OPENING UP ABOUT INFANT LOSS || Stillbirth || ADVICE - DOs and DON'Ts || How To Find Hope? ||
It is not a story of sadness, it is a story of how to survive the darkest of trials and turn them into something beautiful in the end. I try to touch upon what personally helped me get through the roughest part of this journey, and also advise people on what to say and what not to say. Again - what works for every person is different. Even some of the things I mention here, my husband doesn't agree with - for instance, talking about another child would not trigger him what so ever, but in my case it would be very different. So that's why I always stress that everyone's story is different. This is just my story and I hope you find some kind of hope in it, and believe that with God by your side - you can get through anything.
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childrenofjannah.com
My daughter could have been 21 today, my only comfort is that I have two other wonderful children and that she will wait for my in jannah
Absolutely, may Allah reunite you with her in Jannah, she’s been in good hands up there and I pray you witness that with your own eyes one day in shaa Allah 🤲🏼
Indeed she's a intercession for your entry to paradise. May Allah swt reunite you with her Ameen
In Sha Allah 🤲
This actually breaks my heart 21??? Like wow may Allah reunite you guys in jannah, May she greet you with the biggest warmest hug ever.
Whatttttt??? How you meet her in jannah??
23:53 “Allah does not burden a soul beyond than it can bear…” (Qur'an, 2:286).
When an infant dies, it’s a reason for a mother to go to jannah. This is a blessing in disguise. I cried reading your post about your baby. And I was touched by your revert story. You made me appreciate islam and being a born Muslim in a way I did not realize before. Now you are blessed with another baby Alhumdulillah. May Allah protect your baby and grant you more blessings. Stay happy and well sister ❤️ I wish I could meet you one day and if I don’t in this world, may we meet in Jannah. You are truly a bright, beautiful and strong woman and you have inspired me ❤️ Jazakallahu Khairan.
She is playing in Jannah waiting for her parents to come. In sha Allah you will be reunited. Dear Eileen I can’t even explain how much noor I see coming from your face. May Allah bless you and your family always, and take away your pain, and grant you healthy and righteous children.
I had a miscarriage the first time I got pregnant and it broke my heart into millions of pieces. My heart and prays with your family she is an angel who will walk you both to Janah ❤️
I lost my baby this march after one week of my delivery .. i feel u 💔 my heart is with u may allah give u a better child next time
I didn’t even experienced the lost of a child. However, I couldn’t stop myself from crying and trying to imagine how that felt. I am so sorry for your lost.
I feel so sorry for your loss. This Video made so emotional. I lost my 17 year old son on the 4th April 2012. It was so sudden. We were not expecting it as he was healthy. This tragedy brought me closer to Allah. May you be blessed with a beautiful healthy baby who becomes the coolness of your eyes.
Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raajioon, may allah swt reward you and all others who experienced/experiencing this indescribable pain immense rewards. The Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said, “By the One in Whose hands is my soul, the miscarried fetus will drag his mother to paradise by his [umbilical] cord if she was patient [with the miscarriage], hoping to be rewarded.”
May Allah grant you, your family and your little one Jannah ul Firdaus. You went through such a difficult trial subhanAllah but it is so good to see you come around the other side & teach everyone about this. Your strength is inspiring
Who is the senseless person who would dislike this heartbreaking video.
Sometimes people press it by mistake, hope that was the case
They couldn't see clearly with all the tears
Sometimes, sad videos get a dislike because a) accident. b) bots. c) they hate the fact that person went through it. May Allah guide them, He knows best!
I have just came across your video and I am very sorry for your loss. I have lost my newborn daughter after delivery. She was born alive but she died 2 hours after delivery. She had some problems and she was born 5 weeks before the due date. I have never forgotten her even if I did not have the chance to see her and hold her... That was the doctor's decision as I had a c-section and she needed to be transferred to another hospital right away so they took her and she never came back. My husband and my parents saw her.. I feel that my right to see my daughter was stolen from me and that was another additional pain. My daughter's name is Rayhana and she will be always in my heart. We will be meeting in Jannah inshallah. My amazing rainbow son was born on 2016 and he's about 7 now. I wish you all the best. Lots of love!
