Former CIA Officer Will Teach You How to Spot a Lie l Digiday
2016 ж. 8 Ақп.
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In this participatory session, you will learn how to tell when someone is lying. Really. As a former CIA Officer with more than 20 years of experience in interviewing, interrogation and polygraph examination, Susan has seen her share of truth avoiders. She has, in fact, developed behavioral screening programs that are used by the federal government. Don’t miss out on learning her methodologies in spotting deception.
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Susan Carnicero, Author of Spy the Lie and founding partner, Qverity
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"Have you ever asked someone a question and they've talked for 10 minutes and then you realized they've never answered the question you asked?" Yeah, they're called politicians.
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WasabiNinja , TOOK THAT RITE OFF MY KEYBOARD, IM SURPRISED THE ENTIRE PLACE DIDT YELL THAT OUT!!!!! GOOD ONE! THANKS.
@Tanish Bermola its a direct quote from the video.
That was awesome!!!!!! You are correct. God Bless.
What type of personn is that thou. Deception?
The biggest lie I tell myself is "you don't need to write that down you'll remember it".
Judy, I’m so bad I forget stuff I did write down
LOL
Don't forget the ever so faithful "the conversation will get there when I see it, and then I wouldn't have drifted off"
I’ve been called dumb got writing down what person was telling me
@Cyndi Rothrock YES!
I've been called a liar by a government investigator, and I knew perfectly well I wasn't lying. The air of confidence that people like this speaker present is how they convince decision-makers that they know what they're doing. But they can be wrong too, and their mistakes cost careers.
Half of what she was saying didn't make much sense to me as it doesn't have to mean anything. The kid yelling at his parents they don't trust them, that's probably coz they are fed up of the policing haha, or the example of attacking a third party, maybe that employee had been warning them for ages to add CCTV for example, or someone going angry from 0 to 100, tons of reasons...so yeah she speaks with so much confidence, .. reminds me of ChatGPT haha it answers with so much confidence you believe even the wrong answers 🤪✌
Exactly. And that's exactly what I was thinking when I saw the title of this show. If these people were so expert at everything they do, how come there have been so many miscarriages of justice, with innocent people going to prison for long stretches all the time, only to be vindicated years later?
This is so true. One time, when applying for a job as a police dispatcher, I had to take a polygraph test. I was so nervous I failed. The guy thought I was hiding something, but it all amounted to me being a young 21-year-old that was freaked out, and I kept thinking, “What if there’s something that I’ve done that I don’t remember?” I didn’t get the job, but I did learn that those tests are not reliable. Anyone with confidence and assurance can pass a polygraph. But if you’re nervous or anxious, you will fail.
@@BlackSeranna True. In fact Joe Kenda (of the Homicide Hunter series) told the story of how a guy was identified by name after a shooting, Kenda brought him in, questioned him, gave him a polygraph test (which he failed) and then let him go without charge. His colleagues went crazy with him, but his reasoning was simple: he could tell when someone was lying and he believed the kid was telling the truth. As it turned out the kid had been wrongly identified (because he had long hair, like the shooter): and the actual shooter was caught. This is what irritates me about the one giving the talk there, too. If they were so flawless in their work how come so many innocent people still end up in prison.
So many law enforcement officers believe truth for lies and vice versa. It’s mind blowing.
I hate liars and find it extremely difficult to lie. In my life I found that people do not believe you're honest because they themselves are dishonest.
True and Blue the Blue cafhppp
I pride myself with being honest. I actually had one employer tell me I was too honest and I told him I didn't think that was a bad thing
The government lies to you every day. Get over it
Yes!!!!
@@judydendy1697 My attorney told me the same damned thing. An attorney. Imagine that 😂
Any former CIA officer should be able to spot a liar. They are surrounded by each other all day.
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@@robione5627 Oh hi fed
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@John Balled Yup!!!
Here’s one of the best pieces of general advice I’ve ever been told; if someone is asking you a specific and/or detailed question, it’s because they already know the answer, and that they are testing you and your honesty.
Well, they are dumb for doing it! They should ask an open-ended question to test your honesty.
@@irenashiloh8808 it depends
A woman yes 😂😂😂😂😂
It's what attorney lives by: know the answer
Ask me no questions, l will tell you no lies
I worked for a particular retail company for a long time, and I sat in on many interviews with the guy who was in charge of loss prevention for almost 200 stores. He was very good at getting people to admit that they stole cash and merchandise. Then we found out HE was stealing!
Woah. That's a story I'd like to hear.
I worked for a school where this guy always seemed to be so happy and boisterous around his office mates, but when he was alone, he didn’t interact with anyone else and he almost seemed upset. He’d been working at the school for decades and was looking at retirement. Then one day, one of my workmates (different department) found a safe open. He turned it in. They watched the security tape, and this guy had been stealing from the safe after each ball game and people hadn’t noticed somehow. I can’t imagine losing my job and retirement over something like that. There was this other guy, I noticed that he was only animated and happy with his fellow coaches and students. With regular people like me, he didn’t even look at me and barely said hello in reply. I wondered at this, as this was not usual either. Turns out that guy had been grooming a sixteen year old track girl, and he had even gone so far as to buy a house just down from her parents’ house. Her parents saw that something was wrong and went through her phone and found the evidence. I feel like you can get a good feel for a person if you see how they treat others who they think are lesser than themselves.
Lol
"How come no one told me all throughout history. The loneliest people are the ones who always spoke the truth..." -Kings of Convenience
Idk liars are pretty lonely.
How can I lie ten times a day if I don't talk to anyone for weeks lol.
curtis Schroh You should get out more! Lol
curtis Schroh how is that possible?
Raul Alonso How isn’t it possible?
You lie to yourself in your thoughts. Ego protection.
faismasterx I barely lie. I guess people need to deal with that.
