Should Your Man Pay for Your Friends’ Meals? Plus: Men, Beware!
2021 ж. 11 Нау.
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Is your man obligated to pay for your friends if you are all out together? One woman says no and we weigh in! Plus, men take note! These are our text warning signs that you’re in the dog house.
Is your man obligated to pay for your friends if you are all out together?
No. But I'll pay for my friends if I invited them. My man pays for me though.
Hell no! Unless it’s a special occasion and I’m 100% sure non of my friends are ungrateful and entitled haha
Hell no.
Nope! We have a mortgage, 2 kids, and pay for private school...nope, nope, nope! We are not rich like all these ladies from the Real!!!
No, the same way he is not "obligated" to pay for me. I would leave him the decision regarding what to do with his money, the same way he would do the same regarding mine. At the same time, I would not invite a friend who would be that broke or trifling to not be able to pay for herself. However, he would likely pay for whoever has joined us based on the type of men I go out with in the first place.
Always expect to pay for yourself no matter what
True that!
Fact!
I’m a woman and I agree!
No, your man should not pay for your friends. It's not a requirement. It should be totally up to the man if he would like to treat friends. But if he doesn't it's not mandatory.
Imagine if you always had friends that invited themselves along when you and your man went out?! Never had DOLLAR 1, but always ordered 5 courses! 😤😡
Why is this even a QUESTION? What the actual f_ck? Feminism has gone way too far and it was already not worth it for men to date American women and now even more so. This is utterly disgusting. Women want to make men their financial slaves. It's sickening.
PROOF WOMEN NEVER WANTED EQUALITY. BUT SUPREMACY. AND TO MAKE MEN THEIR SLAVES. ITS GROSS
This is an example of these ladies being a little disconnected from the average person. I believe they're all well intentioned, but the average man cannot afford to shell out a bunch of money for you AND your friends. At least Adrienne tried to bring it back to reality.
This is happening more and more. How many ppl have it like that where they can do that now? A bunch of rich women speaking abt money in this way in this time of the world is so off putting
A few seasons ago a similar topic was brought up and Adrienne pretty much said her and her friends made the guy pay for the whole group she’s just trying to sound better here
I loved Adrienne reminding us that not everyone has the money to pay for the whole group. Basically it depends on the guy and the situation too.
Even if I was rich I wouldn’t be doing that.
Guys should never pay for friends of his girl!
Why is this even a QUESTION? What the actual f_ck? Feminism has gone way too far and it was already not worth it for men to date American women and now even more so. This is utterly disgusting. Women want to make men their financial slaves. It's sickening.
How about in the name of equality these c_nts ask if a woman her pay for her boyfriends friends?
I think it depends on the situation. Obviously, the ladies of the real are of a financial status where their men can take care of a large bill. But for the average person, it’s not practical at all. For the working class, we’re out here busting our backs to stay afloat. I don’t have hundreds of dollars to spend in a single night on your friends. It’s totally not realistic. Nobody should expect someone to pay for their meals or drinks. It’s a very sweet gesture when it happens but it shouldn’t be expected. I’ll pay for my meal, y’all can pay for your meal, and we can all feel good that we contributed to a nice night out
Not every male spouse can afford it. That's kind of what each and every one of them have said here, no?
There is an economic thing as well, not everyone has money like that
Jeannie said she does not expect the man to pay, but she would judge Garcelle’s new man by whether he pays. That is a bit contradictory.
I guess she is trying to say that she would be fine with paying for herself, but would perhaps not classify the guy as a "gentleman" if he didn't and had the means to pay.
@@LMLification Mmm, I get that, but it is still passing judgement.
@@gaila.9852 Yep. People can be judgmental, esp if is someone that they are seeing a relationship with or wanting as a close friend.
@Chyna Yeah, sometimes I think it is hard to not be at least somewhat judgmental as humans.
It’s very contradictory. Much more than a bit
It's a kind gesture but he is not obligated to pay for everyone. It's ridiculous to think he should.
