The Unspoken Reality Behind the Harvard Gates | Alex Chang | TEDxSHSID

Hi Caitlyn, speaker Alex here! Yes they need to. I'll be most grateful if you can help me share! Thanks in advance! :)

Most hispanic parents need to see this due to how ignorant alot are lol well at least mine and my friends

I think everyone need to see this

It’s not like they’d care to understand any ways

True

That is both racist and accurate! XD

@@nowaif9144 That's not true. Only few hundreds of asians out of 10s of millions can qualify for Harvard

@Debasis kumar But we weren't talking about other countries. This is just Harvard, and I do get your reasoning, but whites do play a significant role in out status as a country

Harvard is overrated lol. It is now imbued of privileged silver spoon fed students. I think MIT, National University of Singapore, and University of Hong Kong are better.

Believe this or not, Asians engineers in USA are more skilled than whites and so have higher salaries. Asian women earn roughly the same money as white men.

@Muhammad Kaz Kaz 🚫🧢

Trump Cant Stop Winning!

Failing is good since it can make you go harder.

Oh yeah yeah you can't succeed without failures first

Oh yeah oh yeah

Your dad is great, you are so lucky

That's some cool dad! Congratulations

I know lol Even when u apply for a job they won't look at what college you went. To or your degree but only your expirence

Your Dad sounds awesome

That is completely true. In real life and real jobs it is more important your attitude and emotional intelligence to deal with anything.

At some cushy Ivy League school?

@@Bruh-bk6yohow is it cushy? You have to study really hard if not you will be kicked out by these colleges.

@@Bruh-bk6yotry university of Texas

couldve gone pro if i hadnt joined the navy

​@@rgseven6557Translator note: Cushy ivy league school is an expression usages by the vidoe game antagoniat "Senator Armstrong" from the video game: Metal Gear Rising: Revengeance which is a spin off of a video game series: Metal Gear Solid by Hideo Kojima

i love you!

Lol

That was great! LOL

Daniel Evans May you were a part time student

How'd that work out? Hard to succeed in your education if you don't f****ng show up.

lol and youre above average right? wtf

he's an average a-hole

He probably forgot about most of the things he studied in harvard and remaining other things he will never use it in real life. But because he is hardworking he will still be successful in the future. Harvard doesn't have intelligent people it just has hardworking people that will be successful no matter what.

@@RandomGuy-hh4dk You can't seriously think only hard work will get you into Haward.

BRYCE not a rule. Some poor guys from my country (Brazil) got into harvard. But these are some rare examples. But i wont put enough time to search better about it.

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​@@xiaoqingling1500 couldn't agree more ❤

You have good english

Rookie numbers mate. I never went to school so I don't even have grades.

same😂😭

“D” is for diploma am I right guys??? 😅

A kindred spirit.

@@tdjkhazard4522 and Degrees lol

For real, also I think many many college students have depression regardless of the college they go to. Personally was depressed in community college and that was very easy. Future uncertainty is also really anxiety inducing...

LMAO

LOL help😂

stfu

Righttt

@@hansbrackhaus8017 um.....okay.....

It's always within someone's ability, though. There's always someone smarter than you - yeah, but there's also someone who's actually the absolute smartest.

I'm very bad academically so I can't relate to it.

you name it dreamy school because you made it as a huge place where you can not achieve it even if you really suit the position. after 7 years of lying to myself, I do have to admit the only thing you need is to believe in yourself. not every smart guy is making the next big thing. not every average or poor guy has to be jobless. Just believe in yourself and fight for what you want but remember the only important part of it is that perseverance.

Plat i dont think so, a dream house should be a goal :)

miss u everyday lil bro

@@nahidsumon9635 nobody asked

Haha you challenge my mental breakdowns weaklings?

I would go into the wild and become an hippie

Why would someone commit suicide because of college?

Did u get accepted at any ivy leagues

You are rationalising failure. These schools are designed to bring out the elite of the elite. Deal with the fact

@@iimaazii963 I don’t think so she’s just coping, as if Harvard doesn’t prioritise holistic education or deep thought lmao.

Ohhh yes you would I mean, I'm even considering it myself But I probably won't though because what if I survive and I'm left with a major injury or something Besides i still believe i can turn around my academic life But honestly, college education at an A class college is fucking depressing and can lead you to some really dark places

he never referred him he was suicidal because of school work. But im sure youre more than half right to blame it on school.