She is describing 98% of politicians perfectly when she is explaining how liars behave.
Excuse me, but you are being too kind. I woud say 99.9 and not only those but olso, bankers and C.Os of all Multinationals!!!
@@adelinopaulino6635 Agreed. Let’s add all the NGOs also.
@@joshgalt2022 sorry, i forgot those thieves!
1) vague answer 2) aggressive / attacks others 3) long-winded, try hard
You're not surprised, are you?
I’ve watched this before, and this time around, I appreciate the guidance on understanding our own biases when communicating with people. Working with effective interpersonal communication skills through DBT. Very helpful in understanding myself & others. Thank you.
@@comehellorhighwater DBT stands for Dialectical Behavioral Therapy .
@@comehellorhighwaterDialectical Behavioral Therapy
Matthew 5:37 - All you need to say is simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one. - best advice ever
I had an ex- who you’d ask him a question and he will take you back to the day he was born and never answer the question lol 😂
LMAOOOOO
Some people love to talk, in general. Some love to talk to a friend or loved one. Some don't really get a lot of people asking them about anything that's isn't work related (especially men), so when it happens it's like jumpstarting the duracell bunny. Basically, for most who do this, it's more of a social interaction or intimacy sharing need that has gone unfulfilled, a bubble of all that pent up "energy", that burst when you asked that question. So they get _really_ carried away, and somewhere along the way they forget why they started talking and what the question was.
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But the question is did he lie? As you just said he never answered the question. Is called avoiding the question. Or more like rerouting you to something else. Like a gps :). Some people do not like lying not saying thats him or try to do the very minimum as to have more honesty in the relationship. Plus religious reasons also. A quick answer would be i dont really want to talk about it. No im not talking about your ex. I am just speaking in general
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That moment when you realize that you have invested 17 minutes of your life on a random video only to discover that they never actually SHOW the list of behaviors. I want my time back.
i know. totally agree.
this is the type of fbi officer in every crime movie / series
Put on your listening hat, take some notes, problem solved. 😅 Entitled whining millenial
@@Rickety3263 everyone learns differently and they may need more visual cues to understand the material better. Calling someone an entitled millenial is simply rude and a closed minded judgement. Try directly someone towards a place that can help them instead of being a dick next time ...
Bryan Beswick I’m sorry 😐 but I thank you for this comment 🙏🏽
She is describing the system that lies to us
We all must do this self reflection during a time when so much of our future feels uncertain. I constantly find myself reevaluating friendships, causes, courses of action.
I worked as a correctional officer. For 30 years I worked amongst the world's best liars. I took a course in body language in college before my career. Alot of telltale signs of liars. But some prisoners are so good... those signs were not present due to lying being second nature to them. One thing liars can't control, is remembering their lies. Too many of them to keep tab of. THAT'S when you catch them. But they always have an explanation for the contradiction. VERY good con artists. It takes good instincts to uncover them.
I was a CO for a few years. I learned so much working there. Psychology, behaviors, why people do the things they do, etc. more than I did at any school or job. I absolutely dreaded taking that job initially; I was one of the rare ones that did LE first. Had moved to a backwards state that was rife with cronyism and nepotism. But looking back, I actually miss that CO job. Definitely stressful, but with a good group of coworkers it was fun, every day different, and learned a whole lot of everything and anything that's helped me out in so many other ways. Will definitely make you take the rosy colored glasses off as to how the world really is.
@@Christy.1 ... You're totally right. A C/O wears many hats while working an institution. You're a C/O. You're a psychologist, you're a mentor, you're a "parental" figure. You're a protector. You're a detective. An observer. At times medical emergency responder. I would say 90% it is actually boring. But that 10% ...man, we earned our check. So my motto was "boring is good in prison". I too saw working there as a daily challenge. You Never know what's going to happen that day. Alot of mind games. Some you win, some you lose. We took losing as a learning experience for next time. I still have dreams of wearing my uniform and working there. I do really miss the comradery of my co-workers. Miss the friendships we developed during our whole careers. The dark spots and the exciting events that we all experienced together. Prison is a WHOLE different world than ours. If only regular civilians knew the daily drama and the evil that exists in there. I worked there for 8 to 12 hours a day. Would never want to live in there 24/7.
I was a Corrections Officer for 25 . I agree with you all CO's. We had to learn to read people.
@@les8518 ... As I'm sure you know, you could actually "feel" when something was wrong even without the inmates being verbal. The tension, the out of the normal activities (inmates are very habitual in their daily routines), their sudden quietness, their sneaky stares... You could instantly feel something happened, about to, or did happen. At times all I had to do was to look at their faces to observe where else they were looking, and I could likely pinpoint where the problem was located. Inmates too are constantly observing your manners and style. One thing I could not understand is how as a C/O I could manage societies worst, yet when I came home... I couldn't control my own kids. Lol.
@@Christy.1l
23:51 When you ask someone a question and they talk for 10 minutes, & then you realize they never answered the question...this means they passed the First Practical Test for becoming a POLITICIAN!!
The second test is being a major arse hole - they all pass that one with flying colours.
Mill Wright AGREE!!
This lady worked for the CIA 20+ years? Then I would have to say she is more than likely lying.
she is just as capable of lying as anyone, and probably does quite a lot,considering the line of work she was in lol. there are better videos on this subject.
Zoid71 Pickle2007 could you link me?! O: im keen to see these
I didnt want to watch another video on this subject but she started speaking so captivating I just kept listening. Real good public speaker
The damn woman is wearing a wig and playing a character.
A politician is only lying when their mouth is moving.
What if the politician calls himself a politician
The only reason I clicked on this video was to put an almost identical comment. I was going to say person on TV, but whatever. You ruined it.
