Our Age Gap Isn't Working

I'm really enjoying the intersectionality and diversity of the commentator's qualifiers!

I'm a 77 yr old Caucasian man with a 35 yr old Filipina wife who has a 12 yr old daughter from a previous relationship. We concentrate on providing the needs of each other. Don't overthink this stuff. EVERY relationship is different and unique. Life happens so fast. Enjoy what you have, cherish the present, and be grateful that someone loves you.

Im a single 31 year old female from New Zealand. While I first found your age gap with Chrissy odd, at the end of the day you managed to find love at your age and I'm happy for you and the family you now have. I also thank you for being extremely honest about the challenges you face with that gap. You'll be surprised at how hard it has now become for young people like myself to find true love because social media standards have ruined and influenced people's expectations. It's really difficult but I still have hope for myself that I can find someone who loves me for me, just like how you found Chrissy. All the best guys xx

I am 41 originally from Poland, I understand exactly where you are coming from, but I don't think this is all about the age gap. Filipino culture in itself is different from Western world, different priorities. And then there is this very personal development through family upbringing, surrounding, education, interests and so on.

Black guy in L.A., was 44 and my Filipina wife was 22 when we married. 13 years later still doing well. Even after she moved to Southern California 9 years ago. I retired in Las Vegas and my wife works as a BSN-RN.. 11 year age gap was my biggest until my wife. Remakes of songs has been a learning lesson for her. Plus 1000 other things. I suggest to my 20 year old son, that he needs to get married now and stay together. Beginning to work on getting his passport. Hopefully he'll come to Mindanao one day to experience the friendly people. I've dated many many many women throughout the United States and Canada (some super fine and even models), but none compared to my loving Filipina.

Hey Tim, 66 year old geezer here who married a 36 year old Filipina beauty almost 4 months ago. [K1] Our age gap has not really been too much an issue, but the cultural gap has been the challenge in our relationship. We both embrace each others culture, but misunderstandings can arise when one of us sees an issue through the lenses of our own culture and the other sees it another way. Living together for the first time has been a learning experience in getting to really know each other, communication being the key. So grateful and happy I married my Filipina, she makes me a better person and I hope I do her.

I am 55 and my Jen is 38. We have physically been together in Santa Rosa, Laguna since May 2013. We met online in Apr 2011 and talked for 2 years before I moved out here. I think the differences are more cultural than age-related and for me, the positives of those differences vastly outshine any negatives. My Jen was no shy flower when I met her but to me, it is obvious she has even more confidence since being with me. She works hard in Real Estate and I help in the background and we are thriving together. For a guy that lost/wasted 20 years of his life to mental illness being with Jen has been a second chance. I know I have someone that I will support in every way I can and I know she will always be there for me. To me, the only downside to the age gap is if I was nearer her age I would have a greater shot at even more years with her.

I remember a comment made on a much earlier video where a female commented that you picked Chrissy because she was young, unworldly and therefore easy for you to control. And through the following years i watch you teaching her how to become independent ect. Now the young woman that i see is very independent.......college, a mom and able to navigate the modern world so much better than i would be able to at my 65 years of experience. I see true love between the two of you and mutual respect.

Bro, I don't think it's an age gap issue so much as a language and cultural issue. I am married to a Filipina too staying in a beautiful beach community called Santiago, Ilocos Sur. Americans are so used to freedom and abundance. Relationships are hard in this cancel culture world. Where it seems integrity and humility are looked down upon. Praying for you and your family. My wife's US visa was finally granted. Now, I have been waiting over 2 weeks for an appointment for the CRBA interview. Then we are planning on moving back to the United States temporarily. Unfortunately, people choose worship family above God and it causes all kinds of evil. Prayers for you!

I'm a 71 year old white American male. I was fortunate to have met the love of my life when I was 47. At that time, she was 35. She is one of the most hard working Filipina woman maybe in the world. She was in the process of getting a divorce from her 1st husband she met in the Philippines in 1988 and had 3 children with. We will celebrate our 20th anniversary this coming September. I hadn't had any lasting relationships that lasted more than a year. I regret not having children of my own but love my wife's as mine. It's been mostly a great 24 year relationship. By the way, we met on AOL.

Great video Tim! Many good points and well said! Figure out what you want in life, and go for it. The earlier the better. You can always reinvent yourself if need be, and make adjustments as you get older. I waited until I was 40s to find my wife. Wish I had acted sooner, but the right one came along when she did. I'm going to miss the chance of having kids, but at least I know I have a great partner/wife/best friend all rolled into one! And yes, she is a Filipina!

