The Empath In Recovery: Step 1 - Calm Your Nervous System
In this video I take a detailed look at the first essential step in the recovery process for the empath in trouble - calming their dysregulated nervous system. I cover the role of the stress response and the need to accurately determine the stage of stress the empath is stuck in.
I discuss the use of Hair Tissue Mineral Analysis (HTMA) in the assessment of the stress response (more info on HTMA below).
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Does anyone else feel when you do the inner work, you can sense when people don’t like you even when you have done absolutely nothing to them?
You show them a mirror of the work which they are not doing. So people react to you as a trigger. They see their own short comings.
@@SatumainenOlento Thiiiis.
Once in a while, I feel that nobody likes or respects me, so it would be great if I could know when that feeling is true.
Yes all the time 😅
Yup
Hello fellow empaths
Hello 🤗
Hello nina and alexia!
Hello
@@50shadesofskittles9 Hey Mickey 👋
@@destinyplummer3176 Hey Destiny 🤗
I thank the Lord every day for directing me to the information I need. I'm going to get better.
Same here! And you said this a year ago. How ironic!
I cannot stress enough how much writing and art therapy helps with this. Much love to all my fellow empaths. ❤️❤️❤️
Yes I’m an empath and had a massive stroke at 39. Now I’m cured. I’ll never put anyone but God ahead of myself.
"god" is a fairy tale. you're not cured
How can YOU tell anyone they're not cured? You are not very helpful and this whole video and thread is about being helpful.
"god" is fiction. just trying to help a deluded person.
prove the bible is actually "gods" word and Ill believe every last word verbatim. prove it.
God is many different things to people, depends on the person. El Cerebro I encourage you to explore different ways of practicing spirituality, it seems you have good reason to reject the one that was forced on you :)
My nervous system has been totally freaked out my entire life.
Same here unfortunately! (Humans have surely traumatized me)
I was born high strung. And now I have a grandson the same way. My three children, however, are calm and placid. Leads me to wonder what is genetic.
Same here, I have had chronic hives since I was 17years old. And it's because my body temperature rises, so heat,stress can cause my immune system to attack itself. Like my body is in fight mode all of the time.
Yup. I hear that! Lol.
this guy is a quack, a liar and a heartless manipulator. he's earning money by taking advantage of your empathy. if you want to cure yourself look no further than Aajonus Vonderplanitz (weird name I know) and the GAPS diet. I can guarantee you the guy in this video eats plenty of meat!
I followed this video after a series of covert NPD and now I’m in tears. I have a fibromyalgia, I’m exhausted and I am highly sensitive and also am an empath. This is all making sense. I can’t seem to get away from narcissists, they follow me like white on rice. They’re all around me, family, friend, co-worker all in 1 person and I live with them. I know I attracted them, I just now how to learn how to set boundaries and be assertive.
iluvubb247 Believe in yourself & that you do not need any of those people. As soon as you believe you come first in your life, everything will change inside of you. No one can hurt you anymore.
I am HSP and after 22 years I realise i am with a covert narcissist at level 1 maybe going to level 2 and have had fibromyalgia twice in the last 5 years. Both times extreme pain couldn't use arms and recovered through exercise and second time through self healing meditation tapes so calmed nervous system. I did all the giving and he did all the taking. Didn't know anything about boundaries. Trying to leave and will when house sells. Please Spirit send buyer!
Walking is an excellent way of releasing tension and stress in a quiet and peaceful environment
8 miles a day, not helping yet.
Hippocrates said walking is the answer to everything.
Don’t hike too much Michaelsmith5583, you end up producing stress hormones if you overexercise
I notice that when I'm upset due to heartache/stress my stomach hurts so bad it's damn near debilitating! I was in an abusive narcissistic relationship that became so bad, my stomach pain would tell me b4 hand that he was getting ready to argue with me over something petty. The stress of it all got so bad that I ended up being diagnosed with diverticulitis and thus has to have 2 feet of my large intenstine removed. This is all too real folks...when you feel mentally abused, it effects you physically as well. I now listen to my body when I encounter a toxic individuals.😢💔
Robyn same here
people do not realize how much this can affect physical health until it is acute! thanks for sharing your story.
Robyn I love your smile!
Yeah I feel you. I've developed IBS after staying in a dysfuncional/toxic house share. ❤🌻 Keep going x
Same here but my dreams tell me before hand how bad the arguement will be. I just don’t know when excatly it will happen.
