The #1 Menopause Doctor: How to Lose Belly Fat, Sleep Better, & Stop Suffering Now
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Today's episode is a MUST listen. You won't believe what the latest research is saying about #menopause. And you're likely not getting what you need to know from your doctor.
Did you know #perimenopause can begin as early as your 30’s? Or that symptoms can include frozen shoulder, joint pain, ear ringing, migraines, and body odor?
Today, the #1 menopause doctor tells you everything she knows so you can stop guessing and KNOW how to stay healthy and feel amazing in your body.
Dr. Mary Claire Haver joins Mel on the podcast today. She is a board certified obstetrics and gynecology specialist, a certified menopause practitioner from the Menopause Society, and her latest book is The New Menopause. Her advice today will help you optimize your health, no matter what your age.
You've got symptoms; today's episode has solutions, like:
- 3 types of foods that will stop your bloating
- 2 supplements that will help you sleep better
- 1 exercise that will help you lose weight and improve your bone density
Bookmark this episode and share it with every single woman in your life, because it’s time to change the paradigm: you do not have to live with symptoms that can be resolved and you do not have to suffer.
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For more resources, including links to Dr. Haver’s latest book, her free Menopause Empowerment Guide, and reader recommended physicians, click here for the podcast episode page: www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-157
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I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode.
In this episode:
00:00 Intro
06:10: What’s wrong with our medical system when it comes to menopause.
08:45: By the age of 30, women have lost 90% of these.
09:44: How the loss in sex hormones starts to affect your life.
12:30: What on earth is a WW?
14:50: Surprising symptoms you’d never think were related to menopause.
19:15: How does estrogen help your body run in the most optimal way?
20:45: What causes menstrual bloating and swelling?
21:00: Why do women become depressed and anxious during their cycles?
21:40: Wait. Migraines can be caused by a change in hormones?!
22:15: You’re not crazy if you’re dealing with ADHD symptoms in your 30’s.
24:00: Another surprising symptom of low estrogen levels.
28:10: What does estrogen have to do with your heart health?
29:10: How women are being treated unfairly by the health insurance industry.
29:55: Asthma is another unexpected symptom of menopause.
30:15: Estrogen impacts your gut health.
30:30: Despite what you’ve been told, osteoporosis IS preventable.
33:40: How is a woman’s vagina impacted by loss of estrogen?
38:20: How do women start to experience perimenopause?
42:00: Once officially in menopause, a woman should never have these again.
43:20: Will you have these menopause symptoms for the rest of your life?
44:25: Your body makes 4 types of estrogen.
46:26: How much estrogen you have at 25 vs. postmenopause.
47:40: The postmenopause toolkit you need to start feeling better.
48:20: What you need to know about hormone replacement therapy.
53:12: 3 types of food ALL women should include in their diets.
55:10: What type of magnesium supplement should you take?
56:56: Why you have to take a vitamin D supplement.
57:52: Why do so many women have higher cholesterol?
58:45: Should women take probiotic supplements?
59:30: How visceral fat is different from other fat and how HRT helps.
1:00:12: What type of exercise should postmenopausal women do?
1:01:30: How can you sleep better?
1:03:20: Estrogen dips impact how your body processes alcohol.
1:09:45: How do you find a doctor and how do you prepare for your visit?
1:10:55: What else can you do to manage your experience?
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Thank you! Yes We need to focus on solutions.
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Gen X women are not taking this shit lying down. We know we our worth! 💪
You think Gen X is something special girl I am a baby boomer and I know what I’m worth. I knew what I was worth the day I was born. You are a bunch of whiny piss ants. They cannot take care of yourselves I don’t wanna work I want to sit on my ass and get taken care of. I was a single parent with two kids making $7.29 an hour raising them with no child support, you think you’re tough bitch I’ve been where you are I can do it standing on my head blind I don’t need a man how many men you got taken care of you you got mommy and daddy taking care of you too you living in the basement, afraid to move out because you don’t make enough moneyyeah I know Gen X my ass
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AMEN
Amen.❤ I am over it. Tried of being tired ALL the time!
And we live in a world with access to a plethora of information unlike our mothers and grandmothers so there is no reason to except the same excuses
I'm 67 and recommend that you start weight training and core strength work before age 40 and don't ever stop. It needs to be a routine part of your identity, above everything else in priority. It is very difficult to catch up after menopause, although I'm trying.
Stiff hips and back have plagued me since about age 55 (12 years) and now I'm finding this may be due to hormones!?
@@sharon1934 I’m 54 and the stiffness recently started😒 along with the hot flashes and weird body pains this is no fun I better get back to working out stretching and better nutrition ASAP!
I also wish I’d known this in my forties. I tell everywoman in her late 30s to start learning about menopause
I had one gynecologist who was in her mid 30’s tell me bio-identical hormones will give me ovarian cancer.
Very true. I was doing weight training & core & balance work doing great. Then covid & menapause happened at same time. Covid almost killed me & my husband & recovery was slow. I was a military wife- handled every thing by myself, fixed stuff, cooked cleaned worked raised kids, church stuff etc. Now I am over whelmed almost all the time. Cant seem to accomplish much. I have always been able to juggle alot, build stuff, organize stuff. Im 59- moved last fall. Dont have energy to unpack. Did not make a great decision on the property we bought... I am an insomniac, depressed, unable to handle much, ADHD, gained 15 lbs, developed pain in hips & shoulder, and general malaise. I think alot about dying instead of doing something productive. God please help me get my tax stuff ready for cpa. Cant find a doctor to help me except to give me vaginal crm which helps with that part. I have called alot of drs.
I am a family medicine physician, and this is the most amazing thing I’ve heard out of any of the articles I’ve read in the last year. It’s like a lightbulb has clicked on. Thank you.
I imagine you are not alone in feeling that way. I have had many clients who are physician’s or in family practice and just haven’t had enough current perimenopause to menopause education. Or understand enough what they can do for themselves. Wishing you all the best in your new realization.
Thank you for watching and keeping up with new research. I have several issues and have been to more doctors than you can shake a stick at. I've found with so many doctors they get to a point where they think there's nothing left for them to learn and this leads them to not listening to their patience and blowing them off rather than admit maybe they don't know it all or that they haven't kept up with any newer medicine
THANK YOU! I'm in tears watching as a 55 year old post menopausal woman who was always in tremendous shape and just felt healthy. I didn't have a doctor the past 10 years and went through menopause about 7 years ago. I feel like my body is now breaking down in every way and gaining the most stubborn weight with zero energy to work out like I used to. My spine is grinding bone, I have tremendous brain fog, extreme exhaustion and after sudden repeat UTI's a doctor at the walk-in suggested a wonderful female urologist who put me on Premarin and probiotics. The relief was IMMEDIATE. This podcast is life changing news and hoping it's not too late to regain my health, power and zest for life. Long live Gen X!
The thing nobody talks about are TEETH! I’ve always prided myself of my nice smile. Once I entered menopause my teeth started to move and I now have a gap between my front teeth. I also needed 4 filling in my last visit something I didn’t need since a teenager. The orthodontist explained that this can happen with the hormone changes in menopause and the lost of bone density in the jaw. I never thought that I’d be needing teeth straightening at 55.
Yes my teeth got really weak I cut back on sugar started oil pulling and take fermented cod liver oil and vitamin d3 with k2 it works
I just got Invisalign at 69. Ive never had braces
This explains my teeth realignment..😢 thank you for sharing
Thank you! I have a tooth implant that is coming loose from my jaw bone and now I understand.