I am 7 years your senior but I identify as 42. You have well reasoned points. I don't often "like" videos but this was an exception. There are different stages of life, or circumstances of life, where an age gap relationship is entirely reasonable! Personally, I can see myself in an age gap relationship in the future. But I have too much going on right now. Dad died 3 yrs ago. Brother died 2 yrs ago. I'm caregiver to my 89 yr old mom. Family has fallen to pieces. Other family has cancer. I've been diagnosed with a brain tumor (seemingly benign and easily operable as brain tumors go). 63 months to a pensioned retirement. BUT MY POINT... Life is uncertain. Circumstances vary but one cannot fault another for their reasons for being in an age gap relationship!

As an afro-canadian guy who married a pinay I feel that the age gap is not very important as long as both parties are comfortavle with each other. Our age gap is 25 years and so far after 15 years of being happily married...I have no regrets. I applaud you for dealing with some sensitive topics in a very honest and straight forward manner without the benefit of a script...keep up the good work....I might not always comment, but I follow you religiously. I think that Chrissy in her own inexperience made a good choice with you .....well done Big Guy.

Hi Tim, stumbled upon you today and watched this with interest. I was in a 20 year age gap relationship 20 years ago............with a pinay. I was your age and she was your wifes age...........coincidently. It was a 2 year long-distance relationship at first and we chatted most days and sometimes literally for the whole day - it was effortless and it was wonderful. She was incredible..........from a good family, excellent English, smart, funny. I felt like I'd found someone special who could change my entire life. So - we eventually agreed to meet and I went to Philippines and we met. Things actually went "ok" but the age difference did become noticeable and gradually more so as the trip went on......to the point where I cut my trip short and went home. We stayed in touch after that and she accepted her behaviour wasn't ideal and she apologised. But for me it was over, I wasn't one for making rash decisions and I'd lived in SG for a year before that time anyway so I was acclimatised to S.E.Asia to a degree. She was great company and we still had a great laugh but the spark that existed for 2 yearsonline wasn't there in real life........I had broached the aged gap issue numerous times while we were getting to know each other and was met with "age isn't important" every time, to the point where she asked that we stop even talking about it. But...............my wise head suspected that it would be different in real life, and it was. My overall feeling was disappointment - disappointed with myself more than anything for not listening to my instinct, also disappointed at the expense I incurred, disappointed that I hadn't found the love of my life too. But I dont regret any of it. She was incredible and fun and smart..............she just wasn't ready to be with someone 20 years older than she was. 8 years later I moved to Thailand and I've been here almost 14 years and I am married - to a Thai. Its my first marriage and she is just 3 years younger than me and.......................I am tempted to trade her in for a younger model (joking). Things still aren't ideal if I'm being frank because of our different backgrounds and our life experiences. There are lots of expats here too who get caught up in a relationship with a younger woman and I dont have an issue with it at all, I'm quite sure some of them are happy. Whether it works or fails though pretty much rests on the expat adjusting to her culture and her way more than the other way around. We have that ability with our education and our emotional maturity. So if you can adjust and integrate then you'll be okay, if you can't then as the song says............there may be trouble ahead. Good luck, great video.

I'm a 64 year old guy, and after watching many vlogers from the Philippines and Thailand, I've decided to date a Philippina. When I originally went on the dating site, I was hoping to find a 40-something girl to be happy with, but to my surprise, almost all the attention comes from 20 something girls, lol. I agree that after talking to what seems to be 100s of them, province girls seem to be the best. Obviously, I'm looking at a 40-year age gap, but I've seen several happy relationships with the same age gap from there. So I'll be there in June to meet what I hope will be my next last relationship. If you're in Cebu in June, give me a shout-out, and I'll buy you a beer. Thanks again for the videos.

Hi Tim, I’m a 38 y/o American mom married to a 63 y/o American- he is controlling & abusive, trying to get out. I enjoy watching you & Chrissy. I hope to have fun like ya’ll soon. Blessings to you & your family. ❤

Tim, I used to watch your vlogs and when you met Chrissy I thought that she is a clever capable girl and wondered if she could ever knock some sense into you. She hasn't had your background from the states, and I see that as a good thing. Don't try to change her, she's perfect, change yourself, lose some weight (consuming sugar is your problem) feel better about yourself. If you stop cosuming sugar ( beer, sweets, pop, anything that has sugar or turns into sugar like starchy veg potatoes etc corn syrup) drink water or black coffee, nothing with sugar, the weight will fall of you, you'll get fit, and your whole attitude will change. You'll become a man. It's really easy, I was you ten years ago, it took 3months to lose 30kg of blubber. Good luck and take care.

