5 Signs It's Silent Abuse, Not Just "Incompatibility"
In any relationship, it's crucial to recognize the signs of abuse, especially when it's not overt. Silent abuse, also known as covert abuse or emotional abuse, can be just as damaging as its more visible counterparts. In this video, we delve into five key indicators that what you're experiencing might be silent abuse rather than mere "incompatibility."
Understanding silent abuse is essential for safeguarding your mental health and well-being. It often involves tactics like the silent treatment, manipulation, gaslighting, and other forms of psychological warfare that erode your self-esteem and sense of reality.
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Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Rida Batool
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera )
Animator: Sam Rain
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References:
Better Help. (2023, May 2). Signs of Covert Abuse. www.betterhelp.com/advice/abuse/am-i-the-victim-of-covert-abuse-learning-the-signs/
Cohan, D. J. (2019, July 24). How to Tell if You’re in an Abusive Relationship. Psychology Today. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-lights/201907/how-tell-if-you-re-in-abusive-relationship
Holt, A. (2022, Nov 22). The insidious damage caused by covert emotional abuse. Counselling Directory. www.counselling-directory.org.uk/memberarticles/the-insidious-damage-caused-by-covert-emotional-abuse
Lickerman, A. (2913, Feb 3). The Real Reason Couples Decide They're Incompatible. Psychology Today. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/happiness-in-world/201302/the-real-reason-couples-decide-theyre-incompatible
Scott, E. (2022, Nov 04). What is a Toxic Relationship? VeryWell Mind. www.verywellmind.com/toxic-relationships-4174665
Silent abuse is like going through a psychological minefield where you never knowing when the next explosion of self-doubt or anxiety might happen. It’s like the feeling where it’s the calm before the storm everytime.
I absolutely agree 💯 it's a prevalent trend that doesn't get the attention like it should.
The worst part for me, in hindsight, was that I legitimately blamed myself for the abuse I received. She managed to convince me that her toxic behavior was my fault, and even talked me into continuing the abusive relationship for another couple of years. Only realizing I was being abused after the fact, and not having any support structure since I wasn’t physically abused, left me extremely confused and isolated.
No wonder I need help.
I always hated this. It is this wholly my childhood. Not knowing what triggered my abusers terrified me. I'm still healing from it.
I feel attacked after reading that
I rather be alone than be miserable in a relationship!
Being alone in a relationship is so much worse than being alone by yourself.
Me too 😢
Me, also. You already had a "Me, too".
I still wonder how abuser can live without any regrets knowing that they destruct other people ...
I wonder that too
They gotta be thinking and doing some mental gymnastics to make up reasons as to why they’re in the right. So that way they don’t feel bad. I’m calling it now. That’s the reason
I have no idea how anyone would feel fine after such behavior. People who covertly abuse you are NOT for you. I would never want to coerce anyone. Best that people who are this way move right along
I have no idea how anyone would feel fine after such behavior. People who covertly abuse you are NOT for you. I would never want to coerce anyone. Best that people who are this way move right along
Exactly, thats how other people justify bad stuff, you wonder how presidents like biden can sleep at night? Thats how they can @@theragequitgodd
If it's incompatibility, the breakup will be done with mutual understanding and little to no drama. If it's abuse, the breakup will be close to impossible because you will be made to feel like it's your fault that the two of you aren't compatible. You'll also be made to feel guilty for wanting to leave.
If you keep telling them what you need and what bothers you and nothing changes, they don't respect you.
My bf to the tee😢
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Time stamps 1. 0:52 Nature of behaviour 2. 1:33 Intent of behaviour 3. 2:13 Emotional/ Psychological impact 4. 3:02 Recognizing the issue 5. 3:39 Addressing the issue
Thank you.
