Social etiquette is something that we’ve all had to navigate in our interactions with others one-to-one or people in mass. Sometimes it feels like it’s too easy to slip up and come off as rude without meaning to do so! Whether it’s something in the culture or differing personalities, what does it mean to us to “have manners”?
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"Nothing is sexier than being a gentleman" - Matthew Kim, 2021
He's not wrong
@@navi3430 he's never wrong
@@WHYISMYWIFISLOW _he always speakin facts_
"FACTS!" ~Peniel Shin 😎
yessss
The "i have a boyfriend" excuse is so sad because these people respect that but they don't expect a girl simply saying no...
Gets even sadder when there guys out there who know about that and won't believe you until you prove it to them that you really do have a "boyfriend".
Its sad that they resect the hypothetical boyfriend more than the girl in front of them immediately
@@_alysia where i'm from, they don't ask you to prove it they simpl ysay '' it's okay i'm not jealous''
@@sunrose1535 Where I'm from in the west, they don't always ask you to prove it. It's more like, they'll just say something along the lines of "you're just saying that so I'll stop bothering you", "you're just saying that to get rid of me", "lmao girls always say shit like that" or something like that of that variation and then proceed to keep on making moves on the girl until she proves it to them that she really does have a "boyfriend" or they may not stop at all even if she *did* prove it to them that she really does have a "boyfriend". Or some may just straight up tell the girl that they don't care if she has a boyfriend and keep on harassing the girl anyways.
Listen a guy flirted with me once and I was like “sorry I’m married” while clearly flashing my wedding rings and dude was like “how’s that going?” Like get away from me. To make it worse this happened while I was pumping gas, I was the only other person outside the gas station, it was dark outside in a rural area and my baby’s in the car.
Peniel's "Sajangnim! Sajangnim!" Will be forever stuck in my brain :')
Peniel could be a voice actor for a kids' cartoon looll or like imagine one of those toys that speaks when you press it 😂
It reminds me so much of when Ollie from KoreanEnglishman was ordering for Eric Nam & Josh
im gonna make it my ringtone 🤣
Someone needs to make a bell out of that sound 😂😭
loll same
Missed joke for when Peniel asked Ashley if she had a code with her members about lipstick stage faux pas. “You guys got a code?” “We got a ladies code”
@Cherry_Moon 40:03
Truuuue
Wouldn’t it be “We had a ladies code”?
@@jorge3234 lol thanks for the lesson, grammar warrior. Everyone must have been sooo confused by what I was saying so I appreciate you coming in and correcting it for me
Im not used to see Peniel on the other side of the table
Same 😂
Same 😂 it doesn’t seem right
me too 😂
I thought it was just me.😆
Same here hahaha
In the philippines, when your parents are scolding you, they’ll ask you to answer, but when you answer, they’ll ask why are you answering back,,,,,,??? 😭😩🤣
That's crazy 🤣
At kung hindi ka naman sasagot, sisigawan ka ng, "Ano pipe ka, pipe?!" 😂
Pls this is so true. Like what are gonna supposes to do 😭
True true😭😂
when they got angry they be like ‘why did you do that?’ But when you answer they’ll get more angry 🤣 Typical Asian parents 😂
_sees social anxiety in the title_ * *_clicks_* * this is why this show is called get real yall
No one: Me: admiring when they switch from english to korean to explain something more accurately
I wish they had subtitles so I could understand. But I guess those phrases would probably be harder to translate to english
The only thing I have to say is: if you ever have the opportunity go to another country, be respectful of their customs and culture. Think of you as a someone who's representing your country. Try to understand why people behave like that. Be open minded 😊❣️
that was such a good statement! im gonna remember to use that, "think of yourself as someone who is representing your country" whenever someone is rude in another country, thank you!
Totally agree
It's funny how B.M's sweatshirt quotes " Ugly is good" while Ashley's says " Dream on" 🤣
I'm really thankful towards Ashley for bringing the female perspective. When the guys were advising that the girl should be more cutthroat when rejecting someone, Im glad Ashley brought up that rejection itself can be very scary for many girls because of the power imbalance. That really shifted the conversation towards a more constructive one which I appreciate!
It’s sad that when you tell them you have a boyfriend they will back of because they respect that, but they don’t respect the fact that you aren’t interested. Such a messed up thing.
