Dining Etiquette: how to master the basic table manners
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Hi,
I am Jamila Musayeva, an international social etiquette consultant and the author of two books "Etiquette: the least you need to know" and "Afternoon Tea Etiquette." My books are available in English language in print only. If you wish to order, please email info@jamilamusayeva.com or my website: jamilamusayeva.com/order-books
In this video, I share with you the most essential table manners rules when it comes to formal dinning. This is your go-to video to watch in preparation for a formal dinner.
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This is really beautiful. I'm gonna practice this at McDonald's
This cracked me up😂😂
Hahaha... try eating your burger with a fork and knife next time 😂😂
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Screaming 😭😂😂😂😂
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she's different level of living. Can you do a video on Arguing etiquette, it'd be so aggressively polite.
Wait what, I know there's a 99% chance that you're joking but I would actually love to see that. The things I would do to argue like Elizabeth Bennett and Mr Darcy in that rain scene
@@NothingToSeeHere836 on the contrary Mimi, I wasn’t joking!
@@LowkeyBone8 Good to know. If you ever happen to find a tutorial on Arguing Etiquette, please do let me know!
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My mother was the queen on etiquette. It resonates with me as of today. Manners are very important. How one dresses tell a lot about that person. There's a time and a place for jeans. It should not be worn in an opera concert as I saw it in Florida (Bocelli's concert) Thanks. It was refreshing. I wish people would adhere to good manners or improve their manners.
Completely agree with you, dressing well and appropriate is a must (teachings of my mother also) I get so repelled when I go to a fine dining restaurant and see people looking like they're going to the park! Also was at the theater for a ballet performance and most ppl without any proper etiquette, behaving inappropriately and dressed like they were going to Walmart!
At times like this, I am thankful for my father for being a little more strict about our Dining Etiquette. Thank you for this helpful video.
You are welcome
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Finally ready to accept the queen's invitation.
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Tomorrow is my exam but here I'm learning etiquettes of dining. Guys it's been an year since I commented this and today was also my exams but here I'm replying you guys.
holy shit same
this is me
OMG same here😂😂😂
Me too 😂😂 wtf are we people!
@@cs7364 We are Pro level careless people. 😂😂✌
I have worked in fine dining for many years and have served very important people. All the things you teach are the same thing I taught other servers for years. You are doing an excellent job.
I'm part of the younger generation, and I appreciate these videos so much! I've always been fascinated by etiquette that schools don't teach so being able to learn them is an absolute miracle to me
Great if you meet the upper crust. Never know.
@@phylis3917 so true
This is everything my grandparents wanted me to be 😂
😂 😂 😂 I can imagine the pressure
😂😂😂😂 i was raised with normal table manners like "Close your mouth while chewing, and don't talk while chewing" When i moved out and started living with friends, i realised how POSH i was, we werent even remotely rich or close to being rich! my friends don't have any manners at all
It’s funny how that works. My mom comes from an upper middle class - almost aristocratic - background, and I remember the table manners and general etiquette she constantly instilled in me. To this day, I hate eating anywhere but the table. But, its allowed me to be somewhat comfortable in fine dining situations, and in business lunches.
Yoo🥴🥴
A bag holder/chair.
watching this while laying down on my bed and eating a bag of chips
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We are all human. I do that too 😊
I'm laying down too :( now I want chips hahaha
I've got cookie dough hahaha
Hhhh
The hardest part about this is expecting the establishment to be able to keep up with your manners, but realistically this will only be applicable in certain circles that already know quite well about all the etiquette and are expected to act accordingly.
Thank you Jamila for making our lives beautiful by sharing these helpful etiquette lessons with us.
You are so welcome
I'm going to practice with my dog. She is my guest of honor.
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Lol
Sad dog
She deserve it 😂😂♥
Imagine the pressure on her boyfriend on their date.
I cant even imagine 😂
*sweats profoundly *
She would probably date someone who was raised with this type of etiquette.
