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3 reasons you aren’t doing what you say you will do | Amanda Crowell | TEDxHarrisburg

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2019 ж. 8 Қаң.
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Amanda explores how to move beyond mindset-driven defensive failure and into productive failure to succeed at the problems you struggle with the most. Amanda Crowell is a cognitive psychologist, university professor at the Hunter College School of Education, speaker and coach. Dr. Crowell works with teachers, therapists, and mission-driven entrepreneurs to clear away mindset blocks and move into action. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • 1. Afraid of failure 2. You limit yourself with "identity" 3. Secretly you don't want do it, you think you should do it

    @lonilocoesque@lonilocoesque3 жыл бұрын

    • You're a hero

      @mohammedmeriemi3730@mohammedmeriemi37303 жыл бұрын

    • Thanks for saving my time

      @samansari4990@samansari49903 жыл бұрын

    • Thanks man😂

      @C3theBowler@C3theBowler3 жыл бұрын

    • Thank you

      @tumi881@tumi8813 жыл бұрын

    • You’re not going to get the same value if you just read this comment and don’t watch the full talk, don’t rob yourself

      @giga_Lion@giga_Lion3 жыл бұрын

  • No joke, this might be the most important TED-talk of my life I recently realised that the reason I can't achieve my dreams for years, postponing even simple steps every single day because deep inside I'm so afraid of failure. And it is just an enormous relief to know it's not just my imagination or another excuse, but there actually people like me and I honestly feel like crying as I'm typing this. Thank you so much 😭

    @annakolenkova7060@annakolenkova70604 жыл бұрын

    • I am so honored that it helped you like that. Thanks so much for sharing!

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell4 жыл бұрын

    • @@amandacrowell crying right now as well T ___ T

      @cowcowcowz4799@cowcowcowz47993 жыл бұрын

    • Same.i always thought and hated myself thinking it as excuse but others also suffer from it is my first time hearing

      @veryconfused9768@veryconfused97683 жыл бұрын

    • @@l.w.paradis2108 I understood your comment, but I too was confused seeing the word “shepherd”. I think that’s what may have come across as rude,but I know you meant well:). Have a good day.

      @MoonLight-lc8qg@MoonLight-lc8qg2 жыл бұрын

    • @@MoonLight-lc8qg Okay. I give up. Actually, I do. My deadline to emigrate is 2025.

      @l.w.paradis2108@l.w.paradis21082 жыл бұрын

  • Instant gratification also plays a part here, too. When the end result seems too far away, people convince themselves they aren't meant for it so they look for a quick fix and then soon feel lost all over again. Speaking from experience here.

    @virgilwardmedia@virgilwardmedia4 жыл бұрын

    • Absolutely- I agree. We need to find ways through intrinsic interest to build some gratification into it. No one stays in a slog that stays a slog for very long. Great insight.

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell4 жыл бұрын

    • True. But if the 'end result' is at least visible (like, it took 1700 experiments for Edison to light the bulb, but he made progress because he saw himself reaching there), it matters a lot to observe patience. If for some reason your day didn't deliver you on to the end goal, you can always see how it's is very much possible and that it is only a matter of time. You are now a step closer.

      @karthickganesan6518@karthickganesan65183 жыл бұрын

    • Preach brother

      @helenadeboye9428@helenadeboye94283 жыл бұрын

    • Before, your string of thoughts and actions would have been 'I need to do this' -> Not actually doing it -> 'I really need to do this' -> Feeling stronger resistance -> 'I need to do this no matter what' -> Feeling self-remorse But through relaxation, your action patterns will change as the following: 'I should do this' -> Not actually doing it -> Relaxation -> Feeling lower resistance In such a way, you break away from the pattern of increasing your level of resistance, and create an opportunity to at least begin the work you need to do. search youtube "paradox of I can do it"

      @sarangkim6373@sarangkim63733 жыл бұрын

    • @@sarangkim6373 I absolutely love this!!

      @virgilwardmedia@virgilwardmedia3 жыл бұрын

  • These are the kind of talks I wished we had in high school

    @ja5304@ja53043 жыл бұрын

    • Really Yes!!

      @venomcrack1700@venomcrack17003 жыл бұрын

    • Amen to that

      @Ihh956@Ihh9563 жыл бұрын

    • Schools branched off to its main purpose

      @themelancholyofgay3543@themelancholyofgay35433 жыл бұрын

    • I sooo agree

      @hughmaitri5367@hughmaitri53672 жыл бұрын

    • Yea instead of cigarettes, once is enough

      @adlinasyafeeya8925@adlinasyafeeya89252 жыл бұрын

  • This is me. For the last 14 years I’ve done NOTHING concerning my dreams. I have wasted my life feeling sorry for myself and living for other people. I am so tired of it I am at the point of taking all the risks to get where I want to be.

