Virgins, celibates and asexuals explain how living without sex is not as hard as it sounds, how it doesn't make them a "weirdo", and why they don't all "just need a good shag".
--
Click here to subscribe to BBC Three: bit.ly/BBC-Three-Subscribe
Did you know that we’re up to other things in other places too?
Best of BBC Three: www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree
iPlayer: www.bbc.co.uk/tv/bbcthree
Twitter: / bbcthree
Facebook: / bbcthree
Instagram: / bbcthree
Tumblr: / bbcthree
Oh, we’re on Snapchat too - just in case you were wondering… add us, bbcthree.
"it's a culture that doesn't really know what it wants" - could not have phrased it any better
Refilwe Dihutso ikr
3:02
There is nothing wrong with not having sex !!! It's up to you for fucks sake I think it great if you want to wait I know too many that have said I'd wish I'd waited !!!
@@naziamajid1772 Agreed, and is also valid if you just don't wanna have sex at all, or if you one day decide to have sex with someone, because I believe that the sexual life of other don't affect everyone else's lives so they should respect when one want or doesn't want to have sex
Indeed
"We live in a very, very sexualized culture, that also shames sex. it's a culture that doesn't really know what it wants" That is the truest truth I've heard today.
I wish people would respect this more especially the term asexual, I've seen people be very disrespectful as if they don't believe, some humans don't want sex.
Worse, they will then say that these people are "real perverts" because they can't accept that some people are just very decent !
It's their business! Why do they care what someone else is doing? Ya know?
Well it's called human nature, reproduction and survival are the 2 things an organism thrives for
VinylDuke Storm people seem to forget it’s a part of LGBTQIA and it doesn’t get the same respect and understanding for some reason.
The aromantic spectrum as well, since culture is just based out your sex and romantic life
Thanks for putting this video out there. I had to defend myself so much in high school for my decision because having sex was "what everyone did." People are so quick to judge your lifestyle.
Anthony Turner You’re strong. Its hard to not have sex in high school.
your body, your choice, if you want sex , cool, if you don't , also cool
Its not hard, its just not being a slut
@@warrena5515 pretty much this. 😅
Good for you!!!
The black dude and the Sikh seem chill
what's up
Mahan Dulai oh shit what’s up mate
Sikh's are the nicest people
It's a shame that the Sikh guy is influenced by that weird "incel" community......I hope he pays them no mind and keeps doing him! ( Developing your self is the best way to attract someone !)
@@MahanSingh0 lool I love your jumper! ariana is babe
I'm proud of my virginity. Funny, people just assume I don't want to have sex. Truth is, I do. I just don't want to have sex on the terms of society, but on the basis of my personal convictions.
Candie4JC THIS. I’ll do it when I want to, not when society tells me to!
This is brilliantly said, thank you
Worse off,when they believe you're lying. Like gosh, why would someone lie about that?!
Thank you for this comment. ❤🌈
Keep it up honey! I wish it was my experience. I was waiting for marriage but it didn't work out as planned with my boyfriend (who is now my husband so everything did rok out lol) but I wish I really had paid more attention to the fact of waiting untill i'm ready and not only for the sake of waiting to be married. Being aware that your are not emotionally and spiritually ready is very important...
I have never understood why virginity and celibacy are expressed as jokes in media. It’s as if people hear that “it’s what’s everyone does,” and anyone who strays from that label must have something wrong with them. It all comes down to freedom of choice. Why should anyone be shamed for their freedom to choose?
Because sex is a huge market, that's all
To these people only monks get a pass and that's it. Like for instance Gandhi people respect him and what he did for the world and his choices. But if you aren't a monk man you're a weirdo something's wrong with you.
because are funny
you say it ,cuz are jokes
@@sklpotemkin5312 it's such a weird joke though. It's only funny if: A) not having sex is the most wild and crazy thing you could do B) having sex makes you better than everyone else, like having money makes being poor funny. but that's an unethical source of humor. punch up. not down.
Not everyone wants sexual relations. Even people who can still feel sexual desire. It’s as simple as that.
That's me lol
Thank you for pointing that out. This is an accurate description for me personally.
that’s me 😂 my friends think I’m playing them like I have desires but I don’t want to act on them ever
@@jomelendezivy2014 i d love to have sex and enjoy it.
I'm an asexual person and this video made me feel good. Its nice not to feel alone.
