the truth about being the oldest child

This is so true. Parents expects their eldest child to be the perfect and role model for younger siblings!

Hii real fans here Ps u don’t have to like if you don’t want to 👇

The fact that parents don’t realise how cruel they are to their eldest child is just crazy and you know? Even the eldest child gets used to it by time and slowly they have to become the perfect reflection for their younger siblings which is SO ANNOYING. Let’s be fair enough to every child no matter what age and let them live their lives too.

The "Babygworl" never gets old 😭

The non stop examples of child parentification... Thanks for sharing your experience Jazz and being vulnerable; I'm right there with you 🥲

I am not the elder sibling but i can relate with 99% things she said . I am hyper independent as a result of my past traumas . Wishing healing to everyone out there suffering from this because i know this shit takes a lot of energy ❤

No because I literally told myself that "its fine, I dont need anyone I can do this that myself" just yesterday and I relate to this so much like every single WORD she said is so ME. And plus I have no absolute idea how to get over my 'trauma' 😭

omg i agree sooo much. i have a hard time showing my emotions to people bc ive always had to be independent. my parents expect me more and more of me each day. tysm for this vid, i now understand it a bit more

*"Ding ding ding"* was the highlight of this video for meh😭✋ So cute🥺

Never thought anyone would understand how I feel as the eldest daughter🥺 Thank you for the video💖

You make me cry... as oldest child, I felt that. Thank you so much for through it all too, Jazzy!

Jazz sistah... i can totally relate to it and now that i watched ur video... am totally motivated... Thank you.. u are really being an elder sissy whom we wanted ✨✨🩷🩷 Love ya..

'And if you can relate iam so sorry but iam so proud of you for being so strong' this line literally bought tears in my eyes, thank you so much❤💖

Im the oldest child in my family and im really so happy that someone understand me so much welllll ,girl tjank you so much i really love you🥹🥹🥹🩷🩷🩷🩷

Honestly this is sooo true, I’m the oldest child n a lot of pressure was put on me 😢

As the eldest and the third parent, i feel you so much. I've matured way earlier than my peers and it's true, i really can't trust somebody so easily

His is so true😢 I am the eldest child in my family and whenever my friends feel sad or tired I always feel like I have to take it upon myself to make them feel better or help them finish their work to do it. I haven’t made a new friend since for 4 yearsssss! I always question myself if I have anxiety or if I’m just sad all the time but I never tell anyone this because I feel like I’m overreacting. Thanks for this video. I really needed it.❤❤❤

This is why I just love this woman! She's like my therapist, helps me overcome my traumas. Being eldest child ain't easy ...

I'm the youngest of 4, and countless times my second oldest sibling (sister) was the parent, bc the oldest one didn't live up to the *"eldest child" expectations.* My parents aren't abusive, rude or entirely reliant, but they do expect the eldest to be almost perfect. They never tried to put her down, especially bc it is partly bc their lack of experience as she was their first. However, she is extremely smart and was encouraged to work hard, which she did, which also raised their expectations, on top of the *"eldest child" expectations* of being a role model. Happily now with a beautiful baby girl (my niece) it's safe to say that she turned out well after all. The fact still remains that I'm closer to the second eldest bc the eldest is 10 yrs older than me, but in recent yrs, I'm getting closer to her especially bc I'm in my teenage yrs. I owe my parents and second eldest sister everything bc they raised me. ❤❤ ✨✨✨✨✨

I can relate to this so much, thank you for sharing this ❤

I could actually sense this from your other videos. It's a good thing you're open about yourself. We're still young and we don't have to have everything figured out at this point in our life.

I'm the youngest child in my family and I'm relating to EVERY SINGLE WORD THAT WAS SAID IN THAT VIDEO! I always did everything to care about my family and my friends, never liked to cry in front of any of them and NEVER cried for help. I'm very independent as always and I feel like it's the result of a lot of trauma of abandonment in my childhood (From the part of my friends). It's very hard to be the "untouchable" and "strong" every time... I want to be weak with somebody sometimes.

so true and relatable. thank you Jazz for sharing the other side of your life. if it helps, youre not alone in this

Idk why but this brought tears in my eyes😭 I'm so sirry to know that someone so sweet and amazing like u should have had to go through all this, I hope u heal ur traumas quickly and enjoy the rest of ur life free of ur burdens❤️✨

Girl, I feel you ❤thank for being so open with us! I never realized things like that were considered trauma!