She is already married and have babies 😍
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I’m so delighted that I learned these by taking an etiquette class in high school. It has served me so well in my profession. But I didn’t know about the thank you note to the host the next day. I quite like that idea. It’s very courteous and respectful. I’m going to try it. 🤗
I am happy to hear that!
Manners and etiquette are very important. As she says good etiquette makes you and everyone around you more comfortable
Note to self: Don't go eating fine dining when hungry.
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😆😆 Haha! Agreed🤣
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If you do, expect to stop at McDonald's or Burger King before going home. Fine dining is created with women in their mind. It's a perfect dinner for women where they dressed up and expected to eat expensive meal served on tiny portion.
Agreed 🥲 the bill 👀
This comment section is the funniest section in for a while , you gotta love humans 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I totally agree. lmao
true
All the aliens are here
same XD it makes my day
@@mk-ki4ls Not aliens omg lmfao
My parents never taught me this. I finally know the proper dinning etiquette
Well done. 90% of this I already knew. Grateful to my parents who taught me all of these from my childhood ❤
The napkin thing explains why people throw their napkin onto the table at the end of arguments in shows
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that’s what i was thinking about😂😂😂
Yea it's like a mic drop
Hi
Exactly what I was thinking about 😂
At this point, i don't even know if i'm breathing PROPERLY !!
most likely you’re not
@@exoscalmfan191 🤣🤣🤣
I know I’m not, I have some bellyaches because of that when I run
You are not. Now stand outside in the snow and think about what you've done, peasant.
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I am so glad I found this channel. I never learned any of this when young and have suffered from a slight coordination disability, so as I re-learn coordination of activities I'm going to learn the proper etiquette way. It's never too late to learn!
Oh my goodness what a glorious find you are! I cannot wait to watch all of your work! It's dawned on me recently that I feel uncomfortable at restaurants and I don't know how to sit and relax, how to eat without making a fool of myself. Thank you for such a beautiful channel.
Welcome aboard! 😉
I’m going to watch this everyday for it to get stuck in my head.
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Me too haha 😂
I do it every month
@@JamilaMusayeva I have a question, when you started to be a lady? I am Aria and now I have 15 years old and my mother learn me how to be a lady, she herself is very elegant and stylish and she wants me to be like her and I want to be like her because I would like to be a lady. When I had 14 years old, she learned me how to eat in elegant way and how to behave. Now I have 15 years old and today she painted my nails. My nails are pink now and they are so beautiful. I love them. Tomorrow she will learn me how to walk in high heels and play piano and I can't wait. I would love to walk in high heels. Anyway thank you for your tips. Aria is my real name if you would like to know, my mother gave me name Aria because in her opinion Aria is wonderful and elegance name, I agree with her. Aria sounds beautiful and when you started to learn how to be a lady?
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Me: eating like a pig. YT: Here, learn peasant.
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You got me dude 😂
Thanks for this! My mother taught me most of this when I was a kid, but a recent fine dining experience reminded me that it's always good to brush up on what's considered good table etiquette =)
Many thanks for the eloquence and direction in this video. Very informative and quite enjoyable as well.
Perfect timing, I didn’t know what to do during lockdown 2. Now I know how to eat properly at my table alone in my room
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She is so sweet. She doesn't even understand that people are roasting her.xD
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Watching this because one day i believe i will be invited to a dinner in A BIIIGGGG CAASSSTLEEE . 😆😆
Best comment lol
It's not like I want to be princess or something
JUST IN CASE YOU KNOW
That's faith baby,I also watch and learn for future reference because I don't wana embarrass myself
@@anonaka131 totally 🙄
The way we eat differs greatly because we are Indian. Most of the time, we eat with our hands or a spoon. The video has really given me a profound understanding of fundamental table manners. Thankyou for making this video
Same with us Nepalis. I saw a British girl eating bhaat (rice) with a fork and almost had a stoke lol Things you eat with hands, you can't with cutlery. It just doesn't feel right. And since it is our culture, it won't be considered lack of manners either. But slurping loudly, chewing with an open mouth and dirtying your entire hand is very gross.
