4 Ways to Know When It's Time to Say Goodbye -- Cone of Shame with Dr. Andy Roark
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The only time a dog will ever break your heart is when theirs stops beating. 💔🐾
😔 soon for me...
@@whatwillbem6825 I'm so sorry. It's been a year and a month since I put my dog of 14 years down on Christmas Eve morning. I just rescued a 4 month puppy 2 weeks ago. You will be sad for a while and you will never get past the ache in your heart but you will find joy again. You will realize that there are so many dogs out there waiting every single day to love and be loved by someone like you. 💓💓🐾🐾
@@christys8445 ok...
@@whatwillbem6825 me too
@@karensutphin5501 😔
The non dog lovers will say , oh come on , it's just a dog . No it is not just a dog ; he or she is part of your family , he is your best friend , your other soul-mate , he gives unconditional love and asks nothing in return . He is always there for you , he brings joy and laughter and picks you up when you are feeling down . He is the most selfless and loving companion that any human being could ask for . He is with you , in every sense , all the way to the end .
They are part of your family. I lost a 15 yr old chihuahua and now am going thru terrible things with my 16 yr old chihuahua. Our lives have revolved around our dogs since day we got them. So they are family. I have more money in my one chihuahua than a new vehicle. I would do anything for my dogs.
They’re family...fur babies...the love they give in my opinion surpasses a humans love...I have to say goodbye to my teacup chihuahua soon...I’ve had her 16 years...😔 my heart is broken 💔 but it’s because I love her so much...thank you for your comment at this very sad time for me....
Whatwillbe M She will always love you more.
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Absolutely. Our dog is in a real mess at the moment after suffering an unknown illness which resulted in a super quick deterioration into paralysation, although he has feeling in his paws and his tail wags still, and he can occasionally move his back legs, he can't stand up and seems unable to pass waste until it forces its own way out. He's nine, but had a bad traffic accident as a pup and this seems to be linked, although it's puzzling because his tail still wags, but he can't stand up, plus his 'toes' on his front left paw curls back in under itself, and he seems to have lost the ability to placebos front legs in the correct place to get the support necessary to support his weight, so I think it's something to do with his nervous system, some form of degenerative virus or something, god knows. He's been in pain for a while though, but I didn't realise it til this issue started last week when his legs began to give out whilst he was stood on them. He's been coming to me for months now for me to rub his hips on both his front and back legs, and increasingly over the past year, he's been pushing for more and more rubs from me, until it almost became incessant, and I knew something was bothering him, but had absolutely no idea it was ever going to result in something like this, if that's what this is... I don't even know what I'm trying to say. I suppose I'm just talking, because the hurting in my heart for my beloved furry best friend of the last decade is so incredibly acute and suffocating that i need to get some of it back out otherwise I fear I may very well suffocate. I can't stop crying and it gets very difficult to breathe at times, such is the force of my sobbing. God knows how I'm going to carry on without him The vet said it seemed to be a slipped disc of some kind, but I'm not convinced. All I know is that whenever the decision is made to end his suffering, I will ALWAYS feel a crushing guilt for not give Ng him another day or two, and my heart will truly, truly break when he finally leaves us. Even the thought of it fills me with a breath stopping panic, but it feels imminent, and the dread is just suffocating. How do we go on after they pass and we're left alone??
As a vet tech of 8+ years and certified euthanasia technician for 6+ years, please know that it's okay to let your pet go "early" if this is a progressive condition. Schedule an end of life appointment and let their last day be epic. Go the park, take lots of pictures, get them a cheeseburger, etc. Let them drift off to sleep with a happy heart. I regret waiting too long on a few of my pets. They ended up passing when I wasn't with them and to this day, it eats me alive. I shouldn't have ignored the signs, but I kept trying to squeeze "just one more day" out of their life. QUALITY is so much more important than QUANTITY.
TechnoSkittles I’m at this point again, I keep stressing that I’m about to put my lab down too soon. She is 11and a half, she seems happy but she has fallen down and not been able to get up, she has a few lumps that have appeared rapidly. She is pacing at night, she can’t get down the back steps anymore. She has started peeing in the house. She eats great and drinks good and she appears happy but I know she’s not as happy. It kills me💔💔💔
My 13 yr old sheltie is scheduled for tomorrow morning and I'm second guessing myself. She had a large tumor removed last year that has now spread to her lungs. She also has a herniated diaphragm (don't know how or when that happened) and her stomach is going into her lungs so her breathing is difficult, and she is riddled with arthritis. She is on a lot of pain medicine and is beginning to have problems getting up. The vet recommended it and it's killing me because she is still eating and drinking and alert. She is only going to get worse and she is in pain and uncomfortable, like she can't catch her breath. She was actually my mom's dog until she passed Christmas before last but mom had dementia and did not take good care of her. She loved her but there were a lot of problems I worked on and she has had a wonderful year and a half with me. Am I doing it too early even though the vet recommended it? I know it will only get worse. I hope you read this tonight I need some objectivity. thanks!
Thank you! I’m facing that issue right now. My dog has a malignant tumor that is inoperable, and it’s taking him down slowly. I wondered if this would be a better way... to let him have a great day, which I’m not sure he can anymore. He’s up and down, but you just made a very good decision for me! Thanks again! 🙏
@@Tinyteacher1111 I feel for you. My Daisy is gone and it was a very difficult decision. I sat with her on the floor and hugged her until she was gone and the vet and assistant were wonderful. They reassured me I did the right thing and now that it is over I do feel relief and I know she is now with my mom who was her owner before SHE passed. They can't let us know how bad they feel and if we keep them around while they are suffering we are doing it for us not them. I also believe they know how much we love them and when they get to the other side they understand. I heard her bark the other day and I knew she was ok. Maybe some think that is crazy but I've heard from every pet I've ever lost in some way. There are so many of us faced with this and just know you are not alone!
