5 Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms You Shouldn’t Ignore
We all have different ways of dealing with stressful circumstances. Coping mechanisms are go-to strategies you consciously or unconsciously implement to self-soothe in the face of stress and or trauma that help your emotional well-being. The caveat is that not all coping skills are healthy. What can seem like a temporary fix or something you only do in certain situations can be unhealthy coping mechanisms. To help you improve your mental health, this video addresses unhealthy coping skills, which we are all more likely to do.
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Omg the emojis are so cute!! And I listen to music to help cope with bad emotions
I watch anime to cope with things xD
I tend to draw or edit when I'm stressed Or make videos on my KZhead channel. • - •
I dance
I just deal with the stress until it’s over
Im studying psychology and when i open my own clinic im going to have a tv in the waiting room playing psych2go videos for my patients! Update: sad news, im continuing my grad studies on industrial psychology which means i wont have an office with patient and i wont be able to complete this promise but i encourage someone else to fulfill this idea in their own clinic! 🥰
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That’s a good idea!!
You get that education!
Good luck!! 👍
Sukke
“Repressed emotions can lead to guilt and shame” Which is why I repressed those emotions too
endless loop
You know, as you do
Yea its endless
Yup UwU
@@cococoffee2305 thank you kind hooman ♡
My coping methods: -Biting my nails -Repressing emotions -Self-Isolation -Forced Positivity -Daydreaming, or remembering the past
Spot on with my coping mechanisms
Same with the 3rd and 5th ones
Yup I bite my nails, pick my lips, and sometimes scratching it’s so weird
My coping mechanisms: Forced positivity Repressing emotions Constantly thinking that I'm over reacting Daydreaming
@ Natalie Manning I have a lot of the same coping mechanisms, but I pick at my nails, and not bite them.
my coping methods: - obessing over fictional characters - obsessing over tv shows/movies - obsessing over celebrities - obsessing over mbti and enneagrams for many hours of the day - peeling the skin off around my nails - used to pull out my eyebrow hair - cutting people off - obsessing over the future and looking for my purpose even though i’m still very young
we are LITERALLY the same person! 😂
@@mk4evah193 in that case bestie, i hope things workout for you
@@jetbllackwings right back at ya! ❤️
Cringe 🤮🤮🤮
@@disease30yearsago76 yes it is cringe and extremely embarrassing for me and i’m not proud of it 😭
"sometimes life just sucks" that sentence is a whole mood
“It do be like that sometimes”
Yeas
Well, it's not wrong.
I wish i have a rope to...you know what im saying right?
@@user-lv6hl7ml2r good job you don't have a rope, it's not worth it. Even if life sucks now it will probably get better in the future.
*Me expressing my emotions* People around me: "WHY U BEING SO DRAMATIC. STOP IT"
I know how you feel. Don't listen to them, but if you are as sensitive as I am, I understand.
I relate. I'm HSP and cry often. My grandma always shouts at me and says: "You just want attention." It's quite opposite I just want to have alone time...
same
I opened up through a comment in a vid.. and someone replied saying "Yeah sure 8 year old." When u suicide most people would say "She/he should have opened up to me.. I'm always here." But when u opened up they dont take it seriously because others as of now use mental illnesses for clout. That's why they always stereotype the persons who really have mental illness which discourage us to open up even more.
Who cares about people around you..take care of YOUR NEEDS!!
Video summary: 0:58 forced/toxic positivity 2:15 isolating yourself 3:11 fatalism (you prepare for the worst) 4:13 repressing your feelings 5:11 romanticising the past
Is it bad that I pretty much do all of these?
So…what ARE you supposed to do?
the second and the last two are what i do all the time 😰 edit : nvm i do all of these
Thanks!
@@cuteclouddarden6256 Do you really need to ask?
I've always been a "cry baby" growing up my dad used to say that crying was weak. I tried to keep the tears in but I couldn't, I'm starting to realize crying is not bad at all its just a way of showing emotion and honesty its just water coming out of my eyes its not a big deal.
No, it’s *ocean* coming out of your eyes
you got something against the ocean
@@georgiaduganzich5203 it tries to kill us, so yeah
I got spanked about 10 times each for each 5 minutes id cry.. so i hide my emotions and my dad wonders why i sh..
I heard somewhere tears take out stress hormones with them too, so it's actually like your bodies way of releasing the stress. This gave me permission to cry despite family culture because well if it gets out things my body wants to that seems good. I also know I feel better.
forced positivity is also harmful towards people with mental health issues because it minimizes their pain. :(
Exactly
@@tartaglia5596 yeah like I do get the intention but it can feel dismissive
Yeah I can’t stand that at all. It’s like you need to be happy to make them comfortable
@@ChocoParfaitFra exactly !! Like they make you feel bad for struggling and speaking up about it. Like it’s an inconvenience
This!! I couldn’t agree more than I do right now.