Any one here who wants a sista like her❤❤❤?

Thank you so much for talking about the struggles of being the eldest. It's so tough 😮‍💨

i can relate 😭. it's true though, the oldest child has to be like perfect and they don't pay much attention to the older child as they do to their younger child bc they're supposed to be independent all by themselves and they're supposed to figure it out all by themselves even before they're ready to

Ikr being independent and strong could hurt but you’ve made it far enough and it’s nothing but satisfaction by the end of the day ❤️🔥

I could relate to all the things she said about being the oldest child. Literally every word she said. Im still healing from the past traumas and its hard but im trying my best. Whoever is struggling w the same, sending love and virtual hugs to you❤❤❤you can do it!!!

This is sooo true! Being the oldest child, i've never really shown my tears and struggles to people growing up as i didn't want to be a burden to others...

I feel you … I’m the eldest of 6 siblings.. I’m 63 years young now .. and I’m loving my confidence and self love 💕 Stay happy and true to yourself always ❤

As eldest daughter Ur a role model U spit facts queen ❤

I don't know is it becuz i'm in dramatic mood or not but your words make me cry, all of them are relate and seems like my words deep deep in my heart just being yelled out. Love ya so much Jaz♡

so true i really love you jazz your so amazing and you my i diol of independence you were the one who encouraged me to be independent and stand on my own instead of relying on others and im so happy that i came across your channel i love you so much 💗 and wish the best for you bcz you truely deserve it

I agree, however, im the youngest child, and all i have to say is, its not easy either. We youngest childs are always ignored, our opinions just does NOT matter what-so-ever, my family could have a convo and i try to tell my thoughts on it, i'd be COMPLETELEY ignored, like- COMPLETELEY, not just me, most of my other friends agree aswell. And yes, as she said there is alot of pressure with being the older sibling and being a good role model, however we younger siblings are also forced to be LIKE them and take THEM as OUR role models. If your succes is not up to theirs, your parents probably will consider you their least fav and if it is above theirs, you might be your siblings least fave. so honestley, their is nothing about, "being youngest is the best" "no, being oldest is the best". Both are hard. Its a tough world. Face It.

I seriously love your earing's and you i was just feeling so insecure of myself and am re-watching 😢every single video of yours and still im not feeling good enough i wish you make a longer video about how to not feel insecure

I’m a youngest child and I just relate to the last part. Whenever my older brother is arguing with my parents my parents bring in “ Why can’t you be like your sister?” So now I feel like I have a weight on my shoulder always to have the best grades, and best behaviour.

AHHHH ILYSFM

you can see by the way she talks, that she has truly been through a lot. jazzy i love you, always know that there are currently almost 2 mil girlies out there who love you as much as or maybe even more than i do. stay strong, jazzy. good luck for your life :)

you're so strong ❤

I swear it is so hard to be the biggest sibling they expect you to act like an adult and then when you do that they are like you are just a child.What is wrong with them??

You’re my role model and as the oldest child, you have been the oldest sister I have never had! ❤

The way I can relate to it soo much ilysm jazz 💗🫂

The "babygiirrl" will never get old. 😅 The "byyye" of the end was so cute. 😍 And you only tell us thruth. 🥰 (srry I know I'ms cringe, but I hope that Jaszmine will like what I wrote for her ) 💕

REAL. Ilysm❤

For oldest child we've got jazmine 😉❤️‍🔥

heyyy my jazzyyyy!! I love your vids and ur personality so KEEP SLAYING BABYGURL!

this is soooo true. im the oldest child and i get blamed for everything my sibling does

Can you please share your 🪒 shaving routine?

Yoo this girls is my role model and i love her sm

Love the hair!!❤

Honestly, i am just like uu oldest all the stuff u just mentioned....thx for thellinf me that LOVE U

Jazz I’m just 13 years old and I know you all will be like “OMG YOU’RE TOO YOUNG” i know but jazz is like an older sister to me as a person who doesn’t have sisters I love how she is like the older sister that I NEVER HAD yes I have an older brother who is 4 years older than me but still I’m the youngest but I still have the most burden my brother had the childhood he always wanted but still I love you jazz❤

U are soo true the oldest one has to be mature for their siblings by the way u are soo cute

As the oldest child in my family thank you sm for making this video 🥹🫶🏽💕

that’s so true, as an older sibling I can relate too..!

