Chasing vs Pursuing... (DON'T CHASE!) | Courtney Ryan

2021 ж. 2 Қаз.
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In this video, I go over the differences between chasing and pursuing. You should NEVER be chasing, so I hope this video helps distinguish the two. Let me know what you think in the comments and feel free to share your experiences.
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  • Don't chase a woman who has no intention in wanting to be caught. Some women just love the thrill of being chased to boost their ego of being wanted.

    @DallasSniper@DallasSniper2 жыл бұрын
    • Exactly

      @CourtneyRyan@CourtneyRyan2 жыл бұрын
    • @@CourtneyRyan So Courtney, what are some red flags of women who are like that so that we can know before it's too late

      @traelee684@traelee6842 жыл бұрын
    • FACTS.

      @tfkvng3187@tfkvng31872 жыл бұрын
    • Same with the men. I suffered it at the hands of a man.

      @acd1168@acd11682 жыл бұрын
    • Correct.

      @antonboludo8886@antonboludo88862 жыл бұрын
  • This video literally got me cheering out loud. I've been thinking that I was a chaser, but in fact, I'm a pursuer! I'm glad I took the advice from Tom Hardy: He never enters a room expecting and hoping the people to like him. Instead, he focuses on finding out whether he likes the people in the room. It's all about mindset, patience, and mental toughness

    @ArtsIntrinsikh@ArtsIntrinsikh2 жыл бұрын
    • Facts bro

      @DavidLee-zn4no@DavidLee-zn4no2 жыл бұрын
    • We are venom

      @pcboiz1555@pcboiz15552 жыл бұрын
    • Same here although, I pursue but only because I feel Unnatural and Uncomfortable Chasing.

      @vickrunalza8057@vickrunalza8057 Жыл бұрын
    • Facts bro

      @TravisAndrews-lb1kk@TravisAndrews-lb1kk11 ай бұрын
    • So you're not initiating every conversation?

      @Stanthemilkman@Stanthemilkman9 ай бұрын
  • Cheatsheet: *Chasing vs pursuing = scarcity vs abundance = self-deprecation vs self-respect = predatory vs romantic = pedestalization vs equality = simps vs sigmas = trouble vs happiness*

    @ollysombrero8427@ollysombrero84272 жыл бұрын
    • & hoping it doesn’t = jail vs prison if you’re = ugly

      @Jojoxxr@Jojoxxr2 жыл бұрын
    • 💯👍

      @SvenTSchixe@SvenTSchixe2 жыл бұрын
    • Yes all the dominos fall in line but it all starts with her interest in you which determines if you're chasing or pursuing her. if she likes you to start with then it works out good.

      @rascal211@rascal211 Жыл бұрын
    • Huh ?

      @TravisAndrews-lb1kk@TravisAndrews-lb1kk11 ай бұрын
    • You are attractive to a woman. Always pursuing. You are not attractive to her, you are a creep and chasing. Chasing vs Pursuing Unattractive vs attractive That is the difference.

      @juniorleslie4804@juniorleslie48049 ай бұрын
  • All that time spent chasing is best devoted to people who are actually interested!

    @admirbarucija2018@admirbarucija20182 жыл бұрын
    • Yes! ❤️

      @CourtneyRyan@CourtneyRyan2 жыл бұрын
    • @@CourtneyRyan ❤️🙏

      @admirbarucija2018@admirbarucija20182 жыл бұрын
    • No even then.

      @crazyahhkmed@crazyahhkmed2 жыл бұрын
    • Unless a guy super great looking, 100,000 car 🚗: fancy job ; expensive house 🏠500,000;; woman can always get laid ; it why white woman like black guys black men are crazy about white women; ; if do not to chase purchase expensive cologne or fragrance for men

      @lloydkline1518@lloydkline15182 жыл бұрын
    • I couldn’t agree with you more Admir. You should never Chase - Always Replace! But if she gives you the signal, you should definitely Pursue! Anyway, that’s my two cents… -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips 👍

      @carlosverde-datingtips7001@carlosverde-datingtips70012 жыл бұрын
  • 'There should be mutual interest ' absolutely spot on. And I will not bother with anything less.

    @TheHornet1fan@TheHornet1fan Жыл бұрын
  • I went on a first date at the weekend and it went well. In the lead up to it we had been messaging back and forth multiple times per day. I realised that if a girl takes > 24 hours to get back to you, she is either not interested or you are just an option. Dont be an option. After the date I messaged her and she took a while to respond (but still not > 24 hours). I noticed that my old insecurities started to kick in and I got the urge to message her and see what was up. I ignored them, went to the gym and then worked. She replied and at this point I realised that I finally moved from a chaser>pursuer. Doesnt really matter what happens at this point, at least I can now give myself the best chance of meeting someone who is good for me.

    @Demondoink1@Demondoink12 жыл бұрын
    • That's awesome man. Remember you want to live your own life and bring a great woman along for the ride. You're not living solely to be with a woman, and chances are, a woman worth having wants a man that has his own life. Anyways, once the deal is sealed for the most part, time spent away makes time spent together that much sweeter.

