How to Achieve Ultra High Performance | Dr. Michael Gervais on Impact Theory
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Over the years Dr. Michael Gervais has helped Super Bowl winners, Olympic gold medalists, Fortune 500 companies and more dominate their field by molding their mindset into that of a high-performer. His insight on the psychology of recognizing and executing in high-stake moments has made him the go-to guy for anyone wanting to win at a higher level. Co-founder of Compete to Create Dr. Michael Gervais, explains what it takes to lock-in own the moments that matter on this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu.
SHOW NOTES:
Michael explains why he believes every great change starts with pain [2:40]
Michael talks about building relationships and balancing accountability with love. [7:55]
Michael shares lessons about nurturing relationships after a tough experience with his wife. [13:20]
Michael and Tom discuss training their emotions and the greatest fear of modern times. [20:53]
Michael breakdowns the process of building self-awareness. [29:18]
Michael tells the experience he gained while helping youth over the years. [32:34]
Michael reveals the impact he wants to have on the world. [39:14]
QUOTES:
“The reason we grow is because we get uncomfortable and we embrace being uncomfortable.” [2:50]
“Being honest with the pain that we feel is usually the prime mover for people to do the work that is necessary to push to the edge.” [2:55]
“From clarity, we can train our mind to have conviction in stressful environments.” [11:55]
“It's vulnerability that is how we train emotional capacity. The more that we become vulnerable and demonstrate the courage to do so, we expand our capacity to feel.” [24:12]
“In the present moment is where all things high performance take place. That's where love happens. It's where relationships and the fabric of relationships are strengthened and revealed. It's where our glimpses of wisdom and potential happens.” [39:28]
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Wow, the most impactful interview yet for the stage I'm at: Let yourself and others feel the pain. Push your emotional agility through being vulnerable. Love others, but don't give a shit about what they think about you. Condition and training your mind through mindfulness/being in the present.
'The reason people change is because of pain; the reason we grow is because we get uncomfortable'. 🙌🙌🙌🙌 Loved this! Thank you Tom & Michael!!!
Tom is a masterful interviewer. He asked the follow up questions that I was literally thinking. Appreciate you sir
100% Agreed.
Should you become an interviewer maybe? =)
He’s been pretty good at that in general, but in this one he truly nailed following the rabbit-hole his guest led him to.
genuine curiosity. And not the scripted pre-planned questions with zero follow-up that you would generally get on a typical interview. Just a genuine honest conversation going on right here.
Every question he asked word for word ? You thought of ? Or are you just exaggerating ? 🥺😂
Tom you are saving my life, thanks for all the programs, interviews, wisdom shared by ur guests and you being the medium to provide that light to show a new and better more healthier path in the life of the people who watch the show, you r a great human being, God bless you
This man Michael Gervais just walked onto the show and dropped nothing but gems for 40 minutes straight. I'm absolutely moved and renewed.
The fact that both are hosts and there is a good relay of questions for each other is awesome. Many facts has been stated here. Thank you so much Tom!
I have to say this is one of my favorite interviews, I got into Dr. Michael Gervais' podcast because a friend of mine completely changed his life in the last year. He attributed his mental change to Dr. Gervais, which got me listening to him immediately. And currently I've kind of hit rock bottom, or at least that is what it feels like to me in my career. It definitely has me in a very uncomfortable place, great to hear it's okay, and that it can be the driving force to get me to my goal. Thank you @Tom Bilyeu!
05:30 Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional
Siim Land!?
I agree that pain is an inevitable experience and suffering is an optional i.e. Suffering is why me, what did I do wrong to cause this pain? etc
Argue that with Buddha
SHEESHH
I agree with Siim Land on this. From my experience, it seems to me that mental and physical pain is completely unavoidable if you want to do anything worthwhile in life, but you have a choice whether or not you become a victim and suffer from the pain. You will experience the pain no doubt. But you can choose to feel sorry for yourself and cry, and be in misery and be a victim. Or you can experience the pain, and say OH YA, THAT'S GROWING PAIN, AND DAMN IT IS GOOD! Pain should become your good friend. Of course, it takes time and conditioning to gradually improve your ability to choose otherwise and stay in a good place, but it is completely valid and true.
Your interviews are so good that you continue to make your guests dive deeper than they had planned. I love it.
Really powerful ...such a heart centered guy too ...thanks Tom💚🦋
I love this episode. Mike is thoughtful and thought provoking. Love when I can learn about mindset and I love that he connects it to emotions. Going to have to either watch it or listen to the podcast again 👌🏾👌🏻. Thanks Tom for your constant hard work!!
