"Am I a real trans person?" is a question that goes through most of our minds at some point in or before transition - even after! Suffering from 'imposter syndrome' yourself atm? Then sit down and let Big Sis tell you a story, and hopefully put your mind at ease.
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do you suffer imposter syndrome? or did you used to and got over it yourself? let us know how below, help your fellow babytrans.
*imposter* syndrome????? sus?? 😳
@@an0bserver2000 sussy af
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Oh definitely, I experience imposter syndrome not only about being queer but I even doubt myself being autistic and disabled. As in "Am I disabled enough to deserve help or accommodations. " 😔
[watches video to end] ...wait, am I cis enough?
found the egg
@@thescoutpanda Whaaaaat? No! Easter was 4 days ago! It is impossible.
@@franknblunt "Fall for?" I'm not a comic book villain. Do you think I would explain my masterstroke to you if there were even the slightest possibility you could affect the outcome? I cracked my egg 6 months ago.
As a much older (49) and yet much younger (11 mo. on HRT) trans woman who also enjoys DRG to insane levels, I am glad to have come across your channel. Don't ever stop, you are amazing! Oh, and as for the Imposter Syndrome thing, it is most definitely something I've gone through and agonized over (still occasionally do), even though starting my transition was the best decision I ever made. Much love, and keep up the good work!🏳⚧💜
100%! I recently gave up boymode and the weight that was lifted was indescribable. I wish I could get my voice as far as long as yours though
yeahh i shall never go back to boymode ever :D and oh i cheat, i use an artificial intelligence app to alter my resonance in editing cant afford voice training yet and i suck at learning it myself without a coach >.
Totally feel you on that! There is only so much I can seem to learn from the countless videos no matter how much I practice. @@thescoutpanda
Very calm vibes. It was great to hear such a unique perspective
awww ty sweetie ^.^ glad you enjoyed
Thanks so much for this, I’ve felt this way too and “are you cis enough to be cis” helped me see the imposter syndrome for what it is.
awwww no, ty for watching!! and yes, cis people dont sit around thinking about their gender, sometimes we cant see the forest through the trees. take your time and figure yourself out i'll always be here to support my cubs too!
@@thescoutpanda Thank you ^^
@@thescoutpanda The problem is that if you talk about the symptoms of an illness, let's say cancer, then as soon as you bring it up, then you have people question and concerned whether they have it or not. The reason more people identify as trans now is because the topic is pushed more which increases doubt. The thing is that the placebo effect shows us that the mind can give real effects if you simply believe something exists and has an impact. I think gender identity is a placebo. One that impacts the mentally vulnerable particularly the neurodivergent the most.
I started questioning my gender about a month ago. Im not very secure in my identity yet but Im trying to get there. Thank you so much for your story. Ive been dealing with a lot of mental health issues my whole life, and impostor syndrome likes to use that as ammo against me. I keep thinking its not real and its just my depression/anxiety/whatever talking, but its good to remember that my confusion and frustration dont mean im wrong. They mean its a struggle, but if moving forward will help me, then theres no reason not to. Im so glad youre in a better place now. Ive never been able to imagine myself happy as a woman, but as a man? It finally seems possible. Thank you.
you deserve happiness
While I identify as a femboy because of my age and what I look like I feel like I'm not good enough to be one. I mostly feel that way from ageists shaming me for my age even though I'm only 31.
you can be whatever you damn please my baby, if you feel like a femboy then youre a femboy. no shame in enjoying what you have!
Your voice is so nice and calming! I love listening to it! The story you told was quite the contrast to that!
This video cracked my egg. "Am I cis enough to be cis?" This simple question flipped my entire perspective on my gender identity and made me realize I was in denial for the longest time.
my work is complete in all serious tho im happy its helped, take your time to figure it out and just think about what will make you happiest in life youve only got one of them so make the best of it
Damn, it helped me too! Holy shit! Haha! That's such a genius way of putting it
Thank you for this, your openness is so brave and reassuring. I appreciate it ❤
awwwwww, its comments like these that give me the fuel i need to keep going. ty so much
When i first relized that not every boy wishes they could be a girl my whole world view changed. Now im almost 3 month on hormones and i have no regrets although i still default to boy mode because i dont believe anyone will see me as a girl. Either way thank you so much big sis loved the video ❤!!!!