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No. A politician is always lying to themselves to there family. Non stop rabbit holes..red n blue need to be purpled
Politics -- Root word 'poli' - a great many' "Tics" - blood sucking insects
I was always told the best lie to tell is the truth because nobody is going to believe it anyway.
Gerald West omg so trueeee!
Gerald West that was epic
Gerald West that was moronic, truthfully.
Thanks Kev! ; )
nice quote, like the photo of duane too
I have awful social anxiety and ADHD. I'm an AWFUL liar, so I don't tell lies that'd get me in trouble. But I swear I probably exhibit all of the red flags in just a normal conversation. There's no way this can be used universally.
❤Exactly! "typical" reactions are just that. >/=20% of the population is neurodivergent. Plus really scary liars have None of these symptoms-they have zero concience.
It's not used universally. There's signs, and then there's a baseline. One must know the suspects baseline before they can apply the signs.
Same.
@@sozeytozey that's a relief cause my baseline is no good either. 😂
I feel this heavily
Amazing truths that I really enjoyed. Thank you for the digiday talk. It's my first, but I will not make it my last .. arms crossed lol ❤
Yep. That’s how innocent people end up in jail. Because of arrogant people believing they can spot a liar. Then build a case around their beliefs.
She is speculating and seems like on a marketing campaign for consultation jobs
You’re possibly right. The more we know, the more we think we know :) we’ll become arrogant people and sometimes dangerous, both in our careers or in personal life. We all judge and missjudge. But probably many times we need this kind of people.
Well usually the lying spotting is only used to try to find possible suspects and then they try to find the truth. Or at least that's how it's supposed to be. They can't build a case around "Well it looked like she was lying". However if they are telling different stories and stuff that doesn't or just details that are don't work together then that can be an argument in court
And just think . Detectives like her are aggressively marathon interrogating vulnerable adults and children during major crimes
SOOOO TRUE! I played a game of two truths, one lie in a team-building activity. I guessed EVERYONE else's lies, and no one guessed mine. They looked at me with a side-eye for the rest of day. Part of my ability came from listening to them before the session. SO many were bragging about their personal accomplishments without asking anyone else anything, their competitive nature worked against them. I used know biases to formulate my answers. There is great power in being underestimated. Your point about jail is spot on!!! The same thing happens in the classroom. Some children get punished for what someone 'THINKS' the child is going to do, versus what they've actually done.
Jerry Seinfeld: How can I be sure my lie is convincing ? George Costanza : Remember, Jerry, it’s not a lie if you believe it.
Classic
Totally my ex! Lol
My bf Soo my bf !
@@opalrose3014 Mine Too!! Only 4 1\2 yrs later I'm Still... NOT Laughing!! I hope for the day I can laugh off losing Everything I ever worked for to the Controlling, Abusive, Lying, Psychopathic Thief that Never worked for Anything!! (Unless you call Abuse, Lies and Theft WORK!) Once the lie came out his mouth... It then became An Indisputable Fact he calls Truth!!
I used to be a Seinfeld fan, I always loved that show. That was until I learned about the "actors" and their views . I saw this video and to me it is pretty revealing and disgusting . This is atwisted mentality aka a reference to cannibalism. kzhead.info/sun/ZamQm5d6rZV-lnk/bejne.html
Mr. Navarro, who has conducted many, many hundreds of interrogations, says there really is no way to tell for sure if a person is lying. i believe him! 🌷🌱
Wow I loved this, I’ve read several books on body language/ deception etc. but this lady gave alot of other insight into the subject
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
Your joking right. This woman is talking shit out her butt cheeks.
This would've been so much more valuable if it had actually included the slides she's referring to as "this", "that over there", "this one", "that one" etc.
Thank you!!!!!!
IKR
That sounds right !!!
V W truth! 😄
James clapper lies
When I was little (and to this day) I get angry if I am being accused of something I didn’t do. And I get sheepish and blush if I am guilty. I am unable to hide a lie, my face gives me away immediately. My mom was able to determine this right out of the gate because of course she knows me best, but teachers would always tell my mom and I that my anger was proof of my guilt, because that is classic textbook behaviour. It is definitely important to form a baseline for each individual before forming opinions.
When I'm asking a to question I'm making eye contact if they don't it's cause a story must be imagened the truth can be spoken with solid steady eye contact
@@tommerphy1286 Actually that is not true either. Many persons that are trying to manipulate are looking you directly in your eyes to see how you react to their lie and if you believe it or not, so they can adjust accordingly.
@@thecakebaker3769 when I hear what they say, I have a question, and if they go into evade and escape . Depending on the subject to me their on the witness stand and better have an idedic memory.
I was thinking this while watching the video. Aggression or anger from children (or anyone, in the case of repeated accusations) is often a strong indicator of truth. [Though usually it's paired with a reiteration of the facts they've already told you instead of a redirection (No 'Well, everyone does it!'s or 'Why are you always on my case?'s)] I always think of a classroom I was in where somebody was accused of stealing another student's TI-84 calculator because the missing calculator "had the same chipped key on it". The accused got more and more flustered and upset as the teacher and members of the class interrogated him, but stuck to his story that it was his. The other kid eventually found his calculator, and when compared, both had chipped in exactly the same place in the same way. Honestly, in that situation, who wouldn't get defensive? I guess that's why she specifically says that aggression is a deceptive indicator "when all you did was calmly ask a question".
Sometimes it just hurts when people accuse you of something...especially if its the sort of thing you would never do or the accusation comes from somebody you THOUGHT knew you better than that. I don't get angry or even try especially hard to refute it. I just go away and don't return...
Thank you so much for your great work protection from the way deceptive people are
You are so good. You are so clear by everything you speak. I have problem by understanding both english and content. But you are so clear by everything so I understand. Thank you so much❤❤❤❤
Narssist can lie without any of this...and they are all over the place.🙄
because they believe so much that they have right.
