How Girls REALLY Want You To Talk To Them
2022 ж. 9 Қаз.
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Yo
I have aspergers, diagnosed at 12. My psychiatrist told me to get on disability and push carts at public. I was a super cringey kid, but from working hard and learning how to socialize I actually got into a relationship with this incredibly pretty girl in freshman year of high school. I just talked to her super well off the bat, didn't try too hard. I think that's confidence, feeling like you don't need to force anything. Confidence is the belief that you are all you need- that no external thing is necessary for you. On the flip side of that coin, is that there is so much in the world to experience. I can't believe I dated that girl, a cuban gothy girl named Natalie. On our first date, we made out in an elevator in barnes and nobles. I was pretty overweight and honestly awkward internally, but I carried myself well and I got better at flirting. We only dated for 4 months, but I was rarely single after that. I have never settled for a girl that I don't find attractive. And I don't just mean physical looks, but personality, intellect, perspective is all attractive. This mega sperg, that was bullied relentlessly from grades 1-6, has been married for 2 years to a 10/10 and everyone says "how did you end up with someone so out of your league?!?" I never pretended to be anyone but me. I am a crybaby, I am an introspective dude, I am a weightlifter, I am a cinemaphile, I give my money away to those that need it and I have a job I love in the health care field. I have given dying men cpr and saved their lives. I have talked people out of suicide. I was suicidal myself at a time, and I stopped self harm. I have lived a thousand lives. I have a 4 year diploma and we are trying for a baby. I am 26, and I am alive. And the craziest thing, I quit League of Legends. Edit: we are expecting a child in September! We just bought a townhouse as well. We are so blessed. Thank you all for the positive comments. I wish the best for everyone here.
As someone who recently got diagnosed with klinefelter and autism this really motivates me. Thanks
Damn bro good to hear this. Very motivating
wow, bro, that's inspiring
But the fear doesn't end when she says yes you wonder if you'll be able to handle the relationship or if you might screw it up what do you do then or should I stop overthinking
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"You can't be scarred of rejection, because regret hurts more than rejection." That line is about the most true statement you can find out of the whole video. I can't tell you how many times I wanted to approach a girl and didnt, then beat myself up and got depressed afterwards. If I had one piece of advice to my younger self it would be this, just try, you'll regret it if you don't.
But in the end don't beat yourself up too much... there is enough fish in the sea. Just focus on yourself and keep building king ;)
@@eyoo369 thanks dude, everyone needs that pick me up sometimes
So true. Simply the best explanation of a psychological phenomenon that all of us experience in our lifetime. Best regards.
Yahh there was this girl I had a crush on but didn't have much courage to ask her out later I got to know by a mutual friend that she too liked me at that time nd she is now dating someone else so yahh that regret really hurts me a lot now
@D34DB34T honestly in a lot of young guys heads, the mindset is unfortunately set to oneitis. And that fear of getting obliterated by a girl overcomes the norm which is a way less intense rejection. Not saying your wrong, just saying not everyone handles shit the same, but I appreciate your perspective man.
key takeaways 1. have courage - you can do the action even if you feel scared. - rejection is better than regret 2. be honest and upfront - this builds trust and a connection - being authentic makes you able to connect with them too 3. (how to talk to girls?) have exciting conversations - be playful and tease her - avoids dryness & interview - show your ambition, don't be afraid to show your pride
Thanks!
ben
Be chad
Playful and tease her how?
Pride is a sin
Bruh I hate that my name is actually Adonis and I thought he was talking to me😭😭
Damn you lucky
Atleast you are not Jeffrey
@@relaxedlooksmaxxerunfortunately I can’t say the same
I know a guy named jeffery
Why girls are watching this?
Getting girls is a really important part of self improvement. Getting girls make you think thay you are good looking and this leads to you feeling better about yourself and feeling more confident. Am I right?
@UC0DdWSiA_oLMeUj7QeCZKxA based
Coming from a 14 year old you may be thinking that all I said is false. But trust me, I have learned a lot in the last 1 year self improvement journey and I am much more mature than others my age. Hamza has given a lot of young men hope and i one of them
@@Roby-SelfImprovement you are not wrong friend, you are good.
To the point where it actually contributes to your mental health / confidence, probably yes. But there will probably be a point where you find yourself getting diminishing returns from it eventually
YEah, man. I see a good future ahead of you. But for the people that can't get girls, you can still live a happy life which I'll try and help you guys out with my platform like Hamz! Keep working, my people! 🙏🏾🖤‼
I’ve used to have a tough time talking in general. One of my professors in college had made a statement that has stuck with me, “ people tend to remember how you make them feel, not what you say.” Ever since then that somewhat relieves the stress of conversation and makes it more fun.
If you have hard time talking, remove your vocal cord, you wont have trouble talking if you can't talk in the first place.
@@WiseRetar Wow, do you have a netflix special?