These aren’t “fundamental table manners” these are “advanced table manners for posh snobs”. As long as you’re using knife and fork, not making a mess, not chewing with an open mouth etc. you’ll be fine 95% of the time.
You know there are etiquettes for eating with hand as well. How only tips of fingers should touch the food and not the entire finger, not to let the food touch the palms in most cases.
Eating with ones hands or rather fingers can be an uplifting experience when done properly which, incidentally in a world of fast foods, applies to almost everyone.
my prom is tommorow and they said dining etiquette will be strictly observed thank you so much
Step 1: get invited to a posh restaurant.
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Why not practice good etiquette at mcDo's?
That portion of food. I'll need 8 portions to fill my tummy
I was just about to say that:v
She’s the definition of classy elegant woman and love her voice so much omg
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@@JamilaMusayeva yes,ur voice is soo,sweet & elegant,it soothe my mind and soul too😊
Thank you @@JamilaMusayeva for educating people on proper manners. Also, you could have pointed out that in many places to signal the waiting staff with anything else than a look or nod is considered rude (you managed to make raising your finger look quite classy, tho).
@@JamilaMusayeva Hi, aren't you Uzbek ?!
@@shoyusufsiddiqov3329 she's azerbaijani
I’m so glad I came here. You are really pleasant and come across as respectful and proper. Excellent video!
I followed this on my dinning table with my parents. With one slap I was back to normal.
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That cracked me up so bad
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Your voice sounds really elegant
Uyên Dương thank you 🙏🏻
@Bilal Al Rashid no, I am from Azerbaijan 🇦🇿
So relaxing! im about to watch her "Tea Etiquette" now.. just incase i've been drinking tea the wrong way all my life 😋
@@TsarOfRuss 🤣🤣
Beautiful woman with nice voice,elegant 100%
It was an excellent, detail explanation for that level of dinner. Thanks and congratulations!
I'm obsessed... I mean, I don't do anything she's teaching but it's so interesting that people like this exist in the world.
Thank you!
@jamila i don't think he is complementing you.
@@kumaryogesh5829 🤣🤣
I am sure that she is ... well, just a regular person, actually, who has knowledge of very niche type of information/skills. And those who are interested, will find her and learn what they need to, OR just be entertained by the content. 😊
This made me feel like i never wanna go out and eat food in public . Glade were in lockdown 😂😂
Rules: 1. Don't slouch 2. Don't press your back to the chair 3. Don't place your elbows on the table when eating 4. Hold your hands on your laps 5. Don't place your bag on the floor Dining table: 1. Napkin on your lap, dap your lips. Place your napkin on the chair when you go to toilet/on the table when you leave the restaurant 2. Right- glass, left-butter knife 3. Champagne glass: hold the stamp, not touching the bottom 4. Wetwide glass: hold the stamp 5. Send a thank you messages/flowers
Bless
💐thank you
2 depends on fallowing french or american french is wrists on table American in lap. English is also wrists
GOOD
That’s Red wine & White Wine glass.
This is really helpful. I have always wondered what etiquettes and manners to follow in a restaurant since I was a child. Now I know them.I will definitely follow your advices the next time I'm on a restaurant. Thank you Jamila
Thank you for making this educational video, I have a lunch interview in a fancy restaurant in a few days and this makes me feel more confident about my dining manners!
Good luck with the new job!!
@@MARIADaSilva-dw9csI’m just now seeing your comment, thank you so much! It went really well and I am currently waiting on them to send me the official job offer 😁
I take it that licking the plate when you’ve finished is out of the question?
There was a joke about some countess, which, to offend the guests, gave her plate to the dog for licking after the dinner, saying "this way, we save on washing up dishes before next meal".
Or licking ur fingers to appreciate the aftertaste
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Burping too?