I completely agree 💜 I've had sex, enough to have two children lol But since then, I don't like it at all. I never really enjoyed it, made me feel very uncomfortable, weird.
Your not alone 😉 In the uk there are many ace's like us
Me too it's like my mojo just doesn't want it anymore and i had plenty my spouse urked me when he asked for it. Now we're in separate rooms cool with me.
@@alison4316 Same here! (Well, I only have the one, but still.) It feels so nice to know there are other parents out there who feel the same.
You're not alone!!! 😉
"It's a culture that doesn't know what it wants."
As someone who is also asexual and dosen’t want sexual relationships the person in the purple shirt is the most amazing relatable person I have ever met.
Sean MacGuire she has a partner so back off 😄
Amina A saeed damn. good thing I have too much anxiety to talk to people anyway
Sean MacGuire it’s ok just talk to your closest circle you don’t need the outsiders
lol neckbeard alert
Right? And for me specifically, when she said she was biromantic, I practically leapt with joy. It's so gratifying to hear other people talk about this and know we're not alone.
love this. the black girl with the black cap was sooo funny bahahah
Nayra Hession Haha, thanks! 😅🙌🏾
ItsASheThIngTV I’m sitting here trying to think of who you remind me of. You remind me of Ella Grimwade. They have a KZhead channel. The Grimwade Family. She’s the mom. Accent and all. Check them out. I’m interested to see if you think so.
@@DOMCORLENEtv Woah, hello! I am a big fan of your channel!
she's sooooooo pretty
I totally agree 😂
As an Asexual, This is 100% accurate.
As a fat virgin its 100% acurate
@@sklpotemkin5312 im a fat asexual virgin, can confirm
When you’re an asexual person, do you still masterbate? Because I get not wanting to be with a person but do you still masterbate? Sorry for the personal questions! X
@@Lol78209 Some do Masterbate. Some don't. If they do, it isn't none of your business.
Same
I am still a virgin and I am also a person who is questioning whether or not they are asexual spectrum. This video reassures me a lot.
Yea me too
Lucy Preece omg same
try it a few time before making your final decision. Better, don't take a final decision ! You can't know what life will throw at you ^^
@@tryfazer I had 2 semi serious boyfriends, one brief fling and I messed around with and tried stuff with my female best friend. Something in my brain is confusing me about everything. Oh yeah and forgot to mention my ex boyfriend was sex obsessed, possessive, clingy and tried to emotionally manipulate me and financially control me. You can see why I am apprehensive about relationships.
Same here
People are so rude! It's no one else's business why you don't have sex. My friend is in her 40s and is a virgin because she wants to wait for marriage and hasn't met the right man. She's my HERO!!!
24 year old virgin here, thank you for posting this clip. It’s true, it’s nobody’s business!!! Whatever the reason may be, to each it’s own in their own time. Do you know what I mean?
Vanessa forttini try 34
Please do one on things not to say to adopted people
Mango z they have! 😊
Leo Griffith they haven’t
@@sigriffith5486 they've done people who've been in fostercare
Mango z god YES. I’m adopted and waiting for this video
snipperza ! What’s your point?
I don’t think there is anything wrong or weird if a person wants to wait to have sex. It’s very important to protect your body and not let just anyone have sex with you... but at the same time there is no hate on the people who like to share their bodies to fulfil their sexual desires. It’s whatever... up to each person 🤷🏻♀️ who is to judge? Just hope everyone is being safe about it.
The thing is though asexual people like myself often have no interest in ever having sex with anyone. That's not waiting to have sex, that's just not having any initial interest in doing so. Revulsion at the idea in some cases.
oh my goood the "never have i ever" one. frickin hate that game.
Same, im lucky tho this game isn t quite played in my country
@@magdapoimarti6558 yeah we don't have it thaat often here either, but when we do, it's only sexual questions. last time, we got "never have i ever gone down on a guy" and when this guy saw that i didn't drink, he commented saying something like "it's a shame if you don't do that" and this girl said "EY wHat if sHes a leSbiAn". no, i'm just not a hoe ??
Oh Lord, such toxic people :O im sorry for you :( indeed, this game is now sexualized so much it became just another sex joke.
Same. I hate saying personal stuff to a large crowd
@@lili-yz1wb So women who pleasure men are hoes? Are men who pleasure women hoes also? What a toxic mentality .... Nothing wrong with not wanting to do sexual things, but it's SO gross to judge other people who enjoy it
Why have sex when you can binge watch your favorite show for the seventeenth time?
cuz its not the same ryan you need to make bebé .
