I was deported from Germany to Kenya and my own mother has not checked up on me since | LNN
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Yelsha has never felt love from her mother.
When her mother moved her to Germany at just a young age, she admits she did not want to go
Now Yelsha who is just a young mom to a beautiful girl has been deported back to Kenya from Germany
So, what exactly happened and why has her own mother never checked up on her? What happened between them?
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Thankyou Lynn and the team for having me,I really appreciate the chance you give me❤️❤️❤️
You are most welcome Still sending you so much Grace, healing and a future conversation with your mom. Do not feel pressured by anyone Healing takes time and though I know there are things you shielded people from in this show, you will make it and I trust you will go far. You are Enough❤❤ Love and light❤
Be strong gal.. we may not understand your pain but you, yourself and God know you better. Worry not
God is seeing wat ur going through ❤no rain no flowers
You really have the best smile... Forgive and behold how God will bless you. Remember how we pray 'Forgive our sins AS WE forgive others' It's hard but just forgive
You will come out of this strong
The pain we pass through, “those of us working abroad” when we come back home with nothing 😭😭people forget the times we ran to western Unions to send money to their accounts😔😔I feel her pain 💯
I went through the same thing.... families though nkt 🚮
Thankyou ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you
True
Going through the same
Give this young lady grace. She went to a new country when she was young. Ended up in the hands of rogue Nigerian. Europe is not heaven (it’s very lonely). She has a disfunctional relationship with her mother. Not everyone had the privilege of having supportive parents. I wish her well! Love and light young lady.
People have no empathy.
this kids brought to Germany with family reunion, they come and start behaving like german kids disrespecting their parents. Ruin their own lives and blame parents.
@@PamelaOdedeyou are very right
The moment you associate yourself with Nigerians huku...baaas it's the beginning of the drama... especially kama Hana documents
@@jeps.e4305 please stop the racism, The statement should be the moment you mix with bad people cause they are in all race
I have a daughter, this girls age, she has told me so many times,to my face, I am toxic,controlling and petty etc..... I won't say anything but I wish we can hear her mother's side of story...... my girl hates me, and believes I don't love her, because she want to do anything and everything under my roof, na siulize swali.. she want me to stay silent,even when she is endangering her life, even heaven's know. Yes some parents are beyond parents but let's not judge her mother until we hear her side of story
Yes exactly 💯
to anyone who is carrying a heavy heart in silence, it’s gonna be okay someday.❤
My prayer & May God hear my prayers you have really wrote the truth
Yes it will🙏🙏
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Wow thanks for this
This comment section today is a little bit toxic. I wonder if we watched the same video. A girl started living alone at 16 but the expectations people are putting on her surely. Wengine even claiming she must have been difficult for her mum to neglect her. Like mnajiskiza kweli? Does it mean you were such perfect kids and that is why you earned your parents love? Please give her grace. She is too young to have gone through all that and the last thing she needs is people judging her. I wish Lynn anaweza funga this comment section juu this beautiful girl is so vulnerable to be reading some things mnaandika hapa.
People have already judged her while it’s her own story . It’s actually very difficult in European countries for African children and if a mother /guardians are not supportive the teenagers most of them have even become suicidal. That side of the story is what African people haven’t wanted to discuss . It looks like this girl has gone through it and I believe her. May she prosper in this new beginning.
Hope they will watch till the end❤❤❤
Don't judge a book by it's cover. For her to go through all that she is a strong one
It's these toxic women who always feel like they are always right and they know everything..
Just be open minded my sis left with a 12yr old and she's currently going through it..all we want is to hear the mom side of story..
Rejection is bad but when it's from your mom it's worse,I pray that you'll be okay Yelsha
Very true if your mother rejects you nothing works for you 😢😢but with prayers God is merciful.fighting rejection but l know I'm going to win😢😢😢
No one is talking about Wamunoi...having someone to host you and you have never met before it's a God's Angel send❤❤
Lynn I think you should bring her mum as well I feel we need to hear her side of the story..... watching from France
No need mum are toxic she will.juta pretend
Exactly many parents are complaining here in Germany,when they bring kids here from Africa they totally change and become totally dramatic and toxic,some end up in jail
@@muhiaray1932 imagine its hard for adults when we immigrate and we can protect ourselves, Whatabout kids, dealing with so many things including parents who are unstable.
That’s very true 🙏
The problem is hapa Germany huwezi chapa Mtoto na Kenya huwa wazazi Mtoto akisosa ndio hizo viboko😂. Nae mtoto mwenye ametoka Kenya akiwa mkubwa kwenye alikua akikosa NI viboko, Anakuja Germany paradise Hakuna kuathibiwa 😂. So for parents inakua hard to deal with kids. Ndio maana wazazi wanasema watoto wakija huku wanachange
Sacrificing your child for the sake of a man.This girl is a gem considering her age and I believe God will make a way for her.She needs to be prayed for and get deliverance from spirit of rejection.I love her love for her baby.
She's not suffering from any rejection, let's not sugar coat her mother's failures.
My dear this girl is just too entitled.i think her Mom tried but to her everything is stressful and not enough.i've stopped talking to my teenager daughter for 8months and I know what am talking about.nothing hurts like ungrateful child.
@@user-bw8xh7wf2q what is the relationship between you, your daughter and yelsha and her mother? Stop bringing your experiences into other people's experiences.
