5 Signs You’re Dating the Wrong Person
Even though your relationship started off great, you’re beginning to realize your beliefs don’t line up. What do you do? Learn what red flags to look out for as we talk about five signs you’re dating the wrong person.
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Be Wise and Pay Attention - 00:00
Sensible or Unthinking? - 02:07
When They’re Not Consistently Pursuing Jesus - 04:53
People Talk About First What They Value The Most - 06:30
Can You Build a Life on Unequal Values? - 09:21
When Those You Love Don’t Love Who You’re Dating - 11:44
When You Don’t Experience Healthy Conflict - 14:49
When You Find It Difficult To Trust the One You’re With - 19:04
When They’re Leading You Away From Jesus - 21:39
It’s Time to Sober Up - 25:23
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What's one thing you value in your relationship or friendships?
Truthfulness.
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Hawayu Life Church 4 I Say That The 2 Things I Value In My Friendships & My Coming Relationship are Serving God & Honesty Where I Want Friends Who Serve God While Even They're Honest & God Bless Yu Life Church & Pst. Craig Groeschel So Veryyyyy, Veryyyyyy Much.🕊️🕊️🙏🙏
Growing to know Our heavenly Father, together, Trust, honesty,Love, a listening ear.
Everyone does their fair share, and quick to help each other. ❤️
“Don’t give them your heart if God doesn’t have theirs” so profound👌
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The one thing that was not discussed here is the wolf in sheep's clothing. There are those who proclaim to be sheep following Christ, but act like wolves. They may say all the right things, but later (maybe months, even years later) the true person emerges. The red flags are not always apparent, especially early on in a relationship.
Yes that’s the scary part
I’ve dealt with this first hand. I didn’t know the warning signs, but looking back on it, I can confidently say that “love-bombing” is actually a huge red flag! Pay attention and ask for discernment.
Butterflies are warning signs that I ignored. You’re heart is supposed to feel full and not your stomach feeling queasy.
el espíritu santo nos guía a toda verdad y justicia amen
Yup that's why we gotta take our time in dating and not rush into anything. Make sure they are who they saw they are.
5 Red flags: 1. Partner is not consistently pursuing Christ 2. Family and Friends(ideally christian family and friends) don't approve of him/her 3. Lack of healthy conflict 4. When you can't trust your partner 5. When they lead you away from Jesus
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God, if you’re not in it, then I don’t want it!❤
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This is my new favorite saying
Absolutely my watch word
Hallelujah......I was homeless, got into drugs, went into prisons, then i got to know Jesus, He changed my life.. Now i have a home, a wife, a lovely daughter and a new identity... A child of God.
Glory to him ! be blessed
Hey, I think you can help me. I have a question how was your process when you started to change your life and know Jesus. How long before you got married?
i’ve seen this exact post on other videos
Same, I started looking at the KZhead accounts, different profiles but all promoting Christian music. What is happeninggggg @@melliechris
Love this! I married a believer. However, we were faithless at times. We were so young when we met (I was 18). We faced traumatic events. We were foolish at times. We loved each other through things. Love indeed never fails. Forty years have passed… and we are still married! To GOD be the glory!! We are so grateful!!!
where did you meet him?
Congrats :)
I like that kind of love ehhe
@clarissa did you guys get therapy for the traumas? How did you guys manage 40 years..😮?
You can say that all you want but God knows what's really in your heart. Its easy to lie these days even to ones self.
"Don't give them your heart if God doesn’t have theirs" AMAZING!! 🙌🏾
I pray a special prayer for someone passing through hard times,a hard time which seem to be mental, financially and emotionally damaging. I pray for the person reading this comment right now, that GOD will come to your rescue, wipe your tears and restore you whole in Jesus Mighty Name.Amen
thank you, your prayer made my day! @Worship Library ❤ 🙏🏻🙌 God bless you!
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Most appreciated, thank you!
thank you, blessings
Thank u , I needed to hear this 😭
Truly an amazing message. I married an amazing woman who helped me come closer to God. But I struggled in our marriage. I allowed the devil in and threw so many red flags at her. She tried so very hard to help me but I let the darkness in. She made the wise decision to leave me. It broke me. I never felt so much pain in my life. But it was at that time, in the darkest place in my life, God grabbed me and lifted me up. I am now the happiest I have ever been because I follow Christ and rebuked the devil from my life. I will always be sorry for pushing my ex wife away but I am grateful for the lesson and the new life of walking with God.
@RagebrosNC, do you plan to win her back?
@@magentared5822 I'll always love her and wish she would come back. But I know i caused so much pain for her. I just pray for her to be blessed and happy.