Exactly. :D
Havent met the right person yet is the most common one. Im asexual
what if you meet the right person, have sex then find out they're not a match for you?
@@geckopubg I'm an asexual man so the right person for me would be another asexual, where no sex would be involved in the relationship. But for people who are just waiting for the right person that might indeed happen. I don't know how they would feel in that situation.
Never met so many asexuals in one spot lmao
@@frazeme5118 go to our uk facebook groups. Were thousands there and sometimes we have group meetups
My grandparents always say that one.
I’m Aro Ace and all of this is so relatable! “No one has ever died from not having sex”. Amen sister!
I relate to this so much. Being a 21 year old, old school romantic who's only exposure to a relationship when I was growing up was my parents perfect marriage, I was so convinced that everyone had a soul mate.. and I somewhat still believe this to this day as my mum and dad are perfect for each other. Being a young woman at university among 'hook up culture' the pressure to have sex by people around you is unreal, even guys. I want too wait until I find someone I like enough to give myself to them fully, and most of the time this is looked down upon and judged by the majority of people my age, simply because I don't want to just have a one night stand and never see them again, I catch feelings way too easy for that!
So true, we are a rare kind these days 😩
Love this comment. Hope you and your soul mate find each other 😌
TRUE THAT! We're on the same boat and I'm lucky my hubby is full of respect to that before and AFTER our marriage... 😁
Amen.
Things not to say to: Someone with ADHD/ADD Metalheads Men with long hair Women with short hair Rich people Poor people Teenagers Someone who doesn’t have kids Someone with dyscalculia Goths Emos Someone with glasses Musicians People from the Caribbean American people Farmers iPhone users Android users
GuitarGuy yes especially people from the Caribbean as I’m caribbean😂😂
Nia Asia ah ok cool😂. What country?
Omg! Dyscalculia needs some recognition.
Locturally Locs I got tested for it. I don’t have it
@@guitarguy7847 oh ok i think i need to do the test lol
"What's wrong with you?" *throws question*
Thank you for doing this. I’d love to see a ‘Things to Never Say to a Person with Anxiety’ and ‘Things Not to Say to People That Don’t Want Kids’ videos.
Yesss
Much respect for anyone who practices abstinence or is a virgin.
What are you a Christian?
I don't think incels deserve respect
@@starplatinumoraoraora I guess that would be different
Stop praising sexual preferences. Just let people do or not do whatever they want. You're making people feel bad.
Sex is massively overrated, seriously.
I said that until I met my current partner 😂
If it was just overrated, that would be ok. But it's also the cult of grossness.
Star Platinum / what does that mean?
R RQ / says the 12 year old troll who laughs at his own ‘joke.’ Ever heard the saying “empty drums make the most noise?”
M Love / lucky you!
I'm a hypersexual person but I would never judge someone for not having sex if it's on their own accord and not through some misunderstanding, fear, or shame.
Clayton Griffith what's hypersexual
@@thequitegame1717 It's a condition that makes you overly sexual sometimes unhealthy sexual. Basically sex addiction.
@@super__sad Yeah it seems we are in the same situation.
Clayton Griffith Clayton Griffith Clayton Griffith thanks for clearing that up I am only 18 so I am a virgin
@@thequitegame1717 I get it I'm 18 too and people don't really teach or talk about it
THISSS. I'm on the ace spectrum and I'm hella uninterested in sex but hella interested in romance 🤷♀️
Yes, and people feel that I'm sick and I'm like.. what? No.. it's my sexual orientation..🤦
Biggest same ever hard relate
I think i might be assexual too. 🤔🤔🤔
Bea triz well welcome to the club then! it can take awhile to figure it all out, and you might keep still figuring out but for me, when I found the label that accurately described, everything just made sense and I become 1000% more comfortable with myself
*me toooo. genitals just turn me off. ew. When i found out that some people actually touch it with their mouthes, i fainted.*
Growing up, there was such a strong focus on sex as something that is so "normalised" (as something everyone has to do) and "casual". I always felt left out of this as i didnt see sex in that way and had no desire to act upon anything. I often went along with all the talk to fit in but was still stigmatized. My sexual orientation is still hard for me to talk about as its something i am uncertain about, but things like this vid really help me feel like part of a community 😊
I feel the same. I'm not say you are or that I am by a lot of asexual people feel that way to. If you ever need a group of people that feel that way. Go on aven (asexual forum) x
I'm with someone who's asexual, and it's honestly the most drama free relationship I've ever had. I love it.
