6 Things Women Notice First In A Man & Find Attractive | Courtney Ryan
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In this video, I go over 6 things that women notice first in a man and find attractive. While you absolutely should not be living your life to please others, it's nice to know you're putting your best foot forward. First impressions are important, especially when it comes to initial attraction.
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8 Most Influential Factors of Your Life 1. Your self talk 2. Your self worth 3. Your habits 4. Your family 5. What you read 6. What you eat 7. Your beliefs 8. Who you associate with
I thought this was the list guy
#8 you are known by the company you keep.
I like your voice alot!
1.How you carry yourself 2.Style 3.Grooming 4.Personality 5.Voice/Language expand your vocabulary 6.Your Smile 😊
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@@CourtneyRyan None of this matters if you're not the societally accepted "type". Courtney will likely NEVER be "attracted" to a "black" or "Asian" guy even IF he is all of the above. Asian men are stereotyped in Western society as not being "masculine" and "black" men are seen as criminal or deviant or "disappointing your dad" by being with one. Facts.
@@SuperhumanCyberRy That is simply not true at all haha silly of you to assume!
@@SuperhumanCyberRy wtf are you on about
@@SuperhumanCyberRy I'm asian and I found this funny but not a good way.
I cannot dispute anything Courtney said, but if you do all these things for yourself instead of attention, then your stress levels might plummet.
Exactly
Never change yourself for validation, not worth it
Slouching is such a big issue with a lot of men, not only will it make you look less attractive to the opposite sex. It can also cause muscle tension, back pain, joint pain, and reduced circulation for the guy downstairs. And you don’t want to do anything that will compromise the guy downstairs performance… the guy downstairs is our friend, and deserves to be treated with care, and respect. Thank you! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
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"plummet" every day is a school day
I think as men, we make things too complicated...we think or are told if we do "A through Z", then that certain woman of your dreams is going to like you, normally it doesn't work that way. Bottom line, love yourself first, then look for a relationship if that's your desire. If you're waiting for someone else to make you happy that will never work. Plus you're missing out on the true journey of life, self-discovery. In addition, take care of yourself, workout, eat healthy, take pride in your grooming habits, dress and look the best you can. Have some fun hobbies and enjoy life. Stop stressing over needing a woman/relationship. When you do the above, your light will shine bright, and you won't need to chase anyone, they will be chasing you!!! Best of luck gentlemen!!!
Absolutely. Had a friend that would always get almost trapped in a spell around women and would almost always do things he believed he had to do to impress but always come off as the bull in a china shop. Literally would lie or try his hardest to be 'alpha' and often resulted in the woman being interested in the one guy that is not chasing her. That guy was often me which resulted in me being blamed for 'choc' block when i'm too shy to even make eye contact. I guess a few years back I was able to pass my own lack of confidence as indifference. The nights when I genuinely just wanted a lads night out, would always result in a woman showing interest, purely because I wasn't trying to be the center of attention. When you are surrounded by guys puffing their chest out, lean back and relax because they are doing the hard work for you. Any women that actually want 2 guys competing for her is trouble and will always expect you to defend her honor and your own relationship every time another ego shows up.
Yeah, if you're blue-eyed muscular 6'5 with the square chin they noting is important from that list)
Well spoken dear friend,I second your idea😂
Definitely great points you made here
Luck has nothing to do with it
Personality: I pointed out to my son when growing up that charm will get you much further than trying to bulldoze your way through. "Get them on your side" by being friendly, smile, eye contact, and witty. He was deep into baseball and saw this with his various coaches over the years. You might not win the first conflict, but you're more likely to win the majority of them later on.
Sorry to be a downer here, but... I completely agree with all you said... when dealing with other men. When dealing with women, they will view that conciliatory attitude as simping, as supplication. Modern women will chew him up and spit him out after taking half of his assets. You honestly, sadly, need to warn him away from modern women. MGTOW all the way. Monk-mode all the way.
@@dbf1dware He has pretty good awareness of human nature and women. When I say charm, it doesn't necessarily mean conciliatory. I recently handed him Rollo Tomassi's book "The Rational Male", and he already has some red pill awareness. I'll be advising him on future situations and he's actually a good listener. So we'll see how it goes. Also, he knows that State sanctioned legal marriage gets men nothing but obligation and burden anymore. So for a 21 year old, he's way ahead of most of us at his age.
This lady is so cool. I enjoy her perceptions, insights. A woman of greater vision. EXTREMELY rare.
Thank you so much!
@@CourtneyRyan my pleasure Lady Ryan. 😊
@@paulv2394 Aww, good boy
@@negus345 spank you very much young Padawan.. 😁
@@paulv2394 You were doing well until you dropped the "Yes, mommy." vibe.
build/ how you carry yourself 0:42 style 2:16 face/ grooming 2:54 personality 5:02 voice / language 7:58 your smile 11:05
@Courtney, Thank you for saying dress for who you are and what you feel comfortable in. This is like a breath of fresh air. 🤜🏻🤛🏻
I think it’s important to know which traits or characteristics that a person possess most strongly, to know which they need to work on. Self awareness is key.
Awesome vid. And most people would be surprised what they have to work with. I was chubby, buzz cut, no muscle, poor style, etc. and I lost 60lbs, got really muscular, grew my hair out and styled it, and payed for a style consultation and changed my whole wardrobe. I went from being below average, to having women make positive comments about me everywhere I go. Feels like an alternate universe.
Similar story, different details. How do you deal with the ugly duck syndrome? This is hard to deal with. The scars from when you were unnatractive
Sounds like a made-up story. Just sayin....
How could anyone hate your voice? It's so soft and light
It’s refreshing to see a beautiful woman sharing advice with sincerity and kindness. You’re clean water for thirsty hearts
Stop SIMPIN'. She isn't beautiful. Realize you are the prize KING! 👑
@@chrisscanlon3717 you seem insecure. Men are NOT kings and they are NOT the prize. Stop with the toxic arrogance
@@GoldenMushroom64 you got that big simp energy
Thank you for bringing up the like and literally! I just mentioned that in the previous video. I’m glad someone else notices it. Hearing people say that “ men and women “ all the time drives me nuts! Thank you!