At 27 minutes - yes. This is what I needed to understand about how my brain works. This is the lesson I've been looking for. I've thought for a while about training physically and how training increases lung capacity. But I haven't quite figured out how to train my "brain capacity" to handle strong emotions. I've also been trying to do a lot right now and I have a "fear of overwhelm" which causes me to take steps backward instead of forward in my goals. I want to train my brain to maximize my potential even when I feel overwhelmed by all that I'm doing. Thank you!
Gathering of Lines trying to do the same. more power to you!
I always expect to be inspired and moved to greater standards when I listen to an IT episode, and I am still blown away just a bout every time, by the variety of greatness you introduce me to. Thank you. I am so on board with this mission! Much Love to Michael, Tom, and everyone who helps put this show together and everyone listening/watching with intention to have a positive impact on our collective experiences.
Yes!!!!! Tom, his team, and guests are in a league of their own. How fortunate are we to be able to consume such life-changing content?!
Mind BLOWN
Agree 100%!
Word! ❤🙌🏻✅
Tom! Every time you say that something hits you hard you literally steal the words from my mouth... this was an emotional one for me. Thank you!
That was one of the best interviews I’ve seen so far on the channel. Thanks for doing that 🙏🏻
I enjoyed every minute of this interview!!!Thank you so much for all the effort,my way of thinking changed a lot.Please I’ll be grateful if you add an Arabic subtitle!I’m addicted to these mind-blowing interviews and I want to share it literally with all the people I know especially Arab people! They really need to see that,there’s not a lot of people teaching these things in my country (for free),I’m sure they will get a great benefit of your channel for better way of thinking and a better life!
I really love how Tom listens carefully without interrupting whenever the guests speaks.
Yeah, that's an amazing skill, especially when you have nothing to add to the smart thoughts.
@@champtech8755 nothing to add? Bruh
I'm really learning how to listen to people I disagree with here. Value on several layers.
True. So many interviewers always interrupt. Quite annoying.
@@catedoge3206 , It sounds like Champ Tech gave a backhanded compliment.
Thank you so much for sharing this Tom!. You’re awesome bro. Trained awareness is so powerful. Opened so much on my creativity and emotional control. Dr. Michael has some intense thoughts here.
This is one of the best interviews I have ever seen.
THANK YOU TOM!! Your channel, vision, passion, and reason of being is giving me more clarity, understanding, and motivation so I can push towards my internal and external goals to become the best version of myself. I can't thank you and your team enough. Much love brother! Stay Legendary!! See you at the top!
I think I've already watched this 4x today. It's everything I needed to hear. Insight after insight, ideas I've been contemplating for some time. Definitely got some clarity.
It never ceases to amaze me how often I can be amazed when I eliminate expectation. Excellent interview. I never heard of the guest prior to this segment. Dr Gervais thank you for your wisdom and insights. Tom! Thank you for your craft and commitment to share knowledge, insights, and wisdom with the seemingly singular purpose of making us all better human beings.
Tom: I've heard several interviews with Dr Gervais, an this was the best by far. Your questions got him to meaty examples, rather than too much psychological high brow conceptual information. You do a great job framing introductions too. BRAVO! I'm a new raving fan.
I have to say this guy is amazing!! I love the way he responded your questions & the way the interview went on ^^ I could have listened to your interview for hours!
30:30 best way to put mindfulness!
This one surprised me quite a bit, I came expecting information on how to stay focused and efficient with time but left with so many jewels on fostering relationships. Job well done! I really enjoyed the section that got into Dr. Gervais marriage reconciliation when he discusses how to make those necessary deep conversations happen. Tom does a great job at hearing what the guest is coming to say, but then also making sure he finds something in their speech that makes it personally applicable to himself (and thus, the audience). I have yet again been introduced to another great leader out there in Dr. Gervais and will be leaving this will many more notes taken. -Isaiah Young
Definitely at the top of my list for favorite guest you've had on the show Tom! So much value in one centralized place. For that, Thank You! Impact Theory is hands down doing that... IMPACTING! Like if you agree
Love that! Glad Michael resonated!
This was a great interview and very helpful and insightful. Another great interview Tom and well done to this team for finding this gem.
One of the most insightful talks I've heard this year. Will make sure to share this with those i think will also benefit from this!