Native American/German. 69 yrs old military traveled/Civilian traveled American. Married at 17 two years younger than her. Widowed at 41. Grew up in the 60s. Came back to the Philippines and had a 12 yr younger fiancé for 3 years. She passed away in a car accident. Came back to Illinois and after awhile became friends with a 17 year younger lady with a child. I find myself missing the Philippines very much. You make me smile and remember the good and the bad. I loved the Province life, fishing and snorkeling and traveling to all the different islands. I did not like the big city life. I would avoid it at all cost. I was never a big drinker so the nite life was not for me. I would have to say that most of my big problems were foreigners. I will always consider the Philippines my second home. God Bless you and yours Tim. I watched you evolve and was surprised to see you turn away from the initial shock. Proud of you bro. I remember my first year there. It closely relates to yours. God Bless the Philippines. 😊

Great video Tim! I really like how you share your personal experiences. I am 70 and my wife is 76. Your words make a lot of sense. Thanks for sharing.

A well thought out & presented video. I have been married 22 years, we have a 14 year age gap. Yes we have different tastes in music, movies, etc. But rather than have a debate on what we watch together. It is simple enough for one us to watch other media. I can tell you it's a great experience travelling with your Filipina wife around the Philippine Islands. We've been here last four weeks and have had a great time.

Tim, I'm an American. My first marriage was a 4 year age gap with an American girl.. I was older. Lasted 5 years. My 2nd was a filipina who was 10 years younger we divorced after 17 years, but separated after 14 years. I moved to the Philippines and was in a relationship for 8 years with a filipina that was 25 years younger. My 3rd and current marriage is to the loveliest lady I have ever met! (filipina) We have been together for 12 years and have never been as happy as now. She is 31 years younger than me. She is far more mature than her age. She is not subservient but rather an equal partner. I value her opinions as she does mine. We jointly make life decisions. We have an 11 year old daughter who is a great kid, smart, polite an is always on the high honor role! People in our country disapprove of such large age gaps, but in the Philippines it is not uncommon. Hope you and your lovely wife and son are well. Doc

Hey Tim, this was a good vid. Yes I was married at 19 to a woman who was 29 a little reversal in age roles but still applies. After we were married we discovered a lot of differences even at only ten years, This did put a lot of strain on the marriage, but we worked through this. As the years past the age difference did not matter that much, the more time that past the less it mattered. This is something that is to be expected when you marry a younger or older person. Anyway I buried my last after 49 years of marriage. By that time we were not only husband and wife but best friends. So it can work if you give it time and patience. If the female is younger, she may still want to go out and party. Whereas the old boy would rather put his feet up and relax. Just an example for you. Thanks for the vid, keep up the good work.

Beautiful background of the ocean but you do make me dizzy pacing back and forth 😂 enjoy your talks, I’m always looking to learn 👍🏻

I am a 78 yr old white VN vet. Retired LC. PhD. Experimental psychologist , etc. I seek wisdom. I think your advice is good. But every life has a unique trajectory. Yours is entirely honorable. The most important thing is to be loving, courageous, and honest with honor. You seem to be those. Let Christi see the innermost you as she can handle it - your son, too.

Great vid, Tim - I'm 61,single, retired in America but was stationed in the Philippines back in 85 and 86 at Clark, and have visited the PI several times since then. I think it takes the "take it easy" kind of guy to have a good relationship with a Pinay. Most Pinays are good women but they have the're typical traits and an older western guy just needs to be ok with that. Otherwise, it can be a clash and a challenging relationship. I'm a bit too independent and enjoy being single too much so for me, just a GF works. And I've evolved to think marriage may not be the best arrangement anymore, especially living in the PI. But I know that's just my opinion - many other guys seem to be happy, even with big age gaps. Keep rolling!

Hi Tim, i can identify with everything you have said here, however boring it was LoL. Mate, i'm an 82yo Infantry Veteran, NZ Army been there done that, just like you Tim. I had been married twice and divorced before, when i met my present Filipina wife over 26 years ago. We have been married 26 years and i wouldn't change her for any reason. She is my soul mate and i wish i had met her long before i did. Like you and Chrissy we have a 20 year age gap, but it doesn't mean a thing to us. She was 34 and i was 54 at the time we met here in New Zealand. Trust me, this relationship was life changing for me in a good way. I have no regrets and i know she loved me because i was not well off during that time. She taught me the true value of the dollar, which i certainly didn't know before i met her. We have a property in Cebu which we will be returning permanently to in the near future and we will see out our retirement years together there. Cheers Tim and Chrissy. Bless you both. Bob n Lina.

You're a very clever man and I really like these videos where you just give your perspectives and learnings throughout your life

After watching several videos, I can only say... I was hooked by your most recent videos. So I dug deeper. I liked your most recent, because all I want to do is investigate that much more I decided to start from the beginning. I decided to start watching your very first video, and going from that one to the next one and all the way up until I get to the point where I have watched all of your videos.