‘Comparison is the thief of joy’ how true SubhanAllah
I heard that horrible phrase at 20 weeks and I had exactly the feelings you described. Alhamdullilah the hospital was very kind and they cleaned and clothed her and we subsequently had her properly washed and buried. I’ve sadly not been blessed again with a child subhanallah but these tests have brought me so much closer to Allah Alhamdullilah.
same thing happened to me too sis. i didnt even get to find out whether it was a girl or a boy it got taken away to be buried quickly
@@laila8091 Ina lilah wa inna ilayhi rajioon may allah reward our sabr inshalla
May Allah swt make it easy for you and bless you with healthy and righteous children Ameen ❤
@@laila8091 that's so sad, they should have allowed you some time with your baby..May Allah swt make it easy for you ❤
I’m so sorry for your loss and all women who have gone through this. May Allah give you strength and ajar for your pain and loss. May you reunite with your baby in the next life InshaAllah. 💕💕
Here crying my eyes people. May Allah make her a reason for you guys to get the best in both worlds Ameen.
I was a non practicing Muslim in 2016. I started practicing after my baby boy of 2 months passed away. Alhamdulillah for Allah's guidance. He SWT sure tests the ones that He loved the most 🤍🤍🤍
My son would be 4 this year if he’s alive… i was told something wrong with him when in 21 weeks pregnant. Dr told me the baby will not survive once the baby is born. I can’t feel my whole world shattered. I had to go through 9months n c section. I was able to hold him for 2 hours and he take his last breath in my arms. Then last week i lost another baby after few weeks pregnant. Another heartbreak. Please pray for me to be strong. Please pray that i will be able to accept this. Please. 😢
May Allah grant you the strength to endure
May you be reunited with you babies in Jannah.. May Allah grant you more beautiful and healthy children .. Ameen ❤️
"Behind the shell, everybody is going through something!"
I felt your pain. I lost my only daughter 6mnths in the womb and how difficult and surreal it was. Patience and god will grant you in sha Allah.
I have been following you for years & years, your strength is inspiring & I wish you a safe delivery. God Bless you
I've heard those words. I carried twins. I've stood at the hospital with no baby to take home and watch every one else take theirs home. I felt the after birth pains and had a body ready to feed children. It's been 16 years but it's still too painful to talk about it.
May Allah help you through this trial and allow you to reunite with your babies in Jannah 🤲🏼
May Allah heal your heart Ameen...
May Allah ease your pain.
I have been praying for you. I was diagnosed with aggressive cancer during covid and I have two little kids. I have unfortunately been one of those who has grown resentful and far away from god. I pray one day I will feel close to him again. I pray for you and your sweet family. You have taught me so much about Islam. Thank you
May Allah heal you from your illness and give you a long healthy life with your children
Everyone has his own hardship and test from Allah.I had been through this too 5years ago.Yarab make the rest of your pregnancy and delivery safe and Yarab give you healthy baby.
Ameen
It took me 18 years to rethink of having a baby.you are so strong and courageous. And you know what the memory never faded a minute. And I am scared it might happen .I am almost half the way. Love you so much😘😘😘😘
I pray for you to have a safe delivery and that your child will be safe with you insha'Allah
I don’t think I can ever put into words how much respect and admiration I have for you. The way you live your life, the values you embody, the patience you have, your faith…the list is endless. I pray you always have peace and faith; inshallah God blesses with you the family you desire. May Allah protect you and your loved ones. Much love and respect xx
Thank you for this video. Just lost my baby boy last month. It was indeed the darkest of dark.
I am so sorry for your loss. May God grant you strength and acceptance and strong faith knowing that you will be reunited.
@@Eslimah Ameen x💞
@@Eslimah Amin ya rabbala’lamin💞
"This life was never meant to be perfect."!
What a strong woman. Mashallah 💕🙏🏼 I am so happy for you now. Alhamdulilah
لا تستخدمو هذا الاسمايل 🙏
When the angel of death takes the life of a baby Allah says to the angel of death you have taken the child of my servant and the angel of death says yes and Allah asks what did my servant do and the angel of death says your servant praises you ( by praise I mean saying Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raajioon) . Then Allah says to make a special place for my servant in jannah. I’m so sorry for you loss insallah you will meet with your child in jannah
I lost 3 but im blessed with 6 childeren May allah bless u and your fam Thinking of u in my doua
Only the strongest believers can go through something this difficult subhanallah. May Allah elevate you and your family to the highest ranks in Jannah al firdous.
And Inshallah because you have become closer to Allah after such a huge test it shows that Allah has rewarded you greatly inshallah
My daughter would be 3 today♡ neonatal death. It is heartbreaking but Allah has a plan for all of us and In sha Allah our children will be waiting for us. I had our second son a year later. The pregnancy was hard and full of fears but he has brightened up our life again. May Allah grant you a healthy full term baby Eslimah, you are a strong person♡♡♡
I also lost my first daughter of 5 months old in 2019 nd then lost my second baby my son of 4 days also in 2019 but Allhamdulilah i healed from it just bcz Allah give me this strength nd sabar Allhamdulilah for everything that i become mother of 2 now but i am also praying every single day that no parent would ever go through this pain ameen insha Allah nd with the blessing of Allah i am pregnant again plz remember me in ur prayers 😇
This took me another step closer to Allah. Thank you for this. This is so pure, so beautiful.