It’s so hard to express ur emotions when people make fun of you for doing it :(
Aw, you know what. Your feelings are validated. People who make fun of your emotions are wrong doing that. I'd try to stay away from them 😕 I hope you will get better soon! - Cindy
Should you really care about their opinion?❤️ Btw fully agree with Cindy:)
Don't listen to them, they just jealous cuz they have the emotional range of a teaspoon. U have feelings and thats perfectly good and ok. I'm proud of u, for everything, for just being here.❤💖
Please don't listen to those jealous idiots. All of your feelings are totally valid. Hope you're doing okay. :')
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my coping mechanisms: -messaging friends on discord until they all fall asleep and then crying -sherbet -not sleeping so i can plan out social interactions and avoid embarrassing myself -more sherbet -trying to find my cat (who hates me) -crying just because yeah that’s it
I cope the exact same way, Discord and all :,))
Sherbet? Are ya Turkish?
@@kanzanaveed No, I'm American. I prefer Ice cream but sherbet tastes nice!
@@kanzanaveed my family likes sherbet more because it’s less fatty as compared to ice cream
What’s your discord tag
Toxic positivity is so common and it's seen as just positivity. It encourages denial and repressing feelings. I love that this was on the list! Genuineness can be hard to come by.
Totally agree. The happy Nazis, who squirm when uncomfortable realities are mentioned, appear to live in a delusional la la land to buoy their own denial that bad things can happen to good people. Wishful thinking or positive thinking does NOT always work, and can create massive disappointment, denial and confusion for fervent believers.
I like how they use memes on thumbnails and makes it more interesting and friendly.
Yeah, and I also love how they have anime references in their videos, it makes me happy :)
Plot twist: They're dark empaths and manipulate us in watching they're videos by making them look so cute Nooo, I made a grammar mistake that I always find so freaking annoying. Maybe it was autocorrect...
@@fairyfellermasterstroke if that's so then i want them to continue manipulating us
*ゴゴゴゴ*
Agreed
My coping mechanisms: 1.) Listen to sad music: *cry* 2.) Reading a sad comic: *cry again* 3.) Thinking about that sad comic,but you added yourself in a sense into that story: *cries an entire ocean*
Irony
Exactly, my best coping mech is crying and that usually makes me sleepy but atleast i wake feeling freshed abit. I also maladaptive daydream which helps too minus the fact that i think its ruining my life in a sense but it actually helps aswell.
Write down sad thoughts and cry Me
I cry all the time, sometimes for no reason
you like watching sad shit so you can cry and feel a little bit better too???
I cope with sleeping and eating. Its become a dangerous habit that now effects my daily life. I sleep so much I'm failing school and I eat so much that I can't stop eating. Its been like this since 3rd grade , my mother was neglectful and never really took me to doctors appointments. Turns out I've had adhd my whole life and that's why I've been struggling with school.
Ahh I feel for you
As a sufferer of ADHD, I can understand what you're going through. Emotionally being neglected and dismissed or told to sweep our emotions under the rug can cause a hell lot of problems. I've started meditation as a way of coping through it all. I'm sorry you've to go through it... You're not alone. ❤
@@samstumpf637 Not sure if it's related but recently after going to therapy I've noticed that I tend to sleep deprive myself when I feel like I haven't done enough during the day or I feel like night is the only time I could get some "me time" to do the things I love. Personally, the feeling of "you're running out of time" after I've found the third white hair on my head is what does it for me. Maybe you have something that's keeping you up too. A strive that only activates at night?
My mom is like "tell me when you have problems and i try to help." So im like "Hey mom i think i have adhd" Then she stares at me for a little bit and shes like "You can focus sometimes." Like yes but... its really really hard. Then im like "I think i have depression." And shes like "No you dont." And then she found out i self harm and shes like "Are you depressed or sumn? Why didnt you tell me?" and im just like "you know what nah im not depressed." No im not depressed OR have adhd ive been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Heh.
@@samstumpf637 some ppl are afraid of sleeping like sub consciously. Majority of these things have to do with out sub conscious and have causes that aren't always easy to find
My coping mechanisms: - cutting everyone off - self isolation - romanticising the past - playing the one same video game for hours on end - allowing myself to get sadder and more depressed
Do you try to sleep to escape the pain of the past too?
I’ve stopped sharing my emotions bc every time i say how i feel i get unvalidated bc I’m “too sensitive” or i’m “overreacting” worse part is i get criticized for being too quiet too so idek what to do anymore
Literally same. I'm a really sensitive person but I never talk about my feelings and i always bottle them up
Wouldn't these videos be helpful if they told us how to fix it instead of telling traumatized people the problem they're already aware of
I needed someone so I reached out to someone who I thought I could open up to and they said I was being negative. I felt worse after. Now I just keep it to myself.
