10 Agreements Every Couple Must Have Before Marriage | Kingsley & Mildred Okonkwo
Embarking on the journey of marriage is a profound commitment, and laying a strong foundation is crucial for a successful partnership. This enlightening video delves into the 10 pivotal agreements every couple should establish before tying the knot. From finances and communication to personal boundaries and future goals, these agreements are the pillars that uphold a thriving relationship. Join us as we explore these fundamental principles that can foster understanding, trust, and harmony in your marital journey. Don't embark on this lifelong adventure unprepared - watch now and ensure your union is built on a solid framework of mutual respect and shared values.
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1. Freedom to Walk away 2. No Divorce 3. Joint Account 4. Communication 5. No passwords, shared devices 6. Exchanged parents 7. No quarreling 8. Intentional with Intimacy 9. Looking after each other 10. Running the marriage by the word.
Thank you for the collaboration
Thank you
You do all ❤
I knew a blessed soul would have extracted the points
This is so heart touching. Thank you pastors
1. Agreeing to hault the relationship when you see that it's not going to work. 2. Agreeing that if the relationship end up in marriage, divorce is not an option. 3. Agreeing to have a joint account (make everything finance transparent). 4. Agreement on communication (communicating more). 5. Agreement on no keeping of secret, password (building trust). 6. Agreement on exchange of parents. 7. Agreement on quarrel free marriage. 8. Agreeing to be intentional with intimacy. 9. Agreeing that nobody looks down on the other(more selfless and less selfish). 10. Agreement on using the Bible to work the marriage.
Thank you for the summary It’s helpful
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Thank you for the summary
Couldn't drop my phone down till I finished listening. Guess what! My Wife sent this to me
I love the fact that when she talks he rarely obstruct her
1. When uncertainty of conviction comes, never leave each other hurt 2. Divorce is abolish (Same as threatening to leaving the relationship isn't healthy) 3. Having Joint Account.(building Trust, Money will never be an issue) 4. Communication is the key ( communicate your pains and hurts often and don't keep silence) 5. No secrets especially on social media handles 6. Exchanging parents 7. No quarreling (we mustn't be mad at the same thing) 8. Mutual intimacy intentionality (Kissing and hugging each other every day) 9. Looking out for each other (Not been selfish, always asking questions of what do you want me to do for you. Are you happy?) 10. Word Center
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You can't pick a weak team and get surprised at the poor results
PST K knows how to lighten up the mood of the room. His sense of humor is great!!!
Absolutely, he's really good at reading the room! As for his Sense of humor,he's a pure & proper Sanguine😂!
The family you build is of more priority than the family you're from.
Most men, especially mama boys don't understand that!!!
@@StarrStuddedEntso true
@@StarrStuddedEntGod bless you 🙏🏾😊 my thoughts exactly
"It takes two intentional people to build a marriage but takes one to scatter " Thank you Sir
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Listening to Pastor K and Pastor M has made me grateful for all the broken relationships I have had.
When you are both inlove with each other, almost all of these rules/agreements comes naturally. Respect will make it come naturally. Love will make one be patient till the other partner can accommodate his/her presence. Etc
“Men don’t read minds, they read newspapers.” 😂😂😂👍🏾
One thing I conclude with this is that everything from a to z has to be intentional, it's risky to act on your feelings i.e doing what you feel like doing in the marriage.
Right intentional
Thank you Jesus, I don’t know how God does it… but everytime I need clarification on something especially relationship, I just open KZhead and God leads me to a message or preach I should listen to. I especially love the part you said ‘’WE would not think of divorce no matter what happens, we are in this for life. I also learnt about the sulking, that’s me .. but I have changed now… because it’s not a good character. God will help me Thank you so much.
Whoever is earning more is not superior to who is earning less
Say that again
Wow...I just heard everything that was wrong in my previous relationship. My priest who is also a marriage counselor told me I dodged a bullet; I didn't understand it. My ex fiancee just hated the fact that I listened to Pastor K's teaching too much, I was like, what's wrong with trying to know how to love you better.
All Pastor K's messages I sent to my own he didn't even care to listen to them
I'm blessed. Though I'm single now but I trust God to be a great partner to my spouse when God settles me in Jesus Name,Amennnn.