    @xxmarsii_diiicexx5141@xxmarsii_diiicexx51413 жыл бұрын

    • Oh my God are you writing about me...Every word fits my life..And the reason I'm a failure is I never loved myself never took care of myself, all my life spent for others, and that's what dooms you..

      @zeehuss7275@zeehuss72753 жыл бұрын

    • @@zeehuss7275 omg it’s like you two are talking about MY LIFE 😧

      @Umi_luv@Umi_luv2 жыл бұрын

    • This is me now!!! Im 23 turning 24 in august i wish i had seen this 6-7 years ago but nobody is perfect

      @rakymajohnson9086@rakymajohnson90862 жыл бұрын

    • Go get them!

      @abrahamrosales4786@abrahamrosales47862 жыл бұрын

    • @@rakymajohnson9086 same girl

      @mak_xx9456@mak_xx94562 жыл бұрын

  • (For future reference) The 3 cognitive distortions : 1) 2:57 "I just can't do it! I don't have what it takes" 2) 5:50 "this is just not who I am" 3) 10:22 "I should do this, I need to do this, *but eh I don't really want to do it though* I should do it" Solutions: 1) remind yourself that it is okay to fail. Learn from the failures and just keep swimming. Effort >> 2) find people who have the same values as you, and who found a way to make things work in a way that doesn't clash with those values. Find a way to do the things you wanna do in a way that aligns with and not clashes with your identity. 3) find your "why", the real reason why you wanna do something. It should be an intrinsic motivation and not a just superficial and external one. Remind yourself of your why to stay motivated

    @Sunshine-yk2eg@Sunshine-yk2eg3 жыл бұрын

    • Thank you:)🙏🏻

      @MoonLight-lc8qg@MoonLight-lc8qg2 жыл бұрын

    • Thank you!! ❤️

      @gabriellyandrade1144@gabriellyandrade11442 жыл бұрын

    • Thank you❤️

      @preciousmbabuike1110@preciousmbabuike11102 жыл бұрын

    • Thanks :)

      @fernandopicozzi@fernandopicozzi2 жыл бұрын

    • Thank you so much this is very helpful 🙌🏻

      @makemeup_nihel@makemeup_nihel2 жыл бұрын

  • 3 reasons you arent doing what u say you will do... Wow i really need this *save to watch latter*

    @guilhermecostacoimbra1205@guilhermecostacoimbra12055 жыл бұрын

    • 😂

      @Yanayofficial@Yanayofficial4 жыл бұрын

    • Did that with the procrastination video

      @elzabig1@elzabig14 жыл бұрын

    • Thats really funny.

      @ascendlife-reachyourgoalsa5703@ascendlife-reachyourgoalsa57034 жыл бұрын

    • Same but I actually got back to it :)

      @van3ssa.f@van3ssa.f4 жыл бұрын

    • I did this so many times,but i come back to it

      @beverycarefuljohn586@beverycarefuljohn5864 жыл бұрын

  • Fail is just an acronym F - irst A - ttempt I - n L - earning

    @uwuovo9681@uwuovo96813 жыл бұрын

    • Love that 💯

      @halcyon_echo42@halcyon_echo423 жыл бұрын

    • Failure is the stair to success

      @nezuko4278@nezuko42782 жыл бұрын

    • This is adorable! Thank you so useful!

      @jocelynnmariah2993@jocelynnmariah29932 жыл бұрын

    • First attempt in learning gotta keep that in mind

      @howlong274@howlong2742 жыл бұрын

  • Excellent talk. Reason crowd seemed so quiet is bc most ppl don't like hearing the truth and she hit everything right on the head.

    @jameshutchins7042@jameshutchins70425 жыл бұрын

    • Would the Houston Rockets be better off without Russell Westbrook?

      @lequochoan9315@lequochoan93153 жыл бұрын

    • Or maybe they are a respectable crowd

      @kadenmccallum8432@kadenmccallum84323 жыл бұрын

    • I think it could have more to do with her beating about the bush

      @beatsg@beatsg3 жыл бұрын

    • AGREEED

      @ultralightcam6963@ultralightcam69632 жыл бұрын

    • Most ted talk crowds are quiet

      @aurora_boketto7746@aurora_boketto77462 жыл бұрын

  • Three main reason 1.deep in our mind we think we can't do it. 2. People like us dont do this because we are highly identified with a false self identity. 3.secretly we don't want it.