@@comforth3898 I don't know you and anything, but please don't take your life You have the right approaches, I know it's not easy, but talk to someone about what you think It can be a friend, family member or a stranger like me Hope your life changes to a better one

@@comforth3898 There was a girl at my school who was so stressed and depressed that she committed suicide - even those who didn't know her were mourning for the pain she must have felt. I've had friends contemplate suicide because of school, and it's hard not to mourn with them for feeling like all hope is lost and their destiny is set for failure and more sadness. But that's absolutely not the case. A few years back I was in a very dark and anxious place, and I kept having thoughts that my life was just going to be a life of suffering - i would grow up and be an adult and still be suffering and feeling guilty all the time. It took me a lot to realize that those thoughts were not true, but complete lies, and not everything that i thought was true. Not everything that you think true. What you feel is undoubtedly there, but why it is there may not be what you think. Please talk these thoughts to someone outloud. Please talk to someone. Help is available, and strength is also. From a fellow college kid, please hold on.

uhhmm you'll be surprised on how many students commit suicide because of studies. It's good tho that you didn't know about this. :)

i cant stop thinking that this talk was only for a resume point.

Ashutosh Singh, Where did you graduate? at Harvard? He graduated from Harvard and, believe me, he knows how to be successful and he has that potential.

HAHAHHAHAHA

@@AshutoshSingh-to9vx Same. It didn't help me at all.

@@artificialintelligence5787 believe you? no, you give no credentials to be trustworthy. You can lose the 'believe me' cliche as not even kids will fall for that. It is a myth that every harvard graduate is successful. potential? yes. not necessarily successful. There's been enough studies and articles written about this. I could say believe me, but since I'm not retarded I'll just say do your own research.

Yes i did omg!😭😭😭😭😭

I can relate to him ..

If that's how your parents make you feel, they're not worth it. They should have already instilled in you that your life is your own. They shouldn't need you to make them happy. That's their failure there, right there. Life is so much more than 'success'. It's not real love if they're going to be unhappy because you're unsuccessful and they can't be proud of you. They should care more that you live a healthy, happy life surrounded by people you love and who love you back. And people shouldn't be loving you for your success either, because that's bullshit love. That's what real success is. And trust me, very very few people get that. Regardless of what school they went to or how much money they make. Work on your spirituality kids, the other stuff is dumb and superficial. If you love your work do it for itself, not for the success it will bring.

@@dailybls I agree, Imo being supportive of the positive things their kid can do is the best way a parent can show their love. If their kids stray to a darker path though like consumption of narcotics or commiting crimes then it's the parent's job to set it right (it's still a form of support), but nonetheless never make them feel like they are indebted to the parents, because the parent's job is to guide their kids to be able to make their own decisions as they grow up and be able to live without their parents.

Omg yes Thought he gon cry

so they're not use to having their resilience tested because their "over-achievers?" or is it for the sake of having "limits" tested?

I don’t know what an overachiever could possibly be. These people are super achievers, many of them, who have never not been good at just about anything the first time they tried. If they tried hard, really worked at something they loved, they never failed; they were unbeatable. Or so they thought till they got to Harvard and were outdone, which to them is the same as failing. So they have to learn how to bounced back, which is a far easier lesson for young kids@@jarry8150

@@rhondarockwell2384 yeah makes sense, so a question of resiliency/mental fortitude. So they’ve excelled at whatever they’re natural inclinations. And when they’re abilities are tested self esteem, self image, ect come into confidence question. Mental resilience cannot be exercised if you’re always “winning” and never experiencing a time that required them to bounce back.

I grew up in the UK and went to Cambridge University. I had the single highest score in Scotland in Chemistry and Maths my year but didn’t top the class at University. I didn’t even come close to the top, though my grades were still good. I was fine. I didn’t die. Because I knew and I know I’m not the best at everything, I can never be the best at everything, and NO ONE is the best at everything. I can appreciate that it’s humbling when you realise you’re no longer the smartest kid in the room (and actually NO ONE is the smartest in the room across all subjects/specialisations) but some people clearly need a reality check ... without trying to sound too harsh. If Einstein was rejected by ETH Zurich I can live with the fact that I’m not the top student at Cambridge University or Oxford University or Harvard University or MIT or Stanford or Princeton or whatever elite university you and thousands of other people went to.

