Don't Date A Woman Who "Brings Nothing To The Table"
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Good looks fade, stupidity lasts forever.
CLASSIC comment ! & SO true (from one of the 5% women viewer/fans of Courtney)
You're so wrong, people can definitely get more and more stupid with no effort whatsoever.
😂
I agree 1000%
I laughed out loud!
Your videos are the best. My new bf shared how he misses the simple vanilla icecream from his home country. I looked for a recipe and made a batch next week. His smile was priceless and worth the time.
Aww, that was sweet!
🥰 that made me tear up. What a kind gesture! ❤
🥹🤍 you are a gem!
I love this ! Thanks for sharing 👍 So kind and special 😊
That's so genuinely sweet! He's a lucky guy
My ex-wife told me when we were dating that I was too good for her. She used that exact phrase, in fact. Seven years and a divorce later…I realized she was telling the truth.
in hindsight you realize she directly told you who she was, far more than just a couple times, but we ignored it every single time because reasons. most of us have been there.
Why the divorce? If u dont mind us asking
I actually admire her honesty. A lot of women feel this way, but they would never tip their hand.
Her personality is definitely unforgettable but not in a good way.
Those good looks are also not really that special. She could be a 7 if she stopped the weird make-up, but there's a 7 in every street so it's not something to brag about.
Good ol' tik-tok, where people broadcast stuff they should probably just keep to themselves
i never understood propel that constantly make theae comments about others social media posts. So define what people are supposed to put on social media that does not include what they socially feel on a social platform. Im genuinely curious.
@@PolishBehemoth Reread the last 3 words Luke wrote. Maybe the light will come on for you.
Women love posting cringe and their Ls. Great for research through these KZhead videos.
Thank You 🙏 For Pointing out how Most People let Social Media make them Completely Stupid.
😂 exactly
"Here lies Whatshername. She kept reminding even her priest that she was hot once."
When youre old When youre old Nobody will know That you were a beautity A sweet sweet beauty But stone stone cold
😂😂
Knowing many priests myself, they would probably tell her to do a novena for humility.
@@thephotoandthestory But, it's my death bed, you're supposed to validate me!
The girl who brings nothing to the table should meet the guy who brings nothing in the wallet 🤣🤣🤣
She should meet a guy that doesn't even provide the table...
Just in general this seems to be such a terrible, self-defeating strategy for anyone to take. As the Indian guy points out in this video (deep linked to the relevant section): kzhead.info/sun/laWFZtGLgZyphmw/bejne.html Saying we should expect nothing from you is in essence saying: you're useless. Instead, what people should be doing in relationships is trying to be as helpful and productive and cooperative as they can be. It's a team effort after all (or should be). Not only should this help fostering good will from your partner, you become indispensable and irreplaceable by doing so.
😂😂😂😂
But she is a Disney Princess! 😂😂
@@Portia620 Yes. Very compelling. She is clearly worthy of worship. All men must abase themselves in her presence... indeed they must do so everywhere just due to her very existence. 😂
No problem. I wouldn’t be attracted to someone like that anyway.
Problem is a lot of men are attracted to someone like this girl. There is demand and there is supply. Some guys are looking for trophy wife and some women are all in to it.
As a fellow male who just got out of a relationship where the girl was just like this I can personally say that maybe just staying single might just be the way to go for a while
There's this podcast that titled When Men go their separate way. It's all to real. And it's older men talking about the realities of relationships with the wrong women
Someone said "you're not a 5 star restaurant b/c you refuse to give water. You're a 5 star restaurant b/c you give water AND other stuff." This is in response to these kind of women...you're not a 10 b/c you refuse to do stuff.
I'd say keep your heart open. You might cross paths with a fantastic woman who is none of these things and would be great to be with. But yeah, be content with singleness until that time comes.
How long did it take u to see the warning signs? Hope u learned ur lesson.
That says more about you than about her. The same woman would submit to me and be a traditional woman maintaining my house, cooking me dinner, and dressing how I want her to dress. Why do YOU think the same woman could behave entirely differently based upon the man she’s dating? Did the soldier fail, or was the general not leading?
In 15 years, she’ll be on TikTok crying 😭 about how she can’t find a good man and don’t know why.
less years than that. she is already getting run thru.