Me too. I’m 76. Because of front tooth gap just got gap fixed
1. Vitamin D 2. Probiotics gut health 3. Weight training not cardio
And magnesium
Fiber
If you are going to take Vitamin D, please take Vitamin K2 MK-4, (not MK-7) in tandem. K2 MK-4 is a hormone (signalling molecule) that facilitates calcium uptake into the bones. Big pharma are pushing vitamin D supplements with MK-7 because it has a longer half-life in the body’s plasma, (i.e. it is not metabolised as quickly by the body), but actually you want the body to absorb MK faster so that it works faster and more efficiently. That’s where MK-4 is far superior because it’s a shorter chain molecule. The bulk price for MK4 and MK7 is the same, but because MK7 has side effects, the dosage sold is lower than in that of MK4 which means that Pharmaceutical companies can sell MK7 at a greater profit. Hence why they push MK7 over MK4. MK4 is essential for the body and we would die without it. Another lesser known attribute of MK4, is that it has been known to help kill cancer and prevent its growth in over 15 different cancer cell types, e.g. breast, leukemia, liver and lung. There are no clinical trials for this and you can be sure that this is because pharmaceutical companies cannot make any money out of it. I am not altogether against pharmaceutical companies, (we wouldn’t have HRT without them), I am just saying that they tend to pick and choose what would make them the most profit accordingly as it’s good business sense. Just choose your supplements wisely and with good research. Hope that helps.
The best Vit D you get is the sun
thats what i’ve been doing weight training best thing ever
I wish she could just let the doctor talk, it’s so hard to hear everything when the doctor was constantly interrupted by the interviewer. I had to fast forward this video to get the most important bits.
I love so much Mel but yes she could work on not interrupting pls Mel and let the guest talk more. We love and we thank you so so much for the amazing content you give free for all of us ❤
I agree with you 😒
It helps me to realize that it is a conversation, not an interview or lecture. I am being allowed to listen in as 2 people are having an amazing conversation!
Completely agree with you, I felt the same way. Her over exaggerated responses were very distracting and annoying. This doctor has her own website etc so I suggest going there for more info.
Hi! You could listen to this doctor on a the DOAC podcast, juste KZhead "DOAC menopause". I just listent to it over there, I like how the host leaves space.
Mel, the problem is not knowing about PERIMENOPAUSE, that phase lasts 10 to 15 years, and starts around age 35, sometimes even earlier. It is not possible for us to maintain this natural hormone decline with our diets. It's not fair to lump perimenopause and menopause together. Perimenopause is one of the most delicate times in a woman's life. On my channel, I interview women from around the world, and we are all clueless about this period of time. During the middle and end of perimenopause, women hold the highest suicide risks, we are losing women to a hormone decline, not to an illness. As much as I am doing in my power to create awareness, one woman cannot do this alone; it takes us all working together. As a society, we should guide the next generation.
Exactly! Had a young doc tell me at 35 I was in perimenopause. She left our state shortly after. That began my 24yr battle with doctors telling me to exercise more, eat less, here’s the newest antidepressant, etc! Recently saw a menopause trained doc who told me most of these symptoms weren’t from menopause. Calling bs.
Oh yes! The mental health, the pressure to 'be' our best self for the world and go through menopause (something the medical industry or anyone really cannot see is huge for us. We need to exist with our body's changes and embrace it!
Absolutely!!! I feel this same way! Our doctors are in serious need of true education
Hey there… I subscribe to your channel and I'm gonna check it out. Good for you! It's so much more than black-and-white I'm somewhere between 35 and 55 and get my hormones test, tested by hormone specialist and they say I'm not menopausal, but I have other situations I guess what I mean to say is if you got your hormones tested every day at the same time for 30 days they could be radically different and for some reason they don't do that they do sleep studies but they won't test your hormones even every day for two weeks I'm looking for a naturopath and/or Doctor Who is willing to try this with me by nature, the endocrine system is not a linear thing, there are cycles there are seasons. so instead of a straight line, it's a big squiggly line and we just have to find a way to embrace this nurture this and maybe educate other people we're on the right path and I sure do hope with these two women and yourself included society changes faster because the 90s may as well have been the 50s let me tell you! Looking forward to watching your videos. Keep up the good work.❤
So true! I subscribed to your channel.
Good show. 20 years ago I found a father/son doctor team in Florida who owned an alternative medicine clinic. They were life changing for me. Way ahead of their time. They did comprehensive blood work, gave me bioidentical hormones in cream form and a low dose of natural thyroid (not synthetic). Gave me my life back at 55. They also recommended low carb, high protein, natural saturated fat in the diet. It was a remarkable change for me. I'm now 75 and off hormones and thyroid med. Very healthy. I'm also 90% carnivore.
Do carnivore diets eat a lot of red meat?
What is the name of the doctor?
Please do share what that topical bio identical hormone cream please???? TIA Also, the Dr’s name of I can please get their information 🙏🙏🙏
Yes drs name please! I’m in FL.
Dr name and local please!
Never thought a podcast on menopause would bring me to tears! And this isn’t just an emotional me speaking. I’m not crazy, lazy, and fat! I had a partial hysterectomy in 2001 when I was 32. These last several years have been awful in so many ways and I don’t go to a doc for most of it so no one thinks I’m just a “WW”. I’m definitely passing this on to my sister and friends. Thank you both!
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Partial hysterectomy for me in 2008 at 37. Can't lose weight no matter how much I exercise or eat/don't eat. As someone else mentioned in comments my teeth have rapidly gone down hill by cracking at corners & front top 2 shifted position into a slight gap. Lucky to sleep 3 hrs without waking up for hr or more. It's like I take mini naps around the clock. At times I feel like I have narcolepsy. I can even fall asleep at my desk while working esp if I've eaten anything. I can go all day without eating with no issues until my brain doesn't wanna work anymore. If I force myself to eat 3x day the body wants to sleep to digest the food which leads to many occasional daytime naps. That sleep is awesome tho as it's VERY DEEP sleep! I may subconsciously hear ppl trying to get me to wake up or sit back or put something down but can't respond at all. I can even nap on 300-400mg of caffeine! If I don't eat it don't happen at all. Anyone else experience this? I'm 53 now & not diabetic. I'm definitely overweight but been this weight 2 decades & can't lose even walking 100 miles month & exercising 5x wk for last 2 yrs.😢
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This was mind blowing!!! I'm 49 and just went through one of those million dollar cardio work ups for palpitations. Increased joint pain, shoulder joint pain, brain fog, loss of concentration, monkey brain, and on & on. They said exactly what you said, nothing. I have told my MD, spouse, OB/GYN that I don't feel like I am in my body and something is off but I can't explain it. Nobody can help me. I finally feel like someone is listening.
Going to be 57 next week - at about 50 I gained 30 pounds and completely felt like my body was turning on me - stressed, rashes, emotional- freaking miserable - found a functional medicine doctor - started hormone replacement at 51 and two years ago began intermittent fasting - I lost 35 pounds and words can’t describe how great I feel 🎉
all Dr's want to do is push Meds....
What type of intermittent fasting are you doing, 12 hrs, 16?
@@LivingMyLyfe typically 16/8 now that I’ve been maintaining for the last year - when I started out mostly 18/6 with an occasional 24 - I clean fast when fasting just water and black coffee - cured my reflux which was a huge plus !
I love this advice! Intermittent fasting has been a great tool. Dr. Mindy Pelz has some very sound advice regarding this. If you haven’t watched her KZhead you must!
I also started HRT at 51. Now I have breast cancer. Would give anything to go back and reverse my HRT choice. My functional medicine doctor swore there was no danger. She was wrong. And before you debate this, all three of my oncologists said it was the HRT.
I’m watching my macros, logging food, weight training and rowing. I’ve gained 45 lbs since my hysterectomy. My Dr says, “Oh, your body might just be comfortable at this weight.” “So obesity is okay if that’s where your body’s comfortable? And what if I’m not comfortable?”
