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Whatever happened to old fashioned love ?
I'm an old guy, been married 42 years. If I could do it all over again, I would do it exactly the same way. Looking at on-line content makes me feel sad for the current situation for single men and women. It was difficult for me in my single days, no doubt more difficult now. The advice I would give is a slogan I remember seeing on the wall of my sons Kindergarten class. It said "You haven't failed until you stop trying". Finding a happy relationship is possible, it happens every single day somewhere in this great big world.
Thank you, man. As a gatherer of helpful quotes for life I highly appreciate these words. 😁👍
Yeah I need to stop feeling sorry for myself and keep attacking and searching. Daughter comes first, lady second.
@@woodgie6041There's a fable, might be Confucius, not sure. Para-phrase here; 'Finding love is like trying to catch a butterfly, If you go running, chasing, and grabbing for it, it will fly away, if you hold still, it will land on your shoulder'. No attacking.
F that, spent too much time and effort for 0 result. Now it's time to enjoy the rest of my life in peace.
Honestly people, it's not that hard. Young people today go out of their way to see about messing things up. And by that, I mean 80% of the problems are caused by women who act insane. About to hit 42nd anniversary, so over 45 years together. I have friends married 40-45 years, and others with one divorce (caused by the wives), and successful second marriages. We met in college, and for me it was literally love at first sight. So it does happen. Took me about 6-7 months to figure that out and start dating her. It was not for her, though she says she was "aware of" me. Other girls I had dated talking about me reinforced her interest. We've had maybe +/-18 real fights in 45 years. Most of those have been the last few years over adult children. I think she babies them, and believe they need to act like adults. We never ran to mommy daily. Wives eat that shit up, they always want perpetual children. We also moved 2,000 miles away three weeks after getting married. DON'T move near the in-laws. My (older) sister had three daughters, my nieces. They all three married men who give in to their wives, and all bought houses in the same subdivision. The whole bunch are "dysfunctional." If your fiancee or wife wants to live close to mom, it's either HELL NO, or end the engagement/marriage. People mature three ways: Chronologically Mentally Emotionally You want a successful marriage, grow up emotionally. Don't even consider unless you are. (I was at 18. So was my wife. Started dating at 20 & 19, married at 23/22.) A lot of men, maybe as much as half, are emotionally retarded at about 14. But 2/3 or more of women are emotionally retarded at about age 6 or 8. As void these women like the plague. Men - don't be a pussy. Women automatically think "nice = weak." You don't have to be a jerk, but you're supposed to be a man. The girls are just girls. They aren't a princess or fragile porcelain, and if you're a "nice guy" to them all the time, every woman on the planet will turn you into a doormat and make your life hell. Women - do you have any attributes that would actually make you a helpmate and wife material? Most girls today are: Mentally Ill Incredibly self-centered Lacking any skills to create a home. Don't actually care about kids as people, just ornaments. And most of all, women are fixated on money. 3/3 of you are "transactional." There's a word for women who trade s. E. X. In any form for money. So, grow up emotionally. Pick a mate that is emotionally mature. Chose wisely!
The sound of one tree falling is louder than the sound of a thousand trees growing.
Damn, that's poignant, friend! 👌
Impressive. Very nice.
What an intelligent and quotable analogy
Wow: I'm gonna' use that quote! I will remember to credit you for it.
@@pauliesk.7102 Hahaha 😄 Thank you for that. I can't claim credit for it though. I saved it in a note on my phone, but the source in my note says 'Unknown'.
I would say most happy peaceful people don't talk about it. It's like a store, an appliance or some product. It's mostly the unhappy customers voicing their experiences.
Totally.
@@CourtneyRyan Exactly if they're happy they'll be content about what they have and what they don't.
FACTS be content with what you have and what you don't have because it could always be worse. Happy Passion Week everyone. Congratulations on Courtney's 700k subscribers 👏🎉. I like being single too as I'm a 24 year old Christian virgin living with my family until I'm done with work and grad school SOOOO YEAH 👍. Wanting relationships with others is a natural part of life but physical conditioning and fitness is crucial for healthy living and relationships. Men are expected to lead in the relationship with her, take care of themselves physically/emotionally and psychologically as well as be self sufficient because Women like Men who are better than them in certain aspects but are Women deserving of Men? Roma Downey is another KZhead channel with content like this. I really respect Mrs. Ryan for at least trying to help Men and Women out in promoting healthy relationships, positive mindsets and growth in individual 🙏 ❤️. I'm a guy working as a teacher's assistant and counselor seeing unhealthy relationships in people occasionally despite being single myself because I'm happily alone in DA ZONE 😂. I've been watching Courtney Ryan's videos since 2021 so her channel is really helpful especially on KZhead and social media. This has nothing to do with the video but please listen if you want to otherwise leave it alone and ignore it. Hello my name is Justin and I'm a f Christian and Apologist but I'm also a college graduate. I'm not a closed minded Theist as I have nothing against Atheists or unbelievers as I speak to them often to understand their reasons for unbelief but we as Christians are convinced of God's Existence due to many real factors). I'm not trying to convert anyone or convince anyone to become Christians as that's The Holy Spirit's job to help people believe but only explain why I believe in Jesus Christ. There's actually evidence of God's Existence in Christianity. First of all there's proof that Jesus of Nazareth existed in history since the writings of Tacitus, Josephus Flavius, Pliny the younger and other historical documents prove that He was living two thousand years ago that even scholars both religious and Atheists agree with historically speaking but not that He's The Divine Son of God because obviously they don't. I'm going to give you historical and archeological evidence for God's Existence as The Scriptures have prophecies that predate the events recorded in them by several millennia including Matthew, Hosea and Zechariah which prophesy accurately of the people of Israel becoming a nation again after over 1900 years of being scattered around the nations since the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem in 70 A.D. spoken of by Christ in Matthew 23:29-24:3 and returning to their homeland after The Holocaust with Jerusalem as their capital in 1948 exactly as Jesus The Christ said. The prophets including Daniel spoke of the time where several world empires would arise and fall including the Babylonian kingdom, Medes and Persians, Roman Empire, and Saladin and the Muslims which went in consecutive order for the past few millennia. The people of Israel becoming a nation after The Holocaust in 1948 (ironically the melting point of gold as God compares Israel to gold that's tested in fire in Zechariah 13:8 and Jeremiah 16:15) exactly how Jesus The Christ said would happen since God us everything to come in The Scriptures and not just because people were working towards as Atheists claim which are impossible for any regular man to predict. Just before anyone says Christianity is a white man's religion made to oppress blacks during slavery you obviously aren't aware that the first Christians were Jews in The Middle East and that Christianity just like any religion can be used by evil and corrupt people to oppress others but you forget that the first Abolitionists/Civil Rights activists were Christians who sought to abolish slavery, racism, segregation, injustice and prejudice throughout American history. Jesus The Christ loves you enough not to give you what we all deserve which is God's Wrath by His Own Blood. Charles Darwin didn't originally come up with The Theory of Evolution over 200 years ago as it is mentioned in the writings of Ancient Greeks who believed in Demons that gave knowledge to philosophers. Evolution makes no sense when nothing has evolved after thousands of years of human history and supposedly the first creature came from primordial sludge several millions of years ago funny how they won't believe that God an Eternal Almighty Spirit Being created us from the Earth) which came from a supermassive expansion of matter at high temperature that inexplicably created everything in the known universe that supposedly came from nothing billions of years ago. How did the organs evolve before there were bones, skin, substance and how did any creatures see before eyes evolved? I've studied evolution and abiogenesis in the past and read Darwin's " On The Origin of Species" and I'm not convinced of macro Evolutionary biology whereas I accept micro Evolution like speciation and adaptation but not macro Evolution because there's no evidence of it nor clear observable examples of it where living creatures evolve into other kinds of species plus the fact that fossils don't show evidence of evolution and genetic entropy rules out evolution. The question begs how did two genders evolve from a common ancestor with a perfectly hospitable and sustainable environment with breathable oxygen and resources to survive on inexplicably? Atheists have the burden of proof to explain how everything came to be and why our existence is possible without the Existence of God from an godless perspective just as Christians have to provide evidence of God's Existence and the validity of His Word. Evolution requires life to already exist in order to take any effect in living organisms so it doesn't account for the existence of Life and reality. Also evolution is impossible because it goes against The Law of entropy and the second Law of thermodynamics because evolution makes things better whereas nothing continues to get better but decays and turns to absolute destruction in the end. Mark Ridley an Evolutionist said "No evolutionist whether gradualist or punctuationist uses the fossil record as evidence in favor of The Theory of Darwinian Evolution as opposed to special Creation". God's Existence is made perfectly known and observable in the universe as demonstrated in His Handiwork in the intelligently designed manner that Creation was made, human consciences and consciousness historical and archaeological evidence of God's Word being valid history, fulfillment of Bible Prophecies God in His Holiness and Righteousness could give us what we deserve in Hell for our since but He's merciful to give us free will to choose to accept or reject His gift of salvation by grace through faith in His Son Jesus. I don't mean this is any condescending manner but if you'd like to discuss The Scriptures with me or have me listen to your view on anything my instagram account is Savage Christian Kombatant.