You aren’t missing anything. Sex is great for some of us. Still, doesn’t kill you not having it. You can be happy without it. You can have it when you want to. I’m an active person who likes it and still don’t understand why people think you need it to live :|
Yadi Acevedo ikr.
no one thinks that will die without it, it's just one of our strongest and most basic drives.
In spiritual community, sometimes they say you meet the right person to relationship if you are already happy. But at the other side they say sex is neccesary. and THEN WHAT
I'm shocked to see this video, people are just so sex obsessed, it's nice to see this for a change
I'm Ace, but still sex positive. It's just not foe me. But I'm always up to talk about it or not. No bother to me.
Because sex brings pleasure and life, why would we not be crazy about something like that? animals spend there lives growing and surviving so they can find a mate to reproduce with
@@marcellessharpe4016 too bad you are not an animal, if sex is that crucial for your life and your well-being, it's a you problem
@@sapphire7888 the way the world's goin on it might be more crucial than you think
@@marcellessharpe4016 it's still not a primary need like shelter or food because no one dies if they don't shag lol the world saying that 10-15 minutes of people moaning and sweating on each others is "crucial" won't really change it unless you make it the center of your entire existence.
I've had someone actually get angry at me because I apparently "won't admit I'm gay." Some people just do not understand the concept of asexuality, and assume I must just be deeply in the closet. No Sharon, I don't want into *anyone's* pants.
I have been with my husband 26 years and yes we have had sex and we have twin boys and two girls but for the past 10 years we have stopped having sex but to be honest i don't miss it and i have been blessed that my husband feels the same , we are madly inlove and to be honest you really don't need sex to be inlove. We have so much more than sex in our relationship, we have amazing conversations, We spend amazing times together ...Walks , movies , cuddles, kisses , there is so much more than sex .
“we live in a culture that doesn’t know what it wants” preach girl
People who get legitimately angry at other people for not caring about sex as much as they do need to get a life.
I’m asexual too, but to the “I can’t live without sex” I would answer in an other way. You can’t live without sex, but I can. I mean, I understand that to some people sex is a primary need, but to me it’s not. So, live and let live.
shit, i can masturbate all day, and I don't have damn with it! Asexual for ever!!
I think I would have an intense desire to reply "nah, you couldn't live if your PARENTS didn't have sex." and scar them with that image for a bit.
@@Panda72021 Yes!!
Sex appeal is hugely tied into the way we desire acceptance. There's this idea that if people don't have sex then they must not care what people think of them. This can be scary for sexually active people as they don't know if they can trust a celibate person who has no desire to be tied down to someone and be crafted by another person. Yes there's a portion of celibate people who just don't give a damn about what anyone thinks but in most cases celibate people will put a higher emphasis on deep friendships and still crave intamacy and acceptance. Sadly our culture isn't always accomodating of that and people like myself who are celibate, have to make an extra effort to try and fit in.
Greatly explained!
I'm 20 this year and so many people ask why I won't have sex. Originally I wanted to wait until I was engaged or married but now, since I've gotten this far without doing it, I'm just waiting to do it with a guy I love and can see myself having a future with. Being called a prude is the WORST part of it. It's like, I've made out with guys in clubs before and parties so it's not like i'm a prude or anything. People need to understand that it's just a personal choice. I'm personally just pro people doing whatever the fuck they want to without judgment; whether it be sleeping with 9 guys in a week or waiting until you're married to have sex.
*you're in the right path and you're not alone!*
I feel you, I’m a 22 male and model virgin, people always quick to judge instead of accepting everyone is different, I feel I could understand you cause I’m the same way 💖
Sheikh ANDO Aw yeah you would and people are always quick to judge x
Zara I’ve got with girls when been in clubs, but would never take advantage. It is my choice as I would like to be compatible. People always presume I’ve been with loads but I’m not that guy. I keep myself occupied and stay positive. I don’t have any close friends because they are jealous and are very negative people. It’s all about acceptance. Have a good day. Uk 💖
@@sheikhando4815 *I like you. Not every man thinks that way nowadays.*
Finally, some people I can actually relate to! I'm 53 now and still a virgin, but I remember the countless times when I was a young adult woman people have tried pressuring me into having sex or get married and have kids, and never believe me when I'd tell them no, I'm simply not interested. I'm still not interested, and I'm perfectly fine with who I am.