And psychopaths. Who are in politics a lot.
@@Mo-uy5ds true and most of the official who raise to power.
A lot of them have watched this video and others like it already.
Ever known anyone with Borderline Personality Disorder? They have the potential to ruin your life, for no reason other than the disease.
biggest lie "i have read the terms and conditions" Edit:too many likes
@@SirSaturnine8008 tru that
✓ "I am not a robot"
The even bigger lie is that you understand the terms and conditions !
@@keithtodd8631 hahaha so true 😛
@@SirSaturnine8008 I do , I’m not lying eighther
Most people do not lie. But, the few people who do lie tend to think that everyone lies. They need to believe that everyone lies, to convince themselves that their behavior is normal, when in fact it is not. Whenever someone says that everyone lies, this is biggest indicator that they are a liar, since presumably they include themselves in "everyone." The speaker said that everyone lies in the first few minutes of her presentation.
You nailed it completely. Appreciate your content❤️.
This would be more helpful if we could see the example she's pointing at when she's talking about it.
If she was so loyal it would not have been so easy for her to tell on her colleague.
Ss...but she herself was evading information...she found 26 hot spots but only highlighted few that too incompletely.
I know. She refers to all these things we can't see while we are watching the video. I cry fowl...even though those people that are sitting there paid to be there.
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Why? She's lying.
Had to stop watching. I thought this was interesting but it doesn't show us the slides she's referencing which is very annoying.
Agreed, lost it's value without seeing the whole presentation. That was a disappointing oversight.
Watch lie to me
B.T. Dubs I know
listen instead of watching
Same
Truth is ..we all lie Some more than others Yet lies are saving circumstances . Truth sets one free but chains the others .. Balancing is the very key here
A really great talk, though it helps that I have a very deep interest in this subject, particularly since seeing the LIE TO ME series and reading the work of PAUL EKMAN. And I have great respect for Susan owing to her skills, competence and proven experience and track record. And when she talked of those who can go on for 25 minutes (in reality it can be considerably longer than that) but never answer the question asked, I immediately thought of the majority of politicians, particularly when they are invited to take part in televised debates in the run-up to elections. I would like to say that I have 2 negative remarks: 1) There were a couple of times when Susan pointed to examples of what she was saying and which were obviously displayed off-camera, and it was regrettable that the camera didn't move to enable us to see what was on the screen; 2) I do wish Susan could speak without saying "Right!", "Alright!", "You know?" or "OK!" in every sentence.
I don't think aggression can be used as a sure-fire way to detect lying. It's infuriating and scary to be accused of something you didn't do especially if it's something serious and you might get put away for someone else's crime. Not to mention people who have grown up in situations where they were frequently blamed for things they didn't do, they would naturally be way more aggressive cus they're sick of being the guilty one. I used to go to a babysitters after school and there were a few of us. One of the girls was several years younger than the rest and if she cried for any reason or seemed upset, us older kids would often get questioned why she was upset. And the babysitter's tone would usually already indicate she wanted to know WHAT we did vs. if we did anything in the first place. We weren't bullies and didn't pick on her, so it got pretty grating and upsetting. I remember one time we were all just watching TV and the younger girl got up and left the room. A few minutes later we heard the babysitter calling us asking why she was crying and we were just baffled. It wasn't even like we'd been playing with toys and unintentionally left her out or took a toy she wanted without realizing. Still have no idea why she had been crying. Similar situations from my former home life along with this example from growing up have caused me to often become very defensive and explanatory when being falsely accused since I've often had to defend myself in the past to people who had already pretty much assumed I was guilty of something. You get sick of being accused or confronted for things you haven't done so often, so any following accusation from anyone is already meeting with an already short fuse and little patience for yet another false claim.
Wich exactly what the intire world seen the democrats in office and civilian population do to a real American Trump when its actually the democrats who are colluding with Russia and selling out America to china and trying to get people to hate each other and helped china create the virus and proven to be child predators all over the USA and thrives on sex trade and getting Americans killed from poison from China and help from Mexico..
If you watched the video none of the behaviours by themselves are a way to identify a lie. It only happens when many of them happen just after being asked a question. Like for example, if you are moving your leg all the time instead of just when you are being asked it could mean you are just nervous, you are cold or that you just want to pee.
@@wassup4532 but that's when you must open the breed case and show syringe with scalpel and pics with some dry blood still on.. just for deception
After reading that, I'm pretty sure you are guilty of something.
The younger girl was missing her parents that's why she was crying what seemed for nothing.
"Don't take this home and use it on your significant other" Me: okay 🤞 😂
Lol
Oh I know I know ..... 'what is a verbal cue' .... I'll take Latin American singers for $400 thanks Alex 😂
Don't push the RED button
Keeping it real. Ty
But use it on your kids all the time🙇🏼♀️
Wiggle of the foot and the picking up of the hand and waving it shows truthfulness in those moments
Great video… I actually feel sad though to have a triple cluster that a friend lied to me.. I thought he did but now I’m confident. It’s useful to know but sometimes maybe it feels better not knowing.
This lecture is also known as... How to fool yourself into thinking you can spot lies in order to reinforce your existing biases during interrogation
C'mon, if anyone knows how to lie it's the CIA.
@@pokerone6489 this lecture is proof they even lie to themselves.
Easier than evidence or proof. And the search for easy rather than right is far too common in security and law enforcement.
@@MrMcCawber this kind of thinking is a slippery slope. It's okay to beat a confession out of someone if they won't stop lying.
@@theParticleGod I agree
The biggest lie you'll ever hear--- "You don't need a lawyer..."
truuuuu
If you don't have a lawyer you might ask for your Constitutional Rights and they will persecute you to the fullest extent to make an example of you. But if you are famous, they will pretend that you have rights to keep people from knowing the truth. I've been there. My lawyer kept me from getting 3 years in jail for a felony charge because of a tiny closet of pot plants. He basically told me to keep my mouth shut if I wanted to stay out of jail for 3 years. I paid him $8,000 and was happy to be free.