Vince Lombardi It's not whether you get knocked down, it's whether you get up.

YayItsFranny first person who didn’t have a first and last name username

yes, they are for real. i have used them too

I thought the trembling was just the anxiety brought on by public speaking, except for the moment he was talking about his parents; he really did sound like he was struggling to keep his composure.

you felt it because i think you never felt it often, think about us in our country we feel this every time even before high schools even me. you know many of the students dies here cuz of pressure created by competition. Here if you don't wanna starve out of hunger etc then study hard. don't take term 'starve' too serious but it's kinda like this

No he's not lol

i'm so sorry to hear that!! hope she's doing good right now

Good for her..

Why she got depressed and what average i.q. can pass in harvard?

many think, harvard will make your future a better , thats not true, JEFF bezos ceo of Amazon, didnt even go to harvard yet he makes billions everybody knows his by now, he has more money than anyone than any person you can think, more than tesla, you name it

@@alfiemarc8852 jeff went to Princeton

Your Grandpa was a genuis...

@@elaineburnett5230 I totally agree with you.

A trully sucessful man, he knew that while school can lead to success, its not the only way and that we should go with what is the best for us and our health, also that you can take pride and be happy in things/jobs that aren't all academic related.

Amen

I'm proud of your great grandfather congratulations 🎊 👏🏿 💐

That what I did And I ended up expelled :/

Haha. When he said he couldn't even do one, I almost laughed my ass off. Dude goes to Harvard and can't even figure out how to pivot away from grades and social life for a week to at least crush sleep? He isn't any college material.

@@richszeszko8844 maybe because if he chose that option he'd fall behind too much to catch up? He already illustrated pretty well that he's a hard working and accomplished overachiever type before he went to Harvard. This guy has never seen a C grade on anything he did and now he suddenly got them almost exclusively. That's not something you'd expect from someone who had a well established game plan that works for him. He's obviously been dumped into a situation that's hard to relate to from an outside perspective.

Lima Zulu 911, I’d like to report a woooosh

@@Nova-du5on eh...i mean it could go eitherway depending on writers intention. If you have any experience in overworking in any field you'd know that proper resting may look like wasted time but would actually save you a lot more because you perform better. That's the way i understood it. I was just picturing that it might not be viable anyway.

You’re a cutie. 😏

If there's one things to take away, it's C's get Degrees. Good looks also help.

I never cared about my scores at all but never really struggled during school either. I went through uni (4 years of electrical engineering degree) without much issue. I was the type of student that never go in classes, study by himself and only show up at exams. I finished with a degree above average of my group but not by much, I shown up at any party I could find, closing bars with friends all years long. Easily the best 4 years of my life. Do you know which question I never got asked by a recruiter? What is your score\grade? Unless you really want to do a master or phd, on the job market scores barely matter. If you are unlucky it will a tiny bit for the first job. After that, experience gained from job is wayyyyyyyyyy more important. No one will ever request your school grades ever again. Work enough to get through and not more and take all the time left to enjoy every spare minute you have to party. Our favorite line back then was: D for Diploma.

@@polymathecian yeah man good job you hit on a girl over youtube, she'll for sure message you

@@mynames7664 😂😂😂

Jamarcus Swindle what?

@@bencruz3805 lol

Ben Cruz it means to be honest

I'm gonna be honest, that's pretty sad man

Hahah 0/3 in the visible triangle but im sure you have a strong 4th category!

Yeah, his voice was cracking little bit the time he was talking about his friend that committed suicide. Great guy, would love to have him as a friend

well, to be fair, being a catamite isn't easy.

@@alethes.sophia what the heck?

@@Daniel.Emmanuel10 oh, it's nothing you would understand with your uninitiated mind.

@@alethes.sophia I think he was saying "what the heck" more in the sense that he is shocked about what you said not his understanding of the word.

😂

Lol

😂😂😂

I've been laughing at this 2 minutes straight lmfao 🤣🤣

Because it is when compared to someone like him. Overachievers in academics who have zero interest in liberal arts, wouldn't wipe their ass with a degree from NYU lmao.