I bet they save tons of money, time, deceptions and patience for not having sex. Mad respect. The fact that they're all so sure about their desire, feelings and decisions is admirable. Tons of people be having sex w/o even knowing why or wanting to.
My ex broke up with me because I didn't want to have sex with him. He was furious and started saying "..but you watch porn! Am I really that disgusting to you??? Wow." I'm just very uncomfortable with this topic
Anna Everett Stay strong.
Oh Anna that sucks.
That’s his right.
my ex broke up with me because i didn't want to have sex with him too. we deserve more than people who refuse to understand us
I'm sorry to hear that he broke up with you because of who you are. But on the other hand: (not the nicest thing to hear, I know) you dodged a bullet. It was a very selfish response and getting mad with you isn't reasonable at all. I hope you'll find someone who respects you and loves you for who you are
This is so accurate! I’m a 31 year old virgin by choice. Had crap tons of offers. But I’m waiting for the person I’m going to marry! It’s hard finding a relationship where they will respect my choice. I’ve heard every single one of these questions! So glad to see others like me! I’ve been called a Unicorn and I’m totally cool with that!
I’m kind of shocked no one said “because I’m Christian.” that’s literally my personal reason 😂
Oh and also BBC3 please please please no am gonnakee asking can you do a video about things not to say to people with Dyspraxia. I really want a video about that because it is condition that people don't really know a lot about and that have and I want to raise awareness of it. I am gonna put this request on every video until it happens
Is that considered vaginal dryness asking sincerely.
@@ladyof5304 Dyspraxia also.called Developmental Coordination Disorder is a learning difficulty that affect things like fine motor skills so stuff like writing, tying shoe laces, for me doing makeup I struggle with. It also affects stuff like spatial awareness, hand eye coordination. It can make a person seem clumsy and stuff. It can also sometimes affect speech as well be causes a slight stammer or where a person talks to quick and can't get the words out right. Many famous people have it like Daniel Radcliffe, Cara Delevigne and Florence Welch from Florence and the Machine. It is a lesser known learning difficulty that people don't really know a lot about and isn't really represented much and it can bring misconceptions and people just don't understand it and think it is dyslexia which affect your reading. It doesn't. They are different things. I was pleased when recently they had representation of a person with Dyspraxia on Doctor Who and as it is a) one of m fave telly shows and b) something I have myself and want to raise awareness and understanding around. I was pleased with how it was portrayed on Doctor Who. I feel Tosin Cole who played Ryan did the condition justice. I was only diagnosed with Dyspraxia late in my teens. I was diagnosed 2 years ago when I was just turning 19. I had gone though 13 years of my educational life struggling at school and not knowing why and because at school I was a solid C and B grade student and I had good behaviour and attendance record and I was naturally quite bright I slipped under the radar and none of my schools I went to picked it up. It was only spotted when I was at my second college. This is one of the reasons I wanna spread awareness about Dyspraxia because people may not know they have it or know what it is.
@@lucypreece7581 i swear this question and answer was meant For me to hear my 15 year old is having these same Symptoms just got thru talking to her principle about it and her Dr.have her scheduled for a test i thought she was just going backwards in life for the past 2 years.I'm from the US by the way i will be looking more into this. Thanks a million for the enlightenment on this condition.❤much love hope in the near future something resolves.
@@ladyof5304 I'm English and same. Hope your daughter finds an answer. If you ever want now info find me on Twitter @LucyApreece much love to you hun xx
I have MAD RESPECT for people that have that self-control and values. Truly. Also, why do people feel entitled to know your sex life? NOTDB
Some of these people are asexual, meaning they _don't want_ sex. It's not self-control. It's interest.
Celibacy is about self control. Asexuality is not. One is born asexual just like they can be born straight, gay, bi, pan. So yeah you can say you admire a celibate person's control of their sexual urges.
@@peachcakes5342 just to clarify things. There are many different people who identify as asexual. Sex averse ones don't want to have sex whereas sex positive asexuals might have it even if they don't feel sexual attraction.
@@larissam.2299 I know lol, I'm asexual myself. (Greysexual more specifically.)
@@peachcakes5342 cool! I'm aroace 💚💜 just wanted to explain it a little better for people that might be seeing these things for the first time.