YES!! I was in a continual loop of 1/2 for 50+ years. This resulted in a total system failure. Bed ridden for almost a year. Had 3 Autoimmune diseases, on a cocktail of eleven Meds... wheelchair... People, I beg you, listen to this angel!! He’s soooo right. I’m grateful for my reset...I found meditation. Limited my diet due to lack of energy and detoxed without realizing it. I did a LOT of inner work... not much else to do. Im now eating sparingly, adding fruits and veggies, lots of water. Guess what?! NO more inflammation! Zero Meds. No more wheelchair. I’m building my strength & endurance. This feels like a slow mo NDE. My new life is amazing. (AND, key...> I went no contact w the Abusive Narcissist. I nearly DIED because I was taught I had no needs, no self, didn’t deserve love. False) PLEASE, I BEG YOU: Stop & listen!!
Kimand Linda I’m so glad you’re healing and getting better all the time. Many blessings!
Just discovered this, I have fibromyalgia, thyrodititis , IBS ect. I have changed my diet totally but financial and family problems are persistent and I am at total burn out level and at a point of wanting to give up. Dealing with a very bad flare currently find it difficult to know which way to go anymore.
Hey Linda. Thank you : )
Hello Marlene Totally relate to your situation... Suggest focussing on State of mind, Specific food and Subject experts. #1 State of mind Shanti i.e. Peace How: i) Music (soft soothing instrumental music... search on youtube) 10 to 30 mins 1 to 3 times a day ii) Visuals (green forest, sunny pristine beaches, sunrise, sunset videos... on youtube) 10 to 30 mins 1 to 3 times a day iii) People (Find peace loving (peacefully living) community (compassionate people)... shift for 10 days to 10 months and more) a) Best immediate option for compassionate community: 100% Free 10 day Vipassana meditation stay (food and stay is free for 10 days. Spend the full day in peace.) Seek further options from people at the vipassana center post 10 days. For long term stay, search for following... b) Search for Buddhist Centres nearby (highly caring and compassionate community on earth!) c) Search for 'peaceful yoga ashrams in US, India, '... are sustained on charity / donations from affluent / free for those suffering / in recovery) Following yoga will also make your mind & body free from stress and diseases d) Search for a Church online: Stay with nuns (free) e) Move to warm weather country side and pick up gardening there (best thing for fastest recovery from burn out & become lively) Food #2 i) Search for anti-inflammatory food (See Fruits and veggies that the body tolerates. Also search for organic coconut oil and organic grass fed ghee.) Take room temperature water rarely and Hot water frequently. Filtered hot water. ii) Search for microbiome, probiotics and prebiotics for IBS, online iii) Learn about 'healing ayurvedic spices' and 'healing ayurvedic food.' Support #3 i) Mind: Share your situation with Dr. Saad... See www.vitalmind.com.au (His staff / he) May not have seen your comment here. ii) HTMA: Dr. Rick Malter in US... www.malterinstitute.org (From the video above by Dr. Saad...) iii) For IBS, Fibromyalgia, Thyroid... Search for 'Functional Medicine Doctors' and 'Ayurvedic Doctors' See heavy metal and POP (Persistent Organic Pollutants) toxicity if you are / have been living in a city for a long long time. If test is positive, detox. And above all, stay cool. God bless and all the best
More on Food / IBS issues... (for one suffering from intestinal discomfort) If milk is a problem... remove milk and milk products from food plate for a short time If fiber is a problem... remove fiber (fruits and veggies) from the food plate for a short time If grains are a problem... remove wheat and wheat products (along with other grains) from food plate If beans are a problem... remove beans from the food plate (soak and blanch before having) If nuts are a problem... remove nuts and nut containing products from food plate for a short time (soak and blanch before having) If non-plant based foods (eggs, etc.) are a problem... remove eggs, etc. from food plate If chemicals are a problem... have 100 % certified organic food (or remove chemicals on skin to start with) and begin growing your own organic food If fungal growth is a problem... remove sugar and sugar products (and white flours, room temperature foods) from food plate take certified organic anti-fungal herbs If bacterial growth is a problem... remove stale food (left overs) and room temperature foods from the food plate take certified organic anti-bacterial herbs along with (self made) probiotics and prebiotics ...and so on. Have 1 type of food only, from above for breakfast, lunch, etc. (i.e. at one time) and see body's response to the food to find which food is the problem Should there be any food deficiencies (medical tests show) ... minerals, essential fatty acids, vitamins (sunlight, bacterial, fat soluble, water soluble ones...) ...take supplements (for short term, IF needed) and fresh farm foods containing those vital elements of life for life : ) ...And stay in 'rest digest' mode before, during and after having food (see Dr. Saad's video above for more).
