The Power of NOT Reacting | 12 Habits to Control Your Emotions
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Not reacting is a powerful way to control your emotions. People with high emotional intelligence can manage stress and their emotions by utilizing the power of not reacting.
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How to Become the Boss of Your Emotions
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Better Control of Your Emotions Will Help You Create Better Habits
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Mental Habits of People Who Manage Their Emotions Remarkably Well
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Breathing Exercises for Anxiety
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"Do you know someone who gets angry, anxious, or upset over the smallest things?" *me, literally*
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at first I thought the video was about how to deal with those people, but at the end we ourselves are those people
Me
Same 😭
Dear person whoever reading this, we may not know each others but I wish you all the best in life ! Stop blaming yourself, accept things and go forward. Your smile is precious 🥰
Ohh come on ❤❤
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❤ Same to you
Thank you😊😊
🥰🙏and to you as well 🥰
The hardest part is working on oneself; everyone who does it is the bravest warrior and deserves all my respect.
2:41 chemical countdown 3:18 find your roots 4:07 sources of resentment 4:55 name your emotions 5:39 manage your stress 6:21 opportunities for expression 7:07 channel your feelings 7:46 the empathy routine 8:33 possess your emotions 9:05 the boiling point 9:38 create your mantra 10:28 the power of breath
thanks! the intro was a whole movie lol
I think whit out I would be obliged to watch again special thank's
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Thank you :DD
It doesn’t matter how good you’re doing, those sad nights will creep up on you from time to time and that’s ok. Doesn’t mean all your progress is gone
Totally agree, but this video is exactly how to react and rationalize when those bad times creep in
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Thank you
Anybody else here AFTER losing their cool? 🤚🏽
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Yes! I was on my period and it made me crazy at school! I want to control these terrible hormones 😢
😅....Maybe
@@MargaretWaggoner-gq5wl Same girl same 😔
Maybe someone already said this: do not be a victim of your past. No matter what it was that happened to you, try to tell yourself that you will not let it control you any longer. If you have someone to help you with this, it works even better. I helped my sister finally to stop doing this. Usual story-a rotten childhood. Sister 4 years older than me, so she took the brunt of the emotional & verbal abuse. She held onto those negative feelings for decades and it affected her attitude toward life. Yes, you could still think of yourself as broken; but as you hold on to this idea, years of your life are passing by while you let misery control you. You have to love yourself and think of all the positive aspects of your personality. Of course a therapist could help you along the way. Don’t let the weight of your misery hold you down. Think of it as a heavy boulder that you can toss away, so that you can feel a hundred lbs. lighter. And when you are lighter, walk on air to the next part of your life and never look back!
The best reaction is no reaction ✌️♥️😔
Yes, sometimes I can't manage & control my emotions, but if I triggered all of my angerness is destroyed 😢
Mind can be altered when you stay calm stop thinking and start breathing calmly
Can also leave you dead 😐
@@Omni-King2099 I’m dead 🫥
I'm gonna tell this to my chemistry teacher, and see what her reaction 😂
I’m a very shy person so I don’t talk much but my reactions always show on my face, I can’t control my expressions and I know some people who like to purposely put me in uncomfortable situations because they enjoy seeing my reactions. Im trying to learn to control them so they will leave me alone, I figured that if they don’t see a reaction and I act unbothered they will stop caring
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Для тренировки можно носить солнцезащитные очки. Так будет гораздо трудней увидеть вашу реакцию))
Don't forget you are a person too, not a joke. I thrive on being a joke but keep the secret that I'm smart, just funny to others. Do not devalue yourself. You are here you are noticed, you are important. Coming from a stranger who knows you
It is so easy to disregard yourself. That is the last thing you want to do. Just shine.
@@sjohnson4675 Thank you, I really appreciate what you said. Those people aren’t in my life anymore thankfully, I still haven’t learned to control my facial expressions, and it’s still a bit frustrating but I’m learning to remain calm and stop myself from crying over small things. I will try to give myself some slack and not worry as much :)
Socialisation and self care can impact on the way that you react. You will have to choose the right role models. If your parents were the types of parents to overreact, be concious that you aren't obliged to overreact like them. If you're the type of person who doesn't take breaks, lives too much in the past, and doesn't eat the right foods, try to change that. You have to become kinder to yourself and others. When you talk to someone and it turns into an argument, try to take pauses in between. You can leave the room to think about it more clearly. Try to reconsider if it's worth your energy, which can be used elsewhere. ( for example polishing your skills and increasing your knowledge.) Don't wait for peace in your environment; this will bring chaos in your mind. Try to become peaceful and resilient even in chaos. Try to build an interior peace; not an exterior peace.