So weird, my Korean mom hated the social hierarchy, which is why she came to America, so she taught me to “be American” so she wouldn’t like it if I looked down while an elder was scolding me haha
I totally feel this too
22:40 Peniel: Maybe that's just a marketing technique. BM: It is! It is! Peniel: They get all up in ya mentals! 🤣😂🤣😂🤣
Whenever I see Korean & Japanese people talk about how "the West" is so different, they tend to mean the USA. This is weird to me, because here in Belgium (Europe, also West) we actually have several habits that are closer to e.g. Korea than to the USA. I appreciate how in your podcast, you actually name the countries, to be more specific.
Yesss, that's what I think too Here in Hungary, it's like that also. We have more similarities with (I suppose) East Asian countries than with the US
Most Korean know nothing about the west other than America (ie. the USA). But they call it America for some reason
Yes! I appreciate them naming countries and making comparisong between USA and Korea specifically, since that's where they have spent most of their time. I'm from Finland and things like taking off your shoes inside and not making smalltalk with strangers on a bus are just natural things here too.
loved when they were talking about the first girl's question and they said the advice is more for guys to not act a certain way when they get rejected because theres soooo much stories of victim blaming the girl. THANK YOU!
North American culture: “Look me in the eye when I’m talking to you” as a sign of respect/acknowledgement/paying attention/listening, because “looking away when I’m talking to you” is a sign of disrespect/evasion/dismissal/disagreement. So a kid looks an adult in the eye when being scolded. Asian culture: “Look down” as a sign of respect/submission/obedience to someone older/above you, because “looking eye-to-eye” can be confrontational/disrespectful. So a kid looks down when being scolded by an adult.
funny are perspectives change with cultural differences
8:27 when Ashley said "they would punish me in other ways" made me so mad and heart broken. Like bruh, who tf are you to punish her .
Peniel doesn't drink (alcoholic bev) is such a turn on 💙
Ikr... And the fact that he also went for Bible study even he's an idol now is another turn on😍
I love Peniel's recounting the "nod greeting" and people thinking, "do I know you?"
Peniel saying that guys shouldn't be acting like that in the first place at 43:40. like YES you got some POINTS. most of the time Peniel says sth i just couldnt agree more. he knows whats up 👍🏽 Also about what Ashley is saying about " i have a boyfriend" thing... its sad that in order for a guy to stop harassing you, you have to say that theres someone else cuz apparently my no has less value/power than some mans that doesnt exist. eh :(
In Mexico we talk to strangers as if they were friends. We hold the door for each other, say good morning/evening/night, when you are in a restaurant and pass by a table with people eating, we say "provecho", it's like "enjoy your meal!".
Ashley’s story about going to a non-Korean (and I’m guessing non-Asian) friend’s house is too relatable haha. I remember when I first crashed at my friend’s house, he’s a white guy, and it was a big culture shock haha. He uses a dish washer. The heck fam? I’ve been hand washing dishes for 27 years. You got your dirty shoes on in the house? Whose cleaning that up? Haha good times.
Gah! So I was the username "leggomymeggo" who asked that question about being a bridesmaid and I just wanted to say that a month or so after I posted that comment, I got asked to be a bridesmaid!!! Thank you so much guys!!! I literally screamed when I heard my username being said by BM and you have literally made my year❤️❤️❤️
Yassss!! I'm so glad it worked out for you!
Congrats sis🥰 i hope you have a great life🥰🥰🥰🥰
AYEEE Diane in the beginning come thru queen
Yesss!
AMEN
LMAO "we didn't have like table, like set-setting, plate, setting plating, setting etiquette stuff like that" 😂
It's sad that we have to lie that we have bf for men to back off. Like if I say I'm single, it doesn't mean I'm interested.
It has been 3 weeks but Peniel still couldn't finish his drink 😂
Pain 😭🤚
GET REAL really be helping me improving my english. Thank you guys
I don't want to be rude or inappropriate and I don't know if you are using AAVE on purpose or if it's a mistake but I believethat the correctway to say this sentence is : GET REAL is really helping me to improve my English. Sorry if you already knew that and I apologize for potentially offending you. I know how hard it is to learn a language... Keep it up😊👍
I second that✋
@@hihopeyouhaveaniceday6992 your been inapropriate *i hope the sentence above would make you uncomfortable. lol
@@hihopeyouhaveaniceday6992 a good English lessons for today! Thank you. (Sorry if it's wrong again)
You did great
BM sharing another story of KARD’s sibling energy 😂 just saw him reposting stories on IG of them being literal siblings and now this 😂 love them so much!
