How to Cope with 3 Types of Narcissism (with Dr. Ahmed Fouad, Starts
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How to cope with 3 types of narcissism: post-traumatic (closure), reactive (attention-seeking, being seen), societal (conformity)
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I completely agree with the opening comments, Professor Sam Vaknin is the absolute oracle of NPD and other cluster B personality disorders. I’ve learnt so much about NPD and this has gone a long way to helping my recovery from the abuse I received from being married to someone who presents many of the traits associated with NPD. I’ve found his material to be unmatched by any other online so called experts. I also appreciate the fact that he often quotes the work/material from the founding minds of psychology.
So basically narcism is created by an unsecure Environment and not to get crazy - the narc is stabilaze him | herself with the imaged (introjects) he should have received in his childhood (security, bonding, safty) but he | she never received it and the nervesystem is still hanging in there hoping to get what h/s should had to get (Fantasy, Snapshot). Somehow I feel sad, knowing the narc never was able to arrive here on earth…
Although they destroy everything around them
And the circle goes round and round.
Somehow they enjoy being in hell
I'm Moroccan and always watch Sam's videos everyday! Tahiyati o dima Maghreb😂😂
I got emotional touched by the words of Sam : "we in the Middle East should stand together as one family! " 🙏 Thank you for this video
Rich interview between the international icon and the Egyptian icon in narcissism . Thank you for your time Dr Sam . Your fan from Egypt
Believe me . I know BPD and NPD like the back of my hand. I lived with my brother who is BPD and witnessed it from birth to 30. He was also diagnosed when he was involuntary committed to the mental hospital years ago. For 20 years. Never would have thought. Im not a doctor but from dealing with it for 35 years . I literally can see inner hollow empty shell they have. They even mimic you.
I'm really thankful for my narcissist. Because without him i would have never found Sam Vaknin. And now I'm an expert on narcissism myself. Is that narcissistic of me? 😅
How has finding Sam helped you? How has your life changed?
@@LuvvvSucks I'm still in the process of creating a new, better fitting life for myself. But i now understand the inner workings of my ex and the reason, which was the shared fantasy, why i couldn't go no contact. Now i'm able to not depend my happiness on how other people treat me and take steps to take responsibility for my own peace. It takes work, but i'm on my way. There is a video from Sam on how to love yourself without becoming a narcissist. I can pretty surely say, that if i met my narcissist today, i wouldn't fall for him again. I'm more aware. It's an inside job.
All I can say is this, in “my opinion” your original comment comes off as NPD. You’re grateful to have gone through the pain, abuse and being mindfucked,because without all that you wouldn’t have found Sam and become an expert on narcissism
@@LuvvvSucks Thank you for your help.
Great interview!!!
....as a (healthy) grown up women, you can't live with a husband who is emotional a 2 year old....no empathie, no Love, no nice words, no affection, no comfort, no emotional support.....additional to betrayal and lies.....this is it what it makes senseless and dangerous to your own selfworth and existing....
....and meanwhile always beeing belittled, and ignored... IT IS simply destoying....
I agree and that’s why I ended up getting a divorce
23:28 l left my Narc X He was all of the things you discribe , drug addict. When l left him, at the airport he said would l reconsider ?? The silence was defining.
Much more insightful video than I anticipated, thank you both!
I understand this is a very important & painful issue, I’ve been subjected to it for 20+ years and learned that sometimes we have to laugh at our mistakes and situation to keep our sanity. So saying that: My survival strategy has developed to know that my Narcissistic grown husband will become a dead baby if he doesn’t stop throwing his toys out of the pram in his rages. He better learn to wipe his own bum, I’m done being his abused surrogate mother. No more tears, I now have my own regulated fantasies so I can cope with a smile and a degree of sanity. 😂😂🧡 My affection for him is now no longer unconditional. This mummy will abandon him in my own house with my own silent treatment, dismissal and, individuality. Remember: What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. ☺️
I join the prayers Duaa for peace between nations and religions. I'm a Christian, but insha Allah it will be so. We all have love and wisdom to share. Great video. And I really enjoyed both accents as well.
