Normal Friend vs INFJ Friend
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just a comedy sketch about what INFJs theoretically are like as friends
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0:00 “If you ever need to talk”
0:07 How INFJs plan fun
0:13 Compliments
0:17 How INFJs ask for advice
0:29 Why INFJs never recommend things
0:47 Soooo how did the date go???0:56 Mike’s acting weird
1:07 Why INFJs give great advice
1:16 Hows INFJs resolve conflicts with friends
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Are you sure you can't do a daily? I need my thoughts provoked more often. LOL
@@StephanieJeanne I was thinking the same! 😆 I could happily read more of them 😄 they always lift me up when I'm getting overwhelmed 😅
@@ArtistIntuiting 🙌😂 Exactly! 💜
This only applies to actual friends lol
You not normal.!?
the "infjs never recommend things" is so accurate 😭 i told my friend about an artist I love so much and he didn't like it. Since then, i kept all my interest to myself and I'm fine with that
I only revealed one band that's on my playlist and only to my two closest friends. And I never told anybody else. They didn't say much tho but I know that's because they don't have the same taste in music tho
Yeah, I'm very careful about sharing things I enjoy with others. The only ones I really trust are my family, because we share the same tastes. And I know them well enough to know when they will or won't like something, so I know what to share and what to keep to myself.
Omg it's so true
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Very true! I find it hard to give my true opinion sometimes. It can feel so awkward. I fall into that 'tell them what you think they want to hear' approach. You know, just in case they don't agree with me and I end up feeling stupid!
As an INFJ, I feel extremely called out but I'm choosing to leave this comment because I enjoyed the content and want to encourage community engagement. 😬
yay thank you!!
That's very nice & polite of you! I'm going through a period of healing & self discovery where my reactions are edgier to help me step more into my power. I was too nice for too long, but started growing up in retirement. Thx for being here!🤗💓
Same.....
Mee too, I feel busted by Frank. 😅
Trueee 😮💨
As an INFJ it crushes me if someone doesn’t like a recommendation I make, meanwhile if someone doesn’t like a recommendation my ENTJ husband makes he will go on and on about why they’re wrong 😂 I admire his confidence.
Como é o casamento com um ENTJ? 😮 Ele tem paciência com seu jeito "tranquilo e ansioso" de levar a vida?😅
@@idnationsIt’s been a learning curve for both of us but he’s pretty patient now and I’ve learned to express anxiety more sparingly 😂 Going on 9 years so I can say it does work, I think our personalities balance one another really well ❤️
I’m married to an ENTP and I can say the same. Definitely a learning curve but our personalities need each other, it seems 😂
Another INFJ married to an ENTJ. (Well, someone right on the border between ENTJ and ENTP, but ENTJ ekes out a win by a tiny margin.) We've been married for under a year, lived together for five, and dated for seven. Consistent communication, keeping the disagreement healthy (such as not bringing up something that happened forever ago or attacking the other's character), using our inside voices, and trust that the other isn't lying or leaving things out makes disagreements much less stressful to work out. I also indulge the ENTP side a bit, even though I get tired from debating pretty fast 😂 Learning to navigate each other's personalities is an adventure, but it just seems to work well somehow!
@@LykouDan my ENTJ loves debating as well 😂 i think trusting the other persons intentions and not attacking their character is huge! You have to learn how to argue or “debate” in a healthy manner because it’s just going to be a part of life with these types 😅
As an INFJ, I am often like : "This random guy I have never met before seems to have issues. I should help him." then : "I don't want to use all my energy of the day for someone I will never meet again. Well, I'm gonna ignore that."
me too...at least 57 times per day
The waiting six years for something to resolve itself is something that hit home entirely too hard for me, damn dude
Same. That was the part that bothered me most….because when giving advice to others, I actually do prove that I know better 😬 😬 😂
That is me to a tee. Ugh. I hate it
Absolute truth! 😅
yup.... everything muggles do!