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Me, an Indian, who eat with their hands and lick their fingers after finishing, watching this 🙂
As an Indian, our food is finger licking good so I don't care I'll wipe out the entire plate😂
beautiful name u have ❤️
@@shrutisinha1384 lol thats literally same as your name tho😂😂
Shru Ti. I relate as an indian🤣🤣
True. LOL, She said good etiquettes will make others feel at ease. I would be stressed rather than at ease
I really wanted to watch a video about etiquettes. I learned etiquettes in school like century ago but I forget everything because we barely use good table manners at home. I LOVOOOOOOOVE THIS VIDEO. THANK YOU SO MUCH
It's my first time watching her video and u know what am already in love with her
My first grade teacher taught us good table manners. We had to wait for everyone to be served before eating during class parties. We were in an under resourced school but everyone from her class learned good table manners and how to read proficiently. When I transferred schools the following year, my new teacher thought I came from a private school (her students were still sounding out words). Thank you Mrs. Castillo.
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Love it😊❤
I can just imagine how pleased Mrs. Castillo would be to read this. I pray she gets to see this, because it will make her heart sing. I remember doing what your Mrs. Castillo did many years ago with some of my kids at lunchtime. We often ate in class as a special treat when they got all their work done, & I would teach & check their table manners then. It's wonderful that you remembered - God Bless You, Marisol - ✌!!
I really love the idea of children learning manners in school ❤
That's interesting! I wish we'd have that kind of a teacher 😢
Can somebody tell me why this is being recommended, I haven't been to a restaurant in 10 months. And besides the only table manner I have right now is to not spill food on my bed while eating Edit: I was going to say thank you for all these likes, but I realized I made a funny statement, I deserve those likes, let me enjoy my self I've had a bad day today
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Probably that comes under bed manners😂
Relatable😂
@@ananthim7358 lol :)
specifically "Ramen"
I always make sure I lick the plate clean after eating pasta so that the plate is easier to wash after.
Coming from an italian family with academics and sportsmen followed by antique dealers, I was raised with all sorts of etiquette. This brings me so much childhood nostalgia watching this video.
World's ending and KZhead be like.. "Relax, watch some table etiquette" 😂
Right? Lol
It is?
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"The varus" is really useful for programmers.
This funny though🤣I laughed like....wait😄
oh my god when i see this , i realise that i 'm a monster when i start eating lol
No, I am sure you are not. But there is always a path for improvement 😊
@@JamilaMusayeva to i
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Thankyou so Much Ms. Jamila. Being from India. Great experience to learn such etiquettes from you. And want to say your class and energy is really different. Wish you enlighten others through your channel. 😄😄
Thank you so much for this beautiful video on dining etiquette. Before now, I've always felt timid about being invited to parties or fine dining. After watching your video, I feel confident and enthusiastic. Thank you!
You are so welcome!
WHY AM I WATCHING THIS?
Same reason as me. For the hot girl.
Because... Attractive
U and me both
Haha
good manners!!
here I am eating 10 french fries at a time.
Same
Im eating nuggets
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I could relate to this on another level of relating👁👄👁
That's good.
I was in a boarding school and there we were taught dining etiquettes, your video refreshed my memories
This is how I was raised. It was nice to see it summarized and explained like this. Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
She : using 10 items to eat 1 meal Me: uses 1 plate to put my cake, chips, dinosaurs and my whole life 😂😂😂
lol.. i was think the same
Huh hah!! Me too
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Me using the same plate for breakfast, lunch, dinner for 3 days without washing
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i really love the outfit but the way she carry herself makes it so much more beautiful
Thank you!
The fact that this video taught me more than any class I had in school day is amazing.
Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge about this. I've learned so much from you today. more power.
Honestly....I got tempted to read comments in the first few minutes and I couldn't stop🤣🤣🤣🤣... my stomach was almost aching!
I feel like I have been eating like a cave man after watching this.