Same
When your body betrays you Menopause is likely the reason
Menopause is no longer the silent epidemic 😅 TY Me & Dr.Shavel for the menopause shout out 📢
You can definitely lose the weight your gonna have to shock the body for me I did a 30 day no white bread no fries no sugar no fast food no junk food with intermittent fasting I ate at 6 pm a day drank only water and coffee in the day for dinner it’s roasted chicken bake fish lean turkey with salad or broccoli if you must have carbs get some healthy carbs sweet potatoes you will see major difference
What's your macros.? May not be optimal for you🤷♀️
Women without this help are losing their marriages needlessly 😢
Maybe if the male husbands/ partners came to the ob/gyns appointment and complained they couldn't have sex because intercourse was painful for their wives the docs wld do something. Men's sexual needs are taken seriously.
Why?
Yes and I am one of those. I was perimenopause and didn't understand what was happening. I gained 20 pounds and was very depressed plus had bad sleeps. Sadly it destroyed my marriage and sent me in a tail spin for years. I landed up taking hrt for 10 years but it was too late and I was so sick.
Yes true it happened to me😐
@@dianasmith1398I went to the gynecologist in my late 30’s with very painful s*x, the quack told me I just needed more forepl*y. HOGWASH! I needed hormones!
I’m 63 and every time I go to the doctor and explain what I feel. They tell me I am too old to take HRT. I went through menopause at 56. No hot flashes. But, lack of sleep, weight gain, tired, lack of motivation, brain fog, and thinning hair, All they say is they can put me on an anti depressive. I have a weird insurance through the hospital I work at. I have to go to the doctors in that network. IM NOT DEPRESSED!!
If I wasn't able to get HRT after watching her on another podcast (& this one) a week and a half ago, I was prepared to go to her clinic, in the Houston area 💯
If I wasn't able to get HRT after watching her on another podcast (& this one) a week and a half ago, I was prepared to go to her clinic, in the Houston area 💯
You may have trouble getting HRT from your GP so try a Naturopathic Dr…they are way more flexible and knowledgeable about HRT.
Go to another doctor, preferably a GYN who’s paying attention to new research. It took me a few primary doctors before I eventually went to a GYN.
Sharing YT link to Dr.Taylor. She’s a retired GYN from Houston. She has dozens of videos on Menopause and the safe window to go on HRT (if you chose that option). I believe she said the guideline is within 10 years from menopause. youtube.com/@MenopauseTaylor?si=GDB-0MTqLhypEWvd
Please bring the Doc back for Part Two 😅 There is SO much INFO that needs to be unpacked So many Truthbombs dropped in this episode Her book sounds like a MenoPausal Bible 👌🏼😎😘
Yes! I'd love to know if we can stay on HRT until we die, of if we need to stop atcsime point. Thank you!
In my 20s,but I am here because I am learning to prioritise education on women and women related issues....(listening over menstrual cramps,how timely!)
This is the best interview I've seen featuring this doctor speaking about menopause. I've watched multiple interviews she's given and she's wonderful. But Mel, you are the best at hearing what she says and asking a question that pulls so much more information we haven't heard before out of her brilliant brain 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 wow you are just as amazing interviewer as she is a leading specialist❤
I'm not living my life like this anymore. This was eye-opening information. I'm calling a menopause specialist tomorrow. Thank You! This is life changing.🙏😱📱
Same here
I had to go to a menopause specialist because my symptoms were driving me crazy. I am currently on oestrogen and progesterone.
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I’m only 16 mins in and I’m crying. I have spent YEARS with frozen shoulder. Saw all the doctors, did physical therapy for months, was told it was this or that but no one ever said it could be my hormones. I feel angry, hurt and betrayed by my doctors 😖
They just don't know. My myotherapist mentioned deterioration and I wanted to slap her. My chiropractor doesn't use the word, only focuses on fixing me and telling me off. Who knows more about woman? The one who talks realistically as a woman or the man who blames me ? Choose your alternative therapists and doctos carefully. Some understand woman and some have no idea. Also, the symptoms do disappear. They really do. So hang in there. Treat it, and focus on other things in your life at same time and you will be amazed at how things heal themselves. Don't focus on being broken, focus on healing and getting so much better. Yes the frozen shoulder happens to both men and women so you wouldn't pick it. Chinese medicine brings relief so does Myotherapy over time, but medical doctors always want to operate. What your body needs it will find and so give it time its OK they don't know what they doing with the body anymore than we do. Be your own doctor and keep researching alternative help. Likely connected to menopause as are all of our crazy symptoms. I heard they clear up. Pray for you they will
Frozen shoulder , its stinks ! Really impacts your activities of daily living . Find an excellent chiropractor , if possible a chiropractor that is certified in applied kinesiology
I've had it for 4 months, now on both.. so painful. Big hugs, I'm going to my GP to ask for HRT, he dismissed all my other symptoms but I'm not giving up. Good luck
Me too! My shoulder has been frozen for 10 years now. I had shoulder surgery, but it didn’t work. At around the same time, I mentioned all the menopause woes to my gyn and she just said, “Well, get used to it - you’re at that age.” Now, I’m 63 and probably can’t get anything back to working condition! I did finally beg my Dr to give me estrogen, but again, too little too late. My poor husband is outta luck. 😢
After a hysterectomy, my shoulder froze. I had a failed “closed manipulation” and subsequent shoulder surgery. In hindsight, both surgeries were unnecessary- I needed HRT!!!!! Years later, I tired oral estrogen (to no avail) but finally responded to transdermal distribution of estrogen aka “the patch.” I’m relieved our daughters will be spared the menopause nightmare caused by the debunked Women’s Heath Initiative (WHI) study. Grateful for Dr. Haver & Mel for showcasing her life changing body of work.
I guess I was one of the lucky ones. Menopause was the best thing that ever happened to me . all my life I had trouble with my periods and suffered a lot of pain, irregularity, etc. Menopause had no symptoms for me whatsoever except relief from the pain and agony had suffered for so many years.
Congrats on your minimal symptoms during menopause. But watch out for osteoporosis because it can progress silently. Also watch out for vaginal dryness and frequent UTIs due to low estrogen . That can be treated with low dose topical estrogen
me too! my body is so relieved its over. us endo girls thrive post menopause. It is afterall a natural normal part of aging. I think tho its our reward for the hell we been through already. Oddly the women I know who had no dramas young have hellish menopause transition. so weird!!
@goldstar846 Gosh I hope this is true 😅. I've suffered since 9 years old. Thinking back to high school the agony of being in class. I shiver thinking about it. The inflammation to 😢
I'm so happy for you! 🌸
@@blueseptember2174 keep the faith. My gyny says it happens alot. 🙂because ...estrogen is fertiliser for endo. good times ahead! xx
I know you said that you were going to send this episode to every woman you know, but I’m also sending it to my sons. If I, as a full grown 56-year-old woman going through menopause at the moment, didn’t know 99% of this, I know damn sure that my sons don’t know. I think it’s important for men to understand what the women in their lives go through at every stage of life. (If I had a partner he would be watching this as well.) it explains so so so so so much. Making an appointment with my doctor tomorrow. Thank you. 🙏 ❤
I bought a book about menopause and asked my teen daughter to read it so that she knows more than I when I didn’t know I was entering perimenopause at 40. I’m now 51 and just beginning to understand that everything that is happening is due to hormones etc.
Where is the ❤ button!!! Exactly! Your boys will be men and married someday and you are raising real men
OMG, thank you ❤I live in Italy, and I don't have a group of women to talk to.. I will look at your book. I am a retired fitness trainer, 62 now, and I still work out 3 times a week and cycle, and play tennis 3 times a week, and I still have this damn belly , I do the turmeric hot water and lemon 🍋, my husband even found a tablet that takes away my appetite 😅but nothing helping , I just keep gaining weight ..