It's called being complacent.
man and women kzhead.info/sun/ldWBk6lqqmKXgXk/bejne.htmlsi=NL5KCEL4XoweB1LM
I've said this before and will say it again. Both men and women will always need each other. It takes a perfectly balanced person to understand that as an individual we need to be happy and whole before we find our life partner. But that doesn't mean we can't find someone to share our life with and to tackle the ups and downs of life with.
Not all men want a woman for a lifelong partner and not all women want a man for a lifelong partner. While the majority of the global human population identify as heterosexual or are in heterosexual relationships/marriages, there are many individuals that may prefer having a same sex partner or no partner at all instead. It all comes down to personal preferences.
Some people just want to fight basic human biology.
@@grahamdamberger7130 You can't have children in same sex relationships. Sorry, but men and women need each other and that must take priority if we wish to see our species last as long as possible.
Both men and women will always need each other. 100% wrong maybe for it to hatch a baby Well Adjusted Men will not, (not with women acting the way they are to the 90% of Men out there)
@@3756hans Thats your opinion in your messed up mind. That doesn't make it true however. God created men and women to compliment each other. Maybe you want to reevaluate the content you are consuming on youtube.
I was married 30 years very happily and can tell you the main thing is please and thank you. If my wife made a good meal I would tell her. I made pancakes for Sunday, or bought her favorite pretzels, or cookies. occasionally flowers. Still my greatest memory is her baking dozen's of cookies for all of her friends even though she was terminally ill. There is something special showing people that you care and think about them . Its not the grand gesture, its (pardon the cliche) the thought that counts.
🥺❤️ thank you so much for sharing this.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 *🌟 Positive outlook on relationships* - Encouragement to focus on positive examples of relationships - Importance of seeking positivity in content consumption - Reflecting on the impact of negative content on mindset and relationships 02:55 *🔄 Balance in content consumption* - Emphasis on the need for balance between positive and negative content - Caution against consuming chronically negative or positive content exclusively - Importance of nuanced perspectives and balanced advice in forming healthy relationships 08:02 *🚫 Avoiding toxic influences* - Warning against following individuals who propagate bitterness and negativity - Impact of negative attitudes on personal dating experiences - Encouragement to seek guidance from positive role models for healthier outcomes
At first I was looking at countless "red pill media" videos but after a while it becomes monotonous and bleak. There isn't enough channels out there to look at the bright side of relationships or those rare moments where a marriage actually lasts. This channel here is the only one I've seen that stays in the middle and sees things from both sides to help both sexes and not just one over the other. And what better representation than a level headed, educated, and patient married woman. It gives hope that a potential partner is out there but it's all about balance. Don't be nieve and fall in love with someone who's a little more social towards you than usual (self projecting here) but also don't go on a hateful tangent of distrust and misery. Thanks Courtney for your many videos to help everyone in the name of love. Here's to a lifetime of wedded bliss for you and your hubby. 🥂
Oh you are just so kind! Thank you my friend! Hugs 🥰
Yeah, I completely agree
I concur, with one caveat. I agree that its important to see both sides. I was angry for a long time, and rightfully so when I had allegations placed unjustly on me from my time in the military. (It was close quarters operations in a humvee and anyone who's been in the military knows, there's no getting around that sometimes) But as I listened more and more to the red pill I got too stuck in this anger mindset. So the caveat is that while I'm glad I'm working on bettering myself, I still appreciate channels like fresh and fit helping me break through the delusion I had suffered and felt seen when my allegations happened There's some fundamental truths that they do good to help you keep in mind, but I agree it's not the whole picture. I just think feminism has gone vastly too far, and men are incredibly underappreciated. Thanks courtney
Yea there's a lot of stuff I agree with the red pill. But way too much woman bashing. Way too much "gotta have a 6 pack and work 90 hours a day" kind of stuff. But also women are making it easy for them to make that content. I wish men and women here got along way better. We definitely need each other. That's why lots of men leave the US to find partners also. I've been to a few countries and can sy the immigration lines in some of these countries are packed with men from the US now. You literally don't have to spend years of your life looking for a woman abroad. In the US you do have waste many years dating, spending money, etc. Men Shouldn't have to leave to get the partnership they want.
27 y/o guy here, and I was so fortunate to grow up in an environment that made that stuff preposterous to me at first glance. I didn’t date much as young man, but I had truly mutually fulfilling friendships with gorgeous women that were the closest people to sisters I ever had. I saw what both they and my male friends dealt with in dating, and none of it when viewed through the lens of TRP or Feminism made any sense to a thinking person like myself (or anyone with an IQ above ambient temp.). You have to be so intellectually and morally stunted to see what people go through and adopt the kind of nihilistic and misanthropic views that the online ideologies promote. No hate to you or anybody that was into it (it’s designed to be addictive after all). That stuff is derived from color revolution manuals, centered on making people hate each other. I’m so glad we’re finally waking up to how much it sucks.
Very well said Courtney. I think a lot of times if we just consume negative, negative, negative. That's what comes out in our life is negative, negative, negative.
Agreed!
Nobody is ever interested in the positive story unfortunately. The mainstream media promotes negativity because people tune in for the drama. The same goes for independent media people too.
🧢, we need the negatives as motivation to better ourselves and be the best we can be. I don't think positivity motivates one to improvement
Hollywood romantic films are the worst.. don't watch them. They only bring you down. Crocodile Dundee.. she goes overseas for story, she cheats on her supportive fiance with the Croc, she takes him back to US and pretends to fiance that nothing happened.. then she cheats again in the US and dumps her fiance for Croc and lives happily ever after. The Notebook: Moral ~ cheat on your fiancee with your ex-bf and you will live happily ever after. Titanic ~ cheating... The movies women find most romantic all involve her cheating. Just stay away and be careful for any woman who finds these romantic.