Hi Tim, always enjoy your videos because you have a relaxing calm cadence about the way you talk that allows new ideas to be absorbed. I'm a 59 year old American mixed race(Canadian/Portuguese). First marriage at 21was to a woman who is 18 years older than I am. It lasted six years and produced a son but she really showed her age in that she didn't want to go out anywhere or do anything. My second marriage was to a woman two years my junior and that lasted twenty years without love or understanding of each other and much different interests and was a disaster. So now I have been looking in the Philippines because when I was 18, in the Navy, had a Philippine girlfriend and I really enjoyed the Philippines back then. This new journey that started before the pandemic, I posted on a Facebook Filipina dating page and got a thousand responses and over the course of the last four years whittled down to just one. I know that sounds ridiculous but I work for the Army the first year and the following two plus years was a covid pandemic that didn't allow for travel. Back in November I met three that I had been talking to and the one I connected with and fell in love with is 25 years my junior. So we've been talking for 4.5 years and she is 34, I'm 59, but she didn't really act like the typical younger woman, always self absorbed or surgically attached to her phone all day. It helps that I don't look (or act) my age. Most people think I'm in my forties which makes our physical appearance much closer in age than it really is. We are truly happy and planning our futures together when I fully retire. So with you and Chrissy I would hope that regardless of your age gap, you and Chrissy have things in common enough to have meaningful dialogue. Things that interest you that don't interest Chrissy mean that you might have to have friends to share those common interests but I don't see any kind of other issue here with you and her. I'm sure you both talk.

I am a 60 year old American, in a relationship with a 58 year age gap. My chihuahua named Moji is 2 years old. She is the only woman for me! No Matter how much you love your dog, she will always love you more. 😍😍😍😍😍

Great video Tim. I've found myself in a 20 gap relationship in PH as well, though I have a few years on you so the gap doesn't feel as apparent in terms of films and TV. My lovely gf has also had the privilege of having travelled which has broadened her horizons compared to many people here. I love the love you two have, hope that my relationship turns out to be a successful, and wish you both the very best.

Been following Philippines vloggers for ages, you've cropped up many times, not always not always in the best light but watching your recent posts you really have matured into someone worth listening to. Respect to you.

Great video. I identify as a 43 year old, straight, Caucasian, American male. So basically I’m the reason for all the problems in the world 😂 I am talking to a woman that is 20 years my junior in the Philippines. This video is a great resource for a topic that is difficult to bring up and research without being judged pretty heavily even when I flash my white privilege card. Keep up the great work.

I am an American, 56 and my Filipina wife is 28. (28 year gap). Like you I found a wonderful girl in a province in Bohol. She is now here living with me in the U.S. after several years of getting her Visa approved. The thing I love about my wife is that she had very little of the pre-conceived ideas floating around westernized society and is very much a traditional family values type of person. She may be "simple" by some standards, but she is loving, smart, caring and fun. She loved her tik tok and online media a bit too much for my taste, but really we get along very well. I am very conservative values wise and I feel like she is learning and is respects my opinions on many things. I look at partially as an opportunity to show her the reality of things and offer her some experience and education.

I just wanted to drop you a quick note to say that I've been following your work for a few years now, and I'm continually impressed by your content. From mind-blowing topics to a relaxed chat, your videos are always engaging and leave me wanting more. Keep up the amazing work, and my regards to you and your lovely family. Best regards, @povden Regenerate response

Tim I am American from Las Vegas. Enjoying your videos started your channel, while still in the States. This video was spot on!!! Enjoy watching your videos, good to see you are active again. Thanks

I am a Filipina 35 years old and married my English man 48 y/o (11 years gap) For me Its about knowing the person before you decide to marry on how you can get along. And once you are married, you need to always commit to each other in always looking to improve to have a better version of yourself then embrace differences. Learn to compromise if its for the better. But you don’t have to understand her just love her.

I had a 20y age gap relationship. We went through some of the same things but found a way to compliment our differences. I was able to provide depth and history to many cultural and political events. She was able to share the perspective of her generation and the rapid development of technology and how she saw modern relationships. As long as you can stay open and continue to share and grow together there will not be a problem.

As an older American that has been previously married to an American woman a few times, I was always with someone who was 4 years older to my wives. I am in an LDR, and she is 8 years younger than me, but we are now both over 60. She will be meeting me with her family at the airport in Dumaguete. I have had some pretty bad experiences in marriage, but I see the relationship between my Filipina and I will be great. I feel being a Vietnam era-cold war Veteran, I have been around a few cultures. I never wanted a younger Filipina, as many guys my age Gondor, and I am happy for them, in what they want. I am happy with my choice.😊

Tim, I'm an American white guy. I dream about coming to Phil. Due to many circumstances, trying to get my gf to come to America. Seems it would have been easier to come there first, but that's what we are doing. I'm 58. She's 34. So far, age doesn't seem to be an issue. I can also say, in America the expectation is that you'd date someone close to your age. I see my friends who I grew up with dating or married to women that look like their mom. I'd never be attracted or desire a woman close to my age. I didn't seem to age, as many did, being 58. So, do I wait until I age enough to want those women or do I go for the women I want, which has always been age gap, rather than close range. I just can't force myself to want or desire a woman close to my age. You are so blessed my friend. Love your videos and possibly we'll meet someday

Thank you for sharing and your honesty!