I’m a stay at home wife and mother with no side gig. My husband is the only one that brings in the income and he said our home would fall apart without me. I clean, cook, bake, do the laundry, I grocery shop, take care of the children. It feels amazing to be needed and knowing that I’m doing exactly what I should be doing in our family. ❤
Good luck when he walks out on you. Lotta women here talk about regretting being in your situation.
@@tabithan2978 that would never happen. We are happily married. If anything happens to my husband physically, we have investments we can live off of, and if he were to pass away (God forbid), we have life insurance.
@@monicavandeventer5429 Good luck with it!
@@tabithan2978maybe her husband actually means it. She'd be in the best position to know. Do better. Seriously.
@@thephotoandthestory 🤣🤣🤣 go check out stories of former trad wives who were EXACTLY like her 15 years ago. Now broke and abandoned. They are super abundant. Search ‘trad wives’.
I only bring my looks to the relationship, but I dont want you to only love me for my looks. WOmen logic...
Lol. Courtney is correct about women leading with their looks and then getting upset when men only care about that
Childs logic, grown women dont think like that
@@maxkalaveraas Courtney demonstrates.
@@maxkalavera Yep. DO NOT judge all women by these vapid, empty yet angry instagram "models". And red/black pill victims would do better for themselves if they stopped trying to shame these women into decency and instead go find the women that aren't like that. There are plenty.
And their looks decline daily. They are depreciating liabilities.
What's comical is if a man says alot of women only bring their body and kitty to the table its blasphemy but if a women literally says the exact same thing its just her being honest. It's the hypocrisy for me.
Yep, behind every double standard lies an unconfessed single standard.
Childish people don't speak for everyone right? Let's call them for what they're and stop acting like they're normal
That's true. Never thought about that
The thing is if a man says he brings nothing to the table a woman won't even look at him as anything more than a playtoy or fling. No woman is going to support an ungrateful man when the tables are turned.
"I bring this hot body and good looks" then complains about being se*ualized by men
You struck a cord with me when you said, "A lot of people don't have the relationship skills to be a good partner." I've been saying that for years; it's nice to hear it from someone else.
I'm just a regular guy and I've met women like this in the past. I remember one first date in particular where this one entitled woman was telling me "I'm a goddess" and acting like I should be feeling lucky that she even consented to go out with me. She did not get a second date. 🙂
If she's a 'goddess,' just for kicks tell her you're a 'God' and see how she takes it. Behind every 'goddess' is a girl or woman who is trying to compensate for her insecurity. Men and women who are reasonably psychologically secure (not to mention humble) don't announce themselves as deities- but children sometimes do. When I used to see this in dating profiles I was always instantly turned off by it.
At least you can get dates. I can't, the only options i have are to ask out heavier women. Which for me isnt an option. So yeah im going on 14 years of being single and celibate. Debating buying a gf for a night from an escort site. As ill probably never have what it takes to get a "modern" woman who expects her avg husband to make a half mil a year.
I guarantee you when the clothes come off she will NOT be pleasant, and whine for you to finish fast
If she needs to tell you that she's "a goddess", she's probably not a goddess...
@@maxhirsch7035 You name me one man you met who refered to himself as a god, unironically, not as part of a joke, a man who seriously called himself god or king. This is a female phenomenon and you know it, but I love how people always use gender neutral lingo when really the criticism pertains to women, because god forbid we can openly criticise women in general for something, ever, right?
That woman in the TikTok clip definitely has an unforgettable personality 😂
I find it pretty forgettable.
Unforgettably BAD personality!
Unforgettable or unforgiveable?
@@thatcanadian6698 now that you mention it...
...What Woman in the Tik Tok Video?
Women like this is also why a lot of relationships nowadays are toxic.
Every relationship is toxic or can be toxic. This is real life. Sh*t happens, ok? The chances of anyone getting married and living happily ever after without experiencing cheating, no fault divorce, bankruptcy, cancer, fertility issues is next to impossible especially when the traditional dating guardrails have been completely eliminated by feminism.
Going on 9 years happily married with none of these. We’ll see.
@@brent4073trying to defend it huh
No, men staying on to these relationships is what makes it toxic. Walk away from the poison, don't complain about the sewer.
@@pharmcat8484 I hope you keep it, I wasn't lucky enough to.