@@CourtneyRyan FACTS negativity and lies are widespread and consuming while positivity and Truth are a necessary cure. Happy Passion Week everyone. Congratulations on your 700k subscribers 👏🎉. I like being single too as I'm a 24 year old Christian virgin living with my family until I'm done with work and grad school SOOOO YEAH 👍. Wanting relationships with others is a natural part of life but physical conditioning and fitness is crucial for healthy living and relationships. Men are expected to lead in the relationship with her, take care of themselves physically/emotionally and psychologically as well as be self sufficient because Women like Men who are better than them in certain aspects but are Women deserving of Men and vice versa? Roma Downey is another KZhead channel with content like this. I really respect you Mrs. Ryan for at least trying to help Men and Women out in promoting healthy relationships, positive mindsets and growth in individual 🙏 ❤️. I'm a guy working as a teacher's assistant and counselor seeing unhealthy relationships in people occasionally despite being single myself because I'm happily alone in DA ZONE 😂. I've been watching your videos since 2021 so this channel is really helpful especially on KZhead and social media. This has nothing to do with the video but please listen if you want to otherwise leave it alone and ignore it. Hello my name is Justin and I'm a f Christian and Apologist but I'm also a college graduate. I'm not a closed minded Theist as I have nothing against Atheists or unbelievers as I speak to them often to understand their reasons for unbelief but we as Christians are convinced of God's Existence due to many real factors). I'm not trying to convert anyone or convince anyone to become Christians as that's The Holy Spirit's job to help people believe but only explain why I believe in Jesus Christ. There's actually evidence of God's Existence in Christianity. First of all there's proof that Jesus of Nazareth existed in history since the writings of Tacitus, Josephus Flavius, Pliny the younger and other historical documents prove that He was living two thousand years ago that even scholars both religious and Atheists agree with historically speaking but not that He's The Divine Son of God because obviously they don't. I'm going to give you historical and archeological evidence for God's Existence as The Scriptures have prophecies that predate the events recorded in them by several millennia including Matthew, Hosea and Zechariah which prophesy accurately of the people of Israel becoming a nation again after over 1900 years of being scattered around the nations since the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem in 70 A.D. spoken of by Christ in Matthew 23:29-24:3 and returning to their homeland after The Holocaust with Jerusalem as their capital in 1948 exactly as Jesus The Christ said. The prophets including Daniel spoke of the time where several world empires would arise and fall including the Babylonian kingdom, Medes and Persians, Roman Empire, and Saladin and the Muslims which went in consecutive order for the past few millennia. The people of Israel becoming a nation after The Holocaust in 1948 (ironically the melting point of gold as God compares Israel to gold that's tested in fire in Zechariah 13:8 and Jeremiah 16:15) exactly how Jesus The Christ said would happen since God us everything to come in The Scriptures and not just because people were working towards as Atheists claim which are impossible for any regular man to predict. Just before anyone says Christianity is a white man's religion made to oppress blacks during slavery you obviously aren't aware that the first Christians were Jews in The Middle East and that Christianity just like any religion can be used by evil and corrupt people to oppress others but you forget that the first Abolitionists/Civil Rights activists were Christians who sought to abolish slavery, racism, segregation, injustice and prejudice throughout American history. Jesus The Christ loves you enough not to give you what we all deserve which is God's Wrath by His Own Blood. Charles Darwin didn't originally come up with The Theory of Evolution over 200 years ago as it is mentioned in the writings of Ancient Greeks who believed in Demons that gave knowledge to philosophers. Evolution makes no sense when nothing has evolved after thousands of years of human history and supposedly the first creature came from primordial sludge several millions of years ago funny how they won't believe that God an Eternal Almighty Spirit Being created us from the Earth) which came from a supermassive expansion of matter at high temperature that inexplicably created everything in the known universe that supposedly came from nothing billions of years ago. How did the organs evolve before there were bones, skin, substance and how did any creatures see before eyes evolved? I've studied evolution and abiogenesis in the past and read Darwin's " On The Origin of Species" and I'm not convinced of macro Evolutionary biology whereas I accept micro Evolution like speciation and adaptation but not macro Evolution because there's no evidence of it nor clear observable examples of it where living creatures evolve into other kinds of species plus the fact that fossils don't show evidence of evolution and genetic entropy rules out evolution. The question begs how did two genders evolve from a common ancestor with a perfectly hospitable and sustainable environment with breathable oxygen and resources to survive on inexplicably? Atheists have the burden of proof to explain how everything came to be and why our existence is possible without the Existence of God from an godless perspective just as Christians have to provide evidence of God's Existence and the validity of His Word. Evolution requires life to already exist in order to take any effect in living organisms so it doesn't account for the existence of Life and reality. Also evolution is impossible because it goes against The Law of entropy and the second Law of thermodynamics because evolution makes things better whereas nothing continues to get better but decays and turns to absolute destruction in the end. Mark Ridley an Evolutionist said "No evolutionist whether gradualist or punctuationist uses the fossil record as evidence in favor of The Theory of Darwinian Evolution as opposed to special Creation". God's Existence is made perfectly known and observable in the universe as demonstrated in His Handiwork in the intelligently designed manner that Creation was made, human consciences and consciousness historical and archaeological evidence of God's Word being valid history, fulfillment of Bible Prophecies God in His Holiness and Righteousness could give us what we deserve in Hell for our since but He's merciful to give us free will to choose to accept or reject His gift of salvation by grace through faith in His Son Jesus. I don't mean this is any condescending manner but if you'd like to discuss The Scriptures with me or have me listen to your view on anything my instagram account is Savage Christian Kombatant
I want people to open up to the idea that dating platforms just are not helping them. Dating apps slowly destroy a person's ability to share their authentic self rendering them unable to fully connect.
Lori Gottlieb has a book called "Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough," and there's a part in there where she mentions that maybe the boring men or bad first daters make great life partners. She says that most of the negative experiences women have with men stem from men that are their "type," as usually those men arent good fits for those women. I'd recommend it for people who keep wondering why their relationships don't last or are consistently bad.
Oooh I’ll have to read it! Thanks for sharing 🥰
What a shitty title.
Honestly, being the guy who was "settled for" doesn't sound like a recipe for a good life. Hell sounds like spending the rest of your life with someone who never really wanted you, and only chose you out of sheer lack of optionality and necessity. Also sounds like a recipe for a divorce down the line when one person down the line decides that sheer lack of optionality and necessity is no longer enough to sustain the commitment of the relationship, especially where one party is rewarded for breaking the marriage contract.
Ye olde 1 in the hand or forever chasing the elusive golden one
You've already lost as soon as you consider it "settling". Settling is a horrendous word to use because it absolutely applies that they're not actually good enough. If men and women simply had realistic expectations, the person who they called "good enough" may be great for them. Verbiage matters.
Bravo! 👏🏻 Can we use the word 'stable', instead of 'boring'? Stability is highly underrated.
I like your video title and loved the content, but, EVERYONE needs to hear this! I am a pastor and I meet with a lot of couples prior to their wedding, and I always say, "as important as your wedding day is, I am much more interested in everyday after that day. And to be the best and supporting couple you can be, you need to learn how to communicate and trust each other." This is really the heart of this TikTok. Thanks for sharing!!
That lady on Tik tok is right. Some people believe in love. That is true.
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Delusional people believe in "True Love." Marriage is a legally binding contract between 2 people, the government, and if you are religious God too. For centuries, marriage was used to merge two families together that would financially benefit mutually. Today, marriage is 2 people who feel "good vibes" and decide to share a last name hoping that it doesn't become a "bad vibe."
@@nickd2296 ok dude... true love exists. People like you that most likely just sleep around and chase after women with 100 body counts that have no concept of love are shocked when they find no examples of love in their life, but it exists for the people who chase it.
@@TomLahmjjj Could not be further from the truth lol 😂. I’m a 23 year old virgin who is a man of God.
@@nickd2296 Me too but I'm 24 years old.