Lost my baby almost 2.5 months ago at 28weeks. My due date was July 22. We had planned so much but Allah (swt) had other plans for us. Your story is beautiful and that you were able to look past the loss. Alhumdulilah 💗
Lost my baby boy at 38+4 in January 2023, the most painful words.. it changed me forever. It is indeed one of the biggest test And I agree with you 💯 I am one of your very early followers and when you went through little Sarah .. Allah ho Akbar my heart ached but I was like subhan Allah, Allah SWT will bless you Jannah through her. And fast forward to 2023 I went through the exact same thing May Allah SWT bless all the parents who lost a child with sabr ameen
hi eslimah!!! i was just binge watching your videos. i spoke about you to everyone and how good of a person you are. eileen i love you and you are one of the strongest person i have ever seen. may Allah accept all your duas and give you a painless labour. ameen
i’m 20 years old, have never been through pregnancy or child loss but I feel like I and anyone that watches your video and hears your story can learn something from this video. Your faith in God’s plan and tawakkul is so inspiring and I hope to adopt it more in my life because its easy to think “why me?” or question Gods plan when something goes wrong or you are faced with a test. Thank you for sharing you journey and I pray that God continues to heal you and bless you and Haytham with more beautiful and healthy children ❤️
I cried so much when it happened to you and I really admire you and Haytham for how you dealt with it. May Allah reward you immensely and reunite you with your baby in Jannah.
I don't know why I make myself watch these videos it literally breaks my heart. I can't imagine the sadness you feel but the hope in Allah SWT words keepd you comfort and it is only in his words do we find comfort.
You know as I have DMd you already, but I pray everyday that you have a safe pregnancy and most importantly a lifetime together with your healthy and beautiful baby ❤️ MashAllah & InshAllah ❤️
Innalillahi wa innailayhi rajioon! May allah give you patience and strength in your life and positive learning opportunity and wisdom out of this experience, because I believe everything has a cause and learning in this world!
Watching this was emotional for me as I went through stillbirth at 7months gestation last year. Hearing your story made me reminisce mine. Allah doesn’t burden us more than we can bear.
The most truthful and healing phrase you said, that Allah give us tests and crisis knowing that we could handle it.. I deliver my first baby boy 20 years ago, he passed away after 5 months 😭 It took me and my husband more than 2 years to heal from that shock, to think about another baby, and to go through the pregnancy journey another time.. So, take your time Dear Eileen, and may Allah fill your heart with peace and faith.
6:30, I heard exactly these words, I still feeling them in my heart. Al hamdoulilah for everything
Same 😭
@@3ichaa618 al hamdoulilah for everything my sister, our children are playing together in janna😊
To god we belong and to him we return❣️
I have been following from the day I came to Qatar I lost my baby in 3 months, to be honest your story have been my strength and your really a strong lady Mashallah
Thank you for this! It means a lot! I lost my baby too at his 5th month due to severe birth defects 😔💔 may they rest in peace in jannah! My heart is full of blessings for ur future baby n u.insha Allah everything will go smooth and everything will be just perfect this time.lots of love n dua ❤ plz u too keep me in ur dua so that I can get healed in a beautiful way n move ahead with stronger faith and akhlaq InshaAllah 🥲🤲 and also plz pray for me to have a healthy baby soon! I really really want to be a mum with my whole heart.i cannot see any baby in pain! I hope n pray Allah doesn't test any of my muslim sisters with this kinda pain. Plz pray for me to have a blessed healthy child 😔🤲
May Allah swt make it easy for you and grant you healthy pious children Ameen Xx
Remember to say Alhamdulillah for everything. No matter what you go through.
Dearest sister i have been following you since 2014. When you were pregnant i was too and it was exciting. You were like a friend on this journey. Then i learnt about what happened, i cried a lot. I made a lot of dua for you. May Allah grant you the best my dear.
It's Allah's will. don't worry, she is waiting for you near the gates of heaven!
