White girl drama, mental illness used as a plot device, & other hot messes 😓 COOK & BOOK Wrapup
I don't know what's more disappointing, the books I read this month or my cooking 😓 At least the last book I read turned out pretty good! My orzotto, not so much...
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#readwithcindy #cookandbook
I love how Cindy knows she’s bad at multitasking but continues to do this
it's the effort that counts, kind of
@@withcindy Does that fail to explain your love life or perfectly explain it 🤔
@@withcindy the wives is getting adapted as a movie.
@@smilingskeleton3075 how....
Growth
'we're all people' has the same energy as 'we're all minorities... we're all apart of the Glee Club' the unhinged energy is real 🥰
OMG UR RIGHT
You did not have to pull this out of my memory bank tonight. But you did that
More like were all in the same train from snowpiercer
you forgot to mention that when they said that they zoomed in on the black woman and gay man
Oh god not that line. I cannot 🤣🤣☠
I'm a fat woman with body image issues. But honestly: My body and my weight aren't important when there's so much else going on in my life. You can't spend your while existence hating how you look, or worrying about your weight. Fat women deserve to be main characters. We don't need to constantly focus on body image issues.
i agree
Same
There's a great YA contemporary with a body positive fat MC, it's called "Puddin'" by Julie Murphy
Seconded wholeheartedly 💫
Out of all the languages in the world you choose to speak *facts*
I feel like reading stories about fat people being self conscious about their self-image is the same with most LGBTQ+ books being about coming out. GIVE US SOMETHING NEW
EXACTLY
I'm not fat and if I was that isnt a bad thing at all but I am part of the LGBTQ community and I would love if we werent either going through such awful things all the time, dead or not happy in our given relationships. I want mystery I want intrigue and I want a sweeping romance that straight, white, skinny people always seem to get
@@lesbiangoddess290 Red, White and Royal Blue will give you those vibes.
@@lesbiangoddess290 may I recommend Red, White and Royal Blue? It’s amazing.
@@lesbiangoddess290 read "Here the whole time", it's amazing!
08:14 "news flash: you can be poor and also not have your parents pay attention to you!" ma'am, you're supposed to be my source of escapism and comedy WHY THE PERSONAL ATTAC-
takes one to know one
Why did I feel that one tho
Also this is literally the parental dynamic in most of her books... or at least the three I've read. And did the main character go to Princeton? Jesus you're a writer, get an imagination.
The main girl really said: “ we’re all minorities, we’re in the glee club😌😌”
EXACTLY
The ignorance of it all
@Thur Chan she ain't that kind of minority. Her being fat/plus sized shouldnt be her entire personality. You know the minority: the ones denied marriages, the vote, equal pay, adoption just basic human rights over all. She may not be skinny but everything else about her screams privilege
@Thur Chan its baffling to me how she thought it was comparable. I know this isnt the oppression Olympics but come on really?
@@lesbiangoddess290 Yeah like fatshaming and developing ED's are horrible but last I checked people weren't getting wrongfully arrested, hate crimed or being discriminated for being unable to shed a few pounds
me: Big Summer is probably like a light, fun book cindy: then the plot shifts and becomes a murder mystery me: 😀what😀
i got whiplash
Ikr
Made the mistake thought it was a beach book
"tw - just dont read it" 💀💀💀 GIRL
too many triggers to list
“she wasn’t arguing that you were a fcking lizard” please 😭😭😭😭
"we're all people
the fact that I just started watching this after rewatching the hot pterodactyl boyfriend video..........
the protagonist of Big Summer talking to the Asian character is giving me the same energy as problematic authors when they get called out
LOL ur right
it reminds me of an author who said his fictional protagonist would be anti cop bc the author got backlash for making the protags dad a cop that literally punched a civilian 😍
@@iwakeupandboomimarat oh god sounds like a mess
@@lesbiangoddess290 it was lmao 😭😭 i think the book it called the extraordinairies, i was thinking about buying it but im definitely not going to now lmao
@@iwakeupandboomimarat ope tj klune
first tall girls now scholarship kids 😭 they have gone through so much as the most oppressed minority
they're all part of the glee club
@@withcindy you got some inspo from the rest of the comments
Asian side character: I was born into poverty and have experienced racism and feel like a failure to my hardworking parents. MC: Well I'm fat and got a scholarship. MC: I'm just like you, you're just like me, there's somewhere else we'd rather be...
LITERALLY
Somewhere that's ours. Somewhere that dreams come true . . .
