How To Not Look Frumpy & Older Than You Are-Get Out of That Rut!!
Take this all with a grain of salt-and know that I love you no matter what you’re wearing!! I’ve personally broken every single one of these tips-it’s sometimes just helpful to hear them to get yourself out of a rut!!
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TIP #1
🛑 STOP WEARING SHORT FITTED CARDIGANS
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TIP #2
🛑 STOP WEARING ¾ LENGTH SLEEVES
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TIP #3
🛑 STOP WEARING BOXY TOPS (ESPECIALLY PAIRED WITH LOOSE FITTING BOTTOMS)
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Daily Ritual Joggers bit.ly/2Rf4yXx
Ponte Knit Pants bit.ly/3SV20IT
Ponte Knit Leggings bit.ly/3C7auFZ
TIP #4
🛑 STOP WEARING CAPRI LENGTH PANTS
TIP #5
🛑 AVOID LARGE CHUNKY JEWELRY, ESPECIALLY IN SETS
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TIP #6
✅ WEAR AT LEAST A SMALL HEELED SHOE
(OR A POINTED TOE FLAT)
Dolce Vita Sneakers bit.ly/3SAy2tF
Chico’s Studded Loafers bit.ly/3QIHKJO
Walmart Loafer (3 colors) bit.ly/3pRn7PO
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TIP #7
🛑 DON’T WEAR TINY PRINTS (ESPECIALLY FLORALS & TIE-DYE)
TIP #8
🛑 STOP GETTING YOUR COLORS READ-YOU ARE NOT A SEASON!
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Hi! I'm only 41, but definitely struggling to avoid the middle age frump & figure out how to transition into mature, stylish, flattering clothing choices. As soon as I turned 40 I became very aware of how nice it is to look good without dressing like a 25 year old, lol! I appreciate the efforts to continue being stylish as we age. I feel like our society has just started slowly abandoning efforts to look halfway put together & is just looking sloppy. My grandmother worked hard to look as put together as she could even into her 70's and while I didn't appreciate it as a kid, I do now! I think it's important to our psychological health to keep caring for our outer appearance to some degree, weather we decide to follow trends or not. It just keeps us feeling good, which will improve our attitudes about everything else, too. So great job on keeping up with that! But, I have to say that the comments on this video are so overwhelmingly nasty! People getting all butt hurt & talking like a bunch of cranky, jealous teenagers! What's up with that!? We're all middle aged, we should be beyond that crap! If you don't like her video then go watch something else! Don't listen to that stuff Marnie! To everyone complaining & being salty: 1: Please don't be nasty. If you don't agree with the ideas presented, that's ok. These are just some ideas for possible outfit choices. We may dig all the ideas, we may not. There's no need to loudly and rudely complain and insult the creator. We're too old for middle school behavior. 2: Geez, I have never seen so many people so desperate to cling to their dern cardigans and capris! My goodness! I agree that capris are an outdated style, though they work well for some. That's ok! She's just making a suggestion! And there are trendy, flattering ways to wear summer/ warm weather styles without it being capris. I get it, I don't look great in shorts either but if you're sensitive about your capris maybe you're not happy with how you dress & it's time to try out some other styles. If not, just own your love for them. Let's be honest with ourselves and own our own insecurities & struggles & fashion taste. 3: Yes, life creeps in and changes things. I care for a now invalid mom, work 50 hrs a week, & fatigue, bad food choices, & heath issues have caused my 5'7 frame to go from a trim 140 lbs to a bulky, poochy in weird places 220. I am not totally happy with how I look. I sure as heck don't look as good as I used to & am fringing on frumpy. Losing a bit of weight would help me look and feel better for sure. I'm the first to admit I need to watch my weight. No shame in us admitting this. And using excuses only keeps us from improving ourselves. We won't ever look like a beautiful, thin 20 year old, and that's ok! We'll look like the mature classy ladies we are! But even with this weight gain & body change, I can work on my figure/ health (even if it's only a little) and still find stylish, flattering clothes and so can you. Not all these presented styles will work for you, and that's ok. Find something that does. There's no reason to be salty. 4: If you don't like where you are or how you look, work on changing things. Even small changes can make big differences. You are not stuck, I promise! When we constantly look for ways to improve what we don't like we will start to feel better and more confident and will be less bothered by the opinions of others.
Gurllll I agree about the comments. This attitude that we all need to look like models or KK with a perfect body walking the streets with tight really tight spanx or spandex with a bra is ok when your trying to sell your product and you have security with you is ok. School? Work? Maybe a maxi light easy jacket or cardigan lol over that may look better? I don’t like cardigans I tried but they don’t work for me. I didn’t want to complain trying to be helpful. Work with your natural beauty and give thought about who you are with strength and confidence that will help with what you are trying to pull off. We all know confidence helps you to look good too. How do you feel in your clothes? Does a certain piece cause you to stand up straight? To walk differently? I’m old and also used to model so just sharing some life experience.
@@AlisMarsaili1351 KK has a perfect body? 😅
Do you aware of knowing about a good KZhead channel to follow, I would be very appreciative. I’m having so much trouble with updating my wardrobe for many reasons. Weight change, where the weight sits, age appropriate, and coordination, with colour and type of shape.
@@charliejb1747 LOL
I agree with you! I’m very surprised by the bitter, nasty remarks. No one is forcing anyone to change, but I would ask why were you watching in the first place? Wasn’t it to hear someone else’s thoughts about fashion other than your own? That’s why I’m watching.
Not giving up 3/4 length sleeves. Nothing makes a woman look older than sleeveless or short sleeves that show flabby upper arms and old skin.
And I keep my cardigans!! 😂
3/4 length sleeves are great for work. I'm not giving them up.
I love slim fitting 3/4 length sleeves, v-necks, and slim pants. These visually elongate my body and look polished and professional, casually chic, or sporty depending on the color combination. I'm a 70 year old engineer and am told I come across about 25 years younger. I'm only going for energetic and fit. The important thing is to figure out what makes us look "frumpy" and avoid that, which for me is short sleeves, patterns, capris, and sweaters.