I haven't been able to find the reason why I can't share my emotions. I just get really uncomfortable when talking about my emotions and anxious if I try to share deep emotions
@@lavenderfield2946 me too. even with my counselors, i would only share a little
Romanticizing the past...Remember, the past is a point of reference, not a place of residence.
On the other extreme, assuming that what you have experienced worse things in your past than the people around you.
My coping mechanism is by drawing monster and how they hunt us or shorten my "cute" drawings are now my new friend
Everything has some story to tell
No worries...Welsh history is not romantic ... just 1000 years of English colonialism
My past was traumatic so don’t have to worry about that
Im guilty of all of these, especially repressing my emotions, mainly because I'm convinced my issues aren't as bad as everyone else's and doing anything about them feels selfish when others need help more than me.
Oh,ur soooo sweet!Thank you.
I relate hard to that. I also don't have much of a coping mechanism bc it only consists of telling myself im not worth the help or attention, along with other invalidating things. Distraction is a pretty good method to avoid getting too deep, though.
Saaame
That is exactly how I think
@@adniaquila1093 that's why I'm constantly daydreaming
Sometimes when I’m ‘breaking down’ I like to rub my arms and tell my self it’s okay and it’s fine and I’ll be okay and it usually helps me with the overwhelming feelings I may have at that moment , I try to gather myself afterwards:)
@@samstumpf637 Aw man that’s not good I use to scratch at my skin around my wrist till it got raw ...but that’s not healthy :(((( maybe you should try ummmm having a hair tie and you fidget with that ? When I’m overwhelmed outside and try to distract my mind I usually take a hair tie or two ....🥺
THAT IS SO ME. My sis thought it was weird but it really calms me down.
no, i just keep crying and cuddling soft things until i stop-
@@personone1382 pillows are the best you could never go wrong there lol
It does help me as well I take deep breaths and let go of whatever is bothering me in the moment
My coping mechanisms: 1. looking at memes, 2. Meditate 3. Cry my eyes out 4. Talk to google assistant 5. Read webtoons 6. Listen to songs 7. Writing a diary
omggg webtoooons, my fave is Unholy Blood
Same
@taylor's cute swiftie Unholy blood is amazing and the art style is *chef's kiss*
1,5,6,7 are SO true
Talk to google assistant 😭🖐️ Hey I just noticed, if you want to experience to talk to an ai then I recommend using Replika: AI you can download it at playstore 📱
Whenever I'm stressed out, or whenever I'm just feeling down, I always put on my headphones and listen to songs. It really really helps. It's weired how often a song u put on, is exactly related to how you feel. If music wasn't a thing... Nah, I'm not even gonna think about it
Yeha ikr! Have a nice day! ❤
Thank u for being here and continuing to fight bc I believe in u and I know u can do it
@@fatematharoo7537 thanks, and same goes to you
I too do it... But my parents scold me like hell telling me tt i always listen to music and i don't have seriousness in my life..... 😭
@@potatoesttomato636 awwww I'm so sorry. Ps love ur name
Nothing has ever been said that's more true than, "Sometimes, life just sucks." This quote needs to be on everyone's walls.
My coping mechanisms: -Repressing emotions -Self-Isolation -Daydreaming, or remembering the past -Starving myself so I feel that I have some control over my life
Hmm. "Feeling like you have some control over my life." Yes. That is why I keep my emotions in and don't talk about them. That gives another person some amount of power over me which I do not want. I need to be in control of them, even if I'm really not.
my coping mechanisms include: 1. journaling 2. ice cream 3. watching youtube (preferably psych2go) 3. more ice cream 4. realising that i might get diabetes from eating all that ice cream 5. overthinking 6. more overthinking 7. m o r e overthinking 8. finally going on a walk to clear the bad thoughts away
Icecream is mine too
It’s the ice cream for me, and comfort food
You just made me laugh with all the ice cream, thank you for that ❤️
@@Brianiboo2 aww xD no problem
I'm sorry, this made me chuckle because it's pretty accurate 😂
1. forced positivity 0:56 2. isolating yourself 2:14 3. fatalism 3:09 4. repressing your feelings 4:11 5. romanticizing the past 5:11 I hope I could help! :)
Thank u
Thanks! 4 hours ago? :0
🌸 thanks :)
Hi time traveller
4 HOURS AGO??
What helped me to accept "bad" or "negative" Emotions was a little hint from my therapist: There are neither good nor bad feelings! There are only comfortable and uncomfortable feelings. Of course we only want to feel comfortable, but you and your body can also cope with the uncomfortable ones. It really helped me to come forward with letting emotions flow and also to deal with my anxiety and panic attacks, let them just be there! You're getting over this too, cause emotions come and go, they're never fully persistent 🥰
my coping mechanisms 1. stargazing(it makes it easier to breathe, especially if ur alone) 2. Throwing fruit into my compost bin( i was already going out, might as well take my anger out on it) 3.c r y i n g a l o t 4. skincare routine 5. sprinting, (just taking off where ever my feet lead me) 6. video journaling 7.writing 8 sleeping
Mine is just sleeping. (Helps me get away from the pain of being an outcast and being with the only people who I know I could trust without the risk of betrayal and being treated like an outcast: My favorite fictional characters.)