I haven't really dated a lot& my body count is 2, as is my husband's, but he was the only man who never once asked me about my body count or being a housewife when we went on a date. He's truly the only supportive man I've ever met & recognizes I'm a person. ❤
I don't think you truly want to have a conversation about what the REAL problems with dating are because the reality and the real truth goes against everything dating coaches are all about. I'm open to having a conversation about this anytime.
Nailed it!
The real problem with dating is ego. Everybody male or female thinks they deserve the very best, instead of taking a look at themselves.
A positive spin is nice to hear/see. To know there are like minded people spawns hope. Thank you Courtney for bringing this to everyone’s attention. Sometimes, all you need is hope.
Great video and commentary as always Courtney. I've been married for 34 years, and she is still very much the love of my life. Here are my tips: 1. Build each other up instead of tearing each other down. 2. Be your significant other's cheerleader instead of detractor 3. Be willing to put your ego aside and compromise 4. Say that you're sorry, even if it's not all your fault 5. NEVER, EVER talk badly about your spouse/SO to others 6. Not everyone will agree with this, but like Courtney frequently says, "Take what you need and leave what you don't". Make faith in God the center of your relationship. If you're both growing closer to God, you're both automatically getting closer together.
I am not sure about #4 but you hit the secret with the rest.
@@elwoodrussell5097 The operative word was "all".
Saying you're sorry when it's not your fault only excuses bad behavior in Women and Men trust me I know having learned that with my mother and older sister.
So if it’s your fault should you apologize? Why would you even apologize if something wasn’t your fault
@@kevindimauro3937 Because it takes TWO people to argue. No, I'm not saying that if you're attacked by your wife/GF you apolgize and say it's your fault. BUT, if you were exchanging hateful words, threats, anything said with venom, etc., then you need to apologize. You have no idea how much a woman (or anyone for that matter) opens up to you and admits their wrongs when you already have. Not everyone of course, but the vast majority of people do. Try it and see what happens the next time you're in a disagreement with someone.
My partner and I have been together for 14 years - since we were a freshman and junior in high school - and neither of us is on social media much and rarely ever post anything about our personal lives or each other. Friends used to ask us why I never posted pictures with her or her posting me, and I always asked them who are those posts supposed to be for? She and I see each other every day, we do stuff together because we love each other's company, and we're perfectly content being together. It's no one else's business what we do, where we go, etc. I couldn't care less about seeing what other are couples doing, and it feels weird to me that other people want to see into our lives.
It’s not that I watch negative content that makes me bitter and upset with the world- It’s more, the world is changing and becoming more and more confusing that it gets frustrating even trying to make sense of it. There’s just a lot of confusion in the world right now and positive content (like yours Courtney) is such a breathe of fresh air. The stress knots in my back never seem to disappear
The world has always been confusing and frustrating. This is may be confusing or frustrating in new and different ways but people ha e always felt that way. Honestly, I'm 45 and wouldn't go back to any previous time that I've ever lived in. My life might be a wreck but the world is in the best shape that it's ever been. It's safer and the quality of life is constantly going up too. Medical care is doing things that would have been considered miraculous even when I was a kid. Technology is connecting the world. I have more information available to me in my pocket than even the greatest libraries in the world had. My sister was able to find love with someone on a other continent because of it.
When I catch a suggested video that's is gross/stupid/ill or I'm just not interested in it on YT I just tell it to not suggest the channel directly. So true about the power of positive thinking and/or influences.
I'm 53 and I grew up believing in love because of the "old-fashioned" love my grandparents had for each other. I'm single and inundated with negativity about modern dating everywhere on the internet. I've sworn off using dating apps and resigned myself to believing that true love doesn't really exist anymore and it's just something you read about in fairy tales or see in movies. So, with that said, it'd be nice to see some positive content that can revive whatever remaining piece of hope that I may have left buried deep inside my chest.
I too am tired of the red pill and manosphere negativity. But I think It's a worthwhile phase for our society to go through. They are doing a very good job of identifying problems we either didn't know we had, or knew all along but chose to ignore. I want them to continue to speak out, but I, myself, have heard enough.
Agreed
Truth right here. Knowledge is power.
They will continue to talk about it as long as society refuses to acknowledge the issues and do something about it.
In any case, men are taking action, not just talking. Many of them are opting out of dating in the west and moving to places where.. you know, they are treated like human beings, not like a fucking resume.
I feel like as a man who is looking for companionship and something more intense than just sex, a lot of people look me in a wierd way when I say that is what I'm looking for, like just being a man is supposed to make you want sex above everything else. No, a lot of people get attached with sex so I rather just do it with someone who likes me and I like her. Idk what's so hard to fathom about this.
Jesus, exactly!!!!😮
LV, your right on track. Companionship for the sake of companionship. It works well until your intimate. Then the dynamics change. Your relationship turns transactional if you want to continue to be together or intimate. Let the controlling behavior begin.
@@briar35981 It should be transactional. Sex is not given for free, you then owe something in return. Makes perfect sense.
Where do you live 🤣
@@pm8401 I think we are forgetting that the woman also gets pleasure from sex no? Isn't sex in itself transactional?
I think it not only starts at consuming a different content online. For me, it started when I stopped allowing "friends" to treat me poorly. It all changed when I found friends that actually liked me or when I learned how to be kinder to myself or when I started unlearning bad habits that were destroying my self esteem. I would've never found my partner if I hadn't done the self-work first.
LOVE this video!! We need more of this because everything doesn’t always need to be doom and gloom! Hope you are feeling better Courtney 🙏🏻
This girl at my job said she doesn't like to cook and that she makes her boyfriend cook. She also said that her boyfriend is too soft, that she's the Alpha one in the relationship. She said she likes him because he's so nice 😅😊😢😂
She's using him obviously but if he knows it I feel sorry for him.
That’s evil wtf she knows what she’s doing
@bens5859 Yea bro
I met my wife when I visited my friend in China. I blindly walked into a culture where friends and families help their members to find spouses. She's the sister of a friend of a friend of my good friend. They each put their own credibility on the line. My friend's credibility was good enough for his friend whose cred was good enough ... for her family. No one could promise any compatibility. That was up to us. But we met with trusted character references from both sides. I can't think of a better way to do it. I wish we could get that kind of networking here in the US. That was 25 EXTREMELY HAPPY YEARS ago.
That is analogous to one unique African way of arranging marriage for "virgins" Families courted and even spied on each other for months even years, before allowing their teenagers to enter courtship Marriages lasted forever.
That's exactly how Asian cultures find spouses for each other. I know because i grew up there. People there care so much about each other, even strangers. I remember even my neighbors sharing food and helping me to find jobs through their connections. It was a huge culture shock after moving to the west because of the cold hearted nature of people here. I came to realize i was on my own, and if i failed at something, people look at me with "well, sucks to be you, you're a loser" attitude as opposed to the sympathetic attitude and drive to help me. In Asian cultures, people acknowledge the fact that you can still fail at something even if its not directly because of your own choices or situations outside your control.
Married for almost 20 years here... I think in today's world where everything is so photograhed and in your face 24/7, that both sexes and definitely more on our female side, that we want marriage & family to LOOK like perfection moreso than BEING a content state of life. Marriage & love are NOT all the things you see in photos! They're not exciting or dramatic with sweeping romantic gestures and moments. THAT IS NOT REAL LIFE. Get that out of your head! Marriage & love are hard work, but also the most rewarding experiences you'll ever have because you lean on one another with confidence in your bond. Sometimes it's boring... in stretches!! The monotonous day-to-day of work, what's for dinner, mow the lawn, has the little one done their homework, etc... is much more plentiful than date nights, getting flowers. You have to be OK with knowing that and just revel in the simplicity of it all, find the joy in simple days, I guess. Here's the deal, though: Having similar values makes it less work. Dig into that subject on the first few dates. You're literally hoping to spend the rest of your life in an intimate partnership with someone who grew up in a different house than you with different parents and different habits. That's already a lot to overcome!! Having similar or shared values from your upbringing about "the way things ought to be" is the key to a successful marriage. It is not about fireworks at first! There may not be an initial attraction to someone for many reasons, but it (and the fireworks) will come eventually if you know what to expect from marriage and you both share values and goals. Real love is your spouse taking the dogs out in the rain or bringing you coffee in bed, not how "hot" they are or how much $$ they earn. Instead of swiping right or left, think guy-next-door or girl-next-door. Just my two-cents after 20ish years of marriage 😊
This could be a double edged sword as we can see all the lovely things that come from a truly loving relationship but it can also further contribute towards the depression of some people who are wondering why they don’t have it.