Flabby arms are the worst!
Totally agree!
I’m about to turn 55 and I wear whatever I want. I live in Florida where it’s hotter than hell all year round and makeup melts down your face, so why bother? I don’t wear 3/4 of the things I have in my closet, including using designer handbags. Just throw on a Bila dress with the big floral prints, flip flops, and a crossbody and you’re off. Priorities change as you age. Instead of investing in designer high-end trends that someone says will be out in two months, I’ll spend my money on quality art supplies, travel experiences, and buy things that have more meaning to me, like say a big chunky bracelet with a turquoise stone. 😂 I personally love thrifting or buying resale for my clothes.
Absolutely! One of the benefits of getting older is doing as we please! As long as I think I look good, I don’t care what others think.
Same! Linen is my friend.
I agree with you.
Yeah, with you on all points. Florida girl here too over 60, never could live in cold climate, too much laundry.
agree with you, but I am in Finland where the makeup in winter freezes up and falls. and you need to have more coats and boots than weels in the year ... lol, totally agree with you
The very best way not to look frumpy is eat healthy and stay fit.
“Most of us are just trying to get dressed in the morning and not look ridiculous.” Thank you.
I agree, thank you! My children, mostly, thank you! 😁
Lol tru
As a librarian, I cannot stop wearing cardigans. It's in my contract.😁
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😂😂😂 I appreciate that predictability 💚
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No woman wants to look frumpy…that’s a fact. But, as a plus sized (18/20) woman of 57…I think the clothing and especially shoe industries need to hear our voices. Why aren’t affordable 44D bras pretty? Why aren’t shoes that help those with plantar fasciitis comfy and cute?? Many of us need comfort over 50…that should not have to mean frumpy. I think 3/4 sleeves and capris are a preference…not a trend. The best accessories are a smile and a positive attitude…that’s what people will remember!
Couldn't agree more. If it's 90° outside and you don't look great in a regular short then capris are the only other option, in my opinion. Those shoes with the shorter length pants looks hideous. I'm sorry but I don't show my crepe, sagging arms in a capped sleeve. I actually like a sleeve that is at the elbow.
I wear what I like! Seeing what middle-aged men look like I have no intention of making myself uncomfortable by worrying what gossips may think of me.
Your reply is dead on!!! Thanks for the smile!!!!
Well said! I 100% agree 👍 😄
I'm 58, frumpy, dumpy, and married. Have never paid much attention to fashion. I think it's sadly funny that the only guys who even remotely make passes at me, these days, are wistful, puffy, middle aged guys holding 12-packs, standing in line with me at the local Qwik Trip. It's so . . . toothless.
This is not telling people what to wear, y'all chill. She's just discussing styles and cuts of clothing that are more/less flattering to the body. I see nothing wrong with that. I sometimes don't realize why I don't like something, and then someone says, "that really gives a boxy look or that gives the illusion that your legs are shorter" and I agree with them. I love that sort of tip.
My humble opinion, after stumbling across this video, is that we, as women are our own worse enemies. As I age, I’m just grateful that I have been allowed to grow older.
I know just wear what u like!
It's true! Your a wise woman!
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Trying to look younger than you are is a waste of money, time and can effect/affect your confidence scale too.
@@AlisMarsaili1351 i agree. Embrace your ageing process. Not everyone gets that privilege. All this wondering what is allowed or what is acceptable to people you do not even know, is energy draining and steels your peace
I just turned 68 & I'm owning my frumpiness. I have my own style but I study the style of other "old ladies." In my opinion, it's a thing to be admired. People write you off anyway once you're "old," so why not dress the way you want.
I agree! I am blessed with great skin (as was my mother and grandmother, and great grandmother), but I am short and overweight, so I look frumpy no matter what I wear. I am doing well trying to manage many health issues. I eat pretty well 90% of the time, do mild exercise, volunteer a bit, spend time with family and friends and feel blessed to be alive since I almost died 3 times. Fashion is the least of my worries!
Just because some of the morons of this world may write you off as you age doesn't mean that you should write yourself off. Self care and being attractive at any age feels good on the inside
@@serious7179 pretty happy to no longer be "attractive". We love ourselves, and others love us for our inside, not how physically appealing we are. Having a bright happy loving attitude is all you need to attract love.
You were that way in your 20s...ha ha ha ha
@@looneygardener omg, you can love yourself regardless. We all express our self love differently. No need to cast stones by insinuating that women who actually care about how they look are somehow not showing self love because that makes no sense.
I’m sixty two. Pretty sure she wouldn’t approve of my standard outfit, Janis Joplin faded tee, ripped jeans, and Ugg’s 😂. The absolute most attractive thing is to feel confident:-)
@@madelainemadelaine2934 ❤️
I love my capris, too mature for shorts. Love my 3/4 shirts, long is too hot and sleeveless shows flabby upperarms. Ladies do what works for you, just make sure it's probably fitted and the color flatters.
Four months ago someone took a picture of me and I screamed. I looked old and frumpy …well I I went to the gym , cut all carbs and worked hard . . After four months I lost weight, . Well bottom line .. I quit looking frumpy .. Now I can buy cuter clothes and feel amazing.
Oh my gosh yes. I’ve just spent three weeks walking my butt off. Weighed 65.7 now 64.5 after three weeks so now my goal is 60. Hope to obtain this by May. Honestly when you start to lose weight you realise how you look. I’m motivated and also looked at my diet also.
Good for you, being healthy and in shape really inspires one to present themselves beautifully. It's sad that we're at a time in history where people think that not dressing in sweats is shallow..lol
The best advice I can give....You do you. Please yourself and don't worry about what others think. Life is too short.