@@RagebrosINC if she is not re-married... and you really are a different man and would lead her in Christ... go get your wife! 🙏🏼
@@Applied_Pressure what she said!! 👆🏾👆🏾
:( Definitely if she's not remarried, get her back! So glad you're happy in Christ! Get others to battle with you in prayer!
This is really timely. Going down the checklist I am realizing that I’ve been avoiding the truth that we’re not aligned. This is my sign to leave and stand in my faith that God will bless me with the person I deserve.
Keeping you in prayer 🙏🏾
Same! May the courage of the Lord be with us! Amen.
S Bent: Do you communicate with your spouse first though? Sometimes someone is just not aware of some faults or wrong thinking or attitudes or habits, and are willing to change,practise better ways once they become aware of it.We have blind spots...I wish ppl had told me of some faults I had no idea of...
I hope you get who u deserve those are the best ones
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Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. 🙏🤗
That is absolutely true, we have to understand life do not need anger and violence to promote the bad attitudes of how we resolve issues. Righteousness, listening well and tongue should be a master of self.
I am giving my life to Jesus
Best decision ever!
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Giving my life to Jesus. Thank you for this beautiful sermon.
We’re so excited for you, Alexis Hernandez! Choosing to follow Jesus is the best decision you will ever make. Let us know about your decision here by going to go2.lc/youtubesalvation We want to celebrate this decision with you as well as answer questions you may have about your next steps as you begin your relationship with God. We’d also love to invite you to Life.Church Online! 90+ services are available throughout the week, so you’ll always be able to find a time that fits your schedule. During services, we have live Host Team Leaders who can answer questions, pray for you, and chat one-on-one. We hope to see you there! live.life.church -Kat
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You are so right. I have been through divorce and it’s horrible. I personally wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. It’s better to choose right. I am praying I choose right this time.
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I really needed to hear this message today. Me and my fiance broke up recently. I ignored all the warning signs that i saw because i wanted it to work. It blew up and we both got hurt. This message was helpful. I want to learn from how it went down, pursue Jesus, and do it right the next time someone is blessed into my life.
Thanks for sharing Allan. We’re glad it the message was a blessing to you my friend. Tamala-Psalms 37:3 Trust God & Do Good
Same here, my relationship with my now ex boyfriend recently ended and we were going to get engaged. I realized we weren’t ready for marriage and he was not pursuing Jesus the way he said he was. I ignored the signs because I wanted it to work also.
The number one thing is what Pastor Craig led with. If they are following Christ, love Jesus, I truly believe everything else gets worked out. I ignored this primary red flag to my detriment and my children's. It is disobedience actually plain and simple.
I am blessed by this message and I desire no relationship outside of God's will. Platonic, romantic or business.
There are so many questions to consider for lasting relationships. Find guides, stories, and wisdom to help you find confidence, peace, and direction in any relationship here: www.life.church/betterrelationships/ SM - Team LC
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“Don’t give your heart if god don’t have theirs” very true meaning. God bless you!! This sentence will remain in heart forever!❤
She broke up with me through text, then wanted me back, and I rejected. I’ve been embracing the pain and lessons with God and myself alone for 2 years since then.
I also to had very Similar thing happened to me as well had a Text message from My Ex and He broke up with Me that way He to was a Christian as well
This is actually happened to me right now😢. We broke up because I obeyed the voice of the Holy Spirit. That person really mean so much to me but I love Jesus so much too. I'm not regret but I actually hurt and so much pain 😭. I'm still praying for healing and restoration of heart. I'm praying too that he will be saved before the Lord's second coming.
I am giving my life to Jesus🎉🎉🎉
I am quick to listen. Slow to speak and I am slow to become angry. I speak it into my life. AMEN
I needed to hear this exactly at this moment! I am currently experiencing the end of a 1 year relationship. I was conflicted so long spiritually and emotionally but ignored every single red flag that was so glaringly obvious they kept me up at night from almost the very beginning. But all I saw was the world and worldly pleasures. Thank you, again much needed.
Thank you for sharing your heart. We are filled with joy that this message was what you needed and it touched you in such a powerful way. I am sharing a link below that might be encouraging and useful. We’re praying for you as you navigate the world of singleness and dating. If you’re looking for wisdom or support, you can find both here: finds.life.church/tag/dating/ Rachelle
I appreciated the part about "I can't believe I just said that in Church." I think it's important to speak of such things at church in the appropriate context as was done today.