There is no spirit of rejection here.Most people in abroad if they do drugs or be in domestiv violence ,the kids ate taken by the government.Most probably the mothrr had a small home and the two childten could not be allowed in and her step dad was toxic too.The kids had to be rescued and thr mother opyed for her to go because she was not a biological child of the guu.The mistake the mom did was not to follow up so that she get legal status.That could have helped her
@@user-bw8xh7wf2qoh wow!!! You know, you said that you are a parent and you are going throught tough time with your own child. I hope things will get better between you and your daughter however, please don't use your case to judge this girl. In her own words, since her childhood, her mother always chose to put herself first without caring what happens to her. She left her in other people's care at a very young age so she can chase her happiness with men. She grew up in toxic environment brought about her mother and her men. Her mother didnt care much about her well-being. Then at a critical age of pre-teen she moved her accross the globe to Germany😢😢 Teenage years are hard enough for most girls. Just like you @ user, i am going through a very difficult time with my own daughter who is now 15. Everyone knows that it is a difficult phase and as a parent you love your child and do the best to help them. They usual come around when their hormones settle around 17,18,19. This girl never had much support as her mother was busy living her life with what sounds to be a difficult husband. Please don't judge this girl harshly. At least she wants to give her daugher the love and care she never had.
Please Please Lyne am from Kenya and i stay in Germany i dont want to comment anything about this gal but kindly i Wonne request you to seach for her mother and hear the other side from her mother.......am a mother and i know the challenges we Do face
I know of a gal who used to live with her uncle there, she became drunkard na unajua majuu huwezi chapa mtoi hivihivi Her uncle had to deport her Kuna Kenya akapelekwa rehab, am a witness this guy has spend fortune to change this gal's life but she didn't put the effort to change Last yr she passed away sababu ya hio tu pombe Now who do we blame here, uncle or the gal!!!!! It's good we here the side of the mom.
I said this . We need both sides
One thing that triggered her deportation I must say, is Her moving from another city without notifying the Home office/foreigners office. She needed to inform them especially when she had applied to extend her residence because your proof of residence is one of the most important things for renewing your stay in Europe. That's why she couldn't get the letter, which might have been an appointment, requesting information, and so on... Europe is all about principles. It's sad what happened to her, let's support her, and her daughter.
From the comment section I have realised that most people and sadly women have judged these girl . They don’t believe parents can be toxic . She was underage and the mom was to make sure her documentation was in order but she didn’t. That’s the first mistake. I wish her the best and may she find her way .
actually, it is true that parents can be toxic. but when you became an adult, you owe to yourself to decide the kind of life you want to live. someone of us have done so many odd jobs that we hated to start out in our careers. took ourselves to college so we could do the jobs we wanted. just saying.
@@user-gu4gi6cz3v it’s so difficult in a different country if you have no proper documentations . Your experience is different from her just send her grace don’t compare.
Do you also know that this children can be so toxic but parents are so afraid of talking about it?😢😢
As a parent a child mirrors 🪞 what you are .
Exactly 💯💯💯 I am in the same 🚢🚢🚢 but the difference that am in Kenya
I bumped into her channel some weeks back seeing how she even had to throw some of her belongings and she did not have any support, made me feel like she just needed a hug and someone to tell her everything will eventually be okay. Lynn you are absolutely the right hands he has fallen into
Let’s support her❤❤ She will go far❤
take time so you can heal, don’t start dating
This young lady needs therapy to get her from negative vibes. Everything snd everyone is toxic..baby daddy, family members,mother,adopting family... She needs a shift on the mind set.she also needs to acknowledge her mistakes..no human is an angel
I have a 13 year old and her dad and I have had a very difficult relationship since day one because of his alcoholism and the resulting issues that arise from that. We separated when my daughter was 7 and I've spent the last 7 years pouring out my love, energy and resources on her. I even refused to date or remarry. Our children should be our top priority, no matter what. I can't sleep, not knowing that my child is unsafe or cold or wanting in any way. I've only spent 3 nights away from her since she was born. If you're not ready to love your children unconditionally, please don't have them 😢
Let me tell you Maina….This gal is going far than she has ever imagined,I’ve just watched a lady destined for greatness for the rest of her days as long as she stays focused,no distractions especially from the opposite gender!!! I wish I could just hug her ,such a calm spirit..Mungu Mbele 💪🏻!
Is she sits down and talks to herself, get to realize that she’s not as innocent as she tells her self then she’ll go far but if she keeps blaming everyone for her bad behavior then she’ll no go far. She needs to take a good look at herself especially now that she’s a mother herself.
I dont know about her experience but i see a mother who never left her child behind. Even the adoption issue couldve been the best option for her to try and give her daughter the best. Maybe she had no option of living her behind with anyone she trusted. I relate this to my daughter whom i brought to US. She went round my friends and relatives saying lies about me, poisoning everyone about me. In the end, everyone knew what she was and she was kicked out. She still believes i hate her, yet i had to house her at 23yrs going 24. My daughter ni kichwa ngumu. Everyone warned me about taking her back in, she will land me in problems. She is the kind who wants to live kim kardashian lifestyle. She dont want to work but party party party. I see a concerned mum, who even hugged her when she was thin and all. Huyu haelewi motha yake anajaribu ku struggle asome apate maisha mazuri. I see that. Dont bash me, its my opinion. I know this kind
Darling you are very right.
In Germany after 18 if you don’t become productive they will deport you.
