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"The Poly Couple" from Dana and the Wolf, a couple of 16 years dates other people. Inspired by true events.
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Dana- Dana Hobson
Daniel- Daniel Wolf
Kit- Justin Daniel Brush
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He's just acting a a part He's just acting a a part He's just acting a a part He's just acting a a part He's just acting a a part
I agree this actor is playing a part, but I feel for Dana if this is based on a rl experience!
Same thoughts. Run Dana, ruuun!!
I feel bad for this guy because I don't like him and I know that just means he's a great performer
It’s wild how angry I got lol glad to see so many people have the same thought
It's ok he's just building up for his star role as Palpatine in the prequel series.
The difference between seeing someone naked during sex and seeing someone naked because they barged into the toilet is consent.
OMG. Don't bring up consent as if this is a serious situation. Besides, your sentence makes no sense. The act of SEEING someone naked has nothing to do with consent. And if you paid attention, it was about privacy, not seeing someone naked. If Dana said "Do not enter the bathroom when the door is shut", then you could claim consent issues. But then again, it's not that serious of an issue. The point was that Dana is very weird and has really weird issues and having a light hearted problem realizing that her boyfriend isn't weird like her. It's a light hearted show about awkward things in relationships. Bringing up consent is bringing it down. And making it all dirty for everyone. Enjoy the show😊
@@bobobo2224sorry this is not just a light hearted show about awkward things in relationships. this is about their real world experiences and real topics presented in a more comedic lens. the comedic lens does not mean that these topics and the way they're presented do not have deeper implications. it is clear that the actions of these characters have deeper implications and reasons than are spoken on screen which is congruent with that of a regular tv show. there are reasons and lessons behind the actions of these characters. what seems like a light hearted problem shows deeper character flaws that Kit possesses. Dana's not weird for wanting privacy in the bathroom. You are not paying attention.
@@bobobo2224 having someone watch you pee when you don’t want that is definitely a consent issue. It’s not a weird boundary to have. Even of you had sex before. Just like people can consent to making out and later not wanting sex. I know it’s a show. They depict real issues tho and even point out in this very episode that it’s toxic behaviour.
BOOOOM
@@bobobo2224 It hurts to know this kind of interpretation exists. Though personally I don't think it is weird at all to want to pee with no one around, I guess you can argue otherwise. BUT This is surely about consent when Dana clearly communicates with Kit that she is not okay with him being in the bathroom when she uses it and Kit deflects the conversation into talking about her phrasing of "barging in."
If you need your partner (Daniel) to assess whether your other partner is crazy, the answer is already 'yes'.
It depends. Sometimes you really are reading the situation wrong. But even in that case, it's still not a good idea for the relationship to continue, because it's not like the misunderstandings are going to magically evaporate at some point. As for THIS situation...dude is fucked up.
This guy's gaslighting skills are only matched by Dana's denial over how toxic he is !! (PS : I'm infuriated cause the writing is good)
FYI, this is not gaslighting. He's just a gross idiot with a severe lack of basic decency.
The writing is immaculate. I went through the same realizations as Dana while I was watching. The slow progression of boundaries crossed even made me wonder if I was overthinking the whole situation.
"You want to know why I should be allowed privacy in your apartment?" 'Yes' Immediately never talk to this man again
I thought that she would break up with him in that exact moment. I hoped.
THIS.
It's called boundaries and bro is having a hard time accepting said boundaries
100% how creepy is kit and his lack of boundaries?
Man, these episodes never feel the length they are 😭😭 I need a whole hour
Same!
Killer to wait 2 weeks and get 5 minutes. 😢
I'll be honest, I was trying to give Kit a fair shot. I thought he just didn't understand personal space. And I could see where Dana wasn't being 1000% clear before. But after this episode, I have no doubts.
Damn, I didn't even know his name. When's Jack coming back??