      @Theviewerdude@Theviewerdude2 жыл бұрын
    • Those insecurities can be mean. finding something to do is always helpful.

      @NoirMorter@NoirMorter2 жыл бұрын
    • Any updates to your story?

      @AsleepWarrior@AsleepWarrior Жыл бұрын
    • @@AsleepWarrior yeah we just kinda stopped talking after the date as she was acting a little distant. i seen her a few months later on Instagram together with some other guy, and then i unfollowed her, so wasn't to be. she was cool though so i hope that she is happy :)

      @Demondoink1@Demondoink1 Жыл бұрын
    • @@Demondoink1 Sorry to hear that, but I guess we all live and learn from experiences

      @AsleepWarrior@AsleepWarrior Жыл бұрын
  • 04:38 - Hey Courtney - The irony in those cases is HILARIOUS, because when those guys actually DO change, the girl leaves him...then... her carefully crafted story to everyone is "....He changed..." Never: "I chose to pursue an unhealthy relationship with a loser because I have unresolved and complicated attachment disorder issues." So, relationships are reflective.

    @07wrxtr1@07wrxtr12 жыл бұрын
    • Spot on.

      @CourtneyRyan@CourtneyRyan2 жыл бұрын
    • @@CourtneyRyan doesn't make a blind bit of difference if your not good looking or even average looking... I should know.

      @Kickback-dm7zt@Kickback-dm7zt2 жыл бұрын
    • @Mike G yes but any kind of self confidence an unattractive man shows is seen as overcompensating by the woman.

      @johnnythekid4601@johnnythekid46012 жыл бұрын
    • @@johnnythekid4601 nonsense. If you are ugly then women won't give you so much as time of the day.. I should know.. And it's got nohing to do with lack of confidence as I have no problem approaching women but always get rejected despite the "just say this" or "just do that" bullshit so called "dating coaches" say.. This shit ONLY. works if you're good looking and that's the REALITY of the situation.

      @Kickback-dm7zt@Kickback-dm7zt2 жыл бұрын
    • I would suggest delete both these words chasing and pursuing, they mean the same that she is on the pedestal and you have to pursue her. You have to understand your a great guy and you want to give her the OPPORTUNITY to get with you. All this chasing and pursuing will give you a negative mindset. Women will tell you they love to be chased and pursued. all it does is validates her ego but it doesn't make her attracted to you.

      @nicksmith-cx1fx@nicksmith-cx1fx2 жыл бұрын
  • Never chase, just replace!! ✌️ Never want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. Only chase your dog if he/she gets loose.

    @peterinfante6187@peterinfante61872 жыл бұрын
    • 😄

      @michaelrodriguez3329@michaelrodriguez33292 жыл бұрын
    • Talking about picking up woman the first time:: woman like to be notice even very pretty woman still do;; some great looking guys do not have to chase woman or guys have 100,000 🚗car; fancy job etc

      @lloydkline1518@lloydkline15182 жыл бұрын
    • Lol

      @jeffdonaldson2422@jeffdonaldson24222 жыл бұрын
    • Honestly replace is hard as well for me. Being a truck driver is the blame sometimes

      @carlitoway2325@carlitoway23252 жыл бұрын
    • @@carlitoway2325 just have a rotation for when you get back home, at least that’s what my pops does and he’s a driver too

      @kennynopachi8864@kennynopachi88642 жыл бұрын
  • This is so spot on. Reciprocation or walk. Be detached from the outcome. Thank you for making this. People really need to be clear with their intentions and stop making this about stupid guessing games because it ends up hurting everyone.

    @Chrono826@Chrono8262 жыл бұрын
    • I would walk away

      @TravisAndrews-lb1kk@TravisAndrews-lb1kk11 ай бұрын
  • The only woman in my life I can depend on is my mother.. A mother’s love for her kid will always be with you.. My mom is my best friend she has been by my side when no one else was.. I almost died on the basketball court once due to my lung collapsing on me 6 times had numerous chest tubes and lung surgeries.. I almost slipped into cardiac arrest.. I got a weak lung disease that will be with me the rest of my life.. My mom held my hand while I went into surgery she stayed the night with me at the hospital 🏥 I was scared and my mom was by my side!!

    @stevo6891@stevo68912 жыл бұрын
    • Good for you. I lost count of how many times I ever wanted to punch my mom.

      @mrtyrant1680@mrtyrant1680 Жыл бұрын
    • @@mrtyrant1680 Sorry to hear that man!! Just like my father I lost count how many times I wanted to hit him!!

      @stevo6891@stevo6891 Жыл бұрын
    • @@stevo6891 Oh no, actually, I lost count of how many times I ever wanted to murder my father. The closest I ever was , was when he kicked my older brother out of home because he came out as gay.

      @mrtyrant1680@mrtyrant1680 Жыл бұрын
    • @@mrtyrant1680 Well I don’t agree with being gay but I wouldn’t kick my son out just sayin because he became gay.. What ever makes you happy!!

      @stevo6891@stevo6891 Жыл бұрын
    • Yes, indeed. La familia es todo.