Thank you for your video. Im an alcholic, soba 12yrs now im 39 and come out as trans last yrs. I was never male inside and suppressed myself with dring and drugs. Last year i couldn't hide my feelings and wish id be honest with myself before. Ive never been able to look at myself in the mirror with cringing. Im on the waiting list for gender treatment. ❤
same, drink and drug abuse repressing only works for so long tho, and when it finally fails, you regret it because now youre transitioning later in life :( i wish i gave in sooner
@@thescoutpanda i know all my hair starting to fall out before I ever for ti grow it long, but il wear a wig if I have too
As someone who recently started down the path of self-discovery (felt my egg shatter about three weeks ago or so), I've been wrestling with that question a lot. The first week I truly started asking myself that I was a distressed wreck, but I've gotten a lot better at processing my emotions with the help of friends (some trans, some not) and a therapist. Although there's still a part of me that wished I never needed to be on this path, it's been an enlightening journey so far. I found this channel after I basically started to binge watch a bunch of trans people talk about their experiences, and it's taught me a lot and helped me stay sane while I've been losing my mind. I just want to say thank you for sharing your experiences. It's helping me to know that I'm not alone and that there's people who have already gone through this journey willing to help. Also, this might be a weird thing to say, but I started by watching some of your older videos, and hearing your voice in the new videos has been jarring in the best way possible. I don't know if you're using a voice changer or not, but I know voice dysmorphia is a huge issue in general for trans girls. If you've been training your voice to sound like that, I can tell you've put in a lot of work to make it your own. Hopefully that's something I can say. Also, I like the DRG aestetic on the channel as a fellow miner. I'd love to meet up in game for some spelunking if our paths cross on Hoxxes. Rock and stone, sister!
its a hard thing to go through alone, i was recently diagnosed with BPD that i never knew i had, so i was navigating this for a year with emotional dysregulation. its no wonder i used to regularly go schizo xD glad you've been receiving some support from a therapist and friends!! nobody deserves to go through this alone if theres anything in particular you'd like to hear me thoughts on lemme know im always happy for vid ideas ^.^ and hahaha oh, my mental health team is currently working on getting me speech therapy, rn im actually using artificial intelligence to modify my resonance, im a lil cheater 🤭 temporary fix while im assigned a speech & language therapist yeahhhh rock & stone! my steam friend code 45402281 i'll see you in the caves sometime :D
you realize "egg cracking" is a term that's used for grooming minors right
Not only are you a real trans person, you're a real girl. :) You also have a very cute voice. ^_^
oh i cheat i use AI to modify my resonance but ty ^.^
oh my gosh!! I was just recommended this video, and I've been literally today thinking about the idea of gender identity as a spectrum. Like... This might be weird to describe or read, but I have been feeling like I'm 25% transfem. Enough to notice a difference in myself, but not too much to feel like I'm wearing the wrong body entirely (i feel for the people who do. You'll get there one day!) Growing up I've always enjoyed the company of girls rather than guys, enjoyed softer activities and (mostly) always played female characters in video games. I've roleplayed female characters in DnD and MMOs before, but I was always hesitant to get more into it because I am/was a guy irl, and have been really, REALLY self concious about GuysWritingGirls trope, especially when I knew I was playing with other ladies. Like, I was afraid of acting like a woman incorrectly so much that I reserved myself to the shyest character roles and never really put myself out on the spotlight too much. This actually gives me something to talk to my friends about, but its been so long ago that idk if anyone would remember anything. Edit: That and being caught being a guy IRL cuz that was the thing of the time. everyone assumed your avatar was your IRL gender lol
"Am I cis enough to be cis?" Most of me is inclined to say yes, but that feels almost disingenuous when I think about my fascination with identities that fall under the nonbinary umbrella and the fact that I'm gonna go back to re-examining it less than ten minutes from now 🙃
This was really cool. Thank you for your help! Mwah
cutie!!! ty!!!
When in doubt, don't be trans. You can be a feminine man (like me) or a masculine woman and still be(come) comfortable in your cisness. Trans regret is a real thing.
