Father and son talk on a tricky subject-from “Call Me By Your Name”

2020 ж. 5 Қар.
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“Call Me By Your Name” (which takes place in 1983 in northern Italy) stars Timothée Chalamet and Armie Hammer-directed by Luca Guadagnino. In this late scene, after seeing off his 24-year-old friend from America (Oliver, played by Hammer), who is in Italy on a student program, Timothée’s character, Elio (17 years old) - feeling a bit confused about his profound connection with Oliver - talks with his father (Michael Stuhlbarg).
Yes, it was a different time: there wasn't an all-consuming and empty commercial "culture" (and "social" media) wasn't so demanding of your attention. No cell phones, no complicated software, just very primitive computers that actually served your needs without advertising to you via a bizarre and (in the ’80s) incomprehensible medium called The Internet. Some things took longer, but you had fewer daily hassles in the way, and life could be a bit more organic and satisfying. Now our societies have become abstracted from reality, from Nature, and are paying for it.
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  • The father opened his heart and talked to his son in a gentle and respectful. Not condescending, non-critical kind of way. In a million years, I would never see my father doing the same to me.

    @remsan03@remsan032 жыл бұрын
    • I don’t know. I thought the same about my parents. My dad changed a bit when he was at the end of life and wanted to meet my partner. Several years later my mom is the same, alive with Alzheimer’s but she always asks about my partner. Give your father a chance.

      @ascotberks2018@ascotberks20182 жыл бұрын
    • Move the ball to your father's court. Reach out to him. Maybe he will listen. Maybe he won't. But if not, that's on him, not you.

      @cfinley81@cfinley812 жыл бұрын
    • When I was in a relationship with a woman earlier in my life, my mother was not happy about it. And I wasn't willing to hear her side. It tore us apart for a couple of years until one Thanksgiving, my mother reached out and invited the both of us over. She finally accepted my partner and we have been best friends ever since. It takes time.

      @cfinley81@cfinley812 жыл бұрын
    • sad truth

      @vuiteau@vuiteau2 жыл бұрын
    • remsan03, This is fiction, beautiful but fiction

      @bcnmanhattan5022@bcnmanhattan50222 жыл бұрын
  • Ohh this whole movie, but especially this scene, touched my heart. Made me cry and left me thinking: I want to be thát kind of parent. Thanks for sharing.

    @LiekeThijssen@LiekeThijssen3 жыл бұрын
    • @@cavezero4896also very touching, hahaha!

      @LiekeThijssen@LiekeThijssen2 жыл бұрын
    • It made me think i want that kinda love!! And it also made me wonder if i am burnt out

      @adorablegirl1559@adorablegirl15592 жыл бұрын
    • @@cavezero4896 sim traduz para português

      @isaltinobatista@isaltinobatista2 жыл бұрын
    • Every parent needs to be that kind of parent. You can give your child so much love when you can just sit a talk with them about what is happening with their emotions. You just have to let them be who they are and not will your fears on them. This and there is a scene in the movie with Tom Hanks The Road To Perdition. These two movies are the only time where I have seen a father actually be a father. Oh! There is another. Doing Time on Maple Drive.

      @raj2tennis@raj2tennis2 жыл бұрын
    • Hi Lieke...I was watching this clip and I thought "I want to be that kind of parent"...then I read your comment saying the exact same thing. May we build a world that is full of the kind of parent that accepts the person there child was built to be.

      @ppj1115@ppj11152 жыл бұрын
  • This is my comfort watch when I am sad because it's all things I wish my father could say to me

    @sofiaromeroyanes6931@sofiaromeroyanes69313 жыл бұрын
    • Same for me with my mother.

      @jamiemartinez362@jamiemartinez3623 жыл бұрын
    • me too!!

      @ninochandra8490@ninochandra84903 жыл бұрын
    • Unfortunately, not all families or parents can understand. But it’s up to us to become the exception with our families if we ever have them. Break the cycle, and spread love.

      @martinolivares1567@martinolivares15673 жыл бұрын
    • Thats so true!❤ I think thats y we love movies and tv shows! Because our parents failed us time and time again! Its our comfort zone! We feel safe in those words

      @07humayra@07humayra2 жыл бұрын
    • yeah, such openmindedness and understanding

      @antinomyant88@antinomyant882 жыл бұрын
  • Michael Stuhlbarg should have been Oscar nominated for Best Supporting Actor and won for this scene alone.

    @pablofrank2466@pablofrank24662 жыл бұрын
    • Agreed

      @all-gone@all-gone2 жыл бұрын
    • Nominated, maybe. But unfortunately this came out the same year as Three Billboards Outside Ebbing, MI. It was Sam Rockwell's year, hands-down.

      @romilrh@romilrh Жыл бұрын
    • Yes, this was amazing acting. So good.

      @wordswordswords8203@wordswordswords82034 ай бұрын
    • AGREE

      @cherrytsang6855@cherrytsang6855Ай бұрын
  • He reminds me so much of Robin Williams in good will hunting in this sence.

