How To Charm And Impress A High Status Person
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It’s frustratingly common to get completely tongue tied when we’re in front of people we’d like to impress. Which is doubly unfortunate because it’s often those situations that could lead to us landing a great new job, connecting with a mentor, or even dating someone we’re smitten with.
That’s why in this video I want to cover how you can avoid that awkward trap and impress the people you admire by standing out in a positive way. To do that, we’ll be referencing someone who has done it many times: Sean Evans of Hot Ones.
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1:38 - #1: Ask questions beyond the obvious ones.
3:09 - #2: Use the question preamble.
4:48 - #3: Steer conversation towards things that elicit emotion.
7:40 - #4: Tease playfully / have fun.
9:18 - #5: Comfortably express disagreement.
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*At a Job interview:* Me: so how are your 3 kids doing? Is your daughter still on the volleyball team?
Easy way to impress interviewer for sure! :D
They’ll think your a stalker
@@Gabriel.4190 that was the joke
10/10 if you apply as a hacker
Who are you and what are you doing in my living room?
I appreciate a genuinely curious person.
Curiosity is probably my biggest asset to my company - I like to know every little detail when I problem solve.
Why?
What is the best and the worst comment you've ever written? ;)
@@PowerRedBullTypology Man, do you ever think, "wow I wish I wrote that comment"?
@@weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006 Yeah when they have a lot of thumbs up I sometimes do..other than that not really. Why?
"see them as a human" Indeed I got to meet one of my musical heroes some years ago. It was backstage at a show, and everyone was losing their minds, asking for autographs and pictures. He wasn't in a great space at the time. His band-mate and dear friend passed away just 6 months prior. I approached him, and said "I'm so sorry for your loss" He was caught off guard. I think it was that human moment that so many skipped past all night. I saw him again a few months later at another show backstage. I made a comment, and I think it clicked who I was. It's like he was genuinely happy to see me. Such a great experience
Was that musical hero Dave Grohl?
@@AutomHatter Chad Gray from Mudvayne / Hellyeah. It was shortly after Big Vinnie passed.
Sean is definitely a unique host. Make no mistake, there is a team of people, including the creator of Hot Ones, Chris Schonberger, doing the research and digging up the topics Sean presents during his shows. His delivery is definitely his own but all credit must be given where due.
I guess I’m watching a different show then all these other people. I see a super awkward guy reading prepared questions and never knowing how to follow up with anything interesting. The questions are good but they are delivered in a wooden manner and he can’t say or do anything clever on the fly.
@@CristinaTringali 100% agree, its like he's reading these questions for the first time, like the room is empty...
@@CristinaTringali The "awkwardness" is exactly the appeal of the show. Nobody wants to see rich people in suits stroking their own egos and pretending they're kings anymore.
@@CristinaTringali Show us how it's done... Make something SUPER Successful that MILLIONS of people watch and love.
@@kevinbasto5611 Nonsense. Not a single bit of confusion or uncertainty on his part. Clearly you don't perform or have a huge following. He's ALSO eating Scorching Hot Wings of Death, WHILE doing the Interview. Go show us how it's done...or shut yer pie hole.
Boss: Do you have any questions? Me: So do you have any weird fantasies?
Lol
No longer potential Boss: Um... nooo.
Also boss: nope, but i do have weird fishes.
hahahaha killer question! nail it!
actually this is a good way to crack a joke in a serious situation, I think it's good
"This is such a good interview, good research" Sean: so are you!
"Y-y-you too"
Sean Evans is my favorite late night host
Why are you leaving things out? K Stewart: This is wild... Sean Evans: So are you
At least he was aware so he doubles down by repeating it lol
@@Lenduya oh I didn't catch that lol
I am not sure if anyone has noticed how GREAT these videos are for people who struggle with pragmatics. I am an intervention specialist who has to help students on the spectrum learn how to interact with and/or read people in social situations. These videos are gold and an unexpected gift that emerged from the virtual void 🤩
Seeing people past what they represent to you and looking at the human beneath is absolute dynamite practical advice.
"intervention specialist who has to help students on the spectrum learn how to interact with and/or read people in social situations" sorry, can you tell me more on this? what is this job and how do you go about doing so? sounds kinda fascinating!