I really like your point about how rejection and pain gets easier the more you're exposed to it. I think it's also a reason why successful and amazing people first went through a lot of failure and rejection; they persevered through the pain and no longer have anything holding them back from being the best version of themselves and pursuing what they truly want. If any and all paths can lead to failure, and most of your life is completely outside of your control and understanding, why fear failure and rejection when its inevitable and will only make you a better person in the long run?
“You can’t be scared of rejection because regret hurts more than rejection” those are some wise words and I can confirm that they are very true. Last year I waited too long for the “right moment” and I spent most of the days daydreaming about the conversation that would win her over, and I never did anything. Now I realize that I never did anything last year and I got nowhere with her, she still isn’t my friend and I haven’t talked to her. Now I am lucky enough to be a the “right moment” and I just can’t let this opportunity slip especially since it has already been set up for me. I know that if I let this opportunity slip I will regret it.
Go at it king 👑
Update?
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did you smash bro? :))
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I used to hate small talk but as I got older, I learned to accept it. I thought something was wrong with me for not asking boring questions, so I learned to talk small. This video was very validating to me. I don't ever want to have small talk with someone again. To me, you are the first indicator that people like creative conversation. I realize I've been living in fear, thinking people wouldn't like what I actually want to say.
I despise it. I'm actually going to make a vid on my take on small talk.
Small Talks are for the weak
It’s used to hate small talk too, but now I love it. It’s my favorite way to connect with someone because it’s basically an art form. Small talk is not actually about the content of what you’re talking about. It’s about everything else…vibe, tonality, body language, etc. So if you can hav fun with small talk knowing it that it’s really not about what you did over the weekend, and actually use that to your advantage, the ability to be able to spin a conversation like that into something fun and flirty is amazing. It’s a skill.
@@nickp3949 exactly
Small talk isnt about the words you say, normally yes, very mundane. Small talk is about the vibe you create with a person using very open, non polarising common topics to create good connections with said person so you can delve into deeper more meaningful conversations in future. But you can't get to deep conversations without the small talk first. It's an essential skill and really should be enjoyed because it's establishing first contact with someone.
There was this girl i had a crush on for so long and i finally got the courage to say it to her last year. I believed regret is worse than rejection. I just told her everything i had in my my mind and she opened up and said she liked me as well. Man that was probably the best feeling. Take your chances bois, this time aint coming back
@@Vatzaa Man up that shit bro. Fuck what they think. If you really like her, you let her know. Breathe in, Chest UP bro. Gossip is beneath you, so if they are going to gossip like the infantile rodents that they are, ignore them. Don't even have them in your thoughts. I'd recommend spending 10-20 minutes a day meditating. Perhaps you'll get your chance to express your feelings to her bro. Best of luck. 💪
@@Vatzaawhat happened
I can't man . She has a boyfriend.I think I will hide it in the deepest part of my heart to never bring it up again.
I know you've seen and heard it but,Keep working on yourself,keep grinding, don't worry too much about her focus on yourself
@@Vatzaa update?
Hamza saved me bro. I remember when before I was plainly introverted and every convo with a girls ended badly. I was tall and considered handsome by some of them lucky I saw this video. I'm still working on becoming less introverted and my social skills. Thanks Hamza ❤
I'm not in some weird cult but I genuinely enjoy some of the vids. They're really a great help and so well made and the production level is getting better and better. Keep up the good work.
yes you are, welcome to the cult. Now drink this kool-aid
@@Hamza97 You're great, bro. I will see you at the top one day. You deserve your success! 🔝💯👑🥷🏾
@@Hamza97 *slurps the kool-aid down*
@@Hamza97 i need your help how do i start those conversations
welcome to the cult HAHA
„Regret hurts more than rejection“ this is 100% true and that’s actually how I approached my first girl, I was scared out of my mind that I couldn’t sleep again because I always had to think about what could have been. She rejected me, it was a bit okward but still much better than not knowing how it would have ended. And after this rejection I felt actually way less scared of trying it again
gunshot wounds hurt more than both combined so it's not true,
@@WiseRetar What happens if your regret is being kind, to women as in at all, how do you get over that "red pill" rage? I am genuinely asking, not just for myself, but for younger males as well? I will add with no short or long term agendas at play, especially for those who just don't feel sexual attraction quickly
Holy moly bruh, WHY I DIDN'T SAW THAT VIDEO A MONTH AGO😭🤣😂 it's funny cause, literally a girl that i was just thinking about and kinda stalking(a bit) called me out of nowhere in the middle of the night, like we really never talked for real about interesting things before, but somehow she said: "I was thinking about you recently" and then i started having a good conversation but days later i didn't know what to say then i asked these boring ass questions to her like: "What kind of music do you like?" She stopped answering me in the following week. Dude i was so, so, but SO SAD....geez
Yeah, it`s more like working out your biceps (let`s say). Next day, sore muscles. Then, repeat, work out every 2, 3 days, and no sore muscles anymore. Just big arms. Best of luck to you!