For men who aren't funny and worrying about that negatively effecting your dating-don't stress about it! I'm an energetic introverted woman, and being funny is not something I need or look for in a guy. So, not every woman is looking for a funny guy to make them laugh, there are different people out there for everyone.
Never met a woman with a great sense of humor who made me laugh. Quite the contrary in fact.
Are they serious??? I absolutely melt listening to your voice. Top 5 of all time......
I don’t know what problems others have with this, but your voice is very soft and sweet. My thanks to you for presenting content in a pleasant but honest way.
Your WALK says so much about you! I think it's a very simple thing that everyone can work on right now to get people to give a great pre-impression of you. If you walk with your shoulders back, not in a hurry but still like you've got a purpose, and most importantly LOOKING AT THE WORLD (not down at the ground), it can immediately give you an aura of confidence before people even meet you.
%100 i tell this to guys when i am out
wea always bad boys win
For style, find what you like and makes you comfortable. Then, all you need to do is tailor in micro-adjustments, such as fit, wash, or V-Neck/Crew. Also, don't change JUST for dating and be the best version of yourself for YOU. I promise the right one will fall into place eventually.
Yup, exactly this, your true self will always come out. No point in putting up an act or something
I completely agree that personality is the key for both women and for men (or should be). I would include under personality temperament, intelligence, spiritedness, and character. All are critical but temperament is foundational. Here I am referring to the traditional understanding of temperament dating back to Galen the ancient Roman physician. Until about a hundred years ago, most everyone was familiar with and utilized this analysis of inborn temperament. Unfortunately, both Freud and behaviorism displaced such "constitutional" aspects of psychology and this understanding was lost for many people up to this day. But there are crucial differences in people that cut across the sexes. The four temperaments are sanguine, choleric, melancholy, and phlegmatic. Carl Jung tried to resuscitate these temperament types and then add in the introvert/extrovert difference. The Meyers/Briggs temperament test that is available online is a great way to see not only what temperament that you have but also to discover what a prospective love interest's temperament is. Certain temperaments are good matches while others are not. I married a sanguine. I am a melancholy with some phlegmatic tendencies. Once I read a book on temperament, *Please Understand Me: Character & Temperament Types* by David Keirsey, I could see exactly how my wife and I did share some traits but not others and the ones that we did not share were greatly affecting our marriage for the worse. I realized on reflection that sanguine women are drawn to me. I like them too but there is not much possibility of any lasting in-depth intimacy with sanguine women for me. That is not to say that they are a mismatch for others. It tends to be that sanguines are good matches for cholerics or other sanguines or some mix with these temperaments being dominant in the person. I later realized that every girl whom I had fallen in love with had a very similar temperament to one another and to me. They each had a combination of a melancholy temperament with a phlegmatic temperament. They were intelligent, well-educated, highly opinionated, and they were on the political Left (I am a conservative and the intensity of our arguments draw us closer to together). Even before I really took temperament seriously, I was intuitively drawn to these girls and them to me. I am referring here to a sixth sense that men have for selecting a mate that tends to be very accurate. Some have been very good looking while others have been average looking. The girl I have cared most deeply for in my life was very average looking, but we were "Simpatico" as she put it. Her temperament, intelligence, her passion, her character all trumped the issue of looks. So, while looks matter compatibility, in temperament especially, is the most important point of attraction and will sustain a relationship over time.
Hey Courtney, I just wanted to say that your elegance and the way you speak is what keeps people coming back to you. You have insightful well thought out videos. Thank you
"Why do you sound like a five year old" my response: because I'm trying to speak on your level.
😂💀 savage lol love it
"why do you sound like a 5 year old" for the people that said this to you I would like to ask them for specifics like are you talking about a group of five year olds or a individual five year old because certainly not all five year old sounds the same
I believe we should talk to women without the intention of sex but the purpose of understanding each other. Also establishing a comfortable environment of exchanging truths.
I agree on most things you mentioned. You gave us, men, tools and what we do with those tools are up to us, so if many men are throwing those tools away, well, they’re just hurting themselves and that’s the reason they continue to struggle because they don’t have an open mind. 💯 I’ve applied many things that you mention in your videos and I can say that my game has only become stronger and have been getting positive reactions from different women, so from hundreds of guys who complain, I’m one of those few who, Thanks you.
Great points. I would also add that generally coming across as a positive and enthusiastic person showing excitement to meet the other person adds a lot of brownie points as well..
People of class are usually attracted to the same type of person, so if we want a classy mate, then first we have to become a classy mate. It's pretty simple really. Courtney, your videos have been really beneficial to me, as I am sure they have been to others. Thanks.
Ha! Yes! Having a good vocabulary will repay you for the rest of your life, in tons of different ways. Kudos to the boys and girls who just loved a good book...they unknowingly gave themselves one of the most useful social tools.
Thanks Courtney. I'm really enjoying your videos. I'm learning a lot about how to do engage in behaviors that allow me to present the best version of myself everywhere... especially on a date. Please keep up all the great work!
C.R Keep up the great work. You are right on point, these core characters are continually in my values building regimen. Thanks
Great tips Courtney! Your wisdom and advice is helping out a lot of guys! keep it up! 😁
Thank you! ❤️
For style it doesn't matter what your sense of style is as much as actually having one and paying attention to fit. You're also not limited to just one type of style either so it can be a fun way to give voice to facets of your personality e.g. friends have complimented how I look both in a blazer/sport coat and a black leather jacket (with one best friend saying it looked natural on me).
Thank you for your honesty and your informative videos. You have all my respect for talking about these topics: being attractive as you are, I can imagine it’s not easy to expose oneself to a broad audience and keep providing valuable contents. Let me finally compliment you for your renaissance haircut: Every time I have to think of Leonardo’s painting of the Mona Lisa 😉👍
Courtney, I'll be honest... Lately I've been falling asleep to your videos without paying attention because your voice is so soothing.