Yep facts. it's a nice gesture but my man ain't obligated tbh
I would never
Women don’t like kind men, they only use kind men! Don’t be the kind man! Be the bad boy! Use them females!!
Keeping it REAL: These ladies are in a different socio-economic level. Their reality and perspective does not apply to 99% of the viewers when it comes to money.
Agreed!!! Love this show but makes me mad sometimes when they talk money situations like "we" as if we're in same bracket
People that order the most expensive food on someone ELSE dime rub me wrong like sandpaper jeans!! I’d be the right one that day and pay for myself and leave early
That's why I don't tell the person I'm paying until the waitress asks about splitting the bill. You done ordered what you want when you thought it was on your dime. That and my friends don't do this.
People don’t wear orange enough it’s one of the prettiest colors!! 🧡🧡🧡
Man! Isn't Lonnie stunning in that outfit? Like WOW😍😍😍 Get it Lonnie! I see you girrrrl😁 had me couldn't even concentrate on the topic. LOL But hell no unless my man specifically invites us all out ok but other than that nope. Why for?
Yes, Loni looks amazing😍😍😍😍😍
Loni should get more space to talk. She always let’s the others go first
She's trying to read the room🤣🤣🤣
This is now because they're all virtual. But, back when they were all in the show she would talk over everybody and tell fake stories and make jokes. Now she's grown more comfortable and secure with herself and comes in at the right time. No one on this cast seems overbearing. They all seem equal.
@@shanec9840 exactly!
And J Mae always talking over people lol
She’s BEEN letting them talk first. This ain’t brand new.
What the heck? He isn’t dating your friends? Why on earth is it expected or seen as gentlemanly if he pays for your friends? That’s ridiculous.
Like seriously!!! I've never heard of this before until now and I don't get the point. My man can have a million dollars, he ain't paying for no friends! Friends? Y'all not even family😅 and even certain family wouldn't get paid for.
I’m the type of person to whisper to my man (u betta not pay for them) 💀💀 u don’t wanna set that precedent in ur relationships unless he REALLY wanna do it himself
Hahahaha
Fr
I agree.
😂😂😂
Same bc thats coming out of my pockets. Especially when ur not even close to some of women that happen to be there
A man is not dating you and your friends so it should never be expected of him to pay for your girls or for him to be looked at differently if he doesn’t. If he does, it’s a generous act and if he doesn’t, it doesn’t make him less of a man.
Feminism: the belief in social, economic, and political equality of the sexes. What does paying the bill have anything to do with the man? Maybe the “gentlemen and lady” stereotypes need to go😬😬 If there’s an underlying expectation for the man to pay, there isn’t equality between the sexes. Let’s not act like feminists and then switch up when it’s convenient 🙌🏽
Thank you for highlighting on this xoxo -- how can we have gender equality if the man is still expected to play the man's role. Paying for the first date & every date after, paying for all ur friends, pulling out chairs, having to drive, covering all the bills, etc.
I agree with you a 1000%. We as women cannot preach equality and the minute it comes to dating it jumps out the window just because it's beneficial to us. I'm so glad you said this
My only argument here is that yes we are striving for equality but currently we are NOT equal in many ways. The pay gap is still a real thing and men still earn more. I dated a guy who earned 3x more money than me and wanted to split everything 50/50. For him, that was nothing but for me it was almost everything, but I went along with it because "we're equal!" But a person who earns $30K does NOT have an equal salary to someone who earns $100K. Period. At the end of the day, always be prepared to pay your own way and if a guy wants to treat then let him. That's all.
@@phaiag1727 Simply because we haven’t reached equality doesn’t mean that we should stop practicing it. We’ll eventually reach equality if we continue to practice it in our daily lives🙌🏽 I believe your example comes down to common courtesy. If someone knows you don’t make any money, then it wouldn’t be a kind gesture to make you pay. But at the same time, you can’t expect people to pay for you just bc you know they make more money. If you go into a relationship expecting someone to pay for everything, it isn’t equal for either person. That conversation needs to be had
@@kurleykath. I agree 100%, we should always try to get there. I just feel we have to be clear about what equality really is in the context of the situation. In the case of money, I was just saying that 50/50 isn't necessarily equal if there is already a huge pay gap, if that makes sense. And it goes both ways, regardless of which partner is the top earner.