I struggled alot with arguing and wanting to get my point across especially when I felt I was in the right. But than I learned this instead of arguing just say "THANKS I'LL TAKE A LOOK AT IT" and say it as sincere as possible and nothing else. You'll see it works and even be blown away by how the person reacts that u say it to. Learning to say that and nothing more has made it clear to me people's intentions. I've had them realize I wasn't upset and than they try harder to argue to get u out of character showing there true colors. And all u continue to say is THANKS I'LL TAKE A LOOK AT IT. If u can learn to say just that you'll always be in control. And this for me is a proven thing that really works. You just gotta smile and tell em thanks I'll take a look at it..
Thanks for this great tipp, I‘ll try it. 🧡
Brilliant! I will try that!!
Thanks I’ll take a look at it
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I have the same problem. Thank you for sharing your method. I will try
My mantra: I have big dreams to achieve so I have to live long so i gotta save my energy
❤❤❤love it 🍀I’m going to “ steal” it from you 😊
Very nice mantra😊
My mother is incredibly toxic, she will make me cry and insult me, hit me or tell me off, for no reason. Not reacting makes her so mad but she backs off. Thank you.
Are you a child or grown. If you are being abused call someone or tell someone
Can you go no contact with your mom? I don't know your situation at all, but it seems you would be better off without that behavior in your life.
this is my mom too she likes provoking, she barges into my room and put her displaced anger on me all time. It's not easy living with someone like that. You are really strong I hope you know that.
You are fearfully and wonderfully made Jesus ❤you !
samee literally both of my parents do that 😭
When I feel like something is going wrong I get this extreme overwhelming feeling that if I don't stop this now these wrong thoughts will get embedded in me . As a result I end up raising my voice and the matter turns worse . I only fight at home though , never outside . I will do my best to stop this habit and try to use it when necessary. Then my points will be more logical and impactful too
same here. it’s especially hard when you are dealing with false accusations about you. guess i have to accept that my own family doesn’t understand me
How's it going?
@@noemarie8yea same here :/
@@noemarie8 i feel like you took my words. I am in the exact same situation.
Sameeee here....
I am always so calm, but sometimes I feel like people just take advantage of that, which makes me to confront them, showing that I dominate.
Me too. I’m very chill. People befuddle me and I get overwhelmed being in groups.
Same here... So recently I've been giving back the attitude they give me but I realized I acted out of emotions and later feel like I could've handled situations better. But now I think I'll just go back to my "I don't care" era
@@misty3787 the middle is always the best.
True, ppl just take advantage of that. Tho its hard to confront at workplace when ur being mistreated by ppl with higher job positions (eg.manager/ boss). Any advice on how to handle this?
But they're trying to get you mad. Not everyone, the abusive people
fun fact : i cry in the argument
Us bro us
Us bro us😢
Bro ❤❤
Same here
It's okay ❤️
I fear speaking up will make people leave. But after realising that staying mute will do the same…I’m trying speaking up more.
"The lion does not turn around when a small dog barks" - African Proverb
Thank you so much for posting this video. I‘ve been struggling a lot with my feelings lately and it seemed as if every little thing caused me to feel such strong emotions that then lead to a fight between me and one of my most dear people in my life. I‘m currently figuring out my feelings and this video described me,how i‘ve been acting and feeling perfectly. I now know how to deal with my emotions because if you‘re video. Thank you so so much and have a great day!
Good advice. Not so easy to put into practice though…but the old saying is right if at first you don’t succeed try try and try again!!❤️
For me, this a simple but it helps a lot to those people can't control & manage there emotions like me... This is meditation for me 😊
Sometimes, succeeding is not bothering. Like the phrase in "War Games" , "The Way to Win is Not to play" true!
💫No reaction is still the best choice in 90% cases. Years of experiences showed me that.
Thank you so much for posting this video. I‘ve been struggling a lot with my feelings lately and it seemed as if every little thing caused me to feel such strong emotions that then lead to a fight between me and one of the most dear people in my life. I‘m currently figuring out my feelings and this video described me,how i‘ve been acting and feeling perfectly. I now know how to deal with my emotions because if you‘re video. And also how i can properly apolagize to said person. Thank you so so much and have a great day!