Damn Sean Evans can even tease and joke with people who aren't funny and still relate to them. Thats always been next to impossible for me.
I find it helps to just switch off your brain for a moment and take the plunge. A bit like diving into cold water. After a respectful tease the whole conversation can get so much more relaxed. Don't forget that high status people are used to people tiptoeing around them and often bored of it.
practice. he's done hundreds of hundreds of interviews. just go practice with ppl :)
Because he himself is not funny.
This is such a wrong view. Every person has humor, just not the same humor. So it's not because you don't find them funny that they aren't funny. It's just your opinion. Sean, or his team behind the curtains, have a talent of finding out everything there is to know about the celebs, even their kind of humor.
Treat someone like a celebrity and they'll treat you like a fan
Omg so true.. thats why im single.. I treated her like a queen, so she treat me like a peasant🥺
@@massarcasman8480 very true
@synchromorph is that the reason you're treated like that too?
That’s quite brilliant.
Treat her with respect
*Confidence is silent, Insecurities are Loud*
My insecurities make me silent.
Damn man with deep thoughts like this you should have your own KZhead channel.....
Confidently releasing silent farts
Dumbest statement ever Confidence is not silent, insecurities are not loud, this is just a silly statement made for people who are insecure to feel better about themselves by thinking the opposite of the truth
bookmarkthis haha
I love that we are now analyzing Sean’s interview and research skills. That’s how good he is. Thanks for this. Super helpful.
Back when I used to be a treinee at a gym, there was a girl that I became friends with and I noticed she even used to became blushed and nervous when I talked to her, as if she was interested, and then when we followed each other on Instagram I discovered that she was a singer from a considerably popular local band that I had never happen to know because I'm not a big fan of that specific music style. But it was interesting to see how I behaved naturaly just because I didn't knew who she was. I didn't ask her out btw, I was not single at the time lol
Bruh....
L
Aww c'mon we was all anticipating a love story here lol. I admire you though of course being faithful to your lady !!! 💙 Kudos
You're a real one. What's her band called though?
Treat the person you admire as if they are just a normal friend.
Treat the person I admire as if they are imaginary, got it.
...Unless it's Robert De Niro.
@@Michael-nq4rc or Kim Jung un...
Zachary Laid Finding Freedom You sir know what’s up Woke
@@JoeSmith-oy3hk another good tip is to not overuse self-deprecating humor
Sean is the best interviewer hands down. He's respectful, funny, well-read, and has great banter. So great to watch a master at work.
Really? He sounds like a robot trying to recite a script to me.
@@daweihuang9687 I don't think so, but even if he was, the script is very good
@@daweihuang9687 to each their own opinion. he's garnered much respect in the industry for his style and conversational tone. You don't have to like it.
Sean Evans and Nardwuar are my favourite interviewers
@@riderzinc Natdwuar is on a whole different dimension.
As highlighted in this video, Sean's real talent is predicting people's deaths. "Have you ever killed anyone?" "We haven't heard from Coolio in a while."
He killed Coolio
😬 i cringed at that
I caught that too, didn't age well lol
@@jumpieva neither did Coolio
Poor Coolio, did great work for children ,and had an interesting interview before his passing. "Coolio Joined The Hip Hop Uncensored Podcast To Talk about being approached to do some weird stuff while he was and artist. "
The problem with doing this, at least with “peers” (like someone you want to date) is if you “do research” and start asking in-depth questions about things you wouldn’t know about without that research you’re probably going to creep them out
Maybe do it in an uncreepy way-like comment on something obscure about a recent (not old) post. Like something or someone in the picture
You sound like an ugly person
When you start thinking with "my date is higher status than me." You've already failed (especially as a man).
I think the research aspect would just force it anyways. There’s much to be said for asking unique and interesting questions but for dating I think the focus should just be on “what do you want to know about this person” rather than “how can I make this person like me”.
"look at us. Hey. Look at us. Who would've though? Not me."
thanks for the chuckle
anna_thema didnt even think anyone would see this lolll
Thought*
Look at us. Hey, look at us. Say it again. Look at us.
classic Rudd
Sean: Hey what's your name? Person: *that's a great question*
Person: Wow. You really did your research.
Most likely question fro Sean: Imagine you live in a fantasy world and you wanted to get out of it. What name would you pick for yourself?