Good list! I can still make my wife laugh every now and then after living together 25+ years .. and not on purpose .. it just happens. About language and vocabulary - totally agree! I HATE filler words and blast my kids (verbally) for using those. I think social media is also responsible for those "ee .. um .. y'know.. like" etc. As English is no my native language i also have to fight my young ones using more and more loan words. It's painful to see that they sometimes can express things in English, but struggle doing it in their native language.
I once went through a stage where I thought I'd get more attention from women if I were a jerk. I never did that, but the idea of it just frustrated me. So if anyone referred to me as a gentleman, that would be worrisome to me. Then as I got older, I realized that it's one of the best compliments a guy could get, and if a woman can't seem to appreciate it, then she really is the one with the problem. I even once knew a girl who once told me that she should probably become a bitch to get more guys, since it seems like that's what guys want. I told her that I'm one guy who doesn't want that. I think I talked her out of it anyway, although when I told a few others about her, they just said that depends on what the girl wants. I don't see how anyone could defend that.
🙌🏼 never pretend to be something you’re not to attract someone that wouldn’t even like the real you! Lol I think there is a book about that last thing you mentioned. How bizarre
@@CourtneyRyan What's the name of the book?
being jerk you have to have that kind of badboy looks OR money to pull that off ,otherwise it doesn't work.
You're missing something A gentleman alone won't get you anywhere. An "assertive gentleman" is what women want! Meaning making her know youre the type of guy who gets what he wants without being an asshole about it. Its a subtle art.
And thats the Big Point, MOST women of all ages can't seem to appreciate being a gentlemen, and in not necessarily only speaking of myself
Thank you so much Courtney for that insightful video. Your speech is very engaging and I never get bored with your topics! You should probably consider becoming a motivational speaker.(professionally) You have really helped me gain confidence in speaking to women and to break out of my shell of being an introvert. Also, you make me smile 😊. Thanks again and God bless!
Enjoy watching your presentations. You have a wonderful way with words.
If you ask girls what they want in a guy, whatever they say is the exact opposite of what they actually want.
Bruh
@Eric V, EXACTLY. Girls don't want to be seen as shallow - but when the night comes and the camera is off, they're off to meet Chad. What amazes me, is the amount of simps who buy all this bs. 🤦🏼♂️
@@stians.6912 well, being a chad is a lot of work, you gotta act all mean and all that. Too much effort for me, the girl doesn't have to put effort to be attractive much, so why should we
Thank you..... I felt something like this all the time but passes on. Now that you put it in words, its all coming back to me.
@@homiesenatep , Being a 'Chad' is not about putting up an act - it simply refers to the genetics you're handed out at birth. In other words, your looks. If you're a Chad, you don't have to make much effort.
Love this girl! She's so unapologetic and tells it how it is!
Like Donald trump. I am saying this as a compliment
Just for the record , I love your voice it’s very soothing. Great for what you do and story telling. And thank you for all that you do btw .
Just took an effort to crystallise overall video in points of summary :- 1. Your build and how you carry yourself 2. Your style 3. Your face / grooming 4. Your personality 5. Your voice and language 6. Your smile 😊 To sum up, you should try to have a nice build to carry yourself confidently, so that it reflects your style of elegance. Your face and hair must be properly groomed that enhances your personality. In addition to that, your voice and language must be decent enough backed by a silent smile....👍❤
Courtney has a soothing, girlish and enchanting voice. She's got the right stuff.
She’s a delight, more like her please
INDEED and she takes no sides, just straight no chaser. She's adorable and intelligent?
One thing that might have been overlooked is what the nose knows. Hygiene. I think smell can make or break a first impression with anyone. Maybe include that one into #3. I'm just looking at it from a five senses perspective. #1 is visual, tie for #2 is smell and hearing, then touch and last is taste. If you get taste on a first impression, you are one smooth operator. Touch is a possibility. I've been judged by a handshake in the past.
This is incredibly GREAT content!!!! shout out to Courtney....helping guys allll around the world...yes!!! love you and god bless girl !!!!
Hey Courtney, I think your voice is soft, meek and sweet. Thank you for doing what you do and trying to help men do better with their interests.
My mother taught me the smiling tip when i was 17 and travelling overseas for the first time but not for getting girls, it was so I wouldnt get pulled up by airport security. She said when you dont smile you look really angry and they will wonder why and pull you out of line. She was right but I still get the full barrage of checks when I walk through security. RBF is a thing for guys too.
So what's your point?
Catch yourself pouting on accident and make the effort to smile more around women at least 😂.
Thanks for pointing out that being articulate and literate are important - in life in general, come to think of it, especially in an age when the printed word is denigrated, and in a country where anti-intellectualism is rife. Reading novels will broaden your mind in a way that popular entertainment can’t. A movie will show you how other people act, but a good novel let’s you get inside of other people’s heads and learn how they think. And a bit of academic philosophy gives you a basis to understand which issues in life - in politics, religion, the sciences or whatever - are important, and which things in our daily lives are really trivial and not worth the effort a lot of people seem to take in lashing themselves into frenzies of meaningless opinions. You don’t have to be a snob who’s trying to impress people with how cool you are. Quite the opposite. But if others know that you’re an honest person who’s trying to “live in truth,” as Vaclav Havel put it, they’ll respect you for your integrity.
