How to Read Body Language to Get What You Want: 6 Simple Psychological Tricks to Be More Confident

2024 ж. 24 Сәу.
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Do you want to know how to talk to anyone with ease and confidence?
In this episode, you will learn science-backed psychological tricks to be more successful, charismatic, and influential today.
Vanessa Van Edwards is the founder of The Science of People (@ScienceOfPeople), a behavior lab that studies high achievers and the science of confidence and body language.
Her research proves that anyone can learn these practical skills and become a more successful person by using the same simple habits that almost every high achiever has.
Whether you want to be a better leader, land your dream job, achieve big goals, or align your life with what you want, this is the episode for you.
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In this episode:
00:00 Intro
04:47: The shortcuts high achievers take to communicate effectively.
05:32: The mistake most people make when working on their goals.
08:08: These relationships are the most toxic ones.
13:34: What makes some kids more popular than others will surprise you.
15:41:How to make your friendships stronger.
20:29: People who make mistakes are more likable.
24:47: How your toes give you away when you’re in a group.
26:13: Do this when you walk into a room to appear more confident.
34:23: Why your office chair should have arm rests and swivel.
39:12: Here’s why you are more likely to believe gestures than words.
42:21: How to stop using vocal fry or get someone else to stop doing it.
44:07: Use these words to set your team up for success.
49:11: What to add to your calendar every day to keep you motivated.
51:08: What are the best conversation starters?
56:53: How other people’s fear is contagious.
1:01:12: The worst place to stand in a room when you’re at a party.
1:04:53: How to figure out what you’re really good at.
1:14:41: What do highly effective people do at the end of the day?
#confidence #confident #bodylanguage
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    • You could be sending a subconscious message of neediness, too. People pick up on it even when we aren’t aware and it pushes them away. I have had to do a lot of work in this area because of trauma wounding causing me to seek acceptance and approval. I’ve read both her books and they are outstanding, but the tools work best when combined with deep work on our subconscious programming.

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    • @@akm17178 Dunno about that. It would be nice to be appreciated back. These are my people. My friends and family to begin with. But yeah. Maybe not. Maybe they only wanna put in meagre effort and I'm overly zealous and loving. I've been told I'm too kind/compassionate by strangers. Maybe it's just my nature now.

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    • Oh thank you so much!!! That's exciting! Hope you'll enjoy the book too! Share it with us via instagram! we'd love to hear from you! 😍

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    • R u jullie rodrix

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  • Her closing comments made me emotional ❤

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  • Thanks!

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    • You are more than welcome!!! Hope you'll enjoy the whole podcast! 😍

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    • ​@@ScienceOfPeopleI'm sure i will....if it's possible consider doing a podcast with Brene Brown... another great lady!

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  • 2 of my most favorite women!!

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  • ❤at the end I think I like you both I can feel the positivity of both grateful to you ❤

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  • Love this!, thanks Mel and Vannesa!!

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    • You're more than welcome!!! 🥰

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  • I LOVE HER

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    • Oh thank you so much!!!

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  • Amazing episode!

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    • Oh thank you so much!!!

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    • Oh thank you so much!!! 🥰

      @ScienceOfPeople@ScienceOfPeople8 күн бұрын
  • Great podcast

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  • Vanessa!!!! Omfg!!!! You just confirmed something I observed in patients for 20 years!!! Our mindset and world orientation is contagious!!!! I have watched this occur in patients at the hospital and nursing home 💯 and I have observed this in my spouse and my children!!! Really excellent tips today!!!! I need to figure out what my A work is....

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  • PSA: Introversion and shyness are not the same thing! Love, An extremely outgoing & friendly person who simply needs to be alone to recharge. 💛

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  • I live alone and work remotely. I get no social interaction during the week and do more on the weekends. ANY social interaction is good for me. I like it when I take a walk and someone waves at me.

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    • Oh thank you so much!!! 🥰

      @ScienceOfPeople@ScienceOfPeople8 күн бұрын
  • Love this podcast. Mell is amazing 🤩 I also recently made a video about "Practicing Body Language Basics" in my "21-Day Confidence Building Challenge" series on my channel. Learning body language for confidence is one big part of evolving yourself into a powerful human being!

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  • Motivation

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  • 30:09 If you’re switching from the audio version to this, it starts here!

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  • I like this lady

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  • Wow 👏👏👏 I LOVE U ! 🫶

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  • I just realized all people and work are in my B list. I don't know what's on my best list and worst list, jack of all trades 😅😂 Because since childhood I've been told to be good in all subjects, must focus on what I'm worse at and develop it. And also to tolerate most people, to conform and be accepted by others.

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