A fairly accurate portrayal. I don’t feel attacked at all.
lol
don't worry, me as an enfp i just shove recommendations down my friends throats all the time spamming content so they'll feel left out and join in on the fun 👼I could be your nagger
@@Pinkywinkykinky You’re sweet, thank you💖✨
👌👌@@CassieAngelica
@@Pinkywinkykinkywow my enfp friend nags me into doing/checking out new things all the time. Haha.
Yep...INFJs certainly let things come to a boil and pretend it didn't bother us hoping it would just go away. WE REMEMBER IT FOR LIFE, THOUGH.
Lol
Lol! INFJ here. I'm laughing because it's true! Frank, sometimes I feel like you're the only one who truly understands me! You did it again. 😂
@@chintanpramanik5959 ok, thanks 😊.
Me too. All INFJ, let's meet at Frank's house in about 5 years.
@nancyd2240 nice plan, but we all know none of us would show up. 😂
@chintanpramanik5959 yes, Wenzes is great 👍
@@nancyd2240se ele tiver energia até lá 😂
"Maybe it's time for you to do something I have never done and will probably never do." 🙌 If that's not classic INFJ thinking, I don't know what is! I loved this one (and the brown wig). 😂
This is the most accurate thing 😅
That's the one that made me laugh out loud because it was so me!
As if we could ever listen to our own advice 😂
The making decisions and still asking for advice is sooo accurate + noticing Mike is cherry on top. I mean why is our intuition so right but we still think is he really toxic and am I the one who actually has the problem??💀💀
Whenever something is right. And I know it is. I still have to check 😭 It's not only about this. Today I spent 20 seconds trying to figure out is 4 divided by 2 actually 2 or am I distracted. And for a little bit of context, I'm the best student in my math class 💀
@@dunjad1252Just remember you're not alone in doing that type of thing. There are many of us out here. 😅
@@dunjad1252omg Y is this sooo relatable -
I feel it's a good thing idk sometimes this save me from situations i don't want to be in and didn't think about
I think it's about gathering other perspectives so we make sure our intuition didn't mess something? Or it's our Fe
Oh my goodness the “you’re pregnant” incident happened with my friend last year lmao I didn’t say it explicitly, but I told her “you’re just so radiant today!” and my friend was like “….she knows.” We had a big laugh about it later once she officially told everyone😂😂
Could you tell she was pregnant based on physical changes, or was it just the fact that she seemed excited about something but hadn't shared it yet?
I've known friends were pregnant before they knew they were pregnant! I don't know how, as it's not something I try to do, I think we just tend to be good at subconsciously picking up on little cues?
Eu tenho medo de dizer isso e a pessoa não estar. Então tento elogiar dizendo algo como: você está tão bonita 😊
@@faolan2174provavelmente nós não notamos mudanças físicas tão facilmente (uma pessoa pode pintar o cabelo de azul e o INFJ não perceber 😅). É como um brilho que sai da pessoa, eu não sei explicar com palavras, mas é como se a pessoa ficasse radiante.
I knew my friend Karen was pregnant before they announced. I do love being right!
The decision thing is so true! I love to ask my sister every single thing already knowing I will do what I want at the end lol
I am an ISFJ and have learned that most of the time I am going to what I want to do so don't bother asking anyone for their opinions/advice.
Ah yes, the classic INFJ "Ask for an opinion and disregard it immediately to do what was originally planned, but also feel guilty if the other person is upset at being disregarded"
True...😂
Similarly that’s how I online grocery shop. I find the product I already know I’ll buy but am compelled to scroll through & compare every other similar product. It’s exhausting and I can’t stop! 🤨
I always knew I wasn't the "normal" friend but watching this play out really drives it home 🤣 Especially the part about "I've already decided but I'm gonna run it past someone anyway" 😂😂😂
Yessss 😂😂😂
Making the decision and then validating just to triple check and have other perspectives. Also, giving advice and encouraging people to be happy and a balanced life while…yeah…you know. 😅😅😅
INFJ HERE!! 🎉
I’m also an INFJ
Honestly out of everything there the one that resembled my INFJ husband the most is the last one. That is why whenever I get even the slighest hint that something is bothering him I always remind him that he has a safe space to talk about it NOW. RIGHT NOW. Hearing about it three months to a year from now in conversation will not make it easier for me. It will just make me feel worse.