    @finiteinfinite6969@finiteinfinite69695 жыл бұрын

    • 👍THANK YOU & BLESS YOU!!!!! 💞

      @lovingatlanta@lovingatlanta5 жыл бұрын

    • @@willnicholson18 If you watch the last third of the video you'll see the stuff about the value mindset. In there, pay attention to the part about what to do if there's nothing you can do to be intrinsically interested- basically, spend some time with WHY you need to do the part you don't like. Then, when you have to sit down and do it, you can ground back into the part of you that really wants this, and stay out of the part that is doing it for extrinsic interest, which sounds like it might be part of what's tripping you up.

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell5 жыл бұрын

    • thank you @@amandacrowell

      @octavioorozco1606@octavioorozco16065 жыл бұрын

    • I love people like you. I have about 250 videos based on psychology that I have put in a playlist and this cuts down the time it takes it to go through them significantly.

      @squeet6831@squeet68315 жыл бұрын

    • Every points are damn correct for me . I don't know what will I do in life ?

      @rumor3298@rumor32985 жыл бұрын

  • Wow wow tough crowd - this woman is funny af and no ones bitting

    @bethanysheppard2662@bethanysheppard26625 жыл бұрын

    • Thank you! I felt that way watching it, too, but there was more laughter in real life than comes through in the video, thank goodness. :)

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell5 жыл бұрын

    • I have been thinking the same and am relieved, that people really did have fun. :)

      @Sesso20@Sesso205 жыл бұрын

    • i love her personality😊🎆!

      @arakquinh9655@arakquinh96555 жыл бұрын

    • Actually, I think they are silent because the message is penetrating them. They are totally engaged in self-reflection. That is super.

      @Atrendia1@Atrendia15 жыл бұрын

    • Totally 😂💔

      @hajarkaram6407@hajarkaram64075 жыл бұрын

  • "At the heart of success is not talent. It's effort." 5:06

    @marycarylyaun4990@marycarylyaun49902 жыл бұрын

  • Is audience alive? `~` The speaker is so funny and smart. Great talk!

    @anastasinscreed@anastasinscreed5 жыл бұрын

    • Thank you! I appreciate it!

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell5 жыл бұрын

    • Maybe it was a sparse Covid audience....of accountants and engineers!😅

      @lisaahmari7199@lisaahmari71993 жыл бұрын

    • there is no audience mic

      @themelancholyofgay3543@themelancholyofgay35433 жыл бұрын

    • You gotta know Harrisburg... I agree, Great talk Amanda

      @chelbug34@chelbug342 жыл бұрын

  • I love her humor and her energy. Definitely needed to hear this.

    @jordynbabywoods@jordynbabywoods2 жыл бұрын

    • Thanks!

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell2 жыл бұрын

  • Why we don’t do what we say we’ll do: 1. We get lost, distracted, or addicted to what’s more “pleasurable” or “comfortable” than what is important 2. We see “pain” in exerting the effort or we lack the energy required to do the important thing. 3. We don’t care because its not killing us anyway...not yet.

    @bongpal6730@bongpal67303 жыл бұрын

    • Mama Mia! Between Amanda's video and Bong Pal's comments lie the pathway to success! That's if one is willing to apply the wisdom therein.

      @louissimonelli5351@louissimonelli53513 жыл бұрын

    • I still come back to this EVERY time :(

      @blueeloop@blueeloop3 жыл бұрын

    • No truer and wiser words were ever said..

      @zeehuss7275@zeehuss72753 жыл бұрын

    • Here am i....

      @blueeloop@blueeloop3 жыл бұрын

    • @@blueeloop we change once we “decide” to change. And ultimately we decide to change because of inspiration or “desperation.” In my experience, profound desperation is the more powerful emotion for change or action. All the best in your journey.

      @bongpal6730@bongpal67303 жыл бұрын

  • So the audience aren't good because: 1) Secretly they don't believe they can be a good audience 2) They don't think they are like people that can be a good audience 3)Being a good audience doesn't interest them enough, if they're honest

    @IndoonaOceans@IndoonaOceans5 жыл бұрын

    • 🤣🤣🤣

      @zeehuss7275@zeehuss72753 жыл бұрын

    • I see what you did there 😏👏🏾👏🏾

      @ridhwan7255@ridhwan72553 жыл бұрын

    • HAHAHAHHA

      @twannawilliams255@twannawilliams2552 жыл бұрын

  • This crowd. Were they summoned here for jury duty?

    @felixsupreme22@felixsupreme225 жыл бұрын

    • 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂

      @JoudanJanaiHa@JoudanJanaiHa4 жыл бұрын

    • 😝

      @annak3573@annak35734 жыл бұрын

    • Haaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!! 😅😅😅

      @canwejustloveeachother2550@canwejustloveeachother25503 жыл бұрын

    • Lol

      @Caprisassy@Caprisassy3 жыл бұрын

    • I thought about this. But when I read a comment from her that the audience were laughing but it didn't make it in the video

      @mr.brain20yearsago20@mr.brain20yearsago202 жыл бұрын

  • Boi, KZhead Algorithm knows what Ive been dealing with in my life

    @joejocas8748@joejocas87485 жыл бұрын

    • Joejo Cas right

      @sabrinalopez5597@sabrinalopez55974 жыл бұрын

    • Joejo Cas Not algorithm. Its the shared databases. They know everything about you.