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I have just ended a dating relationship with a church and Evangelical rehab center staff. Even when he is doing some work in the church, all he really cared in this relationship is my body despite the advice from a church member who took the rehab program with him (they both came to this rehab center at the same time and have been clean for 4 years), and the church and rehab center rules for interactions between a man and a woman. I many times tried to warn him to keep purity in dating relationships because I was taught carefully by pastors and school teachers on this matter, and I escaped a relationship where the other person only wants to satisfy his flesh. He ignored and guilt tripped me for being unloving and found all occasions to touch me where I don't want to. Thanked GOD that after I felt so uneasy and prayed, HE made that man broke up with me so I don't have to explain to his parents (I met his parents, he met my mother and his mother met my mother). My close friends in this church introduced this man to me, including the leaders and elders. If it wasn't for trusting them, I wouldn't have even cared about dating. Not every church staff is after GOD-Jesus's heart. The one gave advice now is married and waiting for his first born son to be born. The one ignoring the advice is still wanting.
I'm really glad that you listened to God on this and got out of the relationship. Sometimes people only know somebody from the outside. Often it's only when you date them or know them very well, that you see that they are not following Christ closely.
Hi Varaidzo1, Thank you for the great reminder. God knows our hearts and if we are truly His He will guide us no matter what. Laura - Team LC
Been in this situation. He was introduced by his Christian friends who gave me all the Bible verses just to convince me to entertain this guy because accdg to them, he is really kind and loving. Turned out he is verbally abusive. Thank God I got out of the relationship! Just because they seem to be kind outside doesn’t mean they really are. That’s why we need to study the character of a person before letting them in into our lives. Be careful who you let into your life. Be gentle like a dove, be wise as a serpent.
All single strong Christians should listen to this incredible video!! it's Just so eye opening. So loved it!❤
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This is a great message it helped me alot, being in a 6 year marriage where I've ignored every red flag this brought them to the light... thank u
2 minutes into this message and almost in tears. Thank you for bringing a much needed message to the younger generation.
I feel like this message was made just for me. This is exactly what I needed to hear today.
Thank you for this word ❤️🙏🏼
So true!! Wow!! Thank you for this message, Ps. Craig.
Wow Very Powerful Great Message Thank you 🙏🏽
these signs really resonate! understanding whether you're dating the wrong person is essential for a healthy relationship. speaking of connections, have you ever heard of Spanish Fly Pro? my partner and i have been experimenting with ways to add more excitement to our relationship, and it's been quite the journey. trying something new can truly bring a fresh perspective!
This is so timely. My friend is going through a separation and she is being thrilled by the excitement of reuniting with her childhood sweetheart . I have to forward this to her so she may have good perspective in finding a new love❤
Quick to Listen, Slow to Speak, Slow to get Angry 🙏🏾
Very blessed! 36 mins felt like it was under 15 mins!
Great message to end 2022. Such an incredible sermon, great Pastor ❤
I want to be closer to Jesus in my relationship, in my carrier and in all that I do. I'm going through a heartbreaking heartbreak and this message is really helpful. My first time watching your channel and I'm blessed 😊
In times where I was shaking, your sermons have helped. Thank you.
Thank you for this message.
This is a series that speaks directly to me. Definitely needed to hear it!
We are so glad to hear that this message series had an impact on your life! Mechel - Team LC
This guy was literally the cherry on top of all my confirmations that it’s time to go. It’s been a confusiiiiing painful journey, but now I can’t say idk what to do. It would be blatant disobedience to not move forward with what I know is Gods will. Thanks guy! This was FIRE ❤
❤️ So glad you’re here and found it helpful. Thanks Jocelyn for sharing. Keli - Team LC ”Whoever finds God, finds life!”
Thank you sooo much for the wisdom ! May God bless you more and more abundantly!
This was so good. I love Ps Craig's sense of humor.
The best sermon on dating I've ever heard....
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Great word pastor, this was good for me.
hands down one of his best sermons and came at the right time for me so happy KZhead re-reccommended it to me. and it came right after having to break two business relationships as well.
Couldn't have seen it at a better time, thanks!!!
listening this in the right time ❤️😭🙏
I'm so glad I followed this series. Thank you Life Church
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This is amazingly eye opening.
Whew 😰 I needed to hear this! Thank you Lord!
Perfect sermon to practice my listening
Excellent Points. These kind of messages need to be taught to the youth before they get to the age of Marriage.
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God bless Life Church 🙏🙏
Thank you for this AMAZING VIDEO and I'm definitely sharing. I want to be closer to Jesus!
