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This is the most accurate portrayal of social anxiety I have ever seen with my own two hands
Watching with eyes is even more mind blowing.
Your hands. Your hands. Your hands. Your hands....
O man I didn’t know a the dropped the Braille version for this video!!! SICK!!!!!!
hands hands hands
Hands
“Have any of your relatives died recently?” Absolutely destroyed me
That got me too 😂😂😂
you folks must be one of my relatives!
It's the perfect icebreaker... Perfect for all occasions
surprised he didn't consider telling a dead baby joke 😆
that's so Dax
Completely lost it when Jims monologue started. "I'm not that cool I'm more of a 'hows it going', 'how's it hanging' kinda guy" is a genious line.
never crackin'...
this is like the office with good writing
@@merlijn1722 glances at Dax
genious
I applaud your attention to quotation syntax
I love how we don't jump into Joel's inner monologue and we just see the tail end of it, implying that he of course had a horrific experience introducing two people from separate friend groups.
Worlds are colliding!
Whuuut?? That's like my favorite thing to do ever. I always figure if I'm friends with both people then they're probably good friend material for each other
Yes, that's what the video was about
@@josephfoster1987 my friend circles are too varied for it to work. Is quite entertaining to see multiple stratae collide when I organize a party at mine or celebrate my birthday. it's like pressing random at the character creation 40 times and throwing them all in a room.
I thought he was going to say something like, "I never went to college" and that he had been lying about graduating to him years ago
My god. That seemingly-pleasant social interaction was just an emotional DISASTER for everyone involved. No winners, only horror.
We should probably just stop interacting all together it would be safer for everyone involved.
@@jeckol3200 kirin mlp moment
Life. Isolate
Idk about you, but every pleasant social interaction I ever have is really an anxiety inducing horror show that I can’t wait to escape
@@jeckol3200 lockdown ended too soon
“Let’s see if I can loop him into what we were talking abou- okay they’re just talking about their own thing” way too relatable 😂😂😂
So real. 😂 You want to make them feel included then you realize they got it and you probably overthought things.
When two people start talking about someone you don’t know
*casually smiles and exhales when they laugh*
It's nice to know, potentially everyone else around me is living in a perpetual suspension of social horror
Just about everyone, it seems! XD
Well, except the psychopaths. Source: Trust me
Not everyone… only us losers. 😢 everyone else is out there straight crackin and bouncin
It's an issue we should all come together to talk about. But then we would have to come together to talk about it.
@@mrdaym no homo
Finally I can experience the thrill of social anxiety from the comfort of my own basement
I recommend the UK sitcom “Peep Show”
I love whenever Dax has internal monologue. Reminds me of his vlogs which are artistic masterpieces.
Trent and dax skits are always my favorite. Definitely recommend “Drowning in Potential”
I always like to break the ice with, "Have any of your relatives died recently?" It just works.
I love whenever Dax. - end of sentence
I love his vlogs. They're very calming. I used to follow his vlogs from the early years. It's unmistakable the work of the same mind, but the vibe is so different. It's like, how we grow and change but still keep parts of ourselves.
What's his channel name?
Sweet Jesus. Everybody had these feelings! This was actually a comforting video for me.
you are one of us : )
Between watching this and reading the Alan Moore quote "It's only those exceptional and rare individuals who have brilliant ideas delivered to them by the muse, complete and gift wrapped. The rest of us have to work at it", I may someday become a functional human being
jim actually looks friendly and wholesome what'd i'd say "nice shirt man. kool-aids pretty good" the master of charisma at work, youre welcome
His entire fucking family died in that shirt you monster.
That's pretty smooth - is it okay if I borrow that for my own conversations?
But the person has forgotten they have a kool-aid shirt on and they kinda smile and laugh in a "what the fuck who is this fucking freak" kind of way
@@aikisteven0616 say it to someone who DOESN'T have a Kool Aid shirt on
I just don't recommend saying kool-aids, because your internal monologue will be working overtime anxious about that the other conversationalists think you just said _cool aids_ and think you most be a dick for saying something as controversial as this.