Thanks so much 💝💝
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I think a mistake a lot of people make when identifying any type of abuse is that they get stuck on the "intent" part. Abusers often gaslight their victims when they abuse them, and tell them that their behaviors are not abusive. The victim gets stuck because they believe the lies. The key that makes gaslighting easier to occur is the belief that their abuser doesn't "intend" to hurt them. I think intent, in this context, is often irrelevant. Abuse is an internal experience by the victim. Intent does not require acknowledgement, or understanding of HOW damaging the behavior is, on the part of the abuser, for it to be abuse. When we think of intent, we think the "do-er" must understand the consequences and effects of their behaviors. However, that's not true. Whether someone understands the effects or not, doesn't change the nature of the behavior. Even if they are "negligent" with their behaviors, and are unaware it is abuse, it is still abuse. My abuser told me OVER and OVER again that I'm "overreacting" and "too sensitive" when they were obviously intending to hurt me. "I was obviously not INTENDING to hurt you!" No, she was. It was clear as day to me, but no one else was present, and then when I'd call it out, she'd gaslight me, and blame me when I'd address the problem in couples counseling. Intent doesn't require acknowledgement on the abusers part. You dont need to wait for the abuser to say "Oh wow, you're right. I AM abusive!" for it to be abuse. Intent can still be present even when the other person is negligent. If you drive your car with your eyes closed and hit and kill someone, you'd be charged with criminally negligent homicide, not 1st degree murder. You may not have intended to kill someone, but the actions you did resulted in a death. Whether or not they intended to "abuse" you, resulted in abuse--it doesn't take "admitting" or "understanding" of the nature of their abusive actions to constitute abuse. Because they will often deny it.
Oh wow.. thank you so much for saying this❤ i struggle with this even when im not in a relationship, it happens in my friendships, i would think its alright they didnt intend it yet it would happen again, again, again and again, i would just think their clumsy or just a tad bit dumb not realizing, but it still hurts over and over again. So thank you for saying this❤ it gives me more knowledge and i still dont know what to do but atleast i know now❤
Sometimes I feel like im so different from others that I can sometimes end up losing hope in myself
Literally same. I feel like I can't fit in because I'm so different and like you said, it's resulted in me having given up hope of finding 'my person' after multiple fallouts. It's both a blessing and a curse.
Same for me but unlike you guys, I've kind of accepted it at this point.
It's rough. No doubt.
Oh you are black ? Yeah it's tough.
That’s the problem I have I seem to never have anything in common with others around me and seem to like all the things no one else does
For the first sign, the animation gave me a flashback. My ex would tap my leg in public when I "laughed too hard." That hurt me more than anything else. She was so miserable that she prevented me from laughing, of all things.
One thing I learned that really helped me to move forward is not to get hung up on whether abuse (primarily emotional abuse in my case) is "intentional" or not. I do believe now that abuse does not need to necessarily be intentional, but even if so, it's important not to get too hung up on trying to figure out if abusive behavior is in fact intentional or not. At the end of the day, abusive behavior hurts the recipient the same, whether intentional or not. So you don't have to force yourself to stick around despite the pain just because you believe, rightly or wrongly, that the person delivering that behavior is doing so without the intent of hurting you.
This explains most of my grandmas behavior. I'm an autistic man that is having trouble finding work, and my grandma has been guilt tripping and shaming me every time I look like I'm making progress in my life. This can be pursuing my passion, getting a job, going on walks, working out, eating healthy, and almost everything I do. I've found out by now that she's a covert narcissist, and she has often tried to gaslight me in the past. Due to some loans, I'm stuck with no way out from living with her. It's rough, but I'm doing what I can to make it day by day.
good luck :] we're rooting for you
Hang in there. I know I’m just some random guy on KZhead but I hope you can continue to be a positive influence on those around you even if someone is being toxic towards you.
My parents are the same... Can't even tell them I had fun hanging out with friends after a week of hard work, because to them I don't deserve fun until I'm having a job that they approve of (I'm a self-employed translator and sewist)...
@@myeramimclerie7869 Keep fighting. You can make it out of this. The thing about narcs is that they will never be satisfied with what you do, even to their grave. The only thing you can do is your best. Pursue what is meaningful for you, and don't let them in. Good luck out there, and always remember that even if there are people around you that want you to fail, there will be more that want you to succeed. You got this.
I don’t know you, but I’m proud of you and hope you give yourself credit. You’re more than your situation, although it’s tough. My hope is for you to get all that you not only want but need.❤ Good job, you’re doing well.
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Videos like this, if available decades ago, would have literally changed my life....
I remember my ex and I had perfect compatibility at first. And then slowly I noticed she became somebody I didn’t recognize. I suspect the person I fell in love with never even existed.