I’m a white old guy lol You make good points. I just returned from Mindanao a few days ago . I married my Filipina and our age gap is 25 years but we see most everything eye to eye. I wait 2 years before I could get there so we talked and videoed constantly and I thank communication and honesty made the age difference seem less of a hindrance. Btw i can’t wait to get back home to the Philippines my new home!!!

Omg!! You guys have split up!!! I knew you were a jerk!! Now I’ll watch the video.🤣😂🤣😂🤣

One of days I would love to have a channel like yours. Have a wonderful day my friends 😊

Great story Tim ! I enjoyed it !! Hope all is well with the family !!!

Hi Tim, I m 57 now and I meet my Filipino wife 20 years ago,I meet here in Europe ,my wife is 12 years younger than me, I have to say that the age gap was never one issue. We are having around the same interests , so yeah, we are happy together. I hope that you and Christy will be happy together. Greetings 🙏

“Prequalifiers” sounds like “pronouns” and “identifier’s” Older in a married relationship 53/26 and we are very happy and compatible. There are a lot of comparable situations with our relationship and yours and Chrissy’s. We also have a child together, a little girl… Yes there are times when I have to remind myself her inexperience needs a moment of explanation and patience. And she realizes I need her assistance with my short temper and frustration with things aka letting go of my western anger 😂. We work well together…

Everyone's individually different. With different needs, desires, etc. As you mature, you are constantly moulded and remoulded. Being happy takes effort. I don't take it for granted. I've got to work for it.

Interesting and introspective video, Tim. Pretty much agree with everything you've said. There are tradeoffs but I think you've done very well for yourself. I also think the 20 year age gap might seem to shrink a little after a few more years with further experience.

LOL! Tim... keep it up brother 😅

I'm a widower out about 9 years. My first wife was from Mexico and I was almost 3 years her junior. I remarried a widow with 2 boys 10 and 14 about 3 years ago. Our age gap is 18 years 7 months to the day. I notice the age gap often. I sometimes wished I had someone within 2 to 3 years of my birth year. I'm 59 and If I were to marry someone more than 25 years younger here in the states, it would feel completely wrong. In your situation being 42 and marrying a province girl from the Philippines, I'm sure that you are more likely to have cultural differences than age gap differences. My first wife was from Mexico and I enjoyed the cultural differences we have. My current wife is American. She is a picky eater. Has 2 closets of clothes with "Nothing good to wear". So I completely get why you married Chrissy. You are living the dream, but I also see some of your struggles. I served an LDS mission in the Philippines from 1982 to 1984 on Northern Luzon and get what you are going through. I have previously dated some Filipinas and understand their unique culture.

Your show is great , you speak well and from the heart

Love the bit where the ba-boy points back at you and squeals, 'Look at that !"

Can we get back to travel videos..

I was once married with a 7 year gap to a woman here in the US and I couldn't imagine a 20 year gap. I understand though because they're so physically beautiful and would blow my mind if I was over there. Just never give up and if ever you think about it just take a trip back to these states to see what you're missing. It will cure you for sure.

Twenty year age gap here Tim,no issues. It keeps life interesting,go with the flow it will keep you young! Province girl,simply the best!

i lived in the Philippines for 2 years. I worked with young Filipino men and women. Family is everything to Filipinos. Much of the culture and many decisions they make are viewed through the lens of family (i.e.: Is this good for my family? Family before self, they find their value more in the group they are a part of…family… friend group (Barkada) etc…(Collectivism I think it’s called…many Asian countries are similar in this regard) Westerners find their value in who they are as an individual. Not all, or even most, by any means, but many Filipinos marry for money. In Western culture we marry for love, romance, compatibility, etc. Many Filipinos do as well… but some marry for money and stability. When a westerner marries a Filipino they hopefully know they are marrying the whole family (at least financially), because the Filipino will expect them to contribute to the whole extended family. Anytime a Filipino marries someone that is from a group that’s considered of a greater ‘status’, it pulls them up in status as well. Many Filipinos think highly of Americans, and other groups as well. If they marry someone from one of these groups it pulls them up in “status” somehow. For example, I have a Filipino friend who married a Taiwanese girl. He was, in turn, thought of a greater status because of who he married. Keep in mind, that when viewed through western culture it may look “off” or gross that these young girls marry old white men…And it may be… but I’ve met many that were truly happily married to these older men… Whether they learned to love them or truly loved them from the beginning I don’t know. In dealing with different cultures than our own we must always be careful not to pass judgement as well as look at it through that culture’s own lens. (Any Filipinos out there, feel free to correct or clarify anything I’ve said here.)