Perhaps, if looking at HEALTHY, HAPPY RELATIONSHIPS "further contributes to some people feeling DEPRESSION" this is a BIG SIGN saying "Get into therapy!!!" Seeing health & happiness cna be an inspiration for one's own life--if a person is willing to make the effort. Good luck on your journey!
i don't know what else i can do. i dress decently, i have a house and all the bills are paid for. I got to the gym, i can cook, im building a homestead and starting a bakery business. I'm social at the local gameshop/cafe. I'm a Marine vet, i mean i look like a discount V-sauce with a beard. 30 years old. but what else can i do to not be invisible to women? either i get no interest from women or they are the most subtle of signals that i don't pick up on.
Be willing to take the risk to better get to know individual women that you are interested in: ask her to coffee (you said you go to a CAFE)--coffee & talk. PAY ATTENTION at your social gatherings to what you hear women say they are interested in (a kind of music/concert/current movie she wants to see): then, strike conversation & ASK HER TO GO AN EVENT. This can work!!! I tried all sorts of "subtle flirting" for 6 MONTHS with no result. Finally, asked out for local band and the answer was YES...and we were together over 30 years. Maybe this will make it count less but, I'm a WOMAN. I wish more women wuold make a "first move". My partner always called himself "the shyest man on the planet" & that if I hadn't made the first move, nothing would have happened. I lost him to cancer almost a year ago. KEEP TRYING lve is owrth the effort!
Drama = clicks! Happy, wholesome stuff does not interest people as they are ADDICTED to drama & controversy!
Same for news. The worst news gets clicks and $$$. People are fed information they want to hear.
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FACTS exactly why I don't watch the news anymore
@@cur244 Of course, BAD news gets headlines!
@@pmaitrasm It's true tho!
Courtney, you are literally the first person (not female - person) I have ever heard speak highly of their spouse. Keep up the good work.
Have you really never heard a married person speak highly of their spouse?
@@Jeremy-ql1or Not really.
I think also it would be good to cover the shame people feel for being single. One technique I have is focusing on winning, admirable people I know who also happen to be single. This helps me see there is no stigma in it, despite my self-doubts.
"This little light of mine, I'm gonna let it shine" is something I keep to my heart regardless the state I'm in because I've seen positive and healthy examples of relationships throughout my life. Ever since I moved to Scandinavia with seeing so many people holding hands while walking together is always a reminder. I have super loving powers XD and I truly believe there is a woman that will have no fear and finally allow me to express that to her. :)
AMEN. Happy Passion Week everyone. Congratulations on Courtney's 700k subscribers 👏🎉. I like being single too as I'm a 24 year old Christian virgin living with my family until I'm done with work and grad school SOOOO YEAH 👍. Wanting relationships with others is a natural part of life but physical conditioning and fitness is crucial for healthy living and relationships. Men are expected to lead in the relationship with her, take care of themselves physically/emotionally and psychologically as well as be self sufficient because Women like Men who are better than them in certain aspects but are Women deserving of Men? Roma Downey is another KZhead channel with content like this. I really respect Mrs. Ryan for at least trying to help Men and Women out in promoting healthy relationships, positive mindsets and growth in individual 🙏 ❤️. I'm a guy working as a teacher's assistant and counselor seeing unhealthy relationships in people occasionally despite being single myself because I'm happily alone in DA ZONE 😂. I've been watching Courtney Ryan's videos since 2021 so her channel is really helpful especially on KZhead and social media. This has nothing to do with the video but please listen if you want to otherwise leave it alone and ignore it. Hello my name is Justin and I'm a f Christian and Apologist but I'm also a college graduate. I'm not a closed minded Theist as I have nothing against Atheists or unbelievers as I speak to them often to understand their reasons for unbelief but we as Christians are convinced of God's Existence due to many real factors). I'm not trying to convert anyone or convince anyone to become Christians as that's The Holy Spirit's job to help people believe but only explain why I believe in Jesus Christ. There's actually evidence of God's Existence in Christianity. First of all there's proof that Jesus of Nazareth existed in history since the writings of Tacitus, Josephus Flavius, Pliny the younger and other historical documents prove that He was living two thousand years ago that even scholars both religious and Atheists agree with historically speaking but not that He's The Divine Son of God because obviously they don't. I'm going to give you historical and archeological evidence for God's Existence as The Scriptures have prophecies that predate the events recorded in them by several millennia including Matthew, Hosea and Zechariah which prophesy accurately of the people of Israel becoming a nation again after over 1900 years of being scattered around the nations since the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem in 70 A.D. spoken of by Christ in Matthew 23:29-24:3 and returning to their homeland after The Holocaust with Jerusalem as their capital in 1948 exactly as Jesus The Christ said. The prophets including Daniel spoke of the time where several world empires would arise and fall including the Babylonian kingdom, Medes and Persians, Roman Empire, and Saladin and the Muslims which went in consecutive order for the past few millennia. The people of Israel becoming a nation after The Holocaust in 1948 (ironically the melting point of gold as God compares Israel to gold that's tested in fire in Zechariah 13:8 and Jeremiah 16:15) exactly how Jesus The Christ said would happen since God us everything to come in The Scriptures and not just because people were working towards as Atheists claim which are impossible for any regular man to predict. Just before anyone says Christianity is a white man's religion made to oppress blacks during slavery you obviously aren't aware that the first Christians were Jews in The Middle East and that Christianity just like any religion can be used by evil and corrupt people to oppress others but you forget that the first Abolitionists/Civil Rights activists were Christians who sought to abolish slavery, racism, segregation, injustice and prejudice throughout American history. Jesus The Christ loves you enough not to give you what we all deserve which is God's Wrath by His Own Blood. Charles Darwin didn't originally come up with The Theory of Evolution over 200 years ago as it is mentioned in the writings of Ancient Greeks who believed in Demons that gave knowledge to philosophers. Evolution makes no sense when nothing has evolved after thousands of years of human history and supposedly the first creature came from primordial sludge several millions of years ago funny how they won't believe that God an Eternal Almighty Spirit Being created us from the Earth) which came from a supermassive expansion of matter at high temperature that inexplicably created everything in the known universe that supposedly came from nothing billions of years ago. How did the organs evolve before there were bones, skin, substance and how did any creatures see before eyes evolved? I've studied evolution and abiogenesis in the past and read Darwin's " On The Origin of Species" and I'm not convinced of macro Evolutionary biology whereas I accept micro Evolution like speciation and adaptation but not macro Evolution because there's no evidence of it nor clear observable examples of it where living creatures evolve into other kinds of species plus the fact that fossils don't show evidence of evolution and genetic entropy rules out evolution. The question begs how did two genders evolve from a common ancestor with a perfectly hospitable and sustainable environment with breathable oxygen and resources to survive on inexplicably? Atheists have the burden of proof to explain how everything came to be and why our existence is possible without the Existence of God from an godless perspective just as Christians have to provide evidence of God's Existence and the validity of His Word. Evolution requires life to already exist in order to take any effect in living organisms so it doesn't account for the existence of Life and reality. Also evolution is impossible because it goes against The Law of entropy and the second Law of thermodynamics because evolution makes things better whereas nothing continues to get better but decays and turns to absolute destruction in the end. Mark Ridley an Evolutionist said "No evolutionist whether gradualist or punctuationist uses the fossil record as evidence in favor of The Theory of Darwinian Evolution as opposed to special Creation". God's Existence is made perfectly known and observable in the universe as demonstrated in His Handiwork in the intelligently designed manner that Creation was made, human consciences and consciousness historical and archaeological evidence of God's Word being valid history, fulfillment of Bible Prophecies God in His Holiness and Righteousness could give us what we deserve in Hell for our since but He's merciful to give us free will to choose to accept or reject His gift of salvation by grace through faith in His Son Jesus. I don't mean this is any condescending manner but if you'd like to discuss The Scriptures with me or have me listen to your view on anything my instagram account is Savage Christian Kombatant
You have such a great point, I'll be honest, i never had a girlfriend or my first kiss which i find to be sad honestly cause i have always wanted to be a great boyfriend to a special girl in my life
I’ll be honest here. I don’t have or go on tik tok because I don’t have the time. But, I have heard of the toxic videos coming from short reels. A girl just cut off a relationship after this weekend together. There was nothing but positives. Even though I am still hurting but I wish no ill will towards her. I just want what’s best for both of us. The only KZhead I listen to for relationship advice is you Courtney. I listen to you for relationship advice and I pray for a wife daily and read my bible the best I can. Im lifting weights as I’m listening to this to help inspire me to move forward.