      @aryandivyanshu8324@aryandivyanshu83244 жыл бұрын

    • ennit tho!😮

      @martinamoroney7164@martinamoroney71644 жыл бұрын

    • This is really funny, i swear i slept last night thinking his can i end my life cause i am so bad at everything.. and woke up woth netflix disconnected.. so i cant watch a show with my coffee.. i open youtube and there is this!!! Growth mind set!

      @aminahshentour8002@aminahshentour80024 жыл бұрын

    • Knows better than I know myself!

      @aparnaiyer7888@aparnaiyer78884 жыл бұрын

  • Action driven progress...life gets better.

    @melissaszarka5718@melissaszarka57182 жыл бұрын

  • "People like you don't do things like this.." This hits soo hard-😢

    @ze7668@ze76683 жыл бұрын

  • Aren't those​ people​ kinda mean​ for​ not​ laughing? She's quite funny.

    @pamponpan3376@pamponpan33765 жыл бұрын

    • They were more engaged in real life, but it does seem pretty harsh on the video!

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell5 жыл бұрын

    • She is funny, but I think the comedic timing is a bit off. Potentially to over practicing the talk.

      @treasure6883@treasure68835 жыл бұрын

    • could be something with the mic.

      @guilhermesobrinho1329@guilhermesobrinho13295 жыл бұрын

    • I don't think she is funny at all. Though informative, all is old news. She is a coach so she is selling.

      @johntube7554@johntube75544 жыл бұрын

    • @@johntube7554 Old news to whom? If you’re struggling it’s just what you need to hear.

      @allybrosia3725@allybrosia3725 Жыл бұрын

  • This is spot-on.. I didn't even know I was doing this! My dream is to become a musical theatre actress and although I am taking singing lessons, I always stop myself and think that I don't have what is required and that I have too little experience. Maybe I should, instead of procrastinating and whining, go out and GET experience, despite my brain telling me to stay home

    @MG-gu7fu@MG-gu7fu5 жыл бұрын

    • Ginger Rose YES!!! You got this.

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell5 жыл бұрын

    • Community theatres are usually pretty welcoming. That'd be a great way to get experience. 🖤

      @ShamikaLMoore@ShamikaLMoore2 жыл бұрын

  • "We can be anything we want, if we get our head clear and we begin to take steps. And if you're doing those two things, nothing can stop you." 🔥

    @adventurepantsmcgee@adventurepantsmcgee2 жыл бұрын

  • The candy crush joke was brilliant as was the rest of her talk. How was there not more laughter...?

    @saymawaleh@saymawaleh5 жыл бұрын

    • Thank you!

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell5 жыл бұрын

  • Thanks to Amanda Crowell for this inspiring talk. And also… for making me understand that “heart-centred, helper type, non competitive” people exist and can be successful in this world. Good luck to everybody who’s struggling.

    @giuliamelilli5906@giuliamelilli59062 жыл бұрын

  • The most empowering ted talk clear and well structured

    @faceitimright@faceitimright5 жыл бұрын

    • Thank you! I'm glad you found it empowering!!

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell5 жыл бұрын

    • That is true!

      @TMFe-ke1cf@TMFe-ke1cf5 жыл бұрын

    • @@amandacrowell Sincerely the best and most rewarding

      @amanankele8990@amanankele89905 жыл бұрын

  • Its amazing how these 17 minutes have more valuable lessons than I would ever come across in my life

    @bubblebath2892@bubblebath28923 жыл бұрын

  • 1. Shift your mindset from, "belief that some people have it and you don't," to "your rookie mistakes are just sign paths on the way to success." 2. Shift your mindset from, "People like you (i.e. your identity) don't do things like this," (and therefore you push hard against such behavior), to finding people who do things you want to do and mimmick them. 3. Shift your mindset from, "secretly you don't want to do it, you just think you SHOULD do it because the people you emulate to do it," to drawing a straight bright-line from your long-term dreams (e.g. buying a house, sitting with your children by a crackling fire) to the desired behavior instead of motivation such as becoming a wealthy, admired, 'cool' person. **If the work you want to do is hard, there WILL be urges in the moment to quit, and it is INTRINSIC INTEREST that keeps you focused on the actions you need to take. You have to build out the INTRINSIC INTEREST.**

    @iguacu3517@iguacu35173 жыл бұрын

  • I waited 'til age 65 to exercise regularly at the gym (with a trainer....which costs). I knew that in 15 years I'd fall and break a hip if I didn't start. lol

    @sfilkins2009@sfilkins20095 жыл бұрын

  • Dang! Who's in this crowd?? Are they even breathing?😐 Good talk!