@@thedynamitepriest2755 that's a great question
That is exactly what Sean doesn't do. And exactly how people don't respond. How are you funny?????
@@yourmajesty3569 r/woooosh
never get tired of how often sean impresses guests with his questions. though at the same time sean has said that he does a massive amount of research prior to any interview/guest
The way you put together those scenes really makes Sean's genius show.
Do I need to eat 4000 gallons of hot sauce before I can be like Sean Evans
Most likely, be strong
not in one sitting, do it in increasing amounts over the course of months.
Heck no. You need 5000
yes
Yes, this is coming from someone who subjects themselves to the hottest sauces they can find, once you have drank a half bottle of Da Bomb, nothing can scare you anymore. No person or object will hurt you as much as that will.
Sean Evans deserves everything he's made of himself. Him and his superb team host one of the best talk shows in history.
He's a moron, and you're a moron for thinking he's not.
He* and his superb team.
I've been listening to this channel all day after it came up in my autoplay, and I've been trying to learn how to human properly lately. I've been feeling like I'm out of sorts, but my self-confidence (that I've built on my own just by listening to NF) has gotten in my way. Now... I've been seeing flaws in my character and how I can fix it. I mentioned to my coworkers that I've found this channel today and been listening to it ravenously and they asked how it's been going... I laughed and said "Well, it's just Day 1!!!" And they found it hilarious. I've always been known for my humor, and now ... I actually think this is helping me be more personable, instead of relying on shock value. I love this channel. I hope it helps me human better.
Honestly this one of the best vids I’ve come across. Became a standout at my current job because of asking those great questions at the end of the interview
On the way into my first job interview I noticed a sign outside that stated the company was the oldest in its industry and the year it was founded. (exactly 200 years before!) When I was asked how much I knew about the company, I brought that up and asked if they were doing anything special for its anniversary. They called me the next morning with a job offer.
Did they do anything?
@@TheRightLadder they gave me the job
@@eliseerickson5994 They have you a job because you are White.
Christopher Gonzalez no lol troll stfu
@@christophergonzalez8598 unfortunately, this is probably true :( white privilege is real asf
HOW TO IMPRESS SOMEONE YOU ADMIRE (summary) 1. ask killer questions beyond the obvious ones 00:28 2. use the question preamble to connect on a personal level 03:09 3. steer conversations towards the other persons emotion or passions 04:52 4. tease playfully and have some fun 07:37 5. comfortably express disagreement 09:12 This is an awesome video and this summary doesn't do it justice. Watch it all the way through. Thank me later. 🙂
Actually, ty in advance =)
I clicked on the first time stamp you wrote. I didn't pause the video a single time after that.
Thank you for creating the summary Eric...love the engagement
Thanks
this is awesome, thank you!
Sean is a gem. That’s why his show has done soo well.
Sean Evans is such a talented interviewer. What makes highlight and lowlight questions so interesting to the interviewee... Highlight questions will bring them joy and make you sound interested in them. Lowlight questions sound like you care and will create a connection with them.
Boss: "Do you have any questions?" Me: "Have you ever killed anybody?"
Can’t wait to use this at my next interview
Maybe😋😋
@@jamesgarrett7844 so how did it went?
Was it good for you too?
And if you have, what were the highlights of killing, and what were the most frustrating things about it?
When Sean Evan's is impressed, you know you made it
I usually would gloss over KZhead videos these days, even the educational ones that I usually like. This video was really grabbing my attention and provides a great perspective and information. Kudos.
I totally stumbled on this video, but this is one of the most valuable 15 minutes of education that anyone could have in learning how to network and connect with a stranger that they are interested in partnering with or learning from. HUGE HIGH YIELD how to.
Be genuine, be yourself. If they don’t like you, move on
Right
Yeah, until nobody likes you 😂 then what?
@@montanerdz then you're free
Be careful. Lots of people use the "be yourself" reasoning as an excuse to not better themselves, or to justify jerk-like actions.
The person you want to be is the person you really are inside
damn man the quality of this channel is soaring
so what are some of the highlight and lowlights of the videos you've seen so far?