Damn Adrienne lookin good af in her crimson outfit with the lipstick and the eyes okaaay 👀
Yes & that glowwww btw you’re gorgeous!!!
Yes she looks great but its Lonnie's outfit that had my jaw dropping. She's stunning in that orange. Man! 😍
No, he is not neither am I. My friend pays for their meals. This is a conversation I am not afraid to have if needed before the meal.
How do you have that conversation with them?
Agree
3:23 thank you Adrienne for speaking up on this
No. Its generous but not an obligation.
My man paid for my friends when he met them for the first time. They were so appreciative and thankful!
These ladies are speaking like this cause they’re famous and wealthy and got bank, the average men can’t pay for three four five women, why can’t they pay for themselves? Idk just saying
i dated a chick, that brought her ""best friend"" to PRIDE weekend and then expected me to pay for her and the friend for the whole weeknd...needless to say we broke up right after that!!!
best thing u coud of ever done
NOT AT ALL MANDATORY!!!! But yessss a nice gentlemen move!!! But I wouldn’t expect my man to pay for anyone but us🤷🏻♀️
Why is paying for someone else a "nice gentleman move". It's associating manliness with being able to compensate for someone else
I would NEVER go to dinner with my best friend and her man and expect for him to pay for my food, too. If he asks, then that’s sweet but I’d never initiate it at all.
Just out of curiosity, why do you go to dinner with your best friend and her man? Are you friends with BOTH of them?
@@omphilemoerane2569 I go out to dinner with my best friend and her man, it seems normal to me. Is that something weird to you? They are a couple and I want to hang out with my friend so her man coming is expected. There are times when we hang out just the two of us but sometimes her boyfriend will join, usually if he wants dinner, and that's fine too. They've been together for years so, while I wouldn't say I am friends with her man, I know him well enough and am comfortable enough around him that his presence wouldn't bother me.
@@signalfire15 ok was just curious. Not judging or anything.
If I say “I’m over it” that means leave me alone I’m done talking 🤣🤣
What!? If you don’t have the money, do go out unless your friend says “I got you girl!” Haha I would never expect my man to pay for my friends.
Orange is Loni’s color. She looks great!
Girl my daughter called me - Mommy Mommy come see Lonnie!😂😂😂 I think I've never seen her look better. Absolutely Gorgeous! You killin it Lonnie!😍😍
@@charmcharm2352 awww that's adorable!
That feeling of being left on READ is the worst. Gosh I remember those nights.
You look like Sage the Gemini
Idk, when it comes to being left on read in my opinion. Unless you really feeling this person and your considering of actually dating them in real life. I don't take that personally anymore. I delete conversation and move right on to the next!🤣😂 I use to get some mad over it too frfr but then I realized that no one is entitled to have a conversation with you. Just like your not entitled to give anybody a conversation or your time either! There are too many people in the world and life is too short to be pressed about being left on read! 🌎😌
Andrienne “don’t you be saying do you to a man who’s ready to do him” lmao 😂
It would be nice of him, but he doesn’t have to. He’s with me not yall 🤷🏽♀️
Adrienne in an old video about this same topic, said she always would get a guy to buy her and her friends drinks.
To put this simply, my man is obligated to take care of me not my friends. My friends wouldn’t expect him to pay for them but if they did I wouldn’t gaf. It’s not his responsibility period
Garcelle don’t know them long enough for a new man to cover their meals 😂😂
I think it’s rude to expect someone else’s man to pay. I got a job I can pay for myself. If my boyfriend offers that’s nice but I’ll buy him a drink or something. If you’re friends expects your man to pay then you need new friends because that’s not fair.