    @bluebutterflywellness2273@bluebutterflywellness22735 жыл бұрын

    • Thank you!

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell5 жыл бұрын

    • @@amandacrowell I think that's the sign of a great speaker that your crowd is soo much into your talk that they do not want to miss a second of it talking to anyone else. Really great talk.

      @rahulsukheja7805@rahulsukheja78054 жыл бұрын

    • @@rahulsukheja7805 Thank you so much!

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell4 жыл бұрын

    • Boi, KZhead Algorithm knows what Ive been dealing with in my life

      @samconner4016@samconner40163 жыл бұрын

  • Thank you so much for this talk. Inspiring

    @nadinehesham3407@nadinehesham34077 ай бұрын

  • It is so satisfying to watch knowing that you are not alone. It's actually happens to everyone and it's perfectly normal.

    @shivensaini3643@shivensaini3643 Жыл бұрын

  • Once you have successfully managed to overcome these cognitive distorsions, something interesting happens to you. When you go off the beaten track and know deep in your gut that it's the right way to go, you will have to face criticism from people who claim to know better than you. Well, never ever listen to those who say you can not do it. Do what your heart says is right. Some people desperately want others to fail to feel better about themselves. You are not the problem, they are. You don't owe them anything. Instead, you should embrace your uniqueness and reach the dreams that you so desperately want to reach because you DESERVE to live a happy life. Always remember that we were born here on Earth to feel joy. Yes, the grind can be strenuous but your future self is there already thanking you for all the efforts you've put into reaching your goals. And I along many other people will be there, standing in awe over what you have accomplished to change your life for the better.

    @JulieChanDoitsu@JulieChanDoitsu2 жыл бұрын

  • just loved her attitude and confidence 👏👏 well done girl 👍

    @anmolbehal1941@anmolbehal19414 жыл бұрын

    • Anmol Behal thank you!!!!

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell4 жыл бұрын

    • Instant gratification also plays a part here, too. When the end result seems too far away, people convince themselves they aren't meant for it so they look for a quick fix and then soon feel lost all over again. Speaking from experience here.

      @dannyhill5666@dannyhill56663 жыл бұрын

  • She read me without even seeing me. Great talk ! Really helped me.

    @seliyoon@seliyoon2 жыл бұрын

  • I think these things a lot. It holds me back. The fear of failure or that it isn't me or isn't meant for me is just all in the mind. Why do we do these things to hold ourselves back? Little by little, we could be anywhere we wanted just by taking the simple steps and allowing ourselves to fail and to learn and to grow.

    @pocketpangolin@pocketpangolin6 ай бұрын

  • Watched this for the first time in the first week of january. I'll keep coming back every time I lose my motivation. This helps me a lot. 2-02/21/22

    @jellian6827@jellian68272 жыл бұрын

    • haha seriously?

      @imgoingplacestoday@imgoingplacestoday2 жыл бұрын

    • @@imgoingplacestoday no

      @snowfoxl0v0l@snowfoxl0v0l2 жыл бұрын

  • This was a very good Ted talk. I always have struggled to keep up with goals. Now that I’ve gotten good advice I’m going to write down the steps I will take to accomplish my goals. I will allow myself to try what I want to do, and not be afraid of failure. I will take it as an opportunity to grow and learn from it. I will not do things that other people do just to be cool. I will do what I find interesting and socialize with people that have similar interests and have done things that I would like to learn how to do. I will think about the reason why I want to do these goals. Is it for people to admire me? Or is it because I have a dream of doing this and I’m very interested in it. I will take time to research my interests, and if I’m not very interested for the right reasons, I will just not do it.

    @BabyNami02@BabyNami022 жыл бұрын

  • Just oration wise she is my favorite ever ted speaker!!!

    @livishtv@livishtv2 жыл бұрын

    • Thank you! I appreciate that.

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell2 жыл бұрын

  • Amanda, when you get to read this comment: Thank you for articulating the hidden intricacies that have been holding me back. Knowing that I am not the only one definitely helps. What is helping me even more is the realization of being defensive about my failure.

    @onceappuonatime@onceappuonatime2 жыл бұрын

    • Thank you so much for sharing your reaction!

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell2 жыл бұрын

  • I got here with no expectations are at all and it turned out to be one of the best talks I've ever seen.

    @OlgaFilmes@OlgaFilmes5 жыл бұрын

    • hooray! I'm so glad!