@@CC-bu2gv highlights: 5 easy ways to start a conversation why good relationships turn bad turn anxiety into charisma lowlights are difficult, I understand videos from this channel end up being pretty personal, a charisma lesson that I need will be different than what you need, but the reaction videos that they started making, I think, are their weakest link right now
00:14 🎯 To impress someone higher in status, focus on asking unique, thoughtful questions. Avoid common, repetitive ones. 01:38 🧠 Prioritize empathy and ask questions beyond the obvious to engage the person's interests and experiences. 02:36 📖 Research the person or company before a meeting or interview. Avoid asking easily available information. 03:47 🤔 Start conversations with a short preamble highlighting a specific aspect of their work to stand out. 04:58 😊 Steer conversations towards emotional topics or their passions for a deeper connection. 05:55 💬 Use "best and worst" questions to get people talking about what excites or frustrates them. 08:46 😄 Don't be afraid to inject humor and playfulness, but maintain a balance and avoid overdoing it. 09:29 🗣️ Disagree assertively while still acknowledging areas of agreement to showcase your independent thinking. 10:51 👤 See the person as a human, not just their status or achievements, to create a more genuine connection.
At a former job, I used to do a lot of job interviews and I loved asking questions like this. I always reviewed the resume of the candidates not to judge their qualifications, but to find talking points to start a personal connection and this led to some really good trust with every candidate we eventually went with
I remember I had an interview in a high tech company and I was extremely under qualified. I researched the interviewer online before the interview and found out he had a couple of patents. I brought that up while he was walking me from the lobby to the interview room. He was so shocked I even knew about it and I got the internship the next day.
What a terrible idea. I would’ve thought you were a freak, an adulator. It also makes you look like someone who is calculating. I would have you escorted out by security on the spot. Amazing you actually got the position. This person is probably very naive for having hired you. Also, people who behave like this are the reason why toxic working environments exist. I would bet you probably have very strong back stabbing’ tendencies too.
That’s actually a really good skill. How did you get to know who your interviewer was?
How did u ask this though. Could be kinda creepy for some lol
Sean makes guests feel like not being interviewed at all, instead he plays inside the spicy wings game and the questions feels more like an excuse to engage those invited, rather than the focus of it all, Hot Ones format is unique and fresh, and is a display of good things to come. Sean is a talented guy, bright yet humble, a good content maker/contributor .
Agree, the show is great. I normally don't give a flying about celebrities, but Sean makes the conversation interesting to watch by asking really good question (and actually letting them answer, unlike some hosts who wants to be in the spotlight 100% of the time).
@@CidGuerreiro1234 That last part applying to Kimmel. I really like this guy. ACTUAL interview. Instead of how many talk-show hosts are.
Very true
feels similar to Craig Ferguson. I'll have to check this guy out
Your channel is amazing! He is my favorite interviewer and this breakdown was so well done!
you, and your team, are good at interviewing people ill give you that .. its frustratingly common for "influencers" and "celebrities" to believe they are better than the rest of the population
0:49 I think that question would have floored most interviewees.
Yeah. That's a really long sentence to comprehend...
@@kichapps no? I'm gonna guess English isn't your first language
Alojzija it’s a pretty complicated question. We don’t all watch rick and morty like you
@@DustyyBoi Rude. You might need to watch more charisma on command.
@@DustyyBoi Stop judging and start self-developing. You need to.
Before watching video: Guy: How's it going? ❌ After watching videi;: Guy: Imagine how you're feeling right now. Now take that same situation and imagine that you're on Mars. So fellow martian, how's it going? ✅
That actualy made me smile, if someone said that to me in real life I'd instantly conect with them. haha I'm gonna use this!
still the same thing, but only on Mars...
@Alan Hardcastle A story?! that's not even a story, they absolutely randomly pick Mars and the rest of it is just a totally RANDOM ramble.
Vadim Galperin I think you’re missing the point 😂 it entices your imagination
@@DeadPointDelusions How so?
Great video -- I really appreciate the tips to crack a joke occassionally, and how to assert yourself in a disagreement without offending. And now I want to go watch (and rewatch) more of Sean's videos!! :D
It helps a lot to keep your mind open and be truly curious about the person. If you are genuine it will show in a very obvious way and they will respect you for that.
As someone who is socially awkward and maybe even on the autism spectrum... this channel surprisingly helps me a lot! 🙆♀️
Same.