    @Shelby_antaya@Shelby_antaya2 жыл бұрын
    • True

      @antinomyant88@antinomyant882 жыл бұрын
    • My thoughts exactly.

      @juliocrugerio5171@juliocrugerio51712 жыл бұрын
    • Yess!!

      @kellykinchin7912@kellykinchin79122 жыл бұрын
    • I thought it was Robin Williams ghost at first I'm thinking what the f***? I think Robin was channeling through him he totally had his Vibe and even his luck God bless Robin Williams. Just a little aside, Robin Williams didn't kill himself he did not commit suicide he was suicided. He was given an antipsychotic drug known to induce suicide in the especially intelligent. You'd only been on it for 11 days and he suddenly went off it and did himself in. This is a quantum function. There is no reason or logic behind it. These drugs resonate the mind outside the realm of evolution and induce sudden spontaneous suicides. Same thing happened with Anthony Bourdain and the lady that designed purses I forget her name both in the same week couple years ago

      @greg1mcintosh844@greg1mcintosh8442 жыл бұрын
    • Exactly!!!!

      @MRT408@MRT4082 жыл бұрын
  • Right now you may not want to feel anything. Maybe you never wanted to feel anything. And maybe it's not to me that you want to speak about these things . But feel something you obviously did. Look you had a beautiful friendship . Maybe more than a friendship. And I envy you. In my place, most parents would hope the whole thing goes away, pray their sons land on their feet. But I am not such a parent. We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster, that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty and have less to offer each time we start with someone new. But to make yourself feel nothing so as not to feel anything- what a waste! Have I spoken out of turn? And I'll say one more thing. It'll clear the air. I may have come close, but I never had what you two have. Something always held me back or stood in the way. How you live your life is your business. Just remember: Our hearts and our bodies are given to us only once. And before you know it, your heart is worn out , and, as for your body , there comes a point when no one looks at it , much less wants to come near it. Right now, there's sorrow, pain. Don't kill it, and with it the joy you've felt. Such a emotional scene ever ever ever!

    @englishinmyeyes9115@englishinmyeyes91152 жыл бұрын
    • What an amazing job Stuhlbarg does in this speech. How did he keep from weeping? Answer: He did weep lots of times while rehearsing and finally could put it to work for him without going over the edge. They are both such great actors.

      @timothybrittain4161@timothybrittain41612 жыл бұрын
    • Thank you. I just watched this movie for the first time and was so moved by it that I wanted to record these words in my journal. I appreciate you making them easily accessible by recording them here. 😊

      @TaterCot@TaterCot25 күн бұрын
  • this speech tore me apart. The entire movie made me feel empty for months after watching it.

    @stresseddepressed3404@stresseddepressed34042 жыл бұрын
    • Same here, this story showed me how lonely I actually am. Just finished reading the book, its all tearing me apart and the only thing im looking forward to is time that i hope will someday heal me. ♥️

      @aravit123@aravit1232 жыл бұрын
    • You're so basic.

      @erpmo3326@erpmo33262 жыл бұрын
    • @@erpmo3326 thanks hun xx

      @stresseddepressed3404@stresseddepressed34042 жыл бұрын
    • @Aravit Time will help, although it takes months..

      @gavin3598@gavin35982 жыл бұрын
    • Hope you're okay

      @jfreitas5132@jfreitas5132 Жыл бұрын
  • I remember thinking after seeing this wonderful film that this tender scene between a distraught son and an incredibly understanding father was, for me, the single most emotionally charged and heartwarming moment of the entire film. It brought me tears then and even does now. Having not seen the film since it’s release, I’m eager to see it again as soon as I can.

    @LBO3410@LBO34102 жыл бұрын
    • hope there s a 10 year anniversary special edition coming out in a few years

      @miuzefreak@miuzefreak2 жыл бұрын
  • My dad spoke to me harshly and without much compassion until I was in my 30’s and then he changed. He was so kind and compassionate as he got older. Wisdom and reflection often come late.

    @dougl945@dougl9452 жыл бұрын
  • I will be this kind of parent one day.

    @allenrolanlosaria2343@allenrolanlosaria23432 жыл бұрын
    • And I will be this kind of son..hand me a peach daddy😏🍑

      @louieporcarelli2959@louieporcarelli29592 жыл бұрын
    • @@louieporcarelli2959 LMAO

      @JazzFlop212@JazzFlop2122 жыл бұрын
    • Time will tell !

      @Theo-tc2pl@Theo-tc2pl2 жыл бұрын
    • i really hope you will. I also strive for this parenting skill:(

      @pepitoculazo665@pepitoculazo6652 жыл бұрын
  • I think this must have been a very difficult scene for the actors to get right. Too far one way and you start laughing; too far the other, and you start weeping-as they both indeed started to. A miraculously beautiful duo that moves me every time I watch it.