Don`t be afraid to experience. Life is an experience itself. Best wishes.
Ya'll here's a tip, If you scared that you are not good enough or don't look good lack communication skills etc.. just don't chase the girl. Use her as a motivation and Change yourself, hit the gym, talk to people, take care of yourself. Do this and the next time will be different i guarantee.
Man, your approach is so.. human. It's refreshing. It's almost like we're not even talking about girls here but just about how to take care of yourself. (+ the editing, the structure, the storytelling.. very nice) I rarely subscribe to channels but man would I like to see more!
I got rejected by 7 girls in less than 2 months to find my first gf right after that, and man it was worth it. That relationship is also behind me now but I can definitely say that everything was worth it.
Lol u desperate af
@@looooonooooooooooooooooooooong wdym I'm reading my comment and don't see where i mentioned him
@@maz2483 brother, being desperate for goals is not a bad thing. I am always obsessed over my goals and one was getting a gf to test out all different things i have learned from books and videos. I was * desperate * (more like not giving up easily) over the goal and it was so worth it. If it wasn't i would also say that. I am not earning any money for saying something here. I just say that the gained experience and beautiful moments were worth everything i did to achieve the goal. Edit: fuck me if i saw that you have an anime pfp i wouldn't bother explaining this. Anyway yeah have a nice day
@@realmarkoknezevic don’t pay dude no mind real players know u get rejected in this game It’s a game and we the players keep grinding bro
cry about it.
Just asked the girl I liked because of the courage I got from this video and she said yes. You pretty much just changed my life. I can’t thank you enough Hamza. Keep making these life-changing videos. Edit: She just said she doesn’t feel the same anymore. I did the exact opposite of what was said in this video. It was my first ever relationship and I got too attached. Guys, don’t make the same mistake I made and think thoroughly on how to apply the concepts in this video to your relationships. Good luck brothers.
Congrats bro I'm proud of you 💪
But the fear doesn't end when she says yes you wonder if you'll be able to handle the relationship or if you might screw it up what do you do then or should I stop overthinking
@@farisa1116 nah ur good bro I’m thinking the same thing right now. Just follow some of the tips in this video to be the person she wants to be in a relationship with; the person she wants to talk to all the time. U got this brotha
@@shohosama thx man
how do u approach her cus i suck at that
Damn. I really needed this, I'm 21 and I've been single since Jan, got out of a 2 yr relationship and went thru a lot of healing and personal journey to get to a certain level of self improvement and I realized I was getting stuck in this "Oh I'm focused on myself, that's why I'm closed off to other girls-" bs 😂. Had a girl leave me her number recently, and found myself just in that whole 'interview' exactly how he described it but with more confidence and slightly more teasing but definitely not on the level it should've been on and I'm not surprised she stopped talking to me (I take that L, lol) Getting 'back into the game' I realize I'm doing this completely wrong by trying small talk. I've been listening to way too many red pill accounts just out of boredom and honestly think it's been warping my perception of dating and talking to women. I've been big on not rushing anything and letting it form organically but this video just perfectly described how to make it flow organically, thank you so much Hamza! Honestly if any other youtuber had a video titled this, I wouldn't have watched it. As it'd feel a bit redundant. But you got the experience, the flow, and you never fail to disappoint. One of the reasons I like your videos so much is cause you put the viewer on the spot! and it's awesome.
Breaking the barrier of cordiality is the most important part of upping your relationship with *anyone* Great advices all around on this video
I must say, you’ve really helped me overcome my anxiety regarding acne with your old video regarding how to overcome your insecurities. Realizing that everyone has their own insecurities and that rising above your own negative self view really puts you in a different league. Helped me approach a girl that the week before I hadn’t because I was overthinking my acne.
GOOd on you, bro. I hope I help others out too just how HAMZA helped you, my guy! 💯🙏🏾👍🏾
If Zamga not only didn't destroy your courage, BUT MANAGED TO CURE YOUR ANXIETY - you must have a very, very, VERY strong emotional background.
Hell yeah, Martynas.
Doesn’t mean you should neglect self-improvement. I had severe cystic acne before, self-confidence was in the negatives, never got any attention from girls but then decided I was gonna do something about it, went on accutane and skin is totally clear now. Since then I don’t even need to approach girls half the time, a lot of times they just come to me. Was literally in the club two days ago and a two girls approached me, Turns out acne significantly affects your looks, I went from a solid 3 out of 10 to a 7/8 now. I’d suggest you get accutane depending how bad you acne is, can literally be a game changer.
@@Junior-zf7yy yeah accutane also fixed my acne but I have some redness left due to the acne, did you have the same after accutane of yes how'd you fix it?
Regret really does hurt more than rejection.