I'm almost 58 and love my capris and my quarter length sleeves, and I dont give a flying fig over younger women who think they know how I should dress. Life is too short. Do what you want and what makes you comfortable ☺️
Totally disagree with you re sleeve length ! 3/4 sleeves are much more flattering than wrinkled looking attempts at rolling up full length sleeves - which never stay in place anyway ! To me a 3/4 sleeve makes arms look slimmer and showcases a narrow wrist.
I agree. It must be tight fitted or stretchy, not loose. Then is 3/4 sleeve very youthful
Who cares, at the age of 66, I could care less if I dress frumpy, it's more comfortable and I'm not trying to get a man, my husband died 3 years ago, and I do not want to marry again, he was the only one. Frumpy and dumpy is fine, I love it, so I'll dress it, and I don't care what anyone thinks!
Ladies...wear what you feel beautiful in. Do not listen to anyone else and let their opinions make you feel not "cool" or old. If you have it and love it, wear it! Life is way too short to let someone you don't know dictate what you wear. She may have great ideas but there are NO rules! That goes for your hair also. Long, short, gray, colored, curly, straight. You do you! I am 54 and feel fabulous. I eat well, run, and just try to live life to it's fullest! Blessings to all you beautiful, uniquely created women ❤️
Very well said👍👍👍
Well said
I totally agree!😊
Hi Everyone!! Just discovered Marine's videos and watched 3 of them this morning. Reading the comments was the really eyes opening part. People are either super supportive or super critical - like there's no middle ground. Marine is >50, tiny, and beautiful. I am 64 and weigh 260. Yeah.... I have those awful fat flappy upper arms. I will continue to buy 3/4 length sleeves to cover them up. Also, shorts ride up like my body is trying to "eat" them. I am continuously tugging the legs of shorts back down - in public!! The solution?? Capris!! Marine looks great in all of her videos. And the actual video is well made and edited. It's just not for me. I guess what I'm trying to say is.... If you really don't like what she has to say then WHY watch it and then leave negative comments?? Go away and watch something else. But I want to conclude by saying that Marine has a lot of great ideas to share and she should not allow herself to be hurt or intimated by negative comments. Not even mine. Have a great day!!
Personally, I wouldn't take any advice from someone wearing a stained shirt that needs a serious lint roller and is using face filters.
Whatever you are comfortable in, wear it. As an older woman, the least of my concerns is looking dumpy to "others". I am happy to look frumpy, as I am finally free of the agonizing stress of needing to feel "attractive" to others. But that's me.
That's you and a whole lot of us who have not seen 49 in a couple decades.
Why did you watch the video then?make your own about not caring.Others want to LOOK good and fashionable.People Need these notes even to LOOK put together not like someone threw a couch cover over their back. Glad your happy let someone else's try.
@@scotty69D I was curious to see what the woman had to say. Should we only watch things we know we will agree with? Maybe I would have gotten good fashion info. I have an open mind. I certainly have nothing against other women's choices. They don't have to agree with mine. Do you insist everyone agree with you?
Clothing has an intimate relationship with a person's physical body and personal identity. It’s a language which tells a story about the person who wears it. It’s about being comfortable with YOURSELF , expressing YOUR personality, and translating self-esteem into personal style.
Again,I'm sure you've always been like this
I wear black ballet flats, loafers and black capris or straight cut pants , Audrey Hepburn style a lot. It’s a classic look that never dates. Certainly does not make me look frumpy. In fact (funnily enough) the women 25 years younger in the office very often copy my style or ask me where I buy my clothes. Makes me chuckle. I think simplicity, classic lines and block colours are the key to looking younger and always looking stylish. I rarely wear prints, really bright colours etc as they really do make me looker older. But hey…I’m also a fashion historian and collector so have seen the styles that come and go and what particular styles have remained long term as flattering items. I agree with you re jewellery. Simple and elegant is best.
Great perspective!
I love that Audrey Hepburn style too. I would like the 50’s to make a comeback. I think curvy ladies would look great in some of those styles.
I absolutely adore the Audrey Hepburn black ballet flats and black capris look. So classic.
I agree simplicity is usually best. As we get older most of us know what looks best, can mix and match etc. Trends have never been my thing but to each their own. if you look at magazines etc. You can learn a lot about putting things together. I am like the older lady the younger girls ask me where I shop etc.
@@norma5044 good for you! 👍. No matter what age no one has asked me where I shop. 🤭
I like three quarter length sleeves and so do a lot of women ... they're cute and comfortable ... I just wear what I like and I don't care if it's in style or not
Then this video is not for you! Sounds like you are all set!
I love wearing crisp 3/4 length sleeve blouses. For me, rolled sleeves are difficult to keep looking neat.
3/4 inch sleeves hide the arm flappy flappy and I can still clean a spill or wash a dish. We don’t all have the same body. I wear a smile and clothes that is love. It increases my confidence.
Am a big fan of the 3/4 sleeve too. Hides the bat wings and the creeping crepe-y skin. 😎
Many of us over 50 find ourselves dealing with serious arthritis issues and heels just aren't an option. I switched to chunky loafers and love them. I can get my arch supports in them too. Pair them with an ankle length pant and I think it looks youthful yet age appropriate.
I never wore 3/4 in sleeves til i my upper arms got flabby. I love them. They dont make you look old...
She doesn’t make sense. She says not to wear three-quarter length sleeves, yet suggests long sleeves and then rolling it up.
Three-quarter sleeves are so popular because it accentuates the slimmest part of the woman’s body, which is their wrist. Plus it is a classy length.
I think the biggest issue is that you don’t go based on body types. Not everyone can pull off the looks you note. I have a curvy figure and even though I’m a small a boxy cardigan will make me look frumpy and old. It just really depends on your body type. You should note yours and then that way people know if they should watch based on your body type. If you really want to get more ppl then include additional body types and the type of clothing. You really can’t generalize. What you consider frumpy on you looks good on other body types.
