5 Serious Red Flags That Should Never Be Ignored
There are developmental red flags we look for at different ages. But what many don't realise is that there are also a set of more serious red flags that you shouldn't see at any age. In this video I'll walk you through what these red flags are and what to do if you notice them with your little one.
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My daughter is 3 and has severe autism. Everyone told me not to worry, “she will talk, she will point, she will wave, every child is different, dont look at milestones” Now I wish I had worried sooner. Then maybe I could have gotten help for her sooner. Cause its true, the sooner you find out the better. Now it’s extremely difficult to teach her things. She still doesn’t do any of these things. Looking back I knew all along something was up. I wish I had listened to my gut feeling.
Sad to hear. But even if you would have listened to your gut feeling you still would have needed to find a doctor who takes your issues serious.
I guess you are putting too much pressure on yourself, three is not late to start early intervention. However if you have done the wrong intervention it is even harder to get things undone. Follow your child lead, with so called severe autism ( I am assuming no verbal communication) the children might actually benefit from alternative communication like typing and aac. Do not delay on building relationships through communication of all kinds despite forcing on talking. Autistics tend not express the best out from our mouth. It’s never too late and it’s defo not late to start at three.
Take it slow one day a time. She'll get there
Not sure if you do this already but you using baby sign language as well as talking is really helpful, your child might not pick up sign language but it would still be worth it for the developmental benefit of them taking it in (assuming they don’t have vision issues). Also, photo/ drawn cards of items that they can point at/ hold up is really helpful. Do they want a banana or strawberries, two card options to point to or we’re going on a walk to the park, show them the card of the park or outdoors then they might start to show you the card when they want to go outside (Disclaimer she might chew or throw the cards but still worth it and they can be made cheaply I used the back of cereal boxes cut up into cards and drew on it with the word underneath) Feeling understood regardless if verbal is such a boost to anyone’s confidence and helps development but just improves their quality of life. My daughter was so excited when I asked if she was thinking about bunnies when she started signing “bunny”, such a precious memory! Best of luck and I wish you and your daughter the best!
What could be done even if detected/diagnosed?
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Audiologist here: Remember that hearing comes in ranges! I often get parents in who say “I know there’s nothing wrong with my baby’s hearing because they startle when the dog barks.” But then we do the test (because they referred on a screen or have a risk factor) and they have a moderate high pitch loss. There’s so much range between hearing and deaf! Conversely, don’t panic if they don’t react to every single sound. Some parents are sure their baby is deaf because an ambulance goes by and the baby doesn’t wake. Part of my testing involves playing sound the equivalent of shouting in your baby’s ear, and if we can get them to sleep before I start, I promise they will sleep right through it. Look for consistent responses or lack thereof in a multitude of scenarios, and come in for testing when it’s recommended ❤
Thank you so much for this info. I'm a FTM and I have concerns regarding my newborn's hearing. When I share this concern with others, the immediate response is that she responds to noise. In doing more research, I have found info about what you alluded to earlier that hearing can range significantly and that range or pitch can be affected and lead to developmental concerns if left unnoticed and untreated.
@@MZMINI22 I always recommend requesting a hearing test from the paediatrician when you have concerns. In fact on our official criteria for “triaging” babies for testing, it is the top of the list for testing immediately. Hearing tests are risk free, no harm done if everything turns out to be within normal limits after all
Thank you so much for sharing your expertise!
We were never concerned about hearing issues, but were sent to get the hearing tests because he was a nicu baby. He passed the first perfectly. Then failed the next two because of water in the ears. Ugh! He responds to us talking to him and he talks back. It was better this last time.
@@tracy3418thanks for sharing. I've been concerned about my daughter's hearing but my pediatrician ensures me that because she is full term and passed the first that means there should be no concerns. I'll def keep pushing.
Thank you for sharing. Certainly useful
My pleasure!
Greatly appreciate these informative videos. I am always learning something new which is helping me become a better parent 😊
You are so welcome!
Looking at symetry of movements saved us. I get my daughter to fyziotherapy at 7 weeks old. She had predilection to one side, but we caught it in time. So we didn't need to follow Vojt's method. Now our daughter is 23 months old, our neurologists said there is no evidence of predilection, and we were only waiting for her to start walking. And she begun to walk last week. Yep, she started to walk at 23 months. Every test we did came back negative nad every specialists said that our daughter is healty, that she has her own pace.
