6 Signs Your Spouse Is Having An Affair
6 Signs Your Spouse Is Having An Affair
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Is your spouse having an affair? In this KZhead video, I’m going to share with you 6 signs that this might be happening to you.
Hey KZhead, Brad here. I’m KZhead’s #1 marriage and breakup expert, and this is probably one of the most difficult topics that I’ll ever talk about. Infidelity is one of the biggest marriage destroyers. And a lot of the times, even the strongest of marriages can’t even survive an affair.
But before I dive into these signs, I have to talk about a couple important facts… and these facts might be a little unsettling to you no matter what situation you’re in. Fact number one is that your partner could be showing almost all of these signs and still not be cheating on you. You’re going to have to take this video with a grain of salt because you can never be 100% sure until your partner admits it to you… or if you catch him or her red handed. However, the signs I’m about to talk about are most definitely an indicator of something wrong in your marriage, so it’s important to keep this in mind moving forward.
The second fact is… your partner could be displaying almost NONE of these results and STILL be having an affair on you. In fact, it’s estimated that the vast majority of affairs go undetected. I know, if you’re in a happy marriage, this may be a hard fact to swallow… but facts are facts. Unfortunately, some people can be such amazing liars that their partners never find out.
We also have to keep in mind that affairs can happen in good marriages too. Just because an affair takes place doesn’t mean the person committing the act is evil or an ‘awful person’. It is possible to salvage a marriage even after something as daunting as an affair. Just remember that no matter how difficult things may be for you in your marriage, you must maintain a strong, confident, and positive outlook if you have any chance to save your marriage.
So without further ado, here is my list of the top 6 signs your spouse may be having an affair.
1.) Your spouse gets aggravated easily. If your spouse is constantly picking fights with you about seemingly mundane things, it might be a sign that something is brewing deep down inside. So if your spouse is making you feel like you can’t do anything right, or you just seem like you can’t do anything to make your spouse calmer and more forgiving, it could be a sign their mind has been wandering lately. If this is happening to you, it’s important to NOT snap back at your spouse… for now, keep a cool head and find the right time to calmly ask your spouse why they’re acting this way.
2.) Your spouse is becoming emotionally distant from you. If your spouse is acting a little quieter, more withdrawn, or even depressed and sad, it could be a sign that there’s something going on that he or she isn’t telling you. Again, like I said at the beginning of this video, this might be a sign of something that has nothing to do with an affair, but rest assured that if your spouse is acting this strange, you can bet there’s something up. Tread carefully when you’re with an emotionally distanced spouse… if something is really bugging him or her, you could really tip them off with the wrong words. Instead of prying, approach your spouse from a position of support…say something like, “I know something is wrong, and I really want to help. If you don’t want to talk about it now, then I understand.” Start from there and see where it goes.
3.) Your spouse is working longer hours. If your spouse is working beyond their typical work hours, then this might be a sign that there’s some infidelity that might be happening. If he or she is coming home late and/or taking some strange work trips, this can be a big indicator of infidelity.
4.) Your spouse wants more “space”. If your spouse is uncharacteristically asking for more space or ‘room to breathe’, you can be sure that something is up…especially if things haven’t always been this way. If your spouse is asking for more space, then give it to him or her and continue monitoring how they’re acting. Sooner or later, you’ll be able to bring up this issue to your spouse and attempt to get to the bottom of their peculiar behaviour.
If you feel like your marriage is strained or if you feel like your spouse is slowly pulling away from you… then head on over to MarriageGuy.com and watch the free video presentation on that website. In it, I go over 3 ingredients that every successful marriage needs to have. Again, that URL is www.MarriageGuy.com.
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I’m watching this video after I found out about his lying and cheating. Your six clues are spot on - especially the one about his phone. He kept it with him 24/7 and was constantly looking at it. That includes in bed. We’re done.
Really sorry to hear you're going through this. Thanks for the confirmation. Stay strong!
Yea phones a big give away for sure. My wife was relentless on the damn thing.
What if he is not a phone person but still suspect cheating bc of gut feeling and he not caring if i stay or go?
Idk I'm always on my phone and I'm not cheating.... But in bed? Nah I can leave it alone for that for sho 😂🤠
Plzz stay strong, better days for you will come my dear
Once you cheat everything is broken. There is no turn back , trust is gone and without trust there is no love.
Indeed. By cheating, you're putting yourself at your ex's mercy. Some couples can still come back from it though, if they're both willing to work it out and rebuild the relationship from basically ground zero.
@@BradBrowning I'm sorry but I don't believed in fairytales.
I'm living a fairy tale!
I can forgive. Will never trust him. Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me.
Facts! That’s what I say!
Here’s a trick. Go to her job, leave a bouquet of flowers on her car. Make sure you’re not seen by anyone, wear a good disguise. (The weather is getting cold so a scarf and a big wool hat wouldn’t be odd) Go home. If she mentions the flowers, she’s loyal. If she never mentions the flowers, she isn’t sure which guy put them on her car.
lol nice one!