      @MelvinDaMan@MelvinDaMan3 ай бұрын
  • The best advice I’ve seen her give, so true on many levels. My 2 cents, something it took me decades to learn, analyze yourself and try to understand your tendencies with women. Meaning, why you’re attracted to certain types and why you react in specific ways in relationships. Understanding yourself will help you avoid pitfalls that can be unhealthy for you. Me, for example, when a women was really interested in me I had a tendency to overly romanticize the situation and idealize her too much. It took me decades to learn to keep a clear head and take it one day at a time. As Courtney points out here, so brilliantly, have the mindset that you’ll be ok with OR without her. Just get to know her slowly and don’t put your life on hold for anyone. If it’s meant to be, it will fall into place naturally!

    @hwy1310@hwy1310 Жыл бұрын
    • "Take it one day at a time" - powerful advice!

      @TheGalahad78@TheGalahad78 Жыл бұрын
  • this makes me feel a lot better about my recent dating failure. I only pursued her and walked away when i got the impression she wasn't interested whether that was her intention or not. I use the exact same quote with women who play games. "Play stupid games, win stupid prizes"

    @clownworld4655@clownworld4655 Жыл бұрын
    • Also FAFO F*ck Around and Find Out

      @derwoodhamburger@derwoodhamburger4 ай бұрын
  • I chased a Girl in kindegarten once, but i ran straight into a metal sign and passed out. i learned a lesson esrly in life from this metal sign that i shouldn’t chase a Girl who is just not interested. Which i don’t i pursue.

    @madsbuhl4303@madsbuhl43032 жыл бұрын
    • was it a big red Stop sign? ba dum bum! :)

      @2ndLastStarfighter@2ndLastStarfighter2 жыл бұрын
    • @@2ndLastStarfighter HAHAHA that would be hilarious! 😆

      @191.@191.2 жыл бұрын
    • 👍

      @ndjubilant8391@ndjubilant8391 Жыл бұрын
    • I don't chase women because there's nothing worse than a lady with a face full of gravell

      @derwoodhamburger@derwoodhamburger4 ай бұрын
  • I’ve noticed many KZheadrs in this space advocate for, “Don’t chase, let them chase you.” However, if you don’t state your interest in someone, how are they going to know you’re interested? Your explanation of “pursuing” made so much sense. Thanks Courtney 😊

    @seanodonnell5844@seanodonnell58442 жыл бұрын
    • Actions speak louder than words. As soon as you meet a girl you find attractive then be fairly direct with a compliment that is not overly sexual and that has a degree of push pull, in the simplest of terms this might basically be something such as “ you’re quite attractive but I don’t know if I like you yet”. And then ask for her number and call her a few days later for a coffee date. It’s simple, direct and truthful. You’ve balanced a compliment with a reservation so you are not giving away all your agency. Far from it. You honestly don’t know whether you like her yet, and that is what dating is for. So this way you’ve made it clear that You’ve framed the interaction as a date and unless the girl is retarded or disingenuous she must see it that way too. After that, no more compliments unless she earns them, and escalate slowly.

      @jleano609@jleano6092 жыл бұрын
    • @@jleano609 thanks for that example & advice. I was about ask "how you would state your interest in someone?" Before I read your comment.

      @raul3494@raul34942 жыл бұрын
    • You do need to show interest. And also be open to signs she's interested in you. A false positive is better than a false negative!

      @simontmn@simontmn2 жыл бұрын
    • You talk with her for a while, two or five times per text, see if she ever texts you first, if she does and seems engaging, tell her you find her "insert whatever non sexual compliment" and want to get to know her more over a coffee or smtg. If she says anything but a yes, take it as a no and move on and stop texting her unless she does. That's what I do. If she never texts back again then she really wasn't interested in the 1st place.

      @haroutkayabalian8591@haroutkayabalian85912 жыл бұрын
    • Stating your interest is not chasing. It’s only if they don’t reciprocate and you keep seeking her interest

      @MrCjchamp2001@MrCjchamp2001 Жыл бұрын
  • I recently learned that I've been a simp and chasing for most of my life. It sucks. I'm happy that I'm improving my life that began 2 weeks ago. This is a very helpful video. Thanks Courtney!

    @emnetabay486@emnetabay4862 жыл бұрын
  • Chasing is like bombing a women's phone with multiple simp type texts. Pursuing is playing tennis with messages, You serve first and show interest and DM her and ask for a date. Then wait for the DM and ball to be returned.

    @Epsillion70@Epsillion702 жыл бұрын
    • No DM’s on social media. Foolish. That’s what every guy does.

      @Alan-rw3ez@Alan-rw3ez2 жыл бұрын
    • @@Alan-rw3ez just reply to her story.

      @emogotti23@emogotti232 жыл бұрын
    • I've been waiting for a response for 3 years, am I doing this right?

      @Theviewerdude@Theviewerdude2 жыл бұрын
    • @@Alan-rw3ez cold DM's immediately give off a sense of desperation or being too forward, when there is absolutely no reason to be trying to talk to that person other than the implication you wanna bang them. Overall I'd suggest not trying to initiate relationships of any kind over social media if you've never actually met the person. But there is an exception to this if you have had some reciprocal interactions on comments etc, IE she interacts with what you post, not just replying to your comments or something. I've met many women that way. But you can break all the rules if you're a gigachad or something lol.