Which kind do you know? How many times has your daughter told you the people you left her with are mistreating her and as a mother you do nothing? How many people have you hosted knowing they are threat to your child? How many? Why would a great parent give a child they can afford to raise up for adoption? You choose a man over a child and you are a good mother ?Please if this in not part of child's story, then your story and this story are nothing alike. Also as a parent which effort have you made to understand your daughters behavior, you concluded she is kichwa and you are the perfect mother for taking her to the states. I love parents like you who live in the African bubble where parents think they are always right and are so detached with their kids hence do not treat them like humans who make mistakes, go through things, endure stuff. And while you as a parent hold the right to distance yourself from a problematic child, you should do so after you've tried the best you can Finally kids never care about the material stuff if you listen to most people talk about problematic relationship with parents it has everything to do with emotional absence, lack of protection and abuse that parents dint give much of a thought to because when they do those things they think they are doing their kids a favour. The day parents accept they are humans too and own that sometimes they hurt kids knowingly and unknowingly, a good chunk of pain in families will be healed. Yes this girl has a lot to work on , she has made her mistakes but she is a representative of so many kids who question their parents love because their actions and choices that impact you do not match the love parents claim to have.
You right is beautiful girl might not be that innocent. Labda she became wild out there. We can not tell. But she will be well..❤❤
love you
The mother of this girl failed her terribly, I pray that all this will pass and she will rise to be star huyo mama ahaibike.
For those asking for the other side of the story, it seems to me, the girl struggled when she went to Germany and the parents could not cope so she went to the foster care system which can make or break a child/teenager, the system broke her. Also remember the mother and the daughter did not really know each other well as she said the mother was in Norway and she lived with people who did not treat her well. There was no real bond between mother and daughter during her formative years and that can cause trust issues and lack of understanding between the two.
One year in Norway
Yes, there are two sides to a story. She said most of her family is toxic, at 24, tictoc poser and have a baby and not married and no baby father...it seems EVERYONE in her life is at fault except her...not a straightforward story here.
@@lsalmon907that is usually the sign of someone seeking love from outside. She was excluded for a long time. Kenyans and Africans in general need to learn compassion and take basic psychology classes.
@@ireneatieno8729Very true, remember, she has never experienced true love right from childhood! How do you think these kids get into such behaviors? Because of no love extended to them! Indeed, she came to get a man at that age, because she was seeking for love. We think that we are going to bore kids and leave them for the world to raise? Impossible! Am very sure the mother is dealing with lots gauging from her character, and therefore, we have to know that this girl was abandoned, and left for the mercy of whoever… God let her conceive so that her life can be spared, otherwise as she said, she would have long left this world, if she didn’t have that child to give her hope. May the Lord’s grace continue to be upon her to carry through and also to forgive her mother for complete healing and a new beginning.
There’s 1,2 parts of the story not adding up… if you were adopted by a German family, then it means you became a German… hapo kwa Aufenthaltstitels sijaamini. And no one is subjected to Pflege by force by the government, (maybe by circumstances) but si na gava hapo umedanganya. But there are so many Afroshops, salons, hotels etc.. so what do you mean the government is not allowing foreigners to be entrepreneurs?!! Cause to them is all about taxes… ! Ebu Sema ukweli please!
Yes your correct coz story yake is not adding up, how can a mother reject her own daughter and in germany Kuna job mob , brought my daughter in 2011 sahii anasomea nursing. Aufenthaltstitel iki expire you can renew it ,aseme ukweli .Deportation yake maybe there's another reason.
@@stellamarburger5239Alijiingiza kwa mambo mabaya kwanza hapo kwa company za wanageria alinoa
Well, I live in Germany with my family. Guys, it's not easy abroad! Everyone's situation is different. She has made the best decision moving back home for peace of mind. Other things will follow because she has a willing heart. Wishing her the best!
There's a lot of gaps in the story. The lady seems not ready to disclose details and often resorts to "I don't know" when asked further...
Turning 38 this month happily married and a mother, honestly i still struggle to understand what i ever did to mum for her not to be my best friend or be there, it's true that teenagers can be difficult but i'm almost 40 now....
Ladies, please please, these situations are sometimes not of our choosing, but once you have a child, know you MUST love that child. You must be present and available, NO OPTIONS. Otherwise you are setting up that child for so many problems, especially emotional and mental health in future. We have so many single moms and dads who have brought up well balanced children. Lets not reject our own blood.
MY dear here in Germany if you bring your child ,be ready for a shock,These children rebelled, because of the culture here,dont blame the mother ,because i am going the same with my son ,i brought him when 13 years and after 2 years ,He rebelled, because of how the government put the laws,, This Lady is Not telling the truth,i live in Germany here for New 17 years and most of the things she is saying is Not true,she better Tell the trueth..I homepage the Mother Tell her Story too
@@user-zc2zt9nc4scome on and tell her story Mrs know.
@@user-zc2zt9nc4s so now since your son is rebelling are you also planning to abandon him ama una jaribu kutuambia nini🤔
@@anncate5103:In such a case, the Child welfare, will come in and take sides with the child because their interest is the kid. Ile shinda huyu mama atapitia, wacha tu. The child welfare is very racist, and they will take her son away, the rest is history, adoption etc. Children have many rights here.