"You could be a monk or a priest", yeah I'm pretty sure abstaining from sex isn't the sole entry requirement (believing in god probably helps...)
I want that person's ace shirt! It's so great. Them talking about their experience being on the ace spectrum really added to the video in a positive way
I woudnt say its ace , its just alright
Glad someone noticed the ace shirt :)
its both funny and ironic how people say they are tired of these videos, yet they continuously watch them lol
I constantly have this at the doctors, they always want you to do pregnancy tests and even though your saying there is no chance , they still don’t believe you. Then you have to explain you don’t have sex because your not married/religion
Yeah I get that, it’s just the amount of explaining you have to do. As someone with ongoing medical problems a bit of trust would be nice
I had a few health issues awhile back which caused a lot of nausea, and every time a doctor would ask me if I was pregnant I would say no, but they never believed me (also I was on birth control at the time to try and treat a chronic condition I have) so even though I was telling the truth about never having sex, they just saw that I was on birth control (even though I explained what I was taking it for) and had me do blood drawn for pregnancy tests every time. After awhile I got SO sick of being poked with needles just for them to come back to me and tell me the test was negative (yeah no shit 🙄😒).
@@Panda72021 I think they just want to charge your insurance for it. I had a hysterectomy at 27, which is noted in all my medical records, and they still make me take a pregnancy test. No reason for that but greed. Last year I went into a walk-in clinic because I knew I had a kidney infection (and I couldn't get in to see my GP for three weeks), and when I told the nurse I'd had a hysterectomy, he actually said, "Are you sure?" I just stared at him, because seriously. Just...what.
@@FunSizeSpamberguesa "Are you sure?" I swear if ANY other profession tried to pull some of the the shit that some medical people do, they'd be fired on the spot. I also hate that you have to go through about 7 different tests that won't show anything, before you are allowed to take the one that will be able to diagnose the issue. Side note: Three weeks is WAY too long to be sitting around with a kidney infection, waiting to see a doctor. Hope you're doing better now.
i had this problem when i was taking this quite harsh pill for my acne treatment and my dermatologist would ask me EVERY month if i had sex since the effects could have harmed the potential baby and i was always like - 😐 i'm a virgin why are you worried
How would anyone know if you don't tell them? It's honestly no ones business. If someone is your friend and they ask you but respond with judgment, they're not your friend.
I like judgmental friends personally. The ones that just say agreeable things all the time get kind of boring and predictable to me as ass-kissing types. My best friends are the ones I tend to disagree with the most. We've even gotten close to brawling at times, but we always find a way to clash beer mugs and stay buddies.
Asexual here. I hate how people sometimes treat us like we’re immature or too innocent or stupid because we don’t want sex. It’s sad that we live in a world that is so focused on that instead of the love you have for someone.
Thanks for this video seriously, we need more of this
This is really great to see! I haven't really done it fully, because where I like and with my mental illness and history, it's really hard to find people in general. Like, I struggle daily to connect and I can't make many friends, and most of the people I do end up connecting with are toxic and also mentally ill but not actually trying to change anything, so, horrible people to have any sort of relationship with. And I'd love to be able to do it more casually, like with a friend or sleep with someone then hang out and become friends, as long as it's not just a one night stand which I find really unattractive for myself personally, but I have major trust issues and mental roadblocks so it's near impossible to actually go out and do that, and the people I DO know would not be down for that and I wouldn't be down with that for them either. Like its hard, you don't know our stories, like some people are ace, some are waiting, some have stuff that hinders their ability to interact and stuff. I haven't seen such a diverse lineup, and I'm so happy a lot more sides of this are being represented! It makes me and a lot of others feel really accepted
Nobody has died from not having sex but a lot of people have been injured or killed by having sex
I was talking to my friends about me being asexual and she said “you just haven’t found the one” and I was like “THATS NOT HOW IT WORKS”
Thanks for making this video!! This is a very important subject that not many talk about.
Thing not to say to someone with anxiety!!!
Haley Noell I feel you, yes I’m a 22 year old male, I’m into fashion and look my clothes. I’m not judgemental and accept everyone is different. But a lot of people who aren’t open minded are jealous. I’m also a virgin and have really bad anxiety of around negative people
@Wild Card especially with panic attacks...Oh my,I heard these so much...Also, when you are having anxiety or panic attacks,people starting to talk to you,when you do Not Wanna TALK! Anyone else that got tics by that?Like,pulling hair,pulling NAILS,scratching,and etc...