      @Theviewerdude@Theviewerdude2 жыл бұрын
    • I usually serve a lot of Aces ...

      @user-vv4zy9ss5s@user-vv4zy9ss5s2 жыл бұрын
  • My early twenties I was definitely a chaser. I always thought that if I showed her materialistic value they would cling to me. Now I'm very much a pursuer. Is taking a lot of weight off my chest. Another great video from Cleveland. I appreciate you Courtney. Some of the best advice on KZhead.

    @tko_5@tko_52 жыл бұрын
    • Thankfully I did the same in HS, I’m 20 rn and I can thankfully say I don’t chase

      @eyeyamjstn628@eyeyamjstn6282 жыл бұрын
  • Another insightful video, Courtney. After watching and enjoying many of your previous videos, I feel that I must finally comment on the excellent content. Without putting you on a pedestal(Lol), I'm impressed by the sage wisdom and maturity of someone so young. I wish you all the best!

    @Richard-bj6xc@Richard-bj6xc2 жыл бұрын
    • Aww thank you for the kind words, Richard. I’m happy you’re here 🥰

      @CourtneyRyan@CourtneyRyan2 жыл бұрын
    • Totally agreed! ♥️

      @191.@191.2 жыл бұрын
  • A much needed video! Thanks alot for defining the thin line between chasing and pursuing! 🙌

    @souravraychaudhuri6600@souravraychaudhuri66002 жыл бұрын
  • Literally perfect timing. Thank you for this video! You’re the best 🙌🏻

    @matthewheuel2508@matthewheuel25082 жыл бұрын
  • Love all your videos. Solid honest advice that everyone can use to better themselves. Thanks Courtney!

    @chriswilson1383@chriswilson1383 Жыл бұрын
  • I rejected a girl that was into me but, gets rejected by the girl I want. I'm in this cycle always. So.. I think I fall into the chase category simply because the notion of we want who we want. It's kind of upsetting to fall trap to unrequited love. Like if someone likes me, I didn't have to work for it and I might go out with her and make her my girlfriend but it was "Easy". On the flipside, alot of guys want a challenge and most of the time we would fall flat on our face. The point I'm making is.. you aren't entitled to someone but you sure are deserving.

    @Fireworth222@Fireworth2222 жыл бұрын
    • Story of my life, bro! I'm never interested in the women that are interested in me! Well, maybe on rare occasions. I kinda feel like maybe I need to re-evaluate the type of women I'm going after. Perhaps I'm going for the wrong women.

      @huntstyle@huntstyle Жыл бұрын
    • Same happened in my life

      @gowtham4439@gowtham44398 ай бұрын
  • This is a great topic and something I will definitely rethink and consider going forward. I appreciate the content. Thank you 🙏

    @chrialivest@chrialivest2 жыл бұрын
  • Great breakdown/examples! Thanks Courtney

    @bryanadams5091@bryanadams50912 жыл бұрын
  • This is one of the best videos you’ve made Courtney, something this generation needs to hear.

    @daltonmilburn2772@daltonmilburn27722 жыл бұрын
  • I love this Courtney!! You're the best.. The abundance mentality is truly everything 🙌 There's not just "one" right person for you, compatability is a choice. I love what you shared about putting someone on a pedestal, that just tells the other person you're subservient to them - we're all equal.

    @kolbydjones5871@kolbydjones58712 жыл бұрын
  • Boy is she right about that playing stupid games part. I actually had that happen to me recently. Told a girl I had a crush on who works at my local gym I liked her and IMMEDIATELY afterwards she started playing games. Just stepping all over my feelings for giggles. Making me jump through hoops just to be cordial with her. She would purposely turn her head away when she was at the desk when I'd badge in *I always would smile and wave at her* she wouldn't acknowledge my presence walking past me unless I initiated first. The last straw was when I saw her working out and she literally made me follow her for a few seconds before finally turning her head to say high with a chuckle. After that I opted out of saying anything to her. Low and behold she noticed and started trying to get me to give her attention again. I'll catch her looking at me now trying to get me to come talk to her. I don't because I no longer trust her. Before I stopped trying I wouldn't try not to say hi if she was there when I badge in and I wouldn't leave without Trying to say goodbye to her. Now it's like we never knew each other and that's on her.

    @omarcook3663@omarcook36633 ай бұрын
  • Great advice. It breaks down to self-respect. You deserve to be respected too.