Lol IKR
I'm 55 and this is true
@@TheMacdod LOL or I'm 18 and that's no lie..
Jamy was Smiling incessently immediately after making a point of cognizance regarding her knowlege of Right and Wrong and due course and Punishment in accordance with the line of questioning on the Concern. Rather than an exhibiting of caution, fear, disdain, etc. She Smiled proving her trustworthiness... To Herself.
I've spent 35 years of my professional life on the phone. If you listen, you can easily detect everything she's talking about. Great video
"You can easily detect everything she's talking about". I'm sure you can. However it's just as easily true that that led you to the wrong conclusion. This is junk.
@@corybarnes2341 junk to low IQ fools like you
@@haroldpbalsax2600 Man do you ever have a short fuse. You need to settle down Harold.
By the way I stand by my earlier comment. You may think you have it all figured out. That usually means you don't know anything. I'm pretty confident by the juvenile reply you gave that you haven't thought this very far through. If you had, you would have had some kind of defence for your earlier statement. Dunning Kruger effect describes you perfectly.
@@corybarnes2341 mentally ill fools, like you, stick with their hysterical comments as well as mentioning Dunning Kruger.... as if you're an authority on the subject. Thanks for the laughs.
I reject the premise there is a former cia employee.
"When your done with these 45 minutes with me, you will be dangerous" I see the CIA has new ways of recruiting x.D
Awesome talk. As a professional liar I will use this to improve on my skills.
Hugh Jazz liar
No.
Hugh Jazz Very funny!
Hugh Jazz LOL!!!!
Hugh Jazz , if you try to improve & succeed, you will be seen as deceptive by experts because they will next see your slickness, not your honesty (you may pass the test but next, your consciousness should bother you but if it doesn't, you can label yourself as someone who doesn't mind deceiving others & yourself -- not good) -- not attacking you personally but you brought up a good point of people who lie & I had to comment.
"No man us intellegent enough to be a succesful liar." - Abraham Lincoln
I spot liars when they start to elaborate. Truth is yes or no. When they give context to their answers it's a flag especially when they reiterate on their personal virtue.
Stuff about lying is always stressful, because my parents constantly believed I was lying when I wasn't, and it made telling the truth a performance/production, and so anytime a situation where people are looking for the liar comes up, it's very stressful and panic inducing, regardless of whether I was the liar. And I always want to know where that kind of experience/response fits into these scenarios.
I can relate to this. I'm always afraid I'm going to appear guilty, which just makes it worse and then I probably act guilty. Gotta love anxiety.
Same here. I spent most of my life feeling guilty, for no particular reason, except that I might have THOUGHT about doing something similar.
I had a childhood similar to that. Even to this day I still repeat myself over and over in different ways, provide all the facts I’m able, be as logical and reasonable as possible just to prove the point that I’m telling the truth. And that thought pattern my parents had with me thinking that I always lie, taught me to think that most important people in my life are lying to me about things I’m serious about. Leaves me begging for the truth even when someone tells me they are being truthful. Damn, I wish parents knew how much the f*** their child up with stuff like this lol
Yeah you over explain with a clear and fully detailed account of what happened and it makes you sound like you're trying too hard to be believed by garnishing the answer so heavily. Its shit! Im literally so black and white and direct and straight forward, Ill give you my full account to squash any chance of there being doubt, but thats not how normal people communicate, because most people didn't have to microexplain their every thought and movements and be told their lying when they were telling the truth. You have no where to go then, so it teaches you to do your best to explain in totality.
I’m so glad that someone else knows what this feels like. Not like it’s a good thing for either of us, but knowing I’m not alone brings me some comfort. Even while I’m telling a story to someone I am consistently pausing and spacing out so I can reflect on what happened and put it in the exact words that describe exactly what happened so I know I am being honest, I’m so careful when I’m talking because I am always afraid of lying even unintentionally by leaving out important information. I’m always afraid of lying, and when I’m being honest and I know I’m being honest I wonder if it’s because I am lying to myself.
Remember this, the fish that doesn't open it's mouth, doesn't get caught.
That's the BEST DAMN ANSWER...I ever read...
TEXANLEON - wise words my friend ✌🏻😎
Nets.
Heard of nets and trawling?
Also remember he/she who picks their noses must use tissue if not its nastyyyyy
Good to hear this from an actual practitioner
Aggression TOWARD the interviewer is a bad scene, but being angry or outraged in your denial is often a sign of innocence, especially in criminal cases.
Well, you gotta give credit where credit is due, the CIA definitely knows how to lie.
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They get advanced degrees in lying.
Underrated comment 😂
exactly
Don't forget the FBI
When you are asked "how are you doing ", 9 times out of 10 it is a simple greeting and they don't want you to give them your medical issues. So the question is a lie.
You mean they didn't want my life story ?😂
@@thomasgallegos2832 I have made the mistake of that, or partly and it became clear that they had lost intrest so now I just say fine unless I'm speaking to my doctor.
Well people don't answer honestly cus it's just a social thing to just say "I'm good" otherwise people think you're weird. Fuck society right.
@@MrTripleXXX I actually ask to get the real answers of how someone is and I’m prepared for the possibility of a 45 min answer bc I asked “ how are you” . Some people really need someone to talk to
@@RealReeseElDon good for u
Analyze vs speculate, manage your bias, recognize evasiveness, beware of aggression, differentiate between convince and convey, know what non-verbal cues means. Mahalo plenty!!!
I was attacked numerous times and when I told the police, they asked the accused and he said that it was a tree that hit me. And got away with it. Maybe next time he draws blood from me. Wish me luck. I know when someone lies about things that they did to me. Thanks for sharing your insights.