I totally agree
Totally agree
100%
Those pointy toe mules would look ridiculous on me. Plus, I don’t like them. But I think someone taller could pull them off better. It really would be wise not to generalize.
I'm 64 and wouldn't be caught dead in a pair of pants over my ankles! I still wear nothing but Levi's and t-shirts. People who consider 60-80 year olds, old, don't realize that we grew up in the 60s! We were born to Rock and created freedom of expression! We believe in make love not war! Live and let live! And in our hearts, forever young! ✌️❤️
...and don't trust anyone over thirty! (whoops!) lol
Oh yes. Rock on! I am with you.
Cover those ugly ankles...we don't want to look at them!!!!!!
I just wanted to point out that you're talking about the color of your top being a rusty color and how you look really good in it..... And I'm not denying the fact that you look amazing in this top and color...... But either your camera is very very extremely distorting the color or my phone is..... Cuz that top is nowhere near any kind of a rusty color it's a red-top I would say a raspberry red top meaning it has a blue undertone which is a cool tone...not a warm rustic undertone.......
I love cardigans! I will never get rid of them! 😂😂😂
Never leave home without one, I'm a cold body
I'm with you
Marnie, normally I love your videos, but this one doesn't pass the vibe check. Hating on Chicos fashion that supports women in larger bodies than your own isn't the move. Did you consider that the majority of the women in your capri photo were overweight? Was it hot outside and society has convinced them they can't wear shorts? Or the 3/4 length shirts, did you try them on someone larger, because proportionally they can often look nice and again, are a cooler option. (Many women don't feel comfortable showing their upper arm or have been told it's not professional---of course only when you're above a certain weight). While I agree that dainty jewelry is more fashionable, smaller pieces can look swallowed on a larger person, and a chunky necklace can bring the attention up to someone's face. I would bet that most people choosing boxy clothing in unflattering colors likely didn't have a choice, by either size or price. Have you ever gone shopping with someone larger than a 14? As a larger person myself (5'10 18-ish depending on how much room for the bust), trying to find suits/workwear that don't have flowers as you described or animal print is difficult. As someone pointed out below, your leather gauchos break several of your rules but look adorable on you simply because you have an acceptable body to society and fashion designers. One has to ask themselves, is it flattering or is she just skinny? Most often the answer is the latter, even with people like Kendall Jenner and Zendaya and all the beautiful people in magazines. In the future it might be nice of you to work with the brands who pay you, such as Walmart, to have lines up to 5x (because that's really only a 2x because these types of influencer brand deals are usually junior sizing) and actually see clothes on different bodies. A quick exercise might be to go to Walmart and look at the differences between plus size clothing and straight sizes and ask yourself what percentage of those clothes would you CHOOSE to buy/wear. Then start the discussion as a brand ambassador.
I completely agree!
An excellent comment.
When YOU are 65, I’d love to hear your opinion of 3/4 sleeve tees! THANK GOD Chicos holds onto their “ older peoples’” demands!
I think she was talking about the button up shirts.
YES just pop on a bracelet. I make the beaded elastic ones in tigers eye etc ☺
I thinkbshecwas just saying buy shirts that give you the option of wearing the sleeve where you want it. Some of the 3/4 only sleeve hit at a really awkward, unflattering spot.
Im 61 and just recently wore a small knit short cardigan open over a tank top with some (moderately) short shorts and cute walking shoes. Trust me, it looked really cute and I even received compliments from younger women. Sometimes, it's just the way you style something. 😉
Sounds great!
Another recommendation is to lose weight. I know noone wants to hear it and we're all about body positivity now but it is what it is. Clothes look better on people that are at a healthy weight and we look better when we look healthy. We can be positive about the body we have while simultaneously making improvements it's not one or the other. I'm not here shaming anyone because I'm on the journey myself it's just an honest observation.
Unless your super skinny or are quite tall, i think the new style of slacks an inch above the ankle makes a person look shorter and wider. Plus, in Mn winters where i live, who wants a cold draft on the ankle.
@@mirrorneurongirl High waters
@@brayz4boyz976 That's what we always called them. Who decides what is actually in fashion every year, anyway? Walmart? chicos? We all know that in 20 years we're going to look back and say "Oh, that was so awful, I can't believe I liked that".
I enjoy looking frumpy. I don't dye my hair, wear makeup or jewelry, etc. I'm good enough just the way I am
Some people called that frumpy, other people call it lazy....
@@pepper1188 Cool, I'm frumpylazy.
Good tips. I disagree about the sleeves. When long sleeves end up rolled up, they look way frumpier than 3/4 sleeves. Plus, 3/4 sleeves show off nice forearms and jewelry.
How about we all just wear whatever we want that makes us feel comfortable, confident, or trendy and just make certain to keep the private things and a little too squishy parts covered and call it good. Stop obsessing about the judgments of people that obviously need a little advice and judgments from others. 😉
Larger women wear capri length pants as an alternative to skirts and shorts…so there’s that. When it’s 100 degrees out it’s a public service…you don’t want to see my legs and I don’t want to roast alive.
Exactly! I wear compression stockings. Shorts would look hilarious and long pants would end in me passing out. After 50 things get real.
I am at a stage in my life where I dont care what others think and I only dress to please myself and look my best. I won't subject to the torture of high heels. I met my prince and had my kids, I can move on, I dont need to impress anybody. I feel free.
I'm 55 and wear wedges and a heel in boots. I do it for me, not my fiance, just me. I have good kegs, my mom's legs, showing them off still.
I couldn’t agree more! I want to be healthy, but I’m definitely not going to starve myself!
This entire video was ridiculous and quite judgmental.
Oops, I realize that my comment must have seem negative, it was not my intention. I just wanted to express that social pressure to conform is hard and it is important to find our own balance in our lives.
Even when I was a young, thin person I couldn’t do heels. They hurt. We should not have to hurt to look nice. I’ve never understood that concept. Was at a function once and a lady told me that after a while your feet will go numb and it doesn’t matter. What!? How is that ok? Goodness.