Yeah..
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I got rejected by a girl. Did it hurt, yes. For only like a few days its really not as bad as long as you accept it maturely.
So true
I’m not that afraid of rejection, I’m more afraid of the girls friends making fun of me for talking to her and then them spreading that everywhere. That’s when the huge regret hits and then my reputation at school is ruined.
It's alright bro don't care whatever they say or do like bro that's what happens with me also
This video is probably the best 10 minutes I invested on this website in the past 3 years. Getting girls was something I always wanted to do but never succeeded. I gave up hope until this channel. This is probably the best advice I got ever given related to girls and after implementing this process I am now dating a girl I was talking to. I hope the others find this as helpful as I did and I wish them luck. Your channel really helped improve my life unto the right direction from the unproductive and underachieving script it once was this is just my start of my self improvement journey and it will surely be a long one, Thank you Hamza
3 years is a lot of time holy shit
"Do the hard work, especially when you don't feel like it." ~ Adonissss 💪🏻🚀
Wasn't Tate who said that!? 🗿
@@mihawk-7764 bro im not gonna hate on you,but in personal experience,i said and discover a lot of things by myself , just going deep in my mind. then days later i watch a video and someone said it already, i keep saying it cause i dont give a fuck if people think i copy it from someone else, this an example of hamza,he says it from years ag, maybe tate too,but tate said it like 3 month ago in the emergensy meeting.
@@higher.self_.4677 Lets just keep grinding. Soon, we'll take over KZhead and Tiktok if we keep it going!
@@gibrilsi 🔥🔥🔥✊🏽 well said brother
Who tf is adonissss? Never heard of him. Is he one of those gay acient Greek phylosophers?
Hamza I’m 16, and started doing PPL in the gym. Todays the one month mark, and I haven’t skipped a day, think I’m hooked, thank you Hamza.
Trust me bro the hard times will come and you decide rather you go trough them or just skip the gym. Mark my words.
@@Jan-ts5fm ?
@@4kids555 there will be a time where its hard to go to the gym that's what I mean
@@Jan-ts5fm Thats when the discipline comes in and u make urself go despite not feeling like it
@@marn907 discipline is everything bro
Much love to you guys who keep trying to help us out. Really things come down to us seeing ourselves as attractive or as prizes. My nature my whole life has been to be VERY playful and witty but ever since my teenage years I bombed into what I am now. If there has ever been some sort of opportunity with a woman since my adolescence, I have always eviscerated it. Either knowingly or unknowingly. I’m that bad. On top of just going blank with attractive women, I just never think they want to hear provocative lines from me, so I don’t want to make them uncomfortable by saying them. Either way, thanks for the advice dude.
The fact that we needed some courage to talk to a girl who is just human being like us of opposite gender.
Something funny, it's because of the exact things that were mentioned in this video, that I spiraled into one of the worst places in my life. Along my way in the journey of self-depreciation, I came across Hamza's channel, and he provided the insight I needed, the exact step forward in being less disillusioned with reality. Thank you, Hamza. You helped me realize what I actually needed, and what I should focus on. It's only been 5 months, and I've stuck to reading, meditation, improved my knowledge overall, stopped putting women on pedestals, put myself and my goals ahead, and I learnt how to attempt starting a business (despite fearing the horrible outcome). Hamza, the work you're doing is insanely beneficial, easily digestible to the average man. We need people like you, and Jordan Peterson representing us. Thank you.
It's so weird because I actually did this with a girl without realizing it. There was this coworker that I had that was a pretty cute girl, but she had a boyfriend so I never manifested anything in feelings. But I would playfully tease her and act annoyed when she came into work in a joking way like "ugh I gotta work with you today". And OCCASIONALLY we would flirt very lightly by just saying nice things about each others appearance. Well that was in Texas and I had to come back to Tennessee to finish college, and this girl tells me that she broke up with her boyfriend and that she wanted to date me. Partly that I was funny, but because I had my own goals. Unfortunately I had to say no, but this was so surprising that a girl who was quite pretty actually approached me first and it was due to things I wasn't even putting effort into. If only this would happen with a girl I actually liked. 😂
nothings as easy as impressing girls you dont want has always been like this in my life.. its because we are not chilled enough and we want everything to work out good for ourselves..
Cool stuff, man. Thanks for sharing your experience. Best of luck.
@@denotzgii Indeed
It feels good when I see my fellow Pakistani brother inspiring millions on the path of self-improvement! *Appreciate* 🔥
Ok as a Pakistani "who avoided taxes like bullets in fliping matrix" I can confirm the taxes part
I need more explanation lol
I watched hundreds, even thousands of videos on how to approach a girl and what to do; I was about to go to my crush, even tho I was pretty confident I knew it would become an interview kind of conversation, and luckily Hamza came in with the save just in time. Thank you, Hamza; I am grateful for having a brother figure online.