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell5 жыл бұрын

  • I don’t WANT to be a lawyer but I think that I should want to and it is important to my future.

    @bstew2259@bstew22592 жыл бұрын

  • Wonderful speech. Thank you 🎉

    @wonderlandofnishreen8103@wonderlandofnishreen81039 ай бұрын

  • U better write a book soon coz ur words can change lots of what we perceive as human@

    @__-nc3bh@__-nc3bh5 жыл бұрын

    • Lunatic Phantom THANK YOU.

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell5 жыл бұрын

  • At this very moment, after watching this, I want to put the steps in place and start on the right path to realize my intrinsic true life fulfilling purpose HOWEVER there are so many layers (one example, every day life in 2021 living pandemic/endemic life) between clear thinking and reaching into your weary head on what you value and care for most in the world, becomes so daunting you stay paralyzed and watch videos on how to. I need a how to, how to, video.

    @rockergirl6926@rockergirl69262 жыл бұрын

    • I just wrote the companion book, so I hope it will help! It's coming this Spring. 💙

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell2 жыл бұрын

    • @@amandacrowell That's great! I'll def check it out!

      @rockergirl6926@rockergirl69262 жыл бұрын

  • this is the most important video that i've ever watch in my entire life thankyou very much for this, i really mean it thankyou

    @fabianrenaldi4248@fabianrenaldi42482 жыл бұрын

    • 🙏

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell2 жыл бұрын

  • I keep on nodding the whole time while listening to her. Seriously, i will watch this over and over again esp when i feel like taking the defensive failure path again

    @piopeloniajr.9735@piopeloniajr.97355 жыл бұрын

    • Is defensive failure really laziness?

      @ejaws1720@ejaws17205 жыл бұрын

    • @@ejaws1720 No, it's not! In fact, calling it laziness is how we overwhelm ourselves so we don't have to take action.

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell5 жыл бұрын

    • Thank you! I'm glad it was helpful!

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell5 жыл бұрын

  • “To the ones who are there for me & who always have my back…… everything you are to me is everything I lack.” - BM TeamWork and finding the right ones to surround yourself with is major also because misery loves company and they’ll continue to feed your appetite of self gratification with false hope and accomplishments. Keep striving for greatness & stop settling for less than you deserve.

    @brinmcclory2129@brinmcclory21292 жыл бұрын

  • Honestly if people just spent some time alone and really look deep within themselves, they’d figure out what actually makes them happy. We all desire happiness; but the ingredients may differ, choose your preferences in life wisely.

    @lilasiankid214@lilasiankid2143 жыл бұрын

  • Amanda Crowell, that was a great talk. Thank you. Sorry your audience was so flat. I've been having issues with procrastination, even though I've been an achiever...PhD scientist and composer, and a seeker of what is this life. My hunch is that grief, as well as your 3 potent points, is at the heart. I am going to focus on what you taught. Also, I've been geeking out on a wonderful podcast series by Stanford neurobiologist prof, Andrew Huberman. He spoke of the mindset research also

    @DrMusicStarr@DrMusicStarr3 жыл бұрын

  • I appreciate with whole my heart the person who funded Tedx talk. I have learned so many things through this stage. The people who deliver speeches the deliver the nectar of their experiences. I am so glad we have tedx talks in KZhead.

    @edimohammadbasam2790@edimohammadbasam2790 Жыл бұрын

  • Exactly what I need today. It talks the reality of me.

    @lynbautista6341@lynbautista63412 жыл бұрын

  • One reason I found social media such as KZhead and Instagram to be useful is that it exposed me to examples of success in fields I’m interested in who look like me or had similar circumstances to me which would’ve been hard to find otherwise in my small town and small circle of friends.

    @christinemccluskey4022@christinemccluskey40224 жыл бұрын

  • This Ted Talk is really great. And If I start doing what I wanted to do from years, I'll come back here.

    @kpopismyhappyplace_love@kpopismyhappyplace_love2 жыл бұрын

  • She is so right 💯

    @reddot01@reddot01 Жыл бұрын

  • 1 defensive failure, Carol dweck growth mindset 2 identity fracturing, Erik Erickson Do identity cohesion 3 no intrinsic value

    @harshrana3518@harshrana35184 жыл бұрын

  • One of the reasons that we are lazy we don't want to take initiative for any positive change. Perhaps it is deep rooted habit of our mind. Secondly we are not clear in our mind. What to do. Thirds may be we wish to many things to be done at no cost of time and hard work. It maybe in my opinion. 🙏💕

    @Kulwinderkaur-gc9yt@Kulwinderkaur-gc9yt5 жыл бұрын

    • I agree. Also, we realize that good habits take a lot of work (running is harder than sitting on the couch and watching TV 😁) so, even if we can get pumped up to go for a run today, subconsciously we already look for ways to avoid future effort. It's how our brains are wired. We are creatures of comfort. One solution to that self-sabotage is to attach a very strong meaning to your goal.