Thanks Lorraine!

That's a stupid movie, mate, don't take it seriously😂

😂😂

are you dumb bruh it’s called a joke

It was really dumb. Like Harvard is insane and this girl was just writing nonsense to the admissions woman

@@stuntmastermonkey What exactly is the joke

hippity hopp ikr. When I was younger like getting 9/10 was so tragic I had mini mental breakdowns. Now getting 13/20 and don’t give a fuck lol 😂😂

C+'s aren't that bad, but you've got into the mentality of a guy like him. He's used to getting straight A's for all of his life, so he's not used to this and he considered anything lower than an A- a failure. Plus, I think his parents drilled into him that good grades are all that matters. For me, sometimes the best grade that I get is a C.

i had F- in history... i was basically sleeping in class lul

@@pokiblue5870 sounds like my life.😂😂

Middle school deadass sucks lmfao. I used to be an all honor roll student back in elementary school then I applied for a really good school one of the best in the USA well top 500 at least. First term I was one of the only kids without honor roll. I know how you feel. Also the fact that kids from your old school who you used to overachieve or were better at become better than you.

Thats so true..I thought no one noticed it and I was the only one who felt that his voice was trembling when he was talking about his parents..it's so sad when realities breaks us..🙁

I resonated with him when talking about his parents, its the same how my parents treat me. They view me as the bread winner as I am the first born and there were high expectation but in reality, I was just that one average Asian who sometimes gets a high grade sometimes just a passing mark. Right now, my parents often ask me how my job hunting is and I'd say literally the same lines as Alex said.

a lot*

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Yeah, I went to study abroad to make my parents proud and it was pretty much that, I became all depressed (almost suicidal) because my parents spent so much money for me and I wasn't able to do good enough no matter how much effort I spent, I would be taking it in while talking with my parents throught webcam and cry just after ending the call, it was very hard for me to get out of that toxic mentality, gather myself together and find a sense of value were my grades didn't define how much I was worth

believe it or not, his stats are pretty bad compared to most Harvard applicants

@@burgos582 Sauce

@@thesaddestdude3575 His SAT score would barely put him in the 25th percentile there. Harvard doesn't like to give specifics on who they admit, but people who are applying there typically have 15+ AP classes while he has 5. His awards are actually pretty good but will be vastly overshadowed by the others at Harvard

@@burgos582 Its wild, i can't imagine what is needed to get a perfect A score across the board, i remember having a teacher that just didn't like me so he gave me shitty grade, what must one do in order to always ace everything. These people would have to excell on so many levels, and get the perfect conditions at the same time, i just can't imagine that there would be enough to fill these universities.

it's like he is very good and hardworker, but it's not enough groundbreaking achievements.

If this is true, congrats

@coward LOL!

Wowww! I am so impressed! It gives me more motivation!!! Thank you for sharing your story

Wow I feel so inspired

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Hi Jane, Alex here! Thank you so much for your comment. Glad to hear you’re doing well at UMB. Seems like you’re on your way to becoming a successful vet! 🙌

I hope you ace everything from now on. Good luck, you got this.

This is super inspiring. Hope you enjoy college!!!!!

And i am already in my countrys top school and struggling so bad

@@ascore142 you got this. Just work through it. You’re bound to get used to it.

Too*

@@alicronaldohitman bro rlly?

That is sad to hear, but I don't blame him for leaving. He needs to be happy to some degree in order to survive. I am happy for him. There is so much pressure to be number one even in normal schools. I was talking to my teacher a few years ago (I have already graduated high school) and I said that it wasn't fair the way the grades are done. He agreed with me because it wasn't fair to put a child whose parents were not so involved in his life next to a child who had all the resources and financial help at his disposal which determined who is the better student. By default it would be the one with resources from the get-go, assuming they were both intellectually capable of the same things.

I hope he found happiness and if he still hasn’t, I hope he keeps chasing after it till he does find it

Personally I found help going to a mosque, they helped me out a lot, mentally too

oh god, I really want to get into med school it's my "dream".. but everyone makes it so dificult. what do i do?

@@mustafaaa772 Someone once told me medicine is a lousy job, but a wonderful calling. The most rewarding things in life are not born out of being comfortable. If you really want it, and are willing to sacrifice for it, then go for it.