How did it go?
What examples did hamza give that made your mind change?
@@finnishgains9688 It's gonna turn out tomorrow
@@clipped6963 that tease her playfully don't overthink it, and after getting closer by just joyfully hanging out, you make the next move which is talking about more serious topics... with a smooth transition, tho.
@@dariosz21 good luck neighbor 👍 I rot for you from Romania 🇸🇨💪
I found the inner adoins within myself when I went to Pakistan I was so open, no tech, wasn't afraid to talk to girls actually made an effort talking to strangers, I was so smooth with it, no thinking only do. , I felt like a king, when I got back to the UK I felt closed off again, like a Jeffrey, It partly feels its because of the culture difference but also me not having a purpose here.
Now some racist Jeffery will take it as cue to tell us to go back to Pakistan
Then go back to Pakistan and live on the streets there
Think UK like a challenge, the culture difference just a obstacle to you overcome to become excellent
Literally in India for a vacation and I can confirm I'm feeling the same. Been on 3 dates and I feel better than ever. I'm hoping to keep the same after going back to UK
bro found the adoins 🤪
You've been so inspiring for me, and I have just started really getting bingo your videos man, thank you. Im actually improving my life and I'm already becoming so much more confident! While it is still so hard for me to talk to girls out of no where, I definitely feel that pull when I try to talk to girls, I just get a feeling like "No, I have to wait, I don't even know her" and it hurts so bad when I go back home and didn't talk to one girl. So I just have to send it, go for it and really break that repeated regret cycle. Thank you!
By far my favorite video from you so far. Great job, keep it up.
2:37 I felt that
I've been with my guy for 16 years and our relationship is like 50% making fun of each other in a playful way. As a girl and now woman I can say this is the PERFECT advice. You definitely want to make it known that you're kidding though and you have to know when to be serious especially when it comes to our feelings or we get easily annoyed with the teasing and if you don't laugh or smile to make it obvious you're kidding around then it comes off as being a complete ass. Overall though, great advice.
congrats on 26 years
Some girls do it in a way that comes off wrong and condescending some are smooth with it to where I can tell their flirting, but that’s why I prefer to initiate the conversations because some girls suck at it, and if you suck at it and your a girl don’t do it…
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Man, I swear, all this advice you're giving us is gonna make my life so much better.
Started training my neck and attention from girls increased 10X. Now i dont even try to talk anymore, i just flex my neck.
Just flex your neck bro
Awesome!
*Regret hurts more than rejection* well that hit me now like a bus, because I had limited time to do something and missed my chance, now it feels like something is eating me from inside.
Regret hurts like a bitch and it’s honestly hard to move on
I feel you, same thing happened to me. I'l try to never get into that kind of situation again.
You should honestly make an app for advice because i think many of us need it
I had known this girl for 7 years and we would see each other around 2-3 times a week. About half a year ago, we got on really well, we started messaging and we liked each other, so naturally, I asked her out. The timing was horrible though, because this was before the summer holidays, our holiday never matched up, we were not in the same place at the same time meaning we did not see much of each other although we still texted every day and hour. Once the holidays were up, since I had not seen her for a month and a half, I freaked out and hid behind my anxiety and the relationship slowly died out over the next three months. I asked her if she wanted to try again yesterday morning and she said we would be better off as friends. To be fair, she had exams, we had not talked to each other properly other than small talk in months and I was a fool not to ask her out as soon as the holidays ended, I was a fool for not approaching her during the times we would see each other.
Man,i understand you...i also have a regret of talking to my Crush before watching this Video and now everythings gone...🚬
Messge from this story: So let the libido flow
Charge it and move on
I am so satisfied now 😊😊
@Welli'mAGamer for your future self, a girl will take you OUT of the "friendzone" if your look/physique/sex appeal has greatly improved since the last she's seen you(like AFTER a time apart) bc the "new you" OVERRIDES the version of "you" that she has stored in her memory. I've done THIS before and had the chick catering/being VERY cooperative (even buying my snacks,giving me googly eyes, and giggling at everything I said)...I could see visual disappointment when I didn't try to hookup though(I'm outta her league now...don't even want her😒). Godspeed my ninja💯🧔🏾♂️
For the first time in my school life, I actually mustered up the courage to confess to a girl I like (and she just so happens to be one of my friends). She didn't like me back, but she said things like: - "I've actually known since the beginning that you liked me." - "Sorry if I don't feel the same way. I hope you're not hurt by that, and I assure you that we are still friends." - "Thank you for the affection and deciding to confess your feelings. I appreciate that you didn't just stay there in the background." I am happy with the way things turned out. The two of us then left the grandstand and walked across the football field chatting about random shows we watched. Although, when we returned to the classroom and people found out what happened, the boys won't stop teasing me by saying, "Damn, you just got rejected. You're a fallen comrade, bro."
grab a gun and shoot them, kill them, people who insult people shall die!