In her world, everyone is guilty till innocent. I was a security Investigative field for over 33 years. Sure there are basic things to look for but often I've been wrong quite as few times. The facts are what count. If you ask someone a question that you have the facts to, you will pick up a lie immediatley in their answers.
And Peter how do you feel knowing that our government has been taken over by corrupt democrats?
@@truthseekersmedia Democrats? u still stuck on the false L/R paradigm? R&L are two different sides of the Same Scheckel. ADL has spent their money on disinfo well. Ur answer is proof.
@@truthseekersmedia and how do you feel about the fact the Republicans suck so bad; it's paving the way for a one party system. If the idiot Republicans actually had something to believe in, you all would not be loosing. Thank you for your thoughtful consideration. I'm not lying.
@Peter Rossiter 👍👍👍👍👍👍 Facts are facts, and they stubbornly remain facts no matter what people secretly want to happen, the same can't be said of trying to intuit whether someone is bullshitting.
Lies all lies! Don't you just love lying?
Politicians are the experts when it comes to flat out lying.
experts in lying, but noobs in hiding it lolz
Governor Pritzker actually told Illinois that I would never lie to you while completely and utterly lying, he has a venture capitalist firm that makes money from the tests which have just now been recalled by the CDC. Dude has constantly been caught lying. When someone says I will not lie to you and proceeds to talk chances are they are lying.
@@paolomutini4699 he can't help it,itz in his blood.
And guess by whom there are teached of lol
I think they are the worst liars. I don't know how so many people can possibly be dumb enough to believe anything they say
I wish the video had shown what the audience saw
Very helpful, thank you!
The more honest/truthful you are, the more your gut lets you know, when some bs in the game
Im not really into the _"spiritual philosophy"_ if you will, and I fully acknowledge ive made poor judgements but my gut has practically a perfect record...And I read some "hippie shit" that said trust your gut because its one of your chakras picking up on negative energy which is why it materializes as a "gut feeling" makes sense to me 🤷🏻♂️
@@heyitsthatoneguy91 Sure does.
So true x
@Driss Ogunbowale initiated into what?
@Kenny Strawser couldn't find references to that.
There is no such thing as a “former“ CIA officer .
Exactly!!!!!
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Custodian from CIA
@@Tienphamvan1968 what the fawk does this mean? R u a robot
@@Tienphamvan1968 ok
In Beauty School, in Australia 36 years ago, we were taught all this. She's a great lady ❤️
Honesty is very important to me. My husband lies so much and it’s causing a huge problem in our marriage. It’s often like he is just answering questions with the answer he assumes the person who is asking the question would prefer to hear. It’s infuriating. Then if you call him on the lie, and ask why he would lie about whatever it was, he’ll usually say it was because he assumed he would not like the response he would get to the truth: “well if I had said xyz to you, you probably would’ve said no way are we doing that,” etc. So it’s lies, manipulation, lies by omission, whatever. I can always TELL when he’s lying. I ask a question and then yup…there it is. Slight pause. A skip of a beat. Casual look away, busying with something else… Uggh. It’s like living with a first grader.
I used to lie. Now I am just blunt and say what I feel
Love this :)
Ironically people would prefer you to lie than deal with reality.
Liar
I just smile and walk away; people think what they want to think and the truth does not matter.
that's what a liar would say
Showing the speaker's slides/bullet points would have been MOST helpful.
Right!… does anyone have a clue what her screen points are or what they could be?
@Digiday. Are you reading the comments?
@@BlessedGrant Yeah it's useless babel when you can't see wtf she's talking about.
Agree! Why can't we see the slides? Copyright?
She was lying, she didn’t have any 🤪
The danger is the question asked. It is often the asked question that formulates the lie. It is called leading the witness in legal circles. In research, it's called interviewer bias.
FASCINATING! I HAVE A SOCIAL WORK BACKGROUND AND ALWAYS WHAT TO LEARN MORE. SHARING. ❤
If you always tell the truth you never have to remember what you said.
Yes,....that's a huge help in life. @Eliena
In Jesus Christ name!!! AMEN!!!
So that's why Trump keeps forgetting sh!t.
works for me
@@user-lq4gx3uy1k Peace be with you brother may Jesus Christ open your eyes to the truth seek it and you will find it!!! AMEN!!!
Just assume everyone’s lying and you’ll be fine
They r believe nothing thats 3rd hand info speculation to bs at best.
That's a lie :)
lol..Lier!
Thats what I came to say, lol
Believe nothing you hear Only believe half what you see
it's fascinating how an individual understands all the benefits of a lie, yet the body and mind is against it.
this doesnt always work some people dont know they are lying thus show no signs
@@asrr62 absolutely, but unconsciously they do and sometimes they crack when confronted
You've never met a good liar, lucky you .. or you have, and you believed them! ;-)
Thank you for the video.Convincing statement is not a Denial of answering question.Didn't is not the same as wouldn't
It is really frustrating not being able to see what written information she is pointing to and not be able to hear answers to her questions from the audience. Not her fault, her presentation was awesome, and she is obviously a professional in her field.
It's maddening
She is obviously an experienced cop. I almost wanted to question bad guys after watching this.