This is relatable. I'm the oldest and I am also like the 3 parent and it gets stressful😅

Gurly your going to self hair is beautiful!❤❤

I can def relate to that bc im also the oldest sibling and my parents say that “oh get good grades so ur siblings can see that you work hard so they will also work HaRd.” OR “oh my god don’t do this or don’t do that bc ur siblings will follow you” ARGH 😣

Hey jazz, l have recently started following you and tada it's really good😄😄. Following you is kinda inspiring me and make me feel really good about me and even l could relate to this video being the eldest sibling in my house and l am feeling that l do have a cool sista who actually is cool 😎 ♥️

OMG Jasmine you have no idea how I laughed when seeing your video (I’m a big fan btw), cuz in my fam it’s totally opposite. There’s only me and my older sis at home and my parents. Have you seen those kind of daughter where she is 25 but has the behavior of a 5-6 year old? Like cutting her fingers by accident, a tiny slip and crying tears for 30 min. Can’t do ANYTHING alone. Emotionally and physically dependent. Needs everyone to baby her and accommodate her, being the center of attention, and she is the most lazy in the house yet she thinks crazily highly of herself and her accomplishments so she is never in the wrong, it’s always others. That’s my dearest older sister and why my family is toxic. So I think jasmine you’re a great older sister and too hard on yourself sometimes but as an independent girl you are my role model. But definitely not all older sisters are like that. I have to be like that in order to keep peace in my home….

OMG SAMEE GIRLIEE 😍😙 THANK YEEWWW

So sorry but you are an inspiration of positive independence 👍🙂 and I adore you 🥰💯

Myy mom is always likeee " You're elder uk, you should cooperate" I AM THE ELDEST EVER SINCE MY YOUNGER SIBLING WAS BORNNN!!! I didn't choose to be the eldest and role model!

I’m the youngest but i relate cause my sister is such a dare devil so in a way I have to make sure she doesn’t jump on a back of a truck or some shit

Being only child is also struggle too especially in asian household both parents have higher expectations from u. Also all the time i have figure out my decision as i don't have anyone to help especially when u become a teen u don't share much with parents so yeah 😅

Hats Off to JASMINE Jasmine jasmine (from nandan, hubli city, karnataka state, INDIA, jai hind)

frrr parents always expect their eldest child be perfect

Being the youngest sibling by 10 years I always thought the easiest position to be in would be the oldest.

AHH GURL SLAY BBG❤❤❤

Thank u gurl ❤❤❤ I love u ❤❤ jazzy unni

Resonated with everythinggg😭

I’m the oldest child too, and I feel exactly the same.

i love you jazmine!!!

EARLY we love you jaz❤❤

Me being the youngest can relate too... I guess my sister and myself were third parents to each other...😌

This is so true. I’m the eldest child of 5 and I have never had a real childhood because I’ve had to be the 3rd parent.

Pls reply to me but what foundation do you use

yk what jazzz I NEEDED THAT SO BAD!!!

This is the most relatable r of things jas has ever said

you are saying so much truth! SO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yeah jazmine although i have disagreed with you on some points but i agree with u on this one. Being the eldest child i can relate to crying for nights and not asking for help.😊

stop this is too relatable

as the eldest child in my family, my parents treat me like a test subject

the eldest daughter of an asian family especially if you are with your single mom takes a toll on your physical and mental health tbh. we don't have anyone to fall back on because we ourselves are the back up. 😅😢. this shit ain't for the weak. we have too little time ,so much responsibilities and high expectations placed on us.

Hey Jazzy ❤ Ilysm ❤❤❤❤❤

Love from Nepal 🇳🇵❤

Truth 💯💯

Love her new hair❤❤❤

I love her ❤

this was literally exactly the SAME happening to me except people pleasing

Really my parents compare me with other children out there...like do you even know how they are clubbing, drinking, shopping etc etc

I really wish her to upload vlogs!

Yay ur the oldest like me... and trust me, most of the time I wish I was alone(like living alone kind of alone)

I was just about to start self hating myself thanks for the video

People who what her to be her sister(not forcing) 👇

Omg I can totally relate to you!!

I was almost being a only child then i got 2 sisters, my life was perfect when i was "almost" an only child then my grandma stopped gave attention to me and gave attention to my sisters so, it is relatable to myself 😭

Why this is so relatable