My son didn't walk until about 16 months. Never even tried letting go until then.
My pediatrician was freaking out that my baby wasnt standing yet at her 9 month appointment... we hadnt been practicing standing b/c she was focusing on crawling so we didnt think to try standing yet
We sent to cps because our daughter didn't sit independently at 8 months. at 9½ months she learned to sit down and crawl... And when we was practicing sitting she aborted it directly by leaning back on us, she learn however to sit in the high char and in my lap ( with feets down) around 6 m.o.
The funny thing is that in some countries (like Switzerland where I'm from) it's not recommended to practice sitting or standing with your baby, they need to do it on their own.
What they do is stand him/her up and evaluate whether they can balance themselves when prompted. This is possible even for a non crawling baby, so the doctor's concern was warranted to an extent.
Thanks for these videos. They are immensely helpful. Also, first to comment here.
Thanks so much for coming back and watching more❤
My son is a few days away from being 15 months. I have been trying to get him to clap, wave and point but nothing. He was walking and 8.5 months and can say a few words. I know they hit these milestones at their own time but as a first time mother I cannot help but be concerned. I will be bringing this up to our pediatrician next month.
my son is 8month and 3 weeks aswell and same to him he is not pointing, waving or clapping yet. I also heard that boys are a bit delayed than girls in some motor skills. I wouldnt worry.
Just chiming in :) It’s awesome you’re so aware of your little one and what they need. I also want to share a bit of a story with you. I baby say a 2 year old boy who couldn’t talk, point and rarely laughed or smiled. I thought FOR SURE there’s was something going on. Two years later when it was time for him to start school - he was top of his class and reading chapter books at 5!!! Some people bloom later then others
My son started walking at 11 months. He was such a fast crawler, and walking was so much slower. Then when he started to walk, it quickly turned into running. I don't remember, are clapping, waving, and pointing on the list for the pediatrician visit? Not sure if everyone gets the same developmental questions or if it's by the place. My son doesn't wave and she wasn't concerned.
Is it normal for baby to skip a developmental skill. I asked this question because my 6 months old start to sit unsupported at 5 months old but unable to roll from back to front or front to back even at 6 months. She fusses during tummy time and I think she doesn’t like doing tummy time but she is able to lift head and chest off the floor when laying on her tummy.
My daughter is 8 months she starting papa but not to much is that okay doctor
Though completely off the topic but didn’t know where to bring it up!! My 8 month old son wakes up frequently and needs to be breastfed. Some nights he wakes up every 1hr and some nights around 6-7 times.. any tips or hacks that you would recommend for a good 4-5 hr at a stretch sleep? Also I’m curious why is it that they wake up so often!! P.S.: This is happening since he’s 1.5 months.
Can you go to the child health centre and ask about sleep help? Or ask your GP for sleep school referral. Good luck, sleep is important for everyone and it's very tough without it!
This sounds like my baby 😂 13 months now and still the same. And i am exclusively breastfeeding. I haven’t had a decent sleep since i gave birth lol. Now i am just used to it. At some point I tried the app called Huckleberry and it did help a bit but it’s too expensive for me to pay now.
I know my baby can hear just fine, but what do you recommend for safely cleaning babies ears! 11 weeks and I’m starting to get concerned about wax buildup!
Just the outer part is advised in Europe. The body expels the rest itself. You'll see it coming out don't worry.
My two month old can hear but ignores the heII out of me and sounds. He doesn't seek sounds with eyes or head. He has been referred to pediatric neuro development and early intervention as well as a pediatric gastroenterologist because... yeah. 😥
Hey , How is your baby now ? Getting better … my baby does the same … there is no eye contact . He is almost 3 months
In america infants and toddlers programs in your state are free! If you are concerned get an evaluation. They provide free early intervention services, ive been with them a year and helped my 1 year old with cognitive delay that was caught early. You dont need a pediatrician referral to get this evaluation
Thats fantastic! Thanks for sharing this great tip 🙂
How do you get acres to these programs?