Renegade therapist Thank you so much! I will know that he’s with my mom as well. He doesn’t seem to be suffering too much, but I know it’s getting near the end, since he has a very difficult time going to the bathroom because he has a tumor pressing on his colon and hip. When he can’t go anymore, it’s time. Thank you for your generous support! I’m going to have someone come to the house to this. I’ve done it before and it was a beautiful experience. 🙏❤️
Hard to let go.. they are better than people. Always love in their heart. Faithful.
A great vet I know always says to pet parents putting their babies to sleep, "It's the last kindness you can do for him/ her." And I believe that, truly.
Our babies come into our lives, to teach us about love, and they leave us, to show how strong we truly are🙏🏼❤️🐾
Roughly a month ago we had to euthanize our first dog, "Frisco" who was 15 years old. Frisco had issues with joint pain, which we were treating with medication. She then, out of the blue one evening, started having issues keeping down food and water. Within minutes of eating or drinking she would end up throwing everything up. It was not stomach contents or yellowish bile, but rather clear frothy liquid, along with the water or food she just ate. The frothy liquid had the consistency of egg whites. We took Frisco in for x-rays and it showed that she had bone cancer, cancer in her lungs and a mass that had grown large enough to block her esophagus. This blockage is why she was throwing food and water up immediately upon ingestion and why it wasn't coming from her stomach, like most pet vomiting. This vet trip was on Tuesday evening and we decided on the spot that we would have her euthanized 2 days later on Thursday. Those 2 days gave us enough time to come to grips with the situation, ensure that we could say our proper and desperately needed goodbyes and also ensure Frisco did not suffer for any longer than necessary. The vet did give Frisco an IV of fluids to ensure she did not become dehydrated over the next 2 days and gave us some additional pain medication. We took Frisco home that evening after the devastating news and cried a lot with her, hugged her, kissed her and told her how much she meant to us over the past 15 years. We did everything we could for her over the next 2 days to ensure she was comfortable, loved and knew that we were going to miss her. We took paw prints of her and framed them, took as many of our last photos with her as possible and did things with her that we know she loved more than anything (walks, rides in the truck, got vanilla ice cream and let her sleep with us the last 2 nights). Frisco, as many people will say about their dog, was our best friend, our comforting force in the house and a part of the family. Frisco had been part of our home from day one we bought our place in 2004 and had been alive for every second of my youngest daughters 14 years of life. I guess in many ways we always felt Frisco would be with us forever and would never die. Her death never entered our minds and we never truly thought about it until our world was turned upside down in a matter of 2 days. Call it ignorant bliss or wishful thinking, but it was never something we spent time thinking about or focusing on. In the end we drove Frisco to the vets that Thursday evening and my wife, daughter and I sat through the entire process and cried while we held Frisco, hugged her, kissed her, spoke to her and ultimately watched as she closed her eyes and took her last breath. While the experience was the most devastating and heartbreaking things I have ever experienced in my 47 years of life, I was glad that we were there until the end so that we were the last people she saw, the last touch she felt and the last voices she heard. I take solace in knowing that the deep pain we felt that evening was so that we could ensure that Frisco was able to know until that very last moment, how much we loved her and that we would never abandon her, no matter the circumstance. I still find myself feeling "guilty" for ending her life, but always have to consciously remember that I did it so she would not suffer the horror of starving to death, as she literally could not get anything to her stomach because of the tumor in her esophagus. After Frisco took her last breath we had her cremated so we could take her home where she belongs. Our house is the only home Frisco ever knew and with her ashes in the house, we still feel close to her. Her presence is still around everywhere we look: 1. From the chipped paint on the wall where she would lay up against it 2. The rough patch of hardwood floors at the top of the stairs where she wore the wood down from laying for hours on end 3. From the dirt marks on the back of the love-seat where she would lay against so she could watch us in the kitchen 4. The toys, bedding, dog food and treats and her leash she left behind 5. The spots in the yard where I can still visualize her laying because of the hundreds if not thousands of times she had done so in the past It's amazing how many things stay behind and remind you daily about your friend. Hell, we are neat freaks and still find dog fur dust bunnies a month later in spots we vacuum daily. It's like the migrate out from behind or underneath things. About a week after Frisco passed we got some black and white balloons (Frisco was a black and white colored dog) and wrote some messages on them to her - things like we love her, miss her, she was the best dog ever and we hope she is OK and having fun at the Rainbow Bridge. We let the balloons go in the front yard where she used to love to sit/lay and watch the comings and goings of our neighborhood. While we know she will never receive the balloons and certainly couldn't read them even if she could, we hope maybe she could at least see them floating on by from where she is now - LOL. Being that Frisco was our first dog and we were lucky enough to been blessed with her for so long, this whole experience has hit us very hard. Euthanizing a pet is never easy, but the first one I am sure is extra difficult. We have really used the experience to reflect on life in general. We took a small corner in our living room to remember Frisco and place her ashes. We have several pictures of her, the paw prints we framed, her box and ashes and some of the gifts we were given from friends during this loss. It's a comforting spot for us to "talk" to her, say good morning/goodnight to and to reflect on what a gift she was to our lives. My wife has taken the loss of Frisco especially hard as they were cuddle buddies when I was not at home and Frisco provided love, protection and comfort when I was deployed for 14 months to Afghanistan in 2011-2012. My wife and Frisco became very very close during my extended absence and Frisco was such a sweet girl to my wife. I knew my wife has deeply missed Frisco these past few weeks so I went out and bought a pair of pajama's with cute little dogs on them for her. I then found a beautiful card with a dog on it and wrote a letter to my wife from Frisco. It explained that while Frisco may be gone in her physical form, she will always be with my wife in spirit. I spoke to my wife in the card as if I was Frisco and explained that she asked me to get the dog pajamas so on nights my wife found herself missing her, the pajama's would help her feel closer and she could wear them so that Frisco would know my wife was thinking about her. It's amazing the power of one little card, a few words and the thought that our dog was actually speaking the sentiments or thinking them. My wife has probably worn those PJ's 5 times now in the past 3 weeks and reread that card dozens upon dozens of times. It helps her feel close to Frisco and brings her comfort in thinking Frisco is "talking" to her. I know this has been a bit long, but I wanted to share some of the feelings, experiences and ideas we have had over the past few weeks while it is still very "raw" for us. It is so very amazing how intertwined these animals become in our hearts. They offer such unconditional love, companionship and comfort and ask nothing of us, but to love them back. A good animal will always produce a better human out of all of us. I learned a lot of lessons on how to be a better human myself from Frisco and for that I owe her everything. Rest in peace my sweet girl, we miss you dearly and pray that one day we can see you again. It just isn't the same without you around.