That's easy to say. However, life treats us differently. A better view I think is to accept you can't control all. In fact, you probably control nothing. It's just a ride. Let it flow. Don't be lame and limp, but understand, life is a crapshoot. Things happen in ways, and people often behave in ways, that are beyond reason and expectation.

well said.

Rachel Rogers that’s a really good comment!

I forwarded this video to our 2 boys now in their late 40s. Here is the short message I attached with the video: Watching this video helps me to understand how ignorant we parents are to know our kids and their struggles during and after their college years. I am more thankful to see my kids and their endurance during those years. May the Lord continue to guide you and provide the strength you need to go through all the ups and down of life.

Truly appreciate your sharing your story. Thanks Pastor Yau!

Here's something else to show your parents. I'm from an Ivy mill, which is a school district (often public, surprisingly) that grooms students for Ivy Leagues from the moment they enter at age 5. When I entered college I found out that I had been taught all of the college content, the only time I saw anything new was in extremely specialized classes, and in the classes that I took for a masters program. to succeed I slept about 4 hours per night and studied non stop. I was considered the bottom of the barrel at my high school, despite having straight A's in what I now know to have been college courses while being a two season athlete, working two jobs, teaching martial arts, and getting awards for community service. Let me again stress this: I was considered an under achiever. There were people who could do that level of work and also run a club, ace national competitions regularly, etc etc etc. Those are the people going to Harvard. Me? As if. I spent my entire childhood being groomed for an Ivy League and working as hard as I could to do succeed, and I was simply not good enough. This is true of most of my classmates. Some people will go to Harvard, yes. It does not have to be you, it probably won't be you, and there's nothing wrong with that. Go get good grades at a cheap college that'll give you a scholarship; unless you want to work at a fortune 500 company that will be enough. The level of pressure that my classmates and I were under did more harm than attending Ivy Leagues could ever counteract, we had at least 2 suicides a year for every thousand students, and for what? This is less than the stress of attending Harvard. So to parents really pushing for their children to attend Harvard, please consider the unlikeliness of that and the damage that it could do.

@@kinseylise8595 May i ask what are you doing currently and what are ur plans? Im just curious because based on ur statement u seem to be smart and reflected. Sincerly yours :)

@@rampageviii7186 Thank you for the compliment. I did an accelerated bachelors in Biological Sciences, and am working on another bachelors in English and some classes for an accelerated Masters of Education. I plan to teach high school and like teaching both subjects, so since I was able to get accelerated tracks for all of these, I decided to pursue them all. I originally planned to enter biological sciences for plant genetic research, but found that 1) I do not enjoy the lab setting and 2) I would like to raise my children myself, so I should choose a field that can be exited for many years and then re entered. Teaching was always something that I enjoyed, so I'm pursuing it now. Best of luck to you in your path!

@@kinseylise8595 Hey is there any kind of website or forum that could tell me more about Ivy Mill? Also, being groomed since a young age to enter Harvard, can you tell me more some of the hardest struggle you need to cope with throughout your childhood?

@@offensivecreampie3015 This is a long one. As I recently discovered this term does not seem to be universal, so while there may be website about high achieving school districts, I am not sure how to find them. One option to look for this kind of information is to use school search websites like College Vine (I believe they have elementary, middle, and high schools listed as well), but I am unsure of exactly how you could interpret the data that they provide to determine if a school is an "Ivy mill" or high achieving for other reasons. If you want more information about what this type of school district is like, feel free to ask. I'm not sure what would help you in your search (hopefully to avoid these districts!) but I'm happy to inform. For many of my classmates the hardest part was that they were under immense pressure from their parents and as such faced constant criticism; the classes were difficult enough that even the best of the best were never 100% perfect, and anything less than perfection was strongly criticized by their parents. Their worst days were compared relentlessly to their peer's best days, and they were expected to follow their families' preferred career paths. Personally I was blessed with a family that did not do this to me; I was expected to work hard and succeed, but they supported me and never expected perfection. My greatest struggles were socialization and self actualization. I had no experience with close relationships because I had never had a close friend, and only maybe two distant friends. I want to build close relationships, but I still struggle deeply with becoming closer to others. My professional persona is excellent but I can't make friends. As far as self actualization, there were a lot of factors there. I knew that after high school grades would not matter much, but it was still a shock to my system, much more than I expected. I no longer had an intuitive sense of where I stood among others. That was good in the sense that I no longer felt like a second class citizen (in high school there were people with whom I felt could not initiate conversation because they were in more AP classes than me and thus were "out of reach") but it made me lose my sense of self. If my identity was not explained and defined by being a high achieving in a difficult school, who was I? When I started undergrad I thought "nobody cares what school I came from now, nobody cares about what I worked so hard for, and there's no reason that they should. Without the context of my school, what am I? How do I even explain to people what made me who I am?" which was uncomfortable and upsetting. Learning to change what you tie your self worth to is a very painful experience, though I am grateful for it. As an aside, I don't consider this to be entirely related to my schooling because I do not know what caused it, but I was very suicidal for a long time. I dislike how quick we are these days to diagnose people with mental problems and frankly I'm not sure that I had a disorder of any kind, I think it was a stress reaction. Many people in my high school were suicidal and self harmed, and stopped a year or two after graduating. Towards the end of my time in high school I began to have spells of apathy that were very difficult to deal with, and they slowly became less frequent and less intense as time after high school passed.