I'm 35, until recently I can honestly say that I hadn't seen a healthy relationship in people I know personally.
I meet my current partner during a time I was not looking for love. I was super busy with school and getting adjusted to the new school year and then one Sunday evening I got a notification on my free Hinge account and answered her message. Now we are six months into our relationship together.
So true. The Single Positivity Movement is spreading everywhere and at the same time nobody is selling people on good relationships. You only ever hear how much work you have to put into a relationship but you never hear what you get out of it if you succeed. And then we wonder why so many people don't wanna be in relationships.
Thanks for the video. I love that you emphasized the need for balance. At one level or another, most of us want that great relationship. For many of us, that desire rises to the level of a craving at times. Because the need for a relationship is so central to our humanity, that feeling of craving a relations is normal and natural and to some extent even healthy. However, that intense desire can lead to overlooking warning signs that a particular individual is not a healthy choice. The level of negativity that some content creators exploit is not healthy, but the warning of how bad some people can be is important. We need to understand that this person who seems to touch us so deeply may be a deeply toxic and manipulative person. Watching some of the negative content is worthwhile to keep us balanced and to keep those warnings in our minds. As you said, we need this balance. I've often said that the modern "men's movement" is a mirror held to the ugly face of the "women's movement." One of the ways this is true is that both movements tend to see the other side as monolithic and homogenous. Both want to claim that no one, particularly no one on the other side, is truly an individual but is just a collection of demographic classifications. I believe that view of humanity is evil. In one sense, I'm glad that people see that ugliness in the "men's movement," but they need to see it equally in the "women's movement." When MGTOW was first becoming a popular acronym about seven or eight years ago, I was watching a video where some guy was extolling the virtues of MGTOW. I commented that in many ways, my situation in life, mostly my health, was pushing me towards the MGTOW lifestyle but that I couldn't join the movement because I didn't have the energy to be that angry all the time. The guy didn't catch the subtle criticism in my comment. He answered that generating the anger wasn't necessary. He said that he and others could carry that part of the load and that the rest of us just needed to live the lifestyle in order to do our parts. He missed my point that I understand the value of not actively pursuing relationships sometimes but saw that consuming anger as unhealthy. I have essentially lived a MGTOW lifestyle, particularly since my health failed. I'm just not in a good place to try to pursue a relationship. However, I don't see that choice as going "on strike" against women as part of making some great demands. Instead, that's just where I am in life. I'm something of an advocate for HGTOW or Humans Going Their Own Way at certain times for certain people. Whether because of health issues or just a need to focus in a different direction, there are times when we have to put the pursuit of relationships on a back burner. That doesn't mean that we should be "on strike" against the opposite sex. I've watched content from numerous channels over the years. I haven't watched a Better Bachelor video in a while, but parts of his approach have value. I enjoy Sarah Dawn Moore's content. Even though I'm not in a place where I think I can sustain a relationship, I enjoy learning. As my comments have shown, I watch much of your content. Another creator who might not seem to fit this genre is Joey Swoll. He's more of a fitness influencer and doesn't talk about relationships specifically. His emphasis is to call out toxic behavior in gym environments. He criticizes both men and women who do things that make using public gyms a bad place for others. One of his tag lines is something like "You can do better." The point is that he calls for people to treat one another with respect and positivity in the fitness environment. If people would take that attitude to the gym and to every part of life, society would be in a much better place. If you are still reading and haven't seen his work, I recommend him.
I haven't watch the video yet but know i need to hear this. I just realized i've been consuming way to much RP and it just makes you negative and allways trying to see negative in your partner, twist and overanalyze things. It feels like im allways on the edge and cant seem to just enjoy the relationship. Before in my LTR i didn't consume this trend and was way more carefree and happier without it. So it's a reallyt important reminder to dont drown in this content and what your feeding your brain with. Some channels outthere never focus on the good side and qualites.
I've been with my husband for 21 years. We have two grown-up sons. Our sex life hasn't dwindled down at any point. We had a huge marriage crisis 2 years ago when we wanted to break up. There were many reasons for that. We got back together after an absolutely brutal period in our lives. It has changed us both. We got through that. I don't think we'd be so close and happy now without that crisis.
21 years and still a healthy sex life? I’ve never had better than 2, I always knew it could be like what you guys have, and I will remember that your relationship is proof it can happen :)
Yeah, everything you described is just not realistic for us guys to expect. It's almost become a troupe at this point. We know that the sex life will dwindle, she will get bored and take half of our stuff, we will become her emotional tampon, etc. Everything you described would be above and beyond our expectations for love and romantic relationships. We've prepared ourselves not to expect everything you just said 😒
You nailed it. Relationships require work, and a relationship being "boring" just means that both sides have settled into a comfortable place and there's no chaos or toxicity happening. Even both my mom and step mom (both of whom are in their mid 60s) agree that the healthiest relationships are the boring ones. Its about making it work and being a family, not chasing a constant stream of dopamine. For me, outside of Courtney I really like Shoe on Head, Hamza, Taylor the Fiend and Locke the Bounty Hunter. I generally just straight up block all feminist/blue pill channels and all other "red pill" channels that YT sticks into my feed at this point and I will never, ever touch tiktok. My current view of relationships and women is largely colored by bad past experiences (being taken advantage of, seeing male friends get cheated on or abused, reading too many profiles on dating apps, my parents' divorce, several abusive relationships of my own, etc) and Taylor was just kind of the last nail in the coffin. I have no interest in being blindly hateful of women, but I do appreciate how Taylor's content opened my eyes to what women today are doing. He's pretty chill and constructive in his reactions and he does a good job of explaining why he reacts the way he does; I like that he doesn't just viciously roast the girls he reacts to (that's what I watch Locke for lol). I was very blue pilled before my last GF and I needed the wake-up call. I do think its important to have a mix of critical and wholesome in the content we consume, especially for people that are not so far gone that they can still be brought back. I don't think anything is going to get better if men and women keep hating each other like this. But at the same time, I'm too jaded at this point to have any interest in being one of the sacrificial lambs that try to contribute to fixing things
Great video. I completely agree we need to see more examples of healthy relationships and happy people. Too many people are only seeing the worst of relationships and the opposite sex, and falling into an algorithm-based echo chamber where everything is hopeless and every relationship is terrible. But as you said, there are many normal, good people who do want love and commitment out there. Its great that there are channels like yours giving helpful advice and offering a positive, hopeful outlook for men and women. Your videos are much appreciated, Courtney. Thank you!