"Don't worry" :)) lol I'm not making fun, don't get me wrong! I kind of understand that! When I do fell anxious, "don't worry" doesn't help!
Thanks so much for this video. I very much relate to the person who has sensory issues, as that’s a big thing for me too. It takes a long time for me to feel comfortable enough to share my body and I just don’t get why that is so hard for some people to respect. I could probably be happy in a relationship with no sex whatsoever, I’m not really all that fussed. Thank you for this video
Seeing all the ace/aro people in these comments makes me really happy, I don’t know anyone else like me irl and it makes me feel like I’m all alone so it’s really comforting to see this massive amount of people who are like me ❤️❤️
This was absolutely lovely, I feel so seen by this video and I'm so glad it exists.
i relate to this so much as a open asexual
i sey why
This video just made my day. I’ve met my people! As someone who just recently discovered their demisexual, this video was a breath of fresh air! 😩👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I've never had sex. It's nice to know there are people out there talking about this. I've been lucky not to get much flack for it, but then not that many people know.
yeah I didn't have it until I was 24...it sucked, and now I'm 33 and that was still the only time. lol. it's overrated. maybe with the "right person" and all that but eh
Asexual (and aromantic) and loving this video! 💜💚🖤
Love the profile picture
As an asexual I love this so much this video truly shows what people treat you like. I also often get told if someone hurt me and if that’s the reason I don’t want it or they will say what a waste.
You look pretty
Yeah its a shame when its an attractive girl but your choice
@@jamestaylor2376 a shame why? What makes you think you would ever have a chance with that person anyway?
I'm a 28 year old virgin and I plan on staying a virgin for the rest of my life and I'm completely happy about it. I don't need or want sex because I heavily believe that I am asexual. I was never sexually active growing up. Sex is not something that I need in my life to be complete or to fill a hole that's never been filled. It's not something that is important to me and I'm struggling with my relationship because of it. My Bf is obviously not asexual but we are trying to stay together. I don't want to change the way I am to keep him satisfied or to force myself to do something uncomfortable. Wish me luck peeps :)
ah the joys of being ace, being asked these stupid questions and than being a walking asexual FAQ page.
As a person who is also avoiding this for all eternity, this is so relatable! It’s nice to know I’m not alone.
that guy wearing the ariana sweater tho 🙌🏼✊🏼
Thank you, next! I really like that song.
Best thing about being asexual: you'll never accidentally get pregnant.
Some Asexual people do have sex. So, not entirely true. Not having the desire doesn't stop you from doing the act if you want to.
Alivia L Also, they don’t have to worry about STDs.
Mary Whiterabbit There’s abortions
THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO
Thank you :) These videos are very educational!
This needs more views on so many levels. We live in such a sexualized society that it's just sickening, I want to puke a lot of the time. I've been told that I don't know what I like, whether girls, guys, non binary, gender fluid people, or anyone without having sex and finding out which feels better for me. My brain cannot wrap itself around this issue...I know what my sexuality is, and guess what? I AM A VIRGIN!!!! And a damn PROUD one at that! I'm waiting for marriage to have sex. I hate when people say waiting until marriage is weird or wrong, when actually it's the smarter choice, at least in my opinion. If you're still a virgin in high school or college, you're automatically not cool anymore. While we may have a cranial capacity of about 1200 cc as humans (at least I think that's right), it feels as if it's about negative 1 million cc with all this sexual stuff going around. Apparently, if a music video doesn't have breasts, asses, fucking, smoking, getting shit face drunk or swallowing up them dollar bills, it's not entertaining or interesting. It baffles me, it really does.
"You don't know what true pleasure is if you don't have sex." Um, hi, excuse me, but you are incorrect, I don't want my high quality chocolate to hear you.
i love the "thank u, next" sweatshirt!!!
Loved this. Thank you
Yay! I don't feel alone by practising this kinda of lifestyle. I just love my body and i won't give it to any random people just like that.
refusing to have casual sex is not the same thing as being asexual.
