How to Become a More Compelling Man
2024 ж. 22 Мам.
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Today, I discuss how you can become a more compelling man. Hit me up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share with me what’s working in your life.
Today, I discuss how you can become a more compelling man. Hit me up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share with me what’s working in your life.
14:00 this point, right here. I worked for my dad as a teenager, fixing emergency generators in hospitals, data centers, etc. He was always yelling at me to, "move with a purpose!" Fast-forward about 6 years and I had joined the Army, was stationed in Mosul, Iraq. Middle of the night (I worked the nightshift), one of my buddies had walked from the ER, across the road in front of the building and was sitting on the other side of a barrier smoking. I went out to talk to him and for some reason, there in the back of my mind was my dad...."move with a purpose!" I chuckle to myself and pick up the pace a bit......**SNAP** On the back of my head, I felt the shockwave of a sniper's bullet as it JUST missed my head. He was to my right and if I was not "moving with a purpose" as my dad told me to, I wouldn't be here today. Take in all the wisdom you can from other men. You never know what piece of advice or seemingly asinine requirement might save your life someday.
Medic 83 that’s some 5th or 6th dimensional type psychic shit that communicated to you to MOVE in that second Though I’m surprised the sniper didn’t just take another shot lol
Gave me chiils.
Thank you for your service and your comment!
That's a crazy story, glad you made it back home safely.
Medic 83 now what if someone reading this comment instills that wisdom in themselves and it ends up saving them or others and so it continues... meaning in part the reason you were saved that day was to save countless others...
My father always said, "Walk with a purpose". Meaning, don't ramble like you're lost and don't hurry like you're late."
Excellent advice!
Also drive with purpose😎👍🏾
Here you go :) 1. Eye contact 2. Shake hands firmly 3. Speak clearly 4. Walk Briskly 5. Posture ( head up, chest out and shoulders back ) 6. Be intrestd in other individuals ( more curious ) 7. Be intresting ( have something to talk about ) 8. Dress well ( based on the occasion ) 9. Be healthy, lose weight 10. Telling stories ( cool things you've done ) 11. Smile :)
Thx
SoNq thanks for the effort
Appreciate it
Does Ryan smile? He seems very serious.
Conor M time and place. Have you seen him look at his wife? His children? In an environment surrounded by equals? I have not, but that’s when you would see my smile.
These feel like old school values for any man, simple, straight forward and a foundation for your personality to truly shine through.
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You got this! Speak strongly, clearly and deliberate. Don't use the same large verbs or adjectives. It causes you to appear to have a limited vocabulary. Walk with a purpose. Make things happen. Let your aura tell your true story. Be humbly confident. Dress appropriately for the moment. People attract to natural leaders like a magnet. They follow you and when a choice of direction is necessary, they look to you. Especially during emergency or crisis. Measure yourself by how people respond to you. And how they describe you. You know you are there when women call you "distinguished" or other quality descriptions. You have to earn it every day. You are doing great.
8) Some things to supplement our beloved jeans & plaid shirts: a) A dark suit a') A light suit, if they look good on you b) A couple of conservative ties, and a few colorful ones c) Dress shirts. White matches everything. d) Some slacks e) Dress shoes f) A couple of sport coats g) Consider a couple of hats: cowboy, fedora, etc.
Outlines on 12 tips to become a more compelling man 1. Making Eye Contact 2. Firm Handshake 3. Speak Clearly - don't mumble or use sophisticated jargon that people don't understand. 4. Walk Briskly - move quickly 5. Keep your shoulders back, head up, chest out 6. Be interested in other people 7. Be interesting - don't be boring, or anything to share / stories / experience. Don't be monotonous 8. Dress well - right clothing based on the event, dress accordingly 9. Lose weight / Be a healthy individual 11. Tell compelling stories 12. SMILE :)
Be the first to own your faults/mistakes and talk about them with others. Use your negative experiences and personal growth to positively impact and inspire others. When you own your mistakes first, it’s much more difficult for others to judge you. And, when you do this, their judgement doesn’t matter to you anymore.
Doug Boyd I do this often and has done wonders for me in relationships
Be transparent, bold honesty is pretty compelling.
Agreed.
These are very 'ol skool teachings and at 63 years old I tell you that they have been long forgotten so thank you for the refresher course. I have a 3 old grandson who tries his best to do and say whatever it is that he sees me do and say. These things that can add to his manhood training. Malcolm from Oakland
Malcolm your a boss, sir greetings from germany :)
By far, my favorite youtube channel
Number 4 got me a raise once. Walk with purpose, talk with purpose, work with purpose.
"Fair has nothing to do with it." TRUTH. If only more people could grasp that concept.
You’re never to old to learn. You are awesome brother
I will read people’s name tags at the local grocery store or gas station or just some fast food restaurants and then ask them by name how their day is going. It does nothing for me to make conversation with some random person except for the fact that for us right moment with some people you’ll notice that the smile in that smile that they have become contagious on to me or on to others. Bc of this they may pay more attention my order or whatever they are doing.