Thanks for sending this information to your sons! ❤😊
@@charmaineclayton2018I understand first hand about the weight gain. I am more active, more vegetables & fruit, staying more hydrated, more sleep, etc. etc. Weight will not budge...I am at the highest weight of my life at 57 years young. ❤
I am 49 and in full blown menopause! Have been diagnosed with frozen shoulder few months ago and it’s no joke. I haven’t had good night sleep in months. Plus all other symptoms that come with menopause. I am done being a hero and trying to fight this on my own. After this episodes I am making an appointment with my obstetrician.
1:13:55 I also had frozen shoulder. Fully resolved, no pain after 10 sessions of acupuncture (covered with/just a co-pay each visit, thankfully). That was 12 years ago.
Hit full-on menopause at 45, but no one thought it was possible because they said I was too young and on Mirena. Doctors misdiagnosed me for 2 years with rheumatoid arthritis, depression, osteopenia, possible breast cancer, high cholesterol, and tendonitis in my shoulders. I was treated like a hysterical female instead of a woman who knew something was deeply wrong physically. I felt like a stranger in my own body. 😢🤯 It took multiple ObGyns and me advocating for myself for anyone to listen. Now, I have a low dose HRT, am on an anti-inflammatory diet and power lift 3x weekly and I'm BACK! ❤️❤️ I feel like I'm myself again. 💯💪 Ladies, you have to educate yourself and tell your friends to advocate for themselves because too many doctors just are not boned up on how to recognize or treat menopause. It's amazing that half the population will go through this and yet our medical professionals know so little about it. 😢😅 Please share this podcast with all the women you think can benefit from this. Knowledge is power 💝🤘🤘
❤ Thank you for sharing and empowering other women ❤
I’m also wondering how I’ll know with mirena. I almost immediately stopped having my period so I am unsure how menopause will be identified besides a group of other symptoms.
I lost mine I believe 42, same experience in that regard. I am now 57 and it has taken me this long to find out what I have been trying to get anyone to hear, that all treated me so repelling, as though they could catch it from treating me with compassion and actually be good doctors, like these women in this video. I am so sad over the lost for nothing years and still not quite sure how to get out of this hot mess. I have a little window of time to pull this together, before having to return to work. I had to retrain for a sit down job, to how bad the back , diabetes, edema, etc. blah blah blah has gotten. And yes, my faith has what has kept me going, provided relief and led me thus far on my own with God. The medical system in this Country is shockingly bad. God bless you on your healing journey, complete healing and restoration I pray, in Jesus's name Amen
What anti-inflammatory diet do you follow?
You are describing me. I have had the same symptoms since 42. I am 51 now
Ringing ears, sex drive low, hair thinning~ all things~ but there’s HOPE! I’m a nurse~ when we studied this as well there may have been One page about menopause 🤦♀️~ so much more~ exercise Helps~ educating yourself and listening to Mel and her guests!! Thank you for bringing the big shiny Light 💡 on this! Don’t just tolerate your symptoms live your life 🫶🏼💜🙌🏼🤩
oh my goodness i forgot about the ringing ears as well , i have been experiencing this lately, but your right eating right helps big time! change the way your eating and symptoms are less severe.
Same. I am a RN listening to this.
Ear pain when under stress! Really nasty and persistent. I am in Canada so was sent for ear rests etc. Eventually family doctor prescribed Lyrica. I looked it up and decided that my ear pain could safely be ignored and over time it went. It us back again.... I am sharing this with my mum..
Omg I am so used to ringing ears I think it’s normal. At night I compare the ringing to the old school internet trying to connect.. it’s unreal.
@@dns1241my ringing is so loud, I ask my boyfriend can you hear the ringing in my ears, sometimes it gets so loud. 😢
Great episode Mel. As a husband, father of four and women's fitness specialist I love spreading this info to more and more ladies, and also to all those men who can better understand their significant other, her needs and health concerns. Yes this info isn't shared or widely known well enough and I love having resources like this to share. Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU! ❤
Where are you located? I’d join right away! Thank you for caring about female health 🙏
Hi @@melissaa.7970 I’m in Edmonton, AB Canada. Thanks for the reply, I appreciate the kindness. Your welcome by the way. And if there’s anything I can do for you, I’m more than happy to connect.
@@melissaa.7970 I'm in Edmonton, Alberta. If there's anything I can help you with I'm happy to connect. You're welcome, I learned early on how uninformed the women in my life were about their own health and how much I had to give to help them. And it's been important for me to share and continue that journey as a husband and as a father to my girls. Cheers!
I could scream!!!! I am 65 and I finally have answers. Thank you so so much.
So a menopause visit isn’t covered by Medicare, but a man can get ED medications or treatments??
For real, when its our time to grieve, learn and change for ourselves. Those men are ridiculous.
That's crazy, right?
On KZhead so when I seen you were having her on I took notes and I so grateful You have given me hope I will find help
Yeap 😡
Wow, just wow
The way older woman have been medically overlooked makes me furious. 😡
I was going to post this exact sentiment!!!!!!
There’s no real money to be made as well.. 😢
When I complained about my “female” problems to my old-school doctor, he told me that females of my age have been dealing with this for centuries, and asked me what makes me so special. I quickly found another doctor…
I turned 47 two weeks ago. I’m a working professional with an extremely demanding job. Particularly after the Covid jab, my body literally adopted every single perimenopause symptom affecting every single part of my body and soul. I didn’t think I could live like this anymore. Despite all the push back from GPs and even the endocrinologist, I insisted on trying HRT. After first night of progesterone tabs last night, I finally had a good nights sleep for the first time in MONTHS! I’m only Day 2 on HRT, but I have hope & I don’t want to neck myself anymore 😅
I’ve been waiting for someone to say this! I’m a nurse so they forced me to get a booster and I’m not kidding, just hours later I passed a massive amount of blood clots and my periods haven’t been the same since. I immediately started having lighter periods and perimenopause symptoms that have progressed over the last year. But it all started with that COVID booster shot. The lack of research or care about how medicine affects women is why I don’t trust vaccines.
Please can you please tell me what is the table
Same here.
I don’t believe that about it being hard to get pregnant after 30. GUESS WHAT, my twin sister and I got pregnant FOR THE FIRST TIME, AT 40 YEARS OLD. The one and only time we weren’t preventing, WE BOTH CONCEIVED. So, with that said…..what are the odds. I’m 45 years old now and I’m on HRT. For low testosterone and low progesterone, normal estrogen. Bioidentical hormones and feeling better every day. I definitely felt emotionally regulated, DEFINITELY SLEPT BETTER, toner skin and muscles, hair isn’t falling out, more energy, definitely more sexual desire, less joint pain. I remember feeling like I’m on top of the world with my age having a 4 year old. I will say it takes longer for the testosterone levels to increase, my levels were below the lowest on the scale. I’m on 18 mg troche, 250 mg progesterone. I could not get rid of the weight I had and I was always 130lb. So when I was continuously gaining weight even after having my child, 173 lbs and I was humiliated. I knew 10000% something wasn’t working right. Sure enough both hormones were on the lowest of the low. Lower than the range on the lab scale. I was so excited when I found out and started HRT. The only thing that stinks a bit is the out of pocket expenses. But worth it.
@@dollysingh9611it’s literally a bioidentical hormone made at a compound pharmacy called progesterone. I think it’s 100 mg and up. That is what I started with but now on 260 bc my labs were not increasing.
An anti-inflammatory diet along with supplementation is what saved me. I had to do my own research to save myself from debilitating autoimmune disease because doctors didn't/couldn't help. Menopause caused gut issues and chronic stress and a whole host of other symptoms but the anti-inflammatory diet along with eliminating stress got rid of all symptoms within 1-2 months
Mind if I ask what supplements you take?