That's just life homie
@@gameseeker6307 indeed it is
Those boys are the cowards who couldn't even get as far as getting rejected, don't forget it.
Never confess your feelings. It NEVER goes the way Hollywood would have you believe it might. Women love a dude who is mysterious, hard to read, unpredictable. By confessing your feelings you are literally killing the thrill of the verbal foreplay. You want to keep her guessing. Once she's 'got' you, you're done. She's onto the next one who is a challenge.
9:29 "I am going to the top, u wanna join me" Beautiful ✨
The pain in first half of this video I can feel it from my deepest part of my heart .
Being playful/teasing is one part - but you need to have some serious conversations mixed in otherwise they'll think you're a joker/not serious - confidence is a balance of self belief, displaying mental and physical strength but you can't come off arrogant or super alpha otherwise you won't be seeing her again.
completely agree, i've been mostly playful with this one girl for a couple of weeks and i can see that she's getting tired of it
@@danielwilkins4072 girls will only respect you if you are serious/respect yourself and the fun part is the icing on the cake. Good luck bro
@@rizeupacademy icing on cake?
@@ANKIT-kc3sg EXACTLY BRO - being playful/teasing is the icing on the cake!
I think this is what I needed, not an exact blueprint on what to say to a girl, but just some pointers and tips that I couldn't find anywhere else. Thanks once again Hamza
dude, stop listening to Hamza and listen to me. I know a technique that will get you as many girls and even boys if you want and this technique is easy and it's even easier if you live in USA, basicly, all you have to do is hold a gun and tell them that you like them and you want to date them, I never got rejected while using the "holding a gun" technique.
@@WiseRetar Based
best video you've put out in a while bro, love when you tell personal stories and we can feel your personality coming through the video. keep it up 💯
One thing I’ve found that helps a lot is to do your research. This is good for nerds. Find what they’re interested in, find out more about it. I started talking to a girl near the end of high school since I wanted to take her to prom. I didn’t do all of it perfectly, now I would do it significantly better. But I knew she was in swim at our high school and was in the state tournament, so I asked her how that was going. That was one of the first things I’d asked her. Little things like that are great conversation starters, then you can find natural flow very easily since she is talking about what she’s interested in. Now, I was antisocial up until high school. I was a nerd that didn’t do anything or talk to anyone, so my social development came late. COVID also impacted my social life dramatically. On our first date, I picked up this girl. I went into her house, talked to her dad, and this is how it started. “So what do you do besides Math Field Day and Tennis?” “I play piano.” (she played piano too). She interrupts and says “He can play Bohemian Rhapsody!” Dad says “Alright, let’s hear it.” Nailed it. Went to dinner and maintained 3 hours of interesting conversation with her and that was it. Went on to have a few more dates, talk daily for 4 months, go to prom together, then get friend zoned since I was going to college soon. Which is fair. If I would have been a year younger, we would be dating 100% If they drop little details, commit them to memory. I memorized all of her blocks in school by asking simple but natural questions. Then I used that knowledge to intercept her after her last block, then walk 10 minutes to our cars. Completely ditched her friend in that class. I didn’t tell her I was doing it, I just did. We proceeded to do that every day before and after school. It got to a point where if I was unable to walk with her, I would get a snap of her joking about being lonely. If she couldn’t, she would let me know in advance without me asking. It became an expectation. If you both are younger and still live with your parents, make sure you develop a good relationship with her parents too. The father is the most important. Mother is important too but prioritize the respect of her father. Her parents would even come to my high school tennis matches. She came to my state tennis matches, made numerous little signs of my face for everyone to use as a surprise. Sorry for the long comment, just trying to help my fellow nerds out there get some women. Treat it like a test. Take notes on what she says, do your homework on her interests, and just be interesting when the test comes. If you can talk to her about her interests, you’ll have interesting conversations all day long. It worked for me. I’m willing to help if you have any questions.
Day 1 of daily Hamza emails and I'm already loving them!!
0:24 i am a pakistani and i totally agree 😂😂😂
NOTE: this definitely is true, but it doesnt mean 100% success. i do all of this and i get people easily, but i still fail from time to time. dont let it hold you down, just keep trying
We do not bite. Come talk to us. Just do not touch us without consent. Too many men already do that most of the time. Be kind, and just look at it as catching up with an old friend.
Yes you do.
Most women dont want to be approached by ugly guys.
That was really useful, thanx Bro!
You've given me so much more confidence now that I have an idea of what to do rather than sticking to what my gut says and to just "wait till the right moment" I really appreciate you and everything you do for young men its life changing and I just want you to know that Hamza.