I only cry in private, but my husband works from home now. I can't cry.
Write about it. Make art. Or even try to listen to music when you're down.
Is he one of the reasons that you cry, or can you confide in him?
Try to talk to someone about it.
I feel for you
@@fibromiteready2fight809 no, not at all. I'm the type of person that holds everything inside. Then like a broken dam, everything comes spilling out.
I've said this before, but I wish you would create note cards with your little guys and trees. You could make an adult coloring book.
Omg yes that would be so cool
YES!
AWESOME idea. A coloring book with these Psy characters and quotes from different videos.
Omg I would do it everyday with no cares in the world
YES
I remember learning about “immature” coping mechanisms - some of them puzzled me. They were labelled as immature not because they were ineffective or not constructive but because someone saw them as immature. And such classifications concern me. People cope in various ways and with different results. What may work for one may not work for the other and vice versa. Yet, as long as it serves its purpose and doesn’t harm anyone in the process - let it be. Why some professionals insist on rigid labeling and unreasonable justification remains a mystery to me.
my coping mechanisms: -forced socializing (forcing myself to socialize therefore not thining about it -ice cream and sweets -not gonna mention but people would generally consider taboo -repressing
your pfp
whats that taboo pls tell , we all here goin thro same . And its the internet as such , theres not much to judge here as u may not even know the person's name
The 1st one I definitely agree with. I really dislike toxic positivity with a burning passion. You know what they say, It's alright to not be alright because all feelings are valid.
Even though I'm also on same boat
Yeah I have to take their advice
Yeah but whenever I’m sad I get depressing and all gloomy and nobody wants to be around a person like that. Not to mention, whenever I talk about my feelings, I do it in a way that somehow causes me to sound SO much like an attention seeker. Plus, none of my friends relate to me anyways.
Honest question, what is the person suppose to say? Because ive heard many other people say they dislike that and other people would like if someone encouraged them.
Oddly enough, one of my coping mechanisms for stress is cleaning. I could go from having a messy room one moment to having a near spotless room the next, and honestly, it helps more than I thought it would.
@Adrienne Tuleja To be fair though, I really only do it if I'm so stressed out I can't think straight, and about to fly off the handle. The first time I realized it's a coping mechanism, I just... started doing it subconsciously. It's weird lol
@@mayravixx25 i thought i was the only one, lmao. i become upset whenever others clean up or touch my messy stuff and like, ‘that’s for me to clean! mind your own business.’ and then after doing it, it’s like i restarted my life again.
I’m trying to adopt that habit... my whole house be spotless.
Cleaning is a great coping mechanism and I always feel good once everything is neat and tidy 🙂
@@Wartooth885 Agreed, but I'm honestly not a fan of cleaning, even though I like the end results. I have a mountain of soda cans on my desk as I speak 😂
I don't usually get your videos in my recommend, but when I do I take it as a sign that it's something that I really need to hear. And when I get over whelmed with emotions I eat a bag of frozen fruits or vegetables. They are healthier than ice cream so their the perfect comfort food (I have a very deep passion for frozen carrots in particular 😂)
I isolate myself, I spend all my time alone. The only time I come into contact with other humans is when I go to University but even then I don't talk to anyone, I just go for my lesson then leave. I am quite a solitary, but I can definitely feel the effects of loneliness, I feel like there's nobody to love me. I miss my childhood because that's when I was friends with everyone whereas now I suffer from severe social anxiety.
me but i’m in hs
it sucks 😂☝️🥰😍
I normally stick with "Never expect get your hopes up, never be disappointed"
same here
Same... With "Expect the worst"...
Same vibes with “Don’t want people to leave you?....leave them first”
@@zhongli8783 maybe but not me.
Wow. My entire life in a nutshell
When I am stressed I cry. I can’t control it, I cry when I’m sad, tired, angry stressed or even happy. I suppose it’s from my anxiety
@Rob yn There is no shame in crying. I just cried my eyes out rn. Honestly life is super stressful and my anxiety sometimes gets the best of me & i cry to release the pain, even when I think I am happy.
Crying can release some stress, But. don’t cry all the time, Maybe relax and listen to some songs and clear your mind! This is just a tip, i’m not forcing you into anything.
@@ItsActuallySaturn Thanks for the tip, I always cry
@@sydsb1essed WAIT THATS NOT WHAT I M-
It’s there opposite for me. Listening to a sad video, tear up, but not crying. Wishing characters were real, nothing. Finding something very sad but no crying. Shedding tears from excessive yawning doesn’t count.
My worst coping mechanism is isolation and social withdrawal. This is what I'm working on currently as it's completely counter productive to my wellbeing.
my coping mechanisms: - read webtoons - talk to friends - play video games - watch youtube - watch animes - staying in my room alone - crying sometimes
"Sometimes, life just sucks." Just felt so real.