In my experience, if you start to *heavily* self-identify with something you see as fundamentally limited, then you're more likely in general to doubt your own abilities which is just going to lead you to give up on seizing a lot of opportunities you wouldn't otherwise have given up on if you hadn't let that thing be at the center of your identity. That thing being autism in this case. That has been my own experience as an autist, and I have also seen other autists suffer from not following that advice.
I don't find that surprising. I'm kind of in the same place. This guy is a genius!
The tools they give me confidence to carry on through the awkwardness haha
I think Dave is right. If you put yourself in box or category such as labelling yourself as ‘maybe even on the autism spectrum’ you’ve now created a belief in your mind which is not helping you. If you can remove the labels that society places on us we become more free to express who we are without caring. It takes work though. Your awkwardness is most likely due to suppression in society because you do things differently. Just a theory from someone that used to think the same things.
Sean Evans deserves an award for his abilities as a talk show host.
Thank you for making this video! It reminded me of some important cues, while also reaffirming the strategy I used in an interaction I had with someone just yesterday. Excellent content!
Errol! Hey my friend!!
@@joy_villa Well, hello there!
I love how Sean and his show is getting well deserved recognition for how incredibly skilled he and the show is at these interviews. Better than anything you will find on TV. Shout out to Dustin Poirier for doing the show!
I didnt see Poirier here? Or did you mean in a diff video?
Sean Evans is an awesome interviewer. He inspired me to start asking people more and better questions about themselves, and it's made my social life so much better. And for job interviews, I do a ton of research on all the people I'll meet. Probs not as much research as Sean and Chris do, but it would be weird if I tried to do an "Explain that Gram" on a job interview.
This is a lot of great info, whenever I go out on a date I typically ask 5 in depth questions with the girl, then get into more detail. Also, in the past when I would have interviews I would always study up on the company. When they were founded, who founded them, what their goal and values are. I almost always got hired for every job I applied. Good stuff my man.
Could you give examples of the questions that you asked during the interviews?
^ and the first 5
Nothing to comment just want the notification when/if you respond to the replies
Do you have a set of questions to asks on dates, or are they different depending on the girl?
What are the 5 deep questions?
Eye contact is the most powerful thing to keep someone connected to you for a while. It helps me a lot, its just makes the other person in a trance like state. I dont know exactly how it works. But this thing is powerful
I really like to watch hot ones. Sean is without a doubt a great host so you get to meet celebrities you love engaged in a warm and fun conversation.
Another thing that makes Sean so great is his how he takes his time. He never rushes his guests and takes his time asking questions. He's also comfortable in silence and doesn't feel pressured to ask killer question every time
Sean Evans is like the celebrity whisperer! Also, his humility is a definite plus. He’s the right balance of admirer, intelligence, and chill! I love him. ♥️🙌🏼💯
Awesome callout to Sean, guy has an amazing presence and does an amazing job as a personality.
2:24 WOW, that's amazing. There must be a very serious, scientific, work on how to interview and make the best experience possible. To use Tony's scene really send the image home. I'll try to be more like this with all my studies.
Self confidence impresses anyone. Being intelligent is huge. It might seem geeky to you, but it's vital. Thanks for the video!
People don’t respect intelligence, per se; people respect competence. They like when you are able to effectively interpret and respond to what they’re saying, but they don’t like when you come off as a know-it-all.
I have both and I still don't have any friends, go figure... :-P
I think if recent history has taught us anything it's that you don't have to be intelligent to be confident.
@@7ylerD If you claim you are intelligent is shows how insecure you are - that is what turns people off. The folks who have to brag about how smart they are etc. People respect people being themselves and not having to one up or brag about things like that.
@@MikeD-hn9hf You don't.
Got it, so killer question on first date: so do you think your insecurities in relationship are the fruit of a long and heartfelt grief from the fact your dad did not love you?
Dayumn
Not open ended enough. Can still boil it down to yes or no, assuming the person decides to answer instead of immediately throwing themselves at you
Hahahahahaha
Noted. Thanks
This should help with my dating life, or lack thereof. Thanks 🤙
These questions are also being asked while they are eating spicy food! This makes an even interesting conversation because not only are they concentrating on the heat going on in their mouth but they are also thinking about the conversation. So far this is the most interesting video so far for me in my opinion that I've watched from you. I haven't seen them all but so far.....