What anti inflammatory diet are you taking. Kindly share..thanks
I’m here for the answers as well regarding what supplements and what anti-inflammatory diet
None of my Dr’s asked me anything about my symptoms for 15 years! I had to research on my own
Me too ! I took a list and they looked at me like I was crazy ! We have to be our own advocate
Regardless of our ages, the importance of adequate sleep, stress techniques, long walks in nature, intermittent fasting and seriously taking a look at what foods we eat becomes vital. The gut truly is our second brain, the foods we eat seriously affect our moods... These past few years I have realized how important it is to become your own doctor. When it comes to doctors, those who work with functional medicine, are so much more knowledgeable. They also seek to address the root cause of all problems. Thanks for an enlightening episode Mel!
💯right on!
I agree with everything, but sadly sone menopause women suffers from insomnia, I am one of those woman😢
@jaykaira9939 Changing habits would help with sleep. Not eating 3 to 4 hours before bed, taking a DIM amd/or chasteberry supplements. Watching your caffeine intake. Not consuming it after 1-2 pm, depending on your sensitivity level to the substance. No screen time an hour before bed. Taking a walk after dinner to help digest food. Having a healthy diet that consists of whole foods not processed foods. Etc.etc.
great input!!!!❤
Amen to that
As a man, I enjoyed this episode tremendously. I love how Dr. Haver speaks and explains perimenopause and menopause. I’ve shared this information with my mother and sister, and I hope they decide to give HRT a try. Women need estrogen. ❤
Oh my!! I can’t stop crying watching this episode! Happy tears and a few sad ones (because I didn’t know earlier). God is answering my prayers with this podcast. I’m going to make my husband watch it with me later. Thank you, as always for caring so much about others!! ❤❤❤
I am just crying this morning, listening to this… hormone appointment yesterday. My new Dr is amazing and aware and we are just beginning to adjust because I feel horrible… No energy no drive and going from somebody who gets stuff done to not being able to function is really messing with my mind and I am only 51 years old and if this was to continue with those other doctors telling me that there was nothing wrong, I would understand suicide😢 I am literally doing all of the things! And I am grateful to hear this, and to be validated! Thank you both!
So awesome~ I was going through rage fists 2 years ago and it makes sense now. I also listen to another podcast You’re Not Broken listen to her too. To me it’s crazy because Drs are brushing menopause off, thank God for Drs like Dr Haven ❤ take care of you there’s only one you 💜
I’m the same. I have no motivation to do anything and the depression is overwhelming.
I did massage and my sleeping and énergie are much better.
I hope you feel better soon.
You are NOT alone Sister, your situation sounds like a mirror image of mine!!!❤
After years of constant UTI’s, i finally found a young, female urologist who performed three consecutive vaginal laser rejuvenation procedures followed by thrice weekly estrogen cream. I haven’t had a UTI since!
..Intrarosa is also reported helpful for genitourinary/uti symptoms.
What’s the name of the Vaginal estrogen cream are you prescribed please? TIA
@@valwk8298 Estradiol 0.01%. But the laser treatment (1 every six weeks, three times total) precedes this and is essential. It must be repeated one time every year. My 90 year old friend had it done and she no longer gets UTI’s either. When she first told me I thought she was nuts. A laser down THERE!! Ugh>. But it doesn’t hurt at all. Find a urologist who specializes in Vaginal rejuvenation. They’re especially prevalent in affluent areas where face lifts and such are common like Orange County, California. That’s where women spend to stay “young”. I think treating UTI’s is a fortunate byproduct of these procedures. Mona Lisa is the name but there are other ones too. What a game changer!! My gut was rotting from so many antibiotics.
Im 43 and feeling most all of these symptoms, even autoimune condition. I cabe here because of the classic menopause symptoms and discovered more. And I'm still even breastfeeding!
I’m 59 and have been on HRT for 1 1/2 years. Estrodial patch, progesterone and testosterone. Still have periods off and on. Have small fibroid and had a cervical biopsy. All is good! Feel great 80%-90% of the time. Do resistance weight training. So important. Thank you @ Dr Mary Claire. Love your insight and knowledge on this. Menopause is not a death sentence 🙏🏼❤️
Are they bioidentical hormones ?
What form of testosterone do you use?
I am a fitness athlete. I had complete, mindful control of my body. Suddenly at 58 it all went haywire. I saw GP's, endocrinologists, obgn's, you name it. NO HELP. ZERO! What I did get was arrogance and dismissal. I was told that's just the way it is. You now have belly fat. Sucks to be you ( from a pregnant 30 year old.).
damn. that's cold.😢
Sounds like 30 year old has her own Issues.
I think many of these OBGYN's only want to deliver babies and hand out birth control. If that is the case, they need to limit their practice to that and just be honest about it instead of emotionally abusing more mature patients.
I also had not one indication anything was changing until I was 56 when the hot flashes came on like a tornado…cycles stopped a year later…I have not gained one pound but it sure has shifted around..
Same, went to my Dr with a whole list of things. He actually chuckled & said "that happens at that stage of life".
Thank you for this! My generation was intentionally not prescribed HRT due to that faulty study. I asked for them when my body and mind began spinning out of control. My DR told me to eat better and exercise more. I already ate well and exercised regularly. I felt ignored and dismissed. I white knuckled it for 8 years until I moved and a new DR helped. I love that we can say “menopause” out loud now. Thank you for bringing this into our conversation.
I am in this age group. I feel my generation who were denied HRT was made to suffer needlessly. I am still suffering at age 61.
100%. I’m 60 and still suffering hot flashes and I’ve aged a thousand years in a decade 😅 I felt insane for several years with all of the symptoms I’ve experienced. From frozen shoulder to jaw bone loss that nearly caved in my cheek and required a dental implant. I’m finally on estradiol to try to treat the atrophy. Many of my friends still suffer terribly. Huberman had a recent podcast and somebody called the effect of that study on women’s health “criminal”. It’s unbelievable
Yes, my mother is 69 this year, went through surgical menopause at 38 with 1 year of hrt only, and now she has high cholesterol and osteoporosis. I'm 100% convinced that with long-term hrt, she could be in much better health now. It's sad.
So sorry your mom went through that! I was also diagnosed with “stroke-level cholesterol” about 2 years in and the doctor prescribed statins. I went 100% vegan and stepped up my cross training and brought my numbers down. I’m back to a more balanced diet (for me) and exercise but I am still annoyed at the lack of compassion and knowledge about women’s health. Luckily our daughters will get better treatment.
I went 2 yrs with zero hormones after total hysterectomy because of Covid. That bone and joint pain they discuss is real and intense. It is no joke. Was feeling like a truck ran over me every day and being on my feet in the Operating Room was killing me. It was everything from the waist down and my shoulders. All that went away when I started on HRT.
Omg ! That sounds horrible . Glad you are feeling better 😊
What dosage of HRT do you take that helped with your symptoms? I am currently on HRT as well but thinking I may need to increase dosage.
Is it bioidentical?
@@Coffeetime24 it’s a pellet: estradiol 6mg/testosterone 112.5mg and a progesterone 100mg pill at bedtime.
I’m 6yrs Post-Menopause and still 🔥flashing!!! It has lessened but still living on the equator over here!
13 years post-menopausal - still get the occasional hot flash😬🙂
I started having an arrhythmia (my heart was skipping a beat) when I was in my mid forties (perimenopause) and it scared the hell out of me. I had know idea it was related to a decrease of estrogen production. This led to severe anxiety because I thought I had a heart problem!! I ended up getting an echo & wore a 24 hr heart monitor, both were benign. GYNs need to inform their patients!!!
Oprah Winfrey had the same thing she went to 5 cardiologists and they tried to offer her meds, she found a meno specialist they replaced her hormones and she is thriving at 70!!!! She has been on it for many years.
Same in my early 40s they put me on sleeping pills and ssri :*( Off of those now and replacing my lost hormones :*)@@kristyholt452
This was me exactly! I was even scared to exercise! Still have it now.
Same!! I was so afraid of overexerting myself for fear of having a heart attack, and I used to run at least 5 days a week. If I remember correctly, it lasted for a couple years!! @@boonavite3200
Me, too!