I think as someone who is more self-conscious than they wanted to be, I've always suffered from these kind of behavior analogy. You can spot it when they are underlying an accusation in their question and I get increasingly nervous because I understood why I'd look suspicious from their point of view and I'm now afraid any tiny nervous behavior cue in my answer would throw away my integrity.
you have a potential to be great liar if you practice :)
@@Ananaspomidorka 😼✌
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Once I was accused of a heinous thing and I surely didn't do-would never do- what I was accused of. I was so hurt that anybody would believe the known liar up the street over me was the most insulting part of the ordeal. I never spoke to any of them again or came back to visit the horses I loved with all my heart. Years later, somebody from those days came to me with a message from Carol, the ranch owner who had since passed away. The message was how sorry she was to have blamed me for "running the horse too hard" based on the words of the lying snotbag up the street. That particular horse DID bolt on me once and I managed to hang on at an extended trot, but that is not intentionally running the horse crazily. After a trip to the vet it was determined that the old horse developed seasonal allergies that caused his nose to bleed, occasionally. It warmed my heart to know the bleeding WAS NOT my fault, and that she realized the boy up the road was a habitual liar. The memories and joy I lost because of that boy can never be measured. Those were the best times of my life by far. Whenever I need to calm myself to this day I remember the perfect zen of cantering in the show ring on a perfect boss appaloosa mare or remember the way my shadow looked when astride the American Saddlebred Reserve Champion. That one lie cost me all I cared about. 😪
I blamed myself too. I knew I didn't work that horse hard but I worked him a little bit. I was the only one allowed to ride him besides the owners. I always tried my best to do exactly what was asked and try to mimic the owner as best as a new teenage rider could. I knew the dangers of a "windbroken" horse because there was a half- starved windbroken mare on the ranch who was recently adopted. After months I had surpassed the other kids on the ranch in ability and always had them beat in coordination. I felt so blessed and privileged with a side of dumb luck. Then that boy lied and it all went away... I had not thought of this in a long time. This video brought it all back. RIP Carol Owens, and "Contractor" the horse. If only you knew how much you and those horses meant to me. You would never have questioned me. If only you had watched this video before Frankie opened his stupid mouth... I could have been there when you needed me. Maybe youd be alive today, Carol. 😞
Tbh, your REACTION to that one lie is what cost you.
what I also get from this is non verbal communication is a very, highly underestimated method
The FBI and the CIA have mastered this by talking to each other too much
its against the law for the cia and fbi to communicate... it's called "the wall", look it up
@@MMC.Official he meant talking to each other not in the literal sense
@@MMC.Official they do it anyway.
It's like they are looking for a lie more than the actual truth🤔🤦♀️🙊🙈🙉
@@MMC.Official it's illegal for elections to be stolen too
She keeps pointing to things we never get to see. The director / editor of this needs a spanking.
Yea, i feel like this whole thing is a waste of my time
www.slideshare.net/digiday/deception-training-by-a-former-cia-agent here is a link to the slides she was talking about
@@lilgirlbigworld thank you for that. I can follow the slides on my tablet while watching it on my smart tv. I appreciate your post!
i was going to write the same thing.. . without the spanking part
@@lilgirlbigworld Thank you.
The timing of her body language! On each question!
This video offers a lot of insightful content.
My Mom also assumed I was lying every time I opened my mouth. It did not inspire me to trust her.
Your name is my name too 😃 ....no lie.
Oh that's so sad 😥 ❤
@Redrustyhill damn you hear him talk about his mother and you already psychoanalyzed why she acts the way she does? You may be a world renowned psychologist!
@Redrustyhill You are guilty of that yourself because youre applying your experiences onto his mom right now ,just as you explained in your comment, when his mom could be doing it for a number of reasons. I think projection is certainly a possibility but how do you know that, for example, the original poster proved himself, to his mom, to be an untrustworthy person whether that be when he was younger or currently? thats just one of many possibilities besides projection You could definitely say im being nit picky and unnecessarily confrontational right now but as a person who studies psychology its the golden rule to not assume but to listen and make judgements based on what you hear
@Redrustyhill thats inaccurate.
I've been lied to so much for so long until I want to know the truth. Also, call them out on the lie with grace and elegance and full-grown wisdom.
Or, after the second lie your gone.
I detest lier's.
i get lied to daily and grew up around peopel who constantly lie so as of now i call eveyr bit of bullshit i hear..often i get called an asshole but at this time idc im tire dof people trying to make me believe stuff i know isnt true and i dont care what others think i dont have time to argue go lie to soemone else..i know the path or truth and justice and to me GOd is the way and i find comfort in it..and if you lie all teh time can you look at yourself in the mirror at night? true can be harsh and im not perfect by any means ..but as i get older i just get tire dof the bullshit..
@@kurtbuxton9776 and bad grammar
Some people are dislexic, not everyone is as perfect as you gracious one.
Former correctional officer and police officer here and here’s a big tip - don’t talk to the police, or anyone else for that matter. You have a right to not talk, and you should use that right. Lawyer up instead or wait for the public defender to represent you! Let someone else talk for you on your behalf. What you say can and will be used against you. If I’d been Jamy, I’d have refused to talk. And while that may appear like she has something to hide, and would draw my suspicion to her even more, I can’t prove anything and it’s her right to not talk so I can’t use it against her. But once she started talking by answering the questions she began self incriminating herself. Never ever do that, whether you know in your mind you are innocent or guilty. Always let your representative do your talking. With that said, anything you’ve told others is the next step for law enforcement. Then we’d be asking your family and friends the questions we wanted you to answer and we’d be trying to use their answers against you. They too can refuse to talk but most of them will talk because they know they’re not in trouble themselves. Plus any physical evidence is going to be used against you also. So everyone and everything is against you. But you are your own worst enemy when you talk. That’s like half (or more) of the battle to prosecute you with, just handed to law enforcement right away when you talk. Make law enforcement work hard to prove your guilt by not talking to them. Now, you DO want to come clean to your attorney if you know you’re guilty and they will do their best to minimize your punishment by seeking a plea deal with the prosecutor if they can’t find another way to defend you. Of course a prosecutor doesn’t have to offer a plea deal, but they usually will when they think it’s gonna be tough to prove your guilt. They may have a lot of evidence to use against you, but if they don’t have your words from your lips to use against you then, their job is MUCH harder to prove and they’re more likely to offer a decent plea deal. See, the difference between a decent plea deal and no plea deal or getting a prison sentence and getting acquitted often comes down to whether you talked to law enforcement or others in the first place. So be smart and shut your mouth! And you should take comfort in that right because nothing is more unbearable than having to answer questions when you’re all shook up and nervous. I’ll never understand idiots like Scott Peterson and Alec Baldwin and many others that go onto TV shows to answer questions about alleged crimes. They are all idiots for doing that and stand nothing positive to gain for themselves by doing so.