Same hahaha
Omg 😁😄
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same hahahaha
Thats ASMR level of teaching, don't really need to know all that but it's a treat to listen to and relax
Thank you Jamila. I have learnt ALOT today ❤
This is THE MOST USEFUL etiquette video I’ve been across! Thank you!
Fahima Haque thank you Fahima ☺️
for real @fahima this is so useful
Absolutely, all class and no pretentiousness 👏👏👌
@@gemspiritmessages2754 thank you!
@@JamilaMusayeva Can i ask if you're a libra? You're so perfect omg 😍
So basically do everything that makes you uncomfortable
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Pretty much 😂😂😂. It made me appreciate my simple life lol
So true😂
It doesn't seem that difficult once you get into a habit
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I love this,besides wanting to impress in the first place,i feel more relaxation after watching this and more comfort with myself rather than for others🧡☕️
Thank you 🙏🏻
This is beautiful ways to learn/I watch lots of etiquette manner on table thisone i learn more..thank you so much, because you do it good.
OK but your voice is so calming ❤️
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@@JamilaMusayeva Oʻzbekmisiz? Are u Uzbek?
@@uzbekistanuzbekistan5918 no azerbaijani
"oKaY bUt"
"To show your partner that you're not holding any weapon under the table" Hahaha! I'm out.
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You never know when your guest of honour turns into a murderer 😔😂
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In Arizona it still make sense, apparently 🤣
I think in some parts of the world that should still be required etiquette.
Exactly what I was looking for to brush up! Thank you
Generally i don't write on any video but i actually find this type of channel which is learn the basic manner which are people not much talk about it.
The way you talk and everything is just perfect
Thanks a lot! 🙏🏻
@@JamilaMusayeva hope you are doing well ..are you in azerbaijan ?
I’ve been living like a beast
🤣girl of my dreams
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Все очень доступно и понятно, красивая подача, приятно смотреть и слушать Вас. Благодарю 🙏🏻
Спасибо большое 🙏🏻
her ex realising “oh thats where I went wrong”
Hahahaha I laughed so hard
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Underrated comment 😁
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watching just in case i am asked to become a princess who knows omg thank u for the likes
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😄😄😄😄 this remind me of transmigration in Korean manhwas
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@@arni81 OMG YES HAHA
Thank god finally I found this.. thank you Jamila for this wonderful video. I'm so lucky to find your channel! ❤️ Love from Sri Lanka
You're so welcome!
To indicate that you're not finished your meal but want to take a pause from eating, put your knife and fork at the 12-6 angle then move the fork to a 12-7 angle and the knife to a 12-5 angle (like a triangle on the plate). This let's the waiter know not to remove your plate.
I love learning proper social skills through videos like the one you have here. I will definitely apply these skills for dates, dinner parties that come alongside professional business meetings, and other events. I really want to make a good impression on others and succeed in life! Thank you so much for making this video!
You are welcome
@@messyhessy6318 bullshit
@@JamilaMusayeva I met my gf at a beautiful bistro. At the end when we asked for the bill, the owner came over and said: this is my pleasure. You reminded me for much of my mother. Your table manners are impeccable. She's in Russia and I miss her so much. This was the nicest thing anyone has ever done. We left a 40% tip to our waitress. She was fenomenal.
and every country is different go to asia and it is very different than the EU
These are not social skills, most of people don't know or use this stuff. This is mostly for rich people who are dinning at some high-end restaurants. I'm sad you feel like you need to do this in order to impress people. Good social skills would be helping an old lady in the elevator, holding a door for someone, feeding a stray cat in front of your building... Acts of kindness come in all shapes and sizes. Do that and god will love you much more than for simply holding a fork in the "right" way.
I love this. Could you please do a series on how to host a breakfast, brunch, lunch, tea, dinner. The correct etiquette. The way the table should be set. How to Ask guests about allergies and preferences. How to be a good hostess
Yesss
Yeeeeeeeeeeesss a million times!
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how about you use your own brain and just think of how you would like to be hosted and then do it that way? why let someone else tell you what is "right" or "wrong"?
