“I Was Engaged For 24 Hours & Then Found Out He Was Cheating” | This Morning
Michelle Elman thought she’d met the man of her dreams and when he finally proposed after their three-year love affair, she couldn’t wait to share the news online. However, her world came crashing down the day after she posted about her engagement. One of her followers got in touch to reveal that she had an affair with him. Michelle tells her story and passes on the tools and resources that have helped her through this tough time.
Broadcast on 01/05/2024
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Just be grateful you found out before you married.
good point
Michelle has such a strong and resilient personality. She deserves the world and I'm heartbroken for her. She is such an angel and I hope she finds someone that loves her right.
Michelle Elman’s writings have made such a huge impact on my life. Really grateful to see her on TV and will continue to support and listen to her tremendous wisdom. Her speaking on this has helped me unpack my own experiences with infidelity (from parents to being cheated on myself). My heart goes out to her.
Go to a therapist, not a coach. Coaches are maninly charlatans that do a few hours training
Girl! You dodged a bullet! So glad that woman contacted you about him so you could give him the 🥾 🇨🇦
Poor lady, she deserves better. She must be feeling broken. Her whole world has fallen apart. Shes clearly trying to keep it together. Very brave of her to talk on tv.
😢. I hope she find her prince charming
Well done her for telling people once a cheat always a cheat he would’ve cheated during the marriage too only sorry been found out a liar she wouldn’t do that to him she deserves better 💖
Yes, from the sound of his response it’s probably a compulsion on his part and something he could explore in therapy if he ever wants to be happy
It’s awful they were living together - makes it so much worse. How awful he went on a dating app when he was away on a business trip.
She ain’t special. Happens all the time
@@Rise-and-Shine333doesn’t make it any better
@@mary-annesade I didn’t say because it happens all the time it makes it ok what happened to her
@@Rise-and-Shine333 seems like it
@@Rise-and-Shine333 She hid him away from the public. His pic taken at the awards she told then not to publish it. I don't blame him for having a fling. After 2 years she should have been proud to walk down the street with him. I think she has the problems not him.
Michelle, I haven’t read your work but now I really want to! I’m so sorry you’ve gone through this. You are so lovely and bright!
I think most importantly, other than telling your family to get over the relationship, as soon as you find out someone’s cheated feelings you had for that person completely diminishes naturally! Without trust you can’t have a relationship, it’s the foundation and once that has broken the relationship will be unstable. She is right when you protect the children,me and my ex did not talk about his cheating to the childre! Actually quite amicably for the sake of the kids, it’s been over 12 years since we broke up. Anyone who is going through it just know that you WILL be okay without that person! ❤
She's very pretty..she will find the one!
Before I met my now husband I was engaged for a year, he broke it off for no reason at all over 10 years ago. It does change you but it makes you a stronger person. You deserve all the happiness in the world, it’s his loss x
What a lovely woman ..what a Dog he is .
That is horrible cheat is nasty
This lady is amazing, thank God this guy fumbled she deserve better💯
she is very wise! and all the comments saying, she’ll find someone… not the point, she is complete by herself, as we all need to be.
It must be awful for her.
At least she found out at the start of her engagement.
Annoying that she got cut off just as she was making such a good point!
She got a lucky escape. Never take him back. He's sorry he got caught.
What an incredible lady ❤️
Don’t have him back!
You can tell she’s gonnu take him back. She hasn’t said it. So in the back of her mind it’s not over. Give it a few months. They will be back together.
Wow, why are all these comments so horrific 🙈
Some people are deeply troubled.
Absolutely beautiful woman, His loss!!
Keep that ring and sell it boom... treat yourself : )
he got caught lacking, rip my dude
I'm here to be the one normal person in the comments😂
you wish.
Sad story but Cat’s dress is absolutely gorgeous.
Michelle is a Warrior
life coach, heal thyself.
I can’t believe her fiancee Ben had cheated on her for another woman just 24 hours after he got engaged with her
He didn’t cheat 24 hours after the engagement. He did it before the engagement, but she found 24 hours after the engagement.
When you think it's too good it's because it's not, unfortunately.
She’s still protecting him?
it gives me ick when someone describe themselves as emotional intelligent and smart
But she is? So why should she downplay it? I know I'm a good writer for example, should I be afraid to say it...just to avoid giving other people the "ick"?
Why do they have a coach on here instead of a qualified therapist?
Ben shepherd looked bit tired 🙈
Think I would be when she's ranting 😂
@@nyallsmith320how is she ranting
Sounds like he wanted the limelight, your success made him feel unseen, this happening gives him attention and visibilit particularly your expose on live TV. Maybe he secretly wants the limelight or feels overshadowed by you.