What you typed makes no sense. Not logical at all. Your small fish of course you would say some stupid shit like that
Also your credentials dont mean shit. Any bozo can say they are police for x years. You dont even have a profile pic.
Idk about anyone else but sometimes I get aggressive when someone is saying that I am lying when I most definitely am not lying. It sets me off like none other when called a liar while telling the truth. However, there are other times when I am just like, "believe what you want, i don't care." It really just depends on my mood and all the various factors that come with being a human. So, I don't necessarily agree with the "aggressive" aspect that was presented in this video. All in all this is still valuable information. Thank you! 🙏🏻
I decided to study the art of lying, after studying many hours of political speeches I am now an expert.
They're ALL lying, where is the hard part, lol
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We all know this and yet we do nothing about it, shame on us.
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Phill , that is a easy one. If the lips are in motion = The Bastards are LYING !!!
I remember Susan Smith on TV, begging for her kids return. I knew instantly she was a liar. Her hair and makeup were perfect and her ability to speak, walk, interact were perfect. No way a truly concerned mom who was attended and kids stolen would have been able to do any of that.
Angie. I love your response. I totally agree. If my kid's (especially my little one's) were missing I'd be a basket case and could never do any kind of Interview's at all!
Re: Susan Smith. I agree. It was also noticeable that when she “cried”, no tears fell. Dry crying doesn’t get it!
And she knew when it was thought a black man did it the media would empathize with her, she was slick... the description she made matched a local man who lost his job and his life was ruined for awhile
She was a great example of crying, but no tears, as well.
I remember it and thought the same thing!! It actually stopped me in my tracks when I saw her on TV. The way she talked, "cried" and blamed a black man. I knew immediately she was guilty!
The best to recognize, when a bunch of information is overcomplicated, and for hours you can’t figure it out, what it’s about. That covers some lies. Unfortunate, they protect themselves, that it’s not the viewer’s business, still allowed to watch it.
A woman doesn't need CIA training to spot a lie, just have a few kids, that'll teach ya everything you need to know.
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Kids!? Ha! Just have yourself a boyfriend.😁
@@christopherford1539 Or a girlfriend for guys... 🤣
Ain't dat da truth 😇
A man doesn’t need CIA training to spot a lie, just have a couple of kids, that’ll teach ya mostly everything you need to know.
CEOs that lie for 25 minutes on one question?? Amateurs. Politicians lie their entire careers
Thank you I appreciate this
Some people just don’t want to hear the truth and they ask you the same question over and over again and then they start accusing you, well your darn right I’m going to get mad and snap back especially when you listen to the same thing every day , my point is they’re so insecure of themselves they have to blame you period!!!
I was excited for this video but as I'm watching I've noticed that all the things she says people do who are lying are things I do when I'm telling the truth. My experience is that people tend to not believe when I just say "no" and that they need convincing, so that's what I do even though I'm totally innocent. This is because I have been blamed and fired for things I had nothing do with and afterwards realized that everyone else they asked tried to convince the boss, whereas I didn't. Later in life I have realized that people don't usually give me the benefit of the doubt and I end up in the defensive, explaining things, etc.
... It sounds to me like you were "gangstocked" at work... I've had something similar to that happen to me years ago. I was harassed until I walked off the job one day... In hind sight, I wish I would have sued them ..., (I'm glad I left, tho ). Point is, you may want to check into a lawsuit if the statute of limitations hasn't yet expired. If they've created a hostile work environment, that alone is grounds for a law suit. I wish you the very best.
same here. i feel people just watch too many movies and basically everyone believes they can play amateur psychologist. this lie spotting thing is bullshit.
The lessons of success resonates within Amongus game bro . NGL
Blake be Lying yall.
@@akiamini4006 Yep, in Town of Salem before that, Werewolf, Mafia, however you like to do it. Any explanation is more plausible than no explanation, an appeal to pathos is more convincing than nothing, etc.
I had to stop watching 1/2 way through. The length of time it takes her to get to a point is excruciating. Audience participation cannot be heard. Her visuals and list of behaviors are not seen, so this was not really informative. Just irritating.
agreed, never gets there...so what are the top 3 signs? exactly.
For me it was after two minutes.
if shes narrating off her visual presentation. How is she not giving up the goods?
flip D Cuz we don’t get the whole enchilada! She has visuals we can’t see.... audience questions we can’t hear ... Etc.. my 2€
Poor Waldo I found it to be informative. It sounds like what you're saying is that the camera should've been trained on the audience from time to time, and I agree with that. It did not ruin the overall video for me.
The exclusionary qualifier…that just changed everything for me.
Thanks for the information
I think the paradox is: the bigger the liar [and more experienced in lying]- the better they are at lying-the harder it is to catch them in a lie. While the opposite goes for the relatively honest person that is not used to lying [uncomfortable, gives off many signs and makes mistakes in their story]- easy to catch them in a lie.
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You can still look for those signs of deception. Some may be sociopaths or pathological liars where they won’t have those “tells” but those are the exceptions.
so just don't lie lol
Is that…a paradox? It doesn’t seem self-contradictory that an experienced liar is harder to catch in a lie or vice versa.
@@jonny8790 The paradox is from the eyes of those communicating with the liar- The more convincing a person is [the more it seems a person is telling the Truth], the more he could possibly be a bigger liar.