This such a well put-together video. Really so thoughtful! Thank you.
Sean is this generation's greatest interviewer. He is light years ahead in connecting to celebrities in a modern way and knows how to treat everyone so equally and respectfully. Everyone WANTS to be on this show because of Sean and his team.
yes, but then there's Nardwuar
3 letters, jre
@@joshuapikal7578 you
@@joshuapikal7578 Nardwuar is the goat
@@orbit1894 Nah, he is a goat, or perhaps eats goats?
I loved the line about asking a job interviewer about what they like about working there. That can lead into many directions.
I ask that on very interview Iźve been on. They always say"the people". Ironically, I worked a job (setting up stages) where the people I worked with and the environment were VERY hastle.
@@JaysonT1 hostile, jicywi
one of the most useful video I've watched, it inspired me to amp up my hosting and interviewing skills. thank you for this
This was very helpful. I think looking for that emotional charge is the best advice I've heard.
The day Sean gets featured in Charisma in Command, is the day I'm satisfied with the internet. Great content
Just wanted to thank you. This channel has helped me a lot. Due to medical conditions I spent my teen years in isolated. I’m 20 now and this channel has helped me a lot in terms of socializing and being a more confident person overall.
Maybe if it helped you then maybe it can also help me, because I was an outsider and scapegoat whole my life and I would like to create more social mind.
I love Sean Evans. You always learn something new about the celebrities and he doesn’t bait them just for views. I think he’s the best interviewer I’ve ever seen
The Evans Ramsey interview is maybe one of my all-time favorites. Every Hot Ones is a Master Class.
"We haven't heard from Coolio in a long time" - SE
The way you impress me is by not trying to impress me. Humility says a lot.
Thank you so much for this video it has this really changed my perspective on asking questions and I'm sure this new found knowledge will come in handy.
Great advice. Great practical points to implement, use, with anyone who 1) respects you enough to want to engage with you on an “emotional” level and 2) see number 1 above. If they don’t basically nothing you say, or do, will matter. If someone simply doesn’t feel comfortable around you, they might not even consciously know why they feel that way, they’ll quickly find a conscious reason not to. At that point all meaningful conversations are over before they start no matter how you phrase the questions.
So what I'm hearing is that my stalker skills are going to come in handy
Insightful and tangibly helpful. I love the idea of being playful with higher-profile people, rather than always speaking/responding in literal terms. Will definitely be using this. Thanks, Charlie!
Great video and really highlighting something that I think is very underrated in our society which is effective communication.
thank you for this video, this is so helpful. Its so funny how everytime i try out what you say in your videos it always works!
So I was right: treat human beings as human beings and be kind to anyone; it doesn't mean that you'll agree on everything but that is ok ☺️ Keep up the great work guys! 👍🏿
I once commented how good of an interviewer Sean is, that his questions really make the other side open up and he really digs a lot of information about them. Never got so many disagreeing comments hah. Glad you pointed this out
I had to save this video and create a new folder to make sure I rewatch this before going to an interview. Great ideas. BTW I been a big Hot Ones fan for years.
Great video and topic! This will help so many people who struggle with questions to ask to impress someone etc....
You know the more I think about what this channel does and promotes the more I'm surprised at the genius of it 👍
That mindset is golden! It's been a true game-changer in my own life. Sometimes we put the people we admire on a pedestal instead of seeing them as a fellow human being. This prevents us from connecting with them and making a lasting impression.
It’s hard to ask questions beyond the obvious ones if you don’t know the person that well though. Sean has the luxury of being able to do some research on celebrities’ interests or new work. If you did that to your crush, you’re a creepy stalker 😆
Good Point, let's hope he responds at some point in the (near?) future. I'm sure he can come up with some way of presenting this "research" so that it's not interpreted as a creepy invasion of one's privacy. If done (adroitly or adeptly?) done GOOD...ly(?!), it can come off as very flattering that you sacrificed the time/effort/blood/sweat/tears to go to these lengths, but that's probably part of the risk-taking that he refers to in this video. *It's all in the delivery* - which itself would make a great by-line for Charisma University!