I agree with almost all of what you said. At 71, I find that the best fashion tip is to exercise and keep your weight in a healthy range. I feel better and like what I see when I exercise regularly and stay away from too much fatty, sugary food.
You really nailed it. When we make healthy choices it really helps everything.
Wear what is comfortable and what you like! Who cares if someone else doesn’t like it!
Nobody on these style channels ever shows a front tuck on a woman with a stomach, they all suggest we do it but the proof is in the pudding (which I eat too much of, hence the need for a boxy top 😂)
I agree the top tucked In doesn't look good if you have a belly. Glad you said that.
@@tracyenriquez2952 I’d look like Humpty Dumpty 🤣
I'm noticing this tuck thing on TV with older actresses, and my first thought is "they're drinkin the Kool-Aid". The tuck emphasizes the stomach pooch, which is not flattering. I love tops that are cut like the maroon floral this woman dumped on. I think that top is lovely and practical. I love a 3/4 sleeve and I have thin arms. I favor men's sweat pants. I like the straight full leg and the fabric is a better quality than a woman's fleece. Kinda casual Dietrich.
@@tallisinwonderland4724you are funny.
I’m 67, I live in Rome and being “mature” does not make us shy away from being golden fashionistas 😊😊😊we follow trends and adapt it to our “age”😅😅😅😅. Bottom line, we stick to neutral colors and use colors for accents…😊
I’m 36 yrs old and thin, 5 ft and 95 lbs. I love 3/4 blouse shirts especially if they’re white and jean blue color. They make me look classy when I wear them with shorts and sandals or skinny jeans with short heels and pairing them with gold necklace and bracelet. I also love my cardigan shirts that stop at the waist. I work at school and wear dresses throughout the year. I’m always cold and tight cardigans with my dress make me look put together. I wear the same thing in the winter but I wear them with black tights or leggings with ankle boots. I don’t follow the newest trend but have discovered what really suits my body type and I buy solid colors so they never go out of style. And I’m more drawn to them.
There's nothing more annoying than the word "trend". If you know what works for you, just go with it. Most of us figure this out as we age, but at 36 you are hardly older. When our bodies start changing is where the challenge begins. Not many women get thinner as they age ; neither do men. Most fashion "trends" are aimed at young women.
77 here and 3/4 sleeves are the best - that don't drag or get caught on things, and do cover those flabby upper arms. I often get compliments from younger people wearing them. Totally agree on boxy things. Terrible. I am fit and don't have a stomach. Love the fitted waist wide leg pants/jeans that skim the floor with a fitted top.Those pants you showed definitely look like old lady pants to me. My bunions would die in heels of any height. Had an artist specifically do individual colors. They do not fit the 'seasons' at all. I suggest taking photos of you in various outfits and colors in different lighting and outdoors and then looking at the photos.
Hey, I'm a woman who does things! Sometimes long sleeves are just in the way and rolled sleeves don't stay rolled. A confident woman with good posture and a smile on her face will not look frumpy, no matter what she wears.
I so agree.
Brenda, I think too much emphasis is given to superficial appearance and not enough focus on being able to function in your lifestyle OR improving your behaviors.
@@cynthiaannacutler5721 absolutely. I’m an outdoors woman -guys seem to find that very attractive, including my hubby😉.
the way you dress and wear your hair dictates the frump factor. Sorry but true.
I do want to point out a couple of observations. When you are thinner you can wear almost anything and look good in it. The exception is the leather pants you like. The odd length on the flared out pants is the equivalent to 3/4 sleeves on a blouse. It's just my opinion, No disrespect intended.
I don't like the way those leather pants flare out at the wrong length.
Yeah that's such a challenge, is someone stylish, or are they just thin. I generally find fat fashion accounts on Instagram etc are the most inspiring bc it's easier to see true style. Fashion is intensely fatphobic, so following people who bypass that aspect and focus on style is useful.
Yeah, Imma have to agree. Any style that is "frumpy" can look "stylish" on someone who is really thin. You see it all the time, side by side comparisons of outfits on different sized women and the bigger woman is getting shamed while the thin woman is being hailed as a fashion icon. That's some real nonsense right there. The only way I think fashion applies differently to the old than the young is that older women who are more stylish are usually going for a classier, more timeless look. Choosing pieces that look good on them, not what is considered trendy.
Completely agree with the flared cropped pant. There's nothing attractive about those.
You’re right, thinner women at any age look good in almost everything. I often see maybe a shirt over jeans or pants and she looks great but I think I’m not thin enough to pull that off nor is anyone else a bit heavier. Here’s an example..Diane Keaton..despite her fashion preferences she’s been in movies and she looks great in many outfits…think Something’s Gotta Give…white jeans with shirt or the simple black dress. She looked great.
I will NEVER give up my 3/4 length sleeves. I love them and they're comfortable. It's nice to be old enough to not care what others think about what I wear. As Wayne Dyer said, 'your opinion of me is none of my business.'
Good one! I always liked his advice.
Why would you watch a video with this title if you don’t want fashion advice? Just skip it if it doesn’t apply 🤷🏻♀️
I think a lot of the Frump descent is caused by middle aged spread... I always had a small waist with big hips and boobs no matter what weight I was... then as I entered my 50's, suddenly my waist has ballooned and who knows how to dress THAT figure??? So I wind up wearing things that skim over my boobs and hips and hopefully hide my belly... so we end up in loose boxy shapeless clothes... I get enraged when people tell me to put a belt on to bring it in.... if I still had a waist I wouldn't be hiding it! I appreciate your advice but you HAVE TO show your solutions on someone with that middle aged spread because showing it on someone who still has a good figure is kind of missing the point.
I got my hour glass figure back at 70, hadn't seen it for 40 years.....clean Keto (no keto store bought products) and intermittent fasting, moderate exercise like a daily walk. It can be done regardless of your age....I am down 60 pounds, now if only I could iron out the wrinkles 😂
You can wear a belt without cinching it in, you just have to give the ILLUSION of a waist
I love 3/4 sleeves. It hides my batty arms AND it’s not a long sleeve.