This was on point. The way a man walks tells a story. Eye contact and firm handshake is another.
thats why I like my germany, almost everyone looks everyone straight in the eye and most give firm handshakes
Wenn du deutsche Zuschauer in US Videos triffst..... Keine Schwäche zeigen!
What about standing up for your country invasion ?
@@alexanderditonio2670 nah
@@ichiel1898 surrendered?
That's a great habit for any culture to have. It's something more people should embrace, thanks for sharing.
Regarding Point 9- I can personnally attest to this. I was 465lbs, I knew my job and all was fine from what I could tell. I was being pushed and coralled into situations- not followed. People avoided me when I walked down the hall and avoided eye contact. So I lost 265 lbs. Now (basically same skills and mind set but 190lbs) Women approach me. Men consider me a leader and ask me to mentor them and my income (not just due to weight- though that was definitely a part of it) has more than tripled- really. I get so many more opportunities now.
I think moving slowly and deliberately portrays more dominance than moving quickly. A Lion, or a grizzly bear, or a silverback gorilla dont move quickly for anything if they dont want to or its absolutely necessary.
I'm extremely happy I found you on KZhead! Thank you for your work.
I just came across your channel. As a single mom of a teenaged boy who's never had a strong male role model in his life, I appreciate the insight & will be listening to your videos within earshot of him. Thank you!
Love the advice your sharing. It's amazing how the simplest things can have a great outcome if we just execute with persistence and determination.
Thanks for what you're doing . I have learnt a lot listening to and watching you. You're the man
Amazing quote at the end, “masculinity doesn’t need to be refined, it’s needs to be reestablished”! I’m truly enjoying your content, it can be a bit of a gut check on what I’m doing right or wrong in my life but it’s always spot on
I really agree with your message on this subject. Thanks for sharing this info with us.
Thank you Sir, this is so necessary, thank you
Great show, man! 👍👍
ThaNx this felt like a conversation that was meant for me to hear 😊 keep up the good spirit..stayblessed
Active listening skills go a long ways in creating respectful dynamics with others as well. It's also the best way to truly learn.
Most people in this day and age just bury their faces in their phones and avoid eye contact. This is the kind of stuff that needs to be taught by parents to their kids today.
Thank you Ryan for the inspiration. I'm going to watch it again now✌️💯💥🙏🔥💪
Glad you enjoyed.
Great episode, straight forward and to the point 👍. One point I'd like to add is maintaining composure. The ability to be tact when conflict arisies and not to crack under pressure is definitely a admirable trait. Learned the hard way through jiu jitsu and is just one of the many takeaways from the art.
Sounds like Congress
Thank you sir, keep up the great work!
Well said as always brother. 💯
#12 Laugh fully- especially at yourself.
Great content brother
Awesome clear simple truths. Thank you
Good stuff. On point! 🤙🏼
Thank you for this video👍
Thank you for this
This is a amazing video and tremendous video a real game changer. I feel i definitely needed to see this video and trying to get back on track with my authentic self/man.
Right on.
I think I speak for every man when I say we all need a reminder such as this video to keep us on the right path from time to time. I’m right there with you, I need to really work on my posture.
I’m actually here for the beard lol. Great podcast and great content. We appreciate your work!
Great videos man
Excellent podcast and list Ryan! This is another lesson that I will be sharing and watching with my boys. Even though these could potentially be blended in with a couple of your points, I would include Read Good Books and Learn Public Speaking Skills. Reading Good Books gives depth to a man and definitely helps in being more interesting and contributing to conversations and the lives around one’s self. Learning Public Speaking Skills could definitely bleed over into telling stories, but, for many men, learning to speak in public can go a long way to boost confidence and help a man communicate more comfortably in any environment. Blessings brother!
Absolutely
some good nuggets of info in this vid. thanks man
Thank You from Paraguay.
Great advice!!
Excellent content Ryan, I just found your vids. Subbed. One mistake I used to make in conversation quite often - Projecting. Some weird way of turning someones story or conversation into a story about myself...... VERY uncompelling. Its the reverse of your point #6 - Be interested in other individuals.
The green really brings out your beard... great post too
I'm autistic. The hardest thing on Earth for me is to look somebody straight in the eyes.
Great episode Ryan! I think as men and as fathers we are called upon to lead. Being "compelling" isn't something of considered before, but that makes sense!
Hope it helps!
@@Orderofman keep up the great work brother! You've got a great way with words. Would love to chat on the Actidad podcast some time.🙂👍
Never been a man to look away, myself. If there's a conversation going on, I want to show that I'm interested and genuinely want to learn what they have to say and think.
Great video. One suggestion for you would be to include the point in text form on the screen when you make it. This will help sink it is and appeals to both visual learners and auditory learners.
Thanks dude
Good advice.
Isolation and the lone Wolf is good at times to work on your inner strength. You have your perspective and I have my perspective and both of us are right
I love your channel. I have three God Son's and I enjoy learning from you. GOD BLESS
#4. Sense of urgency
Sickass beard brotha
Good practical advice
thank you
Excelente advice
Can you make a video about How to Use the Social Medias to improve our Image in the Community or Use them with Inteligence?
