How Analysis Paralysis Holds You Back
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This reminded me of something I told myself as a kid but forgot as I grew older. "You can do anything once you're willing to take responsibility for it."
You don't need to be willing to. You will
succesful people decided to chase things they are afraid of....so they are no longer afraid of it., because fear is partially illusion.
@@alenaadamkova7617 "fear is the mindkiller"
It's not just about being willing though, some of us don't physically have the ability to do it even when we're willing.
@@Onthe9thlife3730 I'm aware and I do acknowledge that, but that also wasn't really the point. We hold ourselves back from doing the things we believe are right out of fear of the consequences. We are afraid of making choices we know we COULD make and probably want to make but the potential downsides seem too severe, unfair, or in some cases we fool ourselves into thinking a win-win solution is the only thing worth choosing. But once you are actually willing to deal with the consequences; once you believe you have what it takes to endure or overcome the possible negative outcomes, you finally have the freedom and power to make that choice instead of letting anxiety and fear make it for you. If a choice leads to conflict but I'm okay with fighting that battle regardless of win or lose, then I'm now mentally in a position where I can actually do it instead of saying "I can't this or that" all the time and later wondering where my life went. 💀 Even if I still choose to not do the thing, using my agency to make that choice for myself is better than telling myself I never could when really I was just too weak to challenge anything. That's more so what I meant by "you can do anything". 👍
the chase for perfection is never ending because perfection changes with the slightest change in variables and life itself is an ever changing variable... but my mind is so desperately craving "perfection"... it is a slow process to start accepting "imperfection"...
I saw the full video bout 3 weeks ago and it felt like a sort of light bulb moment. I’ve been applying this thinking into social situations, and simply trying to have fun in conversations. It always felt like I was reading off a script with my conversations and responding how I deemed socially appropriate and/or sensitive so I wouldn’t upset anyone in any possible way. That was a lot of pressure and not fun. I know for a fact I seem like a weirdo when I talk like that. I don’t wanna jinx it, but I’ve been feeling really great and free because these changes.
Mind summarizing some of the things said in that video? I still do that :(
@@komododragons4553 I guess my summary would be just a condensed edition of my comment: don’t be afraid of the social consequences of what you say and do (within reason, like he said, don’t be an asshole), and be more focused on enjoying yourself and having fun in conversations. As opposed to responding “appropriately” or how you feel you should respond.
@@chikinluvver4123 yeah i experienced the same thing and it kind of worked for me until i hit a wall when im really open and have a lot of fun talking to strangers because it feels like it doesnt really matter what i say since its likely ill never see or talk to them again, but its harder for me to talk like that with my friends or people i actually know. or when the initial conversation gets really good and the stranger transitions into a new friend phase and suddenly im nervous because of this expectation ive set up for myself against myself and im back to square 1 again
Articulated explanation of how "fuck it, we ball" acts upon
this is probably one of my biggest issues in general and it’s a huge burden especially in terms of being a student and self-improvement. i can’t make myself start a process without feeling like i have the perfect plan or feeling like i’ve met the perfect conditions and the results in my life have been disastrous. it genuinely borders on life-ruining for me and i’ve already set myself back significantly because of it, which ironically just increases the pressure of needing to achieve perfection.
Man I used to be the opposite of analysis paralysis as a kid. I would say whatever I wanted without caring of the consequences. Then through schooling that was mental taken out of me completely. Need to find the balance
I needed this rn omg
I needed to hear this
"Well if it isn't the nonexistent consequences of my own actions!" -Me leaving an event
Yea i concur with this
Good points
Perfection is unattainable. You can only take the reasonable steps to mitigate the consequences, and part of that is not waiting too long, as being pressed for time is a major factor in aggravating potential consequences
Where is the full video ?
Unless there's a toxic person then they're just shocked that they would ever have to experience a consequence.
Yes. 100%
So how does this line up with the scenario that actually spawned the term analysis paralysis, in that someone isn't trying to dodge a consequence, but instead are faced with too many options that they're unable to effectively judge and weigh them all to decide a best, and therefore make no choice at all. What's being described here is NOT analysis paralysis, but avoidance paralysis. You're paralysed because you want to avoid something, not because you're analysing something.
When Thomas Sowell talked about trade offs I guess he wasn't just talking about economics.
Analisys paralyzes is what helps me to not be impulsive.
Put it all on Red 34
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I rather be an asshole who is truthful and states the truth than nice and people pleasing and untruthful and doesn't state the truth
The key to this, at least in my experience, is to recognize the downside and preparing to navigate it since it will come up. Also, telling people bad news can often get a life on it's own that you can't quite anticipate since you might not know the whole framework of the issue. So it might even be to your benefit in terms of information and it might open up a new discussion. At least that's what happened to me at work a few times by now.
Vivek for the win! I hope he becomes the next usa president.