    @timothybrittain4161@timothybrittain41612 жыл бұрын
    • I just started reading the book and it has pretty much the same vibe as the movie but it's a lot more in depth on Elio's point of view and their relationship

      @lilacsoul4736@lilacsoul47362 жыл бұрын
    • Tbh, I was kinda bored with the movie until that scene. Transformed my opinion of the film. That kid was given a beautiful gift. Us, as well. Thanks for posting.

      @vannshuttleworth4738@vannshuttleworth47382 жыл бұрын
    • Hi, Timothy, I just watched this scene again, and it moves me too. Thank you so much, and Happy New Year! Jeff

      @williamfahey6066@williamfahey60662 жыл бұрын
    • It's been said that the essence of real acting is listening--not pretending to listen, but really listening--intently. Timothee shows us that here; and Michael is flawless. I'm glad I could live long enough that I could see such an exquisite scene put on screen--in this very rare film.

      @blanchefan@blanchefan2 жыл бұрын
    • It's sad and true your heart is broken and your body nobody looks at it much less wants to be near it destroyed me i was a drug user a heavu smoker didn't take care of my body and heart this scene hit me so hard because i never resonated more with a speech than this 1 it's painful because at 30 years old is when my hurt forever turned to 🧊 ice

      @steveadams7940@steveadams79402 жыл бұрын
  • When he asks his father "does mom know," I wonder if he is asking whether she knows about Elio and Oliver or that his father came close to having the same feelings for another man...

    @ron4501@ron45012 жыл бұрын
    • He asks about Elio n Oliver

      @rosberg1901@rosberg19012 жыл бұрын
    • I thought at first the question was about Elio and Oliver, but after rewatching this scene several times, I believe Elio’s father was saying he never told his wife about this “almost”, because it never happened, and it’s his own personal memory, which makes it seem more special to me the conversation between father and son.

      @j4r3d29@j4r3d29 Жыл бұрын
    • Thanks. I wondered about that too.

      @jlasf@jlasf Жыл бұрын
    • The father was not gay, only Oliver

      @Man.from.the.90sgeneration@Man.from.the.90sgeneration6 ай бұрын
    • Great point! I think it was related to both Elio and his Fathers situations.

      @vbplayer50@vbplayer503 ай бұрын
  • Imagine that what Oliver and Elio had was beyond what Elio's parents have when we all believe Elio's parents are the definition of love itself.

    @arianeumurerwa3350@arianeumurerwa33502 жыл бұрын
  • I’ll never forget this scene. One of three scenes that made me cry at the cinema (the other two are when Elio and Oliver farewelled at the train station without saying a word and the credits). My father would always tell me to “man up” and “only girls cry.” But, sometime in my 20s, he became kind, understanding and empathic unlike ever before. This morning I told him I’m very glad to have a father like you. He then told me that without me and my brothers, he wouldn’t be where he is now. Happy Father’s Day, everyone.

    @eggscellent1257@eggscellent1257 Жыл бұрын
    • A wonderful response to a great scene! Thanks for sharing that. Yes, people can change, and your dad is to be commended for becoming a real man-which is someone who can feel ALL his emotions, a guy who is kind, loyal, and generous while being strong when necessary and right.

      @timothybrittain4161@timothybrittain4161 Жыл бұрын
  • You can see the restlessness in his body , how he's avoiding eye contact at first represents how he's trying to ignore the hurt .

    @heyescusemee3954@heyescusemee39542 жыл бұрын
  • I wish my father had spoken to me like that when I told him I was gay and had a boyfriend. Instead, he selfishly simulated a heart attack to make me feel guilty of his fake illness while my mother cried hysterically for days, literally wailing around the house. To this day, after 8 years, we are still worlds apart although we’re now on speaking terms. We’ve adopted the “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy, which secures the background to a civil conversation but also destroys any attempt to talk about anything personal.

    @bogdancristea9270@bogdancristea92702 жыл бұрын
    • I'm really sorry you had to go through all this. The same thing is bound to happen to me. I don't have courage to talk to my parents. I don't know how to. They're going to blame everything on me. They're going to make me the villian for ruining their life. I'm scared and confused.

      @ashutosh5002@ashutosh5002 Жыл бұрын
    • @@ashutosh5002 why? Let them make you the villain. It’s not about them this time around. It’s about you. As young adults We always feel like everything revolves around our parents but only the opposite is true. Of course this way of thinking has a lot to do with your circumstances so I can’t give you more splice since I don’t know your circumstances. Hang tight. In the end, everything will be fine. It always will.

      @AA-oq7uj@AA-oq7uj Жыл бұрын
    • I’m sorry

      @mooganify@mooganify Жыл бұрын
  • I could not handle this scene. When Elio held back his tears, mine started forming.

    @BlueMarvel21@BlueMarvel212 жыл бұрын
    • That's what great art and drama are about: They can break your heart and put it back together again. But you have to go all the way with it or that magic won't happen.