😅 limelight how? The only reason she discovered the cheating is because she showed his face for the first time when she announced the engagement. He got no "limelight" from their relationship
My thoughts also , he probably felt overshadowed, hiding one's significant other wrecks havoc on the person supposedly being protected. I say lucky escape on this one .
😢
Didnt look too put out about. It ben shepherd looked bored 😂
he is boring
That was his sympathy face.
Winnie Wallace.....So who cares.....Dump the geezer, he's just behaving like a lot of cheaters do . Can't honestly see the point of her being on the show.Its just another poor me gripe.
Im so sorry, i think the poor girl the ex bf family liked her pressured him into marriage yikes. Girlfriend, there are more fish out the sea embrace your single like coco chanel et freedom
This has made it to the news...
It’s a magazine show not news
I'm interested to be fair...
clearly tickled your fancy as you clicked on it and watched it 🤷♀️
😂🤣🙃 Is this something new? Does she want a sympathy card? Welcome to the real world. She has exposed her personality traits. A life coach does not make her special or a genius in any relationship, without a mature life experience. She has a lot to learn it seems. People lie all the time.
No marriage, no real 'commitment'.
You're beautiful :)
Why does she care doesn't mean he loves the other women men are designed to have multiple sexualities partners and that's why we have urges I'm sure he still loves her
The issue is that it's disrespectful and hurtful. Men & women cheat, and men & women are scared to be cheated. I have not heard of evidence that it really is in men's nature. And if it is in nature, that it's somehow just men's and not (some) human's predisposition to be explorative in general. Also, note that the reason people cheat is often because they feel insecure, want to do something forbidden, dissatisfaction, etc. We're simplifying the issue if we just put it down to 'men's nature'. I could see the logic if that is really in 'men's nature', how he tried to conceal it, as just a fling that he played around with(though as stated in the video, he texted with the girl he cheated on even after) and not something serious, and that he still truly wants to be with the woman in this video. But it doesn't mean she will not be hurt by that, of course she will. Any guy in her place would too, unless it's something a couple agreed upon earlier. He could've told her, but he probably thought that she wont hurt if she doesn't know. The guy is probably polyamorous(should've told her when he found out), or is putting band-aid solution on something he could've resolved with someone he must've said he love and respects. He's in the wrong for cheating, and that's the fact of the matter.
Maybe she does not want any germs from men who cheat or maybe she thinks she is special, ask her why?
Borinnnggggghhgg!!!!!
A man can't have an affair in peace any more. We are done 🏴😂
takes two to tango, hey michelle
He can tango alone. 😂
He certainly can, free of the overbearing lifestyle and misery she gave him
@@twinpotracer He wants her to take him back. Clearly, she wasn't overbearing. His loss. 😃
@@natashadickson4819 no, he does not..
@@twinpotracer 😃😃😃
"I fully back myself.I'm an emotional intelligent,smart switch on person" My partner so want me back, he said talk anything on the program, I'll await as your the best thing on my life. You're certainly not humble and seem of average intelligence.
Nothing you wrote made any sense and your use of grammar is terrible. You want to comment about the intelligence of other people? LOL
sorry but this happend to almost everyone..you were not married yet..its normal cheating..move one..tell it to friends..not TV..laaaadyyyy..he was ashole..u will meet more of those on the way..
This is news?? This happens to a ton of people!
What the world needs now is love, sweet love ❤️
It's because she works on the show, and is often on the show giving advice to people. As a life coach who works on the show, it makes a lot of sense to do a segment where she talks about her recent experiences and offers advice to people who are also going through heartbreak.
😅😅 it's wild you think this is the news😂
It's not a news show. It's a talk show.
Who is she? A life coach gets cheated on…. lol and couldn’t see any red flags don’t invest in this person you’ll get cheated on but feels the need to come on a live morning show but wanted to protect the man as she loves him so much something not right here… people are gullible as f
Why you telling everyone
I wonder why he cheated on this narcissist?
Why is she a narcissist? Do you know her?
@Rise-and-Shine333 You can tell she's a narcissist in the first few seconds of this interview. Also, the claims she kept him out of the spotlight for his protection is something a narcissist would say. Also, she keeps self-promoting by plugging her books. And going back to the point of keeping him out of the spotlight. What spotlight does she mean? She is not an A-lister. I didn't even know who she was or still know who she is.
@@joekerry741 maybe you could use the term narcissistic. Calling people narcs online without much evidence at all says more about the person calling another a narcissist which means to have a personality disorder. Theres a huge difference between being highly narcissistic and being a narcissist and being disordered. And whilst that may not seem important it absolutely is. Dont get me wrong she may well be a narc but we don’t know her therefore it’s safer to assume they have narcissistic traits which we all have.