Honest
"imagination is the only weapon in the war of reality" i've never related to something this much. when my anxiety gets too hard to handle, i just tune out the real world and create these fictional worlds where life is what i really want it to be. it's come to the point where i can't stop imagining these realities, and i put them into my actual life. it's rlly hard to explain and idk how to stop it. i dont rlly wanna go to a therapist or a professional cuz idk what people would think of me...
Thats the common lie anxiety tells you, "what other people might think" i know coz i deal with it too. But u know what your emotions matter my dude, so go out there and expres yourself, and mby wisit that psych, he might help you, and a few minutes of uncomfortablenes for a lifetime of peace is a rly good tradeoff if you ask me
Maladaptive daydreamer brothers and sisters ! Rise!
@@angelinagampala4138 same! I relate to u sm. I've had maladaptive daydreams my whole life. I too get so frustrated when I can't choose which one of my many worlds I want to be in or if I don't wanna be in any so I rapidly try to come up with a new one on the spot but I struggle to. I call it "daydreamer's block", like writer's block but for daydreamers lol
i relate to you sm!!
It sounds like you have maladaptive daydreaming, and please get some help, your wellbeing is worth more than someone else's opinion, I don't care how special they are, if they are in your circle then they should support your mental health, if not they have way more problems than you.
I had far more severe coping mechanisms that induced my depression over time: drugs, alcohol, sex abuse. I didn’t went to the extreme, but definitely was the wrong way to go… However when I slowly put control over them, reduced their prevalence, I felt better. Then I started taking far more responsibilities in me - I got myself a pet, made piece with the past and put myself and my (even basic) needs, I managed to see the color of life. Watching this video reminded me of a dark period of my life a couple of years ago which now is rather a sweet memory. I can’t say I am super happy now, but definitely I am much better. My cure was to take my time off of everything and reinvent myself. In doing that I asked the most harsh questions to myself and attempted to be completely honest. It didn’t happen overnight but slowly and surely I am getting there. So my coping techniques: - take your time off - get a grip where you are - push yourself to get out of the bed - pull yourself together with baby steps - develop persistence
One of the reasons I isolate is not only because I don’t like the people around me, but because I feel that I am disturbing them. I tend to over react and get frustrated and angry at small things and then start yelling and just not being nice too my siblings or parents. This leads to them telling me that I’m “always angry” or “always ruining the mood” and it just doesn’t feel right to go up there and make things worse :(
Lol the thumbnail is so cute and u guys using the word smol instead of small is also cute hehe
but i like your profile picture 🐶
Lol thank u hahaha and yours is funny(in a good way)
@@iwillhityouwithmyarmybomb7168 u mean mine?welp if it is mine then tell thanks to the doggo who helped me to put this amazing pfp lol..😊😆
@@iwillhityouwithmyarmybomb7168 😇♥️I have no words to describe your kindness..
@@iwillhityouwithmyarmybomb7168 😇Great to have this kind of people😊spread more positvity brother! And have a great day and stay safe~♥️
heyyy if you're reading this, i want you to know that i'm so proud of you! you've fought so many silent battles yet you're still here. you're so brave, keep the faith & never ever give up, okay? i love you! 🌻
Thank you for your positive message! Hope others see it too! :) - Cindy
Thank you I needed this ...
Thank you so much!💛💛
I thought u said Harry and I was like HARRY STYLES?!
same for u, i love u too
Personally, I use all of those coping mechanisms everyday. I didn’t realise until then, I thought it was normal.
😭😭same
It is normal but Not healthy that's what this Video is for and i hope it helps
my coping mechanisms: -texting my friends all day -ghosting everyone for a day -music!!! -sleep
same! ✨
I love the way their character is drawn. They could be male, female, non-binary, intersex, or any other gender, so they fit in every situation in the videos. and they’re s o c u u u t e 👁👄👁
Any other gender you say pretty sure there are just 2
@@samobohus3670 you're right about that one
@@samobohus3670 in a perfect world there are. In the ideal version of this less perfect world we know and accept that life isn't that black&white. Not everyone is born XX or XY really.
@@samobohus3670 yes there are exactly 7985 and we add 2 more everytime someone complains
Geez calm your ass down people
Repressing emotions is what I do on a daily basis because I can’t talk to my mum about them. When I try she just tells me “that’s your ego” or “you are creating these emotions”. This makes me feel invalidated and I end of masking my feelings when I’m near her. When I’m alone I just shed my tears away.
I repress and ignore my emotions because I have a better and more important things to do. I get that every emotion is valid but in reality I don’t have time for this bull crap I have better and Moore Positive and more important things to look forward to in life. I don’t have time for this bullshit. I have my whole life ahead of me and I have better and more important things to look forward to and wasting time sitting around in my own negativity and sadness is definitely not one of them and it will never be. Fight me on that statement but it’s true.