      @timothybrittain4161@timothybrittain41612 жыл бұрын
    • The part when Elio sigh and control his tears and said “I think he is better than me” is very real ! Acting on point !

      @Grebanche@Grebanche2 жыл бұрын
  • Despite his heartbreak, Elio’s very lucky to have a compassionate and understanding dad.

    @prettyhollypolly7553@prettyhollypolly75532 жыл бұрын
  • Everyone should have a dad like Elio. This is the most beautiful conversation I've ever heard. The movie tugged @ my heart but this conversation brought tears like never before. I watch this scene often with my worn out heart in my mouth.

    @johncarsone1579@johncarsone15792 жыл бұрын
    • Thank you John for this beautiful comment.

      @Mario-xr3jo@Mario-xr3jo2 жыл бұрын
    • Oh yes, John. The scene is exquisite. I remember in the theatre (where I saw the film five or six times) you could hear a pin drop in the audience--except for an occasional sob. And one other scene brought that effect: the final scene where Timmy as Elio looks into the fire...and the credits start...and no one in the audience moved a muscle until he was off screen. What a film. :)

      @blanchefan@blanchefan2 жыл бұрын
  • This scene was one of my favorites. Everything the father said is so true. I'm going to be 50 this year and I'm single so everything he said really touched home.

    @hdelgado72@hdelgado722 жыл бұрын
    • Absolutely true indeed. I'll be 40 this year and single, and I can totally resonate with everything the father said. I wish I hadn't worn my heart over some things in the past and focused more on the good from those events, but life happens. I have now learned to better protect my heart and cherish those few moments of pure happiness and joy.

      @gavin3598@gavin35982 жыл бұрын
    • It’s very gentle and said with so much thoughtfulness and care behind each word. It resonates because it takes a lot more to feel than to keep your guard up. If you have felt love even just once in your life consider yourself fortunate.

      @davidnickol6527@davidnickol65272 жыл бұрын
    • Im turning 30 this year and I fear that my heart is already worn out.

      @unknownunknown5244@unknownunknown5244 Жыл бұрын
    • You’ll find it healed soon enough; it will break and burn again many times and it can grow bigger or smaller over time. You have to decide which. At nearly 69 I only found mine again after many years of quiet despair. Art, music and good film can light your path.

      @9poindexter9@9poindexter9 Жыл бұрын
    • yeah, no one wants you after about 50 if you are a woman, not so much a man. you've got another good 10 years at least. women get thrown on the slag heap like trash when they lose their youth and looks. if you are lucky enough to get married to someone who stay with you, at least you have security and maybe some sex in your life. otherwise, you on that heap. i hate life. i just hate it. i try not to hate it but i hate how shallow and cruel it is when i am deep and kind. mismatch.

      @wordswordswords8203@wordswordswords82034 ай бұрын
  • When my father almost diying by covid, i was feeling empty because if he dies he would never know about me and my sexual orientation. He made it. But a few weeks later, i told him. His reaction was horrible to me. We didnt talk for months until now, but with my family i cant never ask support about this. And watching this its like a healing thing to me and to us because im not the only one. I heard many times that gay people live their sexuality alone and that is fucking true. I really hope that your parents dont react like many parents do to us. But if they do, it takes time to heal it but just look someone who can support u like friends. We didnt choice our parents but we can choice who will be our support on this. I also want to have parents like him, but we have to do the same to ourselves even if our family dont support us.

    @Patrick-zs1si@Patrick-zs1si2 жыл бұрын
  • He is so grounded in his monologue #masterclass ❤️

    @matthewriordan4716@matthewriordan47163 жыл бұрын
  • "Our hearts and our bodies are given to us only once."

    @mentonerodominicano@mentonerodominicano2 жыл бұрын
  • Michael Stuhlbarg shouldve received a Best Supporting Oscar nomination for this brilliant scene!

    @appyguy@appyguy2 жыл бұрын
  • One of the best movies ever. Pure art from the first scene to the last.

    @paulocarv4403@paulocarv44032 жыл бұрын
    • I wonder if they'll make the second book into a film

      @skyejacques@skyejacques2 жыл бұрын
  • So beautiful, and ultimately the central theme of Andre Aciman’s book series. I just marvel at the point where Sami says “Have I spoken out of turn?” Elio communicates “no” with an almost imperceptible head shake. The more you watch it the more subtle it seems. Just masterful acting by Timothee Chalamet. You can tell he’s *really* listening to his scene partner. This movie is such a gift, for moments like this.

    @cancernavigator@cancernavigator9 ай бұрын
  • I want to be a writer, but man, I can never write a speech this good.