This video is so amazing that I decided to subscribe immediately, that's how much it impressed me! Thank you, I will write all this down in my notebook for important notes and will follow them, and in order not to forget, I will repeat it until all these actions become automatic for me when resolving various disagreements and conflicts 😉
Number 5- finding a way to lower the stress level. I think and believe that a pet (for me,it's my pet French Bulldog) helps to achieve this in an amazing way. I used to get irked quite easily and it was causing me harm to my psychological and physiological health. Then I adopted Mishka,an adorable female Frenchie. Trust me,she acts like a sponge and soaks my tension and stress every single time. After a bad, tiring or unsuccessful day,I just come back home and spend time with her playing, talking and snuggling. After that,I feel as fresh as a daisy. The quality of my life has improved drastically.
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Totally agree! Dog or Cat work wonders to relieve stress😊
That is a beautiful story! Much love to you and your fur baby! ❤️
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Sadness is a natural part of life, no matter how successful you are. Allow yourself to feel it, knowing it doesn't define your journey.
This video gave me some perspective. I'm trying to work on myself because I have begun to realise that I'm pushing people out of my life without even actually wanting to. My emotions hurt me and those around me. I hope to be better☺️✌🏻
Always ask myself "will this matter tomorrow? A week? A month? A year? Will my reaction make it better or worse? And if i do react , is it easy to take back? (Ex. Yell at my kid because he upsetted me. I can apologize and actively work on improving it before he's old enough for it to affect our relationship) OR (ex.2 if my reaction is to yell at my boss because I'm upset/overwhelmed. I will lose my job which spiral my life further out of control , and whatever it was didn’t even matter after the moment passed)
I am a very sensitive person, and when put in a situation where voices have been raised, or I get into a little (usually not important) argument with my partner (or anyone) - I tend to cry. I’m going to try and put the things I’ve learned in this video into play and hope it helps me not react with tears every time. Thank you 😊
One of the thing reading the scriptures does for me is to help me not be sensitive.... try it , you will be shocked the wonders. God's word helps us fights away those voices and help us reduce being emotional.... meaning you don't allow your feelings and emotions to control you. I have a verse in my head to counter every insult etc.
Every time you are presented with a challenge, think of it as a choice point. These moments are precious opportunities. Life will get more interesting if you evolve along the way. You already know the old tune. Ask yourself if it is time for a new one. Paulo Coehlo said, “Never allow waiting to become a habit. Live your dreams and take risks. Life is happening now.”
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This is what I’m trying to achieve right now. My emotions go from 0-100 and a lot of times I don’t even notice that I’m upset because it happened so fast. I’m trying to slow down now and realize when I’m getting there so I can choose to come back down.❤
Is dealing with the narc ever worth it? No! I am changing the channel on my radio!
Thank you so much for this comment. It opened my eyes
Thank you for this so much. I was close to quiting my current job and this is what I needed. Took notes and I will be applying them to good use. Wish I've seen this a few years back, but it's time to move forward, thank you again. Cheers.
If your job makes you feel this way it might be worth quitting.
Better late than never
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Good luck ❤
Learned a lot here to manage my emotions. Thank you!
As a empath empathy doesn’t help at all in stressful situations if anything it makes it worse
if you truly are an empath, you know that everyone is just boiling their emotions at that point. You can help by having a snack break or go by boba or something, so it gives you some time to think and relax a bit.
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Right on time! Thank you! Useful & practical
when i feel im about to burst out, i whistle and think positively. Now its a habbit of mine.😊
Very helpful video. These techniques, along with some stoic principles have helped me get control of my strong emotions. I'm a much happier person today.
I had been fighting someone annoying lately, This video motivated me to talk things out instead of escalating it into a physical fight. and things somewhat worked out for the better. Thank you.
A very valuable video! Thank you so much! ❤💫 It also calmed me down and helped to understand that my emotions are really normal. And all you need to do is try to control them and not let them get the better of you After all, it is you who should manage your emotions, not the other way around 🌱
Remember:- Not every situation is worth controlling our emotions. There are situations that sometimes you really need to outburst but decently, just channelise your emotions. Learn how to show your anger. But the choice is you can stay unreactive to most bullshits in this world unless it is affecting you directly.