@@xhorizon1976 but we can't be the ones to die when we are the ones doing the exterminating and the fact that pussies like you could never fight back let alone hurt a fly xD

@@xhorizon1976 but yet he never inferred racial genocide but yet you use it as your topic example. Clearly showing how far you took his statement that you would go to assume that it borders the lines of racial genocide. But if that be the case then yes... We need an idiot genocide :)

Lennart O oooo shit dawg, your heartless lol

Lennart O absolutely evil

Ibnziyad Tariq if everyone who lived never died earth wld be a mosh pit.

its a cultural thing. asian people always try to make their parents lives better and make them proud.

be that as it may, but billions of people will be jealous of him, life is not sure all somewhat happy. being force to study the perosn is given at least a good preparation for life

@@vishurana2362 Asians follow Confucius ideals. In the old country if you're good enough for Harvard, that's middle class maybe. Asia is uber corrupt. So when they go to places where there isn't a Merit Cap, they usually become super successful. But the world always isn't true, it's more like 20% to 30% of them follow through with it all. Which is astronomically higher than that in other cultures.

@Jesse McFarland-Ward Not really. Pick up some random American or Europeon and they'll most likely fail if dropped in Asia or even within their own domestic systems. It's a culture issue. Africa has some top talent as well but usually it's concentrated at the top as with most nations.

"mans"?

Your dad is absolutely right!

thatonenerd

What makes harvard the top school is they only get the cream of the crop of high school students. It's not really that hard to make overachievers and geniuses to perform brilliantly. I think it is more impressive of a school to take an average student and make him a cream of the crop graduate.

@@rap3208 Amen brother, amen

That sounds like horrible and unbearable pressure

Angel Soto lmao

5 years to pay a phone bill bro quit smoke meth.

Striker 😂😂😂

Got us in the first half not gonna lie

Wow you certainly achieved a target now writing a review in a harvard is hard video can be on your resume

It’s not about race but ok

@@gmailhmmm2850 it is asian parents have this ideology that pride is everything and as you grow up thats all you know, pride so when you fail and you tell people its like destroying everything you lived for or how you were taught growing up. its very different for asian people and how how much they want their parents approval its on a different level.It is about race everything is bout race which is bad but the cold reality.

100% bro, this asian guy saying he strugged at harvard definitely takes a lot of courage

@@gmailhmmm2850 it is absolutely about race. i don't think asian people are the only people to experience academic pressure and there are definitely some asian people who don't but overall the need for prestige and pride is completely ingrained in asian culture. it's in the way we (as asians) talk to our kids, talk to our friends, talk to ourselves, etc. it is 100% about race and the particular cultural, familial, and societal pressure of being asian is something that i don't think any non-asian will understand.

@@mirandachen8189 nah

Lmao fr tho 🤣

-Harvard- Hardvard

@@Onur_ince i don get it

@@akirakirawabushi7019 it's a joke, he just mean he get a very different answer

FBI agent #2419 FBI agent #2419: Lmao

Hey George, thanks for the comment! Definitely; in fact, it should apply to the top 50 in any field, even outside of the context of education.