What a lovely, honest, straight-forward, self-aware, genuine person she is. No wonder she struggles with modern dating.
I mean yeah
Very good video and advice. You are so wonderful, up-lift, elegant, filled with grace and so lovely. Thank you.
It's not about positive or negative anecdotes, it's about the ratio of those because it tells you something about your chances. Listening and believing only positive stories is about just as bad as listening to only negative ones. I have my peace. ALONE.
I have no happy stories to tell but for reason I've never felt butthurt or bitter because people around me are dating and are in healthy relationships, good for them
You nailed it! I appreciate the positivity. All the best to you and Teddy!
As my aunt told me, garbage in, garbage out.
Good thoughts. There’s so much extreme out there right now. In a different context, I tend to dismiss product reviews that are overly good or bad. I red the 2 and 4 star reviews and feel like I get a better picture.
I went through a few months of watching Red Pill/MGTOW content but removed it all from my subscriptions. Coming out of a bad breakup it very temporarily served a purpose to demystify obsessive attraction, but luckily I realised that it wasn't helping me become a better person. At the same time, I was watching a few dating/lifestyle coaching channels and I just kept consuming that, buying helpful books and doing courses they recommended and it has all been a great help. Still haven't ended up in a relationship in the last few years, but it doesn't bum me out anymore.
In your last video, I did mention that being single for a long time really does bother you as a person, even though you're trying to be positive. And continue growing as a person. It really does mess with you and makes you think that there is something wrong. again, I've been single for a long time. And people just say stay single. It's not always easy. When you hear it from someone who's in or just got of a relationship
Same. I never made it past a 3rd date. It's unfathomable for me to be in a long term relationship. The worst is when married people say they are glad they don't have to date in today's dumpster fire. It's like someone on the Titanic saying they're glad they got a lifeboat.
Your comment about there still being good men & women out there resonated with me. I know I'm a good person, and I want to find someone. But I can't find someone... 😔
Courtney, men enjoy your content, becsuse you are honest, compassionate and real, with no fluff! You are genuine about wanting to see men in positive relationships. I still believe in love, and feel alot like that woman you featured, from Tik Tok. I constantly look for the positives, that a relationship with a woman could bring. One person on social media I started to follow, at first, was Sarah Dawn Moore. She stated " All men matter". But after about 6 months, she flipped the script. She also started to be an online dating coach, when, in her own life, her personal life was a disaster. So I had to stop listening. Because, I want positivity in my life. I'm a no drama llama. This is why viewing all your videos is uplifting, and healthy. Because you are, so thank you!
We are all individuals you need to care about your "partner " enough to compromise all the majority of issues and be good with that.
Glad to see life is still something worth living for some people. Hope things like this go viral
Ryan ! Stay Blessed , happy , & healthy for ever . 🙏🏼💥
You too my friend ❤️
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@@zinan2959 Pl kindly elaborat your msge , as I could not understand , along with your introduction . I Thank you for that . 🙏🏼💥💝
@@CourtneyRyan You as well Mrs Ryan
BORING relationship in this Worlds situation is so relaxing situation - no corona - no war - no money problems! How fantastic situation this BORING-thing is. I think most people underestimate boring life.
You are such a nice, genuine, caring and intelligent person. Its very obvious. It feels so good to know and witness people like you are alive out in this world today. Thanks for making my day a little better just from being yourself! Its not even the great video or being an attractive woman, as much as it is watching and listening so such a genuinely caring and passionate fellow human being doing their best to help others and mostly strangers. And knowing the tremendous about of strength and courage it takes to be freely be yourself while speaking these kinds of facts and truth to hundreds of thousands of people that are mostly strangers. Glad I clicked on you today!
Courtney, you've been a positive influence on me. I'm 28 and have been in a serious relationship, and am hoping to change that this year. All the negativity was starting to get to me before I discovered your channel. I've been watching all your videos and you've given me so much confidence in getting myself out there and pursuing woman which is something I've never done before prior to this year. I can't thank you enough!
Thank you for posting this. I’m grateful to be around some great relationships. I may be single, but on observation, they are mostly couples who do things together. It’s simple stuff like going to church together, playing on the same volleyball team and working out together. No offense to web influencers, but find people around you and listen to the good ones. Again Courtney, you are doing a wonderful job on giving solid advice!
She was not boring and as you said refreshing. Some great marriages I know were great love stories Mel Brooks & Anne Banckcroft 1964 to 2005 (she passed away), Gene Wilder & Gilda Radner 1984 to 1989 (she passed away), and Ron Howward and Cheryl Alley since 1975
Im happy for all the people found love and they are in very healthy relationships with each other and for the singles out there don't lose hope love takes time you will find someone in the right time just don't rush you have lots of time so take heart ❤️
I have many many years of experience and can spot the good and the bad. And expect no monetary value of any kind in return.
It’s always nice to have some positive messaging once in awhile. I’ve been single for nearly six years now, and did try dating for a little bit, but ultimately quit dating and joined a gym and I feel so much better since. It’s nice to hear people have common sense and positive things about dating, but I’m not going back out there, and I can’t see myself ever getting married let alone having a committed relationship. I value my solitude and independence.
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I follow a creator named Courtney Ryan. Her content is really positive, wholesome, and informative! 10/10 would recommend!!
I personally think that you should treat your significant other as your best friend and you wouldn’t disrespect your best friend. While all relationships are going to have issues you shouldn’t be disrespecting your partner in videos online or in front of other people.
Hey Court!!! ❤ YOUR CHANNEL GIRLFRANNNN!!!
I've worked very hard to remove hateful people from my life in recent years, life is too short for that BS, only positive and inspiring content and people for me, like your channel, from now on. It's made such a difference to my life.
Society has degraded to the point it’s near impossible to find a strong, secure, genuine woman, EVERY woman I’ve met, gets really doubtful and jealous when I want to be alone, try to give them space or trust them. Hate it when I have to prove I’m not cheating, even though most times I send a short thoughtful text when we are not together and I don’t want to be bothered, it disturbs my peace, It’s quite frustrating. Haven’t met the one yet.
Idk all relationships i see even in real life just make it seem like no relationship is worth it. Especially when the 2 or 3 women I've ever dated all cheated on me, how am I supposed to be motivated anymore?
Yeh I feel that man so sad so Sorry your experiencing that Ive expierenced this particularly in High school 🥺🥺😭😭
I just work everyday to the point you don't think about having a partner because all the time is spent making money
Plenty of advice I'd give 18 year old me now at 26. Mainly, the 18 year old women are all going for the 26 year old men and it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. I figured this out when 18 and 19 year old women starting showing interest in me now that I'm 26 😂
I personally think things were much simpler years ago without online dating or the social media toxicity. Much simpler time. The genie however cannot be put back in the bottle so we have to learn how to use it wisely. In my childhood growing up in the 90's none of this existed. It's a societal problem with not alot of easy solutions corporately. Individually however we can learn how to use it responsibly and sensibly.
The negative content can bring you down and turn you against relationships. But it can also confirm past decisions to not be in one.
Because of many different factors (culture, finances, lack of communities) the hardest battle that young men will have is funding a respectable, dedicated long term mate. Please don't give up. Nothing worth accomplishing is easy.
