Why most parenting advice is wrong
Tips on raising kids come with so many mixed messages. Professor of psychology Yuko Munakata aims to ease this anxiety using scientific research to clarify that many factors shape a child’s development. This talk was filmed at TEDxCU.
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Oh how very true these comments are about siblings. I remember when my dad left us, it really upset my brother but I couldn't have cared less.
Love it! So helpful for all parents. Children are resilient and unpredictable. They tend to teach themselves the things they need to know
Obviously, the me I was at 20, the mentality, experience, perception of the world while becoming a first time mom isn’t the same me at 25, not just because I had a little more “motherhood” experience, but also more experience at standing up to myself, working with others outside school or parent circle, I actually had more responsibilities and less time for my second baby (working mom) then compared to the first (stay at home), even my leniency and what I learned about emotional and social developmental in kids, obviously I changed some ways of talking or even interacting with my second kid versus a now older child … so many reason why obviously they won’t be similar or the same just because we’re the same houseful ..
I don’t believe in regrets. But my parents were right.
I think she's right about that
I like this one
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I think this raises an intresting point. We all think we know the best when it comes to things we did before when in reality we only know from a clouded point of view considering that our way might have only worked because of some other reason, not the one we tell others it did and we never say that because we love to bathe in our own ignorance.
This is very interesting and I believe it to be true. Now that I’m a parent of 4, they are all different. That does not mean they don’t have the same boundaries, however, three May Listen and follow suit, but that one may not. We have to remember, our children aren’t ours, they belong to God and there are so many factors how they come out. But we should do everything we can to make them thinkers, love them unconditionally, guide and lead them like God leads us. It may be a teacher or coach to spark them on the right track and not the parent. The parents DO have a lot to do with how they grow up depending on their environment, love, and if God is the head of their home.
Plenty of kids grow up to be amazing adults and they were NOT raised with God or religion in their home. In fact, the opposite is also true…kids raised in a religious home and then turn out to be atrocious adults.
@@rainydayjane8257 That’s the thing, I never said RELIGION. I said WITH GOD. And I’m sure if they don’t know, Serve God, etc, they still may come out to be awesome human beings, HOWEVER, WE CANNOT DO ANYTHING WITHOUT GOD. Regardless of what anyone thinks or says. You cannot even breathe without God and that right there let’s you know we ALL NEED HIM. Have a blessed day! 💋
@@GEMHOLISTICALLY"God" is a religious concept. There is no God without religion.
@@GEMHOLISTICALLYGod sure enables a lot of atrocities to happen in that case
Clearly you are an intelligent and unbiased person without schizophrenia. I have no doubt that your self-awareness ensured that you treat all your children exactly the same way. 🙄
i pray young (new) parents learn this lesson the easy way
Sounds like an excuse for abusive/negligent parents: you can't guarantee "success" (how do you even define it) but you CAN cause trauma and problems... I am not talking about small, occasional stuff but dysfunctional patterns here.
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This is true. It would be great if this recording can be translated to different languages.
So true, so well said as well. Sending love, light, enlightenment, positive affirmations, and hugs that heal ( sending this to anyone reading this ❤)
Why are people commenting personal opinions or experiences as a retort to a meta analysis
Because it's idiotic. Just because they can't predict "how someone will turn out" (who knows what aspects they were actually tracking to determine that?) doesn't mean that parenting decisions don't matter or that there isn't a right or wrong way to do things. It's an idea that all-too-conveniently absolves parents of what little accountable they're culturally held to in the first place.
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kiwi.
I think she's wrong about that.
She failed to deliver the message .
Stop saying parenting is hard just because you don't want kids because we're selfish.
Great reasons to take the experts, take the power of schools away from educators. It is best for the child to be himself with some influence of his parents. The last thing we want is for government, and educators to be experts at shaping children. No matter to what degree others can influence it is not their business to influence even in the smallest way. The little bit of influence must come totally from home with zero from experts and others.
Um ok qanon parent
@@Chris-de2qc👈ok groomer.
Do you belong to a cult? 😳😳
you call 6 minutes a short?? come on Ted, make actual shorts!
Anything is better than an entire American generation raised by parents who prayed at the alter of Dr. Phil and Oprah.
Kinda like how dudes can be chicks?
Spare the rod, spoil the child.
Jesus never took the rod.
@@RadicalAntifa, though he did use a whip to clear out the temple that one time. ;) Haha, in all seriousness though, I agree.
@ozicryptoG Hope you know that the saying you are quoting is from the 1600s era satirical poem, Hudibras, by Samuel Butler. I love taking my reductive parenting strategies from 17th century poets, personally.
This is the one thing that all the research has been damningly consistent on and consistently against. Turns out subjecting children to worse treatment than criminals makes them more likely to be criminals, and that using force and pain compliance makes them violent. Shocker!