Thank you
God Bless. Our dogs are family.
Richard, thanks for that, we lost our dog on Monday and you've perfectly summed up how we feeling and the emotions that follow. I especially loved your points about all the places Frisco left marks. Our dog would also love laying at the top of the stairs watching us going about our everyday lives. I can truly say that he not only touched my heart, but also my soul.
Richard C Nothing more to say really, that you so elegantly said. Rest In Peace Frisco, but don’t get too comfortable because my Jack Russell/Chihuahua mix is going to need someone to play with as she crossed the Rainbow Bridge last night. They’re going to be best buds for eternity. Rest In Peace Linda, you’re not in pain and distress any more. 🌈
So sorry for your loss! Mine Shih Tzu also had bone cancer, had to let go 9/3/20. God that was so hard.
This video was a God send. Your patients are very fortune to have you as their veterinarian.
Thank you for the kind words. They are appreciated.
I'm sitting here with tears running down my face....in a couple of hours, we must put our dog of 14 years to sleep. I'm over thinking everything. I can't eat. I'm gonna be a real spectacle at the vets' office...............So painful.
Russ Lassonde I feel your paint I did mine yesterday. I’m sorry your lost !
Yes it is vary sad and painful to say goodbye to our beloved pets...that are like family too.
My sheltie is scheduled for tomorrow morning and I can't even think!
I hope you are feeling better my friend. I just had to go through this, this past Thursday. Totally sucks.
I know this was a while ago, but I'm sure you are okay now. As for being a "spectacle" don't worry about that, they are very used to it and if you have a wonderful vet like I did, they support you and let you cry if you need and stay as long as you need. I let mine go a few months ago and we sat on the floor and cried and I stayed with her the whole time. Such a hard decision but we have to do what is best for them, not us!!
Man, he got me at the point when he started talking about not being able to do the 5 favorite things :(
I tell fellow pet owners that it's our final act of love for them.... even though it's hurting our heart.
Soon for my 16 year old tea cup...I’m heartbroken 💔 and devastated...I’ve had her since she was 7weeks old...but I love her so much..she’s totally blind can’t stand long...soils herself in her bedding regularly...and just recently a tumor has grown on her little belly...I made an appointment...😔...thank you for your comment...💔
My one and half year golden retriever had testical cancer that was spearding all over his body and he became paralysed i told two veterinary doctors about his the two said he has to be put down i had to do it we put him down yesterday i feel soo guilty i feel like I am criminal and I didn't stop crying from yesterday
I think putting a dog down is a criminal act
@@razanmohamed6564 When you love your fur baby and they are suffering it as the owner a loving thing to do for your animal that is part of your family...this is your opinion and I respect that ...but people who love their family pets feel different...
@@razanmohamed6564 I know how you feel my 3 pound senior chihuahua of almost 17 years with me...died in my arms...that was two and a half weeks ago and I’m still heartbroken...but I know she’s not suffering anymore...😔
Only people with pets understands what it's like I had to put my dog down 20th October 2021 iam heartbroken 💔 it was hardest decision I ever made but I know I made the right decision for him I loved him so much but he had been not well for a while he would be up and down and his back legs started to go didn't walk anymore and but I really miss him thankyou for this video
I put my cat down yesterday was my worse day of my life. He was 16 years old.THANK YOU for making this video.
Anel B I had to put my cat down today. Also feeling like it’s the worst day of my life. With you on that! Sending love and light. 🌈
Some people do not want to euthanize gay dogs are cats the humane I know but you gave your dog or cat the best life possible
You are a good parent and a very strong and kind person and God Bless you. Your sweet cat is in a better place and still loving you! Lots of love from Texas!❤️
Tomorrow I'm taking my rottweiler to be euthanized. He has bone cancer and he's not doing well. I'm not letting cancer make my baby hurt anymore...even though I've crying like crazy, I know I've made the right decision for him.💔
I’m so sorry...😥 I’m there now in a few days with my chihuahua of 16 years...😥
@@whatwillbem6825 I'm so sorry, it's one of the hardest things to go through but it's the least we can do for our pups. Your chihuahua will appreciate you letting him go with peacefully 😔
Thank you for your information - I just euthanized my 19 yr Australian Shepard on Tuesday Oct 6 2020 who I rescued 10 years ago on my birthday. Sammy, the most lovable, patient, playful, protector but most of all his kindness in making sure we the family were ok. Im having a rollercoaster of emotions making this decision but after watching this video, it has made me feel that I did make the right decision for our dear beloved Sammy. Most people don't understand that pets are family members. I can't share my grieve with others who haven't experienced the bond with a beautiful dog like Sammy. Love your pets til the very end and never leave them alone. Sammy was with me all the time until his last yawn to the other side. Thank you
Sorry for your loss : ( I'll be putting my jack/pug down in the next couple of days. He's almost 18, got him right after my kidney transplant and he's been my best friend ever since. Long may you run, daddy loves you Chewee.