    @christianrodier3381@christianrodier33812 жыл бұрын
  • This video is great, Courtney! Understanding the difference between these two perspectives is super important. It is easy to fall into chasing, but it is also easy to start thinking you are chasing and then letting fear stop the pursuit as well. Us guys can't sit around and hope the right woman will just come to us. We still have the responsibility to pursue. Looking for people who are actually interested is key, and being willing to walk away from those who aren't. Top notch my dear! 🔥😄👍

    @movingamountain@movingamountain2 жыл бұрын
  • Thank you so much Courtney, for all of your enlightening and illuminating videos on relationship advice. Before I had started watching your content, I was a hopeless romantic, but now I am a hopeful romantic! 😊🥰

    @brian1636@brian16362 жыл бұрын
  • Love this! Met someone recently where I’m actually pursuing her and not a chase! The difference is I needed to work on myself to be a better me. We literally just crossed paths at a gas station after years of social media support & basic convo.

    @jambajoby32@jambajoby322 жыл бұрын
  • What u said set fire to my hart🔥because for years i had not even a single clue on what the hell was wrong on soo many occasions and situation Wow!!! I am speechless, this vedio challenged my entire reality. This was like getting tight slap of reality.

    @adhvithacharya5912@adhvithacharya59122 жыл бұрын
  • Wooow, Thanks for this! So much clarity!

    @TheJohnMaRa@TheJohnMaRa2 жыл бұрын
  • The video is just the way I like things in general, straight to the point.

    @davidscz6232@davidscz62322 жыл бұрын
  • Courtney, thank you for bringing up “toxic” in your explanation. Frequently men pursue, women are receptive, they reciprocate and at a later time we find they are chasing someone else behind our back. Toxic, crazy, goodbye. Insanity is when they do it over and over expecting a different outcome.

    @scottp2462@scottp24622 жыл бұрын
  • Thanks Courtney, I was about to start studying and you just had to go and post a video I could not help myself from clicking on. thank you very much

    @Sagefrakrobatik@Sagefrakrobatik2 жыл бұрын
  • Thank you Courtney for explaining to us the difference between chasing and pursuing. I wish I would of learned this back when I was younger to save myself the headache, heartache, my time, my resources, and save myself from embarrassment/humiliation. But I do have a question or two to ask you Ms. Ryan...I was making so many mistakes that could of been prevented in the first place if I would of known about this and yes I was seriously manipulated plenty of times before so I did develop some sort of resentment towards the women who did screw me over but the best revenge is NO revenge because me being Happy,Living really Well, having Success, having Abundance, and having Peace of Mind is Top Priority for me is number #1 and I don't want to compromise that for anyone unless it benefits me. I raised to NEVER to give up because quitters NEVER Win but it was Never mine in the first place to begin with so regardless if I was chasing or pursuing it wouldn't have mattered. Hollywood has really tricked a lot of guys like me that told us to do this kind of stuff that Women really want when it was all b.s. in the first place. I'm still enjoy your videos and see your tips and advice very useful and helpful but I'm mostly focusing on myself to get Better, get Healing, and Level Up. Thanks for sharing again Courtney 🙏❤💯

    @josealvarado8842@josealvarado88422 жыл бұрын
  • Gentlemen if you have to chase after a girl...automatically you arent valued or appreciated by her. Meeting and connecting with someone should for the most part be simple and it's a 2 way street. Just continue to be the best version of yourself each day and the right person will hopefully follow. Don't chase fellas....don't ever chase..the only thing you should be chasing is your dreams or dog if he/she gets off the leash..✌

    @kevinmayfield1432@kevinmayfield14322 жыл бұрын
  • I appreciate your insight and explanation. I shall reserve myself fully, instead of partially, on the side of Pershing. It can be slippery whenever you’re not aware of your actions, while in the moment.

    @Wayne_C_Kelly_II@Wayne_C_Kelly_II Жыл бұрын
  • This girl is brilliant, the more i watch, the more i'm impressed! Such a quality channel.

    @DzondzulaKarakondzula@DzondzulaKarakondzula Жыл бұрын
  • This description is completely accurate. Great video.

    @miamitrancemissions6425@miamitrancemissions64252 жыл бұрын
  • I'm more than impressed with your advice, Courtney, I need your advice in the worst way

    @garyshack3511@garyshack3511 Жыл бұрын
  • Courtney, I wish more people would see your videos. I find myself agreeing with most of the things you talk about. You are doing good for the people out there in this messy society we currently live in. I want you to be more popular so that people can see your videos.

    @Sagpepper@Sagpepper Жыл бұрын
  • This was actually a pretty good video and I would even argue a very insightful video. It's much easier said than done because when you're attracted to somebody oh, you are just attracted to them. Yes it absolutely sucks that you don't feel the same way about you but you can't spend your time chasing them either. The best thing to do is to truly just move on.

    @MrMalcolm900@MrMalcolm9002 жыл бұрын
  • Serious question Courtney, what is the Percentage of women who are like you? Because your so honest and totally not living in denial plus you the opposite of bias. Amazing.

    @MFKST@MFKST2 жыл бұрын
    • A lot of women aren't the (deliberatively) manipulative jerks of manosphere stereotyping, but I don't think very many have Courtney's self-awareness.

      @simontmn@simontmn2 жыл бұрын
  • Thanks for staying this cause most of the videos I've been trying to find ,don't really,help because it's just not honestly.... this real so thanks...untill thins video,I have been in a toxic relationship... Gald I found this vid,much appreciated

    @tylerg5140@tylerg51402 жыл бұрын
  • Awesome video Courtney. Very useful information and spot on. Looking forward to more videos like this😉.