@@JibberJabberKZheadcause i am a girl like you...
@@jordansharon3324 u'd never think that it was soo....
@@latenightthoughts1248 But now I've met you and I know
i’m always relieved when cindy gets through an episode without stabbing herself
me too
or one of the books 😂
We all are
@@ducknoisesintensify8007 that's... in really poor taste
@@ducknoisesintensify8007 dude
That Asian character's monologue was actually based off of me dramatically unloading my trauma onto my therapist in my head before our first session.
Why is this me tho.
"If you're gonna problematic, at least be entertaining" 💀💀💀 Cindy, someone's going to see this and take it too literally 😭😭😭
yea, and it's gonna be ME
Conservatives being upsets about Lil Nas X "call me by your name"
@@Monochrome_11 I only watched the video because of the bigots because I'm not usually into that genre. And now I can't stop watching it because it's stuck in my head. I even watched the movie, too, because I wanted to know why everyone was so upset. Like conservatives really played themselves and gave that man free advertisement lol. I finally got it out of my head, but thanks, it's stuck in there again... butthead lol
@@msjkramey Same!! I didn't know it was the conservatives that were upset and went to find something problematic instead I just got a catchy song
Amber Heard fucked up bad at the trial
cindy reads so many terrible books sometimes I genuinely wonder how she finds the room in her heart to enjoy literature
we'll never know
Today's weather forcast: it'll be a cloudy day with a 50% chance of a problematic storm so make sure you bring an umbrella to save yourself from the cancelation.
its too late for me
Cloudy with a chance of getting canceled😚
@@withcindy cindy can never be cancled she has a cool haircut
me: feeling sad™ at 1 am cindy: here's an escapism, shthead 💋❤️
from one saddie to another i hope ur doing ok
Its 21:85 where i live 😩
I feel called out
"I was a scholarship kid" is the new "Size 13 Nike's"
UR RIGHT
MENS size 13. And don't you dare forget.
"I WAS A SCHOLARSHIP KID." Oh my god I laughed out loud. "We're all people." "I know what it's like to be different." Seriously? Because their issues are in any way equal hahahaha. I hope the author sees this review and takes criticism to heart and gets better for the future.
i couldnt believe my eyes
@@withcindy if ten million fireflies lit up the world as I fell asleep (okay I’ll stop)
I’m just wondering why nobody’s talking about the 30 page monologue that was supposed to convey the “we’re all people” message? Like wtf was that?
What in the girl meets Word shit is this
I honestly hate reading with main characters that hate themselves. It’s because it’s rarely used to create genuine conflict and is usually used just to make the main character seem humble and pitiable, rather than fleshing them out.
Late reply but I absolutely agree! It's usually written off as something they tell us in the beginning and then its never brought up again too. Like that horrible trope where main characters act like they're super plain, or ugly compared to other people but end up being a classic, well, MC! Otherwise, if they do bring it up throughout the book its just for pity humbling points or to use the "cure your trauma" storyline. Insecurities and low self-esteem could easily do so much in a good book, but they usually end up trashing the entirety of the plot.
I fully support Cindy documenting her culinary journey because its like a murder mystery. I watch her prepare the ingredients like every step is a clue. Then when she tells us how it tasted (too salty) I can go back and watch her pour like a tablespoon and a half of salt into the dish to really appreciate the foreshadowing towards the reveal. lolol I really enjoyed this video and I always love to get your opinions on books so I can add/delete them from my own tbr accordingly.
glad u enjoyed my culinary journey :P
watching cindy absolutely massacre those onions was weirdly therapeutic
im glad
@@withcindy OMG thanks for responding what a cooking icon ❤️
I wanted to do the same, but as I strained my wrist at work there is limite to the violence I can inflict on vegetables. It litterraly hurts me more than it hurts them.
@@Nixx0912 😂 but I hope you get better
Onioncide
Cindy: "Who doesn't like poisoning men?" Men: *sweating nervously*
good
i would hope so
I'm a man and sometimes i feel like poisoning myself
@@neilagangitlog yup, those are the days you don't question the almond flavor in whatever you're eating.
@@DrakeBarrow it's been so long since i had almonds 😢
yall big summer was a mess the main character actually believing that her being a scholarship student was equivalent to immigrant struggles was so absurd i actually started laughing
Cindy: explaining Big Summer's plot Me trying to figure out how the book turns into a murder mystery: Where am I? How did I get here?
questions i ask myself as well
Man, you know your life is sad when that one part about that stereotypical Asian character and her extremely fake dialogues actually make you tear up-
NOOOOOO
Totally agree about being tired of fat MCs having their body image issues be the main conflict! One I recently read was Love is a Revolution which features a fat MC but the conflict in the story revolves around her actions and not her size! I would recommend that one for anyone looking to read about a fat MC who doesn’t constantly talk about their body!
oooo thx for the rec!!
