Things to Text Your Crush to Keep Them Interested
Texting your crush can be daunting. When you worry about what to say to your crush, it can fuel anxiety and negatively affect your mood. As a mental health channel, we want to help you overcome this problem so that you can feel more at ease. Watch this video to learn how to get your crush to like you over text and keep them interested.
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References
Berkeley. (2022). 36 Questions for Increasing Closeness (Greater Good in Action). Berkeley. ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/36_questions_for_increasing_closeness
Changing Minds. (2022). Ben Franklin Effect. changingminds.org/explanations/theories/ben_franklin_effect.htm#:%7E:text=Jecker%20and%20Landy%20(1969)%20involved,funds%20and%20was%20running%20short
Robinson, J. (2022). Similarity/Attraction Theory | Encyclopedia.com. Encyclopedia. www.encyclopedia.com/social-sciences/applied-and-social-sciences-magazines/similarityattraction-theory
My crush was one sided. I used to ask him questions but he only replied in one word. He also called me nosy and annoying. So for my self health and respect, he was not the one. :D Ps. I love this channel.
Lol mine didn't even respond
@@erenyeager5741 how could anyone not respond to Eren Jaeger?
@@hazh9936 lmao
You know your worth. Good for you!
Thanks for sharing! And the support! It's good to acknowledge when someone is not the one for you. Great time to find someone amazing!
Hey I always wanted to do this so: 1. Reciprocal Self-Disclosure 0:35 Sharing your intimate thoughts and feelings (mutually) 2. The Ben Franklin Effect 1:22 After helping someone you like them more (ask them small favors ex. advice/opinion) 3. Similar Attraction Theory 2:16 We are more attracted to people that are similar to us (bring attention to things in common) Please be yourself though, you are amazing disclaimer: don't use those to manipulate people
Thanks
How did you do it so fast-
Thank you
@@annaliseray2028 cybersecurity student just enrolling into my phd :) = fast typing & fast breakdown of the video
Thank you
Also, if your crush doesn't have a phone number or doesn't feel comfortable giving it out, then don't push them to do it by asking them all the time. Instead, show interest in wanting to talk to them or see them virtually or in person...without sounding creepy.
Me who just ended conversation with my crush jst few minutes ago🌚
it's so challenging at times T.T
oh wait, im dumb i read it wrong
Just use messenger
i don’t have a crush but good info once i do
literally bro
I was like this but then. He happened. He's straight while I'm devastate. It has ruined my life. I try to get his attention all the time but he seems to be sending dry texts and doesn't talk to me face to face much.
I have atleast 10 per day.😂
You dont want to have one
i was literally thinking the same
I swear this is EXACTLY what I wanted. I didn't know what to text. All I can say is 'Thank You'.
Bro is it really that helpful
@@saimanikanta1876 maybe it depends on people
As a person that’s been to more dates than I want to admit, I think there is one very simple thing that even I often tend to forget when texting. You are having a conversation with another human. I know it sounds stupid but often I get caught up forcing a conversation and drying up the conversation myself when I should realise that you are only half of the conversation. If they answer you always with a one liner or send you a reply once a week you shouldn’t waste your time forcing yourself in to it. Just know if you are interested to a person and they are equally interested aswell you usually can struck up a conversation about anything. Once I even talked half an hour about paint drying and it was amazing!
So true.
Totally agree! Forced conversations are not the right thing how to find someone. If the other person replies with one word or after several days, there is just no interest in you. Take your things and go to find someone better. Trust me, it's not worth it. If that other person is the right one, your chatting will be much easier, nice and natural. I can say it by me own experience. My best relationships started exactly like that and those beginnings were so interesting, funny and just lovely. Exactly like with my current girlfriend, we are together for several years now, we have beautiful little daughter and our talks are still funny and interesting after all those years.
This. So much this. I may have not been to many dates, but i deduced something similar. Though, sometimes, it can be hard to remember this, under the effects of lust and all
1. Ask deep questions 2. Asking them for small help 3. Sharing same things (interests, thoughts, etc)
exactly, someone who finally understand that opposites don't usually attract
I confessed my feelings to my crush 5 months ago... Look at me. 5 months later, in a romantic relationship with my crush:> im so glad I did that
I don't think I've seen a comment until now that actually validated this advice, congrats though fr
Thank you, guys
How do you do it?