If youre relationship is predicated around looks, or are in it for their looks, ask yourself, if they were anyone else, say- an escaped asylum patient with the same toxic, narcissistic, mental disorders that have the capability of uprooting your life, would you invite them into your home, your bed?
I agree but looks still need to be there, i ain't staying with an ugly girl, even if she has a great personality.
You are 100% correct, 👏👏 thank you.
I’m a man and I originally found your channel looking for some ideas on updating my wardrobe and didn’t really think must past that. When this video popped up, I’m glad I watched it. From my POV you’re preaching to the choir, but I’m always so happy to see others that share this mindset, especially women, because I’m sad to say not many do. The ones that do are happy with their family and I have yet to find one that isn’t taken. The more these ideas spread maybe there will be hope for the next generation of men because, if I might overshare for a moment, I’ve put mine back in Pandora’s box at this point… Thanks for your content and wish you and your family the best.
This is too blatant for me to ignore: quire should be (preaching to the) "choir".
Welcome here. I found her channel because I wanted information on a girl I was feeling and she said I match all her boxes but she didn't want to be with me. So I was looking for advice from a attractive woman and courtney videos came on. Been watching a year now and she helped me alot with self worth and confidence
Don’t give up! We’re out here it’s just harder to connect now a days which Courtney mentioned in another one of her videos.
@@TRUTHaintHATINGas a women the best thing a man can posses is self confidence!!! Not ego but confidence! You can land a hot healthy relationship with confidence! Good luck
@@TRUTHaintHATING As a man, you need to face a brutal reality. Yes, you probably do match all her boxes, but that means nothing because women have a list of things they present to the public, and then there's the actual list which doesn't match it even remotely. The truth is she doesn't find you physically attractive, if she did she wouldn't be checking boxes.
Courtney, you have to know that you’re such an encouragement for me to continue dating. I am getting tired of the way dating is going but your videos help to restore some faith in humanity.
You have spoken words of true wisdom!!! Thank you
The sad thing is that even after making it perfectly clear what kind of person she is and what she wants some simps are still gonna be sliding into her DM's thinking they can satisfy her or worse yet "save her".
Not really, mostly, those are the pump an dump dudes. She will figure it out eventually but it will be to late, actually already is to late for her.
If she says “I am the table” she is over compensating and has nothing to offer but her looks and arrogant attitude.
I dodged a bullet trying to get myself involved with a woman that brought nothing to the table. She was beautiful, yes; however, she doesn’t do anything. For a time, I asked myself if she was someone I really wanted to be with and was I really worked up on my emotions? The answer was yes and I refused to compromise my self worth and value as a man because I know what I brought to the table by not emotionally simping and blowing up her phone. I stood strong to myself, put my feelings for her to the side, and realized she didn’t bring very much. Now, she’s long gone because she ghosted me and I’m glad she did because now I’m dating this beautiful honey that brings a ton to the table and checked off all of the boxes I was looking for in a woman in every sense a person should bring to the table. I am not letting this one go.
Good for you but calm down. Not being a simp isn’t an accomplishment, it’s one of the bare minimum requirements to be a man.
Wow! Courtney Ryan went in such depth, such great quotes one after another, I am grateful I have found this channel, I am learning a lot. It's been too long since I have dated, I want to start dating again once I feel like I meet the right woman, I think this channel will continue to be helpful for me.
Thanks for the remember to not change bad person in a good one (it needs to stay in my heads). Thanks for your presence and advices.
Speaking of women bringing things to the table, here's a fun fact: In 2023, all of the working women of Iceland went on strike for a day, and everything was fine. Seriously, I am not making this up.
yeah. i read about it the other day. the entire work force for a day and no one knew any better. it must have been a very peaceful day for HR.
@@jordanbrancato7026 HR complaints going down by 99% was the most notable change.
How about for a week? @@jordanbrancato7026
How about for a week?
@@klopossa2 Still would be fine. Seriously, women's jobs are mostly useless. If men took a day off, you would literally see it from space as all the lights would go out. XD
I appreciate your prospective greatly, as a 25 year-old; I can assure you that every single girl I've gone out with and just about every girl I've interacted with has that exact same attitude. It is more pervasive than most people realize!
Feminism.
That’s because at 25 your value is extremely low as a man. Women aren’t going to submit to you. Level up.