Great, Courtney, I have a lean build, and I look for the same in women at the club; I carry myself with confidence, straight up, great posture, head high, and perfect chin/jawline, and smile, but my style is my weakest point however, the men there have to watch this video. The men last saw a gym a few years ago, if ever. I have a personality when there is a woman to have an intelligent conversation with. The women are checking me out, constantly thinking whether they are good enough to have a Real Man like myself. Since I'm not anywhere to look for a woman, they are always looking, no matter their relationship. Then there is giving out my real name. At one club along the lake, the racketeers found out I was there, and from the outside, they said or communicated things that led me to be banned from the club. These people are ruthless. They know I go to my current club, and they've tried to find ways to have me leave without cause. I told a man who seems to know me since he's associated with several clubs that, if they boot me, I'm not going home; I'm going straight to the News Media. Then let them see my face with their 32 big screen TVs on the news for getting booted. The people there will see me on TV and think, WTF? I'll have a video of who did it and why. Imagine that. I go there, look as described above, and PAY for every Coke I have after the first one. Every Coke, after paying for the first, is free. The bartenders don't work for free, and whenever I approach the bar and hold my glass up, they know whatever I give them (usually two to three dollars) is a tip for providing exemplary service to me. Watching the far less than attractive men hit on the woman is a blast. All those men need you, Courtney; they fit the age demographic too. Regards
Thank you miss Courtney, I’m Richard from Indiana. 4 months widower was married for 30 years. I’m 52 and have absolutely no flipping clue what I’m doing. With saying that thank you! I am working on myself and slowly learning about all the things you talk about in your videos. Love your content and I even watch the ones I don’t think pertain to me. I don’t want to me a gold nugget you might drop! Thank you again. Richard Indiana!
Slouching is such a big issue with a lot of men, not only will it make you look less attractive to the opposite sex. It can also cause muscle tension, back pain, joint pain, and reduced circulation for the guy downstairs. And you don’t want to do anything that will compromise the guy downstairs performance… the guy downstairs is our friend, and deserves to be treated with care, and respect. Thank you! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
Courtney as long as we listen to you; we'll naturally be at our best when a women first meet us. I know for me, women always notice my hair, my voice my smile and how i carry myself. They are always vocal about that. Anyways sorry no funny one liners today but i wish you a lovely weekend 🎃🧡💫
I agree with all you have said . Being a marketing comma person you make your points clear and explain them great . I do tell stories and woman laugh and smile. That’s a great attribute to have . Yes and read a book !!!!
A great video once again.It is great to see the growth of the channel.keep up the good work.
1. Walk like Popeye 2. Have a Gucci outfit, so, like hats, pants, shirts, vests, shoes, undies, chains, phones, earbuds, teeth, socks are really just the basics 3. Groom like Salvador Dali and write "OG" on the sides of your head 4. Always have some memes ready on your Gucci phones 5. Talk like Big Shaq 6. Smile like Dababby 7. Have fun
I'm a gamer, but I also liked to read when I was younger. So I started reading again. I thought it would be good to be more well-rounded, although some people can't believe that a gamer can also be interested in reading.
I'm a gamer as well and to be honest gaming can also improve one's vocabulary,I speak 4 languages and gaming has helped me a lot to learn more.
Another great video Courtney! Just wondering what you’re advice/tips would be for improving my sense of humour as this is something I need to work on. Look forward to hearing from you. Best Wishes, Stewart.
I’m actually quite a fan of your voice Courtney! It’s so soothing and somehow makes me feel more relaxed :)
I’m going to just straight up say this, Courtney has a little hood in her, I caught that “411” reference and some other references you said in your most recent videos too 😂👌 Cleveland Girl knows wassup. Anyways, Build/How a guy carries himself is a HUGE thing for Women so glad you touched on that first because a Man can dress well, be kind, and good looking but if his posture is off and has weak body language then she won’t be interested in him EVER. #2 is what I had to learn the hard way because no one in my family really has style except for some of my female relatives but even then they don’t dress like that very often. Style is absolutely overlooked when it comes to Men and they don’t even understand the power of having impeccable taste when it comes to style and that will definitely get a guy’s foot in the door when it comes to women and especially High Quality Women 👍🏽 #3 is what I learned much later in life when it came to skin care routines, I hit puberty very early so I started to grow facial hair a lot sooner than most guys growing up in school but I didn’t start shaving until right before I started college and made it a habit because I look way better clean shaven than with a full facial hair. I really admire how you notice and pay attention to the details Courtney. #4 Great Personality is definitely a BIG one for the Ladies because looks alone can Only take a guy so far. Great personality like Charm, Great Sense of Humor, Wit, Intelligence on Mental, Emotional, and even Spiritual is what she looks for plus if a Guy can not only make her attracted to you but You if you as a Man/Gentleman have Great Seduction skills and make her feel very aroused for you then she’ll chase you and NEVER let you go 100% Guranteed. All the “Chads”, “Rico Suaves”,“Tyrones”, “Abduls”, “ bad boys”, “thugs”, “hoodlums”,”the jerks” all attract damaged wounded toxic crazy disrespectful, low self esteemed bummy girls/females So Courtney is right, NEVER Pretend to be any of those people because you’re living a lie and will only attract the wrong type of women in your life then complain all women are trash or a waste of time 😂 I also find it hard to believe that people out here are making fun of Courtney’s voice like she sounds like a 5 year old???, honestly she may not be that old in age but she IS waaay more Mature than most of us out here so Cheers for Courtney for having a great voice and uses proper grammar and sometimes street vernacular slang as well 👌😆 Courtney, if you ever get the chance, read the book Emotional Intelligence by David Walton. A great smile is super important to Women because that is one of the first things that they notice when first meeting you. This video really helped me and I want to work on all of them especially on my voice/language because I grew up speaking a little slang here and there besides speaking proper English plus my personality and my style.Thank you Courtney 🙏🏽
I read a book, which many people might be familiar with called “The Man’s Guide To Women” and in there the authors mention the things women notice in men. It’s all about giving out non-verbal cues to the women that you could be a great potential partner. Become the best and most attractive version of yourself to be as universally attractive as possible. Men who got the “go ahead and approach me” cues would be the ones who owned the space they occupied like putting an arm around the chair. They would also have their arms around their friends to look socially dominant. Legs were more spread apart. They had great posture and a sense of humor. Also, most of the men that would get the signals of approach from a women would make glancing gestures and would accompany their glance with a smile to a women. So there you go. A little extra info 👍🏼
in short this is called "GAME" it doesn't stop you from getting shit on later, or when you get tired of acting like someone else
@@mrlennon4869 yea I’m not saying this is a life saver that will save you from a girl who doesn’t like you. But we can always work on certain habits that are probably hindering the amount of times we can be given the opportunity to approach women. Ultimately, women are in control on whether a man has a chance or not. Men approach, and women decide if they like you or not. Men get rejected during approach because they don’t work on the things that get a girl initially attracted to them and then approach without knowing they are already not attractive to the girl.