I’m going to try this. Wish me luck
Cheat once….will do it again. Never reconcile. Love yourself and walk away.
Sometimes that's true but other times it isn't. It just really depends on who you're dealing with and how you two work together to re-establish trust.
Nope lived it been screwed over every time in the past 30 years don’t trust the woman I’m with now yes I’m jaded and don’t want to fix it at the point but Keep up the good fight boss maybe you can see if somebody
@@Lord_darkside74 you need to fix yourself before pursuing a relationship with anyone. That's git to be agonizing and tormenting for you. You're probably making accusations along the way towards your partner. It's not fair to them. That's a miserable life. Get some therapy, bruh. P.S. Why wouldn't you want to be your best self? Don't self-sabotage your happiness and wholeness.
what a beautiful lines.. appreciated thanks so much
We have been happily staying together for more than 3 years old until recently my found work
Don’t get complacent, pay attention & communication is key. Usually when you think everything is fine it’s not 😢
Relationships do take work. So be sure you do it for someone who's worth the time and effort! :-)
Spot on. I’ve been separated for 2 months now from my wife of 20 years. When she first let me know that she wanted to separate and moved out, it was very hard for me. I had a nervous breakdown at work and was sent to the hospital for two days, and was on the verge of being committed to a mental hospital. The biggest signs I noticed were the change in her appearance (she started walking everyday, lost weight, put more makeup on, and styled her hair like she was going to a club before work) she was emotionally distant - stopped saying she loved me, stopped calling me dear or hunny. She eventually said she “wanted her space” All of this seemed to happen for months. I knew she was unhappy so I tried to get closer. Asked to go on dates but she stopped wanting to go out - almost like she didn’t want to be seen with me. I am currently on stress leave from work. I’m an emergency medical responder so I can’t do that job under extreme anxiety. We have an 11 yr old daughter which I’m even now wondering if she’s even biologically mine. Our daughter is not taking this separation well and my wife blames me for this. I’m starting to feel a little better, counclilling, medication, and time heal a little bit. But I know I’m still going to have bad days. (The day she posts a pic on Facebook with her “new” bf will be especially hard I think) I am starting to come to terms with this. I still love her though despite the gaslighting and neglect over the past few months. (I feel like I’ve been mentally abused) I’m far from perfect but I still think I’m a good person, and a great dad. To anyone else whose going through this - I know the world seems like it’s falling apart. Get some support - you’ll come to terms eventually and go on with living - that scar may not go away anytime soon though
@@florenceede6227 thank you for your kind words. I needed this today.
Thanks for sharing your story, man. And yes, it is very tough indeed. I'm glad you're getting the help you need!
I’m so sorry for you, I can totally relate, my husband of 5 years has been doing a lot of these things to me as well and he has a history of cheating. I know the pain and it really sucks and I’m so sorry for you. I pray that you have the strength to move on and that God wraps his arms around you and you don’t deserve that.
may the good lord give you strength to overcome those pain
I am experiencing similar situation
YES. Affairs can happen in healthy relationships also. Bang on. Thanks for stating this.
Odd vacation or holiday behaviour is a good sign because they have to keep contact with their lover.
Roger that! Especially if there's been one too many vacations in a short span of time.
I got one.....married female asian worker usually parks her car in front of office to go work safely....its 15 footsteps to enter. But nowadays....I often see that asian worker...instead of parking in that area where there IS available parking in front.......she ends up parking NEXT to this white dude worker's truck....almost every chance she gets....unless another worker beats her to the parking stall.....it takes her approx 40 footsteps to enter the shop. Since he comes in early and she arrives about 1/2 hr later, and its still dark......wonder if my work friend would "see something unusual" and tell me "guess what I saw?".....they were pretty CLOSE to each other.... Love to snitch to her old man..
Another clue is during intimate moments he tries different " techniques " to practice on you, his taste in music suddenly changes, and he suddenly takes up a new sport/recreational activity after work.
Ah, that's terrible. Are you a firsthand witness of those signs you've mentioned? Sorry to hear that...
True story. Those are definitely signs of cheating. My fiance is guilty of this. Different my, new clothes, wearing makeup and looking hot. Defensive when questioned about things. Hiding the phone and sneaky the phone and her messages she was getting 24 hours a fucking day.
Also, being sexually mature, practicing different bedroom tricks, things she never did before
That’s not always true
Wow. Im glad u shared that. He has all of a sudden started listening to country music which he said he HATED and we have only made love 2 times this year. When I try to become intimate with him he ignores me. And the 2 times we did make love, he couldnt "finish" so to speak. I feel like a total loser.