Pervasive, ...or Persuasive?
@@panheadbob2926 Pervasive. Google is your friend.
@@blairl6304u trying to defend it comment L from u
Thank you for your content Courtney, you give me hope with your level headed and balanced insights into relationships - I’ve really been disheartened a lot in recent years with so much of what I see women posting that to hear you is a breath of fresh air - thanks again - it helps me!
Thank you for the well explained video Courtney. I have never heard in my life a smart, logical, and mature woman like you who was willing to say all this especially about what is needed for long term relationships and that women’s beauty will fade away unless they maintain it like you do because 99% of women would not dare to say what you said. Your husband is very lucky to have you. I wish I can find a woman like you. Good women like you are diamonds and very hard to find in this time. God bless you.
@@T-elegrem-RealCourtneyRyan How would you like to do that because this the third time I ask you?
"I bring nothing to the table" means "I am expecting somone sincere in relationships that he/she can give it all without expecting anything in return." Men and women alike, stay away from this kind of educated people. Expecting something in relationship without the need to give anything in return is not partnership; it is welfare.
They are not educated. They are entitled and conceited little princesses.
@@vinaymulukutla358 there is educated, and there is "educated."
@@wanr5701 nah. These women are entitled. Real educated ppl don't do this crap.
I had a woman tell me she was the table. I responded by saying that I already had some tables. A dinner table. A coffee table. A bedside table. And my all time favorite - the pool table.
@@BRUCE_the_MOOSE_ The first thing she'd do is make you get rid of the pool table.
Another brilliant video analysis from Courtney. Thank you so much for your help ❤❤
Great video!!! It's good to see common sense in such a heated topic. There's one amusing thing about these audacious videos, these people expose themselves publicly while looking for clout and the internet never forgets
Thank you Courtney for bringing this subject up because there's a lot... to learn about what relationship really means.... Some people still don't see it as partnership sharing deep emotions love life together but only for feeding there ego and needs. This girl on the video I do applause her honesty but she sounds like a tough costumer.
There was this podcast the other night called ladies night and it had on a woman that was raised buy Southeastern Asian immigrants and she said that the phrase that was really really interesting, men serve their customers and women serve their men and women today will lay out an exhaustive laundry list of qualifications for men yet have no interest in becoming qualified for the men they are trying to find and all that does is prove that men are the prize and women need to relearn how to accessorize
Modern Western women sell themselves to a market with no buyers, thus their only use becomes a 10 minutes in & out session.
If what this girl is saying is real she's going to be very lonely. Hard pass. Any self respecting man with a good job, home, reasonable mind, and big heart is going to pass on these women. Where are they getting these ideas of partnership and attractiveness from? I don't care how pretty you are, looks will never save a relationship or marriage and the same goes for money. So many people are hyper focused on superficial traits, and all traits that either fade or can be taken away. Nobody can steal who you are as a good and descent person. Treating your mate with love, respect, understanding, and acceptance are the most important. Everything else if vanity and a waste. Don't get me wrong, I want a woman that takes care of herself physically as its a sign of self respect, but she must have good relationships with others in her life, be kind, peaceful, loving, feminine. No real man wants this 'girl boss' mentality. It is scary out there and being newly single from a toxic and controlling marriage...yikes!
Lot of wisdom in your comment. You'll find a great woman to be partners with! (from a woman)
My partner of 10 years left me a couple months ago. We got together right as Tinder started to insert itself into the mainstream. I'm not thinking about dating or relationships for a long time -- I have a lot of work to do on myself first. However, I'd be remiss if I tried denying that I'm very nervous about the current dating climate. 10 years of dating app culture has scrambled a lot of people's brains. The dating scene certainly isn't what it used to be. Wish me luck in the future, boys and girls. I'll be wishing the best for all of you as well.
100%. Facts every bit of word you have said Ma!👌💯
Agree, people don't change (unless maybe there's a catastrophic event in their lives) they can modify their behavior, but generally they are what they are. The problem is that they misrepresent themselves. Intentionally? Why? OR they don't even know themselves, which is common. It can be difficult to be honest with oneself.
AMEN COURTNEY! Speak the truth!