@@anja-beveneberle3472 It's not even about what's "right or wrong", it's just seeking advice from someone with more experience. What's wrong with that? What's wrong with asking questions and learning?
You did an amazing job explaining etiquette! Great video!
Thanks so much!
Very useful. Thank you for sharing. I'm glad KZhead recommended me a video with an elegant lady who presents in a very understandable way a video, neither too long nor too short, on how to be comfortable at a dining table. I'm not sure in other countries, but a basic restaurant in France, even though it might not have all the cutlery, most of what you teach here is actually usefull and can be put in practice.
Appreciate her voice... sooo calm n sweet!
Thank you!
Me at MacDonald's: "do you have a bag holder?"
@@realizedreams6183 me: sure go ahead call them. and turns out its my uncle LOL
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Waw🧡I love this etiquette alot💗 this make person&speacially women appear more confidente
Bring back home economics class. We cooked and practiced dining etiquette in class while we ate. I still use it today.
I am really thankful to my dad for teaching me all this when I was little. Now, thanks to that and years of experience, I don't need to think much about it as it has become my second nature.
Same It's nice watching videos like this though to refresh my memory since I don't dine out or with many people often
Im so thankful for my friends' grandmother who at age 9 taught us dinning etiquette & Tea party etiquette. This knowledge helps a lot when you want to make a nice impression.
Absolutely 😉
So glad I went to these kind of video. I still feel uncomfortable eating to a fine dining restaurant sometimes when im alone, feeling like someone will judge me the way I eat. 😅 though sometimes not when I’m with my family.. anyway learning is for everyone. Still need to learn more. Thank you 🙏
This is amazing. I love the elegance everything. So so amazing. A lot was learned thank you 😊
Happy to hear!
as a kid, this is everything i thought the grownup world would be like....
Same
dude same
But now its only you commenting in videos 😂
Yeah... so disappointed
it is typically used by the upper class at formal dinner gatherings as these forms of eating etiquettes show you have class and have manners. i had to attend one of these "formal" like events for a huge family gathering in the past. half of the people there were wealthy, while the other half (myself included) were in the middle to middle upper class level. needless to say, it was quite intriguing to watch 3 different class structures. one being wealthy and having these subtle etiquettes that give a person "class" as well as their oozing aura of presence that is almost palpable. second being wealthy but lacking in these forms of etiquettes. basically having money but lacking in class. they dont have that much of a presence as the ones who carry themselves with that aura of godlike and class. you can probably mistake them for just being upper middle class. and finally, the common folks who lack in both money and knowledge of these social rules and manners but try their best to adapt and fit in to their surroundings so that they dont stand out in a negative way.
I grew up learning this from my grandmother, it's a nice refresher, also great to inform me about the glasses...since my family never consumed wine or Champaign, that was always left out of my grandmother's etiquette lessons.
Thanks Grandma for teaching from early on ☺️
You are super talented unique personality in demand. Keep up the good work.
Thank you . I agree with your recommendations and interpretations .
I really enjoyed this video, thank you. People may not realize how much of an impression proper etiquette can make at a formal work diner or charity event. It shows a level of refinement most people do not have.
Thank you!
If that's the case, then who are you showing it to?
@Isabel reed but according to Jonesie these people do not have the necessary level of refinement so they wouldnt recognize it ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@Isabel reed just being present in a situation doesn't mean you learn from it. You need to be conscious of what is happening in the first place. You are the perfect example. You have witnessed my sarcastic comment about the idiocy of the original comment, yet you still don't understand the essence of the humor.
@Isabel reed Sure. I did like the video. I was just light-heartedly mocking the original comment of this thread
asks for bag holder at McDonalds*
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lmaoo XD
Or don’t go to McDonald’s lol 😂
@@ajohonly3721 or don't reply to comments lol
@@ragh9014 😂😂😂😂😂
Thank you ! Lovely way to explain elegance !