Narcissists wear a "mask" until they have roped us in....then it drops.....
It's just 💔
People change and not always for the better of the relationship. It's heartbreaking and there's no cure
@@thedarkestowl4224 There’s changing, and then there’s her. When we first started dating, I told her that modern dating felt too transactional, and she agreed. By the end…she was saying EVERYTHING is transactional, and if you don’t believe that then you’re a delusional idiot. She would espouse beliefs in front of her friends and colleagues, and then make fun of them for being stupid enough to believe her.
So you're a delusional idiot if you don't believe her, but she'll make fun of you if you believe her. That's a double bind. She'll damn you either way. There's no possible transaction there.
In terms of feeling lonely, sometimes people can just reject (which is a harsh but true way of putting it) your compassion, which just mqkes you feel useless
I just ended a mentally/psychologically abusive relationship I was in. I feel so much better, almost like I was freed.
Subscribing since I was in highschool, now I'm a freshman of being a psychology student. I love your channel so much❤
Yay!!!
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And it happens in relationships that aren't necessarily couples or friendships? Like family for example. Because this might be a way to describe me and ny mom's relationship. She's all into guilt-tripping and giving silent treatment whenever she sees fit, despite having talked a lot about it, she doesn't play her part to change the slightest. I'm really so done trying to fix our broken plate.
indeed, most of the time it's because they have been raised that way too and it's just another cycle in the chain, It's hard
Hang in there brother,her toxic behaviour and reactions are not your fault even if she says so, remember you are worthy of love and consideration and don't hear to whomsoever who told you otherwise.wishimg strength to you 🎉
It's like this & more with mine as well
Very educational and well-presented! The comparison between incompatibility and silent abuse using real psychological impacts helps clarify a lot of confusion.
My own parent is silent abusive and has no regrets doing it knowing too well she ruined my life.
Can you do a video about incompatible relationships? I was more interested in that part
Silent abusers recognize dependance and utilize it for personal gain. Incompatability can often stem from dependance without indulgence from the depended.
My abuser made me out to be the villain because I would communicate that I was hurt. I felt responsible for them forcing me into a situation and put myself in therapy and worked so hard to try and be better, because they made me believe it was my fault. I was the victim, not them. When I asked them why they thought I was responsible, they claimed that it was my choice.... it was never on my terms.
You described my ex-girlfriend in the silent abuse part, she did all those things. She was an emotionally abusive alcoholic who called the police when I broke up with her. She told them I was hitting her when I wasn't. It doesn't matter that it was a total lie, I've been arrested and have to take anger management classes for something I never did. I learned about your channel about a year ago when I started looking up information about her behavioral patterns. I didn't even know what a narcissist was until I met her. I knew the word, not the meaning. From what I can tell, they don't have the capacity for genuinely caring about others. They're good at putting on public displays of pretending to care, but ultimately, they'll throw anyone under the bus the moment it suits them.
I havent watched it yet. Will do. Some thoughts i wanted to share: thank you for educating people on abusive and toxic relationships. Nowadays, i think there are also many female abusers present as it‘s now more easy to blame men. DONT LET YOUR ABUSER GET AWAY WITH IT! I get furious as I think opportunistic women see this as a chance to get away with everything. Domestic abuse (emotional) is something that has to be processed. However, of course it is a general theme. I’m happy people get more access to education so that they can get help & break free. You are strong ❤
0:51 Nature of Behavior 1:33 Intent of the Behavior 2:14 Emotional Psychological Impact 3:01 Recognizing the Issue 3:38 Addressing the Issue
Tactics of psychological or emotional manipulation: 1. Gaslighting 2. Passive aggressiveness 3. Withholding affection 4. Guilt-tripping 5. Undermining (eroding) your self-esteem Incompatilibility is not mean to hurt or demean you in any way It is having different interests, values, needs and communication styles I think a lot of people are unknowingly abusive (unaware) and even if you highlight it to them, they may or may not see it as such
I think that my relationship did break down from mild incompatibilities to silent ignorance and either unintended abuse or unintended gas lighting They got a job and are now just busy 24/7 cus they work in health care. I don't envy them and understand them. But I am getting ignored and put aside all the time.... It is not getting better, no matter what bordered I draw or which compromises I ask for....the relationship is practicly dead...