Aren't we supposed to be all about equality these days? If she brings nothing to the table, then I don't even sit down at the table. I don't need anyone to 'take care of me'. I would rather be alone than be in a one-sided relationship. As Courtney said though, kudos to her for being that honest even if she later took the video down or made it private.
No, she wants equality. She wants a man with a pretty face, hot body, and unforgettable personality. Those very few men don't want a woman like her to wife up.
You need to watch james lindsey on “esoteric language” Please understand that there are TWO versions of equality equity diversity sustainability inclusion etc. You are being fooled if you think the meaning is the exoteric version when in practice it’s the esoteric Normies continually REFUSE to understand this very basic topic and this continue to be fooled by the agenda.
Question. Who brings the table?
Great helpful insights & dose of reality on this one Courtney. I think many people don’t think about these things enough in entering or staying in relationships.
Haha oh boy. Glad you reacted to this video Courtney! Well spoken
i dated this girl for 2 months. broke it off with her because she didn’t reciprocate and she never returned any favors. i spent a lot of time, energy, effort, and money on her. i felt so used and only thing i got out was sex. its true that looks doesn’t last forever. also before i dated her she told me she was broken and that i was too good for her. i should’ve listened but i was so attached to her. i learned a lot from dating her too. never be too emotionally available for someone especially when they’re emotionally unavailable. learned it the hard way. thank you Mrs. Ryan for the video. i could relate to this video 100%.
@@T_elegrem-RealCourtneyRyan omg Yes please! its an honor to be discussing with you thru here. i love your videos and you do such an amazing work. also i wanted to add that the girl i was seeing came from a very bad relationship. (also lots of childhood trauma) her ex traumatized her and its so sad to see that she is broken and damaged. i tried helping her and making her happy but really it didn’t really do much. another fact that made me so unhappy was that she was talking to other guys. that was a huge red flag and i’m not all about the hooking up. (at least she was open and very transparent about it.) i really wish her well and i really hope she heals from her traumas and bad experiences with her past. I’ve witnessed her beautiful soul and she has such an awesome personality. just that shes so mentally unstable and it’s sad to see someone like that. my biggest weakness is that i care way too much.
It's sad because when a girl says "you're too good for me" it might be true. I dated a girl for some short time that had a very abusive ex. She once told me that she's never had someone treat her the way I did and pretty much said I was too good for her. She also said that she thinks she is not a good person and she's afraid she might mess things up. I should have listened to her because we had talked about spending Christmas together but I had mentioned interest of traveling to see my family as well. This was during covid so it was risky. I decided to not go and spend Christmas with her, she then told me that she had booked a plane to see her family, after I expressed that I wanted to see my family, and I was totally supportive about it and encouraged her to go. Guess who she visited instead? It wasn't her family lol Even still, I tried to communicate and salvage it (despite me having pretty strict rules on trust) but she took little to no accountability and blamed her psychological diagnoses for her actions. The thing that made it hard for me is that she was acting like the victim and telling me I lacked empathy, I found that extremely ironic because I was the one who was in the right to be upset and sad. I don't want to believe that it's always the case but when a girl tells you she sucks then maybe she does, idk?
i believe its true. if they say you are too good for them then they really mean it. Let this lesson be a learning experience for the both of us. I see it as a growth and that it made me more wiser to know how to pick the right girl. during that time, i was lonely and i wanted someone to have around. obviously i picked the wrong one and ever since i broke it off with her. i never felt so much happier in my life! @@MassHypnosis805
Never spend a dime on a woman. She has a job she can buy her own shit
As long as she understands that once those looks fade, the body gets less than desirable - that she has "dropped" her side of the table and he can dump her and move on..
Thank you for the "you should believe them" bit, Courtney. I needed to hear that
I really appreciate this video. Thank you.
5:35 "I bring nothing to the table, I am the table." *Channeling my inner Walter White* "I am not in danger; I. AM. THE DANGER!"
This is the exact moment that Courtney became Heisenberg
12:55 I still find it so disappointing that this doesn't work. I tried it once: laid out my principles for healthy communication, my boundaries w.r.t. physical and verbal disrespect, and yet she just couldn't help herself. It sucks to see someone you want to love just make themselves unloveable, especially because if you're not psychopathic, you worry about the hurt they will inevitably experience when they do the same to their future partners if they don't learn.