Im not trans enough to be trans but i still decided to go on hrt because i felt bad enough about masculinizing more and more to do anything to stop that Idk what i am i dont really even care, but at least now im pretty haha
I don't typically watch vr people. But I'm happy for you. You are what you are, what you identity as and what you see in your reflection in a mirror. If being a woman makes you happy. Do it girlfriend! I'm working on my own transition. Being a woman just makes me more happy.
oh. that... put it in a different light. "cis people do not question their gender". huh.
Thank you so much for sharing your story you are awesome again thank you thank you thank you so much❤❤❤
I know for sure that I'm not a man, so I'm using non binary and don't really see a need for hormones, so not a woman, wish I could explore that a bit more but all I have is just the art i'm learning instead of being out in public, specially since i'm moving to a very conservative country. Some people don't consider NB as trans and I'm not sure if I do or not, kind of been keeping it in and ignoring that side of me since I found it a couple of years ago. Oh also, I always thought growing up that my life would be easier if I was a girl, like I would just be me but a girl and that's a whole egg moment right there.
trans umbrella is there for all of us including enbies
Don't you think this reality is so f up, we can't choose who we want to be or where and what family to be born into (im sure no one will choose bad circumstances). Just plopped here and deal with all the stress and pain that comes with life. Why can't we just be hermaphrodite or something and choose who will birth. This life is all dump anyway. Our life is about replicating dna...imperfect world, crazy existence
5:16 i used to believe this too XD
i literally grew up thinking this D:
Classic
FUCK YES. I still can't believe in it after all the research and still think those guys are just some silly liars
Yep this video helped a lot and now I know I’m a trans man 😊
How many years have you been in therapy with a professional psychologist or psychiatrist? What have they said, how they did assist you with make you reach a better understanding of your life? Or is this a path you took only by yourself?
ive been under a psychiatric team since september
@@thescoutpanda Keep going, it will take many years and a good amount of work to understand yourself. All the best and a big hug.
yeah. fuck. this might be the video to make me start hrt. Maybe asking my friends to call me a feminine name for... years, now... isn't the most cis thing to do.
i was trying to follow you on twitter, but your account seems to be suspended sadly!
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Lol yeah, spent 3 years transitioning hormonally in denial not acknowledging I'm trans at all. What pulled me out of the closet was my boobs got too big to comfortably hide with a binder and realized I would hate detransitioning.
there's no way i could've made it that long... i barely lasted a year
@@Happy-_ I think the big thing that kept me trapped was internalized transphobia and specifically like perceiving the pain from my dysphoria as justification for my internalized transphobia. I would think that I hurt because I'm addicted to this fetish not I'm hurting because I'm dysphoric. Honestly though even just a year is pretty fucking insane, I'm glad you're out of it.
I agree. You can't be cis if you question your birth gender and do stuff opposite of your birth gender.
That's not true though is it?
Lot's of "cis" people have questioned their gender and sexuality. That simply isn't true
im just not gonna say anything
I am trans enougj 🏳️⚧️
yes you are
Why this is in my recommendations.
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The algorithm knows you better than you do a lot of the time sooooo
You're cute ❤
try not to become a statistic before it's too late chief, never too late. unless you got one of those permanant surgeries or something then good luck living with yourself
Trans individuals are not suicidal because they're trans -- It's because of how badly others treat them. It's no different than gay people having a high suicide rate for the exact same reason. Trans suicide rate statistics also, unless otherwise mentioned, don't differentiate between people who have or haven't transitioned (as the act of transitioning isn't what makes you trans, it's simply being born with a mind that doesn't match your body -- which isn't a choice, and the mind can't be changed). If you actually care about the wellbeing of trans people, perhaps you should go read up what psychiatrists actually have to say about all of this. And make sure it's straight from the psychiatrists, and not just some social media or news site giving their opinions on what they think is happening, using charts and stuff out of context to misrepresent things (like the suicide rate).
@@nezrafallon4086hun. That isn't as true as you think. Some people are treated terribly for no reason and then think it's because they're trans. Because that's what society is telling them now. Becoming trans has become a trend, and it is becoming a bullying space. If you don't feel real dysphoria, and you make up reasons to be upset. Then you aren't trans.