I can definitely relate.. it's hard because you know for sure it's dead and yet. It's routine...😔🤦🏽♂️
As someone who is now realizing why some people have taken up so much space in my mind, I think I understand why now. They have taken these actions and I’ve been feeling it for a while but every time I discuss it with either of them, it’s brushed off. I said that I might finally quit replying to one of them, and was told “you’re reading too far into it, it’s not that deep” and ofc I agreed. I thought I was overthinking and I wondered why seeing them out anywhere I was scared me so much, and why I felt so ignored. I don’t need their attention, but I don’t wanna live in fear. I don’t want to leave because of the issues I think it would cause, but I’m clearly not valued to begin with. Idk maybe I just thought too hard on this video
vc não fala a minha língua e eu não estou a fim de traduzir, mas é o seguinte, eu passo pela mesma coisa e é realmente normal nesse tipo de relacionamento tóxico os abusadores fazerem isso com a gente, me refiro ao fato deles simplesmente ignorarem o que a gente fala ou diminuir as coisas que a gente está sentindo de ruim. Um ponto que eu quero ressaltar que apesar de não saber exatamente a causa disso, queria dizer que vc não está pensando demais, é apenas algo que está lhe magoando já faz um tempo e como vc não resolveu isso, sua mente fica retornando para aquilo, isso é completamente normal e tu deves entender que a culpa não é sua em relação a isso, a culpa é totalmente deles por fazerem isso. Logo, eu espero de coração que vc fique bem e que não deixe essas pessoas tóxicas tomarem conta dos seus pensamentos, tente conversar mais uma vez com eles, se eles não entenderem, garanta um espaço pra vc mesmo, sem que eles possam interferir nisso, eu garanto que depois de um tempo vc vai se sentir melhor, é muito difícil no início, mas depois vc percebe que vc é mais forte do que isso e que pode se reerguer sozinho.
@@fernandaladislau8695 estou usando um tradutor, mas só queria agradecer. Cada vez que ouço uma perspectiva externa, isso ajuda. Já faz um tempo que estou tentando criar distância, mas quero tentar manter meu relacionamento com eles. Muito obrigado novamente pela sua gentileza!! (também desculpe se isso não traduziu bem)
I actually find this video particularly relatable unfortunately.
I love your videos. I appreciate you so much! And also, your voice is so soothing and perfect for these kinds of videos. ❤️❤️ thanks for helping so many people!
The 'silent abuse' thing finally makes sense for me. All the things my "best friend" did to me were all silent. He never said what the main reason was, and always did it when no one was looking. He was a very anti-racist guy. There were times where he would shame me for being racist without actually saying "racist". He'd also get physical and no one cared. He did this for a year straight all because he thought that since I have lighter skin than him, that makes me white, and since I am "white" that makes me racist. I'm not white though. I'm a mixed native american and he forgot about that. My best friend and I were so close to the point of being full-on soulmates but he turned on me literally because of this reason, and he knew very well that I just got done from being manipulated before this. It's very obvious that he's the racist one here, hating me for looking like a white person. Bullying someone and shaming them for being racist when they're clearly not really messes them up. I know this because he triggered two very serious mental disorders that I was not supposed to get this early. Now he's scared of me and doesn't talk to me FOR WHAT FUCKING REASON BECAUSE I LITERALLY NEVER DID A SINGLE THING TO HIM
If nobody's ever told you this, I'm so so sorry you were treated like that. Being a person who was never respected where I'm from, and white, people like that are just sickening and I hate how many people get treated just because of their race, ethnicity, religion, or disability. Whoever you are, I love you💖💖💖💖
if he's being "scared" of you and not talking to you its possible he's not actual scared but just giving the "Silent treatment" which is another abuse method
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If you recognize these signs in your relationship, it's important to seek support from trusted friends, family members, or professionals. Remember that you deserve to be treated with respect, kindness, and dignity in all your relationships.
Thank you so much for this video. This really opened up my eyes on many things.
Look up reactionary abuse... If needed. I hope it isn't happening to you.. As I know how horrible it is.