Great video! Your words, your voice, your effort to help men... Thank you
Great message relayed in very respectful way 💕
And when she turns 40, men will disappear. Magic!
30.
Yeah, I disappeared in my forties.
Exactly! All those "looks" and "body" that she's bragging about will be sagging like a mastiff's cheeks. And then the "man" will "move along"
She’ll take him for every dollar first.
A 10 year old child in a middle aged woman's body.
This is why men are leaving the dating scene in droves and this is why those women are single at 45.
I don’t date. I see that as playing games.
I’m hoping most men step out of it all
Not remotely the reason why and these women are no where near the norm. Keep being a bitter loner tho
I never said any of that also not bitter or a loaner.... maybe you should do the research. she posting it for a reason.@@elliotwilcox6900
Maybe they should date us older chicks! 😂😂. I look younger but looking for old fashioned guy!
Yes, so real. Most people will show you glimpses of who they are we just get blinded by feelings (well I did anyway) and you get burned when you ignore it. Can’t make another person want to mature or know what healthy looks like even if they want to, at that point walk away because the healing journey is an internal solitary journey and you don’t need to wait for someone to maybe change. Don’t waste your time, work on you then attract someone who already has the skills to be healthy! Good luck to all the singles still looking for their person. Don’t give up,there are good healthy men and women out there.
Your videos and commented videos have a lot of value and are filled with smooth critical judgment, balance, equilibrium between sexes, kindness, and grace. Continuous observations of non-generalizations and differences between people are also of a high value. All delivered in a gentle package with a lovely voice and pure feminine beauty. Thank you.
You are so kind 🥹 thank you!
I worked with a girl that had a similar attitude that was also a cheerleader for the local NFL team about 30 years ago. Basically was passed around the locker room and front office. P'd & D'd by a couple of our co-workers too. She was pretty, but I found her to be a disgusting individual. Curious how her life is now. She would be early 50's. Actually, I'm not that curious...
Pump and dump material.
In my dating days, when a woman said something like this (and they did) I was happy. It meant I know what they were all about, I could say goodbye and move on quickly.
This is exactly the message I needed tonight. Thank you for your meaningful content.
I heard someone say, "Maybe the reason men are so often only after one thing is, that is the only thing so many women have to offer"
Unfortunately today that's more true that anyone likes, men or women.
That's me, I've been saying it since I was 16, but nobody listened, except you apparently. I've been hearing girls blab about that nonsense forever, girls who literally bring nothing else always whine that guys only want 1 thing. No no, we'd really love it if you brough something else, unfortunately you don't. We're pragmatic, we'll take what we can get.
She might as well have said "I aM tHe TaBlE" wellhave fun being single. She needs to buy a cat and die alone. I don't even expect much, I just expect her to be kind hearted, can banter, can be supportive, and other qualities that are the hallmarks of a relationship.
I am fine with them being a table. I just want them to produce little tables but all the tables you want to make tables with, take birth control which prevent tables. O and the tables freak out when you tell them to get off birth control...
Good luck, the vast majority of young women have spent thier whole life getting positive reinforcement and attention from thirsty men. As awful as they are WE taught them to be that way.
I have a table already. I'm not looking for a table but something brought to the table. So saying they are the table means they are redundant.
No cat deserves to put up with her and her bs.
@@brent4073 Nah it makes dumb tables. I am a good carpenter, and i only want to make tables that are at least as good as before. Using that table blueprint??!! NAh it will reduce the overall quality.
And when those “good looks” are gone, how does this candidate expect to retain a companion? The lack of foresight is staggering.
Very nice video. I really enjoyed watching this video. I stay away from women that are hot body type and maybe keep em for pump and dump, never call them back. A good healthy relationship starts with getting to know a person's and his heart. If the hearts match you got the match, looks fade for sure. I'm not with all the hot Girls that were around me, my closest are the ones who are loving and caring. Hot body is for a night I'm going to say as a guy once we hit it we quit. So what you said that beauty fades is very true. Great video shows honesty and your honesty personality.
I hope you're enjoying your trip to Japan, Courtney. Can't wait to see videos on it.
Hi Courtney, as a woman, is it a turn off for men to be attracted only or primarily to a woman's outward beauty? If a man is that easily won over by a woman, he will easily move on to the next beautiful woman. A woman's personal qualities matter more to me than outward looks.
looks are only the first step.