He cheated and now he wants her back. She's not the narcissist. 😂😂😂
@natashadickson4819 He cheated because he wanted to have some control, Subconsciously he wanted her to find out
The host are bored
I agree, and they are cringing when she is talking about herself being a public figure and telling the paps not to take his picture to protect him but now she is sitting on national TV spilling her private life.
@@vimtorules she is talking over them...which doesn;t show many life skills. (and does not shut up) BTW who is she??
@mimig6511 a life coach / relationship advisor from ITV This morning and author of I'm Wiser .
@mimig6511 they are interviewing so she is supposed to be talking 😊 if you're not interested, then just click off the video 😊
@leahlovesroses I watched it live, and I was interested and curious re her behaviour/ language, which enabled me to reach my conclusion .
Hilarious! Her a relationship ‘expert’ lol. What makes HER an expert anyway for goodness sake!
Exactly, she's not even a therapist. Anyone can be a coach
She did a feature a week ago on how to dumb a friend on This Morning. They're short on people appearing on the show.
If it was a one night stand and not emotional infidelity....does it rly need a break up? Couldnt she be patient and gone for councilling?
yes
@@sarahharris2729 do u know how many couples get counciling and continue when this happens.
It's her decision and she also said he's been cheating with multiple women.
@@CrystalRuby92 i didn't say its not her decision did i? Im asking do u have to break up 'a good thing' over this immediately?
@@scartwright9350 nobody said that you do in general. Not even Michelle did. But you're commenting under this particular video, so I assume your referring to her particular experience. And she's made her decision and again, in this case it wasn't even a one time thing, it was multiple times. That's not worth fighting for, no matter how good.
Oh shes driving me mad, what is she on about, i cant listen, full of herself. Couldnt have her as a life coach id be stressed out listening to her 😮
@kitkat7491 me too lol !
Isn't she awful?! No insight at all.
Did he get a word in? She over talks the issue. He was a rat but I think she is overbearing to the extreme. I now have a headache and she is a name dropper. 😂
@@catrescuer I had a headache too! 😫
I wonder why he cheated on this narcissist?
She loves the sound of her own voice. There is always two sides to every story. She took him to James Bond premier and asked the paps not to take his picture to protect him...cringe. It's a story about me ...me me me me me. Just a hunch, but was there a boyfriend?
I thought this! She's so irritating
No there isn't two sides...theres a cheater and someone who is being cheated on...there sorted it for you.He wants her back and shes saying "so long farewell...moving on up,moving on free,time to break free..." ain't got time for cheaters and liars but obviously you have ? maybe its because you are one ? liar,manipulator ? You need to go away and think about that.
@upendasana7857 There is his side. I just don't blindly believe her.
@@upendasana7857 what are you talking about 🤣🤣🤣🤣
People’s perception can be cruel 🙄 a cheater is a cheater, I hope you find your forever person, keep being strong 💪
Sorry but your health might of put him off
?!
He wasn't put off. He wants her back. His loss. 😂
A life coach!!!!! What a joke if you cant even control your eating!
What the world needs now is love, sweet love. ❤
Thats a wild statement,wow!
Enjoying your life and being successful is more than being a certain weight my friend.
@@lizziewalsh275 Well said.
Help me understand why women are so intent on monogamy?
To raise kids
Why are some men so intent on lying about being on board with it?
You must be the cheating fiancé @dkleinm
Help me understand why men need validation from multiple woman?
@@Rise-and-Shine333 not sure all do but low levels of polyamory shouldn’t break up a relationship or an engagement.
This is so sad I don’t feel sorry for her maybe he didn’t like you because you’re you’re not healthy with your size maybe get too much about your career and paid him no mind
Because he didn't know exactly what she looked like when he matched with her, when they got into a relationship and when they got engaged, right? 🙄
What a nasty hurtful comment
@@camellia8625 thank you you’re such a doll. How can somebody be a life coach? And not know what’s going on and their personal life. BS
It's not her size. Why was he living with her? No one forced him to be there. And making plans to marry her? No good. Glad she found out before marriage. He needs to get his own place. 😂
@@tangiechapman6219 life coach doesn't mean omniscient. The fact that she ended the relationship quickly after she found out shows that she's about what she says she is.
This is like SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO F..king boring, couldnt you guys bring Oli London on instead of her. He would have been better to listen to
Red flag…red flag…you bet..I would never take advice from someone who gives advice after they admit they used a dating app to meet someone..move on and meet someone in a social environment.
A bit backward aren’t you. It’s 2024
We ALL USE dating apps unless you're 80! 🤦♀️🤣
@@teaacustardcream2868And look who that turned out for her…
@@kitkat7491If you love a potential stalker..then fill your boots.
@@teaacustardcream2868Proof positive…no one is always as they seem.
Cat deeley face looks so masculine. She used to be so pretty😮
She looks fine to me
Says the person with no photo
Welcome to the age of oversharing. 🥱