At 38 I developed brain fog and terrible anxiety out of nowhere and my sleep was so bad. After almost two years and being so worried I was loosing my mind or worse yet, dying..... I had so many tests, everything came back Normal. By some miracle I found a wonderful hormone clinic that put me onto Progesterone only. And 8 months on it's been an absolute game changer. I look forward to estrogen when I need it, but progesterone only seems to be so underrated. So it was great to hear you talk about this for us younger women. Thank you for sharing ladies.
Good for you! It's most likely what I needed at that same age. You are a smart lady for getting in front of someone who knew how to help.
Can you please share the name of the clinic?
Progesterone is if you still have your uterus.
Mel - thank you 100s over! I'm 49 and finally feel like I have answers. I understand my mom's health journey for the last 25 years of her life (she recently passed at 78 ) and I'm both emotional and angry at the gaps in her health care and overall wellness. I want to make sure myself, my daughters and all the women in my life are better equipped for this phase.
Wow ! Vaginal Estrogen … I have uti off and on . I have so many symptoms of menopause it’s insane !!! Thinner hair , weight gain, brain fog , joint pain , tooth loss , gut issues, the list goes on Omg . I’m even on the patch now since 2019 . Started at age 55 now I’m 61 and still going through hell !!! Help . Thanks so much for this information ❤
When you mentioned the white blood cell count, this light bulb went off. Every time I get my annual blood work done, my Dr mentions the elevated white blood cell count and says it’s probably just allergies. Now, I’m thinking, wait a minute. My hips hurt, my neck, my elbow, my flipping shoulder! I need to find a Dr who will listen and get me on some kind of treatment. Thank you for such an amazing episode! ♥️
I haven’t listened yet. What did she say about WBC count. Mine was high at my last checkup
@@dianad1639 she was talking about how losing estrogen could be the culprit. You need to watch it! It’s a great episode.
3 years post menopause here and I feel like I got hit by a train. I started perimenopause when I was 47 in addition to all the other symptoms I had Frozen shoulder too. I"m 54 now and I've lost All my energy to work, to self-care, to envision and plan the day, week, year, and future. I fell like sh---. The menopause stage messed up my heart making me unqualified for hormone replacement therapy in postmenopause. Postmenopause f--ked my lymphatic system and caused my leg and head to be backed up with lymph fluid and swell up like. My brain is putty. On top of all that, MDs treat me like a second class citizen. I would describe my experience: perimenopause as being hit by a bicycle, menopause as being hit by a truck, and postmenopause as being hit by a train then shoved off a cliff. I don't recognize myself at all.
Ufff, I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you can take something useful from this discussion and see it bring results. 🙏🏻
I agree with the “hit by a train” analogy! I’m 55 now. At 51 I had a shutdown because I had been fighting extreme fatigue every single day and I finally just couldn’t function anymore. Didn’t realize it was menopause related until Later. The past two years
The last 4 years have been like trying to put together a jigsaw puzzle everyday and ending up without all the pieces!!! Thank you, Mel, and Dr. H for this broadcast to confirm what my gut instinct has been telling me all these years!! I’m starting today with the top 3 suggestions and making appt for HRT as well.
Missed my period for first time in February, turned 52 in January and since beginning of February can not walk. I have terrible muscle pain and what seems to be swelling in both legs. Saw ortho for knee because inner knee hurt. Now hips hurt. Can't squat without extreme muscle weakness and pain and legs feel wobble when I walk. Is this possibly estrogen and progesterone related?
I am 49 soon to be 50 and I had started going through menopause at 19. To say the least I thought I was going crazy. I was very active in sports all through Jr High and High School so, missing periods were normal. The problems I face today are because Doctor's like her did not exist 30 years ago. Thank you for your continued education and educating the women of the world.
In some countries retirement age is 55 for females, makes sense since the health issues due to menopause start around that time. HRT should be covered by insurance since women in US can only retire at 65. All these health issues surely affect quality of life and ability to work well.
Exactly that! I am 53 and just now comprehending what has been happening to my body since my uterus was removed 11 years ago. 🥹 So happy 🎉 this podcast was made. We gen x women are definitely excited about the future of our quality of living because of the work being done in regards to health and menopause.
The same here in Germany
OMG! I knew it was menopause that was causing so much of my misery, but no one would listen. The frozen shoulder, and hip joint pain and rolling over in bed. just blew my mind. It's me to a T. I'm so glad I found this episode. Thank you so much.
I'm in thr same boat. frozen shoulders, living in pain, being miserable, ups and downs. So validating to know we're not just whiny women
ME TOOOOOOOOO!!!!!😢
I'm like you, my English isn't good enough. Can you give me a brief summary of the treatment she said. I just got the omg 3 and vitamins part and also life style.
What else should I do besides getting supplements.
The doctor is great. It’s hard to get info out of the interview due to the constant interrupting and interjecting from Mel
This podcast with Dr Mary Clare was so enlightening and empowering!! I am a 63 year old nurse who knew some of this but not nearly enough! Thank you!!
I would love to hear this doctor discuss more about what postmenopausal women in their 60's and beyond can do. Do we still attempt to go on HRT? Or supplement with DHEA?
YES!!!!! I’m 59. Thought my shoulder issue and pain was from being a side sleeper! I struggle to lose weight and all my doctor does is repeat the older than me My Plate crap and three balanced meals, blah, blah, blah.. so pathetic and infuriating!
I’m 67 and had a hysterectomy at 45 and was wondering if it is too late for me. I’m like a crazy woman and have changed so much. I don’t even like myself most of the time lol.
This is so me!! I joke pretty much everyday that I have early onset dementia. I am 55 and my obgyn told me that I don't need to come in but every 3 years for a gyno exam. That floored me. That can't be safe because I feel like there is so much more going on later in life.
💥🎯💥
same here!! I think they want us boomers dead and gone!!
Unfortunately that is the new protocol. Not good
I even went to see a neurologist to check from early dementia because of the fog Thank God I’m all good but I get it
I heard that also, medical insurance companies seem to be way to powerful with our healthcare needs It’s all about the Benjamin’s 💲💲💲
Thanks so much Mel for inviting Dr Mary Claire Haver on your podcast. Because of Dr Haver, I’m at my goal weight! I turn 60 this year and have been following her for a while now. She gave me courage to ask my doctor for an estrogen patch which thankfully I was a good candidate for. I feel better now at almost 60 than I did 15 years ago. Love Dr Haver. Both of you are trailblazers! ❤️
I had a full hysterectomy in 2012 and started taking Premarin. My doctor at the time told me the study was flawed when I questioned the increase in breast cancer. I have told every doctor since that I plan to continue taking it indefinitely and they have all agreed. I love seeing the benefits being shared! Thank you!
Bio identicals 18 yrs. Can't be without. It's awesome. No more horrible symptoms...except the weight gain...going to look into swimming...bad back and knees....get on them....its like a miracle...
I'm 54 and have been done with menopause for a year. I refused to take hormones and somehow got through it without killing my husband😂. Everything changed for me when I stopped eating meat of any kind(no chicken, fish, etc) and I cut out most dairy. My cycles were not as heavy or as frequent and the pain wasn't as bad. None of the symptoms I had were even half as bad as they had been. I firmly believe changing my diet made all the difference.
Gosh, I had the opposite experience. I cut out most veggies, most grains, and focused on meat and plain yogurt for dairy; cut out most nuts, seeds, cut out tomatoes, bread. Feel soooo much better. Wow. Can't even describe. Also cut out alcohol. But my diet is mostly meat, beef (no pork) few fish, chicken and good fats like avocado, plain greek yogurt, goat cheese and I don't get migraines, bloating, flu, you name it. I also never got Covid. Plus I exercise by walking 5 k a day. And I floss daily, for mental health. I will have sourdough bread occasionally. Intermittent fasting is key, and also getting 8 hours of sleep a night. I"m 65 and I've been doing this since 38. I look and feel amazing. Had early and sudden menopause due to ovarian cancer in my late 30's. My doctor didn't agree with any of this, but she's on long term disability now, and I'm cruising around like a 19 year old. People need to eliminate what is not working, and treat their body like the temple it is.