If there is cheating then the relationship is over....The trust is gone. NO trust then no relationship
It depends. Some are able to come back from this relationship-killer stronger than ever before, like a phoenix rising.
toneman335 what causes not to have trust in someone is when someone is not truthful and all these dark secrets keeping from your soulmate. In order to be happy with your soulmate by vice versa is for the man and the woman to be open and honest with each other to have an open relationship meaningful that you can trust your soulmate. When there's no trust is because there was no communication with each other. No one from either side knows how each other feels. I am so sorry to hear your sadness and I really truly hope that you have a better life then what you have now.
They are amoral sex addicts. If they do it once they will do it again. There are no second chance when you took your vows. Fidelity is everything.
My wife is sending nude to his EX they grown together, my heart as been hurt and damage.
That's exactly my problem. I saw the signs and confronted her. She tried to deny, but before she did I showed her that I saw all the messages, all the story. The conditions on why she did it, aren't usual, after 18 years, I was working abroud and a former high school sweet heart showed up... I've been trying to hold on, but the trust just isn't there. I can't trust her anymore and my gut never failed me, my gut told me that something was going on... And it was. Now it tells me that I can't trust and it's driving me insane...
Some signs : (1) Change of usual pattern (2) Being rude to you and being disrespectful (3) Disappearing from the house not for good reason and coming back as nothing happened. Then, gradually, distancing from you (4) coming home smelling perfume, (5) Sudden improvement of her attention for appearance /make ups
Not bad! These are valid points indeed, especially the gradual distancing.
Yep had all these signs from my cheating wife, never ever left her phone either as he was constantly messaging her especially when she was at home with me.
What I learned is, if someone wanna leave from a relationship being a partner (going to be an ex), your job is to make it easy exit for him/her.
Absolutely right Brad, they have to try and keep the secret lover happy while they are away.
That's so sad to hear. Take care!
Cheat on me once ~ Shame on you! Cheat on me twice ~ Shame on me!
I was totally blindsided by my wife. We were married almost 30 years when she suddenly asked for a divorce. I later found out she was cheating with a family friend. I was away for several months because of my work and her relationship began then. She showed few signs of wandering or I was just too stupid to notice or was away too long. Their relationship ended soon after our divorce. He lied. She lied. I was left sick with three children at home. A very rough time in my life.
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should have given her custody of the kids and move on.....let her suffer the burden of raising 3 kids while fkn around.....kinda hard ya know.
@@lonelypigeon7562 Your comment has to be one of the most abusive things a parent could do to their child. Just shove them off like you never cared at all. I'm sure your kids will suffer a life time based on the amount of care that you would give them.
@@lonelypigeon7562 10-4 Everyone has their bad days. I hope you are doing better today! :)
Nah, he dumped after she left you. This is very common. Women are just so messed up that they believe that they can monkey branch to the new guy, but to him it’s a casual thing. This happened to me, but I knew in my gut that she was cheating, I found out that I was right and he dumped her after just two weeks she tried to come back and started calling me EVERYDAY but I told her I would get a restraining order against her. Then I changed my cell number,I saw her ten years later at a funeral and walked right past her. When I found out that a woman has cheated I move on immediately and there is no turning back. The one thing I have always maintained is my dignity and self respect!!
I had a girl who says she needed time by herself I told her if you leave stay gone
That was a bit harsh! LOL
Smart thing to do!
That’s what my husband says but that’s sometimes a sign of stress and hurting or something bad but for me I do it for stress
So if you said that an they never cheated or hide anything from you what’s the point of saying that it is rude to be honest
@@BradBrowning Brother he is NOT being harsh but you are being a white knighter. He set what is called a hard boundary. If my wife said that to me I'd tell her to not let the door hit her on the ass!! If a gf/wife tells you they need space they are either contemplating cheating or have already cheated.
This is spot on.
Yes Brad, I read what you have written to me and it does make sense. In my life in relationships. I have never cheated and I wouldn't know how it feels to cheat? But I as an individual wouldn't take that approach to cheat. Two wrongs doesn t make a right! I feel if someone cheats one needs to ask the person is to why did she or he chose to cheat? Its got to be a reason for their actions? From there if one wants to save their relationship is to talk it out and work it out. But if one doesn't want to by them giving excuses for their actions and refusing to admit that they are at fault then I honestly feel that it is best to move on!
Here's what I generally advise: kzhead.info/sun/ebKaaNKRpaKlpoU/bejne.html
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I found out the 24th of this month that my wife is cheating me and I don't know what to do I need someone to talk 🙁
Great video. i love this awesome video, very useful
I love this video. never get tired of watching it.
I like your channel. Good information and advice. Keep up the good work!
Strong, confident, positive outlook… right. Got it. Hold on. I’ll just get off the floor from my puddle of angry, screaming tears and get right on that.
Yup, do these things after grieving.... but try to secure proof first! Sometimes, misunderstandings can happen and you're crying over nothing! :-)
If they cheat, then say "bye bye!"
Easier said than done.