      @BiancaAguglia@BiancaAguglia5 жыл бұрын

    • I thought these were the things she was gonna say... 😊

      @Kiky812@Kiky8125 жыл бұрын

  • This changed my life

    @jazlinshai777@jazlinshai7772 жыл бұрын

  • One of the best talks I've ever listened to!

    @ammaraasghar8264@ammaraasghar82642 жыл бұрын

    • Thank you so much!

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell2 жыл бұрын

  • I appreciate this talk because not only does she shed light on the reasons for our defensive failure, but offers the alternative mindsets that lead to success. At the end of the video, I'm not left wondering, "What am I going to do about it?"

    @audreyshuler5701@audreyshuler57013 жыл бұрын

    • I’m so glad it resonated with you!

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell3 жыл бұрын

  • this is now my favorite ted-talk. sometimes i have dreams, sometimes none. it's confusing when you don't have a strong grip of who you actually are and who you actually want to be. because you often mistook it for who people expect you to be.

    @tuna1717@tuna17172 жыл бұрын

    • Yes! It takes practice to learn to hear your own truth and then believe what you hear

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell2 жыл бұрын

    • @@amandacrowellomg it's an honor!! but yes indeed! i started assuring myself that "as long as i believe in myself", i can make through whatever. of course i still am hesitant and anxious from time to time but ted talks and their wise speakers such as you really do help people (especially me) arrange their perspectives in a better lighting. so thank you sincerely. i am just a stranger but i am rooting for you and everyone else in their own journey. Fighting!

      @tuna1717@tuna17172 жыл бұрын

  • Thank you so much for this. I related to a lot in here, and I’ve been in a constant cycle of not being motivated enough to accomplish my goals. This gave me a lot of closure. I appreciate you.

    @nix3435@nix34352 жыл бұрын

  • such a great speaker!👏👏

    @edwardfarres941@edwardfarres9412 жыл бұрын

  • What a terrible crowd. She’s absolutely delightful, a humorous and insightful speaker.

    @LittleAyishie@LittleAyishie3 жыл бұрын

    • Thank you so much!!

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell3 жыл бұрын

  • One of the best, eye opening, amazing talk I heard and loved and was engaged throughout in listening!

    @shubhampipada3130@shubhampipada31302 жыл бұрын

  • If you believe it you can do it. Believe you can and you are half way there😌💪💪💪👍 This woman's talk is very strong and she is very funny thats why I want to watch this talk every day.

    @lusineyeghiazarayan8309@lusineyeghiazarayan83095 жыл бұрын

  • Doing things badly in the first few times and then witnessing yourself making progress are always much more exciting than doing it right in the first place

    @khanhan6564@khanhan65643 жыл бұрын

  • Best talk I've listened to so far. I found it very applicable

    @shafikabrahams9786@shafikabrahams97865 жыл бұрын

  • The best Ted talk i ever watched !! She answered a lot of my questions which helped a lot

    @aivelu2737@aivelu27373 жыл бұрын

  • Brilliant TED Talk. thank you for sharing.

    @JJ-zy3zv@JJ-zy3zv Жыл бұрын

  • This quite informative and you did a great job bringing the reasons people don't go far with the things they really wish to do.Well done!!

    @aminatalussoTV@aminatalussoTV2 жыл бұрын

  • The three situations she mentioned: exercising, networking and budgetting, are exactly the things I kept telling myself I'd do. Haha

    @acramish@acramish4 жыл бұрын

  • Great speech! I really enjoy listening to TED talks. There are many inspirational stories and amazing ideas that are applicable. Thank you guys for sharing that with us! :)

    @marijanamaric9763@marijanamaric97632 жыл бұрын

  • Truly a lot of the Tedx talks have been so much better than the actual Ted talks lately. Good vod!

    @droidaimone@droidaimone5 жыл бұрын

  • All who are blaming the audience (oddly 10 - 15 people) for being silent - this is most likely a post-lunch session and the hall as shown @ 5:56 is sufficiently dark to set in a drowsy mood. At least, the video got us, the virtual audience, to see & listen to this very good speaker on our own ambiance.

    @karthickganesan6518@karthickganesan65183 жыл бұрын

  • Hands down the best talk I have ever listened to and was so so so so much relatable.

    @joshiabirdb@joshiabirdb3 жыл бұрын

  • I believe in myself but I am easily distracted. I can push myself physically but mentally I rather just do what's easy. Thank you for this, today I will post another KZhead video.