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Yelsha we are allowed to love people at a distance💕
There two sides to a story. I have one child who tells people how i hate and abandoned him. What he doesn't say is how he refused to be responsible even to attend classes in school and college. When i demanded accountability and support his lifestyle we fell out. Racisim is there if living abroad but you got to ignore it and mind your own businesses. Thats what we bear to live hear. The best way is to be positive and don't dig out negative things. You can only help a child to help herself. Children have to be willing, positive and have a degree of obedience to parents Its now my son would like to go abroad and make his own money but its difficult.
My thoughts too
Very well said,IAM wondering how can all people be bad to her .?
I am raising 3 kids in Germany n I can tell kids that are brought from Africa to Europe never integrate in European society...kwanza they change to an extent you can't believe ni mtoto wako
@@malojamal3038i said this on her live and she blocked me. Most of this kids brought to Germany take advantage of freedom german children have and they forget they are foreigners.
My mouth is shut but what this lady is saying I can just say on her way starting her Journey in she made a huge mistake that before she realize it was too late to make things right… We all live in Germany but vitu anaongea wow….in the first place we should stop being the enemies of ourselves,we should learn to appreciate the grace that has come in our life, accept and move on.and also to be Remorseful in life even once and God will see us through… I mean like if you listen to her mother too utalia… Anyway tuombee watoto wetu sana sana sana If they know what we pass through to make things right to bring them join us…Mothers sacrifice very Hard out here to make Ends meet…atleast now she is a parent she will understand the pain of a Mother
Lynn, there is always two sides to a story. You need to find out from the mother's side what really happened, I don't believe that a mother would abandon her own child for no cause. From my own own intuition and understanding of her statements, I think she was living an irresponsible lifestyle, or she is disobedient to her mother. A country like German cannot deport somebody who has a child in that country except she is involved in an illegal behaviors especially drugs. She need to come out with the truth before attracting sympathy from your viewers. I think there is something she is not telling you about her relationship with her mother. I feel so sorry for the little innocent child that she brought back.
Immigration requires more than relocation, it requires integration!,, Now this is where the family messed up: 1-They should have done everything possible to get her permanent residency & eventually citizenship.( before turning 18- Volljährigkeit). 2-She should have added value( school, Ausbildung, learning the language etc). By her not completing school was a big mistake!! 3-What she is referring to is not adoption( she was put into the childcare system-Pflege Familie, most likely because of being abused as a minor , negligence or family conflicts). 4-Her getting pregnant 🤰, dropping out of school and not being fully integrated was the biggest mistake. Now this is why she got deported: The fact that she was already 18( volljährig), she needs proof of integration and employment for her to get visa extension or residency!! Saying that you are forced to do Pflege( taking care of old people just because she is black is NOT TRUE!!) & it’s not okay spreading such confusing narrative ‼️ And racism is definitely not the reason she got deported‼️ The reason I am writing all this is because I am very well conversant with the law, work in the system and hope this helps other immigrants in Germany and those planning to relocate. As regards her deportation,what actually happened in her case is AUSWEISUNG( expulsion) in which case you are asked to leave the country & if you freely do, you are financially supported with roughly 750-845€( which she probably got)! So it wasn’t a deportation, otherwise she wouldn’t have been able to go to the airport by herself.
Good for explaining the system. Some of us couldn't understand before.
@@franmdleleni6520 thank you 😊
Thank you for this....
Hii lynn hataona😂😂😂
@@marylineawuor7618thanks
A person who complain about everything is not easy to deal with them,.all her problems is people's faults.a Mother who hates a child can never give her a chance to travel abroad.parents of GZ are going through alot with teenagers of nowadays.we need to hear her Mom's side of the story
Very true , God bless you 🙏
@@imelda4jesusare you the momy😅 your pretty like her.
Haki huyu msichana "ati machakula" She complains over everything. Mum is a great mum she carried you along to Germany. But God will see you through you have a great future all this will pass.
So true.. Mature reasoning
No reasoning in your comment. Zero
"When we don't heal, we risk becoming like those who hurt us"
She seems like a good hearted person ,may God protect her and bless her abundantly with her baby .
Watching this young lady was a treat. Strong and independent. Greetings from Switzerland. I would adopt you in a heartbeat. So much hope for her. Well done Stemy.
I saw this gal documenting her deportation journey and thought what a strong lady she is. Those saying this gal rebelled because of children rights need to understand that children rebel because of environmental reasons not the law. It’s evident she had childhood traumas right from Kenya and it only got worse when she went to Germany because her mum had wrong priorities. You cannot prioritise anyone else over your child and expect the child to respond like an angel. It all stems from parenting tusidanganyane. Therapy will help her to heal though it maybe a long journey she has years of unlearning the negativity from her childhood traumas
I saw this journey too she a strong woman destined For grateness.
Thanks for understanding her . She really need therapy. Benjamin Zulu will be good for her
very true
she need the word of God nothing else seek the kingdom first and the rest is history
she is youre mother the first healing will come from God you mother is you mother no matter how she try to find her and tell her all the hearts you have after that you will leave in peace
When she said "she didnt even call me to ask how i was" I felt that. This is my story too and thank you for sharing.
Did you also have a similar experience?
@@user-ij4lj4yo2o yes. My mom left us when we were very young. I came to know her when I was all grown but we have never had a relationship. I have had ups and downs in my life and I don't ever remember my mom checking in once. I have attempted suicide before and sometimes I just feel alone and want her to care but she has never called in these instances even once. There's a time I received a diagnosis for some illness and she never asked, not even once how i am, or whether im getting treatment or anything. It was serious and my treatment would last for like three years. . There's a time my roommate asked me "kwani mamako huwa hakujulii jali? Coz her and her mom would talk daily. Honestly I'm not close to my mother and I don't feel anything for her. Not love. Not hate. She's just the woman who gave birth to me is all.