If I would’ve listen to advice 35 years ago, I would not have dated my ex husband now! Divorce hurts…. Listen to the Word and follow Jesus! After 25 yrs of marriage he walked away leaving us (4 kids) now single and another relationship for 4 years failed! Do things right land stay close to Jesus ❤
I read this, but then I think you wouldn’t of had those beautiful kids if you did it any other way.
@@bulletpoint728True! God will take our mistakes and those kids are now my treasures ❤
Thank you pastor graig. I knew the Red flags. Bt mostly I thank you coz I had a really bad day at work. I exusted myself and you always help me see Jesus. Thank you.
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Thank you for this, God is so good, perfect timing as always, thank you Lord, for loving us so much!
This message is life changing for me. Thank you!
I wish I had known about this years ago so sorry I didn't understand the red flags.. This is very good information.blessings to all of you.♥️🙏♥️
i really found this sermon so informative and it's been very difficult for me to avoid the red flags but with God all things are possible and he will guide each and everyone of us that are suffering with broken relationships, marriages and hearts. Thank you Pastor Craig Groeschel❤
Amen. With God everything is possible Gabi
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Absolutely, positively powerful message ❤❤❤ I am blessed to be edified by it 🙌🏾
Thank you for this wonderful message! 💗 God bless you more 🙏🙏🙏🙌
Thank you for joining us today. God Bless you. ❤️
I felt that this spoke to me today but I struggle with following god and my intuition and always going back to old habits even when I know it’s wrong and I don’t feel good about it (him). I pray that god renews my mindset, soul and life to a better happy meaningful life!
We’re praying for you, and we hope you see more and more how much God loves you and treasures you. If you’re looking for wisdom or resources from people who’ve experienced similar struggles, you can find those here: finds.life.church/tag/identity/ - Team LC Ronnie
Amen and Amen 🙏❤️
2. Be mindful of you have ungodly friends who have other motives. Ladies be mindful of friends that want to compete against you, or, don't like how boring/logical your relationship is.
Such sound wisdom this was big for me looking back..
This was so powerful! Thank you!
So glad this message resonated with you, Renee Hampton! Thank you for your comment, we're glad you're here 🙌💙 Beth - Team LC
Yes & Amen This was perfect in content and in time. God is an on time God
Amen... God kept me away from a girl, because He has something better for me. It hurt, but better caught early, than to make a lifelong mistake. Thank you Jesus.
this is so powerful to me
Thank you so much....this is much needed in my relationship right now God bless 🙏
Thank you for this powerful sermon.
Thank you so much for this.just got back into the dating scene, celibacy is my priority. This is a great addition to making sure that I stay on track. I pray for discernment in Jesus Name
We’re so excited you’re looking for ways to grow in your faith! Check out Finds.Life for all kinds of support and resources that will help you grow spiritually. You can start your search here: finds.life.church/tag/spiritual-growth/ Rachelle - Team LC
Normally this kind of stuff doesn't appear in my recommendations. I have been praying about dating and marriage because its been on my mind so much lately and I feel like God has led me here to learn something before I pursue any of it. I did find this helpful.
Amen! God always shows up at the right time and the right situation. ❤️ - Heather, Team LC
Wow thank you Jesus still praying after 2 years my faith is grounded God is preparing the way ❤❤
Thank you for the messages. I am blessed. Gbu
yes I'm giving my life to God. thank you for this session.
We’re so excited for you, Aditi Sarkar! Choosing to follow Jesus is the best decision you will ever make. Let us know about your decision here by going to go2.lc/youtubesalvation We want to celebrate this decision with you as well as answer questions you may have about your next steps as you begin your relationship with God. We’d also love to invite you to Life.Church Online! 90+ services are available throughout the week, so you’ll always be able to find a time that fits your schedule. During services, we have live Host Team Leaders who can answer questions, pray for you, and chat one-on-one. We hope to see you there! live.life.church - LK, Team LC
A Blessed Merry Chrismas, everyone! You are a gift from God Sir, He has destined you to become what you are now. Im from the Philippines.The most significant i value most in a relationship is when we both allow God to work in all our ways not only in words but certainly in actions.For i strongly believe that when God is both in you things just turn out right & live a peaceful & successful life God wants us to have.I just hope that through this God may help me find the right person for me.God Bless everyone🙏🤗💖
Wow so powerfully full of truth, thank you so much ! ✨🌹🕊️🎄☀️
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This is one of the top 5 sermons I've like ever heared.