As a veterinary nurse in a teaching hospital, I want to share this with all my veterinary and nursing students.. It's such a good resource
Thank you so much for saying so. I hope it will help as many people as possible. Our vet nurses are a resource to pet owners everywhere.
It's your last act of kindness for someone you love to be able to end their suffering.
I have an 11 yr old Cocker Spaniel and he is my very best friend. I find myself more and more thinking and worrying about him aging. My family and I will be crushed when he passes. This video gave me comfort. Thank you so much 🙏
Thank you:-) for helping me find some peace. 6 days ago I let my Maggie May, my almost 15 year old dog, "pass away". My heart is broken. I can hardly function. You helped me to realize that I did what was best for Maggie. Right now I feel like the heart has been ripped out of my chest but I know that she is at peace. She was a rescue dog and she was mine. I was with her until the last minute of her life. I know that she in not in pain anymore. Thank you for caring about these animals who give such unconditional love, who never judge, and who accept us in spite of ourselves. Thank you for all you do for those who cannot "speak" for themselves. May God bless you now and always. Carolyn
Carolyn Forsey...I know exactly how you feel. I have an appointment to put my oldest dog (almost 16) down today and of course, I'm second guessing myself. We did this to one of my dogs 2-1/2 years ago (she was MY baby) and I still miss her even though I still have others left but I keep asking myself: did I do it too soon? should I have waited longer? did I jump the gun? All these stupid questions that I can do nothing about. I was grateful for this video.
Just put my beautiful cat of 18 years down a few hours ago. Heartbroken is the word I can think of right now. I hope we get to be with them in the after life.
Just put my dog down 2 weeks ago, he was 13 years old and had kidney failure. It was so sudden, he started showing symptoms in the last 4 days. He was barely eating but was drinking, was constipated one day, threw up the next day, wouldn’t leave his bed for anything except when my dad got home from work, but he’d lay back down 2 minutes later. I wasn’t expecting the vet visit to be his last day on earth. I honestly thought he was just sick or had a tooth ache. I felt like it was my fault since I was the one who wanted him to go to the vet. I was the one who put him in the car and let my mom take him, didn’t even get to say goodbye because I expected to see him after. This video just showed up randomly on my home page and I’m so glad I watched it. I definitely feel better and would say it was his time. I’m glad we gave him peace before he went through the pain he would’ve had if we waited a few more days. I’m definitely going to use those tips for the next dog I get.
My vet is coming to my house today at 2:30. I want to cancel so badly but he doesn't even have the strength to stand now. He hasn't eaten for 2 weeks and turns his nose at any offer of treats that he would have gulped down a month ago. Merlin is a huge black goldendoodle. He would be 12 December 5th. He was 103 lbs just a few weeks ago but I can see him rapidly losing weight. He won't drink now either. Every time I look in his eyes I know that he is asking for help. I was there when he was born and I will hold him as he takes his last breath. God help me.
Hope you're ok 😭
@@PH_1964 Oh thank you. So sweet to comment. I'm going to be ok. His loss brought back some pretty intense feelings, I won't lie. I believe that life goes on and on so I hope to see him again and that he's now young and healthy and playing with those that have gone before me. Take care.
This video is 5yo but so soothing. I said goodbye to my 13yo mini schnauzer. He was such a fighter and beat the odds so many times, but ultimately, a nasal tumor was just too much for him to overcome. I miss him so much. I knew there were no good days left to be had, but what I wouldn’t give for one more.
I just had to put down my 14 year old dog yesterday. She most likely had cancer and wasn't going to make it through the weekend. Poor thing had to be carried out to the bathroom cause she couldn't use her hind legs. She had arthritis in her spine and hips. She was refusing to eat and drink. She did get the strength one last time to get up, and walk over to me for one last head pet session. She passed peacefully in my arms at the vet. I'll miss her so much.
I'm so sorry. Hope you're ok?
My dog was diagnosed with kidney failure yesterday and the vet is keeping her in for two days on antibiotics and checking her enzymes tomorrow. She is not eating. Her back legs are in bad shape because of luxating patellas which she has struggled with for a long time. This video is very helpful. She had surgery last month to remove teeth and cysts. Shortly afterward is when she developed the symptoms of kidney failure. I want to do everything possible to get her in a healthy place, but I do not want her to suffer.
Our Dachshund is in his 19th year. We know it the time is coming to say goodbye. This has been helpful.
We put down our 4 lb, 15 y/o Chihuahua last Monday, so like 11 days ago. She had an open pyometra, I'll never not get my dog fixed again, I always fixed my dogs but she was so small and I was never planning on breeding her, I didn't know about it, now I do. And she was losing some teeth, and her eyes were "blue", she wasn't seeing very well. She loved food, our food, and still was moving well and wasn't in pain. But my husband was going to visit his family for Thanksgiving, and she did have one day about two weeks ago, where she started yelping for like 10 seconds, and I knew a heat was coming, and I didn't want her to be in pain. I didn't purchase a ticket to go with my husband so I could be here with her, because we weren't planning on putting her down, but as the days counted down, and after she was yelping that one time, I decided we better do it while she's ok and not in pain, we knew she wasn't getting better. I didn't want to be alone with her in heat, and if she got in pain, I didn't want to put her down alone, at an emergency vet over Thanksgiving weekend, and my husband wanted to be there. Now it's Thanksgiving and I'm all alone. I've never been alone, without my baby. We've chosen not to have children, so our Chihuahua was our baby. We've had her, almost our entire relationship minus 6 months. I know we didn't wait too long, and it was peaceful. Idk if I want another dog, I always thought I'd get a puppy to help me heal, but so far I've just put all of Penny Lane's stuff away. I was cleaning my KZhead downloads up on my phone, on Thanksgiving morning, and this video came on and now I'm a blubbering mess, even though I haven't cried much since last Monday. I think it's just everything, I miss my dog, I'm all alone on a holiday and I'm just having a pity party. She even got to eat some chocolate, a Hershey's kiss, courtesy of the vet, and she loved it so much, it was the cutest thing. I know we did the right thing at the right time, but it doesn't take the pain away.