I am American Persian, married 3 times and few other relationships too. Don’t feel awkward with your age gap, I am 75, and my girlfriend is 27, almost 50 years age gap, everything good but as you mentioned there are challenges!

My late husband was 18 years older, I’m 63.5 now he passed away 2019 but we were married 42 years had three kids one adopted. Lived in the US, in five different States for 16 years and 26 in the Philippines. The age gap wasn’t so bad we made it work, Russ went back to the USA to find a job and I worked out my visa followed him after two months, 1982 was my first year in America. Blessings to you and Crissy.

Hi Tim, I have been watching your vids from Harold Baldr days onwards, I am 61 my second wife is from Camiguin Mindanao, met her when she was 22 she is now 34 and we get along fine, it has been good, a few tempo days lol but better than the previous western woman experience.

Qualifier: As an avid Tim K subscriber and supporter I get you brother…thanks for continuing to share your experiences.

I’m 55 and my PH GF of 8 years is now 31. I can relate to much you spoke about. Especially watching movies. I might put on a classic like Shawshank, Good Will Hunting, Goodfellas, or any Quentin movie and she just can’t relate. I grew up in the late 80’s and 90’s and worked on Wall Street most of my career and was on the trading desk 9/11 when the world changed for all of us. Someone in their 20’s or 30’s over here in the Phils just will never be able to relate to that. That said change is constant and a new relationship at any age will face challenges. I personally think if you are younger than her parents it’s not that big a gap but that’s just me. Congrats on a wonderful relationship that works for you and beautiful child !

Hey Tim, I think your a good guy, keep living life brother!

Mark Twain wrote: "Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.”

I identify myself as baboy🤔I'll contact Greta, you're in deep trouble my friend!☹ 🤣🤣

I'm 45, and my Mindanao province girl just turned 38. Been together since 2016 here in the States. Gap hasn't been a problem for us, but my friend is navigating a 20-year gap, and watching his patience get tested regularly is amusing 😄 because like you, he will never be able to say no to the cute little Filipina. I'm guilty of it, too. They're worth the challenges and then some! I'm hoping to live there if the world survives the next number of years. It's so hard to decouple from the west, but I feel the need to. Getting more dystopian. No happy faces like over there. Thanks for all the work sharing your life there. It's really inspiring. So there's my random garbled response back at you two. Not sure the relevance, but i relate, brother. 🤣

Daily Affirmations by Tim K 😄 Good stuff hombre, speaking from the heart always makes for good content, takes some balls too, kudos!

..hey Tim..yet another brilliant ..and thoughtful video..posted..while you are walking ..right along this beautiful beach..over there ..in paradise..

for my own opinion, age doesn't matter when it comes to love as long as the consequences can be accepted when the days change mentally, emotionally, and physically, but because it is probably common for the minor to marry someone older age especially with the capacity to lift the family out of poverty. So let's just embrace being married at an age rather than living a difficult life, anyways I saw in your previous vlogs that you are happy with your life here with Crisy and your kiddos. Stay happily married and God bless.

My age gap is 7-8 years. I would just say you always have to be open, forgiving, and adaptable. Being from different countries is already something you have to overcome or be adaptable about. I think age gap is a little less of an issue.

Hey Tim, love your vids.If for no other reason than that I go out in the presently frozen wasteland that is northern Ont. Canada, to work everyday. I identify as a 61+yr old male. Met my present wife when she was 19, I was 23. Been together for 35 +yrs, with a 4yr gap. No kids. We are definitely in it for the duration. Just noticed how you mentioned the pre -late 90's life. When we were dating in the mid 80's, life was a lot more fun and interactive. Great dance clubs in Toronto, people got out more, face to face skills were needed to hook up. The world now has turned into a fun removal machine. Like WTF happened?

I am commenting as a Filipina wife of a 64-year-old disabled English Man, and we have a 10 years gap, and I don't feel any difference, what a wonderful place you got there. sub and llike

as a Puerto rican from china who speaks french fluently, i disagree. i didn't watch the video and i disagree

As a man that is with a Chinese woman thats only been in america for 5 years now, our age gap is 3 years I'm 37 she's 34, I believe you in everything you said, we produced a beautiful 3 yr old daughter , your insight is on point and we love all the advice you always give , thanks brother, hope you get to visit America soon and show Chrissy some cool things here, if ever in Texas let me know , we could all go out for some Texas BBQ

You're always such a funny lovable guy Tim, I'll always support you. I've been watching for years now. I'm Argentinian American my wife is British, we've been together for years, there's a 13 year age gap between us....Also I have a half brother who's Filipino.. thanks mom

I first started watching your channel with your latest videos because that is how most people are introduced to a new KZhead channel.