I agree. Stay faaaaar away from hormone therapy!
So many hormones in the animal products, so it's no surprise you felt better.
Good proteins and fats are key I believe and no eating after dark.
I agree so thankful I quit meat and dairy. I dont suffer with symptoms hardly at all. Im on a small dose of progesterone due to the huge drop in it. But I feel pretty good. And I also suffer from Hashimotos. I contribute it to my diet!
I am on HRT which stopped my aching joints but it wasn't until I added testosterone (Androfeme) that I started sleeping through the night, lost weight and achieved better focus and energy. Everyone is different.
I am desperately trying to find a dr. to add trt to my hrt. I feel like It would be a game changer.
Androfeme is a total game changer!
That would be great but I believe that particular product is only available in Australia.
@@Katepwe Androfeme is available in the US and UK by prescription only. The product is made in Australia.
How is the Adrofeme, TRT, helpful in our hormone balance? Curious! I am on HRT, and it has addressed many of my more typical symptoms... hot flashes, sleeping, night sweats. But I have joint pain and am holding weight. I will follow up with my gynecologist. I definitely don't work out as hard as I did in my 30s. but in part because my joints hurt and I don't have the same energy. I have been blaming myself for holding on to 10 lbs and belly fat.
My whole entire body changed LITERALLY OVERNIGHT I feel horrible!!! I don’t want anyone to touch me with a ten foot pole hot flashes amongst a lot of other hellish things I’m exhausted this was so helpful!! Now I just need to find someone as knowledgeable thank you
Wow!!! As a nurse i have just learnt so so much. I cannot believe we are not taught this in uni. I am menopausal too and i insisted that i had treatment and now have the patch and feel so much better. Please stop talking over the guest, i want to know what she knows and is telling us. When you interrupt her it stops the flow. Thank you
I wish Mel would let someone talk without constantly interrupting. Hold on! Hold on! Let me talk and repeat what she just said. 😡. You zap the conversation and redirect their thought patterns just to hear yourself talk. So frustrating when your listeners are trying to understand.
Personally prefer it that Mel does so as she breaks the statements down into chewable bites... because some of her guests are way too technical with the terms they use. 😅
It’s a conversation, so both women are supposed to interact. If she waited until the end to ask all her questions, she likely wouldn’t remember most of them.
She has ADHD so give her a break
It’s so frustrating
@@dorothyonyango6575I loved Mel comments. She made me laugh too after I was crying last night, feeling alone with what I have been suffering for 3+ years now. The experience of these women is EXACTLY how I feel. Just subbed to the channel. Dr. Haver is amazing! Would love to hear how and why her approach is different from Dr. Lee (inventor of bioidentical hormones). Dr. Lee puts emphasis on Progesterone whereas Dr. Haver emphasises Estrogen. My bloodwork came out Estrogen dominant so I'm wondering whether I should be taking that if I start HRT. The hhotor fashes, sleep disturbance, anxiety and fatigue are off the charts.
I’m in tears! This IS ME and I can’t get any one dr to listen, take this for boat , this for cholesterol and your getting older get used to it . Thank you for giving me hope, so I can advocate for ME
This was so informative and astounding. I’m one of the former believers that breast cancer family history prohibited me from ever trying HRT. I’m hoping I haven’t missed the boat, I just turned 69 and have experienced a myriad of symptoms (post menopausal 15 years). Thank you for this podcast!
I am 39. And my Obgyn will not believe I’m in perimenopause. For the past 3 years I’ve been hotter than I’ve ever been. I used to always be cold. Now I’m always hot. My body odor has changed in smell. For the past year in cycle has been all over the place. I’ve had migraines since I was 12, right now I’m getting them all the time! Multiple times a week. But as soon as I say perimenopause, my Obgyn shut it down and says I’m too young.
I'm the same age as u & I've been experiencing hot & cold flashes & just as of this colder 🥶 season I've been dealing w/frozen joints in my rt leg 😔❣️ Does that mean that I could be going through premenopause as well?
I went through the exact thing your talking about at 39 my obgyn was clueless I had to take control what worked for me I took vitex chasteberry evening primrose for hot flashes started exercising incorporate weights less cardio more weights even if there 3 pounds low carb diet eat sweet potato quinoa even a little brown rice also l took DIM gets rid of bad estrogen you can no longer eat the foods you used to start paying attention to how you feel after eating certain foods your body is changing and preparing you for menopause it sucks but you got this I was having night sweats periods were unpredictable it was crazy eat more salads your diet is a big part of this stay away from fast food only have it on occasion if your overweight you have to lose weight it helps big time I also took lady Pinkham it’s an ole skool formula my mom and aunts used to take you will have to find what works for you oh also get some wild yam take I threw the kitchen sink at my symptoms and I found my solution but your diet is the key to improving your symptoms also take health fats omega 3 I took natural stuff now I’m older I use progesterone cream for 3 weeks and stop I cycle I also do intermittent fasting I only eat now once or twice a day I hope this helps someone and look up Barbara Hoffman on KZhead she’s awesome and explains what we are going through. Take control of your own health our doctors were not trained in hormones they are in the business of making money 🤷🏽♀️ I am 48 right now I have to take multiple nutrients but changed the way I eat. I added Boron for my bones and body aches after work out it’s working my sec drive is low🤷🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️I’m figuring it out
My perimenopause started after I started having issues causing me to have a partial hysterectomy at 38. So, Right after I started with the symptoms hot flashes, night sweats, weight gain. Now 57 & still have symptoms & gained 30 lbs.
You absolutely need a new doctor! Find a local compounding pharmacy and ask which docs are prescribing bio-identical hormones-that will give you an indication which ones might be more helpful!
no way. I was done by 50. I'm sure millions of others are the same. hope you get help too!
Soon to be 60 in July. I've been on HRT for almost 5 years. It keeps me in check most of the time. I see more insurance companies now opening up to covering menopause treatments and therapy. I think it's fantastic. I shared this Pod to my friends on Facebook. I'm not going to beat myself up with who I am now. I'm just going to try to love the new me and keep me as healthy as possible. Education is Key!!! Thanks for putting this out there.
So blessed to listen to this podcast. Thank you! I sent to my step mom and she is watching right now!
Thanks Mel and Dr Mary Claire for your time on such a important topic. We are often left in the dark and left to struggle on. Not anymore.
I'm 53 and my periods are still occurring 28-29 days like clockwork with no HRT. I started having perimenopausal symptoms at age 43 so I went to my OBGYN (female and around my age at the time). She bluntly told me that my symptoms weren't related to my hormones and suggested I see a psychiatrist! In tears, I told her I will never make another appointment with her and I basically fired her. I found a Nurse Practitioner who specializes in older women's health and she was very understanding and confirmed that my symptoms were very much related to my hormone depletion. Everything I read online talks about hot flashes and night sweats and vaginal dryness remedies. I have none of these! However, my anxiety is thru the roof and I get so depressed in the days leading up to my period. The insomnia is very disruptive to my life as well. Thank you for discussing this topic on your podcast!