I once again have asked for nothing, yet getting so much good advice in your vids. One day maybe I will step outside and use the tips and your oppinion. Love your vids, love the effort, thanks!
I've been struggling with this. Someone who has been broken down tried to give me advice and I told them I'm going to take advice from people who made it work. This goes for success in more than just dating. Be careful who you listen to.
Hi Courtney! I’m super glad to see some sorely needed positivity on the internet when negativity is sadly alive and well. Personally, it’s been seven months since my engagement ended in a breakup, not a wedding. Even so, I remain hopeful and optimistic for my romantic future. I am of the mentality that a bad end to something leads to a good beginning.
Wishing you the very best, my friend. Thank you for sharing ❤️
I have some married friends that have a good relationship. I pay attention to how they interact with each other and the things they do. It lets me know that there is a good woman out there for me. The people that talk bad about their significant other on the internet might have a communication problem with their partner and need to talk to them about the issues face to face.
Not that I would be bad at dating, I just don't wish to put in the effort.
Met my wife online actually through Facebook. Saw her in a wedding video dancing, I added her, slid into the DMs and rest is history! Actually it’s still ongoing. I’m American and she’s British, so we’re going through the whole immigration process right now for her to come here. But she and I before getting married video called every single day (not exaggerating). Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. We asked the serious and deep questions before we decided to marry and it’s ongoing. Respect, along with love, is so important as well. If you don’t respect your partner you won’t love them effectively either.
"rest is history" I call bullshit. How come you don't share some of the details?
"so we’re going through the whole immigration process right now for her to come here." Uhhhhh...... I'm wanting some more details of this story because we might be looking at a man who needs some help, whether he realizes it or not. Can I ask how you came upon that original FB video where you saw the girl? When you say she is British, is her ancestors British or did her family recently come to the UK from some other country? I am not trying to sound racist but this is important to consider. You need to appreciate how much some women will manipulate men when immigration status is an issue in their life. Most importantly, how long have you known her for and how much real life time have you spent with her.
I am currently single, not necessarily in the dating pool as I have a lot of personal work to do. Part of the personal work is finding my identity and being secure in who I have been created to be. I went from relationship to relationship because I honestly was afraid of being single and alone. Now that came into play, it's not as scary as I thought it would be. I have started to recognize what real peace is, and not allowing anyone to disrupt it. In my marriage of 7 years, everything was put out for everyone to see. I was emasculated by someone who was very insecure and mentally unhealthy. After starting to follow people like you (Courtney Ryan), How to Beast, Stirling Cooper, Caitlin V, Jordan Peterson, and Taylor Johnson, I have seen improvements in my thinking processes and how I relate to others. All of these influencers give me hope that inspire me to keep going, keep pushing forward, and keep learning.
As someone who never made it past a 3rd date, that sounds really nice to be able to jump from relationship to relationship.
That was absolutely phenomenal advice miss Courtney 👏👏 on... point.
Courtney! I discovered you channel a few days ago and have been helped a lot by your content. Your video on men’s income really got to me. It would be interesting to me if you also asked them about what kind of job they would want men to have. If a guy was making 100k as a plumber or truck driver does that matter? Thanks
I struggle with believing the best of people. Some days I see myself as a grandpa in a wonderful, happy, healthy family. Other days I believe that I am the only single person on planet earth and always will be. So I don't know.
You aren’t the only single person on earth so you can stop believing that now! I like the first one better. Hugs to you 🥰
Yeah. That's the struggle I'm dealing with.
I understand what that's like not being taken seriously but wanting to earn the level of respect your actions deserve.
Nah Chris, I got your back being single. Almost 30 years since my divorce. Life is good. House, Land, and cars paid for. Got me a long term health care policy that will grant me assistance when I get to old to be alone. Do what I want when I want. Kids are grown and doing well. You'd do well selling me marriage or a relationship. I never knew how bad of a person I was until I was in a relationship. LOL
Law of Attraction: what you truly believe from the bottom of your heart is what you will attract. Steeping in the online negativity and lashing out at the opposite sex (this goes for both men and women) is sometimes done to ease our own loneliness by using negativity as a way to vent our own frustrations. I've caught myself becoming too negative and cynical, and bringing this awful attitude into the real world and being toxic to others. The internet has an algorithm that feeds back more information you "want to see" back at you, further feeding the negativity. The mind needs to be kept clean just as much as the body, as much as your house, discard what is disruptive and dysfunctional, reject and question thoughts and attitudes that limit your perspective.
Damn, this video hit the nail on the head with our current societal problems.
Great video. Thank you
We've all gonna die alone and nothing matters
Respectfully, why so negative? You are going to prove your own belief.
Courtney, what would you recommend for people that have major medical problems like massive chronic back problems and hip problems, in regards to dating. I feel like I am undatable because my pain/medical problems is a massive burden and limits everything and makes everything more difficult. I am very mentally and emotionally healthy because I’ve done a lot of work on both those things my entire life. I’m doing everything in my power to get my body back to functioning again. I miss having love and a relationship in my life. Right now my mentality is to wait until I’m better before I actively try to date. It’s just that I’m tired of waiting it’s been over 12 years of solitude.
My advice - try it and fate will tell you whether this is meant for you. It didn't workout for me but it may work for you. I agree that holding on to hate, bitterness, and other similar things will slowly drain or corrode you life. This is why i am happy i made peace with women and i moved on with life. Life is way too short to be miserable and i am enjoying it now by making more use of my time. Running 2 Marathons (latest was March 2024) is definitely a life accomplishment. But, i am traveling more and slowly seeing more of the world. I am also happy that i don't go around spreading negativity to everyone. Since checking out in 2015, things have gotten bad in the dating scene and i hope things will turn around for everyone. Some people can handle being alone ( Introvert) while others need attention. Try dating first and if that doesn't work for you then go with option B (Alone). If you go with option B, you must stay very busy and remain active. Running, Hiking, training for Marathons are good examples and it takes lots of time and dedication. Stay safe out there and have a good day.
There's that saying Misery loves company . That's why people sadly are so quick to talk about a bad story on media than a good one. But just like that girl in the tik tok video I still believe in Love too and looking for it and I don't care how much people trash talk it.
Great content! I love to see it! but one criticism is that I have no social media so i have no way to see the follow ups to the tiktok and would love to see them!
Awww noted going forward! I should have shown a few of them ❤️
I'm glad you found the right person too Courtney 😊
I stopped watching news related KZhead channels, eg Philp DeFranco ect, deleted instagram and any other social media apps… I know it sounds strange but everyday was just doom and gloom about how f’ed everything is and I wasn’t seeing any good in the world, it was getting worse and worse. I cleaned out all those channels and replaced them with self improvement channels. And I feel so much better after making them changes. I started taking advice from these new channels and I’m 20kg’s (44 pounds) down after being 90kg’s (198 pounds) I still have somethings I would love to fix in my life before meeting someone but until then this journey will continue. 🙂 Cheers Courtney for helping me steer my life in the right direction, You go alright 👍🏻
Richard Coopers book/channel helped me a lot with how women think. Love your beautiful content Courtney and your husbands as well!
As a woman... glad it helps you and that you're working on yourself, but rather than try and understand it all, I think the best think you can do is learn to accept and actually like the way women are. ETA: don't go around with the preconceived notion that women are complicated, say no when it means yes, only want money, etc etc. Now I'm talking about you liking an emotionally mature, honest woman here, not a manipulative Cinderella. In order to avoid those you yourself need to be mature, honest, uncomplicated, and caring. Like attracts like. Good luck! ❤
@@purpurina5663 Well said my dear Lady.
love is a service, ie. you serve the needs of someone when you are in love, it's not all about feelings and emotions
Courtney is always a breathe of fresh air