The essence of modern life really is just a bunch of people all smiling and calmly making small talk while they’re all internally panicking about how bad they must be at making small talk and how oafish their hands must look right now
Only if you're so scared that your empathy turns off and you spiral in your solipsistic world. The one thing they all have in common is holding no actual interest in others.
@@dopaminecloud I mean if we had anything interesting to say we wouldn’t be making small talk 😂😂😂
@@redgreen2453 Then don't do it! 😊 I don't engage in small talk, and it's great! I'm the "rude one" at work because of it now, so I never have to avoid it anymore!
Can't relate.
@@Itsunclegabby seems like you've overthought about it.
the hand awareness insecurity is something not talked about enough in cinema. thank you guys for being brave
God i thought i was the only one. I get it when I'm walking. I become too aware of my hands and how my arms are moving until i just put them in my pocket.
I don’t think I have ever had this issue, but I’m pretty certain I now will. Thanks guys.
@@Michael-kp4bdjust remember every movement and non-movement/placement of a body part is communicating something about you that can be judged by others.
@@godsfool5284 Mean, man!
@@lionsbarrage.3087 Thank God for whoever invented hoodies with pockets
I dont know if Joel writes Dax's rules or not, but I feel like Dax's best performances are in Joel's skits. He always nails it. Trent, Dax, and Joel always seem to play off each other really well.
Its easy to forget that Dax is an INCREDIBLE actor outside of his youtube channel and can fit so many different roles. Like he earned the parts in Project X and 21 Jump Streets for his acting talent
@@mikyonmars I have to dive into daxs work fully so idk everything lol. all I wanna say is I think that his acting plus Joel's cinematography are a stellar combo. Like they compliment each other so well. It's not really that he's a better actor in Joel's skits it's that they work well together uhm blah blah google Gestalt? :) Have nice day
Dax kind of fell into obscurity for a bit, at least on KZhead. Between idubbbz doing the mini doc and subsequent shows (Hot Sear is so good) and him getting involved with Joel and those creators… we’re honestly so fuckin lucky to have him back to actively giving us incredible content. Gotta appreciate creators for propping each other up. We just get delivered gold for free as a result.
I feel like Dax just does such an amazing job when he's left to mostly improv. The "That couldn't have gone any worse" video is still pretty much my favorite.
Also, Another Evil (2016). Very underrated horror comedy. He's not in it for the whole movie but he gets to do a lot with the screentime he has.
Oh my GOD, I love the subtlety with which Dax tripped up at 2:45 when the guy said “I’m Jim,” because Dax was thinking “he’s John.” It also sounded like he was going to say “Nice to meet you.” twice before he caught himself.
This is so real. Even though I've been every person on this interaction, I never really realized that everyone else find it as awkward as me. I genuinely thought everyone else were cooler and better friends than I, just having a great time catching up. Thanks for the new perspective - guess I'm not as socially inept as I thought
Tbf if this is going through your head you need serious help. It's probably too late actually
@@absta1995 get real
@@absta1995 tbf if you don’t experience anxiety seeing someone you haven’t seen in a while or in any of these situations, you probably need help. You sound a bit like a sociopath
@@absta1995 i go the other way tbh, if you're not thinking these things you need a serious infusion of imagination or something - finding the bounds of our reality is something every idle mind should be working on in some way or other.
@@absta1995 LMAOOOOOOOOO
This is relatable on a spirituel level
did you watch this on 2x speed? 😭
Wow two misspellings both accidently typed with "ue" how do I loop them into talking about this
Spearrit
@PilgrimsProgFest 😭 oh the inner termuel
I kinda look like the Kool aid shirt guy so in a way it's also physically relatable
It's crazy, the thoughts those guys went through normally race through our minds 100000x per second.
Yeah it is odd. Thoughts move way faster than the speed of light lol
@@YourCapybaraAmigo_17yrsago fun fact: thought moves at the speed that neurons can react to eachother which is around the speed of sound I think? Not sure
@@corporatecapitalism yeah I don't know. It'd be interesting to find out. What is the speed of "thought"?? And how do we measure it? Probably thru observing neurons in a lab as you said. Feels instantaneous in that uncomfortable or stressful moment.