If they cheat on you then they will do it again! Oh, they will say it will never happen again, but it will. If a man REALLY loves a woman, she is all he can think of, all he wants, he feels he can't live without her! That's how you will know if he really loves you! And the sad part... if he cheats on you, and if you stay, he won't respect you, and then the next time he is tempted it will be easier for him to cheat again!
Especially if they don't regret it or show no remorse or worse, if they blame you for it. Recognize toxic people when you see one!
*You're right on Brad*
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also if they ask you if you are cheating over and over they might be the one cheating they want to see if you are too
Yes, it's called projecting their behaviour on you, which sucks, really.
Michael Anderson EXACTLY! YOU are so on point!!!
I'm not a cheater but have been cheated on. I use to ask was something going on and would get no, I'm not. Don't have a reason to blah blah blah. Then guess what, I find out he cheated.
This is so true. My wife wants so bad for me to be a piece of shit cheater like her and her fruitless searches only add to her psychosis.
Nothing like a pointless spousal argument to make your wife want to voraciously bang the other man! Been there ~ done that!
Best thing is to Walk away, and block the partner and his/her family members, and remember don't keep on forgiving and hoping that they'll beg and want to make up again.....because they will cheat etc. Again 1000000% its disgusting especially when you never did nothing wrong yourself
I will never remarry ever for these very reasons
I hear you, man. However, I think this is worth a watch: kzhead.info/sun/iNpyc66flqCBin0/bejne.html
Brad Browning She is in a committed relationship with another man who is living in the house I formerly lived in. All I'm trying to do is finish the separation and divorce peacefully. I saw your video....we already tried that several times and seven men later here I am. I'm done. But thank you for the advice.
Mine was interesting, my wife gained a new friend but it became a situation where she became acting in a really good mood, when before she was tired, or having depression issues. Then it was chatting into the night, to then her being secretive with her phone. The appearance thing def happened though.
Been married for 30 years. good points. prayers for all. MM arr
Michelle Cox,You are beautiful 🌷🌹,you only need a good man in your life!
I believe some of these signs/changes in personality come before a partner cheats. Usually they already emotionally left the relationship which then in turns moves to a physical leap whether they ask to separate/divorce which would be easier in the long run than cheating. So keep an eye out if they start to do these things because if you want to save your marriage you need to communicate with them before they completely check out of the relationship. If they start to share less of their day with you or they want to spend less time with you then please speak up. Becuz after that its pretty much all down hill. Once they're doing 2 or more of the above mentioned signs/changes then the relationship is usually over for them. Good luck 👍
Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Sometimes they really were never in your relationship fully.
If they wanna leave then you got to let them go..
You're telling me!
This is so on point, in my relationship
How long have you been seeing these signs? Sorry to hear but as I say, take time to observe first.
very true stuff here, thank you
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Hi Brad! Almost all of these are on point. The only clue i did not notice much was where my wife tries to look good because i thought it was natural of her ever since... But after this, i realized she buys dresses lately that are of more shapely fit and really look sexy on her. Lastly, the gut feel... It is real. If gut feel tells you something, id say its almost always true...
Hi Rui! Thanks for dropping by. I don't really know your situation well so it'd be wrong for me to confirm that. I suggest you take time to observe just to be sure, all right? Take care!
@@BradBrowning Thanks, Brad! I had already confirmed it actually... She has an affair. I was able to hack her fb messenger and read their messeges, it was even their monthsary when i discovered it (thru their exchange of messages). Im in no contact for just abt a week now... At first i begged at pleaded but i stopped it when i learndd abt your videos.... So thank you... You are an angel to those who are in this situation... ❤️🙏
If your partner has cheated on you there’s a big chance he’s cheating on you again, never trust a man, you were better off not continuing the relationship if there’s a trust issue
Good point. For the record, it does depend how trust has been re-established as well as the willingness of both parties to do so.
Thank you for this video ,awesome ,I am all of them
You're welcome!
All of your signs are on point! I thought I was crazy. I was married to a serial cheater for 25 years. I know now in hindsight that he is a a Narcissist. He always made me feel like there was nothing right. So he could leave in a fight. Emotional distant, depressed and sad, He started working ALL WEEKEND FRI through SUN. He asked and took a lot of space. I didn’t monitor his activity. His appearance changed dramatically working out, new clothing style. He changed names on his phone to his Mom and Sisters names. Also, dating websites big red flag.!, no one realizes that these dating sites are loaded with cheating spouses looking for affairs thank you!!!
That's just sad and I'm really sorry to hear that. How do you plan to proceed? If he's a narcissist, then I suggest you might want to consider divorce?
Why do women always bring up men cheating when we are talking about women who cheat??🙄 It’s weird and really it’s just a deflection from the reality of modern day women. But women don’t really want me to be aware of their evil deeds!! 😢
It's not because the lie is good, but that you want to trust eachother(that is the point of marriage)
Thanks for your input!
good educational video
Put a tracking device in their car if they are always missing and see for yourself.