I'm 44 years older than my wife. My dad was 43 years older than my mom when I was born. I think the main problem with the age difference I experience is our difference in how we view technology. I think most of these gadgets are problematic. They interfere with human-to-human communication between couples. They cause more problems than they solve.

As a 72-year-old twice divorced and three times retired American White male from the Northeast, 43-years working in the Army, Air Force, and DoD, and lived in half the states of the USA, I gave up on American women and moved to the Philippines. I now live in Cebu with my Fiancée and her two daughters, and we have a 36-year age gap. She is 36. We like similar food, same music, and same movies and activities. The daughters are great and we get along well. It's all in the head -- in my mind I feel in my 20s or 30s. So we are a good match, and she says I look in my 50s because I take good care of myself. So it can work. True what you say, I lived in the 1950s, 60s, 70s, and 80s, and felt much more freedom from repressive governments and society. After 9-11, the U.S. changed even more for the worse. I felt like I was getting some of that freedom back when Trump was elected, only to have all his good policies reversed with a new election. Now I am in the US visiting, and what a bad difference. When I left, gas was $1.98 to $2.25 a gallon under Trump, we were a world exporter of oil and gas, now its $3.50 to $4.00 a gallon. I just went to the food market, and there appears to be a national egg shortage??? Inflation is crazy, in Virginia I ordered a McDonald's Egg McMuffin meal and small orange juice for $10.00. I used to buy jeans at Target for $19 a year ago, now they are $32.00. ETC.

Why do I have to say my 'Qualifier' if someone makes a bad decision??

45 here brother. feel ya. totally relate. hope to meet ya someday! great videos!!

You should never expect your partner to be who you want them to be. Everyone is an individual & should be able to live a life of their own. If you can't accept them for who they are then you should not be with that person. That does not mean you don't care about the relationship or what happens to that person or how you treat that person. When you marry you commit to that person but you don't give your life up for that person, it works both ways. I am in a 15 year gap relationship. Left a 26 year relationship with an abusive narcissist 15 years ago, best thing I ever did. I am truly in love with an amazing person who I know God brought us together. He is a god fearly man who is just an amazing person!!

I'm 64, and married to a Filipina with a 22 year age gap. We've been married 16 years and have a 13 year old daughter. I believe the secret to success with the age gap lies in how you address it during the early stages of the relationship. I made sure my wife to be was prepared to handle all sorts of different issues that my life experience told me could be a potential problem. Things like our age gap were discussed in detail, but other things as well, such as her leaving her family permanently to live here in the US, etc. On a lot of issues, you just have to agree to disagree on a single point, and move on. For example I can't really get into certain music like Rap, etc. We just agree to disagree on what passes as music for us. I sometimes still like the black and white TV reruns, and my wife can't understand why I would watch something not in color, outdated and kind of grainy. We agree to disagree on what passes for good TV. I believe that if you cherish the age gap differences in the same way that you cherish the journey, (not the destination) while on vacation, you'll find your happy place. Remember you always have the understanding that she's too young and inexperienced to know what the hell she's talking about to fall back on in your own mind, lol.

Hi Tim, I’m 55 and was married to a Vietnamese man for 35 years. He was 20 years my senior. I’m American, white. I was 18 when I met my husband. He passed away May 2021. He was the love of my life. My everything. I totally understand what you are sharing.

I'm a 67 y.o Brit living in Mindanao with a 43 y.o Filipina wife. We've been married 9 year's and we don't even notice our age gap of 24 years. Early days were rocky but we have grown together and now have a loving relationship. I was a widower when we married which is vastly different to being a divorcee. Divorcees are less likely to still have fond feelings for their past wife. This can be an issue and I had to learn to 'let go' of my deceased wife. This was what made the early years with my Beautiful Filipina difficult. God Bless you.