@@YourCapybaraAmigo_17yrsago I’m pretty sure we’ve already found out how fast it is (again not sure 100%) but yeah adrenaline is an amazing thing
@@YourCapybaraAmigo_17yrsago no they don't. Not only it isn't faster than light speed, it's more than twice as slow as sound. For reference, the fastest nervous fibre travels at 120 meters/seconds (268 miles per hour for Americans). Sound travels at 348 m/s (767 mph) and light 670,616,629 mph.
It's heartwarming to see that Joel and Dax's friendship has grown to the point where Dax is the good friend in skits and someone else is the weird acquaintance now
There is a big culture of trying to capture these awkward, relatable social situations. Joel’s been doing amazing at it for a while, but man… this one is top notch and cute. Always makes me feel better that I’m not alone.
Man I somehow did not expect the other friends POV lmao
This is one of my new favorites. Personal anxiety, internal monologue, great video angles. Absolutely Insaneo style.
Every video with Joel and Dax is great. So relatable. A shame they never got to talk about their hands together. Seems like that would have been a really great converation :L
J:
Dax: You know, Joel, I was thinking about hands the other day. It's so weird, right? Like, we have these five-fingered appendages at the end of our arms. Joel: Yeah, hands are strange. They're so sensitive, like you can feel everything with them. Sometimes when I touch something, it's almost overwhelming. Dax: I know what you mean. And when you're in a social situation, it's like, what do you even do with your hands? Do you put them in your pockets or cross your arms? Joel: It's amazing how much you can feel with your hands. Like, you can tell the difference between textures just by touching them. I once picked up a rock that felt like it had tiny bumps all over it. Dax: Right, but going back to social situations, it's like my hands suddenly become these foreign objects that I don't know what to do with. Do I gesture while I'm talking or keep them by my side? Joel: I wonder if everyone else's hands are as sensitive as mine. Like, can you feel the ridges on your fingertips when you touch something smooth? Dax: But seriously, sometimes I find myself overthinking what I'm doing with my hands when I'm talking to someone. It's like, should I be moving them more, or is it better to keep them still? Joel: Oh, and what about the temperature of things? I can tell if something is warm or cold just by touching it. It's kind of amazing when you think about it. Dax: Yeah, okay, but let's talk about handshakes. Are they supposed to be firm or gentle? I don't want to come across as aggressive or weak, you know? Joel: Speaking of touching, do you ever think about how many things you touch in a day? It's like, we're constantly using our hands to interact with the world around us. Dax: I suppose, but I'm more focused on what I'm supposed to do with my hands when I'm not using them for something specific. Like, do I hold a drink or just let them hang there? Joel: It's funny, sometimes I'll just touch things for no reason. Like, I'll run my fingers over the surface of a table or a wall, just to see how it feels. Dax: So, I tried clasping my hands together once, but then it looked like I was praying or something. It's a never-ending battle to figure out what's appropriate in different social settings. Joel: I've always thought it was interesting how people can tell so much about a person just by looking at their hands. Like, you can see if they work with their hands a lot or if they take care of them. Dax: Well, I guess I'll just have to keep experimenting with different ways to hold my hands. Maybe one day I'll find the perfect solution. Joel: You know, I've never really thought about what to do with my hands in social situations. I guess I'm just too focused on how they feel and what I can do with them.
@@DaveSmith-mv8ex Jesus Christ, Dave
@@DaveSmith-mv8ex dave?
Dax’s facial expressions are so good. He really sells the part 😂
This is how most of my social interactions go in my head lol
my favorite part was when Dax revealed his favorite animal (monkey)
I always ease my way into an acquaintance situation with family member death questions. It shows I care
I am still HAUNTED by the time I was out with someone who bumped into a friend and never introduced me. I lived an internal horror very close to this and eventually slowly drifted away from the two of them and pretended I was looking at stuff until it was over.
i could listen to dax talk about his hands for hours actually i think it would be really cool!
usually a lot of comedy sketches are taken to their logical extremes, but the ending of this one reverts from the dramatization of something banal to implied genuine PTSD. truly monumental subversion by Joel, Dax, and Jim in this sketch.