Thank you for your video. I've been trying to make the decision for my little Shih Tzu. She is 13 and has been declining for months, sleeps all the time, she is incontinent and now has started having seizures. I am going to the Vet tomorrow to discuss putting her down. You have a very kind way about you and how you help your patients work through this part of their pets lives. Thank for helping me not feel guilty and look at it more in a common sense sort of way. You are a blessing to your patients. Thank you again. 💛
We rescued a chihuahua & gave him the best quality of life we could for 6 months. His last month his mobility got so bad he couldn't walk AT ALL. We carried him from room to room where he could see us. He even cried when he had to pee or drink & we would lay him in the grass or bring water to him. He loved our company & even wrestled with toys laying down. He was diagnosed with water on the brain (hydrocephalus) & it's an irreversible condition. One night he cried for over an hour & I just couldn't comfort him. All I could compare it to was my moms brain tumor & how bad her head hurt when the fluid wouldn't drain. We put him down that night. His name was Peetie and I loved him SO much and so glad I got to give him a great 6 months. The little guy had a really hard life before that. We nursed him back from mange, fleas, and malnutrition. 💚 Peetie
Melissa Crockett love you
You are wonderful person having done that. Blessings on you
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We let our boy go today from lymphoma. I am sick, gutted and completely heartbroken. I am thinking it is the price we pay for having dogs that are so special and love us so very much. Thank you for this video it helped.
I came to this video to get some insight on what to do with my 12yo pitbull who was diagnosed with Osteosarcoma in August. I also have a Rottweiler, so your story resonated deeply with me. I know deep down that it is time, but I am finding such a hard time making the decision. It’s like I’m waiting for the right “timing”, but I don’t think that will ever be….
Doing this as a pet mom (or dad) is so incredibly painful, but we do it because of our great love for them. My latest pet was put to sleep yesterday, this has been an occurrence throughout my life, and it never gets easier. I pray that over rainbow bridge, all of our beautiful pets exist.
I am deeply sorry for your loss
I had to make the decision to put down my dog, the love of my life Moses.. he was 4 when I rescued him and he was a once in a lifetime type of dog. I gave him the best life but he started slowing down. He was a cocker spaniel mix about 53 lbs. I noticed he couldn't get up on couch anymore and he lived on it. I bought a ramp, he wouldn't use it and hard time getting in car. He was 14 and 8 months old and his left leg kept buckle under and collapsed when he walked. Had to keep picking him up. Toes scraping, point down. Bottom line is he couldn't climb the stairs anymore as I live on second level. Took him in, had exrays, showed nothing. Dr. Said it was neurological and no cure fatal, progress worse. I looked up symptoms. I believe it was canine Degenerative myelopathy. Dr. Didn't tell me this, they would have to run tests to rule out costing two to five thousand
Thank you for this...euthanasia is never an easy thing to talk about but we have to remember that it can be a wonderful blessing to prevent suffering. I still remember wrestling with putting my own cat to sleep, but at 13 years old, FeLV positive and suffering with mammary tumors, it was definitely time. I didn’t want to put her through surgery and chemo just to buy her a few more months full of pain and misery. My middle cat now is in the beginnings of renal disease and I know down the line I will have to make that decision for her too...I’ve loved her these past 8 years and I owe it to her to make sure she’s comfortable to the end. If only our furry friends could live forever 😢
I had to say goodbye to my best friend this morning around 4:00 am. She was diagnosed with a cancerous tumor on her spine and the pain has gotten to the point she would scream in pain even when at rest. Right now I'm like a moving vehicle without an engine. And I don't even know how I'm moving. I just recently bought her brand new bowls for her food and drink and she had one more diaper left. I hadn't eaten, slept for almost 48 hours knowing she'll no longer be greeting me at the door whenever I come home and barking at me while wagging her tail. I'm going to be grieving her departure from this world for a very long time and she will always be in my heart just like my other pets that had died under my care. I know I'll see them again someday when my time comes.
Our poor little Teddy doesnt have long left i dont think, hes such a good boy, a reason to wakeup in the morning, ive never had anyone love me as much as this dog loves me.. 🥺
Yesterday my 16 1/2 year old chihuahua named Roxy crossed the Rainbow Bridge with the help of her very caring vet. In a search for comfort from missing her so much I watched this and feel better. Thank you
😔 awe...that’s me right now soon with my chihuahua 😥
This past sunday we had to make the decision to let our 12 year old Chihuahua El Loco cross. He has been having seizures for over 5 years and had congestive heart failure. He had seizures friday night and saturday night and his abdomen was really swollen from the CHF. He had a really deep cough and his breathing was very labored. I held him while his life slipped away. I really miss him.