@@randomshauna6623 i recommend you watch the video “how to master your emotions” uploaded on this channel
@@dra1905 that sounds like a good video. I’ll watch it later.
I hope you feel this...my arms around you!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@luwanabennett1054 thank you! ❤️
I repressed my feelings so when my friend asked me how I was I cried so hard. I almost did it last week, Luckily my friend offered to listen to my rants and give advices, It lightened me up a whole lot ^^
My unhealthy coping mechanism used to be repressing emotions (and maybe toxic positivity) via excessive use of dating apps. I realized this once I stopped when the pandemic started. Now it is dancing but still need to find more channels to cope with all the awful stuff I now can't avoid confronting.
"How petting kitties can cure anxiety and depression" What would the people that are afraid of cats think?
pet a dog, or a hamster, or any animals you have!
you can hug a stuffed animal too
Pet a bird , they are so calming
@@masonjars3763 yeas, nice idea
Hopefully they would be be thinking “hey this cat never did anything to me. Why am I afraid of things that have never even hurt me before?” And then hopefully they go to therapy.
i only now noticed that TREE in intro has exact shape of BRAIN WOW
It is! :P - Cindy
@@Psych2go it is sooo cool!!!! sooo creative!!!!
I've watching Psych2go for YEARS and just NOW I can see it omg lol
Whoa I never noticed that before I still want to know what that leaf says tho
Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! I just realized after reading your comment
The "forced positivity" was/is a huge one for me. As a youngster, when I would try to reach out regarding concerns, I was frequently told, "Oh, I'm sure you'll be/do just fine." As an adult, I get, "This, too, shall pass," and "It could be much worse." Now, being middle-aged, I have learned a lot about people and how to deal with them. Many of them I do not talk to at all anymore, as they were never there for me in the first place. For others, I make sure to keep them at a distance; and, when they try to hit me with questions, I give them short, basic answers. These have not solved some of the overriding problems, but they have helped at least a little. And, I am, now, VERY careful with who I choose to invest my time and emotions in.
I can not express how much your videos are helping me in this extremely trying time. I have and am still going through this, but your videos are a spark of light in my deep, dark mental dungeon. So, thanks. Thanks for being there.
Can we talk about the absolute adorable little character it’s so ADORABLE and just really helps me understand myself
*To everyone who's reading this: you're cool and adorable stay safe* Edit: tysm for sweet replies! never expected that this comment would help this much. And if you're in crisis, PLEASE talk to someone, ok? it will get better i promise
Thank you honey 🥺💞
Thank you😊❤️
Thank You 💙
Thanks you too
I think repeating that everything is ok and we don't need to change ourselves is dangerous. Feeling unconfortable with our own beeings is what make us move forward and grow better, it can even do some good in stopping unhealthy behavior But, anyway, thank you
definitely isolating and repressing emotions --> under-reacting over here. when you've learned from early on that nobody cares for you & you can't rely on anyone else, this is how you deal with things and it's SO HARD to unlearn this!
Thank you Psych2Go. You have no idea how much your videos have helped me in my arduous process towards healing. I can relate to four of the unhealthy mechanisms you’ve mentioned. And they had taken a toll on me just this year so that’s why i’m slowly recovering from it. I always save your vids on my playlist here because they give me immense hope that someday we’re gonna be healed from the silent battles we’re facing. Please continue creating vids! 💛
Problems are not the problem; coping is the problem.
That's so deep.
@@KrysBowbrick yeah ikrr
well maybe i should avoid my problems
@@__GOD__000 that won't make them go away it'll just make it worse when u eventually can't avoid them anymore. Speaking from experience its better to just feel ur feels
But when I don't cope, I'll get into trouble or lose my job once again... 🤷🏼
I appreciate the amount of thought and effort that go into writing and animating these videos - reasons why I have decided to join as a member. My mother suffers from major depression, and my experience with helping her live through it has informed me of the importance of healthy coping mechanisms and mental health. Please work at a pace that is sustainable and healthy for everyone involved behind the scenes, and I hope you know that you are all doing meaningful work for the world.
Hi Quinn, thank you so much for joining our member as another way to support us. Thank you for sharing your personal experience with your mother. We are trying our best to put out our best work to the world and share the awareness around mental health topics. Once again, thank you so much! - Cindy
Your art/graphics/emojis in your program are so awesome! The voice being calm and sincere are a plus to the video ...always look forward to seeing your next video.👍♥️
So glad to see good vibes up there because I always had an issue with it. I always assumed it was more of a live in the moment type of deal but so many people have turned it into a "be positive or stay away" thing and it's unnerving especially with what's going on in the world now.