*Thank god we have smartphones now.* Every time I feel myself like a third wheel, I just focus on my gadget until it's the right time to jump back in the conversation. Truly a lifesaver right in my pocket.
I love how the music is perfectly synchronized with the sketch. It ties it all together perfectly and makes you feel the anxiety that they had in the video. This video is art!
Dax's body language in 0:53 made me feel his anxiety more than his "are you thirstyyyyy"
I love the over-dramatization of life's unspoken nuances. As an awkward introvert, I resonate with so many of your videos. So funny. Keep em up (the videos)
When it switched to Jim it sent me to heaven lmfaoo "I'm more of a how's it hanging kinda guy"
I sometimes wonder how many people in my life I could've been really good friends with if I wasn't such an awkward mess.
On todays episode of Joel’s very relatable videos detailing the struggles of social anxiety
I usually go with “Oh hi nice to see you! Uh you have any loved ones die recently? Friends? Family? It was probably devastating for you. You probably cried. You cried right? Now life’s a little emptier without them? Anyway I’m on my way to whataburger.” Then elegantly disengage. Don’t even think about hands once.. hands.. my.. hands..
Perfectly lining up the transition between intro and theme of the Sonata Pathetique with the switch in monologues was brilliant Joel, you rock man.
This is less an exaggeration for neurodivergents and more of a piercing insight into how we process social situations.
me when I meet my friend's acquaintance
also first
How did you translate my social anxiety into a perfect video??
This was great because it reminded me that everyone else worries about things too. I'm not the only one overthinking sometimes.
the only winning move is not to play
The camera work in this is ON POINT
i gotta hand it to y'all, this was a handful of real thoughts, i don't know if i can handle rewatching it, i literally live with these handxiety ridden thoughts hands
Now I feel less stupid for talking about my hands when I don’t know what to talk about
"Are you thirsty" is a great conversation started for such a huge soft drinks fan
You have just captured humanity exquisitely in a short comedy video!!! Brilliance! Brilliance!
Joel is on a Beethoven kick lately - Pathetique Sonata, op. 13.
Won’t be long until we get the Original Final Boss Music, Moonlight Sonata: III. Presto agitato
Thank you!! Was wondering what it was. I felt like I'd heard it before but couldn't pin it down
god I LOVE the line “it’s been an honor bumping into you” for someone you already know, stealin it, sorry
this is deeply relatable for me (i too have hands)
Great video! Let's all give Joel a hand! Hand! Hands!
Life was so much easier during the pandemic when scenarios like this could never happen.
I’ve always been an introvert but man, the pandemic has really galvanized it for me
I just want to highlight how well synchronized the music was with the whole sketch. Pretty impressive.well done
I love how the guy is dressed so acquaintancey, so acquaintly
Aha talking about your hands is a classic ice breaker!
No one has defined social anxiety better than this video does.
I would love to this concept as a spiritual successor to this video: meeting up with an old friend and trying to remember their sense of humor through trial and error
Relatable. Either I stay timid or say something unhinged to a person I've just met 😅
I have about as much social anxiety as a golden retriever and I think this genuinely helps me understand what social anxiety is really like. 💙 If we meet, it's okay if you say weird things to me, I will still like you 💙
I was rooting for Dax to go with, "You thirsty?"
I love seeing dax in roles that don't make him look weird. God this is so real.
If someone ever asked me if any of my relatives died recently as an opening line they would be an instant friend. That is hilarious.
I've had a few such situations, right on a street just like in this film, and even though it's always somewhat awkward, it's not that bad if you play your cards right. Trying to bring both friends into conversation, asking the just-met friend where they're heading to, finishing the conversation when the time's just right (which is usually just 'not too long') - all this helps smooth it out like butter. Overall, when the two don't know each other at all and have different interests, the best tactic is to just end the horror as soon as possible, within 30 seconds preferably.