Same! Tbh this is a really good episode cause I feel like both us and Dana are getting fed up with him lmao Plus he was so much more pushy and weird on this one 😭
@@SasoAkasuna I think he got more pushy this time cause she actually stood her ground a bit firmer 🤢
@@bloodfaythe13this! I’m sorry people but watch back you’ll see he’s exactly like this from first appearance. The actor is phenomenal too because he does the exact same mouth smile but eyes kind of saying « I’m obviously right and you’re being unreasonable » thing every time he steps on her boundaries, it’s like an eyebrow thing. Anyway watch back he’s been this bad from day one it’s just that she didn’t speak up and so folks felt the whole maybe he’s ok and just innocently confused but naw he’s a grown ass man and this is basic consent, privacy, personal space stuff. He did it about forcé kissing her on first encounter which could have been perceived as passion but watch it back it’s super awkwardly forceful, he does it again with judging her for being grossed out that he doesn’t have a towel for her, he does it by forcing her to sleep over and disregarding all her requests for comforts she’d like, and when she asks for a proof of test results, it’s non stop. But to be fair to y’all from this camp of the maaaaaybe he’s ok, they portray this ambiguous « nice guy » who gaslights every time you disagree with his views really well. It’s a subtle kind of no no that I think we should work to collectively reject because that’s how they get away with this
This really makes me think back to Kits introduction, being stood up by a girl. Maybe she saw the red flags and didn’t want to meet. But also Ngl his introduction also made me think he was stalking Dana
That was my first thought when he was introduced, it seemed too big of a coincidence for me
Omg great point
To me Kit seems like he might be an abuser. Luring you in and slowly, slowly crossing your boundaries and demeaning you more and more bit by bit. I know this is supposed to be based off their past experiences. I hope Dana got out safely irl.
I'm not sure he is showing complete abuser vibes yet. He has not been pushing to isolate her totally from her support/ family. But that could come along next.
I am kinda surprised how that would work in non-monogamy relationships.. 🤔 Because if abusers are already threatened by your family and friends that you see like a few times a month.. how would they deal with you having an even more intimate partner?
No, this is for sure early signs of an an abuser. You don't need a reason for privacy. The simple fact the she asked should be enough.
Never known an abuser to be okay with a poly relationship. They typically NEED control
Abusers come in all shapes & sizes & we don't know how okay he actually is with Dana & her other partner, we just know that he's portraying himself to be okay with it all, he could just be playing the long game
No matter what happens, the banter between Dana and Daniel is my absolute favorite
wish i had this in real life
"How is it barging in if it's my bathroom?" Bro. Ownership, possession, and occupation are separate legal concepts FOR A REASON. Just because you own it doesn't mean you're the one using it at that exact moment. If you have a problem with that, maybe you'd be cool with your landlord walking in when you're taking a dump because they legally own the bathroom. No? You wouldn't? Hmmmmmm...
exactly, it's like when narcissistic parents argue "how is it an invasion of privacy if I bought this house?" like...ok, way to try to assert power and dominance over someone that you're literally HOUSING? that's just emotional ammo but in this case, over a GUEST? someone that you're DATING??? fuck. no.
"What if you met him...?" ID PAY TO WATCH THAT (pls don't make me pay to watch that)
BAHAHAH
Daniel : Well I'm a nice guy... ? Dana : 😶
😂😂
Yes but the problem is the 2nd part...
I have been screaaaaaming run from week ONE. Gosh i feel so validated for sticking to my instinct
Honestly me too. I hated even their initial interaction and even felt a little triggered. I thought maybe it was the way they were portraying it, not meant to be like that but unintentionally. I even complained about this several times with one of my partners (we watch this series together lol)
Unlisted again, but my word I’m down for what happens next. Kit needs to go.