Hi, Dr. Roark. Thank you. I used to work at CPAH in Travelers Rest several years ago and refuse to take my dogs anywhere else. You recently saw my pitty mix, Violet. Nasty skin, ears, allergies. Dead tooth. But that’s not what sparked me to write this. On December 27th, my Doberman, Zig, was very ill. He hadn’t been sick since he was 12 weeks old with giardia. I brought him in to see Dr. Bryant that day thinking maybe he’d eaten something weird and worst case scenario was a foreign body. They took him back for blood work and X-rays. Came back a while later and said X-rays were a little fuzzy and they’d pulled blood from his abdomen. Ruptured splenic tumor was what we were looking at. Not normally a huge deal, usually benign, he and Kayla set us up an emergency ultrasound appointment at UVS (it was roughly 4pm by this time) and they both offered to stay late at CPAH to do surgery if need be. We get to UVS, they take him back for his exam and ultrasound and bring him back. They tell me he has widespread cancer. Liver, spleen, lymph nodes. They could biopsy it, but by then there’s not much they could have done. It was so aggressive. They gave us two or three days maximum and my world has never been the same since. I’m the Director of Etiquette at Noble Dog Hotel. It’s amazing and, obviously, full of dog lovers, so everyone there worked together so I could take time off and focus on Zig. Well, he started wagging his tail again. Started eating, and actually keeping his food down. We sat outside in the sun when weather permitted, and snuggled inside when it didn’t. Sometimes he preferred to sit on the couch at the foot of my bed. But he did not leave my sight for three months. Three whole months he hung on. On his good days we’d play tug of war and share chicken jerky and go for rides (he loved to bark at horses, or any livestock for that matter) or go to the lake on warm days. On his bad days we’d hang inside the house and be lazy together. Always together. March 27, 2018, exactly three months later, he just wasn’t right. He was restless, refused to eat, gums were pale and cold, and wanted to go outside every few minutes. Thankfully I had my family’s support through it. I’ve lost family members, including the childhood pets I grew up with. But Zig was just five years old. He was supposed to live forever and was taken way too soon. I’ve questioned myself every single day since then and I’m even in therapy now to help cope with such a traumatic and unexpected loss. I guess the whole point of writing this is to thank you for saying exactly what I needed to hear. I feel somewhat comforted. It’s June now and I have hurt every single day. I’ve questioned myself, doubted myself, but feel a bit of relief after watching. Thank you.
It’s Thursday January 31st 2019 And yesterday was such a heartbreaking day because My Parents told me yesterday morning when they woke up they found my 13 year old Dog Dead in my Kitchen. My Dog that just died his name was Leo. His Mother died a few years ago in November. Leo was not put to sleep. It’s never easy saying goodbye to a Pet or to a Family member. Leo was my best friend too.
I lost my dog to bone cancer in the shoulder, one month from diagnosis we had to put her sleep. It was a blessing to see her out of extreme pain. Our hearts were breaking but we couldn’t let her suffer.
I had to make the choice for my cat. I am so glad Stone was loved.
Oh God!, out all the videos I saw you are the one that definitely made me realize I am doing the right thing for my beloved 17 year old Snoopy tomorrow. I am in tears. I needed reassurance. Thank you! It is so hard though! I just love him so much! But I must let him go!
Thank you, Doctor. My 14 year old Boston-Boxer recently and suddenly went completely blind. In hindsight, there were a few things that may have been signs of some brain issue. Before and since his blindness, he has had episodes that look like TIAs. I don't have the resources to run all kinds of brain scans and neurological testing to tell me what happened just to know his sight or brain function will not return to normal. My vet said his blindness is permanent. This blindness happened about a month ago. He now acts as though he has dementia. He no longer enjoys interaction with me, his toys, playing, walking on the trail, barking at other dogs, or anything he used to enjoy. He eats, overhydrates, goes pee about 12-15 times a day (no diabetes / appears to be an obsession), and walks very slowly (not laboriously) when we go on our walks. He walks around the house aimlessly, and when he is not doing that, he is sleeping. He has difficulty finding his water bowl, doesn't respond to his name, or any verbal commands. He is not deaf, albeit may be a little hard of hearing. No one ever talks about a dog's mental decline and euthanasia, only about physical pain or terminal illness. Would you be willing to address this issue?
Thank you for making this video. I let my 16yo Basset Hound, Dali, cross the rainbow yesterday evening. I'm one of the people that came to this video because yes I do feel guilty even though I knew my old girl was no longer happy and couldn't do what she loved anymore. Hearing your words gave me some comfort in realizing I did do what was best for her. It was a rough morning today. Her not being here to enjoy some of my Saturday morning breakfast with me.
I had to put my little dog to sleep yesterday. Everything at home is reminding me of him😢
I am so sorry for your loss.
Sorry.
@@ConeOfShame Thank you, the pain cannot be described. The worst part is the guilt that we took him to his end.
@@cmthomas07 Thank you. I wouldn't wish it for anyone.
Hi Dr and everyone here. I just wanted to thank you for this message because it really helped to prepare me for putting my thirteen year old Lab mix Chandler to sleep today. Yes I cried and yes I miss him but it would have been so selfish of me to keep him lingering with the degenerative myelopathy he had. He went peacefully and we had a great visiting vet. ❤️
Thanks Doc, I have had dogs all my life, I'm 58, I can tell you it doesn't get easier. But like I tell kids that want a dog or any pet, some day they are going to die , you have to be ready for that day before you get one. I lost one of my dogs 2 yrs ago & just got a golden retriever pup in Jan . That cycle of life, love & companionship, it's the best .
Im sitting here bawling my eyes out,i just made an appointment for the vets to come to my home to put my sweet 16 year old schitzu to sleep on monday. Although she still eats shes blind and deaf and gets stressed out about everything,she no longer has any quality of life,thank you so much for the video ,it makes me realize im doing the right thing by my sweet gidget.
Im gutted the proceedure didnt go as id hoped,i had them come to my home to do it,and my beautiful dog was so distressed and screaming,they couldnt find the vein and tried on several legs,once they got the vein she went quickly and quietly but i feel like crap for how distraught she was.
@@dominiqueelliott452 OMG....Soooo Sorry to hear that
Sorry but this is an example of waiting WAAAAAY too long😮😢
My dog Max has lymphoma and he was diagnosed about a week ago. His health has been declining and it was really hard to watch this video. Knowing that I will have to make this decision at least I have a chance to know when it’s his time. Thank you so so much.