Wow 🤩 this video was really helpful for me 😊! Much love for this channel all the way from Uganda 🇺🇬, Africa 🎉
I know why I’m feeling what I’m feeling is I’ve just educated myself on narcissism and I’m realizing that for most of my life I’ve been mentally abused and conditioned that I deserve to be treated that way because I was the escape goat. Some of my abusers have passed away so I can’t confront them and even if they were alive most likely they would deny any wrongdoing, which is what the still living people in my life would do. I understand other peoples frustration after having been abused and the abusers just get to walk away while the rest of us have to get help in order to work through our issues. I get folks but in order to move forward getting help is the only way we can work on changing our own lives and to be healthy. Those abusers are going to walk through life in denial without making any changes but we don’t have to, we are empaths and we can still reach out to give real love because that is who we are 👍💪💪💪✡️✡️✡️
Thank you. God bless you💜
same here. i let someone step on me for many years, yelling and insulting and disrespecting me, now i don’t want to let other people disrespect me so i get angry and my body gets scared so i start crying at the slight sign of disrespect… i don’t know how to keep my peace without letting people be disrespectful to me
@@noemarie8 how do people respond when you start crying? Are you given the opportunity to let them know that they just disrespected you. I usually keep what’s called a poker face when I recognize that someone is being disrespectful to me or insulting. If I give it away I’m met with a smirk meaning “I got ya”. The last intimate relationship I had the guy finally pushed the ultimate button on me and I let him have it as food went flying in his car, only because I missed his face. I told him later over the phone that it wasn’t about the girl. It was because I came to the realization that he hurt my dog so actually he should count himself lucky that food was all he got. My little dog has sense passed away and I’m having to deal with a lot now. She never did anything to anyone to deserve what the two narcissists did to her, she was just a little dog full of love for everyone but what a perfect form of supply for these insane creatures. I stopped her a couple of times trying to kill a mouse while her cat friend egged her on. I never wanted her to get a feel for that even though she was the perfect breed that’s used for flushing out vermin. I miss her every day 😢💔
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Amazing!! I needed this :)
Special thanks to you for creating this video to help us...❤😊
This is nice, finding our roots really powerful way of understanding one's self. I am a reactive person until I get to know myself in a deeper level, study and accept yourself, my sister even told me start mothering yourself....we have to be very aware of how we react and interact in adulthood is a product of how we are raised and cared during childhood...So love, understand, study and accept yourself Then improve for the better... Breathing is powerful tool to handle the day to day dynamics of people and situation that we face, back to our breath because Breath is one that God has gave us....we are form through Breath!!! Pray and.be thankful!!God bless us all
I really agree with mothering oneself as much of my rage from childhood had to do with my absent birthmother and cold stepmother. Internally talking to myself empathically really helps validate feelings.
Its mean and its teach you to be love yourself and know about yourself than anyone, just simple like you know your feeling its mean you already win because you know to calm your self. This life full of up and down FIGHTHING. I think this mantra or arfimasi for yourseld its good "DO WHATRVER YOU WANT"
It is good to have no reaction but after long time those emotion will come back in more painful way. As for me i never reacted in any event. And now i easily get annoyed and in the chat (when i am not face to face with anyone) i vent all my angers frustration, which make me look totally different from real life. And it is painful sometimes.
This is a very impactful video!
Thanks for sharing this information have a great day ❤
Although this video is mostly about anger controlling, it can also be used in facing those bad feelings in our mind. Thank you!
Needed it❤
I have difficulty controlling my emotions while under the influence of alcohol. So I have become sober!
Seems # 1 recommendation, one counting in the chemical countdown, can be coupled with # 12 recommendation -- breathing. Thanks for the video.
This is the real world. These ideas r easier said than done.
Excellent advice! If it’s difficult to practice, then listen to this video every day until it sinks in.
Great recommendation. Thanks! Me and my little sister constantly argue with each other. And she doesn't deserve to have that happen to her all the time. I want her to remember her childhood as something other than being yelled at constantly, so i really needed this video. And really just to better myself
Thank you soo much for this video has helped me in more ways than I can think of.
that's a VERY good and great video, waited for something like this to understand myself better
I live in the Uk and people are always angry loud and over the top they tend to be quite rude aggressive and disrespectful to the point that if they don’t like you they will immediately result to insult and mockery you do not have to do anything and suddenly they become triggered. I have even been out in public when I have had people scream and get angry at me just for walking down the street. and yet I don’t do anything but mind my own business.
Tell me about it! Such a miserable place I hate it here
really? i thought, polite people live there..
The Disney movie "Turning Red" is a perfect example on how you can control your anger, this video reminded me of it! 😄
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Thank you for this🥰
I feel already relaxed by watching this video ❤
Thanks for sharing these useful advices
Godsend video in the most perfect moment.