"Finding clarity in the mess and discovering life through a new lenz so you can live in abundance" is the foundation of my book "Hot Mess to toally blessed". Truth is I wouldn't have that book if I didn't go through the darkness. Im an avid believer that we can not know what Good is if we never go through the bad. We wouldn't know what bad is if we never experienced anything good. Im now in state of "knowing" that everything has a purpose and lesson for each of us. Pay attention to all the aigns. "Knowing thy self" first and getting clarity on who we are, why we act and react in all situations, and how we overcome, will be a reflection of our experience in this life. Tom did another great video! Loved this. My mind expanded and my heart felt appreciation. 💕❤ much love
How are people thumbs downing this?!? So rude. This guy is phenomenal and Tom is an amazing interviewer. This is such a powerful interview
Wouldn’t say it’s rude, it’s just a button on a screen
Hapiness and peace of mind is realizing that others think differently to me. That what is meaningful for me is meaningless for others.
i've disliked 5 videos on this topic over the last 30 mins. those were a waste of time. just people pimping out paid content or adding filler to their videos. thankfully this video is better
I’m sure they were all mistakes. 🤣
The interview has enough utility that i too like it. But I can easily think of reasons that people would dislike it (ratings wise). One reason would be a distaste for how he spoke about research articles on "mindfulness" becoming more numerous and somehow "proving" the validity of "mindfulness". However, as he himself says, meditation is a practice that is thousands of years old. Also, the practitioners from thousands of years ago were scientists themselves of the mind, therefore the research has already been done, the benefits are already known but the work was carried out by the Asian branches of the human family and not the Western branch; and the recorded results of the research lived, outlined and depicted in a way that is not the way of academic research. The results and investigations were recorded in organic religious practice, in stories/scripture, etc. To speak about the West carrying out its research on mindfulness/meditation as the "real" research is very problematic (to be polite about it). So, the above is just one reason to give a thumbs down, people being the complicated things that they are, we can expect that many more reasons (thoughtful reasons, not just dislike for the sake of dislike, or as you chose to put it, "so rude") exist for dislike of the video.
love this. He is deep and has some really great insight. also he i s nice to look at!
That was am amazing interview Tom!! Love it! Still taking notes.
Loved every second of this interview. Thank You!
These last two episodes have been amazing thanks Tom and the impact theory team!
Incredible guest with such impactful insights! Wow: “...being honest with the pain we feel ...” Right On. Thanks for a great show.
This is really great. This channel is a blessing for me. Thanks Tom and the team from the bottom of heart to produce this kind of show. God bless you guys.
The first time i saw this interview in 2018 did not impacted to me that much, 6 months from there now in 2019, i feel so much respecto for Michael Gervais. Thanks Tom and Mike.
FOPO = FEAR of OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINION. LOVE IT
Thank you both Michael Gervais and Tom Bilyeu. We want to experience all emotions but not lose ourselves on them. That was awesome. It was healing to my soul. Wow.
Another GREAT SHOW! I look forward to attending an episode live in the studio.
"your mechanism to survive is stronger than your will to thrive" man that hit hard
I love this show so much! Thank you for keeping me on track and adding inspiration to my days.
What a great episode to begin my day with. Creating more mindfulness, awareness and wisdom today. Thanks Michael, and Tom.
Great Information, Espeically around the 22-minute mark, I keep replaying that section to really let things sink into my brain, what's strange is I also keep hearing the song I'm working on play in my mind at the same time, not sure why that's happining but I know enough to allow without questioning too much and just observe..... Thank You Tom, Ciao, ALDO
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!!! Michael Gervais is a gift and I love sharing his knowledge. This link has already been sent out.
I think this is the most insightful Impact Theory Video I've watched yet. Keep it up Tom!
Great talk! Thank you Michel and Tom 🎉
Thank you, Tom! Just thank you!
Awesome Interview. Thanks for your work!!
Wow, that story about the Seattle Seahawks player and his team around him made me cry. What a beautiful thing!
Thank you so much Tom, for giving all these for free. Whenever I feel low, I come here to enlighten me.. Thanks again, you are a wonderful soul.
I can’t say enough how thankful I am for the enlightenment, motivation, spiritual, knowledge that comes from Tom’s interviews. May God continue to bless you, wife, family ❤️❤️❤️
I needed to hear this. Specially the part about nurturing relationships. Thanks for this 🙏🏽
I feel a second charter is needed, this one was incredible Tom! Thank you very much
This is one of my most favorite interview. Thank you. I'm deeply touched.
Wow this was simply awesome ! Tom you are such a great host ! Kind and intelligent ! Much love your way 💕
I'm enjoying watching this so much! That comment about making decisions for both of us, rather than just me, locking arms through really challenging times, that was impactful for me.