Yet another great episode, Dr. Vaknin! King of the field!
I appreciate this…all of this! As well as many other videos ❤
Yes
Sending love from Cairo, Egypt I'm so happy to see this collaboration ❤❤❤
Thank you for interesting video and knowledge ❤
I really enjoyed this interview❤❤❤. Congrats to you both👍🏾👏🏾
تحياتي وتقديري ل دكتور احمد فواد وبروفسير سام فاكنن
Actually, my original family name in Morocco was Wa’aknin.
@@samvaknin thank you habibi
@@samvaknin🙏🙏 greetings from London. I am a huge fan and I even thought i saw you at Pizza Express today, but it could be your doppelgänger. Just wanted to use this opportunity to express my gratitude for your insightful videos and lectures!!
1:30 into the video and I can tell this will be a great one. Thank you gentlemen
Prof. Sam Vaknin and community to which animal would you compare covert vulnerable narcissist ? :)
a snake
This gives me so many questions. My ex acts like a lying narcissist with no care to the pain she causes (will say she cares but does the exact thing to hurt me), but is emotional to others’ struggles like an empath or BPD (also very sexual and can’t get enough of it), and will constantly express she can’t live without me while still willing to lie and cross boundaries against her word. She has sworn on the lives of her own children to never cross a certain boundary, but then cross it multiple times, and self-sabotage her life’s progress when I leave (job and schooling and probation), and stalks me and says she can’t live without me. What is she? Mind you. She is a drug addict that has colored hair, spent time in jail and prison, tattoos all over including her ex’s and 6 of my name on her, family is Hell’s Angels, loves her father but hates her drug addict mother, and has been molested as a child by her mother’s boyfriend. She love bombs and worships me. But over time, the things she admires, become what she complains about. Again, what is she? She has all the signs of a covert narcissist except she is emotional and will cry when seeing acts of kindness, and can’t live without my “touchy feely” love language.
What is the best way to understand that narcissism differs from psychopathy which perhaps should not be considered a cluster B disorder, when psychopathy is one of the self states narcissism transitions to or through at times as it does with a Borderline state?
Psychopathy is a set of behaviors.
@@samvaknin Thank you.
@@samvakninI remember I was in my way going to see my friends to have nice time with them,and my ex called me and abused me intentionally ,ruined my mood to prevent me from having a nice time with my friends. Does that make her a psychopath ?
Prof Vaknin, after discard the ex Npd continues to text about once every month or 2 friendly and reminding of past inside jokes etc..then disappears..is this continued entraining? And why if I've been painted a bad object at discard?
This is called Hoovering, check out information about it and why they do this.
@reneehaney3524 I wasn't sure if it was hoovering because there was no attempt to reconnect? Just kinda like he's keeping his finger on the pulse ya know 🤔
Sam vaknin@: Is in training something a narcissist does subconsciously or consciously?
Entraining. Automatic, impulsive, unthinking behavior.
Hi Sam, can it be argued that some relationships are shared fantasies even if none of the parties are cluster B? Like a non malignant shared fantasy?
No. A shared fantasy always involves mental illness of some kind.
Does it work the same way for borderline husband and narcissistic wife? Does she see me as a mother figure and I see her as a father figure ? This triggers my manhood😢 And I feel I’m not enough.
Search the BPD playlist.
Does a Narcissist create a narcissistic child or does it create a bipolar child, or something else? The child of a psychopathic narcissist is asking, hoping to not become what I hate.
Watch the From Child to Narcissist playlist.
What about using hypnotherapy to treat people with NPD?
useless
@@MPR2007 why?
@@JC-mv7hf it cant be healed unfortunately.
@@MPR2007 yeah, it still doesn’t answer my question - i know it cannot, I am asking why
Search the therapies playlist.
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