Clyde is 14 and visibly slowing down. I am preparing as best I can, learning and noticing. We probably have a year longer, maybe more, maybe not. But I am going to love him until his last breath. I will be a disconsolate mess for quite some time, but forever grateful for the companionship and love he gives. He has the most adorable traits, and has no idea of unhappiness. He is the best friend I ever had.
I am realizing that, that time has come, again,,,I have had dogs all my life,,,,my last lab 13 yrs,,,now my ol girl Tasha a 13 yr old pit,,with a heavy 💓,,,,tears in my eyes as I watch her sleeping...that time is here once again,,,,I have been here,,it is not an easy decision,,,it's just another part of being a dog lover and owner....good luck and best wishes to all in this position...he's right it is the price of admission...well put.....sir,,, everything comes with a cost,,,,,,,
My little Emmy she was a Chihuahua she just passed the bridge 🌉 couple days ago. We took her to the vet she appeared very I’ll within a few days. We picked her up Dr 👨⚕️ told us they can die on their way home 🏡or up too 2 years. He gave us medicines to treat her heart ❤️ condition. Brought her home she gave my cousin a last look and died in my arms going into our home. She only lasted a half hour from the Dr 👨⚕️ absolutely unbelievable. Perhaps 🤔 she wanted to be in the arms of her owners. I’m full of deep pain and sorrow. My Emmy was 11 and a half and died as soon as I put her on my couch 🛋. This all happened so fast 💨 I need prayers and thanks 🙏 for listening God Bless.
Putting-down our Westie, Sophie, last Septemberr was heartwrenching. But witnessing her whimper in pain, from an agressive spinal tumor, was worse by far. Our beloved family member gave us many years of joy and love. Not allowing her to suffer another second was the least we could do to honor her life.
this was the hardest thing I've ever had to agreed to
Thanks Doctor for your video!! It helps me a lot to make the right decision! I don’t want my dog to get to the point that she’ll suffer !! She doesn’t deserve that! 🙏🏼
Thank you so much. We have a 19 yr old tiny Jack Russell with end stage dementia. Physically she is so healthy. But mentally. No. You helped me make a very hard decision.
Thank you my great dane had to be put down yesterday. You have helped me alot.
Thank you for making this video and posting. Our dog is almost 16 years old and she cannot see or hear well at all. We have decided that it is time to let her go...unfortunately, I now know we have waiting too long. I appreciate the information you shared.
Most sensitive video I come across, was dwelling for weeks, but thank you for help me making the decision
Thank you for this video, as I had to lay my 12 year old Maltese , after she was diagnosed with cancer . She had a as lump the size of an egg near her groin. The vet checked and tested her on the 2/8/2022.got results back the 4/8/2022. She was put to rest 2/9/2022. A month after all this was found out. I’m so lost withiut her, she was such a beautiful companion . But I’m glad she’s free of pain . R.I.P Molly 💔💖
Absolutely agree, there is nothing worse than seeing a person or animal in acute pain or suffering for any reason!! Putting a loved pet to sleep is sacrosanct in my opinion. Animals really do live in the present, as we all should, it would make our lives happier. Why should we put them thru the worst of times because of illness or trauma?? We owe it to them to always give them QUALITY over quantity. Remember they go straight across the veil and that is where we will find them when we cross over ourselves 🙏❤️🙏
Thank you, I have 45 min. Left with Felix and you made me feel better even though I am broken to do this. I know it’s the right decision. Felix is almost 17 Yorkshire. Thank you again 😢❤
Hope you are okay Lisa, very hard decision to make! I may have to make same one in next few months! Keep strong......💞💖💕
I hope you've recovered well. My cat is getting ready now. So much pain.
I just want to say thank you for this video. I have made the appointment for Saturday and now I’m second guessing myself. This video has helped but I’m also in bits and trying to tell myself it’s the right thing to do. She’s a typical Labrador, she just over 11 and a 1/2 and she’s as daft as a brush but I know there are issues and I don’t want her to suffer. My heart is breaking💔
Sarah, I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. I hope your veterinarian will be a guide and will support you as you decide what's best for you and your family.
I also said goodbye to a lab. I am so sorry for your loss.
This video was so comforting and compassionate. thank you so much for the points on when to make this difficult decision. Our 16 year old Shih Tzu mix Leila is in stage 3 kidney failure and she also has pancreatitis. She has been on the decline for thr last few days and we made the difficult decision to euthanize. She had an amazing life and the memories are what we are holding onto.
Thank you for your support. I put my 11 year old beagle to sleep yesterday. It was one of the hardest decisions I've ever made. After listening to you, I'm now sure that I made the right decision. May she rest in peace. 🙏
I just put my old girl down, too. I am so oddly comforted by how many people I see who are viewing this after the fact. I feel less alone and more assured. Blessings to you.
RIP "my Good girl Obie" 😢♥️ I too am looking for comfort after the hardest decision I have ever had to make...Obie you gave me & Brett 17years of joy, protection, love & loyalty. Run free without pain my Good girl xxxo RIP 3/07/2000
I'm really struggling with this right now. My 18 year old shih tzu Buffy has been with us since the start of our marriage. We love her so much and really want to make the right choice for her. Thank you for your kindness.
Such a nice, informative, sensitive, respectful, compassionate and loving video. Well done and much appreciated. Thank you. This video helps a lot.
I'm sorry for your loss. I'm glad that the video helped. 🥲
@@ConeOfShame Thank you 🙏🏼❤️
Thankyou for this video it gave me great comfort after putting our Labrador down today.
Our Goldendoodle has Osteosarcoma. It's been 4 months with the diagnosis. He is 11.5. These word are so comforting as we prepare to make this decision. We are so heartbroken here. We love that dog beyond words and we had such a great life with him. He was here while our daughter was growing, we wen back and forth to her college across state with him, he's been all over. And now we see the page turning and losing the life that we had. We are devastated and so afraid of making the wrong decision. How will we go on without our dear Dexter.