    @aurielcastro9903@aurielcastro99034 жыл бұрын

  • Thank you for sharing your hard-won lessons with us. It resonated powerfully with me. I hope all those struggling with one or all of these mindset blocks may take one step toward the person you want to be.

    @UGD16@UGD16 Жыл бұрын

  • Watching this at 5.00 and about to cry. This is me right now. I want to change mindset and my life

    @nurulainamirrudin8118@nurulainamirrudin81183 жыл бұрын

  • An Amazing talk! The humor feels inauthentic but her words convey her message very clearly. This talk prompted me to look within myself and reflect on the half truths I've been convincing myself of. Also those hand motions are the most articulate I've ever seen. Bravo!

    @cwasonfauna@cwasonfauna4 жыл бұрын

  • Amanda Crowell... YOU ROCK!! I have now looked for and found my intrinsic interest. Thank you 👍🏼 😊

    @richardyeo4019@richardyeo40192 жыл бұрын

    • Great!! I’m glad it helped you

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell2 жыл бұрын

  • I watched this because I am keep saying that I will learn programming, tomorrow - next week - next weekend - next holiday and so on. I will write all the reasons why I want to learn programming and remind myself all the time when I need to. Thank you.

    @mariantdm@mariantdm2 жыл бұрын

  • This talk hits the nail on the head for me👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽. Now, let me trade in defensive failure for active, action oriented failure😀😀 with a smidgen of progress thrown in over time!!!

    @daustin14441@daustin144413 жыл бұрын

    • Yes! Agreed!

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell3 жыл бұрын

  • This was amazing and inspiring to watch. I am more enthused on moving my cycle of productive failure. Learning to fail forwards. Thanks, Amanda. I love your vibes and insights. This is greatly helpful for understanding myself.

    @exotiknuella@exotiknuella2 жыл бұрын

  • Wow! Makes a lot of sense. I find this very informative and helpful.

    @simplengmanunula9749@simplengmanunula97495 жыл бұрын

  • I wish I could give this a million thumbs up. Hands down the best Ted Talk I've ever heard. Thank you!

    @lechelle51@lechelle51 Жыл бұрын

    • I feel all of them! Thank you!

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell Жыл бұрын

  • This is what I'm doing rn. Thank you for letting me know what it is. This is a good talk. Hope a lot more people would find this.

    @creysan2495@creysan24953 жыл бұрын

  • Awesome talk! Thank you for sharing this info and your story. 💪🏽

    @WildfireTina@WildfireTina5 жыл бұрын

  • Great talk. Audience really is tough on her. Though, she rock it like true professional!

    @paulkim6692@paulkim66925 жыл бұрын

    • thank you!

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell5 жыл бұрын

    • I think it's her humor. Perhaps it's not her audience's humor

      @ForevaABBIEx3@ForevaABBIEx3 Жыл бұрын

  • This was such I a good Ted talk, it made me realize my wrongs and change them into learning steps to conquer myself and drive myself to do what I want.

    @vanianavarro1684@vanianavarro1684 Жыл бұрын

  • No joke I procrastinated watching this video for almost a year

    @bulgna@bulgna Жыл бұрын

  • I have learned valuable things from Ted videos than from school or college combined.

    @ramabhijith9994@ramabhijith99943 жыл бұрын

  • what's with the crowd?? Great talk Amanda. I hope you see this!

    @trudy_l_a@trudy_l_a5 жыл бұрын

    • Trudy Dsouza thank you trudy! I appreciate that!

      @amandacrowell@amandacrowell5 жыл бұрын

  • one of the best messages , really needed to hear this.

    @nyamiritut9291@nyamiritut92912 жыл бұрын

  • True insights especially about intrinsic interest. Thanks for sharing

    @pharmclare@pharmclare Жыл бұрын

  • I truly loved your message thank you it has really made a difference and impact in my life

    @cookie24681@cookie246812 жыл бұрын

  • defensive failure: protecting yourself from feeling possible failure, which is also failure because you end up not doing it at all. 1. you think that you can’t do it and that some people have the talent or genetic to do it whereas you don’t. 2. you think people like you don’t do things like this. you limit yourself with identity. you need to find people who have traits that you desire. 3. you don’t want to do it. you feel like you have to do it. you value it for the wrong reasons.

    @haltertopbabe@haltertopbabe3 жыл бұрын

  • This was all I needed to listen to. Thank you so much for bringing this up.

    @simranahuja.@simranahuja.2 жыл бұрын

  • This is beautiful. Thank you!

    @timiolowookere@timiolowookere2 жыл бұрын

  • Productive failure. Damn thanks.

    @jungleafreeca1111@jungleafreeca11115 жыл бұрын
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