I'm very impressed that after becoming ng treated so horribly you had the presence of mind to fire your inappropriate / verbally abusive former obgyn on the spot
Well I relate to your hormone related depression - I sunk into a pit of suicidal thought every period; and I got hormone controlled abscesses too, in inconvenient places like my nipples, teeth etc and didn't sleep the night before my period .I was so glad to see the last of my periods at 56( mine were higglydypiggldy time wise and flooding, when they came) so whooppee and good riddance to them. But then once they had stopped, I got a whole heap of what I now know are menopausal symptoms - but I didn't at the time( not the "usual" symptoms). I just thought I was super stressed.( My employer was doing a super job of bullying us all, and I was super stressed anyway. I didn't necessarily know it was hormone related.) My Mom, though a Physician said she didn't have any symptoms and she expected me to do the same. Boy, was she wrong. This was just her, typical Doctor just ducking the issue. The GP's were just as useless. They refused to consider anything hormonal and shrugged their shoulders saying they didn't know why I felt ants crawling under my skin( a Menopause symptom) joint pain , they told me to lose weight. This podcast interview was fascinating,I learned so much( and so much more I want to know too!) - not least how to fight the constant demand that I start statins - now I have more ammunition for those pesky practice nurses!
When I was in health coaching school an OBGYN was in my class, there were several actually, and she said she enrolled to learn about nutrition, weight loss, and menopause because it wasn't taught in medical school yet every postpartum mom wants to lose weight and everyone over 50 needs menopause help.
Seriously one of the best and most informative videos I have ever watched! As a 63 year old I wish I would have known some of this sooner. I suffered from endometriosis when I was younger and when I started menopause I have tried things through out the past 10 yrs or so. I did try the Biote pellets and after the 2nd insertion all my numbers were too high, so started bleeding (clots) and gained 15-20lbs overnight. I felt like I was pregnant. Had to have ultrasounds to make sure everything was okay. Took me approximately 4 months to get back to normal. The doctor was an OBGYN for approximately 30 yrs so I trusted her. I think she gave me too much estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone in the 2nd pellet. Since then I have been so scared to try something else. Did I miss the window? I work out and weigh 130 lbs but have recently found out I am pre diabetic and my cholesterol is high even though I fell like I eat healthy. I will be looking at recommendations on the recommended web sites for someone here in the Denver area
I don't think you missed the window at all. I'm 65 and on thyroid, estrogen, progesterone and a bit of testosterone cream for the last 5 years and plan to be on it for years to come. Just need to find the right doctor....which took me several years.
@@marthajohnson800 thank you so much for letting me know! Great to hear! I am doing some research now from the site she recommended in the Denver area.
Mel, you are a God given gift. Thank you!
Frozen shoulder is soooooo painful ,had for 2 years ,try everything until one day went away!!! UNREAL!
Hi , I m dealing with that :( it is bad. may I ask if you incorporate something to your daily routine that might help the frozen shoulder to go away?
@@ysach.891 I went to OSTEOPATH several times, did exercise I found on YOU TUBE,even massage myself with the other hand, walk a lot and positive affirmation I know sounds like nothing but I always was saying to myself it will heal it will heal! Did not take any drugs even was horrible pain, occasionally CBD oil drops and massage with CBD cream. Stay strong ,wishing all the best to YOU xoxo
Try laser treatments usually done by a Chriproactor
My shoulder was completely frozen for "only" 4 months with no treatment, thanks to a few soft home exercises I found on the Bob & Brad KZhead channel. You should definitely check them up and find which ones work best for you. Good luck!
YOU so right same for me I found help on their channel!@@sophiecariel4181
This interview is awesome! I want to offer an anecdote that may be helpful to someone else. At about 43, I started sweating profusely in my sleep - I mean absolutely drenched. I just thought ‘Ok… here we go. It’s that time.’ Eventually, I went back to keto & intermittent fasting after a long hiatus, and the night sweats all but went away. In hindsight, I believe I was experiencing sugar crashes overnight which I was familiar with during the day occasionally. I would shake, get dizzy, and sweat insanely.
Have any good keto info to share
Excellent interview! Informative discussion! Thank you!
Omg, the pain just laying there in bed and no injury is spot on!!!!! Thank you for this information!!! Sharing with every female I know!❤️
Thank you for this conversation.
I am soooo thankful I learned all this 10 years ago when I started Perimenopause around age 45/46 and started BHRT which did not include Estradiol since my body was still producing plenty of E. Since then, my journey from Peri to Menopause to Post Menopause was really good. Now almost 57, my heart, soul, mind, and body are healthy and feeling great inside and out. ❤ More and more folks have joined this realm for information, products, perspectives, etc. so just be mindful since it can get confusing and contradictive of what to do, not to do, eat this not that, etc., to make the mind swirl. My learning journey about all this started 10 years ago not just for my own science brain, also to educate other ladies wherever i meet them in my daily life. It's my pleasure to have long conversations in order to share and educate them so they know, and for them to realize they are not alone. ❤ The doctor keeps using the word "failing". Not true. The body organs are changing their functions per Mother Nature's design. "Failing" is not the correct term, since "failing" has a very different purpose. Her "March to Death" comment is horrible. WTH??? Not my kind of doctor.
March to Death bothered me, since we're dying since we're born so it's an unnecessary comment that isn't relevant to menopause. I prefer to follow women who understand 'this is natural' it's not our body failing us. We've not tested and studied how amazing and how connected it is to all our body organs and functions and we must do this and embrace this. There must be a reason do the belly fat store. There must.
ovarian failure is a medical term, we might not like it but that's the term. And March to death is appropriate term if we have higher risk of heart disease.
Agreed. Really didn't like the extreme pessimism.
This has answered all many questions for me. Thank you for talking about this.
She has hit every concern,/ symptom I have had since perimenopause and hysterectomy. You are a genius! Thank you
Thank you Mel and Dr. Mary Claire!
As I watch this.. I have to keep rewinding to watch parts again.. brain fog and fatigue at its finest hour .. THANK YOU MEL FOR THIS!!!
Thank you Dr. for taking your time to speak with Mel Robbins
Extremely grateful to both of you Mel & Dr Haver for everything you do! 🙏🏻🌹🌷👏🏻 incredible women 🙏🏻
I wish I knew this when I was going through menopause, I’m 75, no HRT even when I needed it. Everyone was afraid it would increase the risk for breast cancer. So doctors didn’t prescribe it. I feel cheated out of taking the optimal care of my body.
me too! i am going to get hrt one way or another - 25 years ago was best, but now is better.
@@pejisan let me know if you were successful
I’m 65 and didn’t have too many problems through menopause thanks to my acupuncturist and his eastern medicine. However, the past year or two I just haven’t been myself. My body has betrayed me and after watching this podcast, I’m fearful for my future health, especially heart and bones. I recently had my first UTI in over 30 years. I feel cheated as well!
Me too
It does increase the risk of breast cancer! It's just reduced now due to body identical hrt. There is still a risk tho
Thank you always Mel! I love you!
I feel so much better and feel like there is hope for the way I look and feel 😢The part about we find our strengths in menopause THANK YOU DR. & THANK YOU MEL for having her on the show! I’ve seen her talks on other podcasts this one answered even more questions 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you for putting all the research and links in the show notes online!!! ❤❤❤
i love this podcast and i follow her already. I loved the "i don't give a s$#t factor" she states is right where I am no. I am 50 in 4 days and i am walking in to this decade as 50 and FABULOUS! Screw menopause. I am taking my life back!
THIS MAY VERY WELL HAVE SAVED MY LIFE! THANK YOU!!!!
That standing ovation at the end put tears in my perimenopausal eyes. Thank you, Mel & Dr. Haver!
Thank you! I’ve been following Dr. Haver for a little while now and I love how she simplifies everything. Everything that we have all been feeling and now finally feel seen! Love to you both! ❤
I devour every word Dr. Haver speaks. You said it right; She's a gift!
A very important conversation to have and listen to. Thank you so much Mel and Dr Haver.
THANK YOU!! Excellent interview I’m glad you expanded content. ❤️You Mel! I sent this video to my daughters, nieces and friends.
I follow dr Mary claire haver everywhere she goes. 👏👏👏 learning a lot from her.
I finally, finally, finally feel heard, not so alone, not as confused and with some hope. I can't thank you ladies enough. THANK YOU