Does it work for him? I'll admit, the longer I wait to talk about something, especially if it's trivial, the more I feel guilty about being bothered by it at all, and really don't want to bring it up, even though it still bothers me enough that I can't let it go either...
@faolan2174 For him, not really. He usually opens up with 'funny story I had this in the back of my head for some reason and I should have said something sooner..'. But he doesn't really lose sleep over it. (Even with the more serious of problems.) Then there is me. Holding back worsened my anxiety to the point that my brain started hiding my own emotions from ME. I lose sleep. I have panic attacks. This is why I always force myself to talk. Maybe I'm projecting a little on to him 🤔🤔. I'm 100% an over thinker though and I literally wrote this comment a good 12 times before posting so 😅
Don't give up on working through communication and not avoiding conflict. Your peace of mind is worth it, and we overthink things so much. It gets easier in ways, and you get more confident. I believe in you, fellow INFJ ! Let us not sabotage ourselves.
Thank you 😊
As a 28 year old INFJ, I’m slowly maturing more and more every day and therapy has helped me find a way to be assertive without appearing aggressive or rude. So amen to everything in your comment!! Go fellow INFJs, bask in your INFJ strengths and pull yourself out of the people pleasing depths of despair
Thank you!
say that to my selective mutism ong
@@jamiehackney5619 yes 🙌
The intuition part is so true... I suddenly had a hunch one day while walking to the cafeteria that my (ex) best friend was only ever walking around with me to make herself look prettier. She always wore makeup and had delicate features where as I only ever wore lipstick and had somewhat stronger more mature features. And although I wasn't "plain Jane" when she stood next to me, she always stood out as really beautiful and people would approach her more frequently to talk to her than (as I observed) when I was far. This was really strange as I never cared about my appearance except for being presentable (as my mother had raised me) so I knew I wasn't insecure. I brushed it off as paranoia as why would my bestfriend ever do that to me...until a month later I saw her true colors and realized it was just my intuition giving me a heads-up. And afterwards someone (I can trust with my life) telling me the same exact thing to warn me against her so I don't make the mistake of forgiving her. It's crazy but I've learned my lesson to never doubt my intuition for even a minute. Also, I was able to figure out a close friend of mine secretly publishing poetry under a pseudonym. She was shocked how I found out that it was her work. I had to reassure her that she didn't make a mistake in keeping her secret and that I just have a crazy intuition. lol
Oh man, this resonates so much. I feel exhausted just watching it 😰 … one day, the world will appreciate and value all of our INFJ gifts … in the meantime … Im going to continue avoiding the world as best as I can while still overthinking about how the world is overwhelming and ridiculous
You need to learn how to use your mental shield well by practising awareness. Love you all INFJs from another INFJ ^^
Turns out I'm at a similar state as you, overwhelmed by the absurdness of the world and yet not wanting to break... Infact people think I'm rigid, well they're right because I'm not willing to bend my values for anything. At the moment making sense of the vast complexities of our society can perhaps bring some peace
It is so funny, yesterday, 2 INFJs friends complained about being overwhelmed with social media, thinking it to be an introverted thing. Then INTJ like me went in and said i was not overwhelmed, it must be what on their feed and their algorithm or they lacked focus for wandering around aimlessly. They must hate me.