As a woman I would say that's definitely a red flag. Beautiful women are a dime a dozen honestly. There's lots of attractive women out there. A quality man will require more than just good looks to actually want to commit to a woman.
Now swap "women" with "men" and "outward beauty" with "money."
I mean, until he gets to know you, that's all he has to go off of. And romantic desire is important for any romantic relationship to begin and continue. Also, if you're a woman who has more going for you than your looks, you don't have to worry about good men only being interested in your looks. You can be confident that they'll find your personality and aura the very thing that seals the deal in a long-term relationship.
@@gr-os4gd Same principle applies. Money can make a man more attractive to a woman initially but if he has no other positive qualities, a valuable woman will not see him as a suitable partner.
Thanks for sharing.
Very Well spoken Very Well Said All Points Very True Develop Character Develop Personality Develop Inner Man Develop Inner Woman
I'm teaching my son to look for a girl that's feminine, in shape, respectful, brings peace, desire, loyalty, let's him lead, and would make a good mother. I'm teaching my daughter this is what a good man wants.
I don't think she's as good-looking as she thinks she is. I give her a 6.5/10 in the looks department, 10/10 for the honesty, 2/10 for attitude.
Eh, 7-8 at least.
@@pharmcat8484 She has a big, pointy conk from what I can remember. I'll give you 7, but no more.
I was searching for a comment like this. She's maybe a bit above average. If she had other desirable qualities a man could marry her and think he found the most wonderful beautiful woman in the world, but she doesn't.
@@pharmcat8484no she isnt
@@Austenfan177 Pointy conk as well. Still 6-6.5 for me, but will be a 3.5-4 in 10 years' time. I'm going to guess she has a nice body considering how confident she is.
Thank you for your enlightening Courtney! We’d be lost without you.
I appreciate your content and entirely reasonable suggestions... I still appreciate Shera's points, too.
One thing I just talked about in therapy two days ago is people mistake someone kind of spouting off on TikTok as real advice and listen to it instead of a therapist. Courtney is a therapist who does a lot of relationship work and has a successful marriage. The woman in that video is a random woman on tiktok. Whose advice will you take? Btw my therapist said very similar things to Courtney two days ago. That would make two professional therapists saying generally the same thing this week alone.
Bottom line is, none of you women seem to form your own thoughts, you seem to depend on external sources feeding you ideas on what you should do. That's part of the reason why all these trends exist to begin with
*"I don't bring things to the table."* Thanks for telling us that nobody asks you to cook for the Thanksgiving holiday and simply asks you to bring store-bought dessert, soda, or plastic cutlery.
LOL your Thanksgiving comment was pricelesa! (from a woman who LOVES cooking Thanksgiving every year)
That is subjective to the people involved. We make most everything for Thanksgiving ourselves, but we know plenty of people who, to varying degrees, have the meal prepared elsewhere. It is not really a "gender" related issue.
How dare you expect a *WOMAN* to buy things next you'll think they shouldn't only use your money to do it. Patriarchy!!!!
I do not believe any self-respecting man has any expectation that anyone will buy them things. If you are undergoing hormone therapy in time, you may understand more clearly.
It’s also a Western thing. Westerners don’t often bring big meals to potlucks.
There was no context to indicate that it was intended to be humorous (as you contemplated), so as far as I'm concerned, she spoke her true feelings. As a consequence she flies so many red flags. Thank goodness I'm too old for contemplating dating women of her age. And as I've noticed before, so many women don't seem to understand the question "what do you bring to the table?". A striking example of how not to answer a question.
Courtney, you are a breath of fresh air and it brings hope that there are women like you instead of the crap that masquerates as relationship women. Something definitely went wrong with the average modern woman in America, just as well there are good decent, femine women outside the states! That woman forgets that he beauty fades and if she nothing else then what? Utter stupidty.
9:18 when she said an unforgettable personality all that screams is she is a nagging contentious nuisance AKA boss babe and I'm sure men already noticed these things about her and do not take her seriously because they don't like those things about her and since the love in her heart is replaced with selfish pride, she is going to suffer the consequences of bad behavior
Pretty sure she’s trolling BUT what she says in that TikTok is exactly what most modern women think but don’t say.
Good tips. Watch if the words and action correlate, if not, believe the actions.