Like yesterday. Oh my gosh
I can see in his eyes how comfortably he’s getting. Great acting btw. It’s hard to pull off, looking like you’re unaware of something so basic as privacy
Right? He seems confident that he has her hooked. Confidence can be really sexy so i see why she likes it but damn she's playing with fire
I just don’t understand how someone would argue with boundaries… if someone told that I did something that made them uncomfortable I would be so sorry and would not sleep for a whole week wondering if I made the person uncomfortable for other things I’m not aware of, and of course communicate about it without judging the person. Like why people are not reflecting on their actions/ impacts on others… I’m starting to think his « therapy sessions » were were made up because therapy is about reflection on yourself and clearly he’s not aware pf anything. You guys, this serie is getting so real, the amount of people who recognize themselves in these situations is huge and that proves your writings skills are amazing. I also think you are helping a lot of people struggling with respecting their own boundaries and that means a lot. ❤
Some people like to push boundaries, to see what they can get away with. For me, that's OK (to a point) with children who are still learning the world, but not so much with adults. A little is fine, but Kit just wouldn't accept Dana's responses & took it too far imo. This makes me question what other boundaries he's willing to push and/or cross.
yes. my wife and i are poly and she dated a guy who used to be my friend who also said the EXACT same words as Kit to her when he barged in on her in the shower as well. Many of our other friends told us he was a crazy and we didn't listen. needless to say, many other signs came up - and he is in court and has a restraining order from his family. so yeah. everyone was right. people, listen to your friends, listen to your gut. Also, to all the other poly couples out there - i now believe that this type of guy seeks poly couples out. its probably a challenge for them.
I mean yes of course don't break boundaries but some people when they don't talk with other people about stuff can really get lost in their neuroticism and anxiety and get crazy boundaries. Is it OK to push back on that then? (Not the situation in the video obviously).
You don't get to decide if their boundary is legitimate or not. You don't know what transpired to make them feel the need for that boundary. Truthfully its not your business, but you are 100% free to ask and discuss someone's boundaries (as long as they are willing) but to violate them because you think they are invalid is never ok.
For real although I've seen some people in here and insta where they don't see much wrong with what he's doing 🤦🏽♀️. It's ridiculous
I waited too long to be edged like this. Not happy but keep going 😂
🤣🤣🤣
Dana.exe stopped working 😂
Bro the gaslighting is insane. Shout-out to Daniel for helping Dana lose the rose colored glasses.
Oh this is MAJOR red flags and I hate it! 😬
A fun nightmare scenario for conflict averse people. Fun times turn into argument,... boundaries have to be justified. Are we crossing the boundary from "fun but sometimes aggravating" to "aggravating but sometimes fun"???
if i turn around i can just about make the boundary out far far away in the distance.
@@samsowdenif someone says they’re not comfortable with you doing something, that’s a full boundary. she is clearly expressing her discomfort here. that’s a boundary.
"So you want to know why I should we allowed privacy in your apartment?" "Yes." Dana RUN! I feel so uncomfortable watching this interaction. Kit has officially crossed into creepy/gaslighting territory. I wish this episode ended with the relationship being done, but also, I am so READY for Daniel to get involved in this situation being thats how the episode ended.
You know it's important when Daniel has to get involved.
"Why don't you thinking about that while you have a little tinkle and I'll be right here, or will I?" Nope, nope nope, I'm going home, I'll 'tinkle' there and I will never be returning here, we are SOOOO done.
It felt like such a condescending way to say it too. Just completely brushing her off
And making her unsure of wether he will repect her wish or not. Like she will not be comfortable peeing now for sure!
You don't have to understand in order to respect someone! Yikes! It's fiction but I've seen attitudes like this in real people and it's scary.
It scares me that people have conversations like this. Not going in the bathroom? WTF
I mean yeah it's a fine conversation to have, like I have no problem/sense of privacy with regards to peeing, but in my case it would be a 10 second convos of "oh shit I didn't realize that made you uncomfortable! Sorry, won't happen again" a d moving on.
i loved this episode just as much as i hated whatching it, great job u guys ps: Dana please leave this man
Dana lock the bathroom door! Lock the damn door, Dana!