    @matthewthomas7648@matthewthomas76482 жыл бұрын
  • If you don’t ever grasp any other dating advice in your life please grasp KNOW WHEN TO WALK AWAYYY, So glad that you went into detail about this Courtney, we’ve got so many men and women that don’t respect their self and don’t even know what they deserve and they never go after that because they are too busy chasing what they don’t deserve, walk away guys just please walk away.

    @daltonmilburn2772@daltonmilburn27722 жыл бұрын
  • Thank you for this video! I'm actually in a situation where I wasn't sure if I'm chasing a woman, or pursuing. I am glad that it looks like I am a pursuer. I am talking to this woman, we are getting to know each other, I'm not yet sure whether she likes me or not in a romantic sense, but I guess nothing is written in a stone.

    @RatnikCarrick@RatnikCarrick Жыл бұрын
  • I belive this is my favorite video, Thank you Courtney

    @rubensalazar1363@rubensalazar13632 жыл бұрын
  • Great insights from a female's perspective. Helps me to understand these "complex" creatures a little more. Thanks Courtney! 💙🙏

    @rickcanencia5762@rickcanencia5762 Жыл бұрын
  • I like the new enhancements in this video! Always a great video :)

    @christopherparbs@christopherparbs2 жыл бұрын
  • The perfect content I ever wanted... the main reason people Chase is bcuz of illusionary imaginations, thinking of how life will be beautiful with the them... thank you for the video.

    @oliverzamgang8597@oliverzamgang859710 ай бұрын
  • Nice video!! And you are so right on the things you say!! Its good advice for all of us!!

    @haroldcook5360@haroldcook53602 жыл бұрын
  • Great video Courtney! You already know men needed this video, with all this confusion on yt

    @MFKST@MFKST2 жыл бұрын
  • Definitely needed to hear this one day thank you so much

    @Wildcard842@Wildcard8426 ай бұрын
  • This was excellent wisdom you shared Courtney. We only pursue people who want us back on this channel 😁🙌🧡 You would make a great school teacher because you make this stuff easy to understand. Anyways have a lovely day!

    @GEORGIOARCADE@GEORGIOARCADE2 жыл бұрын
    • Haha love to hear it, Georgio! Thank you 🥰

      @CourtneyRyan@CourtneyRyan2 жыл бұрын
  • I appreciate the clarification. This was helpful

    @ambivalent11@ambivalent112 жыл бұрын
  • I've encountered a lot of the scenario from dating apps where theres a lot of interest and attention reciprocation at the beginning from the woman, eventually even leading to dates/sex but then the interest wanes and eventually leads to a situation where I feel I'm left dangling on the end of a string and getting nothing in return. I've learned to just remove myself from those situations politely as they've probably moved on/started talking to someone else and it's not worth the anxiety it's causing me any longer to think about it. On to the next.

    @GreelTheMindRaker@GreelTheMindRaker2 жыл бұрын
  • Brilliant. One of your best videos @Courtney Ryan

    @CamJMitchell@CamJMitchell2 жыл бұрын
  • Courtney Ryan is Another Diamond that must be protected at all cost.

    @carlfrancis4704@carlfrancis47042 жыл бұрын
  • Hi Courtney, thank you for your informative information. I have learn a lot from you.

    @claudbrown4080@claudbrown40802 жыл бұрын
  • This video could not have come at a more perfect time. I had a first date a few days ago that went good so I decided to pursue and ask on another one 2 days ago. She hasn't responded and seems like she ghosted me so I not chasing her and walking away. This video really reinforced that experience for me and I think many will benefit from this. Great video as always!

    @AlokailyHussain@AlokailyHussain2 жыл бұрын
    • Been ghosted many times myself

      @dwayneneal3342@dwayneneal33422 жыл бұрын
    • @@dwayneneal3342 Oh I've been ghosted many times too. This is just the first time it has happened after a date for me lmao

      @AlokailyHussain@AlokailyHussain2 жыл бұрын
  • Found the video helpful, clarifies the terms. What I would like to see is a video on waiting too long to "make the move." Example: let's say you're in college. You run into a girl twice a week (her class is in the same area as yours.) 1st week : you notice she waits for class at a certain spot 2nd week: you cold approach and mention the fact that you see her every now and then, and "thought I'd stop and say hi" 3rd week: stop by and say hi (she smiles, changes her body to face you) (this is the week you make the move) (ask her out)).....but instead you just say "hi, I'll come say hi whenever I see you" 4th week: she's not there 5th week: gone Happened to me recently, I felt that energy that third week and also felt her disappointment after the interaction was over.

    @OldSchoolNoe@OldSchoolNoe2 жыл бұрын
    • Some PUAs teach the “three second rule”. If you see an attractive girl you have 3 seconds to approach. And of course all approaches end in a number ask. The idea is to train you to be decisive and this in turn projects confidence, which women find attractive. Look at it this way. By delaying showing romantic interest and thinking you can somehow build greater attraction over a number of interactions you are projecting that you don’t think you are already “enough” from the jump, an indication of low value. So you risk the zone marked “friend” with a girl. It’s the same context as over texting a girl before finally asking for a date, you come off as indecisive and the girl can get frustrated and turned off if you make her wait too long. Also there is the practical risk of delay, that she might not be there next time. But you already know this to your cost.