Are you reachable?
@@user-ij4lj4yo2o sure! 😊 Mail?
Its very strange that this girl takes no responsibility for nothing .strange story, But I wish her nothing but the best in the future.
Everything is her mother’s fault 😂😂😂
exactly, her story does not add up
I don’t know if we watched the same story, but from the beginning, she was an abandoned child, her mom seems to only care about herself. And let’s not act like many mothers hate their kids, especially when the father has abandoned them. This is common in Africa, and that’s why that continent is going nowhere! Most kids are brought up in toxicity, and because in that society adults are always right, children have nothing to say, we see the results: African children don’t thrive compared to others, and that is FACT! 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
Awww... paused .. went subcribed.. watched some. She's my daughter's age. I simply love and connected with her. Yelshi... i can stand in the gap of your mother. Smitter you with motherly love and that beautiful grandchild. My heart melted with warmth as you narrated your story. Blessings galore 🙏
Wooow 🎉🎉🎉 Blessings mamie ❤
Bless your heart!❤
Guys me i live in Germany,but hawa watoto ukiwaleta kutoka kenya wanakua kichwa,mtoto mwingine wa rafiki ya she is 17 years but tulikua Festival mama yake akamutuma amuletee icecream alimwambia yuko miguu miwili anaeza enda kujichukulia,and i asked my friend huyu mtoto anakuongelesha hivyo? And I i told that child she should go and bring her mother ice cream....niko na kijana wangu kenya nimemusomesha primary secondary anavaa nguo za Germany kila mwaka nikienda namuona but alisema haezi niita mum kila siku ananisema kwa cousin zake naakaniblock just imagine this kids wacha tu wanasemaga hawapendwi and we sacrifice alot to help this kids.
And then huyo kijana nimemusomesha boarding school then mtoto ananiblock
Your son and this babygal have a core wound called ABANDONMENT. Her mom abandoned her for Norway, then aprooted her from Kenya to Germany without any nurturing. She could not flourish. As for your son, even if you buy him the whole world, it cannot heal his abondment wound. Try therapy with your son, it might heal your relationship. He has probably gone through a lot while you are away.
Wangu wa 10yrs nikiwa na bol ya 9 months anaangusha kijiko ananiita nikiwa kitchen heti nikuje nimuokotee kijiko kimeanguka chini ya meza😅
It is your job to sacrifice for you kid. You are not doing them a favor. You are doing your job.
Being rejected by the only person you call family is one hell no one would want to go through. This life got no balance😏
I took my son back to kenya at age of 16,otherwise he could either had died with drugs or jail, Don'tJudge us mothers we go through alot abroad with Our kids the System is diffrent.The boy had friends from West Afrika, Turkey because Our Black kids doesnt know where they belong si from Kindergarten isolation begins. My son is watching and he is glad i safed him now he is back as an adult with 25 working and we are friends he is not bitter
Exactly. Huyu ni wale wa kichwa ngumu. The mother tried. Yoy know what it takes to bring a child to US or majuu? Aki I have suffered hadi my health has gone down due to stress. Stagged surgery. Jana amekasirika na mimi juu I did not make her hair because I was tires from a 16hr shift, tend to his baby brother, cook, clean, tired and in pain. I took my narcotic meds for pain and slept. If I go to ER I will be admitted. If I get admission who will care for my 12 yr old brother? She won't. She has done it before and I almost lost my son to the system. I had to fake my being well to be discharged and run back home. At some point I left the hospital without telling anyone for my sons sake. Hii generation z???? Huyu! I don't believe her
Her mum is not checking on her since probably she is so hurt by her, being taken to germany and messing the opportunity. Being an adult comes with responsibilities. In Kenya u cant get any help. U will figure out u where in a great place. Good luck .
My mum is an angel, one in a million, at her 70's she was able to run my finances with all the honesty, and bought me a piece of land in mūgūtha,and built me a multi million house, four bedroom all master ensuite, accounting for every coin she spent, i only managed to travel back home s year later after the house was completed, she has bought for me multiple plots in good area,mum live long, when everybody else took advantage of me, you stepped inn and did the unimaginable.🇬🇧🇬🇧
I totally relate. My mum has never loved me since childhood and she would do anything to hurt me. So your own mum rejecting you is the worst feeling ever. But God always puts mother figures for us. Much love
Hey pole for that. Others we're loved and sometimes get kissed on our cheeks
God always puts mother figures for the rejected children, so true
Same story 😭😭😭 wuuuueh
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Weee kumbe tuko wengi. Me and my cousins confide in each other about our narcissistic moms
Since childhood I've been battling rejection from family members all round,,I can relate with her story.,,..hope she finds hope an Love to move on.❤❤❤
So true Monica toxic parenting exists, I can relate to this girl's story. One day I'll tell my story. All I do now is to pray for mothers.
@@blessingfavour3198And it takes time cope and overcome.prayer is key .❤️
Spirit of rejection can be broken . And Spirit of rejections comes where there is Rebellion.