@@linhduong0809 I'm an infj, and I said the same thing about being too overwhelmed with the world and social media lately because it's tiring for my intp friend, she just asked me why haha I think that we infj's, in a way, because we are very empathetic, we end up isolating ourselves a lot, whether to avoid other people's emotions as much as possible or to avoid seeing the horrible things that happen every day in our world (whether in reality or on the internet), because this leaves us overwhelmed and very sad to the point that it can ruin our day. I don't know if I managed to explain it well, sometimes I don't even understand us lol. I'm sure your friends don't hate you, we also like to hear other points of view :)
@@linhduong0809 I absolutely appreciate input from others; I looooove it. I’m an INFJ and love my non INFJ friends. And you are absolutely correct; we have to change what we’re looking at on social media, in order to not be overwhelmed. Sounds like you did them a favor. ❤
So very true. Infj here. Didn't even realize I did that about recommending things but it's honestly so true. It IS complicated 😂 the best thing to do is recommend things you've enjoyed enough but not EXTREMELY enjoyed.
Clearly Frank is an excellent INFJ friend. :)
As an infj I agree with this except the part about having friends😢
I'm an INFJ & I have invisible friends & an Imaginary Ex Boyfriend now, lol.🤷
So perfect 😂 though Frank James is our friend 😊 he even wished me happy birthday 🎉 and an added bonus that he's not invisible ❤
I am an infj and I can totally relate.And I really love you Frank James ,you are really a very beautiful human
aw thanks
The bit about recommending stuff is so darn true, it's so crushing when they don't like it or even worse, they criticize it.
That last one. I hate confrontation so much that I prefer to learn to adjust my attitude and reaction to something a friend does that bothers me then to actually talk to them about it. Not always, but a ton. It has to be pretty bad for me to bring it up.
Same
Admit it y'all, we're the therapist friend that is in most need of therapy 💔😂
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Yes
jokes on you im the therapist infj friend and has gone to therapy, haha! (i still have depression and selective mutism.)
@@majestikhunn don't worry, it's not an over night mission. You're on the way and I'm proud of you for putting yourself out there and taking action towrds the betterment of your mental health 👍🏻👏🏻
"I would never recommend something to you that I actually enjoy, because if you ended up not liking it, I wouldn't be able to enjoy it anymore". Scarily accurate, but there's also the other side of "I would never recommend something to you that I actually enjoy, because if you ended up _liking_ it I wouldn't feel like it's *my* thing anymore. And I have so few things that I can call "mine", that I would rather just keep it a secret" I rarely recommend something that touches me deeply because of these reasons 😂🤣
Agreed! Some things, or experiences of them, feel sacred.
The asking for an advice being just seeking validation for your choice and the giving advice that I'd never do are really spot on 🤣 I'm used to my ISFJ friend that usually looks at me and says: "Yeah, no, I'd never do it", so I wasn't ready when I gave my ENFP sister a really brave advice and she actually did it! It was really helpful, though, so I guess a win is a win 😌
ENFPs can be weird supportive friends to INFJ.
"It's complicated." Yeah, that pretty much describes us - infj
"Maybe it's time for you to do something I have never done and will probably never do." I feel CALLED. OUT. 💀
“There’s a food festival in six months. Maybe by then I’ll have the energy to go.” I’m an INFP but I felt that
0:22 is the literal story of my life. Even if I do something exactly correct, by the book, definition perfection, I STILL doubt that I'm doing it right because I think and feel that everything I do or say is always somehow wrong. I need blatant validation multiple times that you and I both know the logistical correct answer/advice is so I can uncomfortably follow through with whatever I've decided to do, while doubting every second of it on the inside as it's happening and overthinking it afterwards, because my self doubt is crippling... It's fun being an INFJ-T!