Reminds me of the show Shrill! Although a part of the first season tackled MC's self-image (which I guess is needed to introduce that part of her psyche, at least to the general public who may have never seen that type of POV before) but the show didn't drag on it and instead tackled other aspects of her life as well. Career, love/sex life, friendship. I especially enjoyed season three.
I thought you said "cook a book" for a sec there 👁👄👁 and I was like damn a book was that bad-
that would not taste good
Hahahaha, I would not put this past Cindy lol
@@withcindy does anything you make?
@@withcindy Just drizzle some cheese sauce on it and the part if it that's cheese sauce will taste good at least.
Fried book 🤤
"I can feel a storm coming, a problematic storm" Meteorologywithcindy
i feel it in my bones
I love these videos but i’m always scared she will end up chopping her fingers or setting the house on fire. She cut her finger in my dream and she just stopped for a second and was like,”oh, i guess we’re using blood as part of the seasoning now.”
i have only cut my finger ONCE
That would not be surprising if it happened in real life tho
My cousin just looked over and asked, "is that a cooking video?" Hmmm...SIS I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THIS IS DONT EXPECT ANYONE TO EXPLAIN WHAT CINDYS VIDEOS ARE!!! WE DONT KNOW
i dont know either
"I can feel a storm coming, a problematic storm" That's me at any social event when people start gossiping.
me whenever i tweet
@@withcindy Facts.
Same
Same
Now I’m living vicariously through Cindy’s videos because I can’t cook or read very much with all my college assignments. Thank you ma’am 🙇🏽♀️
You can do it!
Same, procrastinated now suffering ;-;
@@vamplizzard i hope you did well !!
That monologue from the Asian side character in Big Summer was a crossover of Claudia from MOXIE and Mor coming out for 6 pages
NOOOOOOO
There were so many similarities
I wasn't strong enough for this comment...
AHAHA NO THIS IS SO TRUE
Who is more salty? The food or Cindy talking about these books? That‘s the mystery I have come here to solve
why not both
This video cured my hypotension.
what if you did a “how i keep my place so organized and clean while also talking about books” video? please i’m a mess 😭
bold of u to think i keep my place organized
@@withcindy i just always assume people i respect have all the secrets to peaceful and organized living
@@ghostoyster she is just more minimalist than others. [Hence reason she doesn't have a book collection, but rather uses libraries. Easier to lool neat/organized when don't keep as much as others.
“I was a scholarship kid” has the same energy as “...wearing a size 13 Nikes”
I love how it feels like you're just sitting down listening to a friend... (god the pandemic has been ROUGH)
im ur pandemic buddy
@@withcindy My dyslexic ass read your comment as “I’m ur pandemic daddy” at first glance. I’ve lost all hope for myself
@@karenroque3583 i first read it as "I'm ur pandemic, buddy" :V i have no hope for myself either lol
Lol what Asian AM girl would actually reveal their tragic backstory in monologue form to a white girl? Being raised Asian, means we keep all of our trauma and struggles to ourselves, except to close friends who are like family, and some family members. I barely even tell my friends anything. The only one who really gets to know race specific troubles are my fellow Asian friends, and my bestie!
That one twitter post that read, "Bullying in animes is more like attempted homicide."
“Tw : just don’t read it” my new motto for bad books
Trust me, as a very large woman, I am also tired of reading about fat people struggling with their weight. It's just another way to reduce marginalized people to their struggles, which in this case is body image 🙄😒 It's been done so much it's boring...
whenever im writing, i ask myself "would cindy read this certain line in a mocking voice if she was ever critiquing this?" if the answer is yes, i change it.
good call
Cindy deciding to read a bad book, knowing it will be horrible but is reading it *because* it’s horrible: “This was a bad idea. I wasted my time.”
Mental illnesses and sexual assault are used as plot devices all the time in books, TV shows, and movies and it's so disappointing. I'd be more interested in how that character went through their trauma not them overcoming it in 5 minutes because ✨true love✨.
agreed!!
I am LIVING for you saying Jennifer Weiner is used to writing “chick lit” because Jennifer Weiner get SO BUTT HURT when people call her a chick lit author. Even though that’s EXACTLY her genre. 🤣🤣🤣
Cindy, your ACOWAR video is iconic. I regularly use a gif of you pouring tequila into a water bottle in my family group chat.