When your realize that all of those coping mechanisms you use on a daily basis *oh no I’m in trouble we’ll can’t really do anything 🤷🏼 life moves on*
Exactly the situation
same😅
Same lmao
Same
I remember ~~~~ yeah yeah yeah yeah I remember~~~~~~
“Beautiful things happen when you distance yourself from negativity and drama.” 💯
To some of the people, this is one of the reason why we become "forced positive"..
Exactly, stay alone rather than negativity ❤
@@alfreddino2071 exactly
@@alfreddino2071 it's better to say go ahead and unleash it but make sure you reel it back in when you're ready
Two months ago, I usually had extremely positivity and repressed my emotions. Both mechanisms didn't work and made me felt isolated and lowed my self-esteem. A few weeks ago, I found two influencers who felt the same way about life. And they give tips for overcoming grim and sadness. Yesterday, I decided to talk about my insecurities with my family. Now, I feel better and prepared for practising new healthy habits and accomplish realistic goals.
What you mentioned for number 3 is something I needed to hear. I always keep worrying myself of everything going wrong and try to plan for that, I forget to stop and think about how *likely* it will be to happen... Mainly due to common things that happen in my day to day life that doesn't happen in my safe circle of the internet and poetry. You may not be intended to diagnose anything, but you guys certainly help with solving a lot of it! Thank you!!!
This is the best channel ever, they help me emotionally and make me realize that my mental health is important! ❤️
Yes it is! U r so amazing perfect and beautiful and kind! Have a great day love!
Thanks so much! - Cindy
@@Psych2go ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@fatematharoo7537 tysm! 💕
@@ninaa9061 np! U deserve it!
I found myself having a bad depressive and anxiety attack and for the first time I told myself to find a safe place a have a good cry and it made me feel SO MUCH BETTER!!! There is NOTHING wrong with crying it helps relieve some stress and emotions that may have been bottled up for to long!!! Stay strong everyone!!!❤️❤️❤️
This is the second d most gentle calling out I've had in my life. Thank you.
My coping mechanisms: 1. Pick at scabs that I have on my shoulders. 2. Only shows happiness, and not any other emotions. 3. Bites nails sometimes. 4. Subconsciously laughed during stressful situations.
I definitely tend to isolate. I've been getting better at not repressing my feelings but I so rarely see others that it feels like I'm constantly feeling and talking about emotions around people compared with before which leads me to think I'm feeling too much
that one moment when you realise you were using most of these coping mechanisms
The fact that I'm going through all of it is concerning. I'm glad you opened my eyes. At least I can work on it now ❤️
Gosh- the first one had me!! I didn't thought of it before yet I relate so much to it now!! I always tried to cope in that toxic positivity way! But I really can't help myself even though it makes me feel worse sometimes..I really want to thank you guys for making mental health easier to reach and understand!! 💜
Toxic positivity is also known as non-consensual lemonade-making when inflicted upon others, as in, ‘When life gives you lemons, make lemonade,’ i.e.: making lemonade with someone else’s lemons, without their consent.
@Adrienne Tuleja - yeah, same. It sums it up perfectly, I think.
4:06 "How petting kitties can cure anxiety and depression" You need to do a presentation about that? Isn't that basic general knowledge?
Petting dogs too!
petting animals. also we're renaming bird to birb spread the word
@@metra8604 actually I think it’s called a casey
I sometimes tell myself that it could be worse when something goes wrong, and it makes me feel happy that I'm not in a worse situation.
Hey, thanks for the video. I sometimes isolate myself and repress my feelings. I am also a fatalist, I believe that some things just happen and can’t be changed, but I also believe that every person was born to be happy. However, it sometimes goes dark when I get depressed and begin to focus on the inevitable end of everything. When I feel overwhelmed, I do not want to talk to my friends and family. When I feel I am struggling, I reduce the conversations and give them text messages instead of calls, just to indicate that I’m still around. I need some time alone to process my emotions and when I’m ready to communicate again, I will.