@@LM-nn7sgyour pediatrician will let you know
My baby is 7 months use to respond to his name but now you will stand over him and nothing. He used to bable but don't do it a lot anymore. When I try to make him walk he stay on his toe point. He can barely hold things. He will crawl on the bed but when you put him on the floor. He just stare around confused. I notice these are all sign of early autism. His pediatrician think I am reading too much into it
My daughter was the same she used to crawl on the bed but on the floor she was scared She even delayed crawling She started at 9 or 10 months and started walking at 15 but still scared , like she's not much interested in walking but she walks😅
My daughter started calling me mama then forgot for a month and now she is 15 months old and says all types of mama words like mummy,Mimi,mama,Maa,Ami 😅 I Think you should give him sometime ,he will be alright (In sha Allah)if God will 🙏
yup, Allah Akbar sister@@faryalshahzadi7347
If your pediatrician thinks that, he’s probably right. Never hurts to get a second opinion but right now autism is “trendy” and everyone is desperately looking for signs to self diagnose themselves or their babies. So be careful. Just because he shows signs doesn’t mean he is, and 7 months is too young to diagnose him honestly. The walking makes sense, he’s too young to walk and if you’re having him hold your fingers that will make him stand on his toes. I’d get his hearing checked. But if you’re really concerned about autism, you’re going to have to wait a little bit and then get him assessed. I’ve never met a pediatrician that will diagnose a 7 month old with autism. Be careful what you read online, these are not definitive signs of autism but people are making it seem like they are because it’s seen as “cute”. Stray away from the self diagnosing of autism side of the internet.
Same with my son at 7 month he want to pick something I put in front of him because he can fall down after that he stop until 9 month 9 month after me and my husband encouraged him on play mat now he is going every where and he also stand himself and try to walk I read all things like you and went to doctor my doctor said give me your baby he is fine you should check yourself because you have severe anxiety regarding him 😂
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Okay so my husband and I are loving with his grandmother and her boyfriend. According to his grandmother her boyfriend calls my son by a name he prefers because my sons actual name reminds him of someone he apparently hates badly enough to disrespect me as his mother and the name my husband and I chose for him. His grandmother is pretty okay with letting him do and say whatever and if we were to say anything, I might worry there would be a backlash or drama either from her, her boyfriend, or both, potentially we would lose the roof over our heads, or literally nothing would come of it at all and anything we said would be disregarded. At first, the disrespect really bothered me. Beyond that though I worried it would confuse him. Which I figured would be a little difficult to get passed but once he is able to understand words, that confusion could be cleared up. I say all that to say, this video has me concern it may be a bigger problem than I presumed it to be... I'm not sure he knows his name. I haven't seen any solid signs that he does anyway. He turned 1 earlier this month... should I treat this more seriously?? If anyone can weigh in on it, it'd be greatly appreciated...
My niece is 20 months old. My sister was told she has a 7 month delay because she doesn’t speak, she guides you to what she wants. They told her speech therapy wasn’t necessary, but she opted to do it anyway. They played with her to encourage interest in speaking but no change really occurred after about 2 months. She doesn’t do well with eye contact. She got 3 different opinions, no one is concerned about autism.
My son really didn't start talking until 2. He's nearing 3 now and totally on par with language development!
I feel like diagnosing autism in girls is still catching up
My son didn’t talk until he was 2 yo and 2 months. Now he’s 6 and talks nonstop 😂 My daughter talked closer to her second bday. Relax for now and continue reading and playing with her.
My baby is 20 months old and she doesn’t talk much either. She’s very quiet and mysterious. She guides me to what she wants too. When she does open her mouth to say anything i am shocked. When she says anything it’s mostly baby babble and sometimes 1 word that’s understandable (ball, start, etc). Is your niece at least doing that? I honestly thought it’s a personality thing. I honestly think my daughter inherited my husband’s personality because he acts the same way as she does. He doesn’t talk and when he does talk to me I am always in shock.
People think autism is about social skills. It's only part of the diagnostic criteria. You need to see repetitive or restricted behaviours.
First time mum asking: when are babies supposed to start „talking“? Our girl (19 months old now) understands us quite well but rarely talks more than mama or yes and no. She’s bilingual. Does this make a difference?