I came back after I saw Kingdom, where Peniel offered the atz and skz members to talk to him informally and I.N was struggling with it. It reminded me of this episode 11:15
I remember that - Peniel just being the ultimate Boy next door who is humble and kind and all these young lil 'Cuties can't handle it, because they were so in awe of him.
39:05 Peniel told fans so they don't embarrassed to the others people, that's good manner ☆ 39:45 BM too XD 40:02 Ashley too :D
Peniel: "Dont chew with your mouth open" Me: Currently chewing freely and shut my mouth instantly. You got me Peuni
I can completely relate with Ashley re: small talk. In Australia, if you go for a walk in the park, you can expect strangers to say "G'day!", etc. as you pass them. I try to avoid eye contact haha
@Cece it's real!! At least here in Queensland lol
@Cece nah its def a thing here, even those who weren't born in Australia (like myself) say it on the regular.
Peniel's humour is seriously the bread and butter in my life haha!
Oh dear lord 49:45 talking about the bridal party 😂😂😂 thank the lord for Diane. Every time they get something wrong I always get the urge to help and correct them but then get frustrated knowing they can’t hear me 😂😂 Diane if you’re reading this, I appreciate you and miss hearing you with Tablo 🥺
Omgggg same here!!! Me too I feel the same way 😅😂 Did you watch her episodes with AleXa on HDIGH? It was kind of recent and they aired during Jae's absence. But yeah 💯 me too 😢
Also idk if @6:30 Peniel was mentioning all kinds of manners (western and Korean) he grew up with or just Korean manners. Idk I just thought it was so funny he specifically mentioned not chewing with your mouth open when they were talking about Korean manners like bowing when saying 안녕하세요 because all my extended Korean fam members like my aunts and uncles still chew with their mouths open 😂 I asked my mom and she said it’s more of something that she learned not to do when she came to the US.
@@mangosorbet2619 oh no I didn’t! I’m gonna check it out now thank you!!
@@CSFreya yep ofc!! 😁
I opened get real podcast out of curiosity during lockdown and now i am almost a regular viewer/listener. Love the squad & their perspective of every aspects of life. Keep it up guys 🤟👍 love From Nepal 🇳🇵
As someone with social anxiety and lives in New Zealand..... the 20 min convos are too true😭😭
"Watch kingdom. Btob is killing it" -bm
When the girls need to say "I have a boyfriend" is sad because the guy don't respect the girl, but respect another guy and don't accept just "no" as an answer.
I agree with Peniel. There's a Korean shopping center and in one of the stores they follow you around while you're shopping.
also for when BM was talking about going deeper to get people's attention. If you're talking with someone who is hard of hearing especially if it's on the phone- talking lower/deeper can actually be easier for them to hear instead of talking louder. I work in customer service on the phones and someone told me that one day and every time I get an older customer who can't hear well and I talk deeper/lower they can hear me better- it's not perfect all the time but it helps more often than not.
Aww BM is always looking out for Somin and Jiwoo 😍
35:58 this whole part of the episode was very confusing to listen to on spotify hahaha
Lmfaooooo
Peniel's voice is so soothing! He'd be a great asmrtist!
8:14 is GOLD Bm : what you say? Ashley : I'm not staring you anything Bm : WOOOO what they say Ashley : i don't remember Bm : WOOOOOOOO Big Matilda coming through!
Yow there is city in the Philippines that helds festival (fiesta) every year and like every household will hold a buffet (?) Then anyone, like anyone, can enter a house even if the owner of the house doesn't know you, and just eat. Take a meal and then go. Sometimes a whole street do an open house buffet.
That’s basically every town in rural areas in the Philippines. Every year, they have “feasta” to celebrate a certain saint or religious entity and everyone is invited whether you know the host or not.
Boodle fight! Nakakamiss 😂😭
Whens tehe date then!! tryna eat outchea
Yeah, I have been to many of those, hahahaha!
Ah in some cultures here when there's a wedding strangers can come get food. Then during the reception they'll go up on stage and be like "the food was great, so I wish the bride and groom a happy marriage thanks"
Peniel: Your RBF doesn't help ahahahahaha my face to my parents, legit it makes them angrier
Don't know if this cultural manner but in Sudan never say just "thank you" when you want to thank someone because they 'll take it as "no/I don't want/leave me alone" So you have to put it in a sentence like for example "thanks for doing that/thank you bro/I really appreciate it/I'm very thankful for that/I can't thank you enough... etc"
Woah~ thats so interesting and awesome to know! Will take note of that, thank you for the info
Everyone needs a MATTHEW in their life
in Indonesia, especially in my hometown at Bandung. While we walking and then beside the road there was an older person, we had to walk with a slight bow and then say the word "punten" which means "excuse me" until past the older.