    @dcle944@dcle9442 жыл бұрын
  • Speaker 1 (00:22) Missed your dinner. Welcome home. Speaker 1 (00:52) Thanks. Speaker 1 (00:54) Oliver enjoyed the trip? Speaker 2 (00:56) Yeah, I think he did. Speaker 1 (01:00) You two had a nice friendship. Speaker 2 (01:04) Yeah. Speaker 1 (01:11) You're too smart not to know how rare... How special what you two had was. Speaker 2 (01:20) It Oliver was Oliver. Speaker 3 (01:27) Pasca said de Louis. Pasca said de moir. Speaker 2 (01:32) Oliver may be very intelligent, but... Speaker 1 (01:35) No, no, he was more than intelligent. What you two had, had everything and nothing to do with intelligence. He was good. You were both lucky to have found each other, because you, too, are good. Speaker 2 (02:01) I think he was better than me. Speaker 1 (02:10) I'm sure he'd say the same thing about you. Which flatters you both. And when you least expect it, nature has cunning ways of finding our weakest spot. Just remember, I'm here. Right now you may not want to feel anything. Maybe you never wanted to feel anything, and maybe it's not to me you want to speak about these things, but - feel something you obviously did. Look, you had a beautiful friendship. Maybe more than a friendship. And I envy you. My place most parents would hope the whole thing goes away, pray their sons land on their feet. But I am not such a parent. We rip out so much of ourselves to be curative things faster that we go bankrupt by the age of 30. And have less to offer each time we start with someone new. But to make yourself feel nothing so as not to feel anything - what a waste. Have I spoken out of turn? And I'll say one more thing, it'll clear the air. I may have come close, but I never had what you two have. Something always held me back. Or stood in the way. How you live your life is your business. Just remember our hearts and our bodies are given to us only once. And before you know it, your heart's worn out. And as for your body, there comes a point when no one looks at it, much less wants to come near it. Right now there's sorrow, pain. Don't kill it. And with it the joy you felt. Speaker 2 (05:26) Does mom know? Speaker 1 (05:33) I don't think she does.

    @ierooocis@ierooocis Жыл бұрын
  • Literally in floods of tears right now

    @Vonyweavey@Vonyweavey2 жыл бұрын
  • As in many scenes, there always seemed to be a raw natural power, and with the writing, it would pour out but not overwhelm you, almost like holding your breath until the end so as not to miss a single word. Simply spectacular talent and writing, given amazing direction.

    @Lylo-mj8ek@Lylo-mj8ek2 жыл бұрын
  • This scene is deeply affecting. Firstly, because of the unconditional love and support that Elio's father shows to him. But there is also the knowledge that his father's words can't shield him from the heartbreak and pain that he will eventually experience with Oliver.

    @pawdaw@pawdaw2 жыл бұрын
  • Every LGBTQIA+ person, who’s parents weren’t “OKAY with them being THEM”. These are the parents we all dreamed of having. Considerate, loving, accepting human beings that see us for WHO WE ARE… And at the end of the day, their children no matter what.

    @Thundershield23@Thundershield232 жыл бұрын
    • being LGBTQIA+ in indonesia such a worst thing you've ever thought. it's really hard for us, really hard. the best thing we can try to move from this kind of situation is going to the overseas.

      @manuelabrasta@manuelabrasta2 жыл бұрын
    • @@manuelabrasta i’m sorry to hear about your struggles. I hope you’re able to escape from that nonsense, or better your country comes to its senses and gives rights and respect to its LGBTQIA+ citizens. 💐

      @Thundershield23@Thundershield232 жыл бұрын
    • This isn't limited to LGBTQIA+ but people in generally who had parents that didnt accept their romantic partners.

      @Blaze6432@Blaze64322 жыл бұрын
    • @@Thundershield23 thanks, alex. some time i try to make a relationship with foreigner out there to improve my english, fix some issues, and make a better probability to escape. but it doesnt like piece of cake. some foreigners i've ever known just wanna have fun, having sex, none of them are really wanna make a long term relationship. how pitty we are 😪

      @manuelabrasta@manuelabrasta2 жыл бұрын
    • @@manuelabrasta i’m sorry to hear; i hope you find someone for both

      @Thundershield23@Thundershield232 жыл бұрын
  • (05:26) "Does mom know?" I never understand if he is asking if mom knows about himself or the father.

    @linnaeusshecut3959@linnaeusshecut39592 жыл бұрын
    • That’s. what Luca, the director, wants the viewers to do - think, feel, decide why actors say/do a particular act.

      @CinqueTerre558@CinqueTerre5582 ай бұрын
  • One of the most beautiful scenes ever made ! touching, respectful, full of real love.

    @carlosalbertooliveiraville5204@carlosalbertooliveiraville52042 жыл бұрын
  • @5:26 Mothers almost always know. Whether or not they choose to deny it, is an entirely different conversation. 💛

    @Jordi7174@Jordi71742 жыл бұрын
    • In the book, Dad responds with "im not sure, but if she does I know she'd agree with me"

      @RocketRoketto@RocketRoketto2 жыл бұрын
    • @@RocketRokettoThe drive home from the train station reveals the mother knows and like the father, she understands what Elio is going through at the moment.