Love that!
life is really going to be over when cindy stops getting sponsorships from book of the month like how will cindy get her mental breakdown food money
omg i will be v sad when that happens
Pigeon update: I have been played a fool it turns on that pigeon eggs only take 18 days to incubate so this whole time they haven't been sitting on their eggs they have been sitting on their babies. I can't tell how many they have but I am still feeding their round parents.
awwww round parents!!!
@@withcindy indeed
Red Shoes and the Seven Dwarves is a great story where plus-sized Snow White doesn't have strong insecurity about her body. She loves herself and takes pride in her strength.
the fact that colleen hoover is quoted on the wrong familys cover tells u everything u need to know honestly
so you don't like Colleen Hoover or you're saying it tells you everything you need to know since she's biased because she's best friends with Tarryn Fisher?
Gasp! My emotional support book gremlin has uploaded
hello, local gremlin here!!
Everybody has that one friend that has no idea how to do anything but still does them anyways because she cares and that's not Cindy. Cindy does it for the views and we love that ❤️.
exactly
i love how sassy cindy is about reading a court of silver flames. we appreciate your sacrifice!
The things I do for y'all
“I can feel a storm coming, a problematic storm” - Me, at the starting of every withcindy video.
me every time i tweet
Namjoon and Cindy cutting onions upside down makes me so anxious damn
didnt even realize it was upside down
😂😅
"oh shut up I know I make bad decisions" you are the biggest mode.
big mood
"But I was a scholarship kid" has the same energy as "you think YOUR life is hard. I wear men's size thirteen Nikes" 😵
Tired: watching Cindy's videos during my own free time Wired: watching it right after she posts it while completely ignoring my job
ur job can wait
Inspired: watching it at 4am to calm yourself down after a nightmare
I cry at the idea that people think salt is a SPICE, no Chelsea, it's an INGREDIENT, turmeric is a spice
they think pepper is spicy
Ngl i come from a very white family who would "season" food with salt and pepper ☠️ good thing I got out and met people with actual taste buds ✌🏼
Not Chelsea 💀💀
@@MiadasSchaf good for you sis
@@MiadasSchaf Imagine putting others down for liking other foods
Watching Cindy talk about books and attempt to cook is really relaxing
Oh thank you!
That’s what I was about to comment!
As a fat woman, thank you very much for bringing this up Cindy. Idk why people seems to think that fat people are caricatures rather than just normal individuals who have bills to worry about, tasks to juggle everyday and relationship to maintain. I have hobbies and interest too rather than just fixating on the fact that i am fat. Sorry for the rant but i've been burnt before by people who assumed i should be embarrased by the fact that i am fat🤷🏻♀️
Cindy (27:20): it was too salty :/ Also Cindy: 14:08 and 19:07 If that's how much salt your recipe said to use, sue them 😭😭 Parmesan dishes almost never need added salt the cheese is already naturally super salty 😭 my condolences
It's 1am here and I'm watching Cindy talk about books instead of sleeping 😂
Good idea
go sleep!!
It's nearly 1am here in the uk and same
Cindy: ¿Who doesn't like poisoning men? My internalized misandry: ¿Did you call me?
we love to see it
@@hihihihihihihihihihihey I get it, and I'm not happy about it. Being told that I'm not being a man correctly has kinda made me resent being a man in the first place; but sometimes the only way not to cry is to laugh. I'm trying to get over it.
@@xavierrodriguez1370 i get ya dude, i love me some self-deprecating humor as well. Take care of yourself tho, don't put too much arsenic in your adobo
I honestly love the plus size representation but when all we see is “I am so fat” be the entire plot it gets exhausting. We are people too, and while I suffer from body issues I’m not going around 24/7 thinking about how fat I am. It honestly bothers me. Also you’re seriously my favorite person ever, & I absolutely love watching you cook lol
"I was a scholarship kid!" So you were privileged enough to get a scholarship? How... devastating?? Is that supposed to be an oppression flex? I'm so confused, I WISH I had gotten a scholarship.
everyone say thank u to auntie cindy for saving our monday
ur welcome
the fact that those are two different spellings annoys me. Auntie Cindy. Auntie Cindie. Aunty Cindy. Angry face >: (... : P
"I was a schoolarship kid" has the same energy as "You think your life is hard? I wear Nike size 13. MEN Nike size 13
A tale for the time being is one of my favorite books despite Ruth’s story being a drag. I’m so glad to see it in this video.