She has built a huge mansion, you'll re-unite in peace and never ever ever have to go through any hardship again! ❤️❤️❤️
First I want to say how sorry I am for your loss this came up on my feed I also had my first mc with twins at 10 weeks this past November they stopped growing at 6 weeks my heart goes out to you and know Allah will grant you a blessing ❤
You are an inspiration for all of us muslims. I admire you and your love for Allah,your trust and i aspire to become like you one day. May Allah reunite you in Jannah one day dear.
your an amazing muslim women. such an amazing and inspirational women. Thank you for sharing your amazing story. we love you
One of the most real and profoundly spiritual videos I’ve ever seen. May Allah always use you for goodness.
May Allah make your current pregnancy easy and safe for you... May your baby be safe and sound... Aameen ya rabb... I know ladies who have given birth twice to stillbirth babies 😔😔😔 May Allah reward them immensely ❤️❤️❤️
I read something once that said even if the mother is destined for hell, the baby of the mother who has died in stillbirth or miscarriage will rescue the mother and pull her into jannah with the umbilical cord. SubhaanAllah. She is waiting for you in paradise, magical.🤍 Also when I found out myself I remember I was so so upset crying making so many duas for you sis, you're so special 🕊️
Subhanala that's powerful
This video made me cry not tears of sadness but in awe at your strength, honesty, and faith. Your perspective on such hardship is really inspiring. God bless you 💓
I had read it in your instagram last year before ramadhan. I hope Allah Grant you and your husband streght and patience to face it. And now, Allah almost Grand you a new baby. BarrakaAllahu fik. We love you. 😘
Your baby had a soul.... she went straight to Jannah inshallah you and ur husband and her younger siblings will all be reunited in Jannah. this hurts me a lot im so sad you had to go through this but im also happy that she never had to struggle in the dunya and went straight to Allah. ah im crying and haven't been sleeping so its burns 😭
May allah be with you, and she will be there for waiting for you in jannah. Insha’allah
Dear sister, many will not tell you this, because KZhead is arena for instant like and empty sound bites, however please guard your blessings and details of your new pregnancy. You are very beautiful msA and dark jealous forces can cause harm with their evil eye of envy; your image is readily available. Consider a long break from social media until baby is born.
Your English is very good and you can express your thoughts with facial language so attractively...Allah SWT loves you
I saw a patient giving birth to her stillborn knowing she was already gone ... it was so heart breaking. My heart and prayers go out to you dear and to every single woman who's been through this painful process. And thank you for talking about it ! Inna lilahi wa Inna ilayhi raji3oun
InshAllah Allah will unite you with your sweet baby girl in Janat Ul Firdaus. My mother also lost her twin babies in the second trimester of her pregnancy and I still cannot wrap my head around it although its been many years.
May Allah bless you with all the goodness in this world and in Jannah. Be patient my sister. You are a strong woman.
I wish I could jump through my phone and hug you… I cried throughout this video. Everything you said is so real and I can’t thank you enough for opening up and sharing such a personal story. May ASWT grant baby Sara highest level of Jannah, grant you an easy delivery and a healthy happy child and grant all bereaved parents sabr and strength to face life after loss and to try again ❤️
Although I am not a mother your story made my heart cry, I feel that this loss is mine 😭, stay strong hero we love you so much 💓
My baby Lisa would've been 20yrs old, and although that sounds like a long time ago that I had to go through this painful experience, it still feels like yesterday. I take comfort in knowing our little angels are playing together in Jannah, waiting for the rest of their family to join them.
May Allah grant you the highest ranks of Jannah. Ameen 🤲🥺
Alhumdulliah sis , sorry i dont have time to watch the whole video . but you are the sweetiest sis on YT . May Allah grant you a little Muslims Warrior again soon Ameen
Im not even mariied but this video gave me the insight and strenght about the tests of our imaan and our personality. Every hardship is a test and important part is how we react to this test. I suppose we're as strong as we are fragile, we have this two opposite side.
I’ve been following you for many years and was sobbing when I read your story 🥺 I can’t imagine the pain. I hope the thought of her maybe being the reason for you to enter Jannah (InshaAllah) gives you some peace and eases some of the pain. May Allah reunite you with her in Jannah 🤍
Nooo, I would love to see the how the person who says "you can just have another one" handles it if this happened to them, would they want to be told they "can just have another one".... that's a sad, mean person. God bless you, Eileen, and inshallah we have a beautiful healthy baby here soon!!! You will DO GREAT!!
Assalamu Alaykum Wa Rahmatulahi Wa Barakatuhu. I just came across this video. I'm very sorry to hear you're story. I will tell you as a revert to Islam who also went threw the same thing and also my husband left me.. it was a very big test its been now 15 yrs. I am married again. And now I am being tested with my health.. Remember Allaah swt is with us no matter how difficult it gets. Remember Allaah swt more now. May Allaah swt give grant you patience and elevate your status closer to him. Ameen this life is a test for the believer.