I love them because having to roll up sleeves every single time I wash my hands or prepare food and snacks is tiresome! Having a toddler grandson at home means always washing up something.
I agree!
Fully agree. And I don't want to walk around with rolled up sleeves. Tends to look sloppy or uneven
But it is a dated look. And I’m in my 50s too.
You lost me when you said Chicos! I’m 60 years old with fortunately still sexy body shape. To me Chicos is what my daughters always refer to as a “Teacher” clothes store. I think some of your suggestions are way off! Here’s the thing, if you put something on and it makes YOU feel beautiful, then rock that look and let your light shine. And always compliment other women when you like their outfits. A small kind word to another woman can change their whole day. Life is stressful, let people wear what they want and be happy!
Most women know by 50 what looks good on their body....had a Chico lady just insist that a certain pant would look great on me....I had to try them on to show her that I knew they would not....big prints are 1970s...yuck....3/4 sleeves cover ugly arms....short and sleeveless are a thing of the past for me....like you said....just suggestions....
Good for you 🙏
Unbelievable how many Debbie downers are in the comments. If you can’t appreciate her advice then simply carry on. I actually appreciate this because I don’t want to look frumpy!!
So she ranks on clothing she doesn’t like, doesn’t make her correct for us all. She is negative, and misses the target a lot
The cardigans you’re showing look clownish and I guess they’re meant to. They also look very cheap. Nor do they look short. I have a dark taupe cashmere long sleeved cardigan that’s to die for. Is somewhat tapered but not tight.Jewel neckline. Falls at waist. Superb quality. No pockets. Buttons (small). It goes with jeans, trousers, skirts, longer or shorter. Came from Lord & Taylor on sale. I have a cream one also and wear them constantly usually over a good quality cotton tee shirt. No a forgiving sweater to cover anything but it’s a *cardigan* and is exquisite and timeless. Jumped in because I love good cardigans.sweaters.
I just turned 37🎉, I think FIT matters so much when it comes to looking frumpy. Knowing what suits your figure (height, proportions etc) is important for looking chic. You are so right about people holding onto the fashion of when they felt their best.
Happy birthday Natalie!!
@@MsGoldgirl thank you!
Agreed that fit matters. There was a show called "What Not To Wear" that emphasized that. Wearing clothes that show off your assets are key. I have a high waist so I'm loving the current high waist trend!
Great suggestions for size 8-10 women of medium height. But I would like to see the ladies in that group picture you showed wearing your suggestions. Most of them were size 18-22. It does make a BIG difference.
Yep...or a 5'1" size 14
I don’t get the hate in all the comments here. Ladies, here’s the reality - a lot of us “dames d’un certain âge” are still in the workforce, the dating world, and school, and we get compared to women who are younger. The women who get passed over for promotions and dates, as well as getting ignored by their professors, are the women that fit the stereotype of the middle-aged woman - frumpy, outdated, no style. Is it fair? No. Does it suck eggs? Yes. However, it’s the cold, hard facts. The trick to remain a contender in all aspects of life is to look as TIMELESS as possible so they can’t guess your age. Some of the tips that she said in the video may not apply to you because of your body shape or lifestyle, but her info is still relevant. There are middle-aged fashion content creators out there who focus on different body shapes (including the petite, plus-sized apple shape) or different lifestyles, and they’ll say a lot of the same things that Marnie is saying in her video.
Okay this cracks me up because a “shacket” or a chunky cardigan or a cropped pant is totally frumpy. It’s just trendy frump.
Oh my gosh, that is so funny - 'trendy frump' - how true!
What "trendy frump" looks bad on one could look marvelous on another. You can reference Pinterest for 40s and up fashion as well as plus size. "Like" what resonates with you and it will refine your feed (your results)
I'm 52 and wear w t f I want to. I am wearing my purple hat proudly!!
LOL,good for you
If fashion "experts" had their way, we would all toss all our clothes and buy all new, each year.
You had me at "We're all just trying to get dressed in the morning without looking ridiculous". Yes!!! Yes!!! Yes!!
3/4 sleeves actually look better than any other length. They also make sense in hot climates where you would never need long sleeves.
if you’re in a hot climate then short sleeves or tank top is best. 3/4 sleeves are dumb. they make no sense for any season
@@princesskkay221 They do, if your upper arms are flabby.
I wear what I want. I wear what looks good on me. I can't always follow fashion bc frankly, I don't like it and I don't feel like giving freaking China money, hurting the environment or giving companies money who have social justice moralizations. Trends? Ha. bold, modern, etc? Find your style, find your confidence and find your life. I don't or rarely look frumpy, but guess what? I don't give a hoot who thinks what about me bc I've been to enough funerals and estate sales to know that person you try to impress? They die. They move. If they don't like you? It doesn't matter what you wear, they will be nasty. Find your style, enjoy it and to heck with the rest. Life is finite so live your life everyday to the very best you can. God bless.
Exercise in a way that makes you sweat for at LEAST 30 minutes a day. As an alternative, walk for 80 or 90 minutes a day, with some hills. I am a lifelong runner, but if you hate running, do the long walks instead. The glow and the body firming effects will look better on you than any superficial changes you make.
Dont walk or run if you have knee trouble. Do exercise that doesnt work knees. Drs advise against anything that makes bone on bone contact more frequent
A few of those tops that you were showing as "bad" choices, I was looking at thinking, "Hmmmmm, that's nice!"
The one thing that adds more years to your appearance than anything else is weight. I'm 59 and just started a new job. I thought the woman I'm working for was close to my age. Turns out she turned 40 2 months ago. The other people on the team think I am younger than her. Can't wait for all your attacks. The truth is seldom convenient.
It's true. Keeping the weight off helps you look younger. It is not even debatable.