You should read The House in the Cerulean Sea! It’s gay and magical and I just finished it. It was a breath of fresh air and so wholesome. Recommended if you need something light but still heartfelt.
I was trying to sleep, but this is more important
go to sleep!!
@@withcindy I did fall asleep! thanks for lulling me to sleep, cindy. now I have to watch your video again in my coherent state. 😂
Oh Lord, I was waiting for your rant on A Court of Silver Flames.. Like, I check if it’s still in your “currently reading” on goodreads every day
ive been slooooooow at reading it
i don’t think cindy understands how much better she makes my days
🥺🥺🥺
I love how this is a recurring segment in your channel now
me too!
it would be really cool if you did a cooking video with recipes inspired by the books you are currently reading, or even ones that you've read in the past!
That's a great idea!
forget therapy, *this is what i need to be happy*
almost 30 min of therapy
Me who doesn't read books but likes Cindy: Yes, spill the tea
also can we just take a second to appreciate the fact Cindy literally responds to every comment LIKE WHAT A QUEEN 💗🥰
I try!!
Arsenic and Adobo has peaked my interest
right?!
I’m a Filipino woman with a strong interest in murder, it was a book made for me
I ALSO have an interest in murder
Me too!
you say adobo in a youtube video and summon the Filipinos.
Who doesnt love poisoning men? Girl lmaoooo!
its so fun
Idk why but listening to Cindy talk about things or cook in the background while I do schoolwork or draw is so comforting? Even if she's ranting lol 😅
aww im glad!!
Cidny is always saying she's a mess or her room is a mess when her kitchen is looking fineeee. Better than mine by a hand full.
it helps that its not my kitchen
@@withcindy im in class stop i knew I shouldn't watch y0u while in class.
@@withcindy lol whose kitchen are you cooking in?
Another ‘poisoning men mystery novel’ is “The Lost Apothecary” by Sarah Penner! It just recently came out and I really like it so far!
im reading that right now!
I love that Cindy is just standing over the onions even though she said they made her cry
I love a tale for the time being, and I agree about Ruth's chapters not being as interesting but I did appreciate how they really felt like they were written by two different people, making the diary feel so real (especially with Ruth putting herself and her real life into the book- Oliver is really her husband etc., and footnoting the diary), same with Haruki #1 and his diary entries. Also I live on Vancouver Island and go on trips to the islands in Desolation Sound (where Ruth's story takes place) so it was very cool to relate and hear about places where I live cause its a small little part of the world over here!!
Cut to me laughing so hard after Cindy says “one large pinch of salt” *pours like 2 tablespoons in* and then “it was too salty” 😂😂
i feel the storm coming too
time to run for shelter
*puts 3 lbs of salt in the pan* "I didn't like it because it was too salty." You really should listen when I scream at you to stop 🤣
You hit the nail on the head with plus size books having so much self hate. It gets so annoying like everyone is horrible to her and thinks she's disgusting, except the main guy he does the bare minimum and he's so awesome 🤦♀️ I'm not even "plus size" because my size ranges from M- XL depending on the clothing but holy shit it's so triggering where I was thinking do people think about me that?? I wish authors stop doing that
seriously!!
I borrowed “A Tale from the Time Being” from my mom not thinking too much about it. When I went back home to read it I broke into pieces. I related to some of Nao’s struggles and cultural identity. It’s definitely a great book but you gotta be in a very tough and stable mental condition to read it
i heard that one of the books was written by the author that wrote the wives and all i wanted was to astral project to the moon just to avoid knowing that this book exists
“Big Summer” was teetering around being problematic to avoid any drama only to end up being problematic and stirring up said drama.
on another note if anyone wants wlw recs i HIGHLY rec "girls made of snow and glass" and "girl, serpent, thorn", both by melissa bashardoust they are MASTERPIECES
“Who doesn’t love poisoning men” we need more people like you, Cindy
"I wish there is a beep every time im about to make a bad decision because this is one of them" I feel this
BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP
I’m so happy you liked a tale for the time being!! I read it during a really difficult time for me and it helped me understand my depression. This book has always stood out to me and I’m just happy to see other people reading it.
“tw: just don’t read it” lmaoooo the love for a tale for the time being is so real 🥰 i really want to read more books like that one
not only does the ONLY asian character have the most stereotypical backstory ever, of course the white woman who has no experience with being systemically discriminated against has to interject in the asian person’s monologue