Nope he’s not. He’ll pay for me, they can pay for themselves honestly. If you’re going to tag along, you should be able to pay. But my friends wouldn’t be out with me and my man anyway.
Exactlyyyy. Why would he be the only guy? Also people call me Shayna 24/7 ... It's Shania (Shuh-nee-uh) ❤️❤️❤️
@@shanias.3915 I'm the same way as you. Why is he even there? But there are some people who can't bare to be away from their partner just for a few hours and it's annoying.
He’s dating YOU. Not your friends 🤷♀️
Funny how I just watched the 2017 episode on this topic. Jeannie said it would mean her friends are golddiggers if her man bought them a drink.
Well now she's engaged to a rich guy so her opinion has changed😂
@@omphilemoerane2569 😀😆
I luv Adrienne for saying what she said at the end because there are women that would see this and think if they man can’t pay for everyone they should dump them and that not coo!!!!!!
I remember when my ex and his ex best friend and his wife and I went to dinner ... and I think another couple my ex agreed to fit the bill...then he saw the bill...let’s just say the way he drove home I’m glad we didn’t get pulled over for being reckless while furious
Actually a good topic 👌🏾
Really? Bruh, this is the dumbest topic in the History of mankind...
It's a repeat topic. When I read the title I was like 'they talking about this again'? Lol... But I guess it's new for Garcelle and it's good hearing her input.
I would not want my husband to pay for my friends. If my good girlfriend is struggling I can take care of her while my husband takes care of me.
Lol that went way over your head 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Then it should be the other way around as well. If a woman goes out with her man and his friends, she should pay for all of them too. Its sexiest to assume a man should pay because of his gender. It’s not 1960 anymore, it’s 2021. What happened to all the equality? It seems like a lot of women only want equality when it benefits them, but not when it’s a inconvenience. Can’t have it both ways
I thought women were fighting for equality in the work force.. Not on chivalry. I don't hear majority of women wanting to equally propose to a man or anything like that.
Jeannie and Adrienne always looking so cute! love their smile 👌
I missed these type of chats that make me laugh with the girls
Yes Adrienne! I do that too. I ask my husband to do something when he gets the time but I really mean do it now. All of these years later he has finally caught on. Lol
I love love Loni’s look!! Orange is such a beautiful color! Especially on people with some color/melanin on them!!
Their situations are completely different and are in and dating in different tax bracket. Im glad Ade corrected this conversation. Bc my man is only obligated to pay for me.
When you hit them with the straight up "K" 😂😂😂
They has this conversation before. I think it was before Jeannie’s divorce.
They love recycling topics. They be running outta things to talk about
Yeah they have. They had a convo whilst she was married too about if your man should pay for your friends drinks?? Lol same topic again and again
I just love the colors of yall outfits somewhat correspond to who yall are next to
This is the perfect color for A!!!!
Top, lips, AND nails! She killed it.
I as a guy... if I happen to be treating my girl and guests to a meal... and it was my idea to go out I will be responsible to make sure I pay... is it good if they offer... of course but it’s the courtesy... I don’t mind
I did the same, a friend laid for my dinner and I felt weirdly unworthy
Yes.. it should NOT be expected..
My ex would pay if my friends and I went out somewhere with him. I honestly never expected him to do that and neither did they. I think its gentlemanly as well, but not expected.
The ladies made some good points... As for “threats” I have a couple of them. I say “ok.” “Have a great life” “I wish you the best” “never mind” “don’t worry about it” etc, etc 🤣
Loni is looking so breathtakingly beautiful since working from home. The wraps are doing her such justice 🥰
Note how Loni said “we”ll pay” 🥴
But it is a "we". That money he didn't on all your friends would of went to the girl. So technically it is a we thing.
Loni & A’s outfit colors are 🔥 on them!
The friend would never suggest returning the favor on a future gathering.
Thank you A! Yall ain't in the same space as avg ppl... he is not entitled to pay for everyone. Period!