Sooo many people get ruined by the narcissist simply because he alone was never satisfied in life.. Evil cycle. It's best to forgive and forget
You can forgive, but the minute you forget and let your guard down, you will be reminded with a shot of pain from the Narc. They don't change, even if you do.
@@cincyspin178 Exactly!
@@GIwillo Yeah, I guess you have to read between the lines.
Or she.
Sorry have to disagree something needs to be done about them I will never forgive or forget these people need to be bought to justice
I started life as an extrovert. Now 56 years later, and after several horrific relationships with narcissists, I too isolate. I find it difficult to interact with even non-narcissists including my own grown children. But good to see I'm not alone here. Thanks fam!
I would love you to do a series on self-abandonment. This is the core reason we end up in narcissistic relationships. It is the biggest reason we attract these people. 🙏
kidsmoked boy I swear I thought I was alone inside
And this is also your chance to shine baby Go for it
We don't attract them. It is not us, they are predatory aggressors. We are the prey.
I finally realized that my 99% of my health problems are caused by my narc mother sucking my energy all of my life. I wish had these videos many years ago, I would have put some distance between my mother and I, as I am doing now. I feel my depression lightening up, the pain in my joints is slowly easing off and even my round the year allergies are not as severe. At 65 now, I can look back at the various illness, from migraines , allergies and joint aches to bronchitis that lasted for month every year. And too many other illness that have come and gone over the years to write here . I also acknowledge that this constant stress will eventually be my downfall if I don't acknowledge the cause and effects to myself and act accordingly. That is to start taking care of myself. It's not easy to get free of the spider web my mother has enmeshed me in all my adult life. I grew up surrounded by narcs. My grandmother, aunt, and mother all doing their thing to each other and to us kids. Now only my mother survives and for the last few years I have been wondering if I'm going to survive. At 91 I don't know where she gets the energy to continue on with all her negativity and drama. I sure am worn out! Being able to write my feelings down in these comment sections of the videos has been an enormous help in putting things in perspective while digesting and incorporating this information. It is like a therapy to listen and learning why the people in my life behaved as they did and still do in the case of my mother. I know I am not one of a kind in having grown up in this enormously unhealthy kind of family dynamics. I have come to realize it is trans-generational. I wish that people had to have some kind of test for mental health before they decide to procreate and pass on the traits that we are beginning to know as narcissism along with other kinds of personality disorders. There are so very very many people suffering from the after affects of living with these people. I know they are mentally ill, and probably will never get help. That is their problem, not ours, our time and efforts should be spent on recovery, both in body and mind. I am happy to say, that is exactly what I am working on now.
I never knew that being and empath could truly lead to me neglecting my own responses to stress and anxiety. Videos like this truly help me understand more about myself and how I can deal with my surroundings better.
Narcs will push you to the point of exhaustion, then turn around and berate you for "letting yourself go". If someone is creating confusion or unrest in your life--please get away from them! Don't continue dating them, don't marry them, and please, for God sake, don't have kids with them!
When that was your parent i think not that easy
But why everone in narsistik side? Even religius one live narsistik, and harm me.
Too late for me. Now I know all this. Putting myself back together. Wish someone taught this type of stuff in school.
@@cindyski4413 Not too late but I understand how you feel and why you feel this way. Baby steps. Sending you love.
@@wuhaiyanpags9549 I know
I just discovered your videos and I'm so happy to see a medical professional that takes care also of the spiritual side of this subject. Thank you!
Psychic Intuitive Guidance by Alexa Moonfall It's amazing. No medical professionals ever acknowledge empathy. At least in my experience. They usually just diagnose a non-existent "chemical imbalance" or "mood disorder" and prescribe harmful rx medications.(that do not work and never will) I gave up on the "industry" for that reason. How can a doctor or psychologist treat you for a physical disease they cannot prove with medical testing? No thank you. It is so wonderful to have found this man who understands!!!
Psychic Intuitive Guidance by Alexa Moonfall
Melinda King I couldn’t agree more. Docs have put me through the ringer.
empathy is emotional and cognitive not spiritual.
okay but it's almost always used in the spiritual sense so to know that it has a science behind it helps a great deal
Magnesium salts...Epsom Salt baths.
truly heavenly.
@@sunnydaze80 Yes
Wade Haden did you lie long enough in the Epsom salts bath?
Helps me renew energy so does clay baths.
@Wade Haden Take a loofah into the bath with you and exfoliate, that will remove the outer layer of dead skin cells and increase your absorption. You also have to use enough salts (I use 1kg per bath), and you need to soak for long enough, I spend at least 2 hours in the bath. I also make a simple paste from the salts, that will exfoliate your skin and get you a good dose of magnesium without even needing a bath.