@yellowdayz1800 Thankyou. I will
Being friends with Psych2Go is never an abuse danger. Instead, it is greatly uplifting. I really send You much love and encouragement. And thank You for the warm voices each of Your team members offer to the listenners.
Explains a lot about my last relationship. Based off what I've been learning, gaslighting has been constant throughout my relationship. So much so it felt like I was walking on eggshells and trying to plan the day ahead so as to dictate her moods to avoid conflict
Thank you very much, ma'am.
thx for the tips :D
I used to like your previous videos since they were great! Although I really wish to have some more videos on Schizophrenia, OCD, Trauma-related issues - psychological explanations such as what to do if we've escaped them and now what? Whether someone is becoming sadistic and what to do before completely loosing the mind.
Gaslighting is another common form that abuse can take in silent abuse. Those suffering should also be prepared not to be believed by friends and family who have not witnessed the abuse. Having a mental health professional you can trust and you feel that has your best interests at heart should always be one of the first steps, right after removing yourself from dangerous situations.
I am pretty sure many people don't relise when they hurt someone , and even if they hurt others .. i think since they saw it from others and it was fine for them then they think "why wouldn't i be allowed to do that too ?" I just think mental health and psychology should be thought in schools because then so many stuff i know now ? I could of avoided ..
I wish i could get help. I just dont have the money. I need it so badly.
Watching this even though i’ve never been in a relationship
Dealing with silent abuse is the worst feeling in the world. i won't wish this on anyone. Dealing with this makes me feel like im crazy and annoying, so i push away from my friends and family because i feel so insured, but it hurt more when the person that i was with can't see what they are don't is hurting me
Mom is actually good at this
Thanks!
Thank you for your extra support!
This has happened to me before..
Hope you’re doing great right now
By the way guys, you should consider taking out a free personality test online instead of claiming that you are introverted. I took it and found out I was 80% or more introverted. This confirms that I am legitimately an introvert. I just figure this will be helpful for viewers of this channel. Most people are extroverts by the way this channel is making things seem Talkative world, right?
Time to S I L E N T L Y leave.
Im going through this now
I can relate.. wished we could share and talk about what's going on with ours with each other..😔
Divorced now thankfully. But my ex husband would silent abuse me while married. Told the doctor she said just ignore him do the same back. So I did for 14 days. He was not bothered about it. Try hat was 10 years ago. But there was also domestic. Silent abuse is and was so harmful it’s mental torture that never goes away. It’s what did I do what did I say all the whys but the abuser knows what they’re doing. They are narcissistic and cruel. Mental cruelty. NOW I SHALL WATCH THE VIDEO
I’ve been with my bf for over 4 years now. Lately, he’s been really toxic af to me for a lot while. I try to talk to him abt it, he just doesn’t change his ways. Also on top of that, I’ve been mentally drifting away from him, I have an another that I’m really starting to like.. and I’m just here wondering if I should just drop the 4 year relationship and start a new, or stay with him and just *trust* that he will change. (PS: The “toxic” thing is not a new thing. Tbh, I’ve been dealing with it for over a year now, and I’ve told him many times abt his behavior, but he just couldn’t care less…) I really dont know what I should do, when I think abt it, I wouldn’t actually want to leave my bf. But it’s also so hard when he’s speaking so disrespectfully to me. It’s been like this for a few weeks now. Any thoughts?
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Hey Psych2Go, I already SMASHed the like button.
......especially when it happens right after you're born.......
Holy shit and in right back to this channel… I thought everything was well…
Is sad what happened in for love one
314 days ago i could have yoused this video .... still hurts ... PAY ATENTION TO THIS .... silent abuse is VERRY harmfull !
This one’s gonna be hard for me.
My intense need for space from the world at times, combined with the vast quantity of info that I have to read and interpret, is often discerned to mean that I’m a callous asshole. Being anything but, at least the callous part, is an unfortunate part of my existence.
Might I add, I operate in slow motion,time consuming more time, and I spend a shitload of time just reading and discerning. I’m more than willing to make time for a friend, but if that friend doesn’t know that about me, guess we’re fucked.