We are many, my mother hated me so much probably because my dad loved me so much. She even said that I should go and ask my dad who my mother is. I have been really trying to find out if I had another mum only to be told that she is biological mother
Don't be dumb if u notice it be the one rejecting them
I saw her story 1yr ago about being deported and finally when she got deported it not that easy i felt for her God will see her through everything happens with a reason
To anyone outside there going through family rejection ,this things are there it's just people refuses to accept and toxic parents may God's love locate you
Lynn I love how softly you handle people. You sense their fragility and treat someone softly as needed. I appreciate that. May your guest heal and find freedom & happiness here in KE.
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That's true.
Honey, I believe you should pray to God against the spirit of rejection…I see that all through her story plus I’d like to say German people are the most friendly I’ve come across coz I work in Germany and I’m super dark skin
Thanks Lynn for bringing this story cos it has a lot questions. I have bin here 13 years and surely I can almost swear the Germany that I know could not just do that without a good and I mean good reason but lemmi sit and listen. I will share my two points later 😊
Well said, deportation does not just happen.No work, not going to school, moving from gemeinde to gemeinde without even registering...............expecting the government to pay your bills because you are choosy looking for your choice work yet not doing anything kimasomo to get that dream job.I call it teen fantasy
I have a lot of questions. I also brought my girl to Germany at the age of 7 now she is 24 yrs . We live in a small village. That’s why I have so many questions.
I cried watching this thank you for shairing 😢😢. KEEP STRONG AND GOD BLESS YOU ❤
Hey Lynn Ngugi we love you eo much . This story is not adding up i live in Germany as well ,how come she was adopted and didnt have legal documents in Germany she could have even sued them or look for a lawyer,anyway bring the mama also we want to hear her story
..i feel her. Staying abroad, without family support, especially in some countries would traumatize any person.
Ive been following this queen since I joined KZhead and TikTok ❤may Almighty God see her through ❤
To make it in Germany you need exposure and get all the information right. Do an Ausbildung *go to college and learn something *Germany don't allow laziness. If you are a baggage to the government and you don't pay tax.. They kick you out. Gal I feel you and praying for your healing
You have that EXACTLY right!!! What I see around me are Africans hanging out with each other and not really assimilating into the society. A college or university degree is a good start but even better is training in any skill. It is called Ausbildung in Germany. The German government will pay for it if you need help with rent or food or heating. The Ausbildung is absolutely free because there was a law passed some years ago that everyone who needs a skill or a profession will get it. Nursing is a popular profession for many foreigners. Nursing school also pays you during your training. I see many foreigners, black and white having many babies and living off the money the government pays for each child and they are perfectly happy living like that until things are different. My African gf who has lived here forever her own kids were born here and are having children of their own. She said that she and many others were always into the partying crowd, the expensive shoes and bags crowd and none of them ever thought of what was going to happen when they got older. She also said they could have bought their own apartments etc. Now they are all older and some have to collect social security. She has degrees and she has a skill. She is now working with the govt. teaching skills to women.
Germans will use you like rags to clean old people maviz
Exactly and now she's all over blamjng Germany/Germans yet she was a buggage for German tax payers.
It depends if you see German as your destiny! Some of us we don’t! Refugees who came for money here go chase the German stress
Halafu hii tabia ya watu kutumia the term narcissism just to go abit over the top on what they perceive happened to them is so wrong. Narcissistic personality disorder is a very serious mental health disorder and can only be diagnosed professionally. Just a google search is not a diagnosis. Its really absurd to see people now using this term as a trend.
Noticed her from truth watchdog love her content. God has his ways, finally learned to live your life not caring peoples opinions to way you down.
I applaud this girl for being truthful about living in a foreign country. When in kenya people think its all milk and honey. They forget that where thet land is different in culture. Most natives will tolerate Africans but will never embrace them on the same level as themselves. At least at home you are accepted for who you are. Its time to be real about immigration experience.
My mum tells me clearly she doesn't love me and from the bottom part of my heart I don't care bcos enough was enough 😢😢
My mother insults me ever since I was a young girl like she never gave birth to me or she regrets it!
😂I will never forgive my mum,,she choosed a man over me..eti ana mtoto ndio aolewe😂
Watu wamesoma na wanatrevel...much info is needed..it's unfortunate this happened to her...but as a psychologist...this one side...she is shelling out to find solice... That doesn't solve the ISSUE
People here throwing negative comments and even in their 30s and 40s they are still making stupid mistakes..the gal was barely 20 for heavens sake..
Yeèeeees girl❤❤❤they have not gone through.
Woiee she really also needs prayers too I've been living in Germany through prayers fasting life is at peace.. I've never faced racism i feel like i walk with God's favour i meet very nice people ..some things are like generation curses ..spirits of rejection every corner from your own parents to r.ship to the country too
There are always 2 sides of a story and if Germany was bad hawangekuwa wanakulipia nyumba and give her food and if the mother was bad hange hata mbeba kutravel nae there must be something not clear.
Aseme ni tabia yake mbaya na manaigerians na drugs imetupa adoportiwa,for me she’s not talking true
She sounds vety genuine about her relationship with the mother..but i understand from stories i have heard from My friends who left with young kids to Germany they turn out to be very unruly..no judgement but we need to hear the mom's side
My prayers for this young girl & trust me you will be great watch this space. Just focus& avoid bad friends
If you were adopted you couldn't be deported, its foster family who are given children and get paid..