@@deoro9259 lad you talk some shit, what age are 18. do you realise that one day you might have a bad back or unable to work and that girl you gamed the fuck out of will lose interest and walk away or cheat on you when your chips are down
@@mrlennon4869 What I said was all about getting a girl interested. After that, she had to see if she likes you and vice versa. It’s not just game and that’s it. The book I read was talking about being yourself because you want to have someone who likes you for who you are. Now that doesn’t mean she needs to enjoy your bad hygiene and all the things that make you unattractive. You can still be yourself while bettering yourself and making yourself more attractive.
You have a good voice - because you modulate well and most importantly you come across sincere. Thanks for your work and sharing your insights
I love your voice. Sometimes I listen to these videos while working on something just because your voice is so soothing 🥰 and I forget to pay attention to the actuial content. Then I find myself jumping back to hear what you actually said. 😀
Men get criticized for being shallow but most men would be happy with a girl that has an appropriate BMI, meanwhile women out there rejecting men for things they are born with and can't change like height and voice and even teeth. my saltiness aside, great video Courtney
My only thing with teeth is take care of them. If you can’t afford the dentist that means you really need to keep up on brushing twice a day or more and flossing every days and using an oral rinse every day. Whitening is actually bad for your teeth. It strips the enamel.
I would never date a girl who isn't at least 2 inches shorter than me, most of my friends wouldn't either 🤷♂️. I really don't prefer A or b cups too. I prefer really slim girls with C cups and up, for a long term relationship.
@@rissroo4325 The teeth thing is really more of a social economic thing really, or poor parenting in general. Which is why I put it last but have known people that get rejected for having buck teeth. But to be fair, I think some girls are rightfully conscious about their noses.
You gotta be careful with being the funny guy, with personality. Too much of it, can land you in the friend zone. I know from experience. You gotta find the balance of seriousness, with a little humor and you’re good to go.
You speak what you have to say so well and what you say is valuable that ypu being as attractive as you are doesn't distract me.. Great content..
Thank you for sharing it Courtney. I love listening to your advice... and you're pretty❤
This is simple and basic stuff to take note on. Months ago, I've been rehearsing with a mentor that I'm successful, charismatic, and a driven leader!
Watching this video makes me think of a "what could have been" for me. Earlier this summer (late June or early July), I was at the park with my father along with my puppy who I was walking with along our normal trail near the river. On the way back I came across a girl (between the ages of 18 to 22 years old) and a few of her guy friends. As we approached them (since they were walking towards us but in the direction from where we came from) this girl was giving a ton of signs that she was very captivated by me. I looked away for a few seconds at my dog who was preoccupied with sniffing other scents around and when I looked back up she was closer to where I was walking (originally she was on the right, now she's towards the center of the blacktop like I am). She was quite attractive herself with long dark brown hair about as dark as mine is and was, with either brown or hazel eyes (can't remember which exactly 😞) and long eyelashes like mine are. As I approached her and ultimately got to where we would soon pass each other she gave even more signs of being attracted to me by blushing a lot, facing towards me directly, and acting quite nervous as she and I ultimately said something to one another. And when I say nervous, I don't mean that in a bad way (like when women get creeped out by a guy), I mean this in a good way (like how I might get if my crush suddenly approached me and started talking to me). We politely said Hello to one another and she said that my dog was cute (which of course he tried to act like a little ham since he loves the ladies lol). I know 100% without a doubt that she was interested and attracted to me and even the way she spoke sounded somewhat nervous but again in a good way. Sadly I failed to make a move and stop and continue talking with her any further since we were tired and I was wanting to just relax at home. I didn't think much of it at the time but I really regret not talking with her since she seemed like a very positive, genuinely sweet girl. Even though she was likely a little bit younger than me (I'm 24 btw) it would have been nice to have talked with her further. When we were walking away one of her friends muttered something about me but when I looked back she happened to lock eyes with me one more time and smile. I feel bad for not stopping to talk with her more. I should have given her a good five minutes or so and then given her my phone number which I know for a fact that she would have accepted and texted or called me rather than just throw it out like some girls do who aren't really interested in the guy. I sadly never even asked for her name or gave her mine (which I should have done 😓😢). On the bright side, I am a college freshman so I hold out some hope that I can somehow see her again and this time seize the opportunity to talk with her or maybe find someone who likes me as much as she did when I first saw her. I just hope that I can get some chance like that again and not botch it as I did.
Don't beat yourself up over it. If she was interested, she also probably could've acted on it and didn't. The onus of taking the initiative shouldn't be exclusively on the men to do. The sooner we all embrace this idea the better off men AND women will be
@@wynonasbigbrowndragon6121 She definitely was interested and I talked to her very briefly but I failed to act. I'm not exaggerating when I say that she was giving me nearly every single sign. I could tell that she was a bit nervous though (in a good way) so that's likely why she didn't try to continue the conversation.
@@zombieslayer7759 you're not getting it, dude. The way you're working this seems to imply that she did everything she possibly could have done and that simply isn't the case. If neither of you made a definitive move, that means she also could have done more.
@@wynonasbigbrowndragon6121 Perhaps. And I'm not necessarily disputing that however, she was interested and she was wanting me to talk with her more. Her lack of initiative in keeping the conversation flowing was due to her being nervous like how we all get when we talk with our crush. I was somewhat in the same boat. I was in a bit of a hurry plus I was somewhat insecure (she didn't pick up on it) since I don't have a car or a lot of money to be able to take a girl out.