      @CinqueTerre558@CinqueTerre5582 ай бұрын
  • the dad was so perceptive and gentle. the way he delivered this speech with so much LOVE was special and a gift to his son. the tears speak volumes. I know this is a movie but if any dad actually has this kind of heart connection with his son post it here. Being Gay or having a m2m affair is special. To be honored by men all men especially between father and son is a GIFT. I will never know such a connection and neither will my father who has the same name and had m2m connection that shame and fear dominated. I came out many years ago but, he didn't.

    @donnieraveling188@donnieraveling1882 жыл бұрын
  • Everyone should have a father such as this. A blessing indeed.

    @roberthurley6860@roberthurley68602 жыл бұрын
  • I can't help but have tears run down my cheeks when I see this clip, hear the Dad's words and watch the Son's emotions. LOVE NEVER QUITS !

    @dougkopecky1@dougkopecky110 ай бұрын
  • I love this part, it's almost like poetry about life lessons of love ❤ that many of us needs to hear!

    @cedricksamaniego9146@cedricksamaniego91462 жыл бұрын
  • beautiful words spoken by a loving father...

    @MagnoliaEmporium@MagnoliaEmporium2 жыл бұрын
  • I remember seeing this film when it came out and how much I loved it. It has been a while now so a lot of it looks fresh, which is good. This scene really touches me. I Love everything about this movie. Elio's relationship with his parents and the Beautiful location it was filmed in. The whole Movie, in my opinion, is really important. Thank you for this clip, and for bringing back the memories of this great film. I look forward to watching the whole movie again. Happy New Year, to all of you, Jeff

    @williamfahey6066@williamfahey60662 жыл бұрын
  • I still get tears in my eyes on this 🌹🌞✨

    @thetudors9875@thetudors98752 жыл бұрын
  • I wish I had a moment like that with my dad. He knew, I told him, but then we never spoke of it again. He wanted it that way. He's gone now, so there's no chance of having our moment. I'm past middle age now. Loves have come and gone, only now at my advanced age, would I REALLY appreciate a partner. The lil' joke life plays.

    @sillyrabbit734@sillyrabbit7342 жыл бұрын
  • This movie had such a raw and sensitive was of portraying love and human connection as well as teaching us to accept our emotions

    @danaedimitrakopoulos6004@danaedimitrakopoulos6004 Жыл бұрын
  • Chalamet is a really fine actor, he has great taste as a performer. The dialogue here by his father in this film for me is not based on any reality, I could never imagine a father speaking this way to his son but only in a movie like this.

    @timages@timages2 жыл бұрын
    • Well, you have to understand that this takes places in the 1980s in France. A different time and culture from the overworked, overstimulated, paranoid, puritanical values of today's USA-or even USA in the 1980s. A smarter, less uptight culture.

      @timothybrittain4161@timothybrittain41612 жыл бұрын
    • Your reality is not everyone's reality. I came out in 1976 and this is pretty much the way my father reacted.

      @dobdante@dobdante2 жыл бұрын
    • @@dobdante Would you know if this is a common reaction for fathers of teens coming out? Do you have any gay friends who've had the same experience? To be honest, almost all my gay friends had a very different reactions.

      @timages@timages2 жыл бұрын
    • @@timages I can't answer that because I only know what my experience was which is not necessarily the same as anyone else's and certainly not every ones.I can say that of my 4 closest friends at the time; all were accepted by their families. My boyfriend's family accepted me as his boyfriend. My mother gave up her bed when we visited so we could sleep together.I am sure i was very fortunate since i have read and heard horror stories about coming out. My whole point was we cannot assume everyone thinks, feels, acts, or has the same experience we do.

      @dobdante@dobdante2 жыл бұрын
    • @@dobdante I'd say unequivocally that you and your friends are very fortunate, you life reads like a movie script! I know of friends who were ostracized from their families, not allowed to speak with siblings, cut out of wills, beaten up, atrocities too numerous to mention. That's why when I saw this film I had to make a comment. ...hey I only wish I knew of my gay friends who's father spoke to them this way, peace.

      @timages@timages2 жыл бұрын
  • One of the most incredible scenes in film history. It deepens everytime I see it.

    @hopperweiter7235@hopperweiter7235 Жыл бұрын
  • I think the father just admitted he was bi. I'm pretty sure Oliver is too

    @eliscore@eliscore2 жыл бұрын
    • I believe the father came out to his son as well. When Elio says does mom no I think he means about his father. Any true mother knows if her son is gay, admit it or not.

      @rich40701@rich407012 жыл бұрын
    • the father said he felt that way once about a man but never carried it out. thats not being bi. Also during Elio's time with the older guy he also had a girl he was with. but he's young and experimenting with his passions so he doesn't know what he is yet i think the oldet student did him dirty by leaving after a few weeks( which he knew he would do) and then calling him to say he was getting married. apparently he doesn't think he's bi. i think Elio was something of a summer fling to him and then he went back to his real world. that was cruel for him to do to Elio no matter the attraction either one felt. it's the same when a man takes a girl, who is a virgin iu has sex with her and plays it off like it meant nothing. but that taking of innocence might mean much more to the person you've taken from and they will never forget it. i dont see this as a love story but a story about life.