Human beings are complex and simple at the same time. In order to take advantage of the latter, you just have to be honest and direct about what you want to say. In terms of texting, getting someone’s attention is still complicated, especially when they’re entertaining more than one person through the tiny screen in the palm of their hand.
my advice is just to be yourself and NEVER try to act like someone you're not. because if they do end up liking you, it's not really you they love it's the fake persona you made for them. if you be yourself, you'll attract the right person and they'll love you wholeheartedly for the person you are inside
Timestamps 1). Reciprocal self-disclosure 0:35 2). The Ben Franklin effect 1:22 3). Similar attraction theory 2:16 Hope this helps you out.
I did the third one actually to my crush. I sent her a song mashup of our two faves and it was actually really good. It’s been an inside thing ever since. Now we’re dating and we still reference that lol
its a perfect timing because i am texting someone special😳
Me too! Goodluck:-)
the algorithm knowsssssssss ig
Oky
So how is your progress with "someone special"?
@@CocoNy I could say your tips work😁
It's not a crush, but i would like to have a decent conversation and to become close to her, even though it's just a friendship relationship (of which it's kinda best for me since i actually don't like such a "love" related relationship) this might help me as i'm not a good ice-breaker, thanks as always 😁😁😁
After having a crush on a girl for about a year I realized that we were too different and it wouldve never worked pretty well. But I guess this was an important experience in my life
And here me had crush for 10 or maybe more years
@@Monika-gb1if damn, how did it end?
@@potatobr1207 we r not compatible We think very different!
@@Monika-gb1if How does it feel after so long if you don't mind answering...Cuz I'm in a kinda similar situation, not for so long, around 2 years. I no more think about them whole day but at the same time I don't want anyone else.
@@priyankaagrawal493 I have started loving myself now I do for more for myself for my carrer
This was right on time, and right on the money. Thanks a bunch
Thank you so much because I was about to chat my crush 😭
My crush rejected me, and i’m heartbroken. We met on a café, with my friend and her stepsister. It was really cringe. I have cried the whole week💔😢She said that she doesn’t have feelings for me anymore. She liked me before and i loved her, but we are now good friends
I hope you're doing good
Keep that friendship going, after a rejection you can become closer on a non romantic basis if you enjoy their company no matter what type of company that may be. I did this with mine and we are much closer despite me no longer romantically pursuing them because they arent ready for it/arent sure of their own feelings but despite this we are still great friends. SILVER LININGS PEOPLE! SILVER LININGS!
@@mallardofmodernia8092 ya, but if you're the girl make sure you disclose the fact to your next SO that theres still an orbiter who asked you out before, haha, atleast you haven't tried to propose
@@MrPaxio can you re-explain using different terminology?
LMAO COPE
I have all these naturally. I guess, I gained them through my life experiences, but never knew the psychological terms until now. Need to compliment your purring and mellifluous voice. Short and precise. Thanks!
Great advice and video! I myself don't have a crush nor their contact info, though the best way to casually get someone's email and phone number is by treating it casually, by asking in a group. You could ask for all of your friend's contact info so you could make a group chat, and there'd be no reason to refuse.
That's a great tactic, but do they know you are interested when you do it this way?
@@Psych2go I like to build friendships and lasting relationships before taking the next step, so this is the method for me.
the person i like was playing my game and asked if they could put their number in my phone so we could talk and now we do almost every day :)
@@simple.edits. that's nice
Yea I did that
In order to attract the love that you desire, you must take care of yourself first. When you love yourself, accept yourself and put yourself first, everything falls into place. The one thing that blocks you from manifesting a healthy relationship is so when you put everyone else before you. 💙KZheadr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
Always dropping gold. Thanks!
I really like this advice, but it only works if you are surrounded by multiple single people of the targeted gender who are also of an appropriate age, have similar values and political views. Which is what ruins that for many progressive women in the developing world countries who are surrounded by men who want a free servant with no self-esteem around. Very often, if you are struggling - do your statistics, know who you are and where you are. There is no use fishing in a river without fish, you need to find a good place first.