When I was 18, I pressured myself into having sex with my (only) kinda-boyfriend. It wasn’t anything special, but at least I wasn’t a virgin or gay if anyone asked. Teenage logic am I right? I’m 25 now, I haven’t been with anyone in 7 years. It went by so fast, it’s been a good 7 years too. I relate to this video so much. People have been confused by me since I was 12. “But you’re so pretty! You just need a bit more confidence.” “Are you sure you don’t like girls?” “Did anything... bad happen?” “At some point you just have to jump in with both feet.” Nice to know you’re not alone.
Same!
*The human in the purple shirt is flawless* 👀👀
I agree. They're amazing.
I’m a trauma survivor and doing sexual things is triggering and I don’t think that I’ve ever related to a video more than this one
I'd really like to see a What Not To Say To Someone With Chronic/Invisible Illness one tbh... Loads of us get so much stigma for having an invisible illness 😬🙈🙈 I would happily be a speaker for that 1 lol
I've been told I'm too innocent. I know what sex is I just don't want to.
How old are you? I'm 21 and while I want to, I'm sacred to be that intimate with someone plus I haven't actually found a guy I like lol so there's that
@@ellajackson4272 im 15, way younger than you lol. But all my friends are doing it and they think bcuz I don't want to lose my virginity while I'm not in a stable mental, emotional, physical and economic situation, I'm innocent. I know I'm younger than you, but can I give you advice? Wait until you're ready and don't just do it with some idiot you've known for a month. Also be prepared incase you get pregnant and use protection. I think the key is just to not rush anything. Anyway I've already given you an entire paragraph soo bye.
I'm not asexual but I have respect for people who are. The world is too obsessed with sex in my opinion so good for those who don't engage in it.
Thank you for the ace representation! Much appreciated!
So glad you did this video
Asexuals unite
virgin cult
@@sklpotemkin5312 Represent! 😂
Sounds good. You can all hook up, and maybe even start families together! Then... oh, wait a minute...
wylie richardson 😂😂
@@sklpotemkin5312 well , not really, not all asexuals are virgins
Perfect! A video with people like me!
Thank god for videos like this. We need more.
I found this video therapeutic. Thank You
I never had sex til I got married. And I won't say it's not good...I mean it's awesome sometimes...not all the time. It's not that deep people. You can survive without it.
I see you thank you next jumper!
I'm LIVING for the thank u, next jumper that guy is wearing😍😍
I have been waiting for this oneeee
I've been with my partner for 3 years & we have a really good sex life, I honestly can't imagine desiring anyone else in that way. That said, I could go without sex, not indefinitely, but for a couple of months at least. If you're asexual, you not wanting to have sex or certain type of intimacy that's completely fine, but my friend is asexual, & she doesn't tell the people she dates that she is. (So far none of them have been asexual themselves) & then she tells me about how uncomfortable & stressed she gets when they try to be intimate with her. & then it doesn't work out between them. & I can't help but feel that these same situations would be avoidable if she was just upfront with them from the start about her sexuality. I've tried to tell her that & she always gives me the same excuse as to why she doesn't tell them. That they won't like her if they found out. If someone doesn't accept you for who you are, why would you want to be with them? Am I wrong for thinking that she should tell them that's she's asexual? & if I am can you please explain why & how I can understand it better for my friend.
A lot of asexual's get a lot of disrespectful comments when they come out, but I agree, she should tell the people she is dating so she can be with someone who respects her. Dating should be a positive thing, and not just something your uncomfortable with.
I am asexual and straight up stopped dating for 10 years (yes, 10 years without sex and I’m A-okay). I just don’t think I’d ever be able to fully satisfy a man considering I don’t want to perform sexual acts on him. I recently went on a date, just for the hell of it, to break out of routine. And I did tell him, not on the date, but texting afterward. I ended it pretty quick because the dude was just coming on too strong and I’m quite frankly not interested in physical intimacy. I do tend to tell guys very upfront. I don’t try to hide it or be something I’m not.
@@skunkie110 have you tried asexual dating sites? I personally never tried, because ( i suspect aside of ace, i am somewhere in the aro spec too) i never feel the need to look for a romantic relationship. Everyone i've ever dated has been a friend first, i've never had interest in meeting people with the only purpose of dating. But apparently there are dating apps and sites specially for aces.
Nice to see an ace person in this video. Super great to see more representation!
I am still unsure if I'm asocial or just haven't found one I trust enough. 🙂
I’m so glad this video is out there, reassuring people that being asexual is a thing! Having a family member who identifies as asexual this video has been really useful for me knowing what not to say and how to have open conversations with respect and without judgement 💕🌈