Ya Allah!! May Allah makes it easy for you guys .indeed Allah give the difficult test to his strongest soldiers. You know your daughter is your way to Jannah she has secured a definite place in Jannah for you guys because Allah says whoever loses a child or a beloved one and be patient their lost child will drag them to jannah i know Allah has a great place for you all in Jannah inshaAllah ❤️❤️
Praying for you and your husband. You are such an inspiration to so many people!
She will hold your and her dad’s hand and pull you into jannah! It’s His promise. You are the blessed one 🤲🏼
The baby will drag the mother's umbilical cord to Paradise.
This was so beautiful Eslimah. Im so happy you were able to come out of this much stronger, and wiser.... Wishing you all the best amd were all so happy to hear that your doing well. Xxx
You are a strong, beautiful women inside and out. Your baby girl is lucky to have you as her mother, may you reunite in Jannah 💜
I’m so sorry about what you went through, I can’t even imagine what that must have been like. Please post again if possible, I really miss your channel and content. You have taught me a lot about Islam, and I really enjoy watching your videos.
You are so strong and an inspiration to all of us ,thank you so much for sharing your story ,wishing you all the best in the future
So much inspiration and knowledge to gain here.. much love and Duaa’s out to you and your family 💖💖
I'm watching and crying at the same time, I'm so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful soul ♥ We love you sm ♥
You're such a great mother already You're so strong and I am really happy for the strength you have
I love you! You are such a beautiful person in and out, you inspire me🤍🤲🏼
Salam aleykoum, I wanted to take the time to thank you for this video . I haven't been through a stillbirth, but since the birth of my daughter I have been very anxious and fearful of anything that could happen to her, or to me ( sickness/ death) meaning that I have been very fearful of Allah's decree and supreme power on our life (having grown up without my biological parents, I had this trauma and fear of not being able to care for my daughter as she grows up). Though this video wasn't really meant for me, it has helped me understand what tawakkul really is, and the importance of being content with whatever God sends our way wether it be good or hardships. Hearing you share your thoughts on what happened to you , and show so much strengh and faith in Allah really helps me see things differently. Thank you for sharing your story. I wish you all the best and an easy delivery of a healthy baby with a healthy mother and father . Amine
Your strength is really inspiring Eileen. The fact you want to help others by sharing your story says a lot about you, you are such a beautiful soul. May God grant you a safe delivery and bless you and your family ❤️
I am so sorry for your loss, I am an ob/Gyn and I recently delivered my second daughter. I had so many patients who had a stillbirth over this last year and it was so hard for me during my pregnancy because I kept thinking I was going to be one of those patients. It’s not that common but it does happen to lot of women and usually they had an uncomplicated pregnancy. Thank you for raising awareness about this. May God bless you and your family, I hope your continue to heal from this experience
What a strong woman. You're inspiring me. Thank you for sharing your story.
We love you, sister. Prayers for healing, happiness, and hope. We will continue to honor and pray for everyone going through this. I cannot imagine your pain and strength. You, my friend, are truly amazing.
Eslimah,i admire you so much. You're a strong lady♥️ All prayers with you dear
YOU TAUGHT ME A LOT!!! ♥️ Thank you so much! ♥️ May Allah bless your amazing soul and rewards you Jannah ♥️
This is such a beautiful video, not only will it be useful for parents who lost a child but is also spreading such a powerful message for muslims out there. It's so important to constantly remind ourselves the will and plan of Allah is far more greater than what we can imagine. He always wants THE BEST for us. It's so important to remember that and always glorify him not only during the hard times but also the good times. May Allah reward you for good words, keep you and your family safe from evil eye and grant you happiness and contentment in what is good and meant for you.
You are so inspiring, thank you for sharing. Your words can be applied to any kind of test that confronts us. May Allah bless you and reward you for your strength and for your saber.
Thank you for sharing your story. This was very beautiful to hear and I think your advice and beautiful words apply to many difficult situations in our lives.
Unimaginable. My heart breaks for you and your husband. What a strong woman going through labour and everything💔
Wa alaykumsalam I am so so so proud of you for making this video and I am so thankful to you! You are such a strong woman
Greetings from United States, and a heartfelt Asalaam alikum to you and your followers. You are so beautiful, inside and out. You are wise beyond your age, and that is a mercy from Allah. Allahuakbar. May Allah continue to bless you and your families along with everyone ready this message, mountains upon mountains of hasanaat. Ameen , Allahuma Ameen ❤️
Omg you made me cry, you are so strong Maschaallah! May Allah give you everything ypu wish for Eileen !