Thank You, Thank You , Thank YOU! You have no idea how special your video was to me today. Yesterday, at 10:30AM, I had to put my beloved Abby dog to sleep. We've had dogs in our family for the last 23 years, and now Abby (who was 12 years and 4 months old), is the last of our dogs. Today, our house feels very empty and sad. All day long I've been watching youtube videos on putting dogs down, when I came upon your special video. Dr. Andy Roark, you spoke to me as though you were sitting in front of me and speaking directly with me. Out of all the video's I've watched today, yours is the one that struck a chord deep inside of me and my heart that is in extreme pain for what I did to my dog yesterday. You gave me the courage to know that what I did, was the 'right thing' for my sweet Abby. Please, I want you to know that you have a wonderful gift of compassion to give other people and your clients. Thank You So Much For Making This Video For Me To Watch Today :-) Dan in Minnesota.
I’m so glad I watched this video because last night was so terrible. I was aware that my dog was standing next to me as I slept and I woke up to find him trembling uncontrollably. I knew he had a high temperature before the vet took it so I managed to give him a pain killer by using a syringe. Thankfully it seemed to help with the pain until the morning but then I couldn’t get him down the stairs because he was unable to do it himself. I had to find a strong man to help me. He’s been diagnosed with pancreatitis for the third time even though he’s been on a low fat diet. He still loves his home cooked food but he’s lost so much weight recently. I know he’s going downhill fast and I’m finding it hard to make the decision because the ultrasound hasn’t shown up anything significant. The vet still thinks there maybe some underlying cause such as prostrate or pancreatic cancer. He is also limping and he’s arching his backbone. I know he is suffering deep down and yet to make that big decision is so hard as my husband can’t see it as well as I can. Thank you for helping me to come to turns with it and make this terrible decision. At least I know I will be alleviating his pain and suffering.
I'm so sorry you are going through this. Sending positive vibes.
I am so glad I came across this video. My girl has bone cancer and I'm struggling to make the decision. This video has helped me immensely. Thank you kindly 😔💛🐾🙏
Thank you so much. You’re kind words have really helped me put things in perspective. Being in a whirlwind of emotions can cloud our ability to to make this difficult decision. You common sense advice has helped me see what I need to do.
Bless you, dear Doc!
Thank you for taking the time to put this together.
Thank you! Very powerful!
Thank you for making this video
Put down our 17 year old Shitzhu today. The hardest decision I have ever made. Every time I felt doubtful, I would take all the different likely paths if we didn't take this step and they all ultimatlely ended at the same place where he suffer a lot more pain and discomfort than he was already in. He was put down in our living room with us petting him and letting him know how special he was to us. Even the day before we got to sit on the beach, gave him lots of treats and lots of love and affection. We did a lot of crying too. But I am so grateful we had that day. If I waited it would have most likely ended up as an emergency where he would have been in great pain, in which we would be rushing to the nearest emergency vet where it all would have ended on a cold table where he is incredibly stressed out. No day on the beach, nor the best breakfast he ever had that morning of. We were lucky enough to know he was too old to fix his conditions, his failing legs, his enlarged heart or his confused mind seemed to be in a race to see which would take him out first. I didn't want to wait to see who wins that race. Rest in peace Matty Dog, you were incredible. This video helped me be ok with my decision and I hope it is helping you as I know you must be in a real rough spot right now.
What a good person you are. Thank you for making this video.
Thank you💙
I’ve been trying to make this decision myself. My hubby is not ready to let his buddy go yet, but I can tell my baby boy is ready.
Please don’t forget us cat owners! I’ll be sending my fur baby to the rainbow bridge tomorrow.
Fourteen years ago, I euthanized my 15 year old rescue dog . He was suffering from congenative heart failure and I realized how selfish it was to let him continue to suffer. I did adopt another young rescue who is now 12 years and three months old. I see some changes that come with age, but for now he is happy. healthy with some arthritis, eating well and enjoying twice daily walks.
Thank You for this video. I hung on every word and the end "Reveal" brought me to tears. Really good advice.
Thank you for making me feel better.
Thank you. This help me when hardest time comes.
The vet felt a tumor inside my dog (won’t give details) 3-4 weeks ago. Tried to get chest X-ray to see if it had mastasized to the lungs but only was able to get one view and nothing showed. He did lab work to confirm diagnosis but that was right on the border of being positive. He told me he felt confident that my dog had cancer. The kind of cancer spreads very rapidly to lungs and other parts of the body. Even with treatment, it would only provide him with 1 maybe 2 yrs of life. Without treatment, I was told maybe a few months. He was doing a lot better with some anti inflammatory and antibiotics. This morning I noticed not only his back legs giving out but also the front although not nearly as unstable as his back kegs. He went 2 weeks without his anti inflammatory only because I saw improvement and have been so busy getting to his vet for more medication is a 45 min drive there. However I did pick up that medication and gave it to him today praying he will be able to walk. Guessing so much pain that he won’t even eat his pigs ear which is his favorite! Today when my son and I got home, he managed to get enough strength to take a few steps to get to the door to greet us which I know was extremely difficult for him😢. I am questioning how long I should give him his anti inflammatory meds to see if they work and he turns the corner? If they do not work, I will have to make the difficult decision to put him down since he cannot even go outside to use restroom. I just want clear answers.
This is by far the best most informative video I have found 9n this heartbreaking subject
Thanks for this perspective. I appreciate it.
Thank you so much for your advise !
Really excellent info. Thanks
Thanks for making this video 🥲
Thank you too for sharing
Thank you so much.!
It's very hard to say goodbye but putting them at peace is the best remedy and free from.pain
Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom
Thank you for your advice.
Thank you 🙏🏻
thank you for this
Thank you for this ! so helpful !