If I may... I think you might need to be a little gracious and maybe humble(?) in acknowledging while reading and discerning have value, they're no substitute for wisdom. You have to interact with people, being gracious to them, giving them the benefit of whatever doubt you might have about them, to allow them to reveal themselves to you without a need to have their personalities fit into the ideas you may have of them. Talk to people about what you know, and allow yourself to learn from them (not just books or whatever else) because everyone is different, even if we share many similarities. I'll add that it's really annoying interacting with a "know-it-all" even though they hardly know you. And this will definitely cause you to "lose" people, unnecessarily so.
I'm too big of a Rocky horror picture show fan...after I heard 'Dr. Scott', I could only think of is ' Brad !, Janet! ROCKY!' 😂😅
Can this happen in any type of relationship? Like a working relationship or friendship or family, or would that be a different kind of struggle? I'm just curious.
yes
My wife has been doing this stuff for years. I always figured it was part of the give and take of the relationship. I give everything I have, and she takes it and demands more. It's not a happy or prosperous life, but what can I do? I'm stuck where I am untill sweet death comes to rumble with me one last time and releases me from my shell to the universe...
For the past week, I've been acting hot and cold with my partner, giving him the silent treatment, even though I'm not sure why I'm behaving this way. I sent him flowers because he was feeling pressured at work, and I feel bad seeing him upset. and then the next day However, i started behaving the same way and feeling very disconnected from him. I'm feeling alone and sad, and I don't feel like talking to him, even though I know he cares a lot. Sometimes I think I judge him too harshly or focus too much on his negative traits, which might be causing me to act this towards him.. and treating him like this makes me feel like crying.. even tho we have good communication i don't know how to figure out why am i doing this...
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Unfortunately, folks can be abusive AND unaware of the harm their behavior does. Saying "abuse is intentional" is not wholly accurate. Malicious abuse is done knowingly.
hey there love the youtube channle helped me when i was young i was deeling with stuff and now i know i have to get help with this im scared of loosing a group of friends do to loosing touch with them i struggle to sleep think about what i would do and how i could stop this from happening please help idk any more and it scares the crap out of me.
Timestamps 1). Nature of behaviour 0:51 2). Intent of the behaviour 1:32 3). Emotional/psychological impact 2:12 4). Recognising the issue 3:00 5). Addressing the issue 3:37 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I know this is the wrong video to say this, but basically i have this best friend, and we used to talk alot 24/7 and we used to chat ALOT throughout the day, but the past month, they have been talking to my other friend more and i feel like they are kind of ignoring me. That’s my only fear, being forgotten
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Can you explain about Dissociative identity dissorder? And how to get them? Pls?
Thanks again psych2go
I have had a friend, who would emotionally abuse me. Let’s call her Blondie (because she was blonde) She would never be afraid to speak her mind, she was ignorant and acted like she was the most important and powerful girl in the whole middle school. She would insult me, guilt trip me, shame me and control me. but justify it as “being a good friend” and I have considered cutting ties with her but the thought of losing her hurt me for some reason even though she was toxic. She would bail out on plans last minute, rarely ever texting or hanging out. But we would talk at school often. She eventually started insulting my appearance and just flat out didn’t care about me. She would yell, control and her toxicity took over me. She always blamed everything on me. I told her that we were cutting ties because she was rude and toxic to me, I didn’t text or call or talk about or to her ever since, but the funny thing was I was so sad about losing her even though she was toxic, and I was a good friend but she didn’t care that I left but she also told me to kys and that it was my fault and I’m nothing without her? I’m very hurt by her I haven’t talked to her in 4 years. Thank you Physch2go, without you I’d probably still be talking to that toxic b1tch. ❤️
Folks, human society has been around for the grand total of like 2% of our entire human history so "abuse" is purely a failure of modernisation, exploiting one avenue of progress or another, leading to a disastrous outcome. It's purely the inability to express the frustration and, instead, it festers until the burn out causes breakdown. We were just bred too stubborn and repetitive to experiment! 🤷♂️
I attack by best friend because i remember moments
This happend to me so often:/
What if its unintentional abuse? My gf threatens self deletion if i leave, but I believe she's serious and she's actually scared of dying legitimately
I was curious about the same thing. Like what if they don't know they're being emotionally abusive? What if that's just how they learned to handle problems and you learned a different way so they feel attacked when you say that just because their way of handling things is different, that means it's abusive?