      @jleano609@jleano6092 жыл бұрын
  • That self respect line 3 for examples of pursuing was 🔥

    @danmantena4676@danmantena46762 жыл бұрын
  • I appreciate the advice as always, though I will say from a definition standpoint the title is painful because they do mean the same thing. But I did understand your point and the video and like I said I really appreciate the advice you have

    @archivalmars236@archivalmars2362 жыл бұрын
  • Thanks Courtney. Had spent a great chasing a girl and lost the taste of pursuing and enjoying the relationship. Thanks again.

    @gumisirizajonathan7533@gumisirizajonathan7533 Жыл бұрын
  • Great vid, Courtney. I always comment on your wisdom beyond your years. I wish you had been my big sis 30 plus years ago. Am I dating myself? Keep up the great work, Courtney. Listen up fellas! This lady knows what she is talking about.

    @blondewulff16@blondewulff162 жыл бұрын
  • "someone who enhances your life not be your life" spot on

    @mbjbeats8192@mbjbeats8192 Жыл бұрын
  • Thank you for this wonderful video....u really helped me like an elder sister🙏🏼

    @adityapatidar8694@adityapatidar86946 ай бұрын
  • Somewhere down the line, it feels like we convinced ourselves that the only way to date is to have one person qualify to the other. In my opinion, that's really what chasing is and it could not be farther from the truth. Men are more prone to it, but single women still do it especially with emotionally unavailable attractive men. We've got to get away from all of the nonsense. Just be intentional and show somebody if you're interested in them. Notice I say "show" because actions are worth 1,000 words. The decision they make from there is up to them, and then your ability to accept that decision is up to you. It is not your job to prove to the other person how much of a man or woman you are, and thinking like that is inherently rooted in insecurity. I do have sympathy if you already have a pre-existing and genuine emotional connection with someone before you try to date them. Those rejections sting the worst, but the correct course of action still remains the same.

    @ryanbarker3978@ryanbarker39782 жыл бұрын
  • Thanks so much , I really needed to hear this

    @masterofus3098@masterofus3098 Жыл бұрын
  • Yes, better be with people who reciprocate your feelings.

    @LearnGermanwithMarzipanfrau@LearnGermanwithMarzipanfrau2 жыл бұрын
  • This one really hit home for me! Thank you

    @thediesel1123@thediesel11236 ай бұрын
    • @CourtneyRyan

      @thediesel1123@thediesel11236 ай бұрын
  • After being ghosted on my date last night this really cheered me up. I’m that nerd in high school women ignored. Never been married or had children no matter how hard I tried. But I’m a homeowner in the San Francisco Bay Area. My mother with cancer is still alive and loves me and tells me I’m not a black sheep. My father still brags to everyone about me despite having nobody. Just bought a brand new Cadillac and still STD free cuz I’m not a fuck boy so I guess I can’t beat myself up too hard. It’s true nice guys finish dead last. But I wanna believe somebody in this world of 8 billion ppl there is somebody out there who wants me for who I am.

    @rexarnold3950@rexarnold39505 ай бұрын
  • Thank you very much Courtney. Your video is very helpful

    @nderitupaul3446@nderitupaul34462 жыл бұрын
  • Thanks for all the healthy advice, seriously.

    @Michael-xb1el@Michael-xb1el2 жыл бұрын
  • Videos like this one are why Courtney's subscriber count is growing so fast. She'll be at 1 million before you know it at this rate. I'm saying it first right here.

    @MasterREB@MasterREB2 жыл бұрын
  • Great video Courtney ,) I’m glad we have u as our sidekick..

    @georgepanagiotou8673@georgepanagiotou86732 жыл бұрын
  • This will definitely be great because I am already great at making women feel like a woman and it comes from a lot of the ways I express myself through the details I pick up on. Been talking to this girl for ever 3 weeks now and things are going great so I could use any extra catalyst to keep things grounding

    @drip369@drip3692 жыл бұрын
    • If you're talking, probably time to escalate. Meet in person! Don't do it diffidently either. Say "Let's meet up at 7 on thursday" and make it clear it is a date.

      @garmisra7841@garmisra78412 жыл бұрын
    • @@garmisra7841 we've already met in person, and have a lunch date at 1:30 and plans into the evening. Thank you tho! She is even showing pursuit signs with me. I love it.

      @drip369@drip3692 жыл бұрын
  • You are awesome Courtney !! I love you !!