The switch to the other monologue was the funniest shit ever. Fantastic
2:18 "He probably just thinks I'm a sad _pathetique_ worm." Nice. (Music is Beethoven's Sonata Pathetique 1st Movement, btw. Sonata No. 8 in C minor, Op. 13)
Hey jusy remember other people in a conversation might be as nervous as you are
This is so relatable that I think I transcended. Absolute masterpiece.
Never Crackin'.
I’ve never felt so SEEN, HEARD, and truly UNDERSTOOD 😩
This must be the most underrated video on this planet, for sure.
We've crossed a threshold today. I think Joel and his friends have created a new genre of comedic sketch. No idea what it's called but he always nails making us and feel existential dread about social interactions - while giggling because the sketch is so funny
I still don’t remember some coworker’s names. 2 years in. Yeeeah
Just call them “Hey”
I forget peoples names, when I haven’t seen them in a few years 😢
I'm so glad Dax got the recognition he deserves
The slow fade into music and close in on Joe's face, with a couple seconds left in the video, really got me
I loved the music in this. And it was interesting to hear everyone's different internal monologues about how they came across
Joel, you and your friends make some of the best shorts on KZhead. I've rarely seen social awkwardness captured on video as well as this. Keep it going, you guys have real talent.
Jim could be crackin, just got caught a lackin
The Heart of Darkness ending is perfect
This is an absolute genius masterpiece, and I mean that sincerely. I just recently discovered your channel and I’m hooked. It’s like I’ve found my people.
THIS - Dax - is what you're born to do! You fit perfectly in Joel's videos. I don't know if he's directing you or whatnot, but you really "pop" on the screen in his videos! (not so much on your own channel (sorry), but whatever Joels and your secret/recipe/chemistry is, it's working in your favor! )
Joel seems to have a specific type of friend. That being said, knowing that I would be his friend since I never stop talking about my hands destroyed me.
It's nice to know that we all feel this way... I think
i love this
I'm autistic and this is like 90% of my interactions 🥲 running thru possible things to say in my mind, struggling to find anything normal to say, what do i do with my hands, i suddenly forget how to stand normally It's definitely reassuring to know that a ton of other ppl are thinking the same thing lol
I love how the music really pick ups right as we swap to Jim TOV (thoughts of view)
I love @Daxflame 's beautiful improv lines. This is a masterpiece of life.
gosh darn my day is complete now with this super relatable content from mister joel haver
I loved that quote from Conrad's Heart of Darkness at the very end. It's a great way to tie in the plot twist that the awkward social interaction reminded Joel of the time he met "that one Black friend" who was a friend of another friend, and he was worried that he might offend him on account of a difference in culture, but in hindsight his very considerations reflected minor racist preconceptions that haunt him with regret to this very day, since that's not the kind of legacy he wants to leave behind.
This was… And I say it from the bottom of my hands, honestly and truly a masterpiece 👏
Omg this is probably Joel's most relateble video yet
3:17 finally Joel realised that he was _the horror_ himself all along because he has the ability to come back from the dead like he did in the past
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Joel never disappoints us, he's an incredible Content Creator and always creates masterpieces. His content is amazing.
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@@lokhens146 yeah and they delete their comments so nobody sees the ridiculous stuff they say
@@GroomlakeArea51 Damn
I can't believe I was only watching his animations before this. This is incredible.
Pure, existential dread left no survivors. As always.
A dead baby joke helps break the tension.
Jim wears shirts well. He's a pioneer shirt-wearer.
This is a fucking masterpiece. The music, the relatability, the realism of their dialogue, the switch in monologues in the middle, the flashbacks to previous awkward interactions, the way each camera shot brings out the characters' feelings...
Oh the affection that could be woven if they were to only realise their shared preoccupation with hands. Disrobe yourself of pride, present yourself bare, and you may find yourself rewarded with bonds you never thought possible. The bonds of cuffs around your wrists when the police officer arrests you for indecent exposure.