Dude!! Do you know how rare it is for a woman to really like you!!? You should've pounced on it! It's on you, not the girl! The only positive you can take from this is the experience. Live and learn. Practice mentally for such a situation and be prepared in case some other girl shows the same level of interest in you in the future.
Very helpful. Thank you for your guidance. It's greatly appreciated 🙂
Hate your voice?! WHAT?!!? Everytime I watch your videos, I'm so calm and tbh, I think you get your point across better than most. Screw the haters💪
Hey Courtney, what is a great way to start a conversation with a girl over text? I have this girl in one of my courses and me and her are pretty cool with each other yet I want to engage more with her and well we only text each other about assignments and at times things outside of school like goals and work. I want to make our conversations a bit more fun. Also she’s more vocal in text than in person when we are in lab or class. Does that mean anything or is it that she is just shy when it comes to face to face talks
You already have her number and are talking to her, so now you just need to escalate and ask for a date. You could do this in face or by text, as she's seems chattier by text I'd do it there. Honesty is the best policy, just say you like her and would like to take her for a cup of coffee. The compliment is important so she understands this isn't just a friends thing. Good luck!
@@jleano609 alrighty. Sounds good. And the reason why I got her number is because in lab we are part of a group of 8 and thus made a group chat. From she went on to message me individually and basically whenever something comes up she lets me know first than the group? Does that mean anything?
@@EdgarHernandez-uu4iw Maybe? If she sees you as the natural leader that’s potentially good. If she’s communicating with you individually when she could be group chatting because she’s attracted to you and wants you to initiate that’s even better. It also explains why she is shy in the group. Bottom line, I’ve got a good feeling about this. You are going to have to lead here and initiate the escalation. Just say you quite like her and would like to take her for a cup of coffee for an hour or so at an easy time for the both of you so you can get to know each other a bit better. DO NOT be sneaky and be tempted to use your project work as an excuse to get together, she needs to understand your interest here. Be honest and confident. Also make the setting totally away from anything to do with your school, project, other classmates etc. No meeting her at school and walking to the coffee together. Just meet her there. If she’s self conscious it will help her and you relax and for conversation to flow. Women are also subtly turned on by subterfuge. This should be a ‘secret’ thing between you in early stages before, if it comes to that, you become BF/GF as known to the “group”.
Yes, have your own style, all you have to do is make sure the clothes fit’s your body type. You don’t want to have the jeans or whatever you like to wear be too baggy and same thing with the shirts.
My problem is I'm 6'2" 235lbs and have a long torso so finding g shirts that fit is almost impossible and the only ones that do are the slightly baggy ones. Even jeans I can't do skinny jeans
@@Themrine2013 I feel u man, I was a little bigger for a long time and I have always had thick thighs so finding clothes can be a struggle
Stumbled across your channel a few wks ago. Your wrk is very well done. Especially appreciate your even handed approach. Think your voice is very good for clear delivery and ease of listening. We humans tend to react stronger to negative criticism than to praise. Glad to see you recognize this. Enjoy your wrk. Thanks. 😷🤔🤔😁
I think you have a great voice. You sound sincere which is the best quality anyone can have.
I can vouch for this from personal experience. I used to hang out with a group of friends from work who love to visit bars, lounges, etc. on weekends. Depending on the location and occasion, I would mostly roll with a fitted, casual collard shirt and jeans, with canvas skate shoes (they're easy to dance to). And I wear either a sports or analog watch because I hate digging for my phone to check the time. The rest of the guys showed up in just the usual t-shirt and straight or loose jeans and what appears to be hiker sneakers or loafers. They are tall, pragmatic and intelligent men but thirsty. I was thirsty too but I concealed it. Of the times we hung out, about 20 times, not a single woman approached them. Looks are subjective but these guys have had relationships in the past so looks wasn't a problem for them. For me at these events, I've had women orbit around me for attention or approached me to strike a conversation. And they usually occur when I'm off guard or unaware of their presence. What shadows or where have they been hiding? What sucks was that at the time, I wasn't good at keeping a conversation going. I listen to metal music sometimes but am not really knowledgeable about them nor do I want to force myself to keep a discussion about a topic I have little to no interest in so usually the interaction ends shortly or awkwardly. Just to be clear, not all of the interacted ladies were into metal. They were diverse. With that said, all it took was that one interaction experience at a bar initiated by a girl that I decided to experiment more with my appearance; it worked and as reinforced in this video.
I think it's important you clarify the differences between what make women laugh with you and at you... Women find sarcastic humor attractive, but wild "jack black or Jim Carrey" humor will get you benched quick...
This is insanely true. I have a good friend who is always wearing childish graphic t-shirts. He will bring plastic little hands to the bar with him and pretend his hands are small holding his drinks. He has a million friends that are girls, but not a single one of them that looks at him as a love interest. He can't grasp how his childish humor is his worst enemy.
Ahah, you're right on spot.
I disagree. Most women I know, including myself, do not like sarcastic humor. It's cynical, it's annoying, and it's usually condescending. Jim Carrey is a bad example too because, while his type of humor can be obnoxious, he always seems genuine and is never funny at the expense of someone else.
Tbh almost all girls look at ur personality, confidence and how well put up u r at first! I've been good around girls but it's always good to learn more from thm
Listening to Courtney is therapeutic. I have her playing in the background when I'm at work.
The sense of humor thing is weird. If a girl finds you initially attractive, she will laugh at 90% of what you say regardless if its funny or not. To the point where they convince themselves that it was your "sense of humor" that attracted them. Ive had girls laugh at things I said that had no business being that funny lol. Theyve said "wow I love your sense of humor" and in my head im like "what sense of humor, I've literally not said a single funny thing"
Correct, laughter is a very complex human expression. In women, her sexual attraction can often trigger very feminine laughter and giggling, along with other indicators such as blushing, hair playing. She basically responding with feminine polarity to a guys masculinity. When you see that in a girls, very good sign she’s into you.