    @CarlosRamirez-xx6jz@CarlosRamirez-xx6jz2 жыл бұрын
  • I agree with everything you said, Courtney, you're good for a lady so much younger

    @garyshack3511@garyshack3511 Жыл бұрын
  • Thank you for this video. It never dawned on me that I was being a "simp" (or even knew the word) until recently. But the way you describe chasing vs pursuing, no wonder I'm 42 and have still to find a lady. No one has ever wanted to be caught or has pursued back. But, yeah, I have fallen in the trap where it was so obvious to everyone else that she wanted nothing to do with me, but still "let" me spoil her with only minimal attention received. Really wish someone would have explained much sooner the difference. Thank you for breaking it down. Have a great day!

    @hapomwak@hapomwak2 жыл бұрын
    • Still got time bro, I'm 45 and still landing dates. Just keep learning from each girl that it didn't work out, and learn from these these videos.

      @2ndLastStarfighter@2ndLastStarfighter2 жыл бұрын
    • @@2ndLastStarfighter Thanks😊! BTW, The Last Starfighter was da'bomb!

      @hapomwak@hapomwak2 жыл бұрын
    • If you live in America, it's way too hard to find a woman. They play too much mind games on men who likes her. Other countries rarely do that.

      @arterisdewberry9467@arterisdewberry94672 жыл бұрын
    • Just change your mindset to evaluating her behavior closer. YOU are qualifying HER, too. I've made the same mistakes, maybe not so much in buying girls things, but in chasing them when they weren't reciprocating. Not doing that anymore. I think it's best to go light on the compliments and things in the early going, don't be so eager to please her until she's showing interest and is eager to please you. Us men are catches, too, not just women. They need to earn our attention.

      @huntstyle@huntstyle Жыл бұрын
  • Thanks, Courtney. 👍👍👍💯

    @jeffreylocke7592@jeffreylocke75922 жыл бұрын
  • Boom! As always, spot on. Thank you.

    @GerryLaytin@GerryLaytin Жыл бұрын
  • The way she starts the video by saying 'hey everyone' is just so cute

    @rishipatel3483@rishipatel34832 жыл бұрын
  • Thanks for explaining it nicely.

    @justinnamuco9096@justinnamuco90962 жыл бұрын
  • Great video Courtney

    @englishsounds6461@englishsounds64612 жыл бұрын
    • Thank you, my friend!

      @CourtneyRyan@CourtneyRyan2 жыл бұрын
  • I'd like you to do a video on ghosting. This is a horrible act that I've been a victim of a number of times. The women that did it to me turned out to be spineless, weak and ultimately cowards. Elaborate on why ghosting is bad for the doer too. Ghosting can lead to the doer to have self-doubts about holding a relationship when they have a quick get-out for when things aren't to their liking. It's heartbreaking to be ghosted. Courtney, give me your shoulder to cry on. :'(

    @ibelieveinlove9943@ibelieveinlove99432 жыл бұрын
    • Give me a break dude. Everyone has ghosted someone. It’s not gonna go away. No answer is your answer. Don’t take it personally. It has happened to everyone

      @MrCjchamp2001@MrCjchamp2001 Жыл бұрын
  • I'm just here to say hi miss Courtney. Love your videos. Keep it up.

    @paulbeltran3874@paulbeltran38742 жыл бұрын
  • heard a great phrase the other day .... "they are the white rabbit at the dog track and will never be caught" ..... thx Courtney, insightful as usual .... and as always .. never stop dreaming, just dream bigger .. have fun be safe, save our oceans ...

    @peterfrebold@peterfrebold2 жыл бұрын
  • There are good women out there, they are hard to find nowadays

    @johngonzalez4298@johngonzalez42982 жыл бұрын
    • It's kind of a vocal minority vs a silent majority kind of dilemma I think

      @ldtv8971@ldtv89712 жыл бұрын
    • Every time I think this woman sounds like a good woman,of course she's taken lol it's like 80 percent of women are taken and the other 20 percent just don't want me,even if they lived on my street.

      @dwayneneal3342@dwayneneal33422 жыл бұрын
  • Very Helpful Thanks Courtney 👍

    @alvinalex1@alvinalex12 жыл бұрын
  • Wow this video was amazingly helpful

    @sssweetnesss3483@sssweetnesss34832 жыл бұрын
  • Courtney, I love your hair. It's so pretty

    @drummercarson896@drummercarson896 Жыл бұрын
  • Really good advice. Thanks.

    @randystreetman3282@randystreetman32828 ай бұрын
  • Thank u Courtney. You make me feel comfortable and excited for my upcoming date with your vids🤍🙌🏻

    @Nbafan2000@Nbafan2000 Жыл бұрын
  • Thanks for the reminders. 👍

    @jeremycranford2732@jeremycranford2732 Жыл бұрын
  • It's hard to distinguish between the two so I clicked the video. My problem always was there is never any reciprocating back to me that they are interested or like me back,like ever. It don't matter who it is. The only thing I can do is start working out and try to be sexy. But I'm getting old,just turned 39. And it takes a long time to get built. It's sad but it's mainly about looks and money, you can't just be nice or have "personality" that's just not the real world. People will tell you a lot of bs and cliches that just aren't the truth to be positive sounding.

    @dwayneneal3342@dwayneneal33422 жыл бұрын
  • Courtney has some good advice!

    @MS-ot9mn@MS-ot9mn2 жыл бұрын
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