Yeah Id love to see his response to that
valid, but she shouldn’t have to do that just for him to understand though
@@melaniebarrios9291There's a lock on the door for a reason. Usually it's to keep the kids out but also useful for grown men acting like kids. Dana refuses to advocate for herself and the "she shouldn't have to lock the door" attitude does not help. It means she should be totally dependent on him for her privacy, which is wrong. That one tiny act of empowerment *click* would show Kit that she's not kidding about wanting her space. And without another messy talk she's so desperate to avoid.
As soon as i heard "in MY apartment" i knew this shit was gonna go south
The several gasps and WTFs with the gaslighting 😤 It's really good acting because I hate him ahahahah
The video ending on the lyrics "I'm done with this trash." - A+, love it, no notes
Run for the hills Dana
He gives me the ICCKKK
When you have to explain to someone why they shouldn't barge into the bathroom, it's time to break up, not make your partner meet them lol OUT WITH KIT ALREADY! 😭
The idea that once someone enters your home, you get to dictate the rules of engagement is so wildly infuriating. Boundaries don’t cease to exist once you cross the threshold. Yiiiiiiikes.
Everyone is allowed boundaries
So I want to point out something that I think that. He is personally missing. He's focused on the privacy in his apartment part, versus the privacy that one would want when they're doing said primal act. And if they wanted some degree of privacy in their apartment, why should that bother you? Especially if it's making them uncomfortable.
He's just manipulative. The points he's making are actually irrelevant to the issue, which is also why they're so hard to reason against in the moment. Someone that takes that much mental will to set boundaries with isn't worth it.
Damn, that Kit D will make you put up with a lot. 2022 Dana would have never stood for this!
He doesn't get to dictate what your boundaries are. End of story. If he can't respect them, he's gone. Lay it down Dana!
Can't wait until Daniel meets the dude and becomes super chill with him and just bypasses the toxic behaviour because they become friends due to Kit's gaslighting ability being 💯
Daniel and Kit become the new Dana and Esther! BFFs - how's Dana supposed to break up with him mow?!😂😂
@@Goldeng8 She won't, that's how ahahahah
Up until this episode, I gave kit the benefit of the doubt: he's raised different, is oblivious, but could be open to changing. Now I am just disappointed. Find Dana a better man ya'll
Okay I definitely agree that he shouldn't be disagreeing with her discomfort and boundaries but this is not gaslighting, ya'll. Gaslighting is literally making someone believe something isn't real that is. And tbh, Dana does a terrible job of asserting herself and her boundaries in a clear and simple way to understand. So far Kit has been open to compromise and he is allowed to have a different perspective on things - but it is absolutely a red flag that he is saying that Dana doesn't have a right to privacy in his home. That's controlling territory and that's of greater concern.
The abusiveness of Kit is so well written im stunned
I know yall listen to the audience so please keep doing what feels right. I know i want longer content but this short 8 mins are great too keep.growing yall.
I missed so much a commercial break. Anything, if this episode had no sponsor, maybe an ad for a made up product. i don't know, is just that those previous ad breaks, were genius.
amazinggg, I love this. Great work, Im always in awe with the quality of these , you truly are great artists
Fantastic episode, acting, writing and editing. 10/10. Loved to hate every minute of it
These episodes can’t come out fast enough!!
Cant get enough of this show! Also can’t decide who’s more attractive Dana or Daniel 🤭
The "or will i?" was some super villian shit. Amazing stuff, thank you guys for making these.
It’s not just that Kit doesn’t get that other people have personal autonomy and have their own boundaries, it’s the audacity he flaunts trying to be cute whilst being a trash person. Also since the end of Schitt’s Creek I’ve missed “Ewww David” so hearing “Ewwww Daniel” was amazing
I legit thought Dana would just walk away when he answered the question about allowing privacy on his ap, the gaslight was off the charts
I literally just checked for a new one an hour ago, you guys are the best😂
i was starting to wonder where they had gone too
Yess, I was so unpatient without a weekly episode 😆
Liebe die kleine Musikeinspielung in den letzten Sekunden😂
I need a Netflix series of you guys!!!