Amen
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Amen amen 👏👏
Amen dear
"Prayer does not change your Selection" Pastor K.... this captured my attention the most..my fellow Christian ladies while we're praying and trusting God for Kingdom marriage..it is upto us to still be intentional in selecting..so help us Holy Spirit in Jesus name amen.
Amen 🙏
AMEN
Amen n amen
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Anyone about to go into relationship should watch this very helpful ❤
Wow! I love this teaching, i have never heard it in this version. Exchange parents, look out for each other, be intentional about intimacy etc. God bless you sir/ma, for letting people like us into some of the secrets to your marital success/bliss.
This couple has blessed the kingdom proud of you more grace
I've gone back n forth on this finance (especially the matter of prenup) issue a lot. I wish I cld send him a question directly. It's not that u don't trust the person but rather u cannot control how the person will change 10 yrs from now. Even God said he regretted creating man at some point. Of course the person u marry today is someone u trust but if that person gets up 10 yrs from now n walks out regardless of counseling etc., u can't force them to stay. Why are we ok with every kind of insurance (life, home, car) but not a prenup😢 which is pretty much a financial insurance? Like he mentioned person can be determined to fight for the marriage when the other one mentally left a long time ago n nothing can change their minds.
Communication is the life of every relationship. 🤔 It takes two intentional people to build a great marriage and marriage is between two givers
Transparency even your health is perfect. If a man is impotent he should also disclose it
Many men who are impotent (inability to sustain erection during sex is an aspect of impotency) don't know as they haven't had sex before. So it is either your suggestion is for every man to explore their sexuality and to then disclose that in their next relationship. Mind you sex is an aspect of marriage in the realm of the spirit as abortion is an aspect of child sacrifice (or murder) recorded in the realm of the spirit.
I agree for joint account only for contributions to run the family. Joint accounts and also to have individual accounts. I like to help people around me so I still need my own money.
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No matter how you explain it, you want to live an individual secret life. There's no way, your partner will say don't help except it's at the expense of the family which is a foolish idea to begin with
You are still giving excuses...
Pick the right partner, heal from your insecurity and you won't have to have "your own money"...
I don’t think it’s about being insecure, I don’t see anything wrong with keeping personal accounts, like me for example i like to plan surprises and it’s easier to do that when you have a separate account
Marriage without tolerance will not work, no body is perfect
Tolerance is not a virtue, Patience and Acceptance is a great virtue.
Communication is the life of every relationship Thanks so papa❤ and mama❤
No secrets,no password and no hidden things
Kingdom marriage is the way to go. No other way. Thanks for your exemplary marriage. God bless you both.
It takes two intentional people to build a marriage and it takes only one to scatter the marriage.
Better half brought me here 😊! Ready to learn! Pen 🖊️ and paper 📑 here
True
Oh nice! Not all the better halves take things their partner shares seriously
God bless you
1 be contend with yourself and be able to walk away from the relationship. 2. Once married, there's no room for divorce. Divorce is not an option 3. When angry or upset, talk, don't sulk. 4. No quarrels. We can't both be angry at all. 5. Exchange parents and only intervene when there's a problem 6. Joint account and joint accountability. 7. Look out for each other. The other person is responsible for the other's well-being. 8. The marriage must be Word-ruled. 9. No password or no secret. Know each other's passwords and have each other's accounts. Transparency
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Alisca babe🫡
@jasonokie 🙌. I greet you bros
Great write-up sis. I love it 🔥
@@jasonokie I'm always blessed listening to them 🙏 😌
The family you build is better and more important than the family you're from
This made so much sense and yea… the Holy Spirit is the Spirit of truth.