Not sure CoC agrees with this but my approach is to just be interested in what they are doing or where they have been, even though I am not familiar with it. For example, I met someone who worked with building electric excavators. My first response was "Well, that sounds a little unpractical because they require a lot of energy. How long does it last before it's out of battery?". It lead to a very interesting conversation where he got to give me some insights on electrical excavators. I am also the type to ask if someone wore hula skirts if I find out they lived in Hawaii. That either leads to a good laugh or a good story if they actually did wear one.
For me the most important thing about conversations and questions is to ask something you're actually interested in. Sean asks phenomenal questions, but his job is to get information out of people for the sake of informing and entertaining viewers and listeners. When I'm in a conversation, I want this information for myself, so there is no point in asking something you don't care about. Also it gives the conversation genuity which can make even ordinary, uncreative questions feel natural and interesting
Amen.
See them as human. Talk to then like you would a friend
I'm so glad you're doing Sean. He's like, a gold standard.
It is funny how much of the status thing is an illusion. A friend was star-struck in a bar when he saw the DJ of his favorite radio station. He would never have approached him. I didn't know who the heck he was, so I just dragged my friend over and had a 5 minute conversation with the guy. The real thing is the human connection. Another time I was at a conference and blew off a boring session. I ended up bumping into the guest speaker for the whole event in the cafeteria and bonding over how terrible the food was. I appreciate these videos for making the good moments more reliable, not just "a weird thing that happened to me".
Sean is inspiring. I'll come back for inspiration any time I ever need to interview with anyone.
How to impress someone you admire: “Be unapologetically yourself” Done.
i am sorry, this is the kind of advice Tony Robbins would give, the kind that i hate, what does that even mean?
peterDcontact it means to stop trying to watch advice on how to be something other than how you would normally be. If you put on a show, the facade will fail at some point and that person you were trying to impress won’t stick around. If you don’t try to impress them from the get-go, if it’s meant to be, they will stay anyway.
@@peterDcontact Means (if I got it right) that you are yourself and stick to your opinions and beliefs unapologetically
Yeah, but to be able to do that you have to be the best person you can possible be. And that is hard or nearly impossible. So it is useful to be aware of the fact that you are not perfect. And it is good to be modest and to ask for apology every time you were wrong.
ben yeah of course. When you are objectively wrong on something. I do like the tips on this video, it’s more like in my opinion, when you act like yourself without restraint then you tend to polarize people and the only people who stick around are the ones who count. 😊
Very insightful video. I've been watching your videos consistently and I'm very impressed by your ability to create fresh content and to analyze. Can't wait for the next one!
Makes So much sense after you flawlessly explained it Thank you!!
Oh man, I am so glad I stumbled upon this video. Sean is an amazing question asker. ❣ It is so interesting!
GREAT LESSON!!! Too many people lack basic communication skills let alone these kind of skills that take you to the next level. Well Done!
This was my first Charisma University video, and I just gotta say that it's excellent! I'm consider myself to be fairly charismatic, but this video alone had some great nuggets that I found insightful. I will plan to watch more of these videos soon!
That, "We haven't heard from Coolio in a long time" hit different 2023
What happened to him? Is it related to Weird Al?
@@koshobai He passed away in september of 2022
@@teme5866 Welp, there we have it. Not so coolio in the end...
Fantastic video. It feels like being curious and interesting are at the core of this technique. More importantly, it explains how to be both.
I have a sarcastic dry sense of humour and it serves me well. I feel I need to change too much when I watch your videos. Causes me to over think, forget, then never say anything at all to people. Charisma comes through practice, intuition, empathy and a whole host of other skill sets learnt over time. To sum up your videos in one phrase "think outside the box", as cliche as that phrase is, it suits you perfectly. Stay confident, congratulations on your original KZhead channel and best of luck in the future.
I think everyone has His own Magic, at.least If you are good with communication. I conciously decide to be less social and its Just the part of me who wants to be alone from time to time. You either Accept me as i am or Not, i dont care.
If these videos are any indication of the quality of your course, it practically sells itself! Well researched, clear, to the point and excellent examples even for those of us firm in self confidence these are great tips to practice more deliberately.
I did the low light high lights question on a job interview, and it worked. I ended up getting the job. I has saved it for when the interview asked me if I had any questions .
Your channel is wonderful. Thanks for all the great stuff!