Hamza, I just want to thank you for changing my life for the better. I was already doing calisthenics before I started watching you but you have increased my confidence so much and I’m just so grateful to God for showing me your content ❤
"You can't be scared of rejection because regret hurts more than rejection"
Man these videos help alot bro ive been borderline learning my masculinity traits and these bring light to my power. Adonnis edits funny asl too appreciate the work
I cannot believe I completely avoided this advice until now. Thank you Hamza for helping me reach first base! I couldn’t do it without you.
Bro I talked to this girl right (for a week or two) and I asked her out. It was my first time and honestly I’m upset, full oh heart ache. But on the same token, I’m so glad that I finally shot my shot. I really do want to improve my social skills and I’m so proud of myself for doing so. Still down about the rejection but you can’t go from incel to chad in a month lol.
This is one if my favorite videos you've uploaded in awhile.
On Point! Thanks man your content is just brilliant!
YOOO My life quote is "Rejection is temporary, regret is forever" and then Hamza's "regret hurts more than rejection" is an amazing follow up to that!!
This man speaking faxxx . I just conveyed my feelings for this girl I liked for about 8 months now who I never even had the courage to even talk to before . I got rejected but the fact that I was able to talk to her and make my move and then get rejected is still a huge W for me . I won't atleast have the regret that I wasn't even able to talk to her and make my move , and trust me that regret hurts more than the rejection itself. So gather whatever little confidence u have and talk to her.
you have my support king 👑🐐‼️
this video helped me so mcuh. im with the girl that i liked for 2 years tysm
you know the most motivating part of this video is at the end Hamza kissing the camera and giving like the vibe of the brotherhood thing
Hamza, your the right amount of honest, funny, and serious. Thank you man. I've been watching your vids for a while and I have recently been trying to act on your advice more lately. Thank you for that.
You have come a long Hamza as you are close to 1M subscribers on KZhead. You have definitely contributed and helped me to change my life for the better because my manhood is what matters the most. I am proud of your brother!
The content and the editing are gold. Keep up the good work!
All through middle school I had two different crushes neither of them I had the balls to talk to now I’m a fresh men in high school and took my chances with a girl and tried talking to her, I’m almost certain she likes me too because of the huge amount of things she’s done that a girl who wouldn’t like me wouldn’t do (like touching me or writing on my paper) I honestly didn’t think I’d get this far and now that I’m here I don’t know how to progress further 😭
Hits too close to home. You're describing EXACTLY how I approach girls and sometimes it works but I find it weird when girls don't return the same kind of energy as I expect them to. You were right Hamza, my perception of "game" was very naive, I shouldn't expect them to be interested with interview like questions. Thanks for this lesson!
Your style is awesome bro. Great vids
i come here after a year of listening to him. i let go self improvement but still managed to get females my best tip. BE FRIENDS WITH EVERYBODY DONT FORCE 2 BE SUMONE UR NOT
You're correct about courage. It isn't about not having fear, it's about not letting the fear be in the way of your decision to walk up and ask your that crush out. Great vid
You cant have bravery without fear.
fucking hell bro, in one month you completely changed my life, I cannot stress out enough, how much I am grateful
the fact that you talk about how many times you have been rejected. that takes king level kind of honesty.
This was really helpful and genuine hamza thank you for this ❤️
Ever since graduating high school I forget I've always had that flirty way with girls even though I was extremely shy. I know what Hamza said is true cuz every year in at least 1 class I'd make a friend who happens to be female just by teasing. In the end it never went well cuz they'd havea crush on me but I was to scared to take a chance. Also take this advice from a guy who had a crush on a girl from 3rd grade all the way to 12th and never said a word to her...GO TALK TO HER!
I don't feel the urge to talk to girls as much anymore. A couple of years ago I had a bit of game and attraction but now I have become a zombie who is addicted to pron and I feel so inferior to the people around me. As soon as I make a little a bit of progress it feels I am back at zero. I have become the type of person who has become complacent and weak. With each passing year I become more and more inferior to my peers. At this point even my family has figured out I am not capable. I know only I can make the change but I can't conquer my mind. When I am at Uni or around my peers and they talk about all the success they are achieving I feel like just shutting off everything.
Brother, you can turn your entire life around in 30 days if you can make yourself do this one simple thing and that is to abstain from watching pron. Even more, I actually guarantee that your entire mindset will improve drastically if you can challenge yourself to commit to NoFap for 7 days ATLEAST. You can ignore this comment, I'm just a KZhead stranger. But if you do decide to do this, I will be here and you can message me anytime for anything. You seem like a very intelligent and self-aware dude, I would hate to see great potential like you become wasted due to modern poisons like P. I truly want the best out of you, H A.
@@iamstillthinking Thanks man. I will push myself to hit that 7 day mark. I know no Fap works but it is the complacency and the fact that I have accepted the weakness. But I will definitely hustle for the better.