Thanks for the input!
What about “emotional cheating”? Hiding relationships on their phone without physical cheating?
It's more or less the same, especially the first two signs.
Walk
Just happened to me today
@@bobsanderz3005 want to but im 55 and scared.
Doesn't count
Love that you start with the disclaimer that signs aren't proof, although that can make things feel more confusing if you're being lied to... It's easy after a binge of KZhead videos like this but not as responsible, to feel certain there is an affair going on... and that makes it really difficult to confront them about your concerns in a calm way, without snapping.
Lying is a huge dealbreaker indeed. I don't suggest confronting unless you have evidence. But when you do, follow the tips here: kzhead.info/sun/iJ2ohKume4Sjpmw/bejne.html and I also have a dedicated channel made for saving marriages, check it out at: kzhead.info/sun/l9ZrerihlpR5hY0/bejne.html
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This is spot on facts
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Greetings. thanks for sharing video..
You forgot suddenly guarding their phone & or computer!
It's what I've said in sign #6! :-)
Laurel Flippin,you got a pretty smile ☺️😊😍😍
People who have character don’t cheat. If your word means little, then marriage vows are pointless. Such partnerships inspire callousness, and a callous partner couldn’t care less about anything but themselves. ❤️
Thanks for dropping by. Yes, there is a tad of selfishness going on when one cheats and it's very hard to recover from. This is why both people, especially the offensive party, in the marriage must be willing to make sacrifices and devotion if they ever expect to work it out again.
@@BradBrowning umm, more than “a Tad”, Brad! Infidelity is the ultimate callous selfish act, stabbing your partner in the back.
Great observations
Thanks for watching!
totally agreed with all signs you have stated here gentleman because I am facing all these problems
That sucks. Sorry to hear that, man.
I am considering divorce
whatt!!!!!!!! if he or she starts fights and easily pissed off and you can't do anything right. This is because they are pissed that they can't talk or be with the other person. or the other person pissed them off and they using you to build their confidence
Maybe, but that's not always the case.
Mr. Don, I agree with you totally. I have found for myself is when you start noticing small differences, such as distance, limited eye contact, edgy, smug, appears to be thinking of something else when you talk to them and does not respond, like a blank look on their face and you reiterate the question. No intimate exchange of conversation, such as,"are you ok? Is there something on your mind that you want to talk about, or what's going on you seem diffrent." Out of the clear blue they make mean, cruel, and hateful remarks, I knew something was up and they wanted out of the relationship. Time to cut your losses and get out. I went to no contact mode and never spoke to them again. Wasn't even going to ride that marry go round again. It was time for me to let things be and move on.
Mr. Don it's a sign he's cheating
My husband is doing the same thing to me he is fighting with me and commenting on anything I buy negatively just to piss me off coz he is pissed off and I dont know why ,now I know
This is how I know my husband has talked to his side piece because he takes it out on me when things dont go right with her. Oh the limited eye contact, SOB if I would have known of that HUGE detail we would NOT be married
Our advice is watch out for any unexplained change of behaviour. Don't challenge your partner without proof.
Exactly! It's best to observe first because throwing a bunch of accusations isn't cool at all.
True, its bad tactics as well, by showing your suspicious she will just take more precautions not to get caught.
Well done...
So true 💯
My parting words to the x were I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that I'll never be able to trust you again.
That's understandable. This video may help: kzhead.info/sun/ebKaaNKRpaKlpoU/bejne.html
When a woman cheating is game over, big mistake trying to save the relationship...men just need to move on...that will increase men's value in himself and look for a better high value woman.. don't waste your time never
I wish it were that simple, but things are a lot complicated than that, with lots of factors involved. Thanks for your input, nevertheless! :-)
+Brad Browning He's right for most men. We let it emasculate us, destroy us. It's not healthy. Not all of us are strong or can just move on so easily. You're right though about how complicated it is.
Spoken like a meagerly endowed Eeyore
Danielle obviously you've cheated and would like a second chace
Danielle Disgusting cheater!
May I also add- They will also take vacation days (you dont know about)- AND leave early OFTEN (keep an eye on the cashflow and hours worked if you can) They typically conduct this during the WORK DAY. Also they will make up "courses" they have to take. They will pre empt a "getaway" story (your gut will be off) it will have TONS of details or be VERY vague)...something like " oh ya I have this course they want me to take next October (but Im not quite sure if Im going or not yet" )..-this is so they can check the other persons schedule if it matches AND throw you off "suspicion" by telling you ahead of time its for "work" - also they will begin working weekends out of the blue and lots in a row. . Improvement of hygiene, listening to different types of music or different movies they never liked before or going on a diet - oh and I got this one 2 days ago ( his new "Co worker" stopped in (LOL) and gave the owners wife (On a Saturday..... so she wasnt even "WORKING"-also Im told the male owner is the ONLY one there on a Saturday) - some bread she made AND he said "Ya Ill take one too" (basically baked goods given by "customers" / or "co -workers" ) - basically he wanted to eat her "baked goods" (in MY house) and made up an excuse ahead of time where he "got it" (which probably was NOT at "work")- Also- different kinds of alcohol than they usually drink (they will tend to MIRROR the other persons language as well).