You should talk to your pediatrician. Our daughter is trilingual, but speaks like a monolingual kid. Yes, they mainly start to speak with the age of 2, but every kid is different. Normally, they start having conversation, when they learned enough words in one language. Maybe you could encourage her more with animal names or other topics of interest. But the wisest would be to talk to your pediatrician, read aloud a lot and encourage speaking to motivate her. Best of luck
Yes it does, typically a pediatrician will recommend you incorporate sign language if your bilingual baby is having trouble learning to speak. Eventually they will catch up, but sign can help them communicate while they’re trying to learn those languages. I’d ask your pediatrician and see what he or she says.
My baby is 18 months old and also learning 2 languages. My pediatrician said that bilingual babies may take longer to talk because they are processing 2 languages at once. My son only uses words in English but seems to understand Spanish more. He only says a few words.
our son istrilingual and started talking a lot of words at 18-19 mo and 2 word mini sentences at 20-21 mo and now at exactly 2yo he's talking a lot. mostly talking happens in a veryb fast spurt around 18-22 months :)
@@aditideshpande3050 thanks you all so much. She is now 20 months old and every day she used more and more words , and quite relieved and happy for her
Do not focus too much in the milestones. It is just a guide. Give your baby the time and space to grow.
If a baby is behind in milestones it’s important that they get assessed. Early intervention is best. Some children NEED outside help in order to develop certain abilities and that is okay and important.
And miss the time when you could correct it
My personal experience: I was so into milestones. When my 15months baby did not achieve the said milestone I started to worry. And try a lot of unnecessary interventions. Eventually when he was 18 months old, he had achieved them and more. Interventions have wasted all my money and time that did not do anything beneficial to him. Don't say how would I know it's not because of the intervention. I know because im the parent.
@@bmagnus2729There should be some balance - the child will learn things in their time but if it takes too long it is better to consult with specialist - they will advise if we should do sth or wait more. 😊
True my baby wasn’t walking or talking enough at 18 months I got scared so he got referred for speech, physical, and occupational therapy, thankfully I didn’t follow with it and baby started walking everywhere days before being 19 months and now at 23 months he is talking more and more and even singing a bunch
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So on time. 😊😊 thank you. So. Much @emmahubbard Please my. Baby was so bulky before but now he's 5. Months and has just. Cut down. 😢 please what do I do
I can't get the developmental milestones chart. I've completed the request form like 10 times, but no email comes in. I've checked all the spam folders and tried for several days using various ways to get to the form (links from videos and through navigation on the website directly) - nothing! However, I received a newsletter I subscribed to. Something is broken in the chart request path. Please fix it! 🙏🏼
Sorry to hear that Katy! Could you please reply to the newsletter email you received with a note saying you didn’t get the chart and I’ll send it over
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Same here. Was never able to get it no matter how many times I tried.
My son was picking his head up since the day he was born. It this is any indication, he'll probably hit all his milestones early. 😂😊
Lifting head up in the first month after birth is hypertonia, you should go to the pediatrician to have your baby check up
@@huigao1404 no, lifting his head up doesn’t automatically mean that something is wrong with him. My baby lifted her head up the day she was bone, she also rolled over by 2 weeks, & when she was supposed to just barely learn to sit she was standing. & she’s completely healthy. Some babies just hit milestones earlier than others. If she is worried, I agree, talk to a pediatrician. But I’m sure she’s mentioned it already as they have you take milestone tests all the time at check ups. Don’t diagnose someone over the internet.
@@WhimsicalCrochetgood for your baby , no need to be defensive. That’s what my pediatrician told me , just share and be cautious , that’s all , no one gives no one diagnosis . Life is a marathon
@@huigao1404not necessarily, our ped observed my daughter doing this at the three week visit and he was satisfied she was getting enough tummy time. It doesn't mean it is good or bad to do it early. I will say my daughter is super mobile for her age, she keeps daycare busy. Just a curious kid I suppose.
not necessarily, and sometimes that could mean extra tension in their muscles. might be good to see an infant PT
Which red flag was the ignoring you?
The hearing one - specifically the mistake of thinking a child is ignoring people when the problem is they just can’t hear well
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You’re welcome! Thanks for watching 🙂
@@EmmaHubbardwhere can I get check my baby hear dr
Eye Practitioner here, if there's suspected eye problems, no matter how small, get seen by an eye health care professional, don't wait for 4months old
My baby keeps crossing his eyes at 2 months. But it seems like he’s doing it for very long periods. Not following objects
If you are concerned it’s a good idea to check in with your doctor who can see your little one in person.