The editing and music just get better
He really laid it out plain for her there. Kit doesn't view this as an equal partnership, and Dana's interests are not given anywhere close to equal consideration. He doesn't care for or understand Dana's desire for privacy in his apartment, and that's as a general rule, not only when using the bathroom. I don't want to rely on a slippery slope argument, but there is a danger that he will seek to control her behaviour, and violate her privacy in other areas. You are allowed to not understand why your partner wants something, while still respecting them and granting them that desire. Either you will slowly see the value in it, or you will realise it doesn't matter either way to you, and is an easy way of pleasing them and showing that you care. The exception is if the desire itself is dangerous or unhealthy. In such a case it might be something you need to either sit down and address (yellow flag), or run away from (red flag).
Give us more!!!! I love this!!!!
I need more ASAP, please!!!
this is brilliant.
Bummer… I really wanted to give Kit the benefit of the doubt! The writing in describing the donut situation was SO good - I could picture it happening and something totally clicked about Kit in that moment for me
I'm Dana with this. I even says the same phrase: "I have not get this feeling in a long time, its my honeymoon phase" and three weeks later I was in therapy 😢
What i hate is seeing Dana becoming smaller and doubting herself repeatedly because of this relationship. She seems a step or two away from going, "Yeah, hes right, i shouldnt expect privacy in his house," and normalizing his behavior of not wanting boundaries (which imo has been going on since the pillow thing). I hope it doesnt get much worse, but i can see the value in showing how a confident woman ends up in an abusive relationship.
On the ABSOLUTE EDGE OF MY SEAT
Ive watched this episode 8 times..8… and i too “have no words.”
I love this so much!
AHHH I hope they meet that'd be so interesting to see !!
Music slaps this ep
What's the song!!!
i love both of you guys! thank you for representation!💔
3:25 "Yes 😀" 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
I need more episodes!!!!
Daniel's lines were delivered perfectly in this one, I audibly lol'd 😅
I cant wait for daniels interaction with him LMFAO
I can already see the expiry date. 😊
never thought i would say this but i did miss the commercial break
OMGGGGGGGGGGG i need the next part
oh my god 10/10 background track editing
Get him OUTTA here! Voted off the island, no rose given, three red X’s, everything negative ever
Calling to be picked up once they say they don't know why I should be allowed privacy in their house.
im so glad that its finally being addressed that this man is unbearable LMAO
If the only thing Dana sees in him is good looks, why is she staying in a relationship with him? This should’ve been a hook up and stayed at that 😶
I missed you guys
OH MY GOD HE'S SO DISGUSTING FOR THE LOVE OF GOD LEAVE HIM AND START HOOKING UP WITH JACK.
I don't know what is worst, the dude being the fucking worst or Dana taking so long to see it.
"I would like privacy when I pee" 🇦🇱 Why??? 🇦🇱 "This is fine" 😂😂😂
He's just manipulative. The points he's making are actually irrelevant to the issue, which is also why they're so hard to reason against in the moment. Someone that takes that much mental will to set boundaries with isn't worth it.
I love this show so much. Its so relatable. This guy is such a prick and hes so good at playing one.
Thank god the shoe is finally dropping on Kit!! Still 100% on "driving a Tesla is a red flag"
RUN!!! RUN FAR AWAY!
I love the end "I'm done with this trash" 😂
Dana pls i am begging you 💀💀
I haven't screamed at a screen in so long, I'm sure my neighbors think im yelling at my friend Dana to get the fuck out 😂
Dana should just move away from Kit forever. He's such a red flag with this boundaries stuff OMG
I’m READY to see Daniel go all boyfriend mode on this man!
😂😂😂 this one was good love it!!! To find out if he’s Crazy 😅
Another banger.
i love this show!!!!!!!!!
Hah, it happends a lot to me recently. No in this particular context but expectations of reasoning why i dont want to get intimate in a certain way and trying to convince me to "try it" 😅 I knew it's off...
The gaslighting at its finest