Being an interacial person that's white from the waist up and black from the waist down age has certain factor but you have a small age gap 75 years ago that was very common. Any real man will say awesome unless they're with an aged women then they will lie and say that's terrible etc. I'll ask this bisexual girl I'm dating I know she's bisexual becasue every time I want sex she says bye. And regarding younger people they have so many issues nowdays many don't even know if they're a boy or a girl. 😂

68 year old American living in Germany and Malaysia since 1991. My Filipina has been working overseas and out of the Philipines for the past 7 years! We met online 6 months ago and talk or video chat everyday. She‘s 30 and I’ve booked a trip where we will meet for the very first time in person in July. Chatting and video chatting is just an indication to me if I want to meet in person! I don’t do love over a chat or at first sight! I know we like each other, have similar values and goals and have strong feelings for each other. But until we meet, we just won’t know how far we are supposed to take this! We have talked about it and I have told her that no matter what, that we both have to be honest with our feelings and if it isn’t happening we have to tell each other the truth! I like her independence and the fact she left the Philipines to support her family and had sacrifice to build her family a house in the Provence! She is also supporting her nephew‘s education and left school early to do this! She also told me she doesn’t expect me to support her family and has never asked for a cent! The hardest part is that she is very shy and doesn’t speak much. But that is mostly due to the fact that she is not confident in her accent and English skills! So we are working on that! I’ve been married and divorced twice, both long term and have had two other long term committed relationships, with 4 kids, totaling 36 years of my life! I’ve also spent the last 7 years reflecting on my past relationships and have an idea of what I don’t want and a better understanding of what I do want! My past age gap relationships were between 1-11 years and did not factor into any of the breakups! I also enjoy learning about other cultures and sharing cultural differences! I want a relationship based on love, respect and connection and don’t believe in putting obstacles, such as age differences in the way! If it works and both are fulfilled why question it? My biggest failure in my previous relationships was that they were based on physical attraction first and me providing financial security second, which I mistook for love! My priorities were backwards! I really really enjoy watching your channel Tim and p.s. I used to live on 44th in Newport Beach and played hoops at the court on 46th street and the Laguna Beach tournaments!

Very mindful thoughts! Thank you...

52 year old American in a relationship with a 25 year old Thai lady in Thailand. The age gap is honestly not a big problem. Cultural, language, and different financial up bringings are often more common areas of problems in our relationship. You never needed to learn to budget if you never had any money for example. You never learned how to board a plane if you could never afford to travel etc. The more similar your backgrounds are the less areas there are for misunderstanding. Age is simply one area that lets your background be more similar (grew up watching the same television shows, similar music period etc).

As an American in USA, my wife is from china and is 5 years older than me with a son. I have ex gfs. They weren’t good. My wife is amazing. Age gap is fine but yes there are issues of course. I guess it depends on how both people in the relationship feel about each other.

Hi Tim. Any problems finding clothes that fit there? I am also a big guy 6-4 230. Thanks. Enjoying your videos

I have been following you since your first arrival in the Philippines in 2021, during the Covid years. That several days on a basket course.

Age is just a number in my opinion. My wife and I have a age gap of 27 Years, 10 Months and 6 days. I am an American from Western New York and have lived in the Philippines for almost 14 years. We have been married over 8 years and together almost 10 years. This is both of ours first and only marriage's. I married her when I was 49 years old. I dated dozens of American girls and dozens of Filipino girls over the years and finally found the right one to marry. My wife was and still is a province girl but we have taken a few trips out of the country and she is learning more and more every day. Where we live in the Philippines is about as remote as you can get. Our island is 10.6 kilometres (6.59 mi) long and 3.7 kilometres (2.30 mi) wide with a population of around 12,000 people with 6 full time foreigner's living here. We have 1 gas station and a few local so called restaurants. Everything comes here by boat. It is extremely safe, no bars on the windows, can leave doors unlocked, zero issues. It is a easy Island life.

I’m 17 years older than my girlfriend but it’s not really any age gap that makes it difficult at times… it’s more the cultural differences and her not so perfect English causes her difficulty in describing things coherently to me at times 😊

I’m a 61 year old widower from the USA. I’m engaged to a 45 yr old Filipina from the Province although she lived 10 years in Manila. She is never married and no children. I’ve been to the Philippines 4 times with her while we’re waiting for her K1 visa. I would have preferred a 10 year age gap but she was so perfect in every other way. She is completely fine with my age. Hopefully we’ll have a long happy life together God willing. We each can’t imagine life without each other.

Thank you for sharing.

Always be nice to Krissy Tim, 20 years from now she will be choosing which Home for the aged to send you.

I am 77, been married to a 34 yr old Filipina for 6 years in Canada. We have a wonderful marriage.

Great video very good advice bro I love seeing the ocean behind you I will be returning to the Philippines dec1st this year my wife's family has a home and land by the China sea in candelaria zambales Philippines about 2 1/2 hours north of alongapo keep up the great work bro

As a 65yr old retiree I can clearly understand your perspective. I have had two career phases, blue collar then white collar. Two marriages the first from 20-40 second from 40-60. Each time you start over, it’s like being born again. Bless you and your family ❤ Enjoy your new life.

Without money most Filipinas will prefer a male their age range.