Hey Emma , Is a 2 week old baby being able to roll over from their stomach to their back something to be concerned about? From what i understand they shouldn't be able to do that for a few months.
No it’s not. My baby did at that age and I called the pediatrician at the time. He told me it was fine and she’s now 20 months old.
@@ebonneenelson2325 ok good to hear thanks for the reply.
Unlikely to be a problem, but I would stop swaddling for sleep if you are doing it because it’s dangerous for them if they end up on their stomach in a swaddle.
No, my baby did this too. When I told her pediatrician he said that it was amazing and just gave me suggestions on how to keep her laying on her back while asleep.
@@OrthoLady agreed, also talk to your pediatrician about ways to prevent her from rolling over in her sleep as they’re too little to sleep on their stomachs. My pediatrician told me to roll up a small towel and wedge it underneath the side of her back / hip to prevent her from rolling while asleep. Just had to make sure it was rolled tight and didn’t go above her ribcage. Talk to your pediatrician before doing that tho, always get their input.
Bing watching baby videos 😅 got a 2 month boy, learning every day.
Same buddy same😅
Thanks - Hopefully you're finding them helpful
What can I give to my 11months to be big and weighty. He is skinny pls help
If you’re concerned about your little one’s weight a dietician or their doctor would be the best person to talk to. Sorry I couldn’t be more help.
You sound like you are from NZ still naming inches before cm - interesting :)
I'm Australian. I use both because my audience is from all over 😀
When should I start worrying about favoring one side over the other?
We’ve seen this kind of asymmetry in our little one when he was about 3-4 months old. He was rolling over only through his left arm. He was diagnosed with increased muscle tension and started attending physiotherapist. It isn’t particulary serious state, but as it is said in the video, it’s better to start as early as you can to avoid any further complications.
Our official national guidelines say whenever you see a difference, but personally I wouldn't worry about it when you notice it in the process of learning a skill. When they have mastered the skill with one side and still aren't catching up with the other, I'd go talk to a professional. But I'm not one, so if you can get an official answer, definitely listen to that over mine.
Depends. My daughter slept on only one side of her head, and I noticed it as soon as we got home from the hospital. Told the pediatrician at her 1 month appt, and he didn’t take it seriously. Turns out, she would eventually need PT to stretch out her muscles because she had torticollis. This can lead to a baby having a flat head, unsymmetrical muscle development, problems with crawling/walking, etc So IF there is something, it’s better to bring the issue up/keep an eye on it/educate yourself/advocate for your child’s health and wellbeing.
I flapped a little and didn’t respond to my name, often, when my mom called it. This was as a toddler. I started cruising at 7 months (that’s early) didn’t crawl much. It turned out I had/have autism. PAY ATTENTION TO MILESTONES.
Walking is between 10/18 months? That’s refreshing to hear since my grandchild is a year old and is not walking yet.
Don’t worry too much about average age milestones. My son start walking a bit older than a year. My son didn’t really call me mommy until 3 year old. I thought he might have some underlying issues. He was speech delayed and everyone think he could be Autistic. When he started kindergarten, he suddenly talking with correct grammar, response in sentences, crazy love math, etc…
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My daughter started walking now on christmas holidays, in 23 months old. And she is healthy (we were at many specialists, and did many tests, and she is really healthy). 10-18 months range is only "average".
my son walked at 14mo. he's 2 and runs and jumps way more than other kids his age haha dont worry
Doctors misguide so much when it comes to assessing milestones and tend to take them lightly. It’s extremely important that parents do their own research and be educated at the time of your doctor’s visit. Child’s time is very important specially until the age of 3 as brain development is almost complete by that age. Being proactive in catching any delays and working on them timely is vital.
Human brains keep developing until mid 20s. The prefrontal cortex, which we use to prioritise, plan and carry out decisions on low and high levels takes much longer to mature than the rest of the brain.
My son never response to his name and he’s turning 2 in January 2024
my daughter's vision is great, hearing is great, moves up and down using her legs when we are lying in bed to sleep. she speak daddy, and lots of words. the only red flag is that she cant walk. she can get up, sit, but cant walk at 17 month old 😢
Wait until she's 18 months
If she is standing and cruising along furniture then she is learning the skill and just building confidence. If she isn't yet standing then it would be good to check in with a physiotherapist.
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