Plus she was in Germany for 10 good years ...something went wrong somewhere
I manifest healing🙏 😢 To any one who has been through Narcistic moms/Parents, Rejection trauma...I resonate hoping to be able to talk about it one day and heal❤️🫂 Sending love.
All the best gal. To my daughter, this has taught me to be there for you always an i promise i will.
you are grown and strong use your exposure from Germany in Kenya, du schaffst das!
True she got to heal completely first.
I may be quick to judge but let's bring her mother on set and have a balanced narrative.
True..
hearing one side of a story is not fair
This lady needs therapy.. i hope she finally gets there
Women are known even here to hate their kids so as to look attractive to men. Especially these ones who want to go with white men as beggars, they are losing their kids to get those passports. Not everything that glitters is gold but we know these things very well.
I don't understand why she did not get her permanent residency when she got adopted by the Germany family. From what I know, once you get adopted, you automatically gain citenzeship through your adoptive parents.
she is speaking good Swahili for someone who went to Germany at 13.
I also speak Swahili and kikamba , left Kenya at 15, and over 23 years , still here …. 😢
@@DavTec1 ooh thats soo nice.
She's beautiful and destined for a greater future. Don't I love how Lynn handles her through the whole interview. She doesn't even believe she didn't cry.. Yelsha your tomorrow will turn heads to look back..
Nothing heals the past like time and no one can steal the love you're born to find. You will be just fine ❤
In Germany you marry a Nigerian at your own risk. I know of another Kenyan married to a Nigerian. She went to apply for resident permit with her husband's documents and she was denied. They said the documents were fake. They don't even trust their own legal documents they've issued to a Nigerian. I can relate to that rejection thing from a mother. It ain't good at all, but God will always provide us with ways to overcome it.
Even France especially kama Hana documents utachongeshwa viazi.
I can relate with this lady. She has just boosted my morale. Thank you Lynn for bringing her on board. Be blessed both of you.
I wish this girl was my daughter - determined and loving herself. She is so pretty too. God continue to uplift you.
The worst thing a child can ever experience from a parent is rejection..may God see you through
I don’t know about it being the worst but granted, it’s a bad thing to go through
The composure in her says a lot about her. She is going far
You are very brave… it takes a lot of courage to accept your circumstances and move on to start afresh the way you have…keep forging on and don’t give up, because sometimes what may seem like doors closing for you might be a redirection to see other doors that are better opportunities for you. The only thing I would say though is that coming from a stand point where I can heavily relate to your story especially the relationship with your mom, is that forgiveness is often misunderstood. Forgiveness is for you, letting go of the bitterness and hurt to those that hurt you releases you and allows to heal and will ultimately make you a better person and mom.. it doesn’t mean you have to have a relationship with your mom or even speak to her or see her ever again. In fact you can maintain no contact and distance from her for life but forgive her for you because that kind of hurt festers and turns to bitterness which affects your wellbeing… therapy is a great way to start that journey❤
Am a single mam of 10 Yr old gal working outside the country... This story I can't comment.
Something is not adding up.kuna mahali she lost it kwa system because the document of three years is the best for start up in Germany...can we hear the mothers side of story please
She was young it should have been her mothers responsibility.
European treats African very bad
Very sad that she was in a foster family and the mother was around. If you come to Germany on spousal visa it is renewed every year or 3 years depending on state you are in and the spouse has to approve the visa for you. So she was under the step fathers visa. So if the family setting was toxic and since she was a minor she was taken to foster family until 18 but it didn’t work so she gets social welfare housing with social workers supervision. The mistake the young people make is to walk many times with people who are also looking for papers. She was deported because her stepfather did not approve the visa but they didn’t tell her. And if the babydady does not identify the child or is not a German then you can’t get a visa. She was messed up by the wrong information she got from young people. In Germany you need to be alert with right sensible people to do the right thing. There are a lot internships she could have done to keep her status valid. But her visa issues come from the parents and they wanted her to be deported period.
Thank you for your enlightenment. I have been struggling to know her true position in vain,but now I know. One question . What happens when the spouse dies for both the wife and the step child
hapana..i live in germany ..once you hit 18 you are considered an adult..its either two things either her mum is not a citizen because once you as a parent you are a citizen your child is considered one too...Also remember in germany you have to favour the system or it will ruin you.. I repeat germans are very strict.
@@priscaooko4626 please can you elaborate . What does favouring the system mean.
I love her,always encouraged, energetic,positive minded I always listen to her ..beautiful her..
I actually paused and subscribed to her youtube.... aki Lyn what have you given me? All in all Lynn you are the best❤
Let us not paint Germany or Germans as bad. They have helped me with Papers, paid my Rent, directed me to my career today and I am really greatful. I have made friends who have been nothing but good to me. My bosses from my different jobs fought for my stay and papers, they even made calls to the Bosses at the immigration. I listened to her story juzi and there are mistakes she made that would have been avoided. When you go to extend your stay as a foreigner , you have to provide the reason for your stay eg school admission, work contract, marriage etc not without anything because you are clearly not a native. There is no Problem in extending your documents in another stated, I have done it two times. Getting help from the Government when you are healthy and capable to work or got to school is a bad sign to the Government, especially because of the political situation in German . Go to school, work and pay your taxes no one will bother you, they will respect you. If you don’t like a place just go, don’t wait for the Government to come for you, because you never know what the future holds, you might want to travel back.