They don't have Mandatory flunking, bottom 10% of every course. "We have the computer do it, it's not fair but it is impartial." Only half of the freshman class should be allowed to graduate.

@@aolvaar8792 what does this mean

@@mr_squid1980 State Schools get paid based on graduation rates>> 97% and Average 3.80+ GPAs

@@aolvaar8792 Ok why is that relevant

Do your best at Oxford! I hope you succeed.

Be confident Emily. You earned your place. You might feel like a smaller fish in a big sea, but you are still great. And please talk to your pastoral tutors - being in the library till 1am isn't sustainable. I went to Cambridge, was wowed by the clever people, never really felt up to their standards but luckily there was no email, no social media... Please do get support as it's there for you to feel better x

good luck 🙏🏾

Come on now Emily you've got too good of an education to be telling people those bars are to prevent people jumping. My friend went to Oxford on the Fulbright scholarship, he and I would both tell you the only stick through it if you're enjoying yourself at some level. Otherwise that's an incredible amount of effort and opportunity to plunge into the wrong direction

@@kezzaradden I went to a small but respected school for accounting, a lot of us were in the library for literal days on end. There was a nice corner table that was a little too convenient for napping. I know of at least two people whose phones automatically assigned the library as the address of their home residence. This is where it's earned.

That's because he was speaking his mind , his mind is clear. When your mind is uncluttered you can speak with confidence , then you won't think what others are going to think about you , you just think for your self

@Kaptain Kid INDEED! that was what i'm about to say XD

Trust me I was at the same position at you are,once you are confident about yourself you will see a drastic change in yourself.i have seen a great changes my life,trust me.i cant emphasize on how beleving in yourself could make a difference.just be clear of your thoughts. And also even if you makes some mistakes it's okay my friend, everybody will laugh at you and giggle at you but that's how people grow.ik it's embarrassing it's really embarrassing but after 2years you would laugh at these things.i have experienced same thing so I can tell you.ANYWAY, BEST OF LUCK FOR FUTURE!!

Just make sure that these giggles could help you grow.because criticism helps a person to step outside of our comfort zone🙃🌏

Cristiana Darau you’re very beautiful!

Lol

@@360wheelz5 Thats sad for you :(

Man

Exactly... 😂😂😂🥺

Oh:(

If only comparison could’ve just been cancelled like a Netflix subscription every time it pops up and not just amplify itself like it usually does

JuliFXJ I call it Hardvard for a reason.

Some Ivy League graduates turned out to be the most deranged, degenerate people ever.

BRAVEHEART that’s so true lol

@@shelby7188 no its not true. Don't form universal opinions based on one video.

@@andrewschannel4259 Hahahaha

Liviu Dan I DONT BELIEVE YOU.

Hardvard

Fake news.

@@thatonesomali3217 How is it controversial?

@@KelvinWKiger Fake and gay

I'm not sure I would agree. There are times when people need to take a look at themselves in the mirror and perhaps change their goals. Not everything is achievable. As a classroom teacher for 31 years I found that some people definitely had unrealistic expectations. I've lost count of how many C students thought they would pull it all together in their final year of high school and then go to med school. It is often tough for some kids to have a good handle on what they are willing and able to do to be successful. This is something that is difficult to figure out.

@@SamIAm-kz4hg I totally agree. I am also a teacher but with much less experience than you. However, i do believe that being at university allows students to actually understand what they trully want rather than what they dream of at a younger age/what their expected to achieve from their parents (especially for asian students). Goals should be realistic and we also have to have passion about what we study to trully thrive. I struggled in my country after moving there to finish my master degree. I struggled with arabic, with the lack of facilities provided where electricity and using lab equipments were a daily struggle and having to succeed as a women in a male environment just allowed me to realise how determined i was to learn more. There are many factors that effects a successful education such as passion, having realistic dreams and being in an environment that can provide the best facilities and support that many students take for granted.

Esra they’re 😂

@@laura2264 english is a second language for me, i may have some mistakes: )

If you pay for PHD you are doing it wrong...you are not supposed to pay for it you are actually getting paid to do a PhD

IM WHEEZING 😂😂

Oh my my genius

GET THIS MAN IN HARVARD!

bruh, you want a scholarship?

hardvard wants to know your location

SCARlet_DRaKox13 truth! A sign of true genius is not going to begin with!