Me: Does 2, 3, and 4 Parents: Hey you shouldn’t do that! That’s unhealthy, you should do 5 Me: *say sike right now*
Update: Now they are also recommending 1, *yay*
I always tend to supress my feelings and adopt unhealthy habits to forget about my problems and how I'm feeling. This video made me realized that, thank you 🤗
Thank you for such a wonderful and inspirational video! It never occurred to me that my coping methods were unhealthy until I found myself strongly relating to every methods mentioned in the video - I always thought they were normal and worked great. Good thing I do have other healthier ones that I often use, like reading fanfictions, listening to my comfort playlist,... Lately I've been writing down my thoughts and worries, too, as I find it hard to open up to people about my issues. It'd be hard to give up those 5 mechanisms, though. But I'll try
I cope with just staying quiet and don't look at my emotions. In the past and even now my family has never been the type to really talk to, instead they inflict many of my wounds in the past and now, and when I have told my mother once she played the innocent card and said well I was only there your dad was gone and stuff like that, each and every time, she always brought it up. I know my dad cheated and left with that women, I know he has his own family there with her and just left my siblings and I. We were always just beat into silence when we were younger so I don't know how to express emotions that good and when I did express emotions at some point in life it was betrayed and it hurt. So now I have a barrier put up where I ignore my emotions I don't need anyone or anything to help. I'll be fine cause I always will be at least that's what I tell myself everyday. It doesn't matter, no need for pointless tears no need for anything. I haven't cried in over a year now and I always have on the smile because I'm fine:) so to cope with my feelings I just scarf it down and distract myself to feel something else instead of trying to let my true feelings out... It's terrible
Hey that's almost exactly what I do heh... except for me i just use things as distractions because my life is so boringly repetitive. I know I'm just some stranger on the internet, but I swear I care for you. I wanna see you feel better (I dont literally mean see but like I just want you to be happy) so you can add me on disc or smth else and talk to me as much as you want! I understand whatchu saying and I swear on my life I'm a whole book of secrets, you'll be safe with me
@@Milo-nw1cu yea I know how things are when it's repetitive each and everyday, it just starts to ware me down. But we'll I'm not the type to really talk as I've said but I wouldn't mind to add you on anything so we can chat and maybe be friends to where we get to that point :)
@@purplejessie1065 YUHHHH LESGO do you have discord?
@@Milo-nw1cu Yeah I do its PurpleJessie#2043
I really felt the forced positivity one; except it’s not others telling me to keep positive and don’t think about it, it’s myself. And the repressing emotions one I can also relate to, except instead of the repressed emotions building up and leading to overreacting or undereacting, I’ve just pushed them down for so long it seems that I cannot bring them back up.
I needed to hear all of this, I’m struggling with mental health right now due to problems I’m dealing with and this describes me so well atm.. the toxic positivity is what my parents do to me.
The singing along seems to be a instant mood changer. Lyrics however help me to cope with certain let’s say set backs. playlist for love gone wrong Another list for happy days And then there’s the decades to consider. Identifying what I’m feeling is just as important as to why I am feeling this way. Repeating the same hurts or not getting past them is a ruff place to be. Singing along is like cognitive therapy (talktherpu)
I'm surprised alcohol isn't here. That's definitely how I cope
Even though I also realise that
And drugs
@@MG.Fishing alcohol is a drug
@@soberanisfam1323 but drugs are not necessarily alcohol
Its not on this list so it must be healthy🤪
Dude, these are the most relaxing videos ever. These just calm me down so much. Thank you for this channel. I hope this channel continues growing for a long time cuz it's totally worth it.
how i cope crying crying making fun of myself for being dramatic ice cream watch movie ice cream feel insecure about eating ice cream sleep wake up and pretend nothing happened and convince myself i'm over reacting (which a lot of times i probs am)
These videos, everything, even if they apply to me or not.. they've helped me in ways I never would have thought. In fact, they've helped shake all the bad stuff lose and I had a serious break down recently, due to how the videos have helped me to start understanding combined with my own experiences. You don't really realize how you've been, until you've actually been able to put yourself in other's shoes and see how you've acted and made them feel.. I just hope there's still hope, that I can bring back the person I pushed away with my unintentional and regrettable actions..
I’m rooting for ya, pal ✊ :) Don’t give up, no matter how hard it seems
The animations are always so lovely, the voice is so calm and reassuring, the content is helpful... 😥 I really love this channel! And to the people who'll find my comment, remember you are loved, amazing, and please take care of yourself cuz you are your best ally 💗
Thank you so much for the kind feedback and uplifting message :D This means a lot
Whenever I remember some certain events in the past, I end up feeling sad, enough to bring me to tears, even though they were happy memories.
Same here
This was very helpful and gave me some much needed areas of self reflection. Thank you for sharing this. 💙
After trying everything from self-help to therapy, I have concluded that the only way to battle my anxiety and hopelessness is to disallow any thought processes that cause feelings of anxiety or stress: if I sense these feelings rolling in, I forcefully redirect my thoughts. It does seem to help because it exponentially decreases the number of instances where I feel actively stressed or anxious, but is this a healthy coping mechanism? I think it's only a matter of time until I hit upon a problem that makes me anxious but that genuinely requires my attention and for me to push through the stress of figuring it out instead of refusing to think about it...
Someone said to me yesterday that “we choose to wake up happy or sad.” I was thinking “not when you’re diagnosed with clinical depression.” It can come on when life is going great. I agree it’s our coping mechanisms that will either help or hinder us when the depression comes on for seemingly no reason.
*I found the thumbnail much funnier then I should've now I feel guilty-*
A tool to help overcome this need to catastrophize would be, 3:47 to allow yourself to think of the five top worst outcomes. 3:51 And then, ask yourself, 3:52 how likely they are to actually happen. 3:55 If you feel like a bad outcome is truly likely, 3:58 then plan for that one outcome, 4:00 create a plan that is flexible 4:02 and doable in case it needs to change.
Absolutely love this program !