I'm an infj, and whenever i want to feel understood or find relatable content, i just go watch Frank James videos. They really make me happy❤❤
God that last scene though... "This is awkward because you've actually been extremely emotionally abusive to me over the last decade or so..." 😂
Letting something boil for a long time, pretending it doesn't bother me...yup. You nailed it
Yes, that's me. Or a smarter version, like I always recommend shows I love and blindly run into the after-effect of thinking something's wrong with me when the other person doesn't like it (and has good reasons for it).😄
I mean how is it possible to be THIS accurate?? I don't even think that these sentences are generic and could've been said by most people, right? I have said every single one before and as an INFJ, I'm not even surprised anymore.😂😂 Loved it!
00:29 So. Much. Yes. The more I love something, the less I recommend it. I would take it personally if someone hated what I love 😅
"The event is in 6 months, maybe I'll have enough energy by them to go". Sure, so I can stress for 6 months leading up to the event I said I'd go to - INFJ.
As an INFJ, knowing when someone is pregnant before they tell me is my superpower.
Ohh my God! Mine too!
Literally two weeks ago I finally ended things with a friend I hadn’t been feeling good about for like, 2 years hahaha but I needed time to ✨process✨
I was talking (texting) to my friend when this popped up, she was complaining why didn’t I make a plan to meet her while she was saying so since May. Now I am on my way to share this video with her 😈 And nice video 👏😅
Frankie my favourite, I give him a Nick Name 😂
For the "needing help" segment i was really expecting INFJ to just be in total silence for several minutes 😂
This is so accurate 😄 ''there's a food festival in 6 months, maybe by then I'll have the energy to go'' 🙈😂 I'm also really feeling the bit about making a decision before talking to people lol and the recommending stuff …''It's complicated'' 😂😅
This video was quite relatable. It would be great if you would make a video on 'When INFJs believe they have transformed into ENFJs'.
Hahaha, that would be great
The Infj sketches you make are just so relatable. This honestly describes me how I am with my friends lol.
We can read people as if we see their aura, we can pick up on what's "between the lines"
As an INFJ friend, I feel like I can read my friends minds most of the time. VERY acurate
When I found out that I am an INFJ my life's questions made sense and also this is the most relatable thing I've seen in weeks.xd ❤😇
I don't need any mbti test anymore, after this vid I am definitely an INFJ That's an incredible video 😁
I retook my test after 2 years and i found that i changed from INFP to INFJ, this is what i needed to confirm that lol
That last part tho. Way to call me out for holding just enough things in that the pressure cooker doesn’t explode 🤯😡 You know us too well❤
The movie recommendation thing is quite relateable
The direct bluntness of this is very real. No sugar, no em ah, just hey that is off. If you don't want the truth, don't ask. The meme is so accurate when it's skeletor saying, humans can't stand me but animals can't keep their paws off me.
Why is this so incredibly accurate? I feel called out. God I’ve been dealing with this one friend that is just so clingy for the past year and can never muster the courage to confront her. And I asked everyone for advice on the situation but I end up not taking the advice anyways because I made up my mind that I’m too scared of the consequences.
As an INFJ male..I want to say thank you for your channel dear Frank..hugs and brotherly love to you my friend...❤❤❤
As someone who has a INFJ Bestie, this is laser accurate on how he behaves! Well done Frank on portraying how an INFJ friends acts!
Frank ! Inspired by your word of the week , my resolution is to write a poem on every word you sent . Out of the context and I don't know about the longevity of this resolution , but appreciate those words really Edit : INFP here
All the Best
Once again, very accurate. I was gonna wait for six years to let you know it stung a little but…
I love this series 😂 0:46 why is this so relatable 😭
I'm not an INFJ, so I'm really curious why INFJ cares so much about how others feel and think. Like, if someone dislike my favorite movie, it's alright to me and I still enjoy that movie.
All I want is a bit of appreciation rather than any other form of compensation.