      @elizabethstops1574@elizabethstops15742 жыл бұрын
    • @@elizabethstops1574 I think you’re right.

      @E-Nigma_@E-Nigma_ Жыл бұрын
    • @@elizabethstops1574Life itself is love.

      @CinqueTerre558@CinqueTerre5582 ай бұрын
  • One of the great scenes in one of the greatest films.

    @RICHMOND94114@RICHMOND941142 жыл бұрын
  • A masterpiece of writing and beautiful sensitive acting.Have rarely seen better

    @keithrich8373@keithrich8373 Жыл бұрын
  • The dialogue is flawless. Michael Stuhlbar deserves recognition for his eloquent and perfect delivery in every way. " We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster, that we go bankrupt by the age of 30. And have less to offer, each time we start with someone new"

    @chaberio1335@chaberio1335 Жыл бұрын
  • I can't stop crying for this scene. What a wonderful father 👍❤

    @followtheflow1083@followtheflow10832 жыл бұрын
  • Elio’s dad reminds me so much of my dad, they have the same sensitivity and deep empathetic capability. I cry every time at this scene cause I wish we lived closer to each other at this point :(

    @joeagger@joeagger Жыл бұрын
    • At least someone got it right x

      @mooganify@mooganify Жыл бұрын
  • Should have been Oscar nominated. Just for this scene 😢

    @jaxmanx@jaxmanx29 күн бұрын
  • What a lovely supportive dad.

    @manoramarr@manoramarr2 жыл бұрын
  • This movie breaks my heart everytime I watch it. But I continue to rewatch it a million times.

    @jena.alexia@jena.alexia9 ай бұрын
  • The confusion. The acceptance. The subtle subject of their conversation. All very lovely in one scene.

    @jperez9848@jperez9848 Жыл бұрын
  • Beautiful and moving scene...superbly acted..

    @miguellehman6951@miguellehman69512 жыл бұрын
  • A perfect way of teaching someone about recovering from heartbreak.

    @jessicashakespeare7469@jessicashakespeare74692 жыл бұрын
  • Beautiful scene

    @sailingsam3815@sailingsam38152 жыл бұрын
  • This scene was everything to me. I wanna hear this, feel this, express this. Wonderful movie in every way

    @calebducommun7589@calebducommun75892 жыл бұрын
  • Such a great flim. Listened to the book and the last paragraph wrecked me. Only time I can recall instantly crying. Aciman has such a gift for crafting words into beautiful poetry that dresses as prose.

    @praxton@praxton Жыл бұрын
  • Simply beautiful!

    @PeteJamaican@PeteJamaican2 жыл бұрын
  • BEAUTIFUL!

    @nearfield@nearfield2 жыл бұрын
  • Such wise ,true words.

    @Mcfreddo@Mcfreddo2 жыл бұрын
  • This scene was so fucking amazing, everything I needed in a time ❤️❤️ I'm in luv with the movie

    @ayoubzahraoui9719@ayoubzahraoui97192 жыл бұрын
  • One of the most beautiful scenes in cinema.

    @orielireland@orielireland Жыл бұрын
  • Beautiful

    @ericshackleton9454@ericshackleton94542 жыл бұрын
  • This movie is so much better, so much more relevant, and so much more serious (in a wholesome and major way) than people even realize/give it credit for. This is a subject that touches ALL of us in some way, albeit not always romantic. Yet, we look at this iteration shamefully but other levels of debauchery go uncontested. I saw this movie in theaters four times.

    @A22DNAL@A22DNAL2 жыл бұрын
  • I hope that parents around the whole world have an opportunity to see this film or this great segment of the film.

    @dijviddijvid@dijviddijvid7 ай бұрын
  • Wonderful scene. Wouldn't it be just fabulous if every parent were like this dad.

    @strafrag1@strafrag12 жыл бұрын
  • Beyond beautiful.

    @1991jdclark@1991jdclark2 жыл бұрын
  • it’s just one of the most sincere and honest scene.

    @petenorton7887@petenorton78872 жыл бұрын
  • Stunningly beautiful scene!

    @BentonHess@BentonHess5 ай бұрын
  • This is my favorite scene.

    @jimvosesbreno5627@jimvosesbreno56272 жыл бұрын
  • Great,sensitive script and brilliant acting.

    @beckynelson6786@beckynelson67862 жыл бұрын
  • Amazing speech 💫

    @karyaoktem4649@karyaoktem4649 Жыл бұрын
  • 4:20 : the music in the background was composed by Maurice Ravel (1875-1937) who became worldwide famous thanks to only one work : the "Boléro". But here, it's another work that we hear.