Not always the victim.
Please can you make me. My problem is I'm afraid to love again. I feel if I love someone again there will be lost my friend. It's very heavy for me 😢
Consider this: “The language used to describe individuals with BPD can come across to sufferers as cold, detached, and uncaring. But the language is often reflective of individuals who have been hurt, manipulated, or controlled by someone with BPD. To make matters worse, it is often easy to misinterpret the behaviors of those diagnosed with BPD which can lead to incorrect expectations within relationships causing miscommunication and frequent conflict.” So basically, bpd and bpd makes for an inherently difficult time.
Please can someone help me? ;( how to know if the person is gaslighting? Or manipulating? I can't figure it out ;( I'm confused ;(
I have a question, how is it that your subjects uploaded are comveniently timed with the events of my life? From depression, to dating, to...this...which just happened. Maybe it's coincidence but I swear it's not
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My ex friend didnt believe me due to my parents acts seeing like a "nice people" i tried to convince her abt it but she was stubborn as hell she also told me everyone or most dont believe me too so that ones in my group with her i believe they dont believe me and i wont be suprised if they say i dont believe u bc i knew they wont
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Hey,umm i have a problem,im trying to be a friend of a shy girl,and im also shy, can you do a video that solves the shyness?
If you're asking what you mean with a shy girl,it's a girl from my same classroom that i like,and she's shy,but im also shy
Plz awnser
help... я не знаю это является abuse или нет, но мне кажется что это и есть abuse. Некоторые постоянно обзывают меня "карапузиком". Можно подумать: -А что в этом такого? Но мне это говорили много раз и я считаю это abuse. А также один мой одноклассник постоянно обижает меня. Например сегодня я (только я) пошёл в школу в сапогах. Я пытался сказать что днём будет дождик и мне это сказала мама (по итогу так и было), но НЕТ НАДО СПРАШИВАТЬ -ОНА ТЕБЯ ПРЯМ БИЛА, ДА? (с такой интонацией по типу он понимает что мама меня не била но всё равно спрашивает). Изменено: Теперь я знаю что я думал в правильном направлении... У нас в классе есть мальчик. Его зовут Захар. Он меня постоянно бьёт. Например сегодня я шёл в столовую, а захар меня бил по спине хотя я даже пальцем не тронул. А ещё после обеда он ударил меня по щеке, а Федя скидывал мои маркеры со стола. Изменено х2: В 1-ом классе в один день я благополучно вернулся с завтрака. Я ждал прихода учительницы и в один момент какой-то одноклассник (Захар походу) схватил мои ручки и кинул к ножке какой-то парты. Я побежал за ними и тут пришла учительница... -Игорь. Вот что ты там делал? - говорила учительница. -Захар отнял у меня ручки и... - говорил я. -НЕ ПЕРЕКЛАДЫВАЙ ВИНУ НА ДРУГИХ! - снова говорила учительница. -Но это реа... - продолжал я. -НЕ ВРИ! - кричала учительница. Вот так я стал мешенью для abuse всего класса. И я поделать с этим ничего не могу... Не поверят! Изменено х3: Недавно, на перемене я вышел с фингербордом из Ленты (часть Скейтеров). Я начал катать фингерборд по подоконнику и он покатился к Саше Плоскому. Он взял его и положил к себе в карман. В карман, запомнили? Я попытался достать игрушку: -Смотрите! - сказал он - Игорь ворует! Я попытался обьяснить, что он убрал мою игрушку, но в ответ меня толкнул Захар. И тут Саша говорит, что достанет игрушку из моего уха. На самом деле она была в его руке! Он якобы достал из уха игрушку, но... Там не было 2 колеса. Я начал говорить, что он сломал игрушку. Ноль реакции. Колёса были съёмные и недостающие колёса были под скамейкой, но факт того, что он попытался сломать МОЮ вещь (помойму в конституции написанно, что ущерб чужим вещам - штраф) не отпускает меня... Изменено х4: 22.04.24 - дата твёрдого abuse... В этот день всё было как обычно. Но на одной перемене произошло очень грустное... Я вышел в коридор и меня начала щекотать однокласница. Я держал писк изо всех сил. Меня начали защищать. Я упал на пол и стал писщать. Всех наказали и сказали что это из-за... меня и Семёна Бирулёва (последнего даже рядом со мной не было). Я пытался сказать, что это Даша Семёновна (та самая одноклассница) но в ответ услышал, что учительница даже разбираться не хочет кто начал это всё... Мне больше никто не верит... Также в этот день я якобы сломал колпачок Семёна Бирулёва. Сижу на английском, делаю задание как вдруг слышу звук падения колпачка. Я поднял его, а вторая часть упала на мою парту. ЕЩЁ РАЗ! Я СИДЕЛ И ДЕЛАЛ АНГЛИЙСКИЙ. Бирулёв обернулся и увидел вторую часть колпачка на столе. Он сказал, что я сломал колпачок и я должен тысячу рублей от ручки. Я попытался сказать, что я не ломал колпачок, но мне не поверили. Пришлось отдать ластик... В тот же день когда я уходил со школы две однокласницы говорили, что я девочка...