"Maybe it's time for you to do something I have never done and will probably never do" hit home so freaking hard for me 😆😭
The 6 years boil is so real 😭 like I tried to make myself believe that I forgave you and it's nothing but after all these years, it turns out *I'm not*
INFJ here. Totally relate. ❤
I remember just knowing someone was pregnant when I was nine years old. I was at a tube park and my mom gave this lady we knew a hug. I was way off in the distance and saw them and I was like. Oh she's pregnant. This lady had never had a kid before but yeah later I found out she was expecting and I was like ha ha! Already knew that❤😅
0:45 lol I imagine a friendship between INFJ and ISFP would be risky. INFJ: If my friend dislikes my favorite show, I like that show less. ISFP: If my friend dislikes my favorite show, I like that friend less.
But INFJs tend to be people pleasers. I usually say I liked something that someone else liked even if I hated it
I get so thrilled when something I recommend to watch is not only watched but liked as well!! That is SO rare!!!!
Last part felt reeeaaally familiar. - INTJ
This video is my existence. The making up your mind and having people tell me if I'm right or not is why I have parent daughter issues
The last one😂 I actually talked about how i felt about the friendship i had with a girl i know since i was 4 😂 and confronted her after bottling everything up for almost 20 years
Lol I feel so attacked
See the part about not taking one’s own advice! So true! All of it is true but that part especially 😂😂😂
Litterally me
I love how he wears a wig for the normal friend but for the INFJ friend it's just him. 😄
6 years and hoping it would resolve itself! so funny
The making decisions and not being able to like something that i personally like if someone else actually hates it is just spot on.
I just wanted to say, I've been into that MBTI personality types recently and your videos from over a year ago (in addition to these) are helping so much! So thank you for the great effort you put into those vids =)
I love these so much. I just see my INFJ friend as perfect sweetness ❤
Spot on again my friend!!!! Magnificent skit as always
I feel so seen and also called out by this! I needed this today thanks Frank, you're the best
Wow! That was incredibly SPOT ON! Lol! That's me EXACTLY!!!!
The last one is the story of my life
I have to send this to my friends to see if this is true haha
I love these skits and I can’t wait for the day you come out with a ISFP boyfriend/friend/parent one 😄
Why is this so on-point omg, love your content Frank!
Haha. My infj buddy usually just see each other a few times a year, and we end up updating eavhother on what has happened that the other missed. It feels like we didnt spend so much time apart after and we just go about our visit all happy. She is great.
"I've already made up my mind, but maybe you could tell me if it's the right decision" This is my INFJ friend! I remember one time, he wanted to buy an expensive gaming laptop just to play ONE game that he was being peer pressured into, when he already had a good, functioning laptop. Literally everyone he knew, including me, told him that was a dumb idea and he shouldn't do it! He did. And then, about a week later, he returned it because he finally realized for himself what we were all telling him in the first place
0:37 THIS IS EXACTLY ME. I'm glad that you are also a INFJ, because these videos are very accurate.
I am an INFJ, but my give-a-shit button when sharing things I like broke a couple of years ago. Maybe that comes with getting older? Also, I never let things simmer. It is totally fake to pretend things are "okay" when they aren't. In typical INFJ fashion I start with, "You know I love and value your friendship..but fill-in-the-blank." Lol
1:02 Yes, I am Mike and I confirm! xD
LOL
Well, I may be an ENFP, but as the best friend of an INFJ i can say this is extremely accurate.
Thank you for reminding me I was interested in Coffee Festival few months back so I guess I'm just gonna check if my energy would let me go. 💙
The “you’re pregnant, aren’t you?” Got me rolling 😂😂😂 The amount of times I’ve called my friends out for being pregnant before they told anyone … im dead 😂😂😂
Picking out the specifics on the bad date just by looking at their face and body language is so "ME" LOL
Oh, yeah! Spot on when it comes to making plans or decisions! I always need validation of my thought processes!
Wow you nailed my feelings and personality lololol
"I made up my mind about what I wanna do.... but maybe you could like... tell me if thats the right decision or not" "Maybe its time for you to do something I've never done, and probably will never do" These are all so true!