Y'all are uploading this while I'm talking to them. Excellent timing
Been needing this. Thank you so much!
I wish I knew about these tips before. Now that I do know, I can use them when there’s someone I like next time.
I'm really grateful to be part of this community too♡
this is what I tend to use to socialize with new people and be nice to them. the problem is when I am nice to everyone lmao
lmao i feel you. i'm nice to everyone too
thanks so much!! i needed this !!
Love this! Thank you as always! Love your content... Has really helped me out.
Love these tips ❤
No because what’s funny is that I literally needed this so much right now specifically
I don't have a go-to opening line, I just talk to her about what comes to mind in the spur of the moment.. Sometimes I don't know what to say and that's the most excruciating part. I've always struggled with keeping the conversation going, always depended on others to do this. I'm a huge introvert, but I also really like this girl and I absolutely do not want to come off as boring.. these tips could be major help! By coincidence I already asked her to recommend me a movie the other night 😄 and she did! So I guess I'll go from there! Thanks P2Go 😇
I really wish your guy's videos were longer. I love them.
The only reason I'm watching this video is for my friend, she recently developed feelings for this other guy in our class and they started texting. At first things were going so well until everything started going downhill, the texts became less interesting
Similar situation here, keep in mind that response times also play a huge role
tysm psych2go i adore your content you guys have encouraged me to get a doctorate in psych and i just wanted to thank you for all your support in my hard times
So proud of you!
Thank you for this video! 😀🌻
Glad I don't have a crush, this is so much work.
My friend send this video, and I didn't get why they send this because we don't really talk about things like that. I said thank you for sharing, and they asked, "are u not going to ask anything else". We talked back and forth a bit, and then they said they have a crush on me! I like them back too!!! Thank you, psyh2go!
thank you so much, ill try these out myself the next time i text my crush, wish me luck guys and i hope it all works for you all
I just tried to be cool and engaged, those things you mentioned came naturally. I even got her on a date, which on she seemed really happy. But after that I would initiate every conversation, and on the last one she distanced back and answered really shortly. After that I gave up. Not the first time, and probably not the last one, haha 💀It hurts, but I hope that at least she is fine.
Young people are so lucky to have these videos now
Great timing for me. Thanks.
Good luck!
Hey Psych2Go. I've been watching your channel for a while. My husband and I are going to be moving. I was wondering if you could do any tips on that? A while ago my family and I moved and my mental health really went down the drain, so if you haven't done a video like that before, could you do it? I understand if you can't or don't have time, but I thought that I would atleast ask. Thank you for all the videos that you put out, they really help :)
You guys are literally saving my life 😅 THANKS!!!
This is the best channel ever because you give helpful advice. I was struggling to talk to my crush now we are in a 5year relationship.
Psych2Go I am literally dealing with this right now, thanks for the video!
In many ways I had a swapped role of this. Someone I was talking to continually said they were enjoying our conversations and was interested in me - but I wish they would have watched this video because if that was the case I wasn't receiving any of that downrange at all. They never seemed interested - dry two word answers, never asking about me or telling me about themselves, aside from the first week of flirting. So I concluded we just had wildly different communication styles and expectations and decided it wasn't for me. An hour later this video pops up on my feed haha YT well played.
Perhaps we have different types of how we become or stay attracted to people. I've had people try the "Ben Franklin effect" on me. I found it a bit annoying (although I like helping others by noticing that they need help myself). Self disclosure and similar attraction is what I'd like to receive most
Thanks for the tips, i will try them out myself
This is some bad advice just from seeing the title (or the title is click baited). You shouldn’t have to “keep them interested.” If someone likes you then they’ll naturally be interested…. If they don’t like you, then move on.
These are GREAT Like THEE BEST🤙🏾🤙🏾
I miss my crush. I cry for her everyday, I keep remembering the sweet memories when I was in love with her. She passed away before I could even tell her that I loved her more than anyone that I will ever see.
couldn't have been timed better
Thank you so much !!
I WANTED THIS THANK YOU
NP!
As a Liam, this really spoke to me. Thank you for this video. It really helped me.