Loni looks so pretty here🧡🧡🧡compliments beautifully her 🤎🤎🤎skin
The friends should have their own money just in case, but if he wants to pay he can.
It's a very good look when men pay but you have women who will think it's an invitation to make a move on your man because of his kindness.
Adrienne looks so amazing in this clip 😍
As a real gentleman in would always pay for everyone .the courtesy act comes from the bottom of your heart .live happy doesn't mean only you got a lot money but always feel great in your skin and smile everyday.
It DEPENDS on who invited whom out and what the occasion is. Like if it's a birthday dinner for your girlfriend and the boyfriend set it up, then yes, the boyfriend should pay for everyone's tab and people are going to expect that and if you're not going to pay, you need to let everyone know this is a pay-for-your-own-meal kind of gathering. If it's like a normal hang out session, then everyone should pay for their own.
I love the different colors. So cute
I totally agree with Adrienne
equality now days go both ways... men n women shoud take turn paying for each others meals
This is why I like to eat alone. What if I don't want a bread basket? Then I look rude if I get a lobster and rude again if I don't want him to pay for it. I'm just trying to be considerate.
Aren't bread baskets free?
@@gaila.9852 Idk. I never get it.
@@yonce2347 They are!
@@gaila.9852 Ok so what?
@@yonce2347 I was just letting you know. Enjoy the free bread, haha.
How GARCÉL said “have a nice life😃” lmfaooo so classy and smiley😂😂😂🤣🤣 I’m crying laughing hahahahahahhahahahaha
Guess what ladies while you adoring your man's gentleman move... Your friends are too. I remember an old saying to women, "Don't have your friends around your man."
The worst is "k". 🤣
I see Adrienne back on her loud NY vibe! 😂🤦🏾♀️
Years ago I would say "so this what we're doing?!!" Lol praise God We aren't there anymore.
Unless I’m sleeping with the friends I’m not paying all them bills
Did anyone see what i saw, Adrienne literally pulled her face to the camera to say that, and i think it's hilarious
The real is referencing Hollywood unlocked 🔓 😂😂😂😂, I can't. This show is officially on the same level as KZhead urban blogs which I highly respect.
Have fun is more of a threat then the others especially if she smiling while saying it 🙂
A man plays for the friends meal should just be a something every blue moon, or the man knows everyone.
i just love how these women treat us
Yes. Jeannie. Do not say do you. To someone ready.. us woman tho..🤦♀️
May God bless you.amen
If you want to be nice and take care of the bill, then go for it, but do NOT turn around and use that against anyone in the future.
Theyve had this discussion pre-covid. Ade and her friend said they would order premium and expensive drinks and not even ask permission. Straight place the order for all her friends.
She be on a roll
It depends on the friendship and always remembers your manners.
jeannie gotta give others a chance to talk
Does she ever? Ugh😒
I lost hope on this one and most of her talk would be preaching or imagining scenarios
I don't mind paying for myself. I never expected any man to take care of my bills... I'm not that kinda girl
I am with you! I will happily take care of the bill.
Loni looks amazing in orange !!!!!!😍😍🤩🤩
If your man, invites (you) out, guess it doesn't supposedly mean he's gonna pay bills! A gentle lady needs to ask! And that's when we get to know the terms of that outing! About your friends.....it has to be specified in the invitation..
Well if it’s MY friend then I should be the one covering.
LONI, YOU LOOK GORGEOUS IN THAT ORANGE!!💜💜
Ms Loni Love 🤝🏾 Serving LOOKS
I'm sorry why tf do we gotta pay for yo friends bisss? Y'all don't help me makes ends meet. Flip the roles, you wouldn't wanna pay for me and my guys. It's common sense. If we're on a date it's for us. If you bring your friends along then i guess it ain't a date. If anything pay for all y'alls self
Recycling topics...Adrienne before said she would order for all her friends if a guy offered to buy her a drink. 🤦♀️
I wouldn't care if they do or don't. As long as they're not rude about it if they/he don't pay.
when Adrienne said "Vaya con dios." LOL Felt that.