    @DanTony68@DanTony682 жыл бұрын
  • If only we could all have fathers like this.

    @leekautz2926@leekautz2926 Жыл бұрын
  • Best scene in film that entire year. Amazing scene!

    @paulvoorhies8821@paulvoorhies88212 жыл бұрын
  • Esta escena transformó mi vida. Se ha convertido desde entonces en un "mantra" de mi vida. Gracias.

    @AlbertoPerez-sb7qm@AlbertoPerez-sb7qm2 жыл бұрын
  • I love the background music!

    @carmelalopez7559@carmelalopez75592 жыл бұрын
  • This Father, Son talk is the most beautiful thing I've ever seen. Saw this movie twice. First timeI ever saw Timothee. Loved him ever since. I can't really say much more than others have said. I'm grateful more than I can say for this experience.😢❤❤❤❤

    @johncarsone1579@johncarsone1579Ай бұрын
    • I'm so glad it moved you, and that I was able to bring it to you. I tear up every time I watch it.

      @timothybrittain4161@timothybrittain4161Ай бұрын
  • This is the scene that made me love this movie.

    @plokiju8876@plokiju88762 жыл бұрын
  • Best scene I cry each time.

    @prnps@prnps2 жыл бұрын
  • "Son, I'm so happy about you getting groomed. You really made this old man proud."

    @HarperSanchez@HarperSanchez4 ай бұрын
    • You don’t understand

      @pxter@pxter4 ай бұрын
    • @@pxter lol

      @HarperSanchez@HarperSanchez4 ай бұрын
    • you really really missed it ! reconsider the same love story between a girl and boy. this movie was a portrait of a young boy on fire

      @andrewgreene7401@andrewgreene74013 ай бұрын
    • @@andrewgreene7401 But the parents knew the two of them were having a sexual fling and they encouraged it. Don't you think that was irresponsible?

      @HarperSanchez@HarperSanchez3 ай бұрын
    • @@HarperSanchezAge of consent in that country is 14; son is 17. Parents knew they can’t do anything except accept what their son is doing by showing their love & understanding.

      @CinqueTerre558@CinqueTerre5582 ай бұрын
  • 👨‍👦👨‍👦👨‍👦❤❤❤❤❤ Everyone wish their father was this sensitive and supportive. He was so articulate in this scene. Never mentioned the word Gay, Relationship or Love but said so much beyond that.

    @XtremeSportX247@XtremeSportX2472 жыл бұрын
  • 5:07 OMG... I needed to hear this

    @Ben-pz9mo@Ben-pz9mo2 жыл бұрын
  • Beautiful scene.

    @AdrianMendoza23@AdrianMendoza232 жыл бұрын
  • James Ivory deserved his Oscar for best Adapted Screenplay.

    @demh7823@demh78232 жыл бұрын
    • Yes, but this is word-for-word from the novel, so don't credit Ivory.

      @bjm9071@bjm90712 жыл бұрын
    • @@bjm9071 Yes, but screenwriters are responsible for deciding what parts of a novel make it into the movie and what don't. So learn a thing or two about movie-making before responding to me like an imbecile.

      @demh7823@demh78232 жыл бұрын
  • Pure magic.

    @joanngarcia2308@joanngarcia23082 жыл бұрын
  • This scene alone was Oscar worthy!! Fantastic performance from Michael stuhlbarg

    @nyc4233@nyc42332 жыл бұрын
  • Non-violent communication (NVC) + deep emotional respect + honesty about emotions + sense of caring paternal responsibility + not afraid to take time ... 😇 Serenity 🙏🏻

    @aie_aie_@aie_aie_2 жыл бұрын
  • Wish I had a Dad that I could confide in. Eliot was so fortunate. Excellent Movie & Father & Son moment !

    @gregharper2829@gregharper28292 жыл бұрын
  • So moving incredibile scene of an amazing movie🙏

    @thenativeamericans@thenativeamericans2 жыл бұрын
  • Oh this damn movie…. Omg omg every bit of it is a masterpiece, makes one to realise the self worthiness and love. Because most of us are lost in the abyss of fake life and pain… but truly one of favourite scenes in 1000s of movie of watched…

    @Jiggy009@Jiggy0092 жыл бұрын
  • everyone saying we wish our parents were like this, it sucks i know but don’t forget the feeling, we have the possibility to be this way to our own children in the future

    @juxe411@juxe4112 жыл бұрын
  • That was a very beautiful, special and unique movie. I’m glad I finally saw it. Somehow, some way, love finds us all!

    @johnhaan7276@johnhaan72762 жыл бұрын
  • Hes a good man and he has a good heart. Hes the best. 💜💚

    @petekdemircioglu@petekdemircioglu2 жыл бұрын
  • Truly remarkable father.

    @merle-wq9ir@merle-wq9ir5 ай бұрын
  • best scene ever

    @rajimen84@rajimen842 жыл бұрын
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