Your comment about blush placement is so true. I'm 44 and feel like I'm aging well. However, when I did my makeup the same way I've done in the past 20yrs, I looked different, off... I realized it was my blush placement. I can't place it on the apples of my cheek anymore bc gravity took over. I resembled a literal 🤡. Meaning my makeup was just sooo noticeable like one. When I started placing it upward toward my temples, it was like an instant face lift. I also wonder why people think when you care about how you look, it's caring about what people think. I get it may be true for some but for others its quite the contrary. When I look good (based on my own validation), I feel good.
Gravity took over at 44? Really?
@@ruthieclarke9125 I don't look like how I did when I was 24. It's not like my cheeks went up.
those wide leg fake leather pants from chico's are the ugliest most ridiculous looking pair of pants i have ever seen. you totally lost all credibility.
Don't get rid of Capri pants❗️I'm short and Capri pants are regular length for me without having to cut/hem/ roll them. 😀😉
Me too! 5 foot tall!
Wear whatever makes YOU comfortable!
I really like her positivity and how she includes herself. She isn't passing judgment in any way, just giving suggestions that some people might find helpful, yet people are still getting offended?! I actually really enjoyed her video!
Thanks Robin!
I LOVE 3/4 sleeves and I DON’T CARE!!! 😆
The key is developing your personal style. Being "on trend" is boring. I have no desire to be on-trend. But I also don't want to be frumpy. You must put in the time to know what cuts of clothing, colors and tones, materials, patterns, and styles complement YOU. There are people who collect vintage clothing. I'm one of them. Dated looks are the point. Some people "want" to recreate retro styles. Some people are into academia, cottage-core, granny-core, nerd-core, or whatever dated vintage look they want the to achieve. The thing is if you're going to do it, go all of the way! Be bold! Be daring! Decide what your core style is and then boldly wear it with confidence. Purchase eclectic one-of-a-kind vintage pieces and mix them with modern staple pieces. Don't let society dictate to you what YOUR personal style should be. You decide. You develop it. It can be many different aspects of your personality. Wild, minimalist, maximalist, low-key, whatever it is you choose. Do you!
Wholeheartedly agree! Just because something is ‘on trend’ doesn’t mean it will suit you. I look like a fat sparrow in skinny jeans 😂
At 65 years old I do agree that many of the clothing choices for older women are not flattering. I think many clothes for older women are designed for comfort which is not a bad thing but it sometimes lacks good more up to date style. That said, I love 3/4 inch sleeves. They keep my arms and shoulders warm without the sleeves getting in the way. Rolling up sleeves is a pain. I never wear pointy shoes, very bad for your toes. Shoes are a very personal choice. Many older women have foot issues (some of which can be attributed to wearing stylish shoes). Wear what feels good and doesn't hurt your feet, lots of choices in footwear now a days. At the end of the day healthy pain free feet are more important than style, but with all the choices out there these days you can usually find something if not well your health is more important. 😂
LOL. I’m 72 and I have earned the right to look as frumpy as I wish! These days I care about comfort and not even a little about what others think-except for church.
Good for you Marcia!!
If you feel great about it, that's great.
I'me 73 and definitely do not want to look frumpy. I do my hair and make up every day and try to look stylish when I go out, i believe in making an effort; it makes me feel better
Three-quarter sleeves show my bracelets and feature my slender wrists while covering my flabby upper arms.
Exactly I don’t see the problem at all lol and if you are going to get longer sleeves to essentially do the same thing…. Welp…
@@ilovenycinspirational6436 I can understand pivoting away from a style we’ve been seeing for a long time. The 3/4 sleeves have become classic IMO.
They are the best. I’m a fashion designer and they are one of the best styles any woman can wear!
I love capris! I’m tall, so I don’t have to worry about them being long enough! They are a great solution to the problem of pants being too short. Plus I look a lot better in capris than shorts 😀
As someone in who just had double bunion removal surgery in my mid thirties, pointed toe shoes are not the way to go. Aim for the one that leaves your toes in a natural position
Both my pinkie toes are permanently damaged. Ballet ate up my feet.
Someone who works with Chico’s cannot tell others what is fashinable!
I am new to your channel. It is easier to not wear frumpy outfits if you are not a plus size because there are more choices to choose from. As a plus size, I find most of the clothings options for a plus size person to be frumpy and hideous!!! If you are heavy wearing a florel pattern or a boxy shirt will not make you less frumpy or thinner. Yet, the clothing/fashion industry seems to think this is what we need!!!!
I'm with you! I'm doing Keto and down 30 pounds but still in a size Large top and size 14 jeans. My upper arms are too big so I mostly wear "boxy" men's tees because I don't like women's cap sleeves or how they gather at the waist. When the video host showed up I hated her top because it made her hips look HUGE. But it could have been the angle or how close she was to the camera. Idk. But I don't do fitted anything.
I started keto too just six week ago and by bp gone down and my glucose dropped 200 but still need to drop 100 more and I'll be back in normal range. In a large but feeling so much better. Sugar and carbs are worth it anymore.
@@marlo2919 Way to go! After just 3 months on Keto my A1C went down to 5.6 which is in the normal range! My doctor told me to keep it up as I'm not even in the pre-diabetic range. I also got off my bp meds.
@@marlo2919 keep going and you'll feel so much better! Look up Keto Twins and Keto Focus and Low Carb Love here on KZhead. ❤
@@Karen_Busch thanks! I will check out those channels.
I would love to see videos like this one with women who weigh maybe...165+ with tummies, squishy hips, and back rolls! I love the idea of fitted tops like the one you are wearing, but I don't wanna see myself from behind in that, and no one else does either, lol!
Yes honey. 4'11" 235 lbs. Dress that
@@ictype4u YES!!! 💗
You are beautiful and young, a long way from frumpy! As a 70 year old (I am a grandma) I LOVE 3/4 length sleeves and have no intention of giving them up lol. At my age I am all about comfort. I do try to stay up on make up and youthful hair cut, and keep a smile.