That is either Narcisist love bombing or she just wants to screw. Any woman that pretends you are funny because you look good, hasn't listened to a word you said. If a woman is pretending to listen on first date, stop wasting their time.
Courtney's voice is one of the most feminine voices I've ever heard.
You must have lead a sheltered life then🍆
It’s beautiful ngl
Her voice is soothing
@@ultimatewarrior659 its the truth...most girls my age atleast hv screech voices(im 17 btw)
Bang on. Reading makes you smarter and more coherent in every aspect. Otherwise, yes women really notice low confidence and can't stand it. And guys - please stop slopping about in terrible clothes. I see this a lot, particularly in America. Smarten up! If you can make her laugh the chemistry is good and it's a great sign. In the UK we do self-deprecating humour really well (something in the US which isn't understood as you take yourselves far too seriously) but generally if you can laugh at yourself it shows confidence. It's what the British are best at.
In fairness, you Brits have a lot to laugh about…….
Great video Courtney! Very informative 👏🏾 👌🏾 👍🏾
I'm a dental hygienist and men tend to neglect oral hygiene more than women. Get a dental exam and x-rays and appropriate kind of cleaning. Get a few boxes of whitening trays afterwards, you'll be surprised at the results. Electric toothbrush, tongue scraper and floss😎
Not once has my dentist or hygienist recommended a whitener to me, even though my teeth aren't as white as they should be. Why would they not recommend it? Does whitener damage the teeth?
@@francisdashwood1760 yes. It strips the enamel making your teeth more prone to cavities.
Authenticity: Hey Courtney, one thing I've noticed is how you can weed out certain girls solely, yes Solely on how they dress. Stick wit meh here! So I've noticed certain types that have the angry feminist glasses, tats, nose piercings, etc... well, BEFORE they get to that end stage, they first start with clothing as a "trial run" lol, so if you see a girl just dressed like a slob with no makeup, just not trying at ALL, you know what path she's headed down. It's a spectrum, but eventually they will manifest their own daddy/self hatred issues physically, and that's where the weight gain, bad clothing, tats, etc come in. One thing I think you should mention: Flossing. I cannot tell you, as I move around the west living in different places, how many women I have lived with that do not floss their teeth AT ALL. When did this become "okay?!" It's beyond gross, but I have noticed that a lot of girls are just lazy in the hygiene department where guys typically fall into that category from a stereotype standpoint. Some of the least clean homes I have lived in were where women were either the home owner or primary occupants. It's really interesting. Okay so back to topic ;-) - Conformity - If she dresses just to "fit in" I'm automatically NOT interested in her. I'm talking about the girls that take the "Checklist" outfit approach. Guys do the same: Hipster Beard - Check, Old pos car or NO car - Check, Cannot wash car/clean car/take care of car - Check, Bandanas/head coverings, and other excuses to get out of showing every day and just putting in EFFORT - check. I find it FUNNY that these same individuals will preach about how they want to live in an "Authentic" world, while, ironically, conforming to the lowest common denominator of their nearest In Group preference. Women say: "Just be you" or "just do you" but in reality, they'll conform to whatever women are doing around them to "fit in" like we're still in a tribe system from over a thousand years ago whereby the voluntary unspoken cooperation among women = Survival. lol... Now, here's my question for ya: Are they self aware? Are they Aware they just look the same as everyone else within their group? and most of all, are they aware of how in-authentic that is, all while preaching to the world about how we need to "accept everyone for their differences" while, again, lol, trying to LOOK the same, and predominantly having the same belief system on many issues? And worse: Pushing that same conformist believe system on others? I think we could do a fun undercover hidden camera skit where we send some Jehovis witnesses to a clearly liberal/left leaning household with one of those "We just need love" signs on the front yard. See how they like it when someone is pushing their beliefs on them. But they won't get it, because they want everyone to empathize with THEIR Needs and only their needs. Am I lone here in this observation? I just find it funny how fashion can be an expression of one's self, but at the end of the day, it's really just a costume, and for people like me that truly could care less - It's entertaining, watching people "Try" without looking like they're "Trying". Imagine the number of chapter 7 bankruptcies filed in this country because someone just "Had" to have that Shirt or dress or whatever.... In the bigger picture: I thought it was the Type of life you lead or how you contribute to the world was MORE important than the veneer, but that's all this country has become: Lies, it's in fact our #1 export good. Okay time for a 3rd cup of coffee!
Yeah dude, I could aye with allot of the things you say here Self awareness, authenticity are lacking in today's people. We tend to point the finger instead of focusing inward. Some tend to contradict professed values while hating the next man for the same thing they're doing. America has become ironic in that way. Dirty women is definitely a thing. I worked for Comcast and a moving company, saw many dirty women houses. Don't let her have cats bleh. Conformity via least common denominator is a sad thing, there's so much to say about that. Sheesh. But very well thought out comment, enjoyed reading.
Are you self-aware that you’re painting a lot of women with broad strokes? So if they have tats, piercings, or dress lazy, then they automatically hate men? Idk about you, but I’ve met plenty of people who dress like they act a certain way or stereotype, but don’t. Maybe you should get to know them first before you slander them.
After listening l think you are right. When l go out l wear wellington boots, string vest and faded jeans. I do comb my hair and shine my wellies but not having a lot of luck.
These tips help even for interviews or first impressions for opportunity.
Marriage is a relationship in which one is always right and the other is the husband.●●●●●●★☆
Yeah no. One makes choices by emotions and the other makes choices with logic so I'm going to say no, again
@@drip369 ur right somewhat but Uve had to see ur parents argue and know that ur mom was always right and ur dad was on the wrong even when he wasn’t lol
Boom!!
you missed one. A GIANT ..... Wallet! 😉
Lol! 😂 I knew people would comment this haha
facts lol..😂😂
Having a sense of humor is something that us guys and gals can teach our children too. Humor is a great way to turn an awkward feeling into a laugh.