My life goal is to appear on Tom's show, to experience his introduction. Must be a better feeling than winning a Nobel 😜 Actually, the goal is to do stuff worthy of that introduction. But yeah 😁
That really hit me hard - like OMG
Mine too! But like you I know I have to earn the honor of being on this great show! Good luck!
Isn't that the truth! A worthy goal indeed :)
@@fckem1000 that's funny
Mine too :)
Thank you for all of this content. Motivates me everyday to hit the board room Like a champ and a boss.
It’s all about the work in the relationship. Thanks for this reminder of letting love win 🌟🌟
Loving these amazing people! What a blessing to be alive now!!!! Thank You Tom for all of your amazing work! I can't tell how excited I am to show you what I have evolved because of you! Thank You for making your wife smile...You better BELIEVE I will get one of your BOMBSHELL Intros!!! xoxo Sheri Morgan
Thank you, it was an amazing interview!
SO FREAKING GOOD! As always... Thanks Tom!
FOPO - fear of other people’s opinions. So true! Something magical happens when you stop worrying about what others think about you and start doing YOU.
Thank you so much Tom for sharing it’s really true be present
I love Dr. Michael Gervais! He's the right guy to go for a couple of friendly beers and change your life forever.
THANK YOU thank you!!! THIS Dude (saying it with complete respect and admiration) is BRILLIANT!!! We need as a humanity in the Western Culture a whole curriculum integrating what this man is speaking about into the educational system to teach our little people this stuff. He articulates in a way my soul/spirit and humanness can hear! THANK YOU!!! Just like Dr. Joe Dispenza. He allows for all of our humanity to 'come to the table....'
Absolutely amazing interview thank you both!!🎉
This interview changed my life
I was a original member of Finding Mastery w Dr Mike and followed Tom early on. As one with an empty mind, you both inspired me when I was experiencing ‘the dark night of the soul’. Much gratitude. Ricky
Amazing interview! Sharing it to friends and more!
Absolutely stunning interview. Thanks!
This is just amazing great guest great conversation and Tom really man keep up the great work.
Nice talk. Thank you!
Thankful to hear your talk in regards to controlling your thoughts. I have a 6 year old on the Autism spectrum that I try to teach mindfulness and controlling his thoughts, otherwise he is over run with anxiety. I understand it will take time with his age and Autism, but I do believe overtime, he will have better control and develop resilience to his overwhelming emotions. I sure hope you can get a program into schools. In Canada (BC specifically) they are teaching the Zones of Regulation and it is an excellent start. I think High school men, specifically, would really benefit primarily from your approach. Thank you for working hard at your purpose daily!
Superb interview and valuable take away points shared by Michael, applicable in daily life.
Tom = hands down the best interviewer on social media
I love your channels so much! It has helped me to understand myself better and seeking self embetterment. I want to do what you do.
Love his explanation! Many ppl doesn't willing to do the work together and be faithful. Armed lock and play in the football tricks!!!
This guy is INTENSE. Awesome interview!
Amazing interview thank you Tom and Michael
Thanks learning a lot🙏 Love two pillars Awareness and Wisdom 💕working on them. Thanks 🙏
one of my favorites so far
Alot of emotional stability geared towards oneself, sensitivity & rediagnosing ones own perception.thanku
This episode was depressing,,,,, sooooo short. Wow what a great wealth of information. I was hoping you will say will continue in the next episode. Thanks Tom again and God bless you. (I know you don’t believe in that but still, the best wish I can offer)
Tom! What a way to introduce someone, awesome 👌🏽
Great interview! I’ve realised that everyone keeps referring back to the present moment. Every time I get very still I realise my thoughts are focused on past or future as in 24/7 all day long. Whenever I stop my thoughts continue. I’m now really learning how to detach from the thinking person and just be here. It’s actually fun catching myself when I fall out of the moment and go in my head. Thanks Tom 💖
Great interview. More good stuff. Thanks man.
You absolutely need to get @DanPena on here and interview him! Please I would love to see that episode
your channel is a blessing
Thank you!
So good thank you!!! TRUE LEADERSHIP RIGHT THERE!
THE BEST VIDEO YET. The BEST... Michael Gervais is SPOT ON... totally and completely. I am currently working on my Ted Talk for material that is similar, from my own life and professional experience and he just articulated it spectacularly. *wow, I am a huge fan suddenly!*
Chills! Love it! Thank you! 💪🙏
Incredible interview! WOW
A really thoughtful interview about mindfulness that made me reassess my ideas.
Would watch this again and again
Thank you for all the videos you do.
Inspirational video. Thanks for sharing.
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