own destiny. It's interesting to note that we can come from the very same family with the very same background yet can still experience completely different memories of the very same situation.🕊
Hey, Gabor! Me & you! That’s my word for the next coming year - Truth (with a capital T). I have found a new rule to life: there can be no healing without Truth. Truth is self-evident, Truth is an epiphany, Truth is recognized. Truth cannot be told, but rather it’s found. I am also passionate about the Truth, because I believe that Truth heals. Only when Truth is encountered, can healing EVER take place. Truth can change everyone individually, and the world collectively. When enough people are healing & therefore walking their path - then we will start to heal as a society. Looking forward to walking MY path & hope to see you down the road. Also, as a side note: at THIS point, I believe that enlightenment “works” on you. It doesn’t just end at the moment it happens. It’s a teacher, and you become ever evolving. Those enlightened sages in the caves are doing the best they can & are still evolving. As a matter of fact, humankind is still evolving. It all comes down to the individual & what’s inside of them. Even the sages had trauma, k? I’m starting to believe that living in consciousness aka enlightenment is just an accident. If it wasn’t, Gabor should have already experienced that permanent expansion. What a beautiful and brave soul that is so well deserving. However, pursuit of the Truth (with Love in your heart), never once backing down, breathing and posture MAY make you extremely accident-prone. My best.
I really like Tom's ability to very often see both sides of an issue or belief. Tom is so interested in hearing and learning the TRUTH that he is always open to considering philosophies that he hadn't considered or realized before. Thats one of the hardest things to do these days because so often we feel like we have to take a hard stand to defend our beliefs so that others won't doubt our self confidence or us as thinkers. Good for you Tom.
Thankful for Gabor Mate 🙏❤️
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*_Fear, The Greatest Hinderance Of Success_* Fear is the primary reason people fail, or even don’t start something in the first place. But living your life in fear will only cause disappointment in the long run. After all, “we miss 100% of the shots we don’t take,” so don’t let fear stop you from taking your shot.,
Gabor Mate is one of my heroes, for years, and I gain not only insight but a new influx of compassionate wisdom, every time I read or watch his shared work.
It sounds as if Tom is still looking for a “how” or a formula for making joy and truth his next “success” - let that all go, Tom! That is what Gabor is so gently trying to convey; the minute you claim you “know” something (anything!), you stop it… and Gabor does not have the ability to inform you into love and growth, only you do… : )
I agree. Tom has a very, im prepared for everything, i want everything predictable! Which seems to me a little bit coming from some kind of fear. Gabor is at rest and gives him that grounding.
I’ve quit watching Tom. He wants to talk as an equal to his guests, he talks and talks and I see the guest retreating into a state of fatigue and polite patience. I came here to listen to Gabor, not Tom. God, I wish he would just shut up and listen! He has a huge ego, and is unreachable. It’s embarrassing, he’s oblivious.
Live your channel. Gabor is amazing. He has literally changed my life. I am much happier. I am very grateful.
I've done this. I've evolved to know that I am okay and that I don't need other people to reflect that back to me; but I have walled myself off, which means I've chosen superficially in romantic relationships, I've not had to consider marriage, and I have no children. I would say that's loneliness. The prospect of dating, at this age, causes me stress, so I don't do it. And there it is.
One does not choose to 'be' a bodhisattva. Choice does not exist. It is a matter of 'right action'. From that place there is no 'choice'. Right Action cannot be acted out of someone who is asleep. Right Action can only be actualized by someone who is Awake, Enlightened. Knowing truth is not for some material or practical application. It exists independently as its own light.
Very very good and true James.the Buddhist concepts are profound . And need a deep understanding to "get it "..from realization not belief.
I’ve been following lots of GM’a videos and see tons of healers for 20 years l This guy..when he says he’s never depressed Sweetheart. As a HSP and Empath… My first thought was “Wow he looks depressed” .or maybe just tired because I can relate
There are two statements I have always gone back to when I get confused as to why I’m depressed or disconnected yet again or why I lost motivation, confidence, and the desire to help others when that’s been a huge part of my life. I. “I’m either doing something I shouldn’t be doing, or not doing something I should be doing”. 2. “Pain is necessary; suffering is optional”. (Anyone in recovery may have heard that before)