I think the concept of respecting elders isn't hard for Westerners if the elder is a generation or more older. It's hard because the elder might be JUST ONE YEAR older.
Thank you to Ashley for bringing up how scary it can be. I’m a small woman and one time I had to stop to get gas on my way home. It was at night and I live in a rural area so not many streetlights. I stopped to get gas and my baby was already fast asleep in the car. I was the only person outside and this guy stopped at the pump behind me to get gas. He starts saying “hey” and “hey cutie” and im doing my best to ignore him and pretend I don’t hear him. He starts to walk closer so I look at him which makes him stop walking and he’s like “hey your real cute. Can I get your number?” And I was like “thanks but im married” clearly flashing my wedding rings (which I had been doing since he started trying to get my attention) He had the audacity to say “how that going?” And I’m honestly speechless. Idk this guy and I’ve got my baby in the car. I just say it’s great and get the hell out of there.
I love the disclaimer Diane, my son is autistic and I truly appreciate it. Much love to you all!
When they are talking about the eyes in American and Korean culture what comes to mind in Mexican culture with moms be like, (you must keep silent, however they get mad at you and be like...) “answer me!” “¿por qué no me contestas!?” and if you do reply “don’t be talking back” “cállate!” 😂😂
This is a Filipino thing as well. I'm so confused up to now. 😅 If you answer you get smacked if you don't you still get smacked.
@@gloriad.3350 exactly 🤣
Same thing in Arabic culture lol. When you look them in the eye it's like "why are you looking at me like that?!". Then when you don't look at them they'd be like "look at me when I speak!".
Or why are you signing or talking when your parents are speaking
my favourite parts are always Peniel's "O-okay?" *awkward picachu face*
i’m not korean but i grew in a caribbean household and the respect elders thing is enforced heavily. when i was younger i remember getting in trouble for looking at my relatives in the eye...struggles of a first gen lol
Yeas BM the bird beak like sign is used to "Um Hungry,Feed me" in India.I am from Bangladesh but its same here.Also about the thumbs up sign👍! Our parents and even now people in rural area use it to say Banana,it is the same meaning of Middle finger 🖕 if you know.But with western influence nowadays it is mostly used as thumbs up or GREAT! I really love you guys ! Really Really! How insightful and thoughful the three of you are! You are supposed to be my idol!God introduced you to me to learn better! Also Best of luck Peniel for Kingdom!FIGHTING!
About the 👍 thingy! now that you put it out, it suddenly clicked. I completely forgot about it. Guess I'm one of the influenced by westerns 😅 I'm from Bangladesh too
@@trifinyallen7755 yeah i also forgot it completely but when BM mentioned it,I recalled that.With media influence,things have changed pretty fast and forgotten.
What Matt was saying about the frequency just reminded me of what the cheer coach told us. We were allowed to yell/chant in high pitches because using lower pitches would make us seem louder. Lol so I do that too , to get some ones opinion
Peniel and BM calling out the persistent men 😍😍😍 the best!
And then people ask me why I admire these people so much , just listen to what these boys are saying when it comes to respecting girls privacy.
I recently rejected someone by saying they're making me uncomfortable. And they thought about how they're making me feel and just stopped.
Never knew if Peniel was this funnyyyy 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Huh? Are you new around here xD
@@t.ris_ I am hahaha! 🤣
@@ixorid2695 omgg!!! Check out as many episodes as you can! Peniel is the absolute funniest!
He's funny, you'll get a good laugh.
Of course he's funny. He's from BtoB. Have you seen them offstage? They are hella funny. All BtoB members are goof balls. I love it!
When they started talking about drinking culture difference I was like guys I'm happy I'm muslim I don't need to learn that 😂 I found it as an advantage cause i can just imagine how they felt the shock at it and didn't know how to interact ,it must have been something nessecerly since drinking is a huge thing in korea properly
We always took our shoes off at my college house. When I came home to my family’s farm, we never take our shoes off so it was something to get used to and I really liked it.
It's 1 am i am in the kitchen preparing Aïd's celebration cookie and desserts and the only thing that is giving me energy is your podcast i was scrolling through the old ones thank god that the ep came up at this time 😭💖💖🙏🏻💖
Eid Mubarak- Hope you have a great holiday iA. 🎊
Eid mubarak ✨
Man the more I learn about Korea, I realise that I do love it but my personality no matter how much I would like adapt which I'm good at, I would feel uncomfortable
44:26 When Peniel was talking about the guy who kept texting his friend my jaw dropped because I had a similar situation. I dated this guy and if I didn't respond within 10-15 minutes he would continue to text me even if I told him that I was busy and I couldn't talk at that time. I ended up dumping him not only because of that but also because he was acting very toxic and manipulative.