I have reached burnout. You are truly waking me up to the truth of me. My deepest gratitude to you for explaining this to me.
He's 100% right about everything here. I don't know what I would have done without my Epsom salt and essential oil bath and candles during that time. It's like you're sitting still but inside your body is just vibrating like crazy. These help a lot
yes. me too
Wish this was available 30 years ago! Reaching exhaustion woke me up to what was keeping me stressed...family of narcs. Cut that way back and started focusing on me
Kathryn Nicholas - Hello there. I can relate, having recently being forced (imploding) into the realization of my own narc family of origins true nature, having affected my initial 32 years of mediocre existence.
Ruinous Fiend Yes...and finding all that was not normal, which I knew, but couldn't seem to settle into my own life, or just feel balanced. Am starting that now. Hope you can too
Kathryn Nicholas -thank you, I appreciate your reply. Perhaps you might find articles written by Phil Walker, of some assistance, I certainly have. I feel you are a courageous individual, and wish you the best.✌🙂👌
Ruinous Fiend thanks. I'll look at his articles
Kathryn Nicholas -hey, my apologies. It's 'Pete Walker', not Phil. I'm sorry if I've caused any confusion.
My grannies used to call me, as a child, "high strung", "nervy", "different" even way back then, and I would sleepwalk, when nobody could understand me since I just didn't fit into my very abusive family system.. They said I was doing this deliberately to be obnoxious but the truth of the matter was that I really just didn't understand or couldn't understand how to fit in, feeling their disappointment & anger I used to wonder what was wrong with me. It was when I left home as a teenager to live with my grandparents that I began to bloom & blossom into my own person with my own value system. So glad you are doing this on-line work.
Thank you Mark.
So not being hateful is now labeled as being weird?! Yet they walk around saying peace and love but show actions of pure hatred. Now psychopaths are being given powers by the Police and "healthcare" State. Accusations are proof of guilt and facts are conspiracy theories.
Theh wanna bring .e down they dont like empaths thei are demons god help them and bless them
My grandparents called me very soft, sensitive, and different (they meant in a good way). I'm forever thankful that they positively acknowledged these traits because everyone else in my family either bullied, abused, or took advantage of me. My grandparents left me that little seed of self-acceptance that probably saved my life
@@ashleycnossen3157 excellent
Wow! That's exactly what happened to me these past 3 years. Till I figured it out that I was married to a very abusive Narcissist man. I prayed and meditated so hard. And one day I woke up and got the heck outta there. I'm on my own now. Feeling positive. Sleeping so much better and the inflammation is subsiding. I am so grateful to have found these KZhead videos and use them for research, healing and recap of all that I've endured. I'm now so empowered! Thank you❤
me too
I’m in your past situation trying to figure out an escape Good for you being so strong to leave!
Most likely, good meditation helped you.
I suffered from nervous system disorder as a child and adult. I am an empath, and as a child I had a narcissist mother. Thank you for the video.
This was my life four years ago, summed up in one video. I had to do all the research on my own to find out what was happening. Thank you sooo much for providing this for others, so they don’t have to go through the horror that I did. Much love from Arkansas, USA! 💖
congrats on doing the work. I, too, am doing a retro fill-in of the reasoning behind all the tools I've been using and behind all my behavioral changes over the last 4 years!! I find it even more subduing and calming to have it all explained. My brain loves it! Good luck in your journey.
Meredith Linden Thank you! You too!! 😁
Thanks!!
Me also last 3 years I couldn’t study fast enough Wow painfully truthful. Now I can truly navigate my life not the decades of white knuckling it with painful results.. No more 💪🏻🙏🏻❤️
Love Whyte I hear you. So glad you’ve been able to find the info you need too! 😁💖
I went to get a massage she said my nerves are all shortened. And asked if I've been to war. ... its from childhood
Wow!
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Same. 😥
Civil war in an uncival way.
I was told the same thing. I didn't think about it until you mentioned it.
I feel people's sad & desperate emotions. It's like I'm absorbing them. I feel panicky and nervous if I'm not able to help. And it really drains all my energy.
Dr Saad has other videos concerning these porous boundaries. You might want to try to look trough them. Best wishes
I called them porous boundaries, I hope you don't mind. Some think it is a character trait. But if it damages your life it should be looked at. Together with therapists, friends, pastors, whoever can help you change the perspective and maybe calm down, realize how you can react differently without betraying your true self. Wish you all the best.