Hey thanks for sharing!
I never caught my ex cheating. But I always felt she was. She matched several things you talked about
Take time to observe first and best not to jump to conclusions, yeah?
Be strong with the Faith that keeps us at perfect ✌ Peace.
Stay strong!
Amen 🙏
The truth is, a person can still be in love with his/her spouse but still cheat. Love flies out the window. I think the only way to make sure your not cheated on is to marry someone who has a very strong sense of commitment, who makes a big deal about integrity and honor. Fact is, love flies out the window in many marriages but if your spouse is the type who values commitment as much as love, chances are that person will do anything and everything to keep the marriage intact.
Thanks for your input! :-)
Touche
So basicly if your a man marry another man 😂
Emerson Guhiling Not necessarily. Men seem very interested in marriage and having a family. Once marriage takes place and a beautiful woman is their wife, everything starts to change. Infidelity seems like a dominant part of most people, nowadays . However, it’s the most valid legal reason for taking a spouse to court for a divorce. But sometimes cheating is so hard to legally prove.
A cheating spouse does not love their partner if they are easily able to betray them.
Best to walk away without saying single word, it will help if you have good / career do keep focused on work.
Yes, focusing on yourself during this time is a great idea.
I am about to watch this. I predict there will be a point about "If they come home and won't touch you until they've had a shower" that is a dead give-away.
I start arguments, but I'm not cheating. I just want my husband to spend more time with his family. He makes excuses to leave the house and won't be back for hours when it used to never take him that long. He's being very distant, very emotionally withdrawn. I ask him if there is someone else he hesitates. I don't know what to do. We've been together for 5 years we have a 16 month old son. It's hard.
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Sadly I dont thnk he wants to stay with you
He wants a one sided open marriage
Wow everything this guy is saying, I’m going through with this now 😰 but I’m okay I know I was somebody before I got married 🥰😘 Life will be okays
Stay strong! Like I said, it's best to observe first to see if your spouse is really indeed cheating on you. Don't jump to conclusions, all right? Good luck!
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Mind blowing! I have been observing these signs My my😥
All six of them? You might want to read my Mend the Marriage book at www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids, monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. If your spouse is picking petty fights though, or making a mountain out of a molehill, then there might be something fishy going on. If you want to find out your chances at saving your marriage, head over towww.marriageguy.com/quiz and take the free quiz there. Good luck!
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Hey Brad, I just happen upon your youtube channel after looking for some answers. I am very melancholic these days as my husband is acting very strange lately. To define strange, he stays out with friends often late at night, checks out other women, less to no sex, always seems a little distant. When I ask him as to why he is reacting to me this way, he grows defensive and picks a fight with me. I stopped everything and backed off. But the thing is I love him unconditionally and it breaks my heart that once a very loving spouse has turned so cold,aggressive and distant towards me. What should I do?? I love your channel and immediately subscribed because I can totally related with how you explain things. Thanks Anna
Don't ask him why he gets defensive. Be more specific with your question to him instead. Something like "When you do this (insert something he does), it makes me feel (insert whatever you feel) " and see how he reacts to it. Anyway how long has it been going on? If he's generally acting cold/distant, this is the video for you: kzhead.info/sun/mrymf8NwfWWaeps/bejne.html
why do you stay with him??? fk him....move on! you are pretty, you can find someone....
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good observations
1:59 begins 1 of 6 signs
Interesting videos for sure ,Ive gone through this stuff 2 times and was so in love that i was blind and both x's were real good at hiding and having an affair.... Ive learned that ill be single for the rest of my life..Ok single and sometimes lonely is better than being married and miserable..... If they want a break or so called space by all means give it to them and when they take it you should be smart and go to a lawyer and get started on papers to protect youself....better yet take that time to hide your precious hard earned..$$ and anything else that is valuable to you....Presently when i meet someone I make it clear that this doesnt mean stay for breakfast...Im not mean by no way its instinct of survival....
I understand where you're coming from, man. Yes, it's best to be single than be miserable despite having a so called wife. Perhaps try to be more choosy with women and don't rush into things IF someone happens to catch your eye again? You know what they say, third time's the charm! ;)
3rd time OMG shame on me....No way for sure... After all now days i call it entertainment and any funds spent i use as a tax deduction.....I finally got smart....LOL
Fantastic.
This hit the nail on the head.
If she stops cleaning the house and washing dishes.. that's when you move on
Sometimes its a good sign that it happens to find out about an affair
Better than being in the dark for sure!