When we were younger, my mom had us take our shoes off before entering the house. Now that we’re older, she scolds us for being barefoot because we might get sick lmao
Not necessarily a cultural manner (not sure entirely) but in my Latin household, it is expected that when guest come over, you prepare and do everything on their behalf but if you are visiting their place, then it is expected to aid them in some way whether it would be washing the dishes or bringing something yourself like food
BM and Peniel's reference to Kevin Harts standup special i loveeed. It's one of my favorites and i use the 'HELP ME' with my brother as well
The only upset thing about this episode is.. "it ENDS.!! " 😭😭 time flies by listening to this podcasts.. Indeed the best podcasts in the world!! 💓💓 love y'all from India 👍💓
I already listened to the full podcast but I was still waiting for the full video to be uploaded on KZhead. It’s still early here. I’ll just have my cup of coffee while watching this. I just can’t get enough of #GetReal. Great companion during this pandemic lockdown. 👍👍👍
Loving Peniel's vibe, always so chilled and real
whoever casted these trio for the podcast did a good job.i love them 💖😍😍😍
As someone who lives in new Zealand I can say that's so true you could have a full on conversation with some stranger
Peniel is doing so well in KINGDOM. Love his performance and he look so COOL!
Honestly I started watching this just for Peniel haha but all the squad has their own good vibe. It's so weird that we share the same age, but obviously because of the culture and the life style, our life is pretty much different, and anyways we all suffer of social anxiety...
16:17 is literally something I would do 🤣🤣 Bruh I relate w Ashley, small talk is hard for me in general 🥲
40:10 oh my god i remember seeing a tiktok about how we girls can communicate with other girls thru our eyes. the guy talking about it gave an example, how his sister with her friend in the car were so quiet, but like when he glances over them they were doing the big eyes and small eyes thingy while smiling. lmao and the way I understood what the two girls were talking about instantly when the guy described the "conversation."
6:00 did anyone see peniel imitating Ashley 😂 thats why i rather watch the videos this is pure entertainment
I laughed so hard. He i so fucking funny hahahah
wow, the ending was so powerful. no means no and i'm glad we can talk about these things, thank you for talking about it with such seriousness. what you've all said was truly important
Super love how they answered the first question. Thanks for being role models!! 💕
Listened to this twice on Spotify already and yet I’m back on here. Love this podcast series so much!
I must say Get real is only podcast I have been listing and following every ep In KZhead and I love listening to it. Lots of love from Nepal
“NO. MEANS. NO. “ PREACH.
Omg that Honey ad is everywhere it’s finally come to Get Real/Dive Studios 😂 I guess it means they’re pretty big now that companies are recognizing them as potential ad partners
@24:05 love the mini science lesson from BM 😂 makes a lot of sense. I loved how he just picked up the script to illustrate the wave concept on the back of it. And apparently speaking in a lower register is also good for elderly people who are hard of hearing: my grandma went to the audiologist because she has a hard time hearing my aunt and me on the phone and it turns out our voices are too high so we have to speak in lower registers 😅
It's 5.55 am in the morning and I am awake just to watch this.. You have no idea how addictive this podcast is.. Hwaiting dive studious/get real💜
This is such a fun and relatable conversation.
Thank you Diane for the lovely intro message. This was the first episode I heard the podcast for rather than watching the video and the amount of times they make faces you can hear lol
I haven't actually started the episode yet, but I love that they made a considerate disclaimer and Diane's voice is so nice, I really wish she could make a guest appearance☺
2:15 thank you so much for the little disclaimer, i feel so seen❤️
Been binge-watching get real and daebak show these days and it’s THE MOST RIGHT THING I have done in my life so far, no regrets ❤️
Watching Get Real episodes became part of my weekly relaxation. Of course, I need to see our ever charming Peniel 💙
You guys are great. Thanks for being candid!
36:14 that gesture means the same even in India..."did you eat?"
Cada vez siento que se hace más corto y el disfrutar tanto de un cap nuevo! Amo y gran trabajo de todos! Amando unboxing, siempre comiendo ansias por un nuevo cap
Omfg I can’t describe how much I love this podcast