Thank you for checking this gal out. I often wonder if these are legit posts or clickbait. Keep up all your good work.
This is the truth and reality of so many women, except most of them won't be so direct, they'll make up some intangible nonsense that they bring, it's never something you can measure, while everything they ask of men is measurable.
5:24 women that say you don't deserve me at my best because you can't handle my worst are actually saying that they have no good side so you have to be able to put up with her bad behavior 24/7, also, men built the table so women aren't the table, they are supposed to be the Fine China and the lovely tablecloth yet these women can be found at the dollar store made out of plastic
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C.R. face at 0:43 lmao
1) I genuinely applaud and support her honesty. 2) If she took the video down, that is a step backward. 3) Taking her at her word, she has nothing to offer that makes her worth my money, energy, attention or time. 4) I wish every woman who thought/felt like her would self label, also. It would save worthy men from wasting valuable resources.
Loving these new range of topics Courtney :)
I think we need to get to know people on dates. They're not an interview for a job. People are way too transactional. There is no table. There's two complex human beings with their own wants, needs, and goals. You can't shortcut complexity with interview questions. Just have boundaries. Be willing to walk away often in the beginning.
Marriage is one of the most significant business transactions you will make in your life. And having a child with someone is only slightly smaller than a marriage. If you are dating to marry, it should be treated like a job interview.
@@macmcleod1188proof?
What people are way too transactional? What men are out there asking you how much you make and to list all your numbers, height, weight, income, huh? What man has ever gone out with you and asked you these things? I'm tired of gender neutral speech when the criticism should exclusively apply to ♀ Bla bla "people" are way too transactional, but it's women who reduce men to numbers.
She has an unforgettable personality, certainly. For the wrong reasons. 🤔
@@T_elegrem-RealCourtneyRyan I pass
Courtney is really bringing her channel to next level IMO. Her delivery and comments are particularly good, and I hear her saying things so reasonably. Things don't I hear others about to convey in such a pleasant and reasonable manner. Especially when saying that if this kind of woman is what you pick (looks and attitude) then that's what you get. Also, that at least the girl is honest. First definition I have hear of "taking care of your partner" that sounds reasonable. Excellent!
Great advice,
Who needs a table when there is take out and uber eats?
The hits keep coming. Guys--these cooking comments are REALLY funny! (from a woman who LOVES cooking)
You always eat your take-out off your lap? Unless this is a metaphor for mail-order brides/passport bros, it wasn't funny enough as a joke.
You are correct!@@pace1195
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Ladies, when a man asks you what you bring to the table, tell him “dinner”. He’ll love you forever.
So true,but good luck finding one like that!
The key to my heart is a good meal and loyalty.
Still needs that hot body to kick in. Now you're getting closer.. and practice demonstrating loyalty every day.
Good point,thing is,most women today cant even cook a hot dog,as far as loyalty goes,you will get that as long as you pay their bills.@@nickd2296
Yes, we must continue to please and cater to men’s whims.
i love the way she say to work on the inner you. sad part is most women think they are all 10's and they do not anything to change themselves, all the while men are facing the really of society and are forced to change.
Stay True.... Thanks.....
The honesty is appreciated. What she is offering was stated as a hot body, looks and assumed personality. So if you are a guy that wants a hookup, go ahead and use her for what she is offering. Simple huh!
Good point. Nothing is wrong with being honest.
As a man, I respect her for being this honest!
Believe what they say about themselves!!! OMG!! that is SO true. When they tell you these negative things about themselves, they are giving you a warning. When they say they have mental issues BELIEVE them!!!!
You always on point Courtney.
I wish there were more women like you. Iv'e been inlove with my best friend for a long time now and we sometimes got on well and sometimes not. And also had intimacy between us. It makes me so sad that sometimes I don't get the emotional approval and warmth from her. I suspect she might have some sort of disorder. She's alao drop dead beautiful. Wish she would focus more on improving her inner self. Not to say that I'm perfect but Iv'e definetly found some traits of Narccassists within her. That being said we also had some of the most beautiful moments in life but I wish she would posses more traits like yours. Thanks for the videos once again big sis. ❤
Run like hell !!!
You are right, being direct would be helpful. 🥝🇳🇿😎
Right on Courtney you always keep it real
One of her best videos. Thank you.