.... yeah, it was probably silent abuse
Would this theoretically work with you and your parents/guardian or is it only for lovers???... Not the incompatible part but the rest of it..
Can anyone help me like please or suggest me something "Few months ago I was at my relatives house and it was pretty ok but after sometime a strange feeling in my head came and small pain my chest came and because of those things I'm like walking dead whenever I try to focus the pain comes out and I thought chest pain was normal but I noticed that whenever I was busy like playing soccer or talking to classmates it wouldn't hurt but as soon as I get alone or silence the pain starts again and for the past 2 years I've been alone like house, no friends etc but this never happened to me can anyone help me :)
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just learned my ex abused me
I really do not understand the definition of silent abuse.
Why am i so early
Can abuse be accidental? For example,if someone constantly shouts and stuff but they dont mean to
I think if you keep telling them that you’re uncomfortable or it hurts you but they keep doing it then i wouldn’t say it’s accidental. If they really care about you they would try their best to not let it happen, maybe by taking some time to themselves first before you continue talking
If they are autism meltdowns, which are involuntary.
@@victoriasvetlana18true,good to know
@@victoriasvetlana18this. I've recently finally got a chance to end a 6+yrs of friendship. Tried to put up with thinking i'm just overthinking everything but finally my patience level got snapped and now i'm kinda glad i moved on and reset my boundaries
@@varshajohnI'm in relationship since 3 yrs and after 6 months of my relation there was a change in his behaviour like whenever I really tried to reach him out but he just ignore ( I was in hostel though ) when I completed my high studies and came to home I messeged him and he was like " ohh u came back , I missed u so much and all " after that he started ignoring me and when I tried to find out I told my bestie to ask him that what happened ( I told my bestie cuz i have no social media and I just use yt ..... ) I don't know but he told my bestie that he can't talk with me more than 15 min in a day and then I agreed on this .. but after all these he just stop to talking with me .... And he just messaged me once in a week hardly .. I don't know he does nothing all day ... There is nothing like that he is busy or doing some imp work. But whenever he talk with me he just feel sorry and bombard so much love and affection that I always forgive him I'm really mentally destroyed.i told him many times but he just like ignoring ......plz suggest me what should I do
silent is not abuse, abuse is what get you to be silent ....
I've always wondered how the person who abuses can still live normally I'm just sad for them thank psych2go❤❤ I've learned a lot from you ❤❤
Good day to commenters, I'd like to ask a few questions about these psychological traits: 1) Low attention span/hard to focus in conversation/class/etc. 2) Often imagining things, or remembering things they see in daily lives. Either a car or flower. 3) Easier to understand simple conversation/words. If a conversation gets any more longer/complex, the person's brain will start wandering off. 4) Having trouble doing tasks like: • Recognising pattern • Recognising differences between two similar-like items. If there's anyone that knows either: • One name of such condition? • Or similar conditions? I'd like to learn more, feel free to leave your answer in this comment section, If there's anyone having at least *one* of these symptoms, I'd like hear your daily experience interacting with objects or people. Thank you very much. (This is simply for my own personal benefit not school or work. I write story)
How do you call someone who treats psychological help as if it’s brainwashing? (Real question)
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