The monsters of the world put doubts in our hearts. Be strong in knowing who you are what your weaknesses are and knowing your own needs.
I can't believe my whole life I have gone without knowing why my life is so chaotic. Recently I realized after your videos, my Mother is a narcissistic Mom, I am am only child daughter, my Dad passed in 08. I always knew I was an empath but I couldn't figure out why my anxiety is so bad, horrible bad. My husband thinks I could shut it off. It's through my whole body, my ribs are out of place now because my muscle tension. I need to find out how to tell my doctor about this and how to help me with this. Thank you soooo much. I am in shock I just found the key to all my issues. 💖
Lots of praise releases the body of bonds...
Hey, your anxiety is bad because it senses soulless beings (our planet is full of reptilians, parasites, and demons). I know it sounds crazy, but it's true if you end up opening your third eye and see what's really real.
Go to a cranial sacrel chiropractor not an md. If you want health
Get an Alpha-Stim and run it from foot to foot. Magic
I started to take the Ashwagandha herb a few months ago and wow did this improve my mode of being relaxed. This is some kind of miracle herb. I can highly recommend it, it is not a stimulant, so it will not make you addicted. I only take it when I work, during my days off, when I have enough solitude it is not needed. Not sure if you familiar with it. But it really helps - great for empaths. Absolutely great.
Psychology Pearls look into gaba as well! :)
Yes GABA. And 5-htp. But Ashwaghanda is an adaptagen that help cortisol levels. There are other adaptagens that help if you look it up.
There's the Indian Neurologist author says combine ashwaganda with bacopa monieri (brahmi) from ayurvedic tradition. The combo said to detox the brain and even help addiction recovery. Other adaptogens: rhodiola, ginseng, cordyceps mushroom. I have found 5 HTP just incredible for depression and anxiety from chronic physical pain. Way more effective and no side effects compared to ssris.
Ashwaganda heals the adrenals, which become damaged from chronic stress.
Thanks I kept seeing this and now I know why
Oh bless you for this info and advice. As a 68 yr old only now am I able to understand my troubled life as an empath. I've learned that soothing music is super helpful for me. Years ago, stuck in alarm mode, listening to Enya saved my life. Literally.
Joan Durham Joan please try GABA. Also 5-htp or Ashwaghanda. And as he said magnesium.
We have played Enya for years in our meditation centre. Was a nice change from all the Indian music. Both are soothing though.
Mantra's, & a Tibetan singing bowl, help you circular breath... & the stop the ripple that most empaths feel, inside house's. The energey of the past gets stuck in the corners of the ceilings. So we can be home alone and still have reaccuring emotional build up and have no clue where the source is coming from. The resonation is so healing and relaxing.
As an empath, I'm so glad to have found this video. I'm in recovery after having spent 14 years married to Satan, a narcissist. On the flip side, I'm absorbing and reading others. I get really anxious and I feel like being alone. There's pluses and minuses to being an empath. Understanding and surrounding myself with like minded people is the best remedy. Sadly, this world is over populated with zombies.
me too, same
I started magnesium supplements last week after watching this video. I am getting calmer and less on edge. You are a blessing, Dr. Saad.
This gentleman is really outstanding. I have learned so much from his videos.. Amazing
Al Libowitz I agree. And he comes across more than just intellectual. He seems that he really cares about those he’s talking to.
@@mommabear5059 He is a giver, the very best that mankind has to offer, plus he is smart.
@@marylouleeman - I agree! a very wise helpful soul.
Magnesium & zinc together is wonderful
I moved near a river 3 years ago. The city built a walking path. Hardly anybody visits. I highly recommend all empaths live near a river it is healing. Everyday I walk near the river and I see the trees/plants/flowers/water. I hear the birds and other animals. I feel more connected to the Source and healed:)
Honestly your one in a million Appreciate you and your honesty and having the ability to help the spiritually wounded too! Your a blessing THANK YOU for your time and efforts to the channel
I have become a big fan of siesta. Like a reset button
It is superhandy
Restorative. I am a big believer. Short ones, longer, any time.
I had fibromyalgia for more than 10 years. Cured it by ingesting Apple Cider vinegar for 8 months. Cured for 12 years now
Stage 3 for me is like being sedated, I'm not fully asleep but I'm not able to move. I have been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. I don't even feel stressed sometimes but the resistance part totally explains that. This is so amazing to have explained, no one understands or cares to be honest, but its a lack of understanding
One thing you didn't mention that was very helpful to me, similar to yoga is massage. Also box breathing/deep breathing and there's a ton of apps you can download and set reminders throughout the day to stop and deep breath for a minute or two. I found my breathing was naturally very shallow and the app helped with this, being more conscious of my breathing
Nancy B massage is the only thing that helps me...