Ryan. Awesome video and I love the rules. One thing to consider is that people of the autism spectrum have difficulty making eye contact. Making eye contact for my son (who is on the spectrum) is painful for him. Something to be aware of.
Be interestED. Interest Ed, has many interests, gets excited to share his story, excited to hear your story.
Having great story topics is not the same as telling good stories. A good story teller can make the mundane interesting.
eye contact... I work in a man camp half my life. walking down the hall passing by another worker... 5% will give eye contact and say good morning or good day. very weird
I would recommend ‘How to win friends and influence people’ to anyone who hasn’t read it
Is a very interesting channel.
Sounds like pure common sense to me. But then again, I was programed in that manner from birth. My dad was quite compelling.
Going back to what you said about the "lone wolf mentality." I think the lone wolf is simply depicted as being at the top of the hierarchy scale. In many ways, the lone wolves we admire are all compelling men.
💯 %. Fucking truth ! thanks Man ✌️
You said “articulate your words” but you meant “enunciate.” Articulation refers to thought coherency, the clarity of the point, not the clarity of how the word was said.
Literally just dropped a like just cause of the beard
The axe in the background lol
John Elway always hurried his lineman to the ball before a play.
One time a fellow security officer tried to dominate me by getting aggresive with the hand shake, I just pulled his thumb back with force and this much bigger guy than I, thought I was gonna break his thumb, he was humbled by this martial artist who he was being disrespectful to! He was about 6'5" & I am only 5'8". Your presentation was Great, by the way!
The secret to success in life is sincerity; once you can fake that you have it made! Seriously, being genuinely interested in other people without faking it doesnt come easily to me. Any advice on that?
When one saya No to things that are less valuable and refuse to accept trash talk and bad behavior, I feel that one becomes more compelling.
great
1 When you talk the talk walk the walk . 2 Be honest and truthful. However do not be hurtful. If your wife asks .. Do I look fat in this dress you do not respond . No your just fat in that dress . 3 Everything you do has purpose. Whether you are working or relaxing it needs to be purpose driven . If you are working you work toward those goals . When you are relaxing your purpose is to prepare and re energize . Do not drag work into that time .
My Dad always said walk in the rain like it's a sunny day and on a sunny day just walk!
You can tell allot about a person by how they walk in the rain . It’s been said .. “ You will receive the same soaking with your head bowed or standing straight .”
Coice of words is important too for men... Some will often misuse a word because they dont actually know its meaning. That comprimises a person's credibility
How much time do you spend on your beard per day?
Could u turn up the volume a little bit .? I'm hard of hearing.
Badass
You’re right! I almost shut this video off because of the beard and the hat. Glad I didn’t, but I did find it hard to take you serious because of your attire.
I'm deliberate about what I wear and I know it won't appeal to everyone. Nothing I do, say, or wear ever would.
Order of Man More power to ya man, you do you. I was just commenting on something you had said about your beard.
I wanna do construction
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The hell you talking about, that beard wicked!
I'm also a beardsman but in your experience from shorter to longer beard as yours is now, how differently are you perceived or treated if any? A big natural beard is epic but has a negative stigma that is hard to overcome with the majority of society. You talk alot about appearance and I'm just curious how this affects you personally.
I've worked at three companies since the beard was faux paux in corporate circles. I can tell you that people are coming around. Ironically most of the guys wearing beards are former military, myself included.
It doesn't impact me because of my line of work. Yeah, there are obviously people who don't like it but that doesn't really matter to me.
@@Orderofman thanks for the reply and I am with you in that I don't care what others think.
Is funny because I thought looking down when engaging eyecontact was the only way to be respectful. I feel silly now
3) Speak slowly, especially when presenting complicated subjects: Physics, Engineering, Automatic Transmissions, etc. 7) Have good answers for "So, tell me about yourself."
What would James Bond say or do?
I own a barber shop, I enjoy having young boys come into the shop. These boys are not taught how to give a good hand shake, look in the eye. I make these boys shake hands and look into the eyes. It's funny when they give a wet noodle hand shake, I say to them to put some ass into the hand shake and then give the proper hand shake and the parents laugh. Fathers do not do not teach hand shaking to their boys. Great video.
Another false positive with non-verbal. Good luck with that.
Right on!
Agreed! Keep doing what you’re doing. As a father of a 31yr old severely autistic non-verbal son, I can’t understand how fathers don’t make the time to teach their “healthy” sons. My son can’t even speak but he knows how to give a firm handshake. God bless!
Some cultures shake hands lightly.
There's an idea. An camouflage suit...
The only thing I don't do on this listen is dress well... I am so sexy though so I'm good. I'm still on Amazon looking at dress clothes. Making a career move and I'm grateful for 2020...
Men need to be seekers of knowledge (readers) and should be constantly edging toward mastery of skill sets .
Agreed.
Please do more videos on how to speak Speak more clearly This is good video