I find i get very frustrated, hurt and even angry when i am putting effort into trying to show understanding and empathy twds the other in a disagreement or conflict but they refuse to do the same and hold to only seeing their side of things. I'm now coming to realise that instead of going in frustrating and painful cycle of continuing to reach for shared understanding and empathy, i just end the cycle by saying, i don't feel I'm being heard or understood here, fullstop. It then puts it bck to the other to reflect/or not..on why i don't feel heard or understood and raise questions and clarification (placing them in an energy of wanting to understand)
I needed this. I've suffered many years of emotional and physical abuse. I need to let go.
Me too😅
Same
Thank you for this amazing and inspiring video. I've subscribed immediately!
This is torture to girls. Especially when we are having our monthly visit :(
Thank you for the efforts.
Thank youuuuu for this
@3:18 Sometime Constipation also make you angry whole day! Try to alter your food habits, minimize tea/coffee & regularly do yoga & jogging at morning, take minimum 7 hour sleep!
When you are in spiritually awakened journey this thing usually happens to you without any reason. thank you for this useful tips it will help a lot.
Here's my issues. First I'm not always capable of doing any of this . Because I go from A to B in 0 point 1 seconds. Like there's no time to even be rational . Next . When I let it go. Or try to discuss not argue with the person , even days later they absolutely will not do anything but argue. They want it dropped , ignored and to pretend it never happened. So then I stew about it and get more mad. And they say " you always go on and on "
Omg I relate to this so much! :`) Had similar thoughts after watching. Like Idk how to think about before giving the reaction, or taking 5 seconds or anything. If I got mad at something I'll let it out in an automatic response I cannot control. Idk what to do lol
This video may have just changed my life. Thank you. Well done too :)
thank you,, feeling relief here❤
Very informative video, well done
This video really help if you really want to control your emotions. In every day we going with different situation and handling different people. According to me the most toughest thing in my life was Emotions control however i don't know how to control our emotions from others and also how to handle people and still i facing this too issue but after watching this video i got a clear clarity like how to control emotions. I really believe that this 12 technique will really help my future journey because i trusting this method. Thank you Top think for the wonderful video and i really enjoyed and i recommending if anyone has facing issue like how to control our emotions from others this video really help you because the technique are amazing and super.
Thank you very much Top think
Thank you for that !! We are humane and emotions happen
Thank You.
Very good advice :)
being human can be a challenge we must continue by practicing balance always🙏🏾
In times like this and the one Your talking to just wants to "WIN", i just think and tell to myself, LET HIM, GIVE WAY, THAT'S WHAT MAKES HIM HAPPY, SO LET GO. At least im not the one stressed
(Using mantra like he said) Another way you can save yourself from these kinds of situations is using bible verses that shifts you to be wise in those situations from reacting regretfully.😊👍🏼
The only problem though is that if you have cooled down the person you're fighting with will still be eager to defeat you in the argument and the anger bubbles up again
Thanks really going to help 😇❤❤
It was helpful 🎈
I need to hear this , n this helps me more then ever
Thankful
Controlling one’s emotions especially anger is important especially in the workplace but there are moments that you do have to release those emotions especially sadness, frustrations etc becauee bottling them up can also lead to depression and suicide or self harm. It is ok to cry and express your frustrations as long as you are hurting someone physically.
Cry or express your emotions in private, not public. It is like farting, no one wants to share it with you.
@@ohsweetmystery Or they can cry in public and choose to ignore. You don't know what people go through in the moment.
Its really help me, thank you!!
Most important video i needed
Thanks , it is such a thought-provoking video.🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷
Very fruitful content ❤
Number 8,9,11 is new for me. Thanks.
Motivating lessons for life
Thanks, this was fun to watch. 😁
#4 is great for PTSD since PTSD makes you feel stuck and enable to feel. So practice identifying to process and move on from it. All are very helpful! ❤
Who says not reacting to people who makes life difficult for you is good for PTSD? They continue to make your life difficult
this is a right way to explain about oneself emotions yes there people are arguing about stuff complaining about stupid shit i do mental health is very important and we need to take of our physically health as well too we all human beings and everyone is human can feel pain sense pain hear noise feel sound vibration feeling everything touch everything look at everything smell everything taste everything hear everything that is make us real life air breathing warm blooded mammals and we are all living human beings with emotions thoughts feelings tears sweat crying laughing yelling screaming shouting breathing air and live on.
Thankful 🥰🥰
This is emotional intelligence. Not many have that anymore, including me. Peace
This is very helpful thanks😊
THANK YOU VERY MUCH