Brother thank you for sharing this. It shows that there is part of you which is 100% Adonis, let him speak, let him feel you feelings, let him be the best you. I swear I feel everything that you said bc I was kinda in the same place, but because of my height. The best thing and the strongest thing you can do is, sit down, be alone for a moment, say and be sorry that you didn’t show the respect to yourself that you deserve. It takes strength to actually be really real with yourself. But you are the one who got all the beautiful thoughts and strength inside you. you are a universe inside an universe. You are limitless, understand this forreal, it is all in your head. The Version of you that you see right now is not the only version of you, the opposite exists and he is waiting to be finally you. Keep you faith, dignity and heart strong. I believe in you, we are here to get better and so we do. It is up to you, you set your own boundaries, but as real human being let me say this, you decide where you boundaries are and how much of limitation you give yourself, You deserve Love, Honor and the feeling of completion. You are energy inside flesh. You are the one of the fascinating things that god created, a consciousness which can reflect, change, adapt and most importantly create. Only you create your perfect life and it will come as soon as you understand for yourself why you deserve it. Love and respect to yourself is the answer.
I know it's a personal question but may i know how old are you ?
@@HA-pf6oq buddy just stop watching. Don't count the days, act like you never heard of it. it doesn't exist.
Thanks for sharing your story man
I love your videos... So genuin and real...
As someone who has gone through constant rejection, he is speaking facts. Of course it’s ok to get to know them but definitely tease them as your asking them simple questions (emphasis on the tease). It keeps them interested, as well as be funny make them laugh (or idk If u ain’t funny don’t force it )
Your editor is doing a great job! Your comedy in sync with the animations makes the videos very engaging.
Too bad that editor is probably underpaid or not payed at all LMAO
Thank you! This is so genuine. Too much video on this subject are like "prove to the woman you are superior than her". And I do not agree she should need to feel less. I prefer your way of explaining it: "Be confident and not boring." I'm happy that you have a genuine way to explain it
Best advice I have seen in KZhead
I think the main problem in general is people who can't be honest, you can't expect confidence when you're hitting on a girl unless you have the experience, but exp is secondary, the main thing is learning the social cues, understanding timing, the subtle things, so I suggest that If you want to be able to talk to girls, instead of focusing on being flirty try to be openly honest, don't force your words, try to go with whatever is happening and just don't try to "get" her, that will come after you understand how to approach people.
you helping me stepping out of my comfort zone thanks for it
Thank you so much hamza this video has helped me so much in keeping a conversation going I used to do interviews with girls but this video has changed my life
Bro I needed this, I got a date in an hour and this came in the perfect timing
update the homies
Bro I'm about to ask this one girl at work for a date. We're both 18. I've never done this before. Good luck on yours mate! Update us on the good and bad so that we can learn from each other.
@@jamesmccloud7535 good luck to you as well bro. Romances in work can be sticky tho
@@jarosawpurchawka5236 Yeh that's what I'm thinking as well. I work as a host and sometimes busser in the restaurant while I go to college. While she works as a cook at the kitchen so we don't really cross paths that often. But we do have good conversations whenever we see each other. I feel like it will be a bit awkward if she rejects me or if I find out that she already has a boyfriend cause I'll still be seeing her from time to time. But I've already grown out of the obsessing I always do when I have a crush back then, I'm not 100% sure of her since we don't know each other that well yet, but I do think she's cute and want to ask her out to see how it goes. Plus I've never asked a girl her number before ever in my life so this will be either the first date I have or first rejection.
@@jamesmccloud7535 Well, it's worth to give it a try. I keep my fingers crossed and look forward for updates.
I get rejected left and right but instead of letting it put me down it brings my confidence up knowing that I at least have the courage to talk to a girl while everyone else just stands there watching them pass by
Hey the teasing a girl stuff is litterally what I needed to hear. Back in middle school I would see a classmate have this sort of teasing relationship with a gal friend n their conversation was somehow interesting cause he’s teasing her making her react. N I’m like what sort of power is this? I later fell for her but was never ever was quite able to form any sort of relationship with her :(
How do they tease in some conversations?
@@ANKIT-kc3sg honestly I don’t remember I’m also a poor listener
Wow dude! This is for sure the best advice about girls I've got in my life. Thank you
Your videos and videos of other people about love, confidence and how to approach people have got me 2 things when putting everything to practice on a night club, dancing with the girl I liked and etc. various friends and a girlfriend Remember people, you can learn anything nowadays with videos from multiple creators.
1 Million subscribers are right around the corner. You got this hamza!!!
hamza i am so grateful for your content, it has helped me a lot these last months
It's soooo right, I always tease and joke around with the girls I like because it always gets them hooked. It's the easiest way to pull trust
hamza it's truly crazy how many lives ur changing
I was in elementary and I liked a girl and I wasn't worried about rejection I was worried about being made fun of or being called disgusting. I wanted to confess on the last day of school when she's alone but she disappeared before I could. I still regret it, as there was nothing to lose.