~Nobody has successfully begged for love......not for long.... ~Marriage won't give you what you don't have..... Have a life. ~when you have self-esteem and self-value, you'll become very selective of the person you journey with in marriage... Nuggets from Pastor K.❤😊
Never beg for love. Have self esteem & value yourself
Divorce really isn't an option if the marriage begin to fall apart because there are many ways to fix it back.Before two reasonable mature people start to take this step,I believe this is where the agreement comes in.On the long run,when one begins to fall back,there is another to caution the situation. Alot of things causes this recklessness in marriage but because you feel you are way too big for the change. Then I ask, How can one love and not be true to the spouse... Yes mistakes do occur but is it enough reason to let your mistakes destroy a marriage u have built for years..Its takes alot out from you to make something work
It's easy to do marriage if you do what Jesus says,... make your marriage word ruled👍
Finally i have found people who think like me
The holy ghost has taken over the aspect of violence through reaching agreements
Powerful presentation. Very impactful. Thank you for sharing. God bless you and your family
Am tremendously blessed...I pray the Lord give me a partner that we would both serve God together ❤🙏
The part of exchanging parents is 👌👌👌👌👌👌👌 God bless you
"Only what the bible says goes on in our marriage " this is grt...
I love this man, that's marriage.... Now I'm ready
I hear you Sir!!!!! The choice of partner is the foundation!!!!!
I enjoyed every bit of this…. We are definitely adding the kiss before leaving the house thingy 😀
Also include a welcome kiss😊
I really don't see any agreement very important than the other. They are actually completing one another. I can envisage a happy marriage built from following and respecting these agreements all. Thanks very much pastor Kingsley and your lovely wife.. I'm following you from Rwanda.
Wow! So you share accounts PK & PM, very good to hear. I thought my husband was stubborn by insisting on it. Thank you so much for sharing 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
You have a good man, daughter of God
Transparency will save you from temptation ". I love that
I learnt a lot even in the first 3 minutes. Loaded couple ❤
Thank you so much for this powerful message but Lady Mildred,I would like to know how you controlled Ps Kingsley's over spending attitude?
I don’t blame the men for moving on after being told nothing is wrong. Saying that nothing is wrong is lying and one of the 10 commandments says we must not lie. PVEL.
Blessed
Thanks pastor. I've learnt greatly here. Imagine I just shared this with my fiance
very true sir
God bless you
Thank u guys
Amen 🙏🏾
This is so good!!!!
Awesome ❤❤❤❤
I thoroughly enjoyed this. Ps Mildred and Kingsley are a blessing to the Christian community 🫶🏽
This is so helpful
Word ruled ❤
Marriage won’t give you what you don’t have
So interesting
Thank you so much❤
Beautiful ❤️👌
I'm blessed 🙏
New Subscriber here!! WOW This was ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL ❤ from Start to End 🔥 very important message and guidance. Being engaged these are all great pointers and lesson for us to follow and abide by!! Thank you both so much for sharing🙏🏾💕
This is very helpful ❤
The family you build is most important than the one you are from
A good marriage start with selection 😮
Such an amazing message. Am so lifted. I also see many nakedness of my marriage in your message. It hurts so badly having to pray for change of selection when the choice is already made. Oh how i wish... All i do now is how to stay in order to make it to the end. Love you guys.thanks more grace.
Kingdom marriage is better. God bless you both Pastor K &M
Communication is the life of every relationship.
Wowwwww... Thank you. I am blessed
Beautiful couple
The family you build is more important than the family you are from, that got me 😮
This is transforming mhen🎉❤❤
Wow! God bless you both
This is beautiful
Thank you Pastor sir😇😇😇
This was very helpful. Thank you
Thank you so much pastor K and Mrs K ❤
I agreed thanks for this wonderful message
Lord i pray u give me a understand man 🙏 bcos i know i will be a Great partner to my spouse 💯by his Grace
Powerful!
Men don't read minds, they read newspapers 😂😂😂, that got me
Very helpful!! Keep it ON❤❤
This is so insightful ...I love you both
Thank you Pastor K & M ❤
Exactly pst sir
Learning in progress
Am so blessed watching 👀 you people doing what you know hw to do best .I thank God the day I meet you both. This channel is topnotch thank you sir 😘 and ma ❤
Wow I really enjoyed this idea and the most important part is selecting a good partner from beginning
My own marriage of 12 years crashed, because of too much jealousy from my man,I will send this to him,maybe it will help him
❤ you are not alone. It happened to someone close to me & they were believers! She was earning almost 3 times more than him & the jealousy was out of this world..they divorced. He didn't want her to have that money...
You blame him alone. We're you perfect? Sending this to him might even upset him more. You've got to take responsibility too.
Making alot of sense.....
This is so beautiful....
Golden! ❤
This is awesome 😲 im really moved