They German government would rather admit Afghanistans and Muslims rather than Christians. They will reap for admitting over a 1 million Muslims to their country .
Me too, i came to Germany from kenya with a degree. I had tarmacked in Nairobi and lost hope in life. Germany turned my life around, i was able to go back to school, without paying any penny, build my career and am able now to take charge of my life. I pay my own bills and taxes. God bless Germany
Me too Germany has been good to me and my family. I feel like she lacked proper guidance. Alafu she will be great in kenya too
@@ruthKim-dt4lt she sure will. She has a willing heart and that’s important.
@@keziamathuku1528 : She will make it in Kenya.
I lived in Germany for like 6 years. Believe me I've never ever paid electricity bill of 180 €.My 3 room apartment I pay max 70 €.😎🇺🇲
mine 4 rooms apartment i pay 68€
Stumbled upon this video by accident and i must say... you get a like and a follow from just the intro... i love how you're supportive of others by asking us to subscribe to your guests channel BEFORE you advertise your own. The rest of the interview tho... omg! What an amazing journalist... more power to you mama!
This girl is very strong. Much respect to her .baby girl you will go far. Love your child as much as you can.
If you are adopted by Germany family you get permanent residence permit or Germany passport but not Duldung . Something is not adding up in this story Lynn .
I think it is foster family
I feel like there's more and more gaps here. Let's hear from her mother. It's not adding up.
Huyu ni wale watoto hawatosheki hata uwafanyie nini kazi yao ni kucomplain na kurandaranda,In oder achukuliwe atenganishwe na mamake lazima alikuwa anamreport mamake kwa authority akimblack meil hakuona situation ngumu yenye alikuwa akimueka mamake,mamake angekuwa hampendi vile anasema angemleta Ujerumani coz pia hiyo stress ya kumtafutia papers za kufika huku sio rahisi,I feel this girl was so difficult to handle for both parents and Government,alafu makosa yeyote ya mtoto under 18 mzazi ndio huwa😢 blamed
Lynn Ngugi, Sitaki kuongea sana lakini huyu mshichana kuna kitu alifanya coz Germany Government haiwezi rundisha mtu akiwa na Papers unless umefanya kitu mbya sana.
I think there is a lot of gaps in this story, if the mother could be brought on set somethings could be brought to light.
Thanks, Lynn, for bringing in this beautiful girl to the show. When you keep changing guests with unique content that cuts across gender, generation, and experiences, it makes you special in every sense of the term. Keep it up.By the way, that's a great hairstyle, Lynn❤.I affirm you. Today's guest is special in many ways than one. She is carrying a heavy load from childhood that she needs to process and release. First, I affirm her and assure her that she is beautiful just as Lynn has validated her.May I remind your guest Lynn that her past does not define her, but her purpose in life. The past is only an experience and a learning curve. However, that doesn't mean the story is as easy. Until each individual comes forward to tell their story, in many incidents, an individual realises his/hers is nothing like it. Here, we can't condemn or judge neither the mother nor this beautiful girl but embrace her with empathy. Where you are at the moment what you need is self-care. There is nothing much you can do about another person including your own parents. Your mother's behaviour was unbecoming, yes, however there is less you can do to change her. Seek a competent therapist to take you through self-awareness so that it's easier for you to process childhood trauma. You seem to be carrying so much in your mind about your past. The first step towards healing is forgiveness. Forgiveness starts with self-affirmation and acceptance that you are ready to start all over alone. I am happy that you are able to communicate well with a cool demeanour that indicates that your situation is not that bad. We have institutions that offer pro bono (Counseling without paying or at least pay anything small, and you get helped). Lynn, please introduce this gal to the in-house therapist(Kanake) to see if she can help her. She is very genuine and deserves help. It's doable.
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Great advice and guidance. As she goes through her healing journey, I pray that she will be able to forgive the mum for her own sake. It will not be easy but it will help a great deal.
Just subscribed and quite inspired. You will make it
Very unfortunate. That we are overworking hier in Europe. And then our children talked like this.wee better mtu akule jasho lake bila kufikiria.i know if the mother managed to come hier and give her side of story. Things shall be very different. Atalia kwa machungu.but anyway.life must continue 😢
@@Berliner-qt4optrue we should hear from her mom be4 we judge I concur with u my sis
Awww her miracles are unfolding disguised as hurdles. ❤
I hope you heal so you can only spread love to your child but also take responsibility of your own choices. Lynn mpeleke pole pole asipewe character development na mandugu
Young girl you're blessed. I also listened to the person who was saying she may have done something wrong. I felt sorry and sad for her to talk about this young blessed girl. But there's a God in Heaven who is rewriting her beautiful story
Girl some time back I went through the same thing,but I corrected my self from piece and realize my life is mine and mine alone and right now am doing good yes GOOD I have my apartment.And I love ❣️ my parents so so much for bringing me in this world and they didn't kill me .I appreciate them.
💯 correct . The faster you see the light ,the better
I'm sorry for what you went through, life is hard out here..what I've learnt ,is that when you come to this country, please work and make sure you don't depend on the government..take any kind of work even if its cleaning or working in the retirement homes,then you grow from there..don't say that this job is not for me
Hello hello girl mungu atakufungulia njia story yako ni kama yangu my mum hates without any reason but I keep moving knowing one day God will open my door
She will make it in Africa welcome home dear we love you here .Her story really touched my heart but am happy she is safe and sound back to Kenya.Love from Capetown South africa