This dude and i figured out that we like each others. However, due to the fact that both of us are very much introverted, we rarely talk and it's probably impossible for us to have a deep conversation. Heck we don't even text. This really helped me out to break the ice between me and him, slowly but surely he's becoming more open about himself.
Can we talk about how well drawn the thumbnail is?
Ayyy i love this!
I see Claude from Fire Emblem in thumbnail, I click. I am a simple woman.
Oh my gosh, lol I’m glad I’m not the only one who saw that as well
These r nice tips but do not force it if they don't like you in the first place. Move on and find someone better❤
I find it very convenient how this video was posted when I have a crush
These last few videos have been literal god sends
That's great to hear. We will post more.
Good Timing! Was wondering wht to say xD
you should do a video on how gay people should approach their crushes, specially because of the fear of being rejected because their crush could be straight
Thank you this is so helpful thankkkkk youuu
Glad it was helpful! :) Will you try these tips?
Is that Claude from FE3H? Good taste, also thanks for the info again qwq
I thought it was too ahah
Very nice...☺
Yes I will use it
What I like to do when texting him is I like to do games like would u rather and we would find new things out about eachother and dive into deep conversations ☺️
Congratulations for 10M subs🥰
I have a crush on this one girl. We're pretty close friends, and I'm not sure how/if I should tell her as to not make the friendship awkward
thanks bestie
straight up
I needed this video 1 year ago
I know this isnt related to the video but can you please make a video explain the differences between having OCD and being a perfectionist. Cuz i get random anxiety when doing incompleted tasks or just look at them, or like if i lose a sticker maybe i get anxious and i get anxiety because of it not being completed. Anyway nice video keep it up!
I hear dumbasses online sometimes diagnose themselves with OCD to be edgy when what they describe points to just being perfectionists, which is really insensitive and can be invalidating to people with OCD, no?
I love the good old movie "turning green" such a classic with a green panda and everything
wait u guys *text* your crushes?!
Err yes paragraphs even.
@@mallardofmodernia8092 whoa the bravery...
I came to see what I should say to her, but clearly I've been doing all of these things in the list already.
Well can you please make an video of differing between crush and boy bestie? I'm always stuck with mixed feelings about him :(
Let's get her to 10MILLION
get on the red pill and stop sucking up to ppl who disrespect blue pill
Maybe take it easy on the questions at the beginning. That way, news tidbits will still be interesting, like discovering your BF/GFs favourite foods. Also, some question will make the other uncomfortable, so stay away from these areas till he/she gets close enough to you. Sharing personal things can be fun too. There's always something new to find out ^_^ I fully agree about the Similarity attracts part too. There's a saying that always stuck with me. "Birds of a feather flock together". Opposites attract but I had to find out the hard way that relationships don't endure if the other one is wired totally different. Love can bridge a lot but not everything.
59. Your videos has helped me alot. Thank you.🙏🏻
Early! I’m first lol These tips are great❤! I do have a crush but hopefully this can work lol 🎉 Time stamps: 0:35 Reciprocal Self Diclosure 1:22 Ben Franklin Effect 2:16 Similar attraction theory
If only this was posted BEFORE I was rejected 😭
You know what I want to be a pchoslocoly student because you inspire me
I love How the algorithm knows that i am texting someone special
Crush: 'So you've also watched that video of Psych2go'
😂😂
Lmao
a trick to see if someone care about you is : talk to them on social media and everyday say hi to them and do a small conversation after like 1 or 2 week don’t talk to them for the day and see how they will react
I m in love with her voice🤩🤩
@@FireRams_arisinglion what are you saying.. unnamed guy
Narrators?
@@Psych2go yes😍🔥
I badly needed this one. Lol
ur so close to 10M
Thank you for this, I need this for my gf hehehe
needed this earlier ")
When we thought our crush love us back is the beginning of countless nighmares
fax
watching 👀
I'm trying to forget about him because i found that he has a crush on someone else.but it's not so easy to forget him 😢
nice asmr
Thank you I need this cause me and my crush don't really talk alot on text and harder to talk since they switched classes in school 😕
0:04 I respect the frog. Also the fact that me and my crush literally bond over frogs the most out of anything, it's a good omen XD