@@BradBrowning i caught her last week brad...she was headed to work..inside a convenient store the guy was rubbing her shoulder is this cheating
What is it when they wait until after cheating to mention it ? Guilty conscience
Great.....you're right
Glad I could help Albert. Good luck!
Forgiveness is key in any relationship.
True. However there's also some boundary to forgiveness and it's best be set so the offender won't take you for granted in knowing they'd always be "forgiven." So set healthy boundaries! :-)
💥That's Why I don't have many close friends, just work associates💥
If your best bud wants to come over often it probably isn't to see you.
Hi Brad, I need an advice pls. Im entering week 4 of non contact with my ex and I feel fine but is it bad that I constantly think about her and our memories together?
Hi Ray! That's quite normal actually. It's nothing to be concerned about :-)
Ray Rhyfelwr I would say it's very natural. I would think you are weird if you didn't
l. think. they. shouldnt. ..showany. thing. about. sex. on. tv. they. should. take. it off. i. dont. like it
You are 100 percent right .....my wife whom I have love for 22 years ..lately she's trying to act differently now....never spek and avoiding me...yep we do have some problems ..but when i apologize she never listen and instead drive me away.....ya she used to come late from work.....n always busy ..,
Sorry to hear but like I said, take time to observe first and try not to jump to conclusions too quickly, yeah? Good luck!
All you have said is true and its saddening i do feel there is something up
Sh*t happens. Make sure you don't jump into conclusions and take time to observe first and gather accurate info.
@@BradBrowning thank you but it did happen before and he made it seem as if it was my fault bt now he just has these behaviors he shouts at me for no reason and says the most terrible stuff to me... Well i guess its clear
My daughter went over to her friends house and witnessed her friend treating her father and step mother in a horrible way. I sort of brushed it off because sometimes kids are brats. A few weeks later my daughter comes home and tells me that her friends father had gone on a dating website looking for another woman while still being married. It all started to make sense. The worst part is, now my child has been exposed to a cheating couple and the effects that affair is having on her friend. My daughter started to tell me she never wants to get married because men and women cheat and I'm so sad that she has to deal with this adult BS when she's only nine. How do I handle the situation with my child without trashing my daughter's friends parents?
I understand how you feel as a parent, however, it's important to put trust in your daughter. That incident she witnessed was just a one-off and I'm sure she will experience many more experiences as she grows older, some will be bad but some will also be good. Trust in your daughter to make the right decisions as she grows older. At nine, you're probably worrying too much. But since it's making you uncomfortable, how about setting up her friend to visit your house instead of hers?
@@BradBrowning that's a great suggestion, I will have her friend to our house. Thanks so much.
Well, this confirms it...
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This can be so deceiving because I have always made sure I look good, I do work late, sometimes i am irritable, etc. but I am not having an affair and never have had one! This is insane and can lead to a divorce.
Especially if you skip the first 50 seconds of the video. Never cherry-pick information. That habit of yours is dangerous!
All of the sign you mention and indicator which I experience to my ex.
Sorry to hear.
If your spouse was having sex relationships before marriage and before meeting you it is difficult to not having an affair while being married. You only think how is going to be with a different person and continue to compare sex partners all the time. But if you only loved one person all your life then it is much easier to be faithful,my opinion.
You have said what has been on my mind for LOOOONNNG
This is scientifically proven, if girls have too many partners they lose the ability to pair bond. This is why a ladies past is important
Interesting thought. You are right, I never looked at it that way before.
You are 100% correct , I have seen my friends and the ones that had multiple partners before marriage are having affairs after marriage too.
@@ThePratima89 not always true. I had other partners and I'm not cheating on my husband.
I caught my wife cheating on me with her co worker.I saw their messages from her tablet in our kid's room.I finally confronted her when he asked her did you find a hotel yet.She said she would drop everything with him and just remain friends but she still displays the same cheating signs.He is married with kids too.I left a note on his car and told him to stop or I would tell his wife.He told my wife that I left a note on his car.She said what I said to him was embarrassing to her and selfish of me.I said I did because I feel she cannot break it off with him and to save our marriage and family.I told her I did what any man would do and he is a coward
She thinks you're selfish? She's clearly projecting her behaviour on you. Let her make up for it and don't chase her.
Sounds so much of the same! & she LOVES HOTELS!
Probably because you left a note Sissy, she wants you to squab with him. Oh yeah!
My wife pulled the embarrassing comment on me too. All I could think was, too bad and embarrassing is the least of the emotional roller coaster you put me through.
She is connected to him and by defending him she is showing where her loyalties are. Leave her and tell the wife she has a right to know....
Spot on.
Hi! Thanks for your comment. :-)
I could never do that to another woman especially and would hope a woman would tell me if it's being done to.
Wow my husband is all 6 of those to the T!!!!!