Yaay thank you. You're fantastic 💚☘️💚
"I want you guys to think about the type of girls who go after guys like that and really realize that you don't want someone like that in your life" Dang, did Courtney really just eliminate like 95% of all women from my dating pool?
I guess so. It's time to search out the remaining 5%
I genuinely think that are some guys, a few of them, who can get 100% of women. But the important observation here is, there are women who likes men exactly like you, and she also likes that handsome folk. Besides that, there are some stacies who like those handsome guys, and its just that. You should eliminate all the low-value, high-maintenance or nothing-to-offer girls which focuses in these chads, and instead, look to rescue some valuable girl from being taken by this guy.
@@baussier134 It was a joke. I am chad. People say I look like Zac Efron all the time and I'm 200lbs shredded. I go out probably 2-3 times a month on average. My problem is I that its been YEARS since Ive found a woman who wasn't convinced that a "ho phase" was some right of passage that every woman needs to go through (called something else that KZhead doesn't like me saying). Those woman are simply not relationship material. Looks like there's gonna be plenty more of them wandering around with their hands in the air whining about "where have all the good guys gone?"
95% of women today are probably questionable.
Have you tried escorts?
"a sense of humor" Humor is a tricky thing, you know. "Men don't care as much about humor as women." Actually, we do care about it. It's just that, I have found in my entire life, that there are a lot more funny men than funny women. Oh, there's plenty of women who THINK they're funny, but they're not. When I come across a GENUINELY funny woman, I am instantly attracted to her.
I never met a genuinely funny women .
@@lopez12345ml There's a few around, but the sightings are rare. I would say that SOME "tom boys" can be funny. Don't know your age, but a tom boy is a female (completely straight) who seems from a young age to want to get in with what the boys are doing. She likes the same thing boys do. She likes to rough and tumble. She likes guy sports. She laughs at the things we find funny. Stupid, silly things. Crude things that we think are funny. She's what is referred to as "a character". Completely genuine. Not a phony bone in her body.
I've met more genuinely funny women than men. The women usually don't try as hard and are subtly funny, and almost never exploit sexual humor. The supposedly "funny" men do it all the time and just come across as total assholes who only other men find funny.
@@MichelleAntonia Most women are borish followers. The speech patterns of most women are clucky and repetitive. The voices of most women are shrill and piercing. Most women want to make a point, and then they want to continue to make the same point, ad nauseum, which is cause to glaze over and tune out. Most women incessantly speak with dumbed down slang phrases and filler words such as "like", "literally", and "right?", just to name a few. Not to mention the uptalk of many young women. Most women think that more words means better communication, when 93% of communication comes from facial expressions, body language, and voice inflection. Some women, who see themselves as "classy", cannot help themselves by using foul language to make a point. That is why, as I stated in my original post, that when I do come across a woman who speaks and acts properly, she is INSTANTLY attractive. I met one such woman the other day. She is an absolute delight in her way of speaking. I do not yet know whether her sense of humor is keen, but I will soon discover.
Interessante!!!! I really liked this video, thanks a lot Cortney! God bless you!
Hey Courtney! I love your voice, it's soothing and sounds authentic.
Courtney tiene todo lo que un hombre puede desear en una mujer. Es respetable, honesta, educada, humilde, y sobre todo preciosa.
I'm a gay man and I love this channel. We gays all want these things in a straight man 😁
Woohoo!! Happy to have you here, Mark!
but a straight man wouldnt be into gay men, would they?
@@mortizmortiz There are plenty. Believe me
@@marksule0 wouldn't that make them bisexual and not "straight?"
@@drip369 There are many, many "straight" men with girlfriends who have sex with other men while living a straight life. They won't be my friend but they want to have sex! I'm like omg, no, I dont have sex with random strangers...especially those who don't even want to be friends. I'm a very rare, "traditional" gay, meaning I only sleep with people in the context of a long term relationship. But that doesn't stop "straight" men at the gym (with girlfriends) from giving me blowjob faces and disgusting signals that they want to have sex. And they ONLY do that because they suspect I'm gay. Hello, all gay men aren't the same! 😠
thanks for the info you seem to know what your talking about and look forward to watching more video's you put out and have a great day
Courtney ... Your voice is super soothing , like silk for the ears I love it
Being a nice guy and a gentleman when your unattractive is seen as overcompensating... women think nobody is that nice. What is this guy lacking that he needs to try and fool us by being nice..
Ya and it sucks that a lot of girls think guys can’t just be genuinely nice without any intention
@@jacobdevries3567 no only UNATTRACTIVE men
@@johnnythekid4601 ya for the most part it’s true which is annoying
Courtney, is it possible that when women think that a man is too well dressed that they think he is gay? Lol
The worst trend for men is very tight jeans, it looks very gay... and worse if the guy is skinny. No woman will complain if you dress "too well" in the style of David Beckam ;).
I’d agree I’ve had women tell me they initially thought I was gay before they ever really got to know me primarily because I dress well/better style than the average guy
No. Please continue to dress well and take care of yourself!
There's no such thing as being too well dressed. How one's sexual orientation might be perceived depends more on the specific attire and the styling of it.
Not really, and indeed any sort of mild uncertainty is actually quite attractive for her, women love a mystery to solve in a man.
Courtney, your voice is BEAUTIFUL! You are a beautiful lady! Regarding voices: I have a nice voice, I can sing hahaha yes I can...not professionaly but my voice tends to be nice and deep to an extent, baritone perhaps. We must always try to improve our vocabulary which is something that will impress ladies and people in general but do it in a genuine way. I always read, classics are important in everyone's lives and in that way you make your vocabulary grow and you expand your mind and life experiences. I try to do that not just to brag about it but I do it because it's in my nature and hey, that also gives you lots of self-confidence, the good kind of self confidence that is. Thanks for your videos and chats.
Good point on reading books!