There is situations where the red flags are just unhealed wounding from past relationships but time and love can transform that,though if the other person doesnt want to heal or guide there way to the highrr power its always a choice
Broken relationships can be so tough to navigate, but we know God is at work. If you’re looking for encouragement or resources on how you find healing and bring restoration to this situation, we’d suggest you start here: finds.life.church/tag/the-grudge/ - Team LC Ronnie
I'm wanting to leave this toxic relationship it's been hard because of being disabled and being mentally beat down told I can't, but God has given me the desire to come back to him and to break away from this toxic and dangerous relationship Thank you for this message 🙏
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Thank you, pastor. God is so good
I am amazed at what he has said that I have encountered. If you can't trust someone, make sure you're healed and ready to date first. You could find someone amazing and then put them through the ringer from your own past and not healed wounds.
I don’t want to ever idolize marriage or try to treat it like it will fill any void I have. I know it won’t. Only God can do this. I guess for me, because it’s so hard to find men that take their walk with God seriously, I get more and more discouraged about ever finding a spouse (or him finding me). It would be so much easier if God would just take my desire to be married away…which I have begged Him to do….not sure why He hasn’t…I really want to honor God with my life without distraction….yet I still see a beautiful purpose in two people coming together and honoring God in their union…idk I just get very discouraged with this dating topic. Anyway thank you pastor for sharing
Hi Nikki, Thank you for joining us and sharing your heart. God always has a plan, and His timing is perfect. Keep leaning in and trusting Him and He will fulfill the desire of your heart in Him timing. Laura - Team LC
Hey Nikki. I can so relate with you. It’s so hard to meet men that I am attracted to that really serve God. It can really be discouraging! I unfortunately have compromised and dated men that just are not living up to that standard and it just isn’t worth it - so much heartache in the process! All I can say is BUT GOD- I will keep looking unto Him because all it takes is one right person that I trust him to bring into my life
I did breakup with my ex through text but it was for safety reasons and it truly felt like God told me to. A lot of these signs were describing us and it hurts to hear it from someone else. It’s been a very painful 2 months since I texted him and I pray to be truly healed soon. Thank you for this message
God, please reach your loving arms around Jessica through this challenging time of her life. 🙏 God, I know your love, and I know your peace, and I pray right now that you guide Jessica through her healing process and show her that she can be strong with your help. In Jesus name, Amen. -Jess
God, please reach your loving arms around Jessica through this challenging time of her life. 🙏 God, I know your love, and I know your peace, and I pray right now that you guide Jessica through her healing process and show her that she can be strong with your help. In Jesus name, Amen. -Jess
Great message.❤
What an excellent teaching that graciously explains what we should avoid for our own good. Thank you.
I want to be closer to God in all my relationships and in all I do
Great sermon. I needed to hear this after a few unyolked relationships. Lord forgive me.
Thank you for sharing the ways your marriage is struggling. We’re here for you, and we want to connect you with resources that can help. Finds.Life is a great place to start-take a look here: finds.life.church/tag/marriage/ Isaac K- Team LC
Thank you for this great teaching! God bless you!!! 🙏
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Amazing word. Thank you so much.
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Good luck finding this person in this present age!.. after striking out all the red flags, we are left to loving and finding peace in God and within ourselves .. That is true Happiness! with waiting on Gods timing, the right person will show up. But,Remember Gods timing not ours!.. GodBless!
at this present age it's difficult.. but yes.. eyes need to see the best in God.
I want to be closer to Jesus, I want to seek you first. I need the strength to get through these trying times. Amen
Awesome on time message ❤🙏🏽
I really needed to hear this today. Praise God! 🙏🏽✝️❤️
Ty for this message. ❤. The alcoholism was a sign 24 years ago with my hubbs. I dealt with the awful behavior for years and years. Christmas Eve was a crap show. I had to get him arrested for putting his hands around my neck. He left for 6 nights. Jail and living with his parents. My daughter and I welcomed him back with open arms after 6 days. He quit vodka 3 weeks ago!!!!! We are so happy to live a peaceful life now. ❤ Prayer is powerful! 24 years of praying for him to stop drinking. We are blessed! ❤ don’t ever give up praying for your loved ones.
Hallelujah! Praise God! That’s so wonderful to hear, Glowie! We’d love to invite you to Life.Church Online. 90+ services are available throughout the week, so you’ll always be able to find a time that fits your schedule. We hope to see you there! live.life.church Keli - Team LC “Whoever finds God, finds life!”
These are some good tips to look for in a relationship a lot of people base on lust and/or one-sided relationship. I want to grow in Christ Im struggle to give him my life 100% I think it because of the fear of the unknown and not put him first daily.
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Amen, Thank you, this is a very powerful message. Thanks for all the scripture, so I can read Gods word about dating. Again, thank you for this message.