But if he's suddenly acting strange for so long, that's a cause of concern, but then again like I said, don't jump into conclusions right away! How long have you noticed these signs? Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
1.9 + million people watched this video .i can understand how many are facing this problem
...#7 they suddenly bring up the idea of an open relationship #8 they start saying things like our relationship sucks these days, but we've tried SO MANY TIMES to fix it and I don't know if it's worth it to try anymore.
Relationship issues do need to be worked on. Otherwise it gets exhausting to one or both parties involved.
It is 6 weeks ago since the break up. We was in contact and saw each other for tree times. One week ago i started no contact rule, after i sending bad text messeges, but i apologies and then start with no contact. Is there a chance to get back together? Or it is too late?
My wife gave me a short interrogation last night when I was working out. Why are you all of a sudden working out? First of all, I have been working out and second, I'm trying to do it for her. I'm damaged goods and I doubt another wants a 45 year old wreck with MS. Really, last summer I met someone who I could have cheated with but chose not to. Despite how hard things get at times, I won't go there. I told my wife that I'm after a married woman, her.
Hey that was smooth! :-) How'd she responded to what you said? I think she's just paranoid of losing you over someone at the gym and is not an indication of trouble,unless you see the rest of the signs here? I still suggest to observe.
Jeff, did u tell your wife about the other woman u could have possibly cheated with? Cuz keeping that from her is probably the reason why she is suspicious. I’m having this same problem believing my husband after 13years of being married and I’m also 10years younger than him. I really hope he is like you and has not been cheating like I have been accusing him everyday for the past 3years.
I have always been the long hour worker. Sometimes.115 hours a work week. I was constantly around men who were actively cheating, college girls, etc. She had became insecure at times. (I always tell her everything) One day, she flat out aked me if there are prettier girls i see all the time. I told her f-no, but their are very pretty girls around. I told her ANYTIME she wants to show up for work, no matter how many times, or how random, to please come to my work :) I told her that she can even call me home ANYTIME she wants. That she is my love, not money, not my boss, there are plenty of boss's out there, but i only have 1 wife !
Ha! My marriage of 20years has shown all of these signs all the way through. Neither of us has had an affair. These could just be the way conflict happens or the way we respond to conflict. Working late for long periods of time, that could just a pursuit of building a business or career and neglecting marriage because life requires you to work hard sometimes will happen. I'm not sure you can point to these things as definitive signs - as you rightly point out. All marriages WILL reach the point where one or more or all of these signs will become real, this is just the way marriage works. Conflict is good for marriage - it is how we become mature people.
That's actually fact #1! LOL. If you take time to review the earlier part of this very video, I never said this is definitive. It's around the 35-40 second mark. :-) Anyways neglecting your marriage or rather, being complacent towards each other, is very common after being married for decades. But it can actually be deteriorating. So you both have to be careful you don't fall into that rut. Take care!
Spot on
Thank you for dropping by!
I have learned a lot from this video. My husband all these six things discussed. Oh gosh I really need help.
Really sorry to hear that. Consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
On point. A friend said her husband started buying new underwear which he never did the entire time they were married. 😔
That means he's stuck with the same underwear for the entirety of their marriage. They must not have been married for long, then? If they've been married for years, I think it's only normal to buy new underwear every now and then since stuff wears out! :-) I say the probability of him cheating isn't really that high... unless you noticed all the other signs as well.
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No way, if she cheats it's over. No forgiveness no repairing The reason for this is because you have to teach them relationships are serious and not to be taken for granted.
I agree, mine cheated it was so over. No forgiveness on my part either. Only part is I do not think he could be taught he was too old. I was taken for granted and I think I will stay single the rest of my life.
It really depends on you both. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: kzhead.info/sun/oJZwhLCdsIejqp8/bejne.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place. Take care!
Hey Brad, I have a question to the "no contact" rule. It's not really a question to this certain video - I'm 18 and not married. But someone I love broke up with me 3 weeks ago and we haven't talked since that happend. We were together more than a year. Today I ran onto your channel and felt better because of the fact that we haven't spoken - which means I'm following the rule. But there is that one thing - should I delete our pictures from instagram and facebook? I still have him on my background picture on facebook, he has changed his and he deleted all of the pictures he had on instagram (not only those wit me, but ALL of his pictures) But he left those pictures of us that he had on facebook. Should I delete mine photos on instagram also? Should I change my background picture of us together? I still love him and he didn't really explained why he broke up with me. I think he got to a very depressive state of mind because of other things he had going on in his life and that is what pushed him to make this decision. So should I change/delete our pictures? I seriously don't want to. I really hope you'll answer...
I can't stand cheaters. Why get married if your going to cheat. You need a maid and a cook hire one guys.
No second chances. Delete everything in your life and move on. Love yourself first. If he lied and cheated once he will do it again.
I am experiencing most of the signs stated here. It really hurts and dont know what to do right now.
Take time to observe first. Make sure you don't skip the part in the vid where I mentioned the disclaimer.