Wow! I disagree with so many things you said. But we all have our preferences. Wear whatever makes you comfortable as long as it’s not offensive or inappropriate for the occasion. The main one I want to “point” out is the pointed toe shoe. Wearing pointed toe shoes for years caused me to need surgery on both feet because it deformed them. Podiatrists say to never wear pointed toe shoes. Also being tall my entire life and being teased for wearing “floods” most of my youth, I will never wear pants just above the ankle… or low waisted hip huggers. I love 3/4 sleeves, capris, and symmetrical clothes… asymmetrical is just too sloppy. While I struggle with frumpiness at times, I’ve spent too many years wearing uncomfortable clothes just to “fit in”. Granted you’ll never find me wearing pajamas to Walmart (seriously people?)… you’ve got to draw the line somewhere 😂
THANK you!! The whole video should have been titled "don't worry darling, dress like this" I LOATHE pointy shoes and button down shirts. I HATE floods. They look horrible on most people
But I prefer chunky jewelry.
Good answer
I say wear whatever makes you feel comfortable as long as it’s modest.
For various reasons, older women like 3/4 sleeves. Those probably won't change. Not always about feeling warm or hot.
Full length blouses and sweaters overwhelm my look, somehow. 3/4 lengths look way more chic. Also bulky sweaters like in the first example makes people look frumpy and older, so, it's all personal preference.
I have worn 3/4 length sleeves at every age, from my teens to my current 62. I am tall, with very long arms, and that length is by far the most flattering on my body. And, long-sleeve shirts never, ever have sleeves long enough to reach my wrists, and folding or rolling them up to 3/4 length is the only way to normalize the look.
Yes different body types might look different in different styles over all for short round people or average that style cuts them off highlighting their problem areas.
I live in Florida! It’s hot, capris are great when it’s cool in the morning and warm later, same with 3/4 sleeves. Not sorry. I am secure enough that I don’t need to follow the leader especially where fashion is concerned
Colours & styling make a big difference too. When I'm doing lab work a half - 3/4 sleeve is what I wear under the lab coat
I agree that where you live makes a huge difference in how you dress.
Love my 3/4 length sleeves…will not stop wearing them😊
Especially when we get older and have extra skin hanging on our upper arms . You can’t exercise that away.
Same!
I hate 3/4 length sleeves! If you need to push them up you can’t, and if you’re cold in the air conditioning, you can’t roll them down. On top of that they’re unflattering. They make zero sense!
As a 49 year old I am able to just be me. I will never wear something just because it's on trend. That means you just want to fit in. Aren't you over that already at this age. Don't wear something you don't like, like shackets.
More than half of these ladies are overweight. Much harder for overweight women to dress less frumpy. I’ve seen some fabulous looking Overweight women but the cost is so much more to dress un-frumpy. Maybe do a video of low cost but nice looking dress for women who are overweight.
I love 3/4 sleeves and wear them because where I live the summers are not very hot but the sun is fierce. I burn easily from the elbows up in about 2 minutes in the sun. I also think 3/4 sleeves look fine, they are not frumpy or ageing.
Agreed, and I don't get my cuffs wet when washing the dishes :)
There are two kinds of women. 1) those who care about these kinds of tips and 2) those who don't. I listened to the first part but then realized I'm the 2nd woman. At 70+ this is my time for comfort and fun. That's what determines my style choices. Yay! If you're the first kind of girl, yay for YOU. I stopped seeing what people wear and enjoy who they are.
I hear what your saying. Also to be fair while billions of women on our planet share many things unique to being female at diff ages we’re also thankfully unique in ways. I try to leave feeding division with social labels to politics, statisticians, corp marketing teams etc. I’m all for you do you. Whatever feels best and right. Divine feminine. Life is so short. ❤️✨
I couldn’t agree more. Everyone needs to be comfortable with the clothing they wear. Due to individual body chemistry and size issues we all have with our bodies, everyone has individual preferences with certain kinds of shoes, pants, and shirts. When we all wear what works for us and are comfortable, we all feel energetic, mobile and young. There is never a one size fits all recipie when it comes to clothing. Lastly, age is more of a state of mind more than anything, along with a healthy body. When a person dresses comfortably in clothing that suits their indvidual needs, they will naturally act youthful and energetic.
Honestly wear what makes you feel beautiful and comfortable. Personally, trying to be on trend is also aging, same as stuck in an old trend , develop your own style and at the higher age your allowed to not care what people think. 😂
I agree. I feel that women who obsess so much over these silly things, indicate a deep insecurity. I'd like to believe that I'm secure and confident enough to follow what makes me feel comfortable. This is all nonsense to me. I'm almost 58 and will wear what I darn well please ☺️
I'm with you Cindy. 3/4 sleeves can be flatering.
I’m old (59), but I embrace it as I’ve gained much wisdom and a few beautiful granddaughters on the path to meet my maker. You look wonderful. To me, a woman who is truly kind, generous and nonjudgmental is a great asset to society. Knowing how to dress age appropriate is the cherry on top.
You're not old!!
Ditto what Marnie said.. I’m 58 and I don’t consider myself old!
I completely bypassed your "old" comment and went right on to appreciate the rest of what you wrote which was the important part of your message. Beautifully said, P.K.!
I'm 65 a breast cancer survivor and I will keep blonde pixie and dress young. Live strong and be happy
Life is way too short to not just wear what you feel comfy and happy in!
I think classic clothes (cashmere cardigan, tailored capris, pearl earrings, etc.), from every decade, never go out of style and saving 3rd-laborers from our U.S. "toss away" fashions is always a win! Also, when you travel abroad, you notice that woman in other countries are not so "on trend" - they are just wearing nice, clean, comfy, flattering clothes that seem much more unique.
Agree we should avoid throwing out good clothes just because they’re “out of fashion”. Fashion industry waste is horrendous.