You don’t have to go to school to be a genius

ArcticZombie fine I’m liking my own comment

Einstein refused many degrees offered by top ranking universities, he didn't have degree. He made his name a title with efforts not with these universities.

If you're genius then you don't need get a stamp of these universities to be known as genius. Believe in your strength not in improving some other points, if you fail at exams it's okay, that doesn't mean you're worthless. Always remember that you're not machine to be perfect at a certain task you can choose your tasks on your own, no matter if it's artist, singers, or technological hobbyists. You have one life one chance, but a lot of time. Try to stand among geniuses with your strengths not with your improved weakness, enhance your talent, don't supress it cuz that's gonna let you think, decide, win everything.

Alot of the richest people in the world didn't even graduate high-school. Just because school isn't your best environment doesn't mean your dumb.

@@yourproblem9195 A lot of them did though. Bezos went to Princeton, Gates and Zuckerberg went to Harvard, and Buffet went to Columbia business school. Steve Jobs went to community college, but he still graduated from high school. You don't have to be great academically to make money and have a good life. And the academic path is not the only path to success. But, one thing that's true is that a lot of the poorest people in the world didn't do very well in school. On average people with college degrees earn more money than those without.

@@sebfox2194 I know all that, I just hate the misconception that you have to be dumb if you don't get straight As. And also the misconception that having straight As means you're super intelligent. Just not true

@@yourproblem9195 I agree with your point that you're not necessarily dumb if you don't do well in school. And that you can also succeed in life despite not doing well in school. I just think your first statement that most of the richest people in the world didn't graduate high school is not true, because most of them did.

@@sebfox2194 Yeah I was reluctant to say most, changed it to Alot

Or any college

Ohhh how far from the truth that is. Top companies look at your grade. I go to law school and I know someone who was invited for a dinner by a company. They were asking questions about why and how her grades were lower in her 1st and 2nd year going over it course by course.

@@GetTheGames For your first job, maybe and only "top companies". Maybe! Frankly, your example is much further from the truth (for the majority of people) than my comment.

GTsude gh

@@ManOfLaBookDotCom now I don't know how it's like in your country, but in Belgium in sectors where the influx of certain degrees is too big they don't just look at the degree anymore, but their grades. It's an objective way to measure someone's "worth" in their eyes. That is why it's far from the truth. Most of your maybe's don't apply. Even non top companies use this method.

Disagree. Africa too ... you know how it is .. also let's not exclude the middle-eastern

@@muniroloko3584 ik ik i just quoted what he said in the video :>

Louisse Haberle oops my bad. Must have not heard it. And I don’t see no quotation marks either 😭

@@muniroloko3584 it's okkk!! It's on bold tho that means I used ** those but it's ok i understand! ♡

Ur peng

intelligence =/= knowledge =/= hard work

Macedthur Harvard wants u

I'm having a hard time right now >:)

Correction Havahahd time studying in Havahd. *New England accent.

I'm doing it well without harvard's help...

*Harvard wants to know your location*

Thanks for being an amazing nurse aid for 20+ years, not only for the doctors and nurses but also for your patients! ❤️

whats the relationship between what school you study and what job you work for? .......i always think its different thing

@@tmic3273 seriously? People go to college to get a certain degree so that they get that certain job they studied so hard for or they were so forced to study for. It's not easy when someone couldnt get a job they thought they would get since they studied for it. That's the point.

@@otakuchan2763 damn you settled

@@spreadluv1 lmao I wish

cringe u are dumb u have barcelona as your profile pic

@@iamapokerface8992 got nothing better to do then call people cringe man? Get a life

@@blazing910 How to get a life?

@@iamapokerface8992 Stop. Nobody cares if its "cringe" even if based on your opinion as its all completely irrelevant and unnecessary You're clearly the type to make a trite meme word on any possible situation such as "simp, cringe, stfu, boomer" please go back to pewdiepie. I mean nothing against him, he's a cool guy, but you're a representation towards his younger audience

Asian people, listen up, stop trying to make your Asian parents proud, it can never be achieved. Instead, you make yourself proud by achieving the goals that you set for yourself. You will never find happiness if your number one objective in life is to please other people.