Nancy B I never realized how shallow my breathing was until I started watching ASMR videos that remind me to breathe. I’m glad you’ve figured out what works for you too!
Nancy B i
I guess we can mention sophrology also? What about hypnotherapy? Chi kong... I tryed once some kind of circular beathing, lying on the floor. I'm still not allowing massages, silly of me because I would love it. It can deeply relax for a while.
Robert BOIS Shallow breathing saved my life. Asthmatic since a child, did BUTEYKO with Sasha, a Russian who had studied with Professor Konstantin. After that one week course I never took Ventolin nor any prednisolone again (1993, Jan) In 2018, now, it has been 25 years of feeling well physically) Please don’t breathe deeply, it is a path to physical destruction- SHALLOW and RAPID improves your oxygen uptake, chemical homeostasis will follow. Many, many benefits to shallow breathing. That was not one of your problems. That was your natural knowing, knowledge, STRENGTH. Lifelong learning is strewn with stepping stones, and lots of quicksand in between, 😃
I stay in the fight or flight mode because I work in a job where a person is attacked over the least little thing that is said and even when a person is doing the right thing. I’m tired of being in this mode.
It's so good you see this as triggering you. Workplace hostility and aggression is very real and prevalent, especially here in the U.S. You don't deserve it and you can make changes. Follow your heart.
Narcs are taking over the workplace. Pray my dear..don't run and don't allow them the stress u out. I had 6 major surgeries in only 10 years due to stress.
Run! It's dangereous I tell you!! (toxic)
I also had to leave numerous jobs due to narcissist bosses and silently getting sicker Please look for a new job Your Healing is Everything 💪🏻🙏🏻❤️
Find another job
Wow! I wish I had known this when I had my breakdown. I was unaware that zinc and magnesium had calming properties and was trying other herbal remedies which weren't working. The energy vampires in my life were causing me huge worry and frustration. I couldn't erradicate them from my life as they were my teenage children and it was my duty as a mother to be concerned about them as they went through troubling times themselves. My marriage break up meant that there was no communication over finances which was mental cruelty so it wasn't a situation in which I could control anything or put it right by myself. That left me in a state of fight or flight over a long period of time until I ended up in hospital and on medication whilst attending court and defending myself with no money left for a lawyer. I have to say that when I lost everything and there was no more fighting I got closure in my freedom from the energy vampire who was thriving on squeezing me until that point. I could now breathe again and rebuild my life, make my own decisions, look after myself and rely on my good circle of friends and my support at church. I was poor, but totally stress free.
i had no idea that being an empath, could cause health issues this explains a lot
This is interesting because my experience has been somewhat opposite to what you mention around 2:30 - 3:00. Spiritual intervention directly dealt with my nervous system. I had to read the scriptures aloud and my mind and body would instantly respond to these truths.
me too
Me too reading out loud helped me greatly
I think you hit the “Divine Bullseye”, if you will, with your statement. You specifically mentioned SCRIPTURE. There are all sorts of “spiritual practices” including Christian ones, but you received the Living Word of God in your inner being and your body aligned with it. That’s the truth for our spirit, mind and body. At one point, for me, hearing Bible verses was the only thing keeping me alive. All the other spirituality, psychology and medicine were simply support or altogether hogwash. That’s my testimony. God bless you all ✝️💟
Excellent, practical info. Thank you. I left the vampire but my nerves still need to heal.
I hope you all are doing well in these challenging days ✨
These videos are life giving. What if you grew up with a narcissist and your nervous system is chronically stressed even when nothing stressful is going on? I feel like I am constantly on rev.
I used art therapy with colored pencils and oil pastels. Images associated with the abuse are enlarged and scanned then the outline traced onto card stock. It really helps. Something simple like a portrait or place is all that's needed.
This Video is Brilliant Abdul. Just what Empaths and Survivors of Narcissistic abuse need. So important and so practical. Thank you Thank you Thank you!!!
Great video Never heard all my symptoms tied together in a way that makes so much sense. Been stuck in a loop of being overwhelmed, lashing out, isolating, than a short period of wellbeing. Followed by the next trigger then round and round we go. Very difficult to deal with if you don't know why, so much self hatred, highs & lows. Anyway hope this helps someone realize your not crazy, and not alone the way it has for me. Thanks
I just avoid ppl. LOL
Good advice :) me too
Best remedy.. good plan. :-) best to you and all us empaths.
Sara N Yea they’re so draining.
Yes me too.
yes, I find myself isolating too. Not thinking this is a healthy way to deal so still searching for answers.
This is alot of great information. Thank you so much! Living with a narcissist caused me to not be able to sleep for nights and days, not be able to hold a job because I was always tired and on edge. In addition I was having panic attacks constantly. The drama he was bringing to the relationship was constant, I never new what would be coming next. I was beign given pills from the doctor to be able to sleep and high blood pressure meds because my blood pressure was extremely high. I am now away from that person and rebuilding my life one day at a time.
I do psychotherapy in California and I enjoy your approach tremendously. As an empath, I found myself dating a narcissist. I had exhausted myself doing more academics and I was experiencing the first two stages-but went right to exhaustion after only a few months dating him. He literally drained that much energy. We must also protect ouselves when in the first two stages...calming...and self protection.
This is me now...you are spot on...I’ve been at exhaustion and had chronic fatigue....slowly coming out of that by shutting down and grounding and not being around a lot of people....but the moment I have stress from other people I have an attack and can’t function complete exhaustion....to the point I can’t even walk.....and just want to sleep I know who the people are that trigger this now, so I find it all so interesting....thank you
firestarter I am exactly where you described! My exhaustion and fatigue I had been attributing to thyroid malfunction, but taking zinc and magnesium has helped, and I didnt even realize that I was shutting down and staying away from ppl just to feel better, then if I socialized at all I became so upset internally that it started making me physically sick at my stomach!( dry heaves mostly because of loss of appetite!) and my inside just jitter! Never seem to get rest even though I am worn out completely! thanks! Because of your comment I feel that I better understand what I need to keep a check on to keep my nerves calm
I'm new here and found you by accident. I'm an empath and I was with a narcissist, and I went through these stages on a daily basis. Now I'm Free of stress with that person. I have my own boundaries now just learning of my gifts. I thank you for this video. I will follow thank you.
These videos are excellent! They describe my present state of existence...! I am in a total state of depletion and stuck on the freeze mode of CPTSD! I already have adrenal insufficiency... I’ve done grounding and the Wim Hoff Method! I was doing well very well. Then I’m sabotaged again and again. I can’t believe the situation I’m in! I feel as though I’ve lost the battle. I’m 68 yrs old. A struggle with a narcissist at this age is much harder then before.
I'm a empath and it makes me feel tired and drained a lot especially if i'm out in public for long periods
So true! I had stomach acidity, intestines not regular, gastric paralysis, arritmia, pinches in shoulder nerves, hand jitters... big hair loss for days. I thought I had an autoimmune desease. Analysis didn’t show anything.. I was going nuts! So tired, like a brick on my back... I read so much and now I know that when I’m stressed , my vagus nerve is very sensitive and fails , so I get those arritmias and gastric problems. I had a narcissistic father and all my life acomodate not to disturb him or else the house would clash with agressivness. I find to marry with a man that was also from a disrupted family, a nasty narcissistic mother. She was way worse than my father, psychologically speaking. My husband had coping mechanism that I found myself not understanding the reason he reacted that way and feeling ackward and frustrated. I was almost every time ansio us and some times depressed, trying aagain not to disturb and feeling so lonely. Now I understand that I must say what I think without being aggressive and not ruminate on what the f is happening. I’m clear about my opinion and discard the posterior inward discussion with myself. I know I have my faults, that’s why I got married with my husband. I think if we have a defect we search for someone with similar faults or worse to lessen ours... but it helped me also to realize what I had to overcome. I’m more councious, I eat what I think is good for me ( don’t ever eat by sympathy-what or when the other wants) I go for my walks alone and prefer it that way, I don’t measure myself by cleaning my house, my cuisine skills or the way I want to dress. And my physical problems have been way diminishing. So people understand what’s going on in your life and be well. Wish you all a happy journey. Blessings
Seven years of narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, bullying and harassment in the workplace. The first was a 4-year stint at a hospital with a covert malignant narcissist who tormented me and finally pushed me out for some made-up lie. Next I found myself in a corporate job with another toxic narcissistic boss. In 2020 and throughout 2021 I was suffering from chronic stress and burnout because of the job and would find ways to nurse myself through it. I left at the end of 2022.The toll it has taken has been immense. I’m slowly crawling my way back and trying to rebuild my life. Thank you for this information. So helpful.
This guy knows his shit. Love his very holistic approach combining physiology, psychology and spirituality but putting it into practical steps of action. Great dude 👍
Yep, I'm a highly sensitive empath and I have fibromyalgia
Same here 🤗
Me too unfortunately
Rhuematoid arthritis at age 1 1/2 years old. I was fed and diapered; yet completely ignored. I was an "accident" according to my mother.
@@amandatarkington6877 I'm so sorry 🥺 How are you doing now?
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One thing trauma gave me is an off switch. That has saved me from the worst damage from chronic stress, but flipping the switch back on is the trick. Sarcasm and laughter has become my medicine when dealing with people who are nuts. Sometimes you have to just look at the elephant in the room and laugh. I have my flaws, but the narcissists in my life are PROUD of theirs. I refuse to allow anything to manipulate my emotions anymore. I use my empathy for information, but I need to stay grounded in the reality that other people's emotions are not mine. I need to know myself to know the difference. Their projections fall off, ineffective, when I know myself. I used to be an example of the symptoms on this video, but I.have learned the hard way how not to be easily manipulated.
I'm right there with you my friend. Unfortunately, I haven't been able to flip my switch back on for years. My fear is that I am eternally broken now.
My mum is an empath. I never understood how she could be so patient, kind and supportive. Even after I’d behave like a brat.. I assumed she just had very low self esteem. I’m glad she got away from my narcissistic dad
I am very excited for further information, can't wait the next video.
You're amazing. Thank you so much!
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blessings. You're a good man.
Thank you for your dedication to helping others. Love your work
Thank you for all your help! Very very helpful!💕
Thank you- so many great tips here!
Burnt out stage...Have already started on the 5 levels of healing following my intuition....Taken afew weeks but things are starting to turn around very slowlyt...Each day is different, I have some highs in between now...On other days struggling to even want to live.. .I know I can't afford to give up, need to keep moving forwards..Thank you, I know I'm on the right road to recovery at least...Has given me more hope things will start to get better n better for me....
Heeeey ABDUL !! …..I cannot express to you - how many things put me thro alllllllllllll these stages - for YEARS !??! Anxiety attacks...Night terrors...upset stomach...stomach problems...memory loss from traumas, physical sicknesses and evil attacks from Narcs. The doc put me on very low dose anti-depressants...I got WORSE ! So I kept going out and singing and fighting for the TRUTH about my situation. Some things are still going on - tho I trust GOD to FINISH THE JOB ! and He has healed me physically 9 times over the last few years, and lifted trauma off my spirit. I have been able to reach out and connect and help others - as I am MUCH stronger in all areas of my life now. The TRUTH - IS SOOO HEALING !! \o/ ;)
Thank you for your video. I needed to hear this.
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This is VERY HELPFUL. MORE PLEASE
Wow all of these videos have been sooo helpful ❤️🌹Thank you🌹❤️
Thank you SO much for opening up my mind and soul❤❤
You are such a blessing 😇 Thank you!
Thank you for these videos. I really appreciate it. Many blessings to you.
I am just getting over shingles. I had plenty of time to realize that I was surrounded by narcissists at work...while I was out of work under doctor's care, it was announced that I am no longer with the company. 😰
Thank you. THIS HAS BEEN MOTIVATIONAL
so true! had no idea of this until I went through a very stressful period
Thank you so much, great information! Really appreciate your time and effort to help us with your free videos, they are so very helpful! 🙏🏻💗
It hosts pops up on your feed when you need it. Your therapy appears to be the most therapeutic I have heard of in my life. Revolutionary.
Thank you for your readings..
Thank you! This was VERY HELPFUL!
Thank you so much Dr. Saad. God bless you, and thank you for offering the coaching for us. I will definately look into coaching with you at your website and I look forward to Part 2 of this video. Have a wonderful day!
Peace and blessings to you sir! You are absolutely phenomenal. This video was beyond helpful. Thank you so much!🙏🏾🌟
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An absolute blessing. Thankyou
I look forward to your brilliant videos, I have learned so much. Thankyou
My heart swells with gratitude for the life changing knowledge you provide us!
Wow. This explains so much. Thank you for sharing!
I don't have words to thank you for making these awareness videos. Thank you!
Grounding techniques, Reiki is good thank you this is excellent recovery info
Thank you, these are brilliant videos and information. I'm actually feeling more relaxed just witnessing you. Having recently being awoken(imploded),to my narc family of origin scapegoating?(recovering codependent?/empath?, ex-victim!), and the slowly increasing realization of the cruel and despicable extent their damage has affected myself and many others. While I am currently experiencing a shocking, almost overwhelming increase in all forms of horrible narc/psycho gang type abuse. Your videos are indescribably helpful, once again thank you.
Brilliant